JustPearlyThings - July 08, 2023


Pearl BREAKS DOWN Why Therapy Is A SCAM

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Anne Boleyn Plato Kim Kardashian Henry VIII Deanna Hoover
Non Traditional Women Want A Traditional Man Why DIVORCE Should Be ILLEGAL

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10 minutes

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2,200

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231

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39

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Toxicity

21

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In this episode of the podcast, we are joined by a very special guest who is a psychologist by profession. We talk about the state of mental health in America, the role of women in society, and why women should not be in the workplace.

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00:00:00.000 What do you think about like couples therapy?
00:00:02.380 Like, do you think that's a good thing?
00:00:04.080 Like, if there is like issues going on with like to keep the parents together,
00:00:08.380 if it was a last resort, would you think that couples therapy is a good thing
00:00:13.400 to make the parents stay together for the kids?
00:00:15.560 Well, I think if you get a good therapist potentially, 0.99
00:00:18.640 but I think 90% plus of therapists are insane and crazy. 0.76
00:00:23.420 I'm not saying there's no validity in the profession, there is. 0.97
00:00:26.160 But I was in school for psychology.
00:00:31.120 Yeah.
00:00:31.920 Wait, if you think the therapist.
00:00:33.280 Well, I'll tell you, I was in it because I just wanted a visa.
00:00:37.040 Yeah, so I just was like, this seems like an easy degree,
00:00:40.500 so I'm going to pick this one.
00:00:41.660 Most people do it because it's easy.
00:00:42.940 Yeah, yeah.
00:00:43.660 No, but that's not good.
00:00:44.740 These are the therapists of the future. 0.95
00:00:46.680 And I noticed all the girls in the program were crazy. 1.00
00:00:48.780 Did you do it in the U.S. or the U.K.?
00:00:50.360 The U.K., but I noticed that similar.
00:00:51.940 You were going to go in and pay nine grand a year to be a psychologist.
00:00:54.080 Well, I had a sports scholarship here, so it was different.
00:00:57.560 You looked like you played netball.
00:00:59.300 Volleyball, volleyball.
00:01:00.400 But in the U.S., I noticed a similar thing.
00:01:04.220 I was like, these are the therapists of America?
00:01:06.180 This is terrible.
00:01:06.960 Well, most therapists need to be.
00:01:08.080 Same with school teachers as well.
00:01:09.400 Most therapists need to be.
00:01:10.580 Do you know what I just found out?
00:01:12.500 I found out the craziest thing.
00:01:15.020 This is very random.
00:01:16.120 Oh, my God.
00:01:16.720 This blew my mind.
00:01:17.920 So I had this whole women aren't needed in society video. 1.00
00:01:21.360 I don't know if you saw it.
00:01:22.560 But because I realized every industry women run, it just tends to go poorly. 1.00
00:01:26.400 I found out in the 80s.
00:01:27.800 No, seriously, I started thinking about it.
00:01:29.540 And I was thinking one was education. 0.98
00:01:31.180 I was like, God damn, we run every industry we go into into the ground. 0.98
00:01:35.360 Now, because everyone was like, oh, you need the teachers, right? 0.99
00:01:37.740 Like, you need women in society and the workforce. 1.00
00:01:40.180 Like, you need the teachers.
00:01:41.460 And I was like, maybe we do.
00:01:44.020 And so I look into the numbers.
00:01:45.700 Turns out when women got into the, they took over education in the 80s, what they did was 1.00
00:01:51.860 they made the, it used to just be based on test scores.
00:01:55.980 So you would have a test every month or three months, like, and it would be a standard.
00:01:59.500 And then you had to, like, just test and that was it.
00:02:01.960 Then they added in projects, papers, all this other shit that made it more subjective. 0.82
00:02:06.380 Because when women go into an industry, we make it more egalitarian, where men naturally 1.00
