Pearl Blames Feminism For Ruining Relationships
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Summary
What do women want? And what do men want? In this episode, we discuss what women want and what men don't want in a relationship. We also discuss how feminist programming has infiltrated and influenced relationship advice, and why women should try to date more.
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So, our first story of the day is going to be talking about what do men want and what do women want.
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So, as I've said, what they really like to do is they like to lie to us.
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And they always want to tell women that we are so special, amazing, and awesome at all time.
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It's called gynocentrism, and it's been going on for a thousand years since chivalry.
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You know, men used to bow down to kings, and now they bow down to women in marriage and when they propose.
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You know, it used to go with the natural order of the world.
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It used to go men, or it used to go God, men, women, children.
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But now men submit to women's authority, which, as you guys know, I believe that causes evil in the world.
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So, I wanted to talk about how the feminist programming has infiltrated and influenced relationship advice.
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Relationship advice is always what the women want.
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I had a poll asking how many times a month is appropriate for a babysitter.
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And much to my surprise, over half of poll respondents said that over one to two times a month was negligent.
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But what it made me think was about how often I hear that date nights are important to a happy marriage.
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There was a woman named Lauren Chen that had a tweet, something along the lines of,
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you should continue to date each other, and that that is important to a happy marriage.
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Yet, if date nights fixed it, then you would think that all these marriage problems would just be solved.
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Anyway, so, not saying date nights are a bad thing, but my point is that, in general,
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the female point of view is generally what people harp on for success in relationships.
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Communication, date nights, and making time for each other.
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When you think of those three things, guys, who wants that?
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Amazing, I'm so excited to communicate with my wife today.
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Do you think men, in general, are super excited to take you out to dinner?
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No, they want to go to, like, the football game or something.
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Have you guys seen the Patrice O'Neill clip where he says,
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Because men, it's hard for us to love you and like you at the same time.
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I don't care if you want to watch me on the roof.
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They're not, you know, this is not the top of the list for men.
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So, things that benefit the man are not typically relationship success keys.
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It generally indicates that the relationship centers around what the women want.
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Generally, when I see couples make these assertions that those are the keys to the relationship,
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it's typically because the woman's in the guy's ear telling him all the things that she wants.
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So, Tradcath HQ says that men want stability and reliability.
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Give a woman what she wants all the time and she becomes spoiled.
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When women are spoiled, and I think Lauren said something along the line, and I'm paraphrasing,
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She said something along the lines of, you should try for weekly.
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And I'm thinking, okay, let me get this straight.
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You guys want traditional men that not only protect and provide for you.
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And if he's paying the bills, he's probably working a lot.
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I mean, women respond very similarly to kids that are spoiled.
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Women that get everything tend to start calling themselves like princesses.
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Brandi Burris says, all modern relationships and marriages are women-centered.
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I'll probably encourage my son to have children but not get married.
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But again, guys, I want to know what is true in the world.
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I am searching, figuring out why people are so confused.
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So, if the truth is that for most men, marriage does not benefit them,
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I'm going to tell you that regardless of how I want the world to be.
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Have you ever heard that the key to a happy relationship is sex, silence, and sandwiches?
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No, because typically relationships are centered around what the women want.
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That's why you have all these chicks freaking out over date night.
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So, I want to point out, guys, when I point out these patterns,
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Sometimes I use someone's reaction as an example, but I don't know them personally.
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oh, my husband enjoys date night, da-da-da-da-da,
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they tend to not really be in tune with what their husband wants,
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Husbands that will do anything to make them happy.
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There's nothing wrong with it if the woman appreciates it.
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But typically, in those relationships, the women do not run them,
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and they have not really spent the time to study men and figure out what they actually want.
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Because sex, silence, and sandwiches sounds like a pretty good deal to most men.
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You know, so the comments section really was a mix.
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So, Just Bill said, most men learn happy wife, happy life.
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One thing I know, after 38 years of being married,
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it takes two people trying to make a marriage work.
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the problem is that women expect princess treatment for simply existing.
