JustPearlyThings - Pearl Blames Feminism For Ruining Relationships

00:00:00.000 So, our first story of the day is going to be talking about what do men want and what do women want.

00:00:05.600 So, as I've said, what they really like to do is they like to lie to us.

00:00:10.660 And they always want to tell women that we are so special, amazing, and awesome at all time.

00:00:14.800 It's called gynocentrism, and it's been going on for a thousand years since chivalry.

00:00:19.000 You know, men used to bow down to kings, and now they bow down to women in marriage and when they propose. 0.68

00:00:24.900 You know, it used to go with the natural order of the world.

00:00:27.880 It used to go men, or it used to go God, men, women, children. 0.86

00:00:31.880 But now men submit to women's authority, which, as you guys know, I believe that causes evil in the world. 1.00

00:00:37.600 So, I wanted to talk about how the feminist programming has infiltrated and influenced relationship advice. 1.00

00:00:44.560 Relationship advice is always what the women want. 1.00

00:00:47.420 It is never what the men want.

00:00:49.580 So, I'll give you guys an example.

00:00:51.680 I had a poll asking how many times a month is appropriate for a babysitter.

00:00:56.700 When does it become negligent to the children?

00:00:59.700 And much to my surprise, over half of poll respondents said that over one to two times a month was negligent.

00:01:06.980 Now, take that with a grain of salt.

00:01:09.180 Believe it.

00:01:09.640 Don't believe it.

00:01:10.320 That's your prerogative.

00:01:11.540 But what it made me think was about how often I hear that date nights are important to a happy marriage.

00:01:17.700 There was a woman named Lauren Chen that had a tweet, something along the lines of,

00:01:22.120 you should continue to date each other, and that that is important to a happy marriage.

00:01:26.400 And I had to think about it for a second.

00:01:28.260 And I really thought, I don't think so.

00:01:30.400 Now, why?

00:01:31.740 Why did I say this?

00:01:33.100 Because our marriage rates are terrible now.

00:01:35.280 And we live easier lives than ever.

00:01:37.780 And go on more dates than ever.

00:01:40.180 Yet, if date nights fixed it, then you would think that all these marriage problems would just be solved.

00:01:45.560 Just go on some dates.

00:01:47.080 Anyway, so, not saying date nights are a bad thing, but my point is that, in general,

00:01:51.380 the female point of view is generally what people harp on for success in relationships. 1.00

00:01:56.720 Communication, date nights, and making time for each other.

00:01:59.400 When you think of those three things, guys, who wants that?

00:02:02.480 Women. 0.81

00:02:03.220 We love to communicate.

00:02:04.560 Do you think men wake up one day and just say,

00:02:06.240 Amazing, I'm so excited to communicate with my wife today.

00:02:09.400 No, it's a headache to them.

00:02:11.100 Date nights.

00:02:11.620 Do you think men, in general, are super excited to take you out to dinner?

00:02:14.920 No, they want to go to, like, the football game or something.

00:02:17.760 Now, I'm not saying those things are bad.

00:02:19.980 I'm not saying they're unimportant.

00:02:21.520 But, generally, they favor the women.

00:02:23.200 And making time for each other.

00:02:25.080 Have you guys seen the Patrice O'Neill clip where he says,

00:02:28.120 I want you there, but in the other room?

00:02:30.300 It's like a funny clip.

00:02:31.600 Because men, it's hard for us to love you and like you at the same time.

00:02:34.820 It's just, it is what it is.

00:02:36.240 Men want to be alone. 0.84

00:02:38.100 But we don't want to be by ourselves.

00:02:40.100 We want you somewhere, like, in the dwelling.

00:02:46.940 Just not here.

00:02:48.060 Like, just, like, around the corner.

00:02:50.020 In the vents.

00:02:51.060 You can sit in the vents.

00:02:52.000 I don't care if you want to watch me on the roof.

00:02:55.160 Anywhere, but just not in front of me.

00:02:56.940 That's generally how men are.

00:02:58.200 They're not, you know, this is not the top of the list for men.

00:03:02.760 You know, okay.

00:03:03.120 So, things that benefit the man are not typically relationship success keys.

