Pearl Blames Modern Women For Failed Marriages
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the perils of sexless marriages, why women should obey their husbands, and why a woman should be allowed to say no to sex with her husband. We also discuss the dangers of having a sexless marriage, and how to deal with a woman who refuses to have sex.
Transcript
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Would you say that in the past, because, for example, prostitution was very common in the past,
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and it was quite common for a lot of men to have, say, a wife, but then also go to a prostitute.
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Why would a man who was in a sexually satisfying marriage feel the need to go to a prostitute?
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Do you think there could be perhaps a correlation between, say, the obsession with female purity
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and we'll say, I don't know, men almost seeing women, dividing women into two categories,
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the wives and the whores, and how this could actually be quite harmful because it almost divides women into chattel.
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You end up with the man having his wife, who is the good girl, and the prostitute, who is the bad girl,
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as opposed to having both of the women in one woman.
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Australia introduced pro-prostitution laws, what, 30 years ago, something like that?
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And one of the most ridiculous outcomes of legalizing prostitution in Australia is that the divorce rate significantly fell.
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I don't know if that insinuates that men were living in sexless marriages, but they want to be faithful to their wife.
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But I'm in a unique situation in the sense that I've been married for over 10 years,
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and openly my wife has never refused sex, never.
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There's been times where she's been tired, she's been exhausted,
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but she was the one that kind of came to me early in our relationship.
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She's like, you know, like, I can never say no to you because I understand that if I do,
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Like, she would probably identify as liberal, but she's the most conservative woman I've ever met.
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And so for me, there's never been a situation where, like, I would seek it out because I've never been rejected in that way,
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But I would say this, like, I don't know, like, if I was in a situation where, like, that wasn't on the table,
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I would just be like, look, like, I, and I've had the conversation, like, obviously,
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because we're married for a long time, there's a lot of communication.
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That's like, look, like, there are, I told my wife up front things to expect from me as a man,
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I said, look, you're probably going to get a husband that's traveling at least 20 to 30% of the time.
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Like, we have offices now in 27 countries, so, like, and I travel significantly less now than I did in my 30s.
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Very often, I'd see her for two weekends a month where I'd have to fly her into whatever office I was at that week.
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But I said, I'm going to be working all the time.
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Like, if you're one of those girls that needs me every day at home, you're not going to get that.
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Like, I grew up cooking because my parents both worked,
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and so I have to come home and cook my French fries, you know, in the oven.
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Like, I will work so, so, so hard so that I can outsource that labor to somebody else if you don't want to do it,
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We have July 8th marked on our calendar last year because I took the garbage out.
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We've been married for nine years at that point, and I took out the garbage because she asked me,
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I'm like, okay, I just feel bad because you're sober with four kids, right?
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But I communicated those up front, and in return, my wife communicated things that were non-negotiables to her,
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and I think one of her non-negotiables, oddly enough, is that she wanted a husband she could obey,
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and we talked about that, like, should a woman obey her husband?
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That was her demand, and so, and I love that because it puts the onus on me as a man,
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If you want to be respected and if you want to be obeyed, you need to be respectable and you need to be obeyable, right?
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Like, I can't, I got to 263 pounds five years ago.
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I was eating like crap, and I looked at myself in the mirror, and I realized, ooh, I'm not respectable.
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That's a fat dude, and my wife didn't marry a fat dude, and I changed it because I made a promise that I,
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in order to be obeyed and respected, I have to be respectful and obeyable.
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So there's some personal accountability there, right?
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He says that when a guy starts taking money from a woman, he becomes her son, you know?
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And I think based on what you said about the respect thing, I think those, sorry,
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I think those things do become a, I'll put it forward, yeah, so that becomes a factor.
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So even back to when you said about the bus driver thing, it's not that, you know,
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Like, there's someone for everyone out there, but it's just about the levels and your expectancy,
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you know, and, you know, how do you, if I may, I'm very fair with that.