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Again, this shows the mindset in general of women,
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because they're focused on what they want instead of what they can do for him.
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And so, they'll say, well, marriages are happier with date nights.
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Okay, do you think if you did a poll saying to men,
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are you happier when your wife gives you a blow job every day?
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It would be like, water is wet, the sky is blue.
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But my point is, it's always focused on what the women want.
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Women are generally takers and will drain a kind-hearted man of all joy and passion.
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And the women always, they always get triggered.
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And again, it shows more about them than it does about me.
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I just wish I could have some more quality time with my woman today.
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No, be real, they want sex silence in a sandwich.
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And like, the women have this need just to tell me their sob story
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and their personal story about, oh, but my husband, da-da-da-da-da.
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And there's reasons we have phrases like sex silence in a sandwich.
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But apparently, because I said this, I have a deeply broken soul and I'm sad.
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And I respond, I say, it's actually not sad that men like sex silence in sandwiches.
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The same way, it is not sad that women like date nights.
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But the point is, we should be focused on what the other person wants.
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And too many times, women think that the world revolves around them.
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And you can see that they think that the world revolves around them.
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Because whenever I ask a general question, they always make it about them.
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Will says, the sad thing is that women commenting are just too slow to understand what men want.
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And they want to be like, we don't care about what men want.
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These women just sit on my tweets all day, commenting at me, picking at me every day.
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And I think, well, why don't you go somewhere else?
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If you're not interested in learning about what men want, why are you here?
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People think it's sad that you don't believe men want to spend quality time with their wives.
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If you said, all right, this is what we're doing tonight.
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We're going to have sex, and I'll make you some food.
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Do you think, I mean, I think most guys would be like, oh, amazing.
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And we need to stop getting so emotional and triggered over what men want.
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And you can either get mad about it and die alone, or you can adapt.
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Guys, like, none of this stuff is rocket science.
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That's why I question so many times why people get so angry at my channel.
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This used to be taught from our grandmothers, our mothers and grandmothers.
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But now you have a bunch of older women that want to see you fail.
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All they want is for you to be miserable with them.
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How many times have I shown you guys a clip of a woman saying that her friend led her to getting divorced?
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And for whatever reason, women love to see other women miserable.
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Mid-Atlantic madam, a woman that doesn't believe the home is another battlefield in the war against the patriarchy,
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All right, so the next thing that I guess I triggered, I think I triggered this chick named Christine May or something,
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Anyone that's watched me for a while, I cannot pronounce names for the life of me.
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Anyway, so I said it's generally low testosterone men that argue that they like date nights just as much as their wives.
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Now, do I know the testosterone level of every male?
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The same way that you see liberal men generally have low testosterone.
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I've noticed that men that constantly argue from the woman's point of view, meaning they argue for the exception, not the rule.
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They'll say things the way women say, well, you shouldn't say it like that.
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They tend to either have a domineering mother that was very career oriented,
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that didn't spend a lot of time with them and imposed her will and tried to control the father.
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Men tell you overwhelmingly that you're incorrect.
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You then reply that they must be something wrong with those men.
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Maybe just maybe the issue is more than the men who are telling you that you're incorrect.
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So funny thing is, that's not the general trend.
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The way I blew up in two years was actually phenomenal and unheard of.
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You don't get almost 2 million subscribers in a year and a half, two years, without saying something that is true.
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And that's why I always say, you guys always want to shoot the messenger.
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I'm asking you, what am I saying that's untrue?
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Do men generally like sex, silence, and sandwiches?
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Do men that constantly defend women and have this gut reaction to defend women tend to have low testosterone?
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But here we talk about generalities and the rule.
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No, it's not just men that disagree with me that tend to have low testosterone levels and domineering mothers.
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It's the men that have a feminine point of origin,
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meaning that they look at everything through the female lens, typically from single motherhood or domineering mothers.
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You know, and then I'll see people get all triggered and mad.
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And I'm just like, guys, guys, guys, I'm not talking about you.