00:02:10.900 organize themselves in a hierarchy.
00:02:12.420 It's like female police. 1.00
00:02:13.640 So now, right now, we have, a high school graduate has an, I think it's an eighth grade
00:02:19.340 test levels.
00:02:21.020 So since, and usually there's a teacher and a teacher's aide.
00:02:23.920 So two teachers couldn't teach as well as one man.
00:02:28.020 Because, like, based on test scores.
00:02:30.200 And now we have participation trophies as well.
00:02:32.360 Yeah, but that's because when women go into an industry, we tend to want to make it more 1.00
00:02:38.640 equal and egalitarian.
00:02:39.840 I mean, even when, like, earlier, I was like, we have to make, like, rank everything.
00:02:43.480 Everyone's like, no, we don't want to do it.
00:02:44.900 And the men were like, no, rank them.
00:02:46.200 This is how I would rank them.
00:02:48.240 Because men tend to do, like, more of a hierarchy where women want it to be more equal.
00:02:52.740 Yeah, same in the workplace.
00:02:53.900 Same for female police. 1.00
00:02:55.060 They've got to get lower test scores to get into the force.
00:02:57.000 I said we should ban female police. 1.00
00:02:59.040 Yeah, I agree with you.
00:03:00.080 In the UK, police only get paid 23 grand a year.
00:03:02.700 So I don't think anybody would really want to do that job.
00:03:04.860 Well, if we got rid of the women, maybe they'd get paid a little more. 1.00
00:03:07.260 I doubt that.
00:03:07.900 I feel like nobody would get paid more in the UK.
00:03:11.240 UK police is a joke.
00:03:12.680 Yeah, UK police.
00:03:13.580 All my family are police.
00:03:14.660 My granddad was very high up in the police.
00:03:16.900 And it's only in the last sort of, like, 10 years.
00:03:19.800 Well, we should give them guns, too.
00:03:21.060 But that's a different story.
00:03:22.840 Everybody gets a gun.
00:03:24.540 Well, way back in the day, they used to have guns.
00:03:27.060 Like, my granddad used to have a gun.
00:03:28.620 They should bring it back.
00:03:29.780 Yeah, definitely.
00:03:31.680 Well, my uncle's gone to Saudi Arabia at the moment.
00:03:34.140 And they will have guns out there.
00:03:35.120 My kind of place.
00:03:36.360 My kind of place.
00:03:38.240 I don't think it would be your kind of place.
00:03:41.500 I think you get a bit burnt.
00:03:43.060 Oh, okay.
00:03:43.800 Maybe not too much.
00:03:45.520 I don't know.
00:03:46.020 Actually, I know someone that grew up there.
00:03:49.140 And he was saying it's, like, different than everyone says it is.
00:03:51.760 Yeah, it is.
00:03:52.240 Like, it's not as crazy as they make it up to Dubai.
00:03:53.860 Most people are.
00:03:54.360 It's like, when I went to Mexico, everyone was like, oh, my God, it's so bad.
00:03:57.420 And I was just like, you just need to be polite and be nice to everyone that speaks to you.
00:04:02.460 And, you know, you need to be respectful of their culture and the things that they do.
00:04:06.820 And then you're fine.
00:04:07.840 I think most people, like, get so scaremongered by certain places.
00:04:12.140 It's like, like, Deanna grew up in Latvia.
00:04:14.660 And I think, like, people talk about USSR-run countries, and they're like, it's not like.
00:04:21.080 So my next question is, who is to blame for modern relationships, men or women?
00:04:29.080 Women. 0.81
00:04:29.500 Women. 0.81
00:04:30.080 Women. 0.81
00:04:31.140 Tell me why.
00:04:33.620 I feel like women are too emotional. 1.00
00:04:35.880 Okay, we're too emotional?
00:04:37.240 Yeah.
00:04:38.420 I don't get what you mean by blame.
00:04:40.840 Okay, I'll give you some numbers.
00:04:42.500 So essentially, essentially, 100 years ago, 85% of people were married.
00:04:48.720 Or actually, I think it was 90.
00:04:50.300 It was 85 to 90%, because 85% was the virginity rate.
00:04:53.980 Okay, but let's say 90% of people were married 100 years ago.
00:04:57.080 Now, the average marriage is eight years.
00:05:00.820 And there's a 50% divorce rate. 0.84
