JustPearlyThings - October 18, 2023


Pearl Blames Modern Women For Failed Marriages

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Hannah Pearl Davis
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Duluth Louis Farrakhan
Obesity is Money Making Model For Women in 2023 OF Model DESTROYED By Zherka And Pearl @Jackdohertyy

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10 minutes

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2,148

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27

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In this episode, we talk about the perils of sexless marriages, why women should obey their husbands, and why a woman should be allowed to say no to sex with her husband. We also discuss the dangers of having a sexless marriage, and how to deal with a woman who refuses to have sex.

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00:00:00.000 Would you say that in the past, because, for example, prostitution was very common in the past,
00:00:04.920 and it was quite common for a lot of men to have, say, a wife, but then also go to a prostitute.
00:00:10.060 Why would a man who was in a sexually satisfying marriage feel the need to go to a prostitute? 0.91
00:00:15.100 Do you think there could be perhaps a correlation between, say, the obsession with female purity
00:00:20.680 and we'll say, I don't know, men almost seeing women, dividing women into two categories, 0.86
00:00:26.740 the wives and the whores, and how this could actually be quite harmful because it almost divides women into chattel. 0.91
00:00:32.340 You end up with the man having his wife, who is the good girl, and the prostitute, who is the bad girl, 0.99
00:00:37.000 as opposed to having both of the women in one woman. 1.00
00:00:39.640 Yeah, so it's really interesting.
00:00:40.900 Australia introduced pro-prostitution laws, what, 30 years ago, something like that?
00:00:44.940 And one of the most ridiculous outcomes of legalizing prostitution in Australia is that the divorce rate significantly fell.
00:00:52.440 It fell to like 8% or something. 0.89
00:00:54.040 It was like crazy, right?
00:00:55.040 And I don't know what that means.
00:00:57.240 I don't know if that insinuates that men were living in sexless marriages, but they want to be faithful to their wife.
00:01:01.300 I don't really know what that means.
00:01:02.420 I can only speak to my opinion, right?
00:01:05.340 But I'm in a unique situation in the sense that I've been married for over 10 years,
00:01:10.200 and openly my wife has never refused sex, never.
00:01:13.740 There's been times where she's been tired, she's been exhausted,
00:01:18.000 but she was the one that kind of came to me early in our relationship.
00:01:21.220 She's like, you know, like, I can never say no to you because I understand that if I do,
00:01:24.980 then I'm denying you a right in our marriage.
00:01:26.840 Like, she would probably identify as liberal, but she's the most conservative woman I've ever met.
00:01:31.420 And so for me, there's never been a situation where, like, I would seek it out because I've never been rejected in that way,
00:01:37.680 and it's, like, just openly, there it is.
00:01:39.560 But I would say this, like, I don't know, like, if I was in a situation where, like, that wasn't on the table,
00:01:48.420 I probably would leave the marriage.
00:01:50.300 Like, I would.
00:01:50.900 I would just be like, look, like, I, and I've had the conversation, like, obviously,
00:01:54.260 because we're married for a long time, there's a lot of communication.
00:01:56.220 That's like, look, like, there are, I told my wife up front things to expect from me as a man,
00:02:00.700 and I was very upfront about it.
00:02:02.320 I said, look, you're probably going to get a husband that's traveling at least 20 to 30% of the time.
00:02:06.620 Like, we have offices now in 27 countries, so, like, and I travel significantly less now than I did in my 30s.
00:02:13.200 In my 30s, I was on the road 80% of the time.
00:02:15.560 Very often, I'd see her for two weekends a month where I'd have to fly her into whatever office I was at that week.
00:02:21.180 But I said, I'm going to be working all the time.
00:02:23.180 Like, if you're one of those girls that needs me every day at home, you're not going to get that. 1.00
00:02:25.980 I'm just not that guy.
00:02:26.820 I'm very ambitious.
00:02:28.680 I'm never going to cook, ever.
00:02:30.140 Like, I grew up cooking because my parents both worked,
00:02:32.960 and so I have to come home and cook my French fries, you know, in the oven.
00:02:35.460 I'm like, I'm never, ever going to cook.
00:02:38.360 I'm never going to change a diaper.
00:02:39.960 Hate me or don't marry me.
00:02:41.540 I'm never going to change a diaper. 0.96
00:02:42.740 I will not do it.
00:02:43.520 Like, I will work so, so, so hard so that I can outsource that labor to somebody else if you don't want to do it,
00:02:48.980 but I'm never going to do it.