00:03:08.040 It generally indicates that the relationship centers around what the women want. 0.91

00:03:12.200 Generally, when I see couples make these assertions that those are the keys to the relationship,

00:03:18.160 it's typically because the woman's in the guy's ear telling him all the things that she wants.

00:03:22.740 So, Tradcath HQ says that men want stability and reliability.

00:03:26.640 Give a woman what she wants all the time and she becomes spoiled. 1.00

00:03:29.820 Divorce really should be banned. 0.94

00:03:31.280 I can't say this often enough.

00:03:32.600 Yes, I totally agree.

00:03:34.340 When women are spoiled, and I think Lauren said something along the line, and I'm paraphrasing, 0.97

00:03:39.500 right?

00:03:39.740 It's been a long 24 hours, guys.

00:03:42.040 She said something along the lines of, you should try for weekly.

00:03:46.020 And I'm thinking, okay, let me get this straight.

00:03:47.760 You guys want traditional men that not only protect and provide for you.

00:03:52.640 And if he's paying the bills, he's probably working a lot.

00:03:55.520 He probably has a hard job.

00:03:56.960 Now, he also has to do date night.

00:03:58.740 I mean, women respond very similarly to kids that are spoiled. 1.00

00:04:03.600 Women that get everything tend to start calling themselves like princesses. 1.00

00:04:08.100 They just start doing all this weird stuff.

00:04:10.480 Dr. Manhattan, I wonder why men are over it.

00:04:12.860 Give, give, give. 0.99

00:04:13.780 And when she's bored, she starts to take.

00:04:16.340 Brandi Burris says, all modern relationships and marriages are women-centered. 0.99

00:04:20.460 I'll probably encourage my son to have children but not get married.

00:04:23.300 There's nothing in it for the man but hell.

00:04:26.980 So, and this is the consensus.

00:04:29.320 Now, I'm not happy about this consensus.

00:04:31.880 But again, guys, I want to know what is true in the world.

00:04:34.880 I am searching, figuring out why people are so confused.

00:04:38.640 Why can't people get together?

00:04:40.140 That is my primary goal.

00:04:41.560 I want to know what is true.

00:04:43.360 So, if the truth is that for most men, marriage does not benefit them,

00:04:47.660 I'm going to tell you that regardless of how I want the world to be.

00:04:51.820 Because it's not about me and my feelings.

00:04:55.280 It's about what is true.

00:04:57.740 Have you ever heard that the key to a happy relationship is sex, silence, and sandwiches?

00:05:02.240 No, because typically relationships are centered around what the women want. 1.00

00:05:07.140 That's why you have all these chicks freaking out over date night. 1.00

00:05:10.800 They reveal themselves.

00:05:11.900 It's about what she wants.

00:05:13.280 So, I want to point out, guys, when I point out these patterns,

00:05:16.960 I'm not talking about anyone in particular.

00:05:19.120 Sometimes I use someone's reaction as an example, but I don't know them personally.

00:05:25.180 If the shoe doesn't fit, don't get mad at me.

00:05:28.180 We're just using examples that I see.

00:05:30.520 And women that harp so heavily, 1.00

00:05:33.100 oh, my husband enjoys date night, da-da-da-da-da,

00:05:35.580 they tend to not really be in tune with what their husband wants,

00:05:39.500 and they tend to have people-pleaser husbands. 1.00

00:05:42.260 Husbands that will do anything to make them happy. 0.98

00:05:44.300 There's nothing wrong with it if the woman appreciates it. 0.90

00:05:48.020 But typically, in those relationships, the women do not run them, 1.00

00:05:52.240 and they have not really spent the time to study men and figure out what they actually want.

00:05:57.380 Because sex, silence, and sandwiches sounds like a pretty good deal to most men.

00:06:03.680 You know, so the comments section really was a mix.

00:06:07.980 There was a mix.

00:06:08.440 So, Just Bill said, most men learn happy wife, happy life.

00:06:12.360 How that is undertaken is up to you.

00:06:14.620 One thing I know, after 38 years of being married,

00:06:16.960 it takes two people trying to make a marriage work.

00:06:20.120 The next comment says,

00:06:22.040 the problem is that women expect princess treatment for simply existing. 1.00

00:06:26.980 Yes, and that's my point.

