JustPearlyThings - Pearl Battles Emotional simp

00:00:00.000 with um i i say i say you should get over stuff yeah you know what it is no you know it is i think

00:00:07.980 that mentality is is it's good for me it's selfish because i feel like people just live for themselves

00:00:14.100 people think for themselves oh i disagree i think you know i think it's like that it's not selfish

00:00:19.060 because you get over it for everyone around you nobody wants to listen to you here talk about

00:00:23.320 your problems all the time yeah but if you get over it and then you're a happy person and then

00:00:28.920 you're done talking about your problems all the time you do know that like so neural pathways how

00:00:34.200 our brain works so you're saying that problems create problems the patterns of how we think guys

00:00:38.480 and how we manage our emotions they are actually built neural pathways when we are younger it's

00:00:42.560 not that easy to snap out of it you can improve it you can encourage alternative thoughts but it

00:00:47.220 takes a while you're building new habits and you can see that in the brain your neural pathways have

00:00:52.020 to change that's a fact i like that yeah so so it is more difficult for other people i understand it's

00:00:57.440 more difficult for some people but i think that the point is still the same why would you want to

00:01:01.500 talk about your problems all the time i i i don't think that's what that's what i'm saying it's not

00:01:05.940 what we're saying therapy doesn't have to be from a therapist therapy could be anything exactly

00:01:10.400 i don't think we should come to me with a problem and i could just simply give you a book and that's

00:01:14.720 your therapy i mean i understand if you're saying someone's always talking about their problems all

00:01:18.820 the time you may look at as an excuse but at the same time maybe find out the root of why

00:01:23.120 they're always talking about their problems because instead of dismissing it and thinking

00:01:26.160 it's an excuse question maybe you know help that person and if that help that you've extended

00:01:31.120 doesn't reach them then you can say well get over it in a way respectfully but i don't know

00:01:36.560 i'm talking about this from an individualistic point of view like you have the problem i'm like

00:01:41.040 i'm just trying to get over it and yeah but that's their problem so if they're reaching a hand

00:01:46.620 you know like you know they if they're reaching a hand they have that confidence to to to to feel

00:01:52.460 trust or or or some sort of you know comfort in in disclosing a private you know trauma that they're

00:02:01.340 going through in hopes that maybe you can help them i don't know nice i'll listen and i'll be like

00:02:06.300 all right how can we solve this problem 100 yeah i mean that's the right step but my question my

00:02:12.460 question is still like if you're going around talking to people about your problems and everyone

00:02:16.540 saying something to you like i don't know why you wouldn't think it says something about you

00:02:21.180 but if it's something if it's like five different people telling you the same thing it might mean

00:02:26.060 something that's all i'm saying why is that but if they are um demonstrating traits on my mom and i

00:02:31.500 say hey mom this is my problem then i go to my sister and she says the same thing and then i go to

00:02:35.820 my brother and he says the same thing and i go my other i got a lot of siblings and they all tell

00:02:39.740 me the same thing like wouldn't that mean something maybe all of you guys that have heard the

00:02:44.460 problems should all come together maybe maybe resolve a solution maybe you have unhealthy ways

00:02:49.180 of coping or unhelpful personality traits because of your trauma and that's why it has to be addressed

00:02:54.380 i'm so tired of the word trauma i feel like trauma is war every day is a war everybody goes through wars

00:03:01.660 in different situations every day is a war in different situations in different circumstances

00:03:05.980 i would really not like that statement the thing is they have actually passed on that trauma there is

00:03:10.940 a thing called intergenerational trauma it's passed on slightly through genetics or the outside of dna

00:03:16.940 basically can slightly change but also through the way they parent you and don't attach you properly

00:03:21.660 and have emotional outbursts have ptsd that's very hard for a child i feel like this is a lot of like

00:03:26.780 word salad okay just saying you know i still stand by trauma war abuse yeah it gets it gets passed down

00:03:36.380 it's not worse it's facts and it can be studied does trauma actually yes i didn't know that it does get

00:03:40.940 passed down i didn't know that yeah of course you said dna wise dna no no but it gets passed down by like

00:03:46.460 maybe experience or not not like dna dna i don't know yeah so there's evidence i can't i don't know how

00:03:52.540 to get exactly right it's not the actual genes but it's something about the myelation or the outside

00:03:56.860 of the dna can slightly it's going to slightly change so like for example um people like in black

00:04:05.500 culture people that have experienced slavery and also the the the um the division of families for

00:04:12.140 example there because it was hard to keep a family that gets passed down is actually harder for some

00:04:16.140 people i think the biggest trauma is really women breaking up the family

00:04:36.220 i'm gonna read the super chats guys remember blessing is so mean he said only over 20 bucks so

00:04:41.740 um i know he's a big meanie over there dan the therapist the rate of divorce for a couple with

00:04:47.980 both having chair children from previous marriage is 70 percent yeah so if you both have kids 70 chance

00:04:55.500 of divorce 45 success no no no no it's the divorce so you're if you both have children um 70 chance of

00:05:05.820 divorce 45 percent of people who cheat do it again compared to 18 percent who have not done it before