00:02:50.060 I'm never going to clean.
00:02:50.960 We have July 8th marked on our calendar last year because I took the garbage out.
00:02:53.960 It was my first time.
00:02:55.300 We've been married for nine years at that point, and I took out the garbage because she asked me, 0.97
00:02:58.680 and I'm like, I just felt bad.
00:02:59.500 I'm like, okay, I just feel bad because you're sober with four kids, right?
00:03:01.920 But I communicated those up front, and in return, my wife communicated things that were non-negotiables to her,
00:03:09.200 and I think one of her non-negotiables, oddly enough, is that she wanted a husband she could obey,
00:03:13.380 and we talked about that, like, should a woman obey her husband?
00:03:15.420 That was her demand, and so, and I love that because it puts the onus on me as a man,
00:03:20.220 and again, guys can agree or disagree.
00:03:23.060 If you want to be respected and if you want to be obeyed, you need to be respectable and you need to be obeyable, right?
00:03:31.620 And that's on you.
00:03:32.800 Like, I can't, I got to 263 pounds five years ago.
00:03:36.620 I was working a lot.
00:03:37.640 I was on the road. 0.87
00:03:38.300 I was eating like crap, and I looked at myself in the mirror, and I realized, ooh, I'm not respectable. 0.99
00:03:42.780 That's a fat dude, and my wife didn't marry a fat dude, and I changed it because I made a promise that I, 0.99
00:03:49.380 in order to be obeyed and respected, I have to be respectful and obeyable. 0.87
00:03:52.660 So there's some personal accountability there, right?
00:03:55.580 Yeah.
00:03:56.080 I'm quoting Louis Farrakhan.
00:03:58.620 He says that when a guy starts taking money from a woman, he becomes her son, you know?
00:04:06.660 And I think based on what you said about the respect thing, I think those, sorry,
00:04:12.480 I think those things do become a, I'll put it forward, yeah, so that becomes a factor.
00:04:18.400 So even back to when you said about the bus driver thing, it's not that, you know,
00:04:25.360 there's something wrong with the guy.
00:04:27.040 Like, there's someone for everyone out there, but it's just about the levels and your expectancy,
00:04:32.300 you know, and, you know, how do you, if I may, I'm very fair with that.
00:04:37.240 I would, like, I'll say it, and it's going to be controversial.
00:04:39.120 I don't care because it's the truth.
00:04:40.300 Yeah, I would, as a dad, like, I'm a dad, you know, and it's like,
00:04:44.240 and it's my job to teach my daughters to behave. 1.00
00:04:46.700 Like, I'm sorry, but like, there's a difference between women that grow up without a father 0.94
00:04:49.740 to women that grow up with a father.
00:04:51.620 My girls are growing up with a father, but I'm also going to ixnay my son wanting to marry 1.00
00:04:56.700 a fat woman. 1.00
00:04:57.360 I'm sorry, but no, no, no, it's a fair point. 0.97
00:05:00.300 Listen, listen, listen, sons, I got two sons, right? 0.96
00:05:03.360 Have some freaking self-standards, man. 0.76
00:05:06.220 Like, like, grow your values so you don't settle for that. 0.92
00:05:08.860 And if your country's got 90% of that, like some countries do, I went, my wife's Estonian.
00:05:13.860 She's not North American. 0.96
00:05:14.740 We met in the States.
00:05:15.520 I'm from Canada, but she's Estonian.
00:05:17.280 It's like, no, I'm not going to let my son do that.
00:05:19.680 Why not? 0.99
00:05:20.040 Because it's like, have some damn self-respect, dude. 0.98
00:05:22.720 Well, but I was thinking even what you're talking about, the moment he starts taking money 0.98
00:05:26.720 from a woman, like, it's, you're supposed to have one bank account anyway. 1.00
00:05:29.600 If we're going to go back to traditionalism, like, I think in my grandparents' generation,
00:05:34.380 the wives always worked. 1.00
00:05:35.320 They just gave their paycheck to their husband. 1.00
00:05:37.740 I was going to ask you your opinion on that, actually, because it's something you said earlier.
00:05:41.720 I was going to ask you your opinion on women that are working to bring to the table as well. 1.00
00:05:49.820 Like, what's your opinion on that?
00:05:51.200 Would you say that they're not good wives? 1.00
00:05:53.460 Would you say they're not traditional?
00:05:54.680 I'd say the majority are bad wives that work. 1.00
00:05:57.460 If I had to do, like, a balance of probabilities.
00:05:59.400 Some people, you couldn't really generalize and say bad wives because you've got to remember
00:06:03.520 some people are in a situation where they either have to work in their relationship.
00:06:08.520 I don't think they're bad wives because they're working. 1.00
00:06:10.300 Or they may have to be single by no choice and they have to work.
00:06:14.120 I don't think they're bad wives because they're working. 1.00
00:06:16.400 That's not why.
00:06:16.920 I think that generation is bad wives because that generation did not teach, like, submission.