00:06:29.080 Why do date nights need to be a weekly thing?

00:06:31.540 How much do you deserve in a marriage?

00:06:33.360 Again, this shows the mindset in general of women, 1.00

00:06:36.800 because they're focused on what they want instead of what they can do for him.

00:06:42.080 And so, they'll say, well, marriages are happier with date nights.

00:06:45.780 Okay, do you think if you did a poll saying to men, 1.00

00:06:48.300 are you happier when your wife gives you a blow job every day? 1.00

00:06:54.780 It would be like, water is wet, the sky is blue. 0.98

00:06:57.280 But my point is, it's always focused on what the women want. 0.51

00:06:59.880 Women are generally takers and will drain a kind-hearted man of all joy and passion. 1.00

00:07:06.220 And the women always, they always get triggered. 1.00

00:07:08.540 And again, it shows more about them than it does about me.

00:07:11.600 I swear it does.

00:07:12.660 If your response to, do men, this is my tweet, 0.85

00:07:16.140 do men wake up and think, wow,

00:07:17.740 I just wish I could have some more quality time with my woman today. 0.99

00:07:21.280 No, be real, they want sex silence in a sandwich.

00:07:24.580 Is that generally true or generally untrue?

00:07:27.680 I'm not talking about you guys' husbands.

00:07:29.360 And like, the women have this need just to tell me their sob story 1.00

00:07:33.260 and their personal story about, oh, but my husband, da-da-da-da-da.

00:07:37.400 Yes, yes, we understand there's exceptions.

00:07:39.640 They don't make them the rule.

00:07:40.740 And there's reasons we have phrases like sex silence in a sandwich.

00:07:44.320 But apparently, because I said this, I have a deeply broken soul and I'm sad. 0.97

00:07:48.820 I am just a sad, hateful woman.

00:07:51.200 And I just thought, terrible. 0.99

00:07:52.860 And I respond, I say, it's actually not sad that men like sex silence in sandwiches.

00:07:58.340 The same way, it is not sad that women like date nights.

00:08:01.780 Neither of those things are sad.

00:08:03.380 But the point is, we should be focused on what the other person wants.

00:08:08.180 And too many times, women think that the world revolves around them. 1.00

00:08:11.120 And you can see that they think that the world revolves around them.

00:08:14.720 Because whenever I ask a general question, they always make it about them.

00:08:18.940 Anyways, all of these things are quite easy.

00:08:20.460 So we should be rejoicing.

00:08:22.040 I'm giving you guys the keys.

00:08:23.440 I'm like, guys, men are pretty simple.

00:08:27.580 Will says, the sad thing is that women commenting are just too slow to understand what men want. 0.98

00:08:32.600 And they want to be like, we don't care about what men want. 1.00

00:08:35.420 Really, Karen?

00:08:36.280 Then why do you have an opinion?

00:08:37.960 And that's my question.

00:08:38.820 These women just sit on my tweets all day, commenting at me, picking at me every day. 1.00

00:08:45.300 And I think, well, why don't you go somewhere else?

00:08:47.420 Like, why are you here?

00:08:50.260 If you're not interested in learning about what men want, why are you here?

00:08:55.020 Go somewhere else.

00:08:56.620 Shark said, no one said that was sad, though.

00:08:58.480 You aren't addressing what people are saying.

00:09:00.620 People think it's sad that you don't believe men want to spend quality time with their wives.

00:09:05.020 No, I think the quality time is different.

00:09:06.820 Women's quality time is talking, date nights. 1.00

00:09:13.840 Men's is sex, silence, and a sandwich. 0.91

00:09:15.800 If you said, all right, this is what we're doing tonight. 0.99

00:09:19.020 I'm not going to talk. 0.98

00:09:20.680 We're going to have sex, and I'll make you some food. 0.96

00:09:23.140 Do you think, I mean, I think most guys would be like, oh, amazing. 0.93

00:09:27.840 I don't think that's sad, guys.

00:09:29.500 And we need to stop getting so emotional and triggered over what men want.

00:09:33.060 Men want what they want. 0.94

00:09:34.400 And you can either get mad about it and die alone, or you can adapt.

