Pearl Battles Emotional simp
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the topic of trauma and how it affects the way we grow up and the impact it can have on our mental health. We discuss the different types of trauma, how to deal with it, and how to overcome it.
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with um i i say i say you should get over stuff yeah you know what it is no you know it is i think
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that mentality is is it's good for me it's selfish because i feel like people just live for themselves
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people think for themselves oh i disagree i think you know i think it's like that it's not selfish
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because you get over it for everyone around you nobody wants to listen to you here talk about
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your problems all the time yeah but if you get over it and then you're a happy person and then
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you're done talking about your problems all the time you do know that like so neural pathways how
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our brain works so you're saying that problems create problems the patterns of how we think guys
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and how we manage our emotions they are actually built neural pathways when we are younger it's
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not that easy to snap out of it you can improve it you can encourage alternative thoughts but it
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takes a while you're building new habits and you can see that in the brain your neural pathways have
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to change that's a fact i like that yeah so so it is more difficult for other people i understand it's
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more difficult for some people but i think that the point is still the same why would you want to
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talk about your problems all the time i i i don't think that's what that's what i'm saying it's not
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what we're saying therapy doesn't have to be from a therapist therapy could be anything exactly
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i don't think we should come to me with a problem and i could just simply give you a book and that's
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your therapy i mean i understand if you're saying someone's always talking about their problems all
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the time you may look at as an excuse but at the same time maybe find out the root of why
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they're always talking about their problems because instead of dismissing it and thinking
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it's an excuse question maybe you know help that person and if that help that you've extended
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doesn't reach them then you can say well get over it in a way respectfully but i don't know
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i'm talking about this from an individualistic point of view like you have the problem i'm like
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i'm just trying to get over it and yeah but that's their problem so if they're reaching a hand
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you know like you know they if they're reaching a hand they have that confidence to to to to feel
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trust or or or some sort of you know comfort in in disclosing a private you know trauma that they're
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going through in hopes that maybe you can help them i don't know nice i'll listen and i'll be like
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all right how can we solve this problem 100 yeah i mean that's the right step but my question my
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question is still like if you're going around talking to people about your problems and everyone
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saying something to you like i don't know why you wouldn't think it says something about you
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but if it's something if it's like five different people telling you the same thing it might mean
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something that's all i'm saying why is that but if they are um demonstrating traits on my mom and i
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say hey mom this is my problem then i go to my sister and she says the same thing and then i go to
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my brother and he says the same thing and i go my other i got a lot of siblings and they all tell
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me the same thing like wouldn't that mean something maybe all of you guys that have heard the
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problems should all come together maybe maybe resolve a solution maybe you have unhealthy ways
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of coping or unhelpful personality traits because of your trauma and that's why it has to be addressed
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i'm so tired of the word trauma i feel like trauma is war every day is a war everybody goes through wars
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in different situations every day is a war in different situations in different circumstances
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i would really not like that statement the thing is they have actually passed on that trauma there is
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a thing called intergenerational trauma it's passed on slightly through genetics or the outside of dna
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basically can slightly change but also through the way they parent you and don't attach you properly
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and have emotional outbursts have ptsd that's very hard for a child i feel like this is a lot of like
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word salad okay just saying you know i still stand by trauma war abuse yeah it gets it gets passed down
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it's not worse it's facts and it can be studied does trauma actually yes i didn't know that it does get
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passed down i didn't know that yeah of course you said dna wise dna no no but it gets passed down by like
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maybe experience or not not like dna dna i don't know yeah so there's evidence i can't i don't know how
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to get exactly right it's not the actual genes but it's something about the myelation or the outside
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of the dna can slightly it's going to slightly change so like for example um people like in black
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culture people that have experienced slavery and also the the the um the division of families for
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example there because it was hard to keep a family that gets passed down is actually harder for some
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people i think the biggest trauma is really women breaking up the family
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i'm gonna read the super chats guys remember blessing is so mean he said only over 20 bucks so
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um i know he's a big meanie over there dan the therapist the rate of divorce for a couple with