00:05:02.920 So, who is to blame for this shift where it used to be, you get married, you stay married.
00:05:10.960 Now, divorce.
00:05:13.600 I would say women. 0.95
00:05:15.260 Women have more power now. 1.00
00:05:16.300 Because, yeah, because they're ultimately the decision makers.
00:05:19.660 Not in a household.
00:05:20.840 Get out too easy. 0.75
00:05:21.500 But, I mean, to, you know, for sex, for marriage. 0.79
00:05:25.600 And it's a function of society with everything being pushed on you, social media.
00:05:30.020 There's so much options for them.
00:05:31.960 And it's very easy for them to go. 1.00
00:05:34.120 Women don't take shit anymore. 1.00
00:05:35.320 That's the thing. 1.00
00:05:36.220 Women don't take the bare minimum. 1.00
00:05:38.040 Women expect more. 1.00
00:05:39.320 And that's probably why.
00:05:41.100 Yeah, but the...
00:05:42.140 It's the expectation.
00:05:43.620 You know, I'm going to take the woman's side for one second. 1.00
00:05:47.560 I think as a woman, you can't expect the world.
00:05:50.100 Okay?
00:05:50.280 I really do.
00:05:51.380 And I think if you offer or bring anything to the table.
00:05:56.340 Yeah.
00:05:57.080 But I think the average chick really doesn't, unfortunately. 0.78
00:06:00.740 It's not that bad.
00:06:01.300 But the thing is, I hear women throw around the word narcissist like it's a game of tennis. 1.00
00:06:06.540 Like, the thing is, is that not everyone is a narcissist.
00:06:08.560 There are people with narcissistic personality disorder.
00:06:11.260 Everyone has narcissistic traits. 0.97
00:06:12.720 And with women's addiction to social media, I think women are way more narcissistic than that. 1.00
00:06:18.560 And because of social media, the standards that they have for a partner is overblown compared to what it would have been when they were living in a small country town before social media ever existed.
00:06:30.340 And before filters existed.
00:06:32.580 Yeah.
00:06:32.720 Like, is that men's fault though? 0.68
00:06:35.600 Is that men's fault though for not being autism?
00:06:38.560 It's women's fault of having unrealistic expectations. 1.00
00:06:40.940 It's always men's fault. 1.00
00:06:42.220 The thing is, I've been friends with the type of girl who will literally do everything for male validation.
00:06:49.560 It's all about social media, wearing the certain things and doing the certain things. 0.75
00:06:53.600 I'm like, all you're going to get is just the fuck out of it.
00:06:55.980 Why are you trying to impress these people? 0.58
00:06:58.000 And then they'll do it.
00:06:58.960 And then they'll go, why has this guy hurt my feelings?
00:07:01.200 And I'm like, because you've given it up.
00:07:03.860 Like, that's your own problem.
00:07:05.600 Like, you have nothing to offer.
00:07:07.300 You've come to the table.
00:07:08.480 You've given absolutely nothing and expected everything.
00:07:10.920 And then you're wondering why he's left you.
00:07:13.040 Because you have nothing.
00:07:14.160 That's self-delusion.
00:07:16.000 Yeah.
00:07:16.300 I think women are incredibly, incredibly good at deluding themselves. 1.00
00:07:20.760 Yeah.
00:07:20.960 Yeah.
00:07:21.120 But that unrealistic expectation comes from, I think, the feminism push. 1.00
00:07:26.900 Totally.
00:07:27.440 Women were lied to for the last 10, 20 years that they are, you know. 1.00
00:07:32.620 I would argue 100.
00:07:34.120 Yeah.
00:07:34.800 100 years.
00:07:35.340 Strong as men.
00:07:36.000 Longer than that, yeah.
00:07:36.540 That, you know, feminism is the way to go, that they're almost on an equal playing field 1.00
00:07:41.260 to men when it comes to certain things.
00:07:42.640 So, to tack off that point, you said the original question was who's responsible for it.
00:07:46.540 Yeah.
00:07:47.060 Well, you could get really technical and say it was men because it came from a certain
00:07:50.840 French school of philosophy.
00:07:52.620 The idea of feminism and social Marxism came from French philosophers.
00:07:56.240 Really?
00:07:56.620 I thought it was.
00:07:57.460 It was a bunch of dudes.