00:09:38.100 Guys, like, none of this stuff is rocket science.

00:09:40.540 That's why I question so many times why people get so angry at my channel.

00:09:45.060 Because the things I say are basic.

00:09:47.600 They are so basic.

00:09:48.600 This used to be taught from our grandmothers, our mothers and grandmothers.

00:09:52.660 But now you have a bunch of older women that want to see you fail. 1.00

00:09:56.260 That is what they want. 0.99

00:09:57.200 All they want is for you to be miserable with them.

00:10:01.360 How many times have I shown you guys a clip of a woman saying that her friend led her to getting divorced? 0.50

00:10:06.620 Misery loves company.

00:10:07.880 And for whatever reason, women love to see other women miserable. 0.99

00:10:12.360 Mid-Atlantic madam, a woman that doesn't believe the home is another battlefield in the war against the patriarchy, 1.00

00:10:18.480 gets this kind of attention.

00:10:20.080 The others are avoided as much as possible.

00:10:23.120 All right, so the next thing that I guess I triggered, I think I triggered this chick named Christine May or something,

00:10:31.200 and her husband.

00:10:31.860 I actually, I went on her podcast a while ago.

00:10:33.960 By the way, it's not personal.

00:10:35.320 Anyone that's watched me for a while, I cannot pronounce names for the life of me.

00:10:38.580 I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

00:10:40.620 Anyway, so I said it's generally low testosterone men that argue that they like date nights just as much as their wives.

00:10:47.100 Feminine point of origin.

00:10:48.580 Now, do I know the testosterone level of every male?

00:10:52.580 No.

00:10:53.060 No.

00:10:53.600 Okay?

00:10:54.380 These are just general trends that I've seen.

00:10:56.500 The same way that you see liberal men generally have low testosterone.

00:11:00.940 There are studies that prove that.

00:11:02.780 I've noticed that men that constantly argue from the woman's point of view, meaning they argue for the exception, not the rule. 0.81

00:11:10.420 They'll say things the way women say, well, you shouldn't say it like that. 1.00

00:11:14.040 They tend to either have a domineering mother that was very career oriented, 1.00

00:11:17.660 that didn't spend a lot of time with them and imposed her will and tried to control the father. 1.00

00:11:21.940 Second trend I see, single mother home. 1.00

00:11:24.860 Third trend I see, low T, low testosterone.

00:11:28.160 This isn't an insult to anyone personally.

00:11:30.820 It's just a trend that I see.

00:11:32.560 Shawna, you make a false claim.

00:11:34.420 Men tell you overwhelmingly that you're incorrect.

00:11:36.920 You then reply that they must be something wrong with those men.

00:11:39.520 Maybe just maybe the issue is more than the men who are telling you that you're incorrect.

00:11:43.820 So funny thing is, that's not the general trend.

00:11:46.560 My audience is mostly men.

00:11:49.860 The way I blew up in two years was actually phenomenal and unheard of.

00:11:54.780 You don't get almost 2 million subscribers in a year and a half, two years, without saying something that is true.

00:12:02.840 And that's why I always say, you guys always want to shoot the messenger.

00:12:06.460 Don't shoot the messenger.

00:12:07.960 I'm asking you, what am I saying that's untrue?

00:12:10.240 Do men generally like sex, silence, and sandwiches?

00:12:12.900 Do men that constantly defend women and have this gut reaction to defend women tend to have low testosterone?

00:12:19.900 Or from a single mother home? 0.83

00:12:21.440 That's the tendency.

00:12:22.440 Are there exceptions?

00:12:23.700 Obviously.

00:12:24.640 But here we talk about generalities and the rule.

00:12:28.260 No, it's not just men that disagree with me that tend to have low testosterone levels and domineering mothers.

00:12:34.360 It's just a general trend I see.

00:12:36.860 It's the men that have a feminine point of origin, 0.98

00:12:39.300 meaning that they look at everything through the female lens, typically from single motherhood or domineering mothers.

00:12:45.520 Exactly.

00:12:46.240 Exactly.

00:12:47.100 You know, and then I'll see people get all triggered and mad.

00:12:50.800 And I'm just like, guys, guys, guys, I'm not talking about you.