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You know, I've heard men say they would never date a social media influencer.
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And I could get mad and say, ah, ah, but Pearl, Pearl does this for a living, ah.
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Or I could sit back and realize, okay, this conversation is not about me.
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Whether or not I like that, I've heard men say things like I would disqualify women over the age of 25.
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I'm over the age of 25, and I have to think, generally, are women better or worse over 25?
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And generally, younger, they're more pleasant, they're less damaged, and they're better to be around.
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Whether or not it applies to me doesn't matter because my feelings about it don't matter.
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And what I'm sick of seeing is women shielding other women from the truth because they don't like it because it applies to them.
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A lot of too many men are allies and et cetera.
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I think I'm picking up what you're putting down.
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I'm 43, and I see the nonstop efforts to feminize society in general.
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And the thing is, feminine women agree with me, typically, typically.
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Even women that these things apply to, generally, if they're not completely narcissistic, they agree with me.
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You might be a perfectly pleasant person, but that doesn't change the general trend.
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But women are so narcissistic that they can never think outside of themselves, and it's the most frustrating thing.
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It is the most frustrating thing because you can never make a point because the women are always too busy talking about their personal situations that you can never even get to the point.
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I said, studies actually back up that liberal men are more low testosterone.
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And guys, this is what you'll start to notice is if they're freaking out and getting mad.
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If I said, men that tend to disagree with me that date nights are for women tend to be low testosterone because they have the feminine point of origin.
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If you're a jacked high testosterone guy, it's not going to offend you because it doesn't apply.
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And so what you'll see constantly is the women are freaking out because it applies.
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I don't give a shit if it applies to you or not.
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Truth is truth regardless of who's saying it and who it applies to.
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He said, testosterone is produced by struggle, not compliance.
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Who is more compliant than liberal men that worship women?
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Are the women now arguing that men do not want sex, silence, and a sandwich?
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They'll say, well, everybody wants sex, silence, and a sandwich.
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Well, then my question is, why are girls' nights all talking?
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You know, men, men don't like, they're boys' nights.
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They'll be like sitting around playing video games or like maybe they're like playing a game or something.
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Like we know it's not the same and that's a default egalitarianism because they're implying that we are the same.
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They'd just rather play stupid and act like we're complicated so they have excuses not to better themselves.
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Yeah, and typically men that talk like this are pandering to their wives.
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When you realize how many men are lying to you on a daily basis.
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When you figure out what is true in the world, you realize that all of these guys are lying to you to spare your feelings.
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They don't, men don't typically tell you if you're saying something stupid, if you're doing something stupid.
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And they don't typically tell you when you're wrong.
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And so there's an entire generation of women who we have never been told no in our lives.
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So I'm going to reread this to show you the response.
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So do men wake up and think, wow, I just wish I could have some more quality time with my woman today?
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And so what Samantha does is she goes to attack me personally and my followers personally.
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My argument at its core is men prefer sex, silence, and a sandwich to quality time.
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They don't typically wake up thinking they want quality time.
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And her response is to say, did all your bitter divorced followers tell you that?
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And my question for one, I would say the majority of my followers have not been married, as most young people are not married in 2023.
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And that's what you'll see when women don't, when they can't attack the argument, they attack my followers or they attack me.
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And so many times, they want us to look at their small communities and think that it applies to everybody.
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I am sure there are some religious, homeschooled, Amish communities that are happily married.
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But again, the exception doesn't make the rule.
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And generally, marriage has a bad reputation today for a reason, regardless of how you feel about it.
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There is a reason that the reputation is what it is today.
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And until women start accepting some responsibility for that reputation instead of pointing the finger at men and saying, you're a bitter in divorce, we will never see change.
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Because how can you take accountability and change the system if we can't even take accountability for our part to play in it?
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I am not disputing that men want sex and sandwiches.
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Again, that's egalitarianism because she's implying that men and women are the same.
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So now she's saying quality husbands also genuinely enjoy quality time with their wives.
