Pearl Called Him Out On His Bad Habit
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Summary
In this episode of the podcast, we discuss the dangers of poor mental health in the modern world, how to deal with it and how to overcome it. We also discuss whether it's fair to gain weight after getting married and what to do if you don't want to lose weight.
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coming up next earlier you said like um that you seem to say like you couldn't lose the weight was
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that what you were saying earlier yes i couldn't but it's but it's like before we the podcast start
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you drink a coat and i'm not trying to call you out but no no no no no don't get me wrong yeah
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um hello i'm on your podcast i want to have a good time you know i'm not at home i don't need
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to be drinking old healthy stuff but what i'm saying okay the reason i say that is just because
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i'll hear people say that but then i like watch what they eat and i'm like it doesn't seem to
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i think what pearl said is absolutely correct we can't glorify this because at the end of the day
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what we're doing is we're glorifying poor mental health yes because it's we can't be glorifying
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that kind of stuff because and you're literally sending people off to an early grave i'm a big
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fan of being alive even though now i get shamed why for being a man that got liposuction right
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but i don't care because you get called lazy though that you were lazy oh you know everything
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this guy does this guy has no discipline this guy this this guy that i'm like have you seen the
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business empire that i run like i didn't run that being lazy and my biggest thing is too if we're
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supposed to like enthusiastically support people chopping off their wieners and becoming women
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like you got to shut up about this other stuff too like god women are more likely than men to gain
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weight after marriage so do you guys think it's fair to gain weight after getting married why not i
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i don't think it's i don't think so either you don't think it's fair drop it on them pam drop it
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on them pam that person met you a certain way oh yeah and obviously that's what they went for and
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that's what they desired so that's what they will continue to desire and although they would probably
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still love you they definitely wouldn't find you still as attractive that's just that's just how it
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would be yeah i think that's just like a lot of i think that's like really common sense that's
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really not present in today's generation because it's just like it's unfair it's so selfish to just
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like that's like a guy getting a relationship with a girl like oh you know what i'm gonna quit my job
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and i want you to take care of me you guys encourage your partners just encourage them with food
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encourage them exercise why do we for example use yeah but he probably was encouraging her but she
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she literally gained 120 pounds that's a whole other human they did it together it feels it seems
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that they it was their couple goal it was that goal you know couple no no no they didn't she got bigger
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he didn't get that much bigger yeah let's play it again anyway you guys don't know the world of chop
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chasers as well i'm i am big so i can tell you the world of chop chasers as well but we're talking about
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the video like the he wasn't getting no no come on he wouldn't have made then he would have married
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listen wait wait wait he would have married a big woman if you wanted a big woman so i think it's
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one thing if you marry wait if you marry a chick and she's like over i don't know what 200 pounds is
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here okay that's one thing but it's like if you sign up for one thing and then she bamboozles you
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later you think that's fair just like if i marry a guy thinking he's gonna pay all the bills and i'm
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gonna get to be a stay-at-home wife and that's what i thought and then one day he's like you know
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what yeah i just don't feel like working anymore or i don't feel like being faithful anymore
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i'm just gonna go fuck every girl i could find now or on her side too it just not be cool i just
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think that you need to be because i think it's common sense when you get a relationship you're like
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okay this is what i like so let's try to keep this going or make this better right and it goes
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both ways yeah and i think that i've i've been there i've been in a relationship and i've put on
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weight in that relationship so i'm not just talking you know blindly i've gone up to 16 stone at my
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heaviest so but i also know that as much as you try to put this body positivity on everything at the
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particular at that particular point in my life i was very unhappy through a lot of reasons because
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i knew that i wasn't the same person i was when my partner met me and i didn't feel confident in
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myself but even though i've lost that weight i've still carried that with me so for the americans at
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home i was calculating yeah 16 stone is 224 pounds you look great oh my gosh you're 220 pounds
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59 like nearly 16 stone that's how much you look seriously i know how i fit so as much as people
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used to say oh you look good me personally for myself i didn't feel that way but you know i felt
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i i was like that my whole life but i i was just sick and tired of being unhappy i'm like do you know
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this world is so short yeah and if you can get to that point without that then great but me personally
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it was just a massive thing for me i couldn't get past it's amazing how good you look now that's
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like you because a lot of the majority of people they when they get that big they can't go back
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it's a large percentage of people that well i was at my heaviest i was 19 stone that's more than 16
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stone so that wow are you guys friends yeah yeah you guys meet each other did you guys do it together
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yeah did you lose it together i i i was literally the the fat kid that ate cake i was the food was
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my comfort it was it was everything to me matilda yeah and and that's that's all i loved and it was an
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everyday thing but in my head in my mind i was shifting the weight but the reality of it as i wasn't
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i wasn't motivated and there was nothing to work toward um and i lived with that for most of my
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childhood i lived with that throughout my early adult years um i i had children when i was young
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so obviously after having children um you've got the baby weight that stayed on you and then you will
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have areas of your body then that um you can't cover up yeah you know that you can't hide um and so
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that kind of led me to then staying at home um and then there's a cycle after that um where you know
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you you're at home you're socially excluded from from from places and people um and then you tend
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to put yourself into a box uh a self-hate then um because whatever trauma that you actually had which
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got you there starts to manifest as you get older and when you look at the people around you when you
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look at how people respond to you um you're constantly battling yourself and it is self
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um and and for me i had to heal first i had to first figure out what was the trauma yeah where's
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the problem um and with that you don't even know where to begin because you don't know what the