00:12:53.640 If it doesn't apply, let it fly.

00:12:55.440 And we used to know this.

00:12:56.600 You know, I've heard men say they would never date a social media influencer.

00:13:01.700 And I could get mad and say, ah, ah, but Pearl, Pearl does this for a living, ah. 1.00

00:13:08.820 Or I could sit back and realize, okay, this conversation is not about me.

00:13:13.140 Is that generally true or generally untrue?

00:13:15.700 And I would argue generally true.

00:13:17.820 Whether or not I like that, I've heard men say things like I would disqualify women over the age of 25.

00:13:24.100 I'm over the age of 25, and I have to think, generally, are women better or worse over 25? 0.81

00:13:32.400 And generally, younger, they're more pleasant, they're less damaged, and they're better to be around.

00:13:37.860 That's generally true.

00:13:39.320 Whether or not it applies to me doesn't matter because my feelings about it don't matter.

00:13:44.980 The truth matters.

00:13:46.740 That is what matters.

00:13:47.800 And what I'm sick of seeing is women shielding other women from the truth because they don't like it because it applies to them. 1.00

00:13:54.720 Who cares if it applies to you or not?

00:13:57.000 Truth is truth regardless of who is saying it.

00:14:00.220 Gabriel says, you're right.

00:14:01.320 A lot of too many men are allies and et cetera.

00:14:04.280 I think I'm picking up what you're putting down.

00:14:06.020 I'm 43, and I see the nonstop efforts to feminize society in general. 0.95

00:14:10.280 Of course, I experienced it in the early days.

00:14:12.380 Nothing like it is today.

00:14:14.200 It is cause and effect.

00:14:15.680 Yeah.

00:14:15.840 And the thing is, feminine women agree with me, typically, typically. 1.00

00:14:21.460 Even women that these things apply to, generally, if they're not completely narcissistic, they agree with me. 1.00

00:14:29.440 You might be a perfectly pleasant person, but that doesn't change the general trend.

00:14:34.500 But women are so narcissistic that they can never think outside of themselves, and it's the most frustrating thing. 1.00

00:14:41.340 It is the most frustrating thing because you can never make a point because the women are always too busy talking about their personal situations that you can never even get to the point. 0.99

00:14:50.780 So I had a tweet.

00:14:51.680 I said, studies actually back up that liberal men are more low testosterone.

00:14:56.140 Don't shoot the messenger if the shoe fits.

00:14:58.360 And guys, this is what you'll start to notice is if they're freaking out and getting mad.

00:15:01.960 Think about it.

00:15:03.020 If I said, men that tend to disagree with me that date nights are for women tend to be low testosterone because they have the feminine point of origin.

00:15:15.200 If you're a jacked high testosterone guy, it's not going to offend you because it doesn't apply.

00:15:21.980 And so what you'll see constantly is the women are freaking out because it applies. 1.00

00:15:28.200 And I don't care. 0.99

00:15:29.420 I don't give a shit if it applies to you or not. 0.99

00:15:31.800 Truth is truth regardless of who's saying it and who it applies to. 0.98

00:15:35.660 So there was a guy that responded to this.

00:15:37.900 He said, testosterone is produced by struggle, not compliance.

00:15:41.620 Who is more compliant than liberal men that worship women?

00:15:45.500 Exactly.

00:15:46.760 Exactly.

00:15:47.280 Are the women now arguing that men do not want sex, silence, and a sandwich? 0.98

00:15:52.220 So then it's like this trend I see. 0.93

00:15:54.340 They'll say, well, everybody wants sex, silence, and a sandwich.

00:15:57.800 Well, then my question is, why are girls' nights all talking? 0.91

00:16:03.120 You know, men, men don't like, they're boys' nights.

00:16:06.640 They'll be like sitting around playing video games or like maybe they're like playing a game or something.

00:16:11.960 Like we know it's not the same and that's a default egalitarianism because they're implying that we are the same.

00:16:17.660 Well, men know what men want. 0.99

00:16:19.520 They'd just rather play stupid and act like we're complicated so they have excuses not to better themselves. 1.00

00:16:24.420 It's their game. 1.00

00:16:25.560 Yeah, and typically men that talk like this are pandering to their wives.