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both having chair children from previous marriage is 70 percent yeah so if you both have kids 70 chance
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of divorce 45 success no no no no it's the divorce so you're if you both have children um 70 chance of
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divorce 45 percent of people who cheat do it again compared to 18 percent who have not done it before
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so thank you dan the therapist lawrence bullock getting with a woman with kids you're assuming the
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kids will accept you as a father figure the majority of the kids do not uh thank you uh lawrence bullock what
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a nice guy um i think that's all of them right now so next we're going to react to one more thing we've
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had a very you know i i kind of thought we'd get through some more um but but it's okay we'll have
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one more before we close out the show cool all right now my question is why does this woman exist
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like why does this level of delusion exist go on all right go ahead i'm not going
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she's going viral on twitter right now oh let's hear this here we go we got to make sure the sound's
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up on the video oh on the computer is it on okay do you ever get dressed and just be like damn i look
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like i think you guys are liars no i'm not you know why i'm not a liar let's be real yeah i want to
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sell confidence self-love is all you need in this world i don't care what you don't think
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okay it's going to be on a personal training level i want to hear answers from you first before
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i answer the question go on no no i just okay oh i i think that um you're a liar i think you're a big
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liar yeah um and the reason i think that is because you know damn well she don't look good you know
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damn well you would not wife her you know damn well you you probably wouldn't even sleep sorry to stop
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you it's it's not about the look at all she's at a very high risk of our health conditions right now
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high risk of being obese yeah but who cares she has she loves herself and that's just that matters
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which is understood but do you love yourself by killing yourself some people do and that doesn't
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matter that's that's your life if you want to choose to you live your life where you live your life
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that's up to you my friend hey she's great i would say i would say liar okay self i think one
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it's selfish to be fat everybody's got to look at you no no no no i'm serious i'm serious no let me
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let me finish okay because one she goes in an airplane what happens every the flubber goes over the seat
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she has to buy multiple seats she should have to but a lot of times i have i i had a friend that went
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viral actually because she was stuck between two fat people is that the one who wanted two seats
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what is that the one who requested two seats from the airline i i don't know if she i don't know if she
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ended up doing that it was sydney watson i did like a vice panel with her she went viral yeah yeah yeah
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and then on top of that if you make those choices someone's got to take care of you
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so if she is fat either the health care system so all you're making the nurses i'll take care of
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sometimes it's a health condition your your family occasionally it is a health condition
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okay can we i just need i need for this conversation for us not to talk about exceptions
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let's talk about the rule the average person's fat because they eat too much would you
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personal trainer would you agree with that 100 okay so i used to be a personal trainer okay
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so i can also elaborate on that all right we could we could i don't know i understand what you're
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saying i just feel like for me yeah like a lot of the times like it's health conditions as well
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because obesity you know and there's certain health conditions that that allow you to
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to put on weight or certain medications you may be on medication or something and i'm allowed you
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know it makes you put on weight i'm unfortunately it's not your food it doesn't mean you're eating all
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day can we just be real that much weight but do you know her situation okay but do we know her
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situation can we can we can we do again we're trying to talk about the rule we're going to go
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back and forth all day if we say but that accepts it's very it's a bit frustrating what sorry i had a
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question actually because uh when we were doing the delusion cochlear a lot of people excluded obesity so
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i don't know yeah yeah but just because we wouldn't necessarily want to be with someone that's
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obese doesn't necessarily mean i'm i'm fit to sit here and judge someone's lifestyle change decisions
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that's like exactly that's like why would you want to be with someone obese because it's not my
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preference i don't i personally don't find that attractive okay then why are you supporting it
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i'm not support i'm not supporting it but i'm definitely not going to sit here and be rude
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say mean comments for the sake of it like if she has self-love and confidence that's what that matters
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that's crazy that's an inspiration confidence exactly that's an inspiration that's what i'm rating
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i don't think the topic is about her confidence or her emotion the topic was about her weight
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but that's nothing to do with me okay so i personally wouldn't want to get to that way
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but yeah how can i judge her if she doesn't mind the only thing i do think the strain on the healthcare
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system is is a point yeah i think it's selfish as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock
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