00:06:23.840 If you ask most wives from, like, roughly, like, 35 to, like, 50, it's, like, the worst
00:06:29.820 generation of wives just across the board. 1.00
00:06:32.640 They don't believe in submission.
00:06:34.400 That's when, like, divorce started happening.
00:06:36.320 Like, if you look at, like, the 60, 70-year-olds, they might have separated, but they stayed together.
00:06:40.160 I think they're bad wives because the majority put their career before their family. 1.00
00:06:45.020 Not all, not all.
00:06:47.160 And there are absolutely good wives out there that don't fit into that category, but, like, 1.00
00:06:50.960 across the board.
00:06:51.760 That are working or that are single.
00:06:55.060 Because some women are single because they haven't got a choice. 1.00
00:06:58.020 Some women are raising children on their own because they haven't got a choice. 1.00
00:07:02.160 Well, you know, maybe life circumstances or sometimes the position that a man put them in.
00:07:08.040 The percentage of single moms that are single because they're being widowed is, like, 3%. 0.89
00:07:12.580 I'm not saying that about just the widows.
00:07:15.020 So, I don't see why you pointed that out.
00:07:16.780 No, I'm just saying, like, because there is personal responsibility.
00:07:19.580 But there's women that's gone through domestic violence. 1.00
00:07:22.120 There's women that's had to maybe leave their country for so many different, there's so many factors. 0.99
00:07:27.600 The majority of domestic violence isn't real.
00:07:30.320 Like, the girls that talk about that, they just kind of throw accusations at men. 1.00
00:07:34.140 Most domestic violence is initiated by women.
00:07:36.320 I just, like, interviewed a professor about this that, like, super in-depth about the stuff and how feminists basically ruined academia because they all just infiltrate the colleges and, like, ruin all the studies. 1.00
00:07:49.460 And then they, what they do is they change the definition of abuse, rape, sexual assault, all that shit. 0.98
00:07:54.520 They switch it. 0.98
00:07:55.160 So, like, abuse used to be a man's hitting the woman, right, or the woman's hitting the man, vice versa.
00:08:00.320 But they actually switch to the definition.
00:08:02.980 And I can't remember the exact wording.
00:08:04.720 It's in that book somewhere, so I could pull it up.
00:08:06.840 But what they do is they assume that the men have power.
00:08:10.800 Was it the Duluth model?
00:08:11.700 Yeah, the Duluth model.
00:08:13.240 And so the problem, and they expanded the definition of abuse, so they would include coercive control, financial control.
00:08:19.220 And I just know this from doing hundreds and hundreds of shows.
00:08:21.680 You just start to see, like, patterns of interviewing hundreds and hundreds of people.
00:08:25.940 Like, women will say they were abused, and then I, like, I look into it, and I ask them more questions.
00:08:32.100 Like, I'll give you an example.
00:08:33.240 One girl that was on the show, she said I was abused.
00:08:35.000 I said, okay, what happened?
00:08:36.400 Give me specifics.
00:08:37.500 What exactly happened that your ex-boyfriend was abusive?
00:08:40.120 She tells me, well, I wouldn't leave, and he, like, shoves me out of the house.
00:08:45.340 Well, you wouldn't leave.
00:08:47.000 What did you explain?
00:08:47.700 Yeah, that's what I, or another girl said she was graped. 0.92
00:08:53.700 And so I asked what happened.
00:08:55.160 Well, basically, she switched her mind when it came to sex. 1.00
00:08:57.900 Because what they did with the definition of grape is it used to be, like, basically forced sex.
00:09:05.140 They switched it to sex without consent.
00:09:07.020 The problem with that is what is consent.
00:09:09.380 It makes it very broad and subjective.
00:09:11.300 And when you make things subjective, and that's the problem with abuse.
00:09:13.980 So how do we know how common abuse is, right?
00:09:16.140 Now, the difference is in family court, which the majority of abuse claims are in family court, and that's where they've expanded the definition of abuse.
00:09:24.360 You don't need evidence.
00:09:25.440 It's basically on a balance of probabilities.
00:09:27.520 We think it's more likely that he did it than he didn't.
00:09:29.640 You only have to convince one judge.
00:09:31.460 In criminal court, you have a judge and a jury of your peers.
00:09:36.160 So you have to convince a whole jury.
00:09:37.920 And basically, though, in criminal court, in family court, only 10% of women actually filed police reports. 1.00
00:09:45.680 So it's like the majority, the majority are just talking shit. 0.99
00:09:50.020 And also, lesbian couples, sorry. 1.00
00:09:51.640 Well, yeah, and it's been a wave of propaganda the last hundred years to basically convince us that men are abusive, controlling all that shit. 1.00
00:09:59.100 It's just not true. 0.99
00:10:00.100 Like, I don't know a single guy that wakes up and says, I just want to abuse some women today. 1.00