00:16:29.580 They're pandering.

00:16:30.680 Guys, that is the biggest red pill.

00:16:33.460 When you realize how many men are lying to you on a daily basis.

00:16:38.140 When you figure out what is true in the world, you realize that all of these guys are lying to you to spare your feelings. 1.00

00:16:46.600 They don't, men don't typically tell you if you're saying something stupid, if you're doing something stupid. 0.98

00:16:51.700 And they don't typically tell you when you're wrong. 0.99

00:16:54.960 And so there's an entire generation of women who we have never been told no in our lives.

00:17:00.280 What you'll see is women coping like this. 0.98

00:17:03.220 So I'm going to reread this to show you the response.

00:17:06.880 So do men wake up and think, wow, I just wish I could have some more quality time with my woman today?

00:17:12.460 No.

00:17:12.880 Be real. 0.99

00:17:13.360 They want sex, silence, and a sandwich. 0.71

00:17:15.660 Generally true or generally not true? 0.80

00:17:17.560 And so what Samantha does is she goes to attack me personally and my followers personally.

00:17:23.460 My argument at its core is men prefer sex, silence, and a sandwich to quality time.

00:17:30.080 They don't typically wake up thinking they want quality time.

00:17:33.100 That's typically more of a female thing. 1.00

00:17:35.400 And her response is to say, did all your bitter divorced followers tell you that?

00:17:39.700 And my question for one, I would say the majority of my followers have not been married, as most young people are not married in 2023.

00:17:49.160 But what if they are bitter in divorce?

00:17:51.800 What if they are?

00:17:53.480 Does it make what they're saying untrue?

00:17:55.740 Does it make the facts not true?

00:17:57.520 And that's what you'll see when women don't, when they can't attack the argument, they attack my followers or they attack me. 1.00

00:18:04.160 They failed at marriage.

00:18:05.740 Maybe listening to some happily married men.

00:18:09.700 And my response to that is, where?

00:18:13.920 And so many times, they want us to look at their small communities and think that it applies to everybody.

00:18:21.860 I am sure there are some religious, homeschooled, Amish communities that are happily married.

00:18:28.500 But again, the exception doesn't make the rule.

00:18:30.720 And generally, marriage has a bad reputation today for a reason, regardless of how you feel about it.

00:18:37.960 It doesn't matter your religion.

00:18:39.480 It doesn't matter how you feel.

00:18:41.440 There is a reason that the reputation is what it is today.

00:18:44.580 And until women start accepting some responsibility for that reputation instead of pointing the finger at men and saying, you're a bitter in divorce, we will never see change. 0.74

00:18:55.060 Because how can you take accountability and change the system if we can't even take accountability for our part to play in it?

00:19:02.120 Women always blame the men. 1.00

00:19:04.260 I am not disputing that men want sex and sandwiches. 0.99

00:19:08.500 Who doesn't?

00:19:09.120 Again, that's egalitarianism because she's implying that men and women are the same. 0.97

00:19:13.120 They're not the same.

00:19:14.060 But quality husbands.

00:19:15.160 So now she's saying quality husbands also genuinely enjoy quality time with their wives.

00:19:20.660 So if you do the feminine thing, which is quality time, date nights, that's more feminine, then you're deemed a quality husband.

00:19:28.560 And you see this trend from TradCons.

00:19:30.620 Are they a quality husband, a real man? 0.99

00:19:33.740 This is the common trend.

00:19:35.640 And it's a way to shame men into doing the female behavior and it's a way for them to control. 1.00

00:19:41.420 And I am tired of women shaming men for being men. 1.00

00:19:45.580 There is nothing wrong with men liking sex, silence, and sandwiches. 0.87

00:19:50.260 There is nothing wrong with date nights being about women.

00:19:53.220 But why do we have to deny reality?

00:19:56.000 Why is this even a conversation?

00:19:58.800 The default is always shaming. 0.69

00:20:02.140 All of your followers must be bitter, divorced, and incels.

00:20:05.280 You don't blow up as fast as I do without saying something that resonates with most men.