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I would, like, I'll say it, and it's going to be controversial.
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Yeah, I would, as a dad, like, I'm a dad, you know, and it's like,
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and it's my job to teach my daughters to behave.
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Like, I'm sorry, but like, there's a difference between women that grow up without a father
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My girls are growing up with a father, but I'm also going to ixnay my son wanting to marry
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Listen, listen, listen, sons, I got two sons, right?
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Like, like, grow your values so you don't settle for that.
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And if your country's got 90% of that, like some countries do, I went, my wife's Estonian.
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It's like, no, I'm not going to let my son do that.
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Because it's like, have some damn self-respect, dude.
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Well, but I was thinking even what you're talking about, the moment he starts taking money
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from a woman, like, it's, you're supposed to have one bank account anyway.
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If we're going to go back to traditionalism, like, I think in my grandparents' generation,
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They just gave their paycheck to their husband.
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I was going to ask you your opinion on that, actually, because it's something you said earlier.
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I was going to ask you your opinion on women that are working to bring to the table as well.
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If I had to do, like, a balance of probabilities.
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Some people, you couldn't really generalize and say bad wives because you've got to remember
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some people are in a situation where they either have to work in their relationship.
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I don't think they're bad wives because they're working.
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Or they may have to be single by no choice and they have to work.
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I don't think they're bad wives because they're working.
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I think that generation is bad wives because that generation did not teach, like, submission.
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If you ask most wives from, like, roughly, like, 35 to, like, 50, it's, like, the worst
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Like, if you look at, like, the 60, 70-year-olds, they might have separated, but they stayed together.
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I think they're bad wives because the majority put their career before their family.
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And there are absolutely good wives out there that don't fit into that category, but, like,
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Because some women are single because they haven't got a choice.
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Some women are raising children on their own because they haven't got a choice.
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Well, you know, maybe life circumstances or sometimes the position that a man put them in.
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The percentage of single moms that are single because they're being widowed is, like, 3%.
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No, I'm just saying, like, because there is personal responsibility.
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But there's women that's gone through domestic violence.
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There's women that's had to maybe leave their country for so many different, there's so many factors.
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Like, the girls that talk about that, they just kind of throw accusations at men.
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I just, like, interviewed a professor about this that, like, super in-depth about the stuff and how feminists basically ruined academia because they all just infiltrate the colleges and, like, ruin all the studies.
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And then they, what they do is they change the definition of abuse, rape, sexual assault, all that shit.
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So, like, abuse used to be a man's hitting the woman, right, or the woman's hitting the man, vice versa.
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It's in that book somewhere, so I could pull it up.
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But what they do is they assume that the men have power.
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And so the problem, and they expanded the definition of abuse, so they would include coercive control, financial control.
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And I just know this from doing hundreds and hundreds of shows.
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You just start to see, like, patterns of interviewing hundreds and hundreds of people.
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Like, women will say they were abused, and then I, like, I look into it, and I ask them more questions.
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One girl that was on the show, she said I was abused.
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What exactly happened that your ex-boyfriend was abusive?
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She tells me, well, I wouldn't leave, and he, like, shoves me out of the house.
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Yeah, that's what I, or another girl said she was graped.
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Well, basically, she switched her mind when it came to sex.
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Because what they did with the definition of grape is it used to be, like, basically forced sex.
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And when you make things subjective, and that's the problem with abuse.
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Now, the difference is in family court, which the majority of abuse claims are in family court, and that's where they've expanded the definition of abuse.
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We think it's more likely that he did it than he didn't.
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In criminal court, you have a judge and a jury of your peers.
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And basically, though, in criminal court, in family court, only 10% of women actually filed police reports.
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So it's like the majority, the majority are just talking shit.
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Well, yeah, and it's been a wave of propaganda the last hundred years to basically convince us that men are abusive, controlling all that shit.
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Like, I don't know a single guy that wakes up and says, I just want to abuse some women today.