00:07:58.260 Yeah, but the women are the ones for it. 1.00
00:08:00.180 I thought it was from Plato.
00:08:01.280 I thought that was the original because his interpretation of the Bible was, like, basically that women had
00:08:06.380 a higher, what is it called?
00:08:09.180 It's like, he reinterpreted the Bible, basically, to the point where, like, the men have to get 0.91
00:08:14.260 wisdom from the women.
00:08:15.500 Feminism comes from the Bible. 1.00
00:08:16.620 But if Plato, you would have expected something to have happened a lot sooner if Plato didn't.
00:08:20.540 Well, no, because I think that was the 1500s.
00:08:23.160 And you start to see feminism as, like, a social movement mainstream, like the 1800s.
00:08:27.460 Yeah, I mean, so, I mean, you know.
00:08:29.580 It's like, if you go back to, like, Henry VIII, like, Anne, who was the woman that got
00:08:34.720 beheaded?
00:08:36.180 Anne?
00:08:36.540 Anne Boleyn, is it?
00:08:37.200 Anne Boleyn, yeah.
00:08:38.420 She originally wanted to start the NHS.
00:08:42.800 Like, that was her original plan. 0.98
00:08:44.840 Off with her head. 1.00
00:08:45.840 Off with her head. 1.00
00:08:46.980 The thing is, this is what we do at work, you see. 0.99
00:08:50.000 It's just like, like, when we come with ideas, we chop off their head.
00:08:55.060 Like, that's just the way it works.
00:08:56.460 But, no, like, it's things like that.
00:08:59.720 I think women are just far more impressionable. 1.00
00:09:02.220 Far more impressionable.
00:09:03.080 They watch one reality TV show, and it breaks their programming, and they've got to think,
00:09:07.440 okay, I've got to be like this woman. 0.90
00:09:09.060 You know, you watch one soap opera, and you go, I need to be living like Kim Kardashian.
00:09:14.960 Think about it.
00:09:16.700 They're the ones falling for it.
00:09:17.860 Well, because we're so influenced.
00:09:19.320 They realized that we could be influenced by propaganda when the radio happened in the
00:09:23.780 1920s, because basically what they do is they say, women, this is this horrible thing
00:09:27.940 that happened, and then this is how you can solve it, and they'll either put, you know,
00:09:32.240 vote for me, or they'll put, buy this, whatever.
00:09:34.780 Here's this horrible, horrible problem.
00:09:36.640 They just, you know, tug at our heartstrings.
00:09:38.360 Yeah, because the opportunity arose, I mean, if we're talking about, like, America during
00:09:42.280 the war, like, they had the President Hoover, like, he did the Hoover chats, and most of
00:09:47.880 them, the fireside chats were women calling in and talking about their issues at home
00:09:52.600 whilst their husbands were off at war and stuff like that, and obviously the empathy would
00:09:57.940 come more for them, and then obviously it would be a lot of women listening to that same 1.00
00:10:01.000 thing, and it would just go on from there.
00:10:04.580 And they've constantly put, like, propaganda, because again, we literally believe anything.
00:10:09.300 It's so crazy, because, like, even King, we were talking about how we do these shows,
00:10:13.200 and we just hear the same ideas from women over and over and over again, and one idea 1.00
00:10:17.480 that they put into our heads is basically, like, if you trust a man, like, you need to
00:10:21.160 have a backup plan.
00:10:22.360 You need to have a backup plan because he will abuse you.
00:10:24.920 He will this, and that's why, like, every single show, it's, like, the first thing.
00:10:27.840 Somebody's going to bring up abuse.
00:10:28.940 Someone's going to bring up this, because, and then what they also did was they convinced
00:10:32.820 women that were abused and were not because they expand the definition of abuse, so they 0.92
00:10:36.180 basically put goddamn everything, so they'll do coercive control, financial abuse, like, 0.72
00:10:41.080 basically all these words to just confuse you and convince you you were abused and you're 0.97
00:10:44.500 the victim, and it's, like, a whole system.