00:20:10.120 Why do happily married women have such a need to be right? 1.00

00:20:12.980 How is she finding a way to argue with the fact that men prefer sex, silence, and sandwiches, not date nights?

00:20:22.020 Really and truly.

00:20:23.320 And I think about this.

00:20:24.220 I'm like, if you guys argue like this with me on Twitter all day,

00:20:26.960 I pray for your husbands because, look, and I don't know.

00:20:30.640 I don't know.

00:20:31.100 I'd like to say I don't actually know.

00:20:32.880 But women tend to argue with me the way they argue with their husbands. 1.00

00:20:37.000 And it kind of shows what they do behind closed doors.

00:20:39.900 Western culture and family values says the dating market is basically guaranteed to create male loneliness and sexlessness by design.

00:20:48.660 That's how women want it. 1.00

00:20:49.840 So shaming men for that is about as low as it gets considering women planned it by design by openly rejecting the cultural idea of someone for everyone. 1.00

00:21:00.040 Women started this mess. 1.00

00:21:01.360 And how can we fix it if we can't even take accountability for our part to play?

00:21:06.580 Someone said, not having date nights is the quickest way to a sexless marriage. 0.94

00:21:11.800 So, okay, let me get this straight.

00:21:13.680 Your husband's working 80 hours a week. 0.94

00:21:15.620 Now you're going to deprive him of sex when he gets home? 0.99

00:21:18.800 So this is basically telling men that they need to pay for sex with you. 1.00

00:21:23.000 Really? 0.99

00:21:23.740 Do you hear how some of you sound?

00:21:25.500 Now Frank says, date nights with a spouse does not mean spending hundreds of dollars, Pearl.

00:21:32.380 A date night can just be a walk through the park and a cup of coffee.

00:21:35.420 Okay, let's go with a cup of coffee.

00:21:37.280 Who loves coffee dates?

00:21:40.220 Who is that for?

00:21:41.780 Are the men lined up to spend their days at Starbucks?

00:21:46.460 Or do the women line up to spend their days at Starbucks? 1.00

00:21:51.920 Do men like to walk through the park?

00:21:54.260 Or do they like to play sports at the park?

00:21:57.580 We are so confused that you have men arguing against what men like to do.

00:22:03.060 Okay, so again, I didn't even know.

00:22:05.140 I guess this guy is married to like a girl that I was tweeting at.

00:22:09.660 I don't know who he is.

00:22:10.940 So I'd like to say, all I'm doing is pointing out trends.

00:22:14.600 Another trend I've noticed is that the men that tend to say things like this.

00:22:18.320 So again, I didn't insult him.

00:22:20.200 I said the men that tend to say things like this.

00:22:23.420 Their default is egalitarianism, meaning they grew up typically with a domineering mother 0.82

00:22:27.880 or no dad.

00:22:28.800 And you can typically pick out the domineering mother. 1.00

00:22:31.540 It's usually by their career field.

00:22:33.720 So you can look at like nurses tend to be domineering. 1.00

00:22:37.760 Lawyers tend to be domineering.

00:22:39.360 So you can kind of pick it out.

00:22:41.540 These guys are usually low T.

00:22:43.340 The reason I say this is because they generally default to the woman's point of view. 0.99

00:22:47.000 Then everybody starts freaking out and saying I was insulting him.

00:22:50.460 No, no, no.

00:22:51.720 No, no, no.

00:22:53.020 I was simply talking about a trend, but they cannot take it personally.

00:22:58.660 Josh says women only demand date nights when their partner can't validate them.

00:23:02.760 His attention isn't worth anything.

00:23:04.380 So she squeezed him for all he has.

00:23:06.300 If he actually had a solid boundaries and was able to validate her,

00:23:10.680 she would be happy just being around him.

00:23:13.600 Yes, women that are grateful for a man's time and attention 1.00

00:23:17.220 do not have high demands with what he does with that time and attention.

00:23:21.140 And no, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you or isn't into you.

00:23:24.440 It might just mean the man is busy.

00:23:25.940 Some men work like 80 hours a week.

00:23:28.180 They don't have time.

00:23:29.720 David Motter said, not true when you're with the right person.

00:23:32.500 Every day should be slightly childish when it can be.