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So if you do the feminine thing, which is quality time, date nights, that's more feminine, then you're deemed a quality husband.
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And it's a way to shame men into doing the female behavior and it's a way for them to control.
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And I am tired of women shaming men for being men.
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There is nothing wrong with men liking sex, silence, and sandwiches.
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There is nothing wrong with date nights being about women.
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All of your followers must be bitter, divorced, and incels.
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You don't blow up as fast as I do without saying something that resonates with most men.
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Why do happily married women have such a need to be right?
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How is she finding a way to argue with the fact that men prefer sex, silence, and sandwiches, not date nights?
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I'm like, if you guys argue like this with me on Twitter all day,
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I pray for your husbands because, look, and I don't know.
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But women tend to argue with me the way they argue with their husbands.
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And it kind of shows what they do behind closed doors.
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Western culture and family values says the dating market is basically guaranteed to create male loneliness and sexlessness by design.
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So shaming men for that is about as low as it gets considering women planned it by design by openly rejecting the cultural idea of someone for everyone.
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And how can we fix it if we can't even take accountability for our part to play?
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Someone said, not having date nights is the quickest way to a sexless marriage.
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Now you're going to deprive him of sex when he gets home?
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So this is basically telling men that they need to pay for sex with you.
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Now Frank says, date nights with a spouse does not mean spending hundreds of dollars, Pearl.
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A date night can just be a walk through the park and a cup of coffee.
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Are the men lined up to spend their days at Starbucks?
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Or do the women line up to spend their days at Starbucks?
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We are so confused that you have men arguing against what men like to do.
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I guess this guy is married to like a girl that I was tweeting at.
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So I'd like to say, all I'm doing is pointing out trends.
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Another trend I've noticed is that the men that tend to say things like this.
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I said the men that tend to say things like this.
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Their default is egalitarianism, meaning they grew up typically with a domineering mother
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And you can typically pick out the domineering mother.
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So you can look at like nurses tend to be domineering.
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The reason I say this is because they generally default to the woman's point of view.
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Then everybody starts freaking out and saying I was insulting him.
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I was simply talking about a trend, but they cannot take it personally.
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Josh says women only demand date nights when their partner can't validate them.
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If he actually had a solid boundaries and was able to validate her,
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Yes, women that are grateful for a man's time and attention
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do not have high demands with what he does with that time and attention.
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And no, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you or isn't into you.
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David Motter said, not true when you're with the right person.
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Every day should be slightly childish when it can be.
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Why wouldn't you want to spend time with your best mate laughing?
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Is your husband supposed to be your best friend?
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And have relationships improved since we started referring to our husband as her best friend?
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My point is that when we start arguing that men and women look at them the same
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that's when we're starting to live in delusion and just cater to women for a lifetime.
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And really, these chicks should thank me because I'm being honest.
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What we can learn from this date night debate is that women feel entitled to protection provisioning
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Men may hear this and think that the juice just isn't worth the squeeze.
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I also see conservative women defaulting to egalitarianism, but men like date nights too.
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If men value date nights like that, then why aren't they complaining about not going out?
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Just common sense can tell us this is more of a female thing.
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If men really missed date nights, why aren't they complaining about when they don't get them?
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We do not give a shit about date nights once a month if something's interesting or worthwhile.
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But to put it in context, men care about date nights the same way women care about men's sneaker collections.
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I was asking how many times a month is acceptable to get a babysitter for a wife and a mother until she's like a bad mom.
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You know, I'm happy for these polls because at least they're honest.
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Now, you might argue they might accept it, that a woman is gone more than that.
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Husbands and wives should make time for date nights and time alone together, even with young kids.
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It's interesting to think of these things in terms of the past.
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I have a feeling the women of 200 to 500 years ago were not worried about date night and had bigger things to worry about.
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Okay, and then, see, do you see the, it's always the default.
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My husband is hot and I want alone time with him.
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I don't know what your husband, I don't know who you people's husbands are.
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They think about what they want all day and not what he wants.
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Because for whatever reason, us chicks are just really self-centered.