00:05:12.460 so thank you dan the therapist lawrence bullock getting with a woman with kids you're assuming the

00:05:20.220 kids will accept you as a father figure the majority of the kids do not uh thank you uh lawrence bullock what

00:05:28.140 a nice guy um i think that's all of them right now so next we're going to react to one more thing we've

00:05:35.580 had a very you know i i kind of thought we'd get through some more um but but it's okay we'll have

00:05:41.100 one more before we close out the show cool all right now my question is why does this woman exist 1.00

00:05:49.980 like why does this level of delusion exist go on all right go ahead i'm not going

00:06:00.220 she's going viral on twitter right now oh let's hear this here we go we got to make sure the sound's 0.98

00:06:10.940 up on the video oh on the computer is it on okay do you ever get dressed and just be like damn i look 0.96

00:06:19.900 like i think you guys are liars no i'm not you know why i'm not a liar let's be real yeah i want to 0.97

00:06:40.860 sell confidence self-love is all you need in this world i don't care what you don't think

00:06:45.900 okay it's going to be on a personal training level i want to hear answers from you first before 0.98

00:06:50.700 i answer the question go on no no i just okay oh i i think that um you're a liar i think you're a big 0.98

00:06:58.140 liar yeah um and the reason i think that is because you know damn well she don't look good you know 1.00

00:07:04.300 damn well you would not wife her you know damn well you you probably wouldn't even sleep sorry to stop 0.54

00:07:08.620 you it's it's not about the look at all she's at a very high risk of our health conditions right now 0.99

00:07:15.420 high risk of being obese yeah but who cares she has she loves herself and that's just that matters 1.00

00:07:22.860 which is understood but do you love yourself by killing yourself some people do and that doesn't

00:07:27.260 matter that's that's your life if you want to choose to you live your life where you live your life 0.77

00:07:31.180 that's up to you my friend hey she's great i would say i would say liar okay self i think one

00:07:37.980 it's selfish to be fat everybody's got to look at you no no no no i'm serious i'm serious no let me

00:07:48.140 let me finish okay because one she goes in an airplane what happens every the flubber goes over the seat

00:07:54.060 she has to buy multiple seats she should have to but a lot of times i have i i had a friend that went

00:07:59.580 viral actually because she was stuck between two fat people is that the one who wanted two seats 1.00

00:08:04.780 what is that the one who requested two seats from the airline i i don't know if she i don't know if she 1.00

00:08:09.580 ended up doing that it was sydney watson i did like a vice panel with her she went viral yeah yeah yeah 0.98

00:08:16.620 and then on top of that if you make those choices someone's got to take care of you

00:08:20.380 so if she is fat either the health care system so all you're making the nurses i'll take care of 1.00

00:08:25.260 sometimes it's a health condition your your family occasionally it is a health condition

00:08:30.540 okay can we i just need i need for this conversation for us not to talk about exceptions

00:08:35.820 let's talk about the rule the average person's fat because they eat too much would you

00:08:39.820 personal trainer would you agree with that 100 okay so i used to be a personal trainer okay

00:08:44.860 so i can also elaborate on that all right we could we could i don't know i understand what you're

00:08:49.420 saying i just feel like for me yeah like a lot of the times like it's health conditions as well

00:08:56.700 because obesity you know and there's certain health conditions that that allow you to

00:09:02.540 to put on weight or certain medications you may be on medication or something and i'm allowed you

00:09:07.660 know it makes you put on weight i'm unfortunately it's not your food it doesn't mean you're eating all

00:09:11.820 day can we just be real that much weight but do you know her situation okay but do we know her

00:09:17.420 situation can we can we can we do again we're trying to talk about the rule we're going to go

00:09:22.700 back and forth all day if we say but that accepts it's very it's a bit frustrating what sorry i had a

00:09:27.180 question actually because uh when we were doing the delusion cochlear a lot of people excluded obesity so

00:09:32.300 i don't know yeah yeah but just because we wouldn't necessarily want to be with someone that's

00:09:37.580 obese doesn't necessarily mean i'm i'm fit to sit here and judge someone's lifestyle change decisions

00:09:43.260 that's like exactly that's like why would you want to be with someone obese because it's not my

00:09:48.060 preference i don't i personally don't find that attractive okay then why are you supporting it

00:09:54.220 i'm not support i'm not supporting it but i'm definitely not going to sit here and be rude

00:10:01.820 say mean comments for the sake of it like if she has self-love and confidence that's what that matters

00:10:09.100 that's crazy that's an inspiration confidence exactly that's an inspiration that's what i'm rating

00:10:14.620 it's not an insult it's not delusion it's not

00:10:17.660 i don't think the topic is about her confidence or her emotion the topic was about her weight

00:10:26.700 but that's nothing to do with me okay so i personally wouldn't want to get to that way

00:10:31.180 but yeah how can i judge her if she doesn't mind the only thing i do think the strain on the healthcare

00:10:35.900 system is is a point yeah i think it's selfish as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock

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JustPearlyThings - April 26, 2023

Pearl Battles Emotional simp

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