00:23:35.120 Why wouldn't you want to spend time with your best mate laughing?

00:23:39.040 And again, that's egalitarianism.

00:23:41.020 Is your husband supposed to be your best friend?

00:23:43.920 No.

00:23:45.020 And have relationships improved since we started referring to our husband as her best friend?

00:23:51.600 Again, there's nothing wrong with date nights.

00:23:54.780 My point is that when we start arguing that men and women look at them the same

00:24:00.580 and they're not generally for women,

00:24:02.280 that's when we're starting to live in delusion and just cater to women for a lifetime. 0.99

00:24:06.280 And really, these chicks should thank me because I'm being honest.

00:24:08.820 What we can learn from this date night debate is that women feel entitled to protection provisioning

00:24:13.660 and date nights on top of it.

00:24:15.460 Men may hear this and think that the juice just isn't worth the squeeze.

00:24:18.700 I also see conservative women defaulting to egalitarianism, but men like date nights too.

00:24:23.980 Men and women are different.

00:24:25.120 If men value date nights like that, then why aren't they complaining about not going out?

00:24:29.760 Just common sense can tell us this is more of a female thing. 1.00

00:24:32.880 Exactly.

00:24:34.080 If men really missed date nights, why aren't they complaining about when they don't get them? 0.96

00:24:40.800 It's always the women complaining. 1.00

00:24:42.340 Patterns never lie. 0.98

00:24:43.540 We do not give a shit about date nights once a month if something's interesting or worthwhile. 0.98

00:24:47.560 Okay. 0.98

00:24:47.700 But to put it in context, men care about date nights the same way women care about men's sneaker collections.

00:24:54.140 Oh, yeah.

00:24:54.860 So this is what started the whole debacle.

00:24:57.000 This is what started it.

00:24:57.740 I was asking how many times a month is acceptable to get a babysitter for a wife and a mother until she's like a bad mom. 0.99

00:25:04.320 I couldn't believe 57% said two times a month.

00:25:07.440 I'm like, dang.

00:25:10.080 Five nights in a month?

00:25:12.000 A quarter?

00:25:13.000 Wow.

00:25:13.380 I'm like, wow.

00:25:14.420 Okay.

00:25:14.780 Well, what?

00:25:15.500 You know, I'm happy for these polls because at least they're honest.

00:25:19.520 At least we can get honest responses.

00:25:21.760 This is how men feel about it.

00:25:23.620 Now, you might argue they might accept it, that a woman is gone more than that.

00:25:29.040 But this is what they would prefer.

00:25:30.920 Over half of men.

00:25:32.620 Lauren Chan weighs in. 1.00

00:25:33.860 Husbands and wives should make time for date nights and time alone together, even with young kids. 0.59

00:25:38.620 Weekly is ideal, but not always feasible.

00:25:41.860 And I really just thought to myself, why?

00:25:45.500 It's interesting.

00:25:46.600 And this is my point.

00:25:47.820 See, it's like they always get so triggered.

00:25:50.540 It's interesting.

00:25:51.100 I ask why.

00:25:52.220 It's interesting to think of these things in terms of the past.

00:25:56.000 I have a feeling the women of 200 to 500 years ago were not worried about date night and had bigger things to worry about.

00:26:02.680 It seems like a modern thing.

00:26:04.660 Okay, and then, see, do you see the, it's always the default.

00:26:09.240 Pearl, what do you mean why?

00:26:10.780 My husband is hot and I want alone time with him.

00:26:13.420 Seems pretty self-explanatory.

00:26:16.200 So again, there's two things.

00:26:17.980 My husband is hot.

00:26:19.900 I didn't ask.

00:26:20.980 I don't know what your husband, I don't know who you people's husbands are. 0.75

00:26:25.240 And I want alone time with.

00:26:27.020 Again, so the default is what does she want?

00:26:29.560 Again, it's not what he wants.

00:26:30.840 It's what she wants.

00:26:31.800 And that's what most of these wives do. 1.00

00:26:33.540 They think about what they want all day and not what he wants.

00:26:37.420 Because for whatever reason, us chicks are just really self-centered. 1.00

JustPearlyThings - November 18, 2023

Pearl Blames Feminism For Ruining Relationships

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