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problem is um then you have to soul search you have to look who you've got around you you then have
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to look at your parents um how you grew up your school days um and all of that you have to calculate
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and sometimes you are the problem sometimes the way that you've behaved is a problem however the
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the way that you've behaved isn't necessarily because you've wanted to be that way but you
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was trying to be something that you was not in the first instance so for me once i discovered all of
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that um and i and i shifted to to some weight and got to a healthy weight i then chose for me to have
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surgery that was that was the gift to myself so after i'd healed and i'd recognized where the trauma
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came from and i dealt with that trauma my gift to myself then was to have surgery what kind of
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surgery i had a tummy tuck good for you i've had liposuction me too i've had my boobs done i i had i
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had like so i did so and tying into the whole thing because a lot of people try to like shit on me
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right now because i got liposuction right because i was just in such a bad place you know why because i was
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reading youtube comments everybody's just telling me this was in like 2021 march i got it but i also
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was fully transparent about it and i made a full documentary good about it in tokyo and but at the
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time it was so crazy because i was so like just constantly being slammed because i wasn't like huge i just
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had like a little in the in my midsection and then i was just like a man possessed and then i just like
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yeah let's do it let's do it pay pay pay pay whatever and the next thing you know i'm laying on the
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fucking surgery table i'm like oh fuck like this is gonna be crazy and then i woke up and i was just
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like oh my god i can't believe i went through with that but that you know the same for myself but and
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anyways you know it's so crazy too given them because like i said i'm not i'm not hiding it i i don't
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care i i tell everybody you know what put it on my tombstone like put it right there here here lies
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you know um i'm happy when i did it and then i learned a lot of lessons along the way
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so but even though now i get shamed why for being a man that got liposuction right but i don't care
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because you get called lazy though that you were lazy oh you know everything this guy does this guy
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has no discipline this guy this this guy that i'm like have you seen the business empire that i run
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like i didn't run that being lazy but all that aside yeah i would rather personally i would rather
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be shamed for getting liposuction than being shamed for being overweight and at this point in my
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life if they because people are going to criticize you no matter what and i did use it because you
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know i wanted to create this documentary and i wanted the fat cells out of my body and so um i'm
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still i'm even here on the uk on my trip i'm still exercising i still eat clean yeah and i understand
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to uh is it alicia alicia alicia alicia i'm so sorry i'm okay you'll forgive her alicia as alicia alluded
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to earlier alicia was correct when she said the symptom is something going on inside you and then
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pam pam as well said that what was going on inside of you is there is some there's some trauma there's
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some things so i think what pearl said is absolutely correct we can't glorify this because at the end of
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the day what we're doing is we're glorifying poor mental health yes because it's we can't be glorifying
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that kind of stuff because and you're literally sending people off to an early grave i'm a big fan of
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being alive you know and it's so it's interesting too that you guys like weren't hand selected
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for this body positivity thing no i know i have no idea yeah that's like the universe is coming
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together that's pretty cool the the thing is there's a perception um when it comes to people that choose
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to have elective surgery and that is what i try in my day-to-day life try to allow people to see that
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it's not about just wanting to have surgery to get rid but some people are not best gym candidates i
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wasn't i mean i i'd spent thousands of pounds on on personal trainers on diet plans um i was doing
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all sorts however what happens is yes you might lose the weight the weight will go down in my case
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i i had a hernia i'd had three c-sections um my stomach was protruding that's the the the recti muscle
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in the middle was had opened i needed to have muscle repair and that cannot be fixed in the gym
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right so when i was losing the weight in fact i actually looked better when i was bigger because
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i could hold my own when i lost the weight everything dropped and went down south and it
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looked worse yeah to be fair um so when i saw that happened after i lost all the weight well what do i do
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now because the gym is not going to help this yeah i need to have a tummy tuck yeah i need to have
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muscle repair so so knowing that i needed to have that done there is there is a you know a number
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of people out there will be a while you go to the gym well i did yeah for many years and my biggest
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things too if we're supposed to like enthusiastically support people chopping off their wieners and
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becoming women like you got to shut up about this other stuff too like guys can i say something
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you know you gotta choose one can i share something come on can i just remind you all that body positivity
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isn't only like people with big black related it's about unable people as well and people are born
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deformed some people are born with disabilities and i think body positivity is also linked with that
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but the main the main marketing component of body positivity is towards women to say you can be
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obese i just don't think we should celebrate something that's a choice
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you're celebrating it when you're putting on the cover of magazines that's a reward that's like a
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positive thing when you're you're specifically giving people parts because they're plus size when
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you're specifically trying to put it out there make that the representation of in the media um um and
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and it's interesting too because earlier you said like um that you seem to say like you couldn't
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lose the weight was that what you were saying earlier yes i couldn't but it's but it's like before we
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the podcast start you drink a coat i'm not trying to call you out but you know no no no no don't get
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me wrong yeah um hello i'm on your podcast i want to have a good time you know i'm not at home i don't
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need to be drinking old healthy stuff but what i'm saying okay the reason i say that is just because
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i'll hear people say that but then i like watch what they eat and i'm like it doesn't seem to do you
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know it's just about representation it's it's basically the little things from like there's
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for example you can go to a store you can't get certain things um you can order something from
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online you can't see you can't actually because there's not the person wearing you can't see it
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what i was actually going to say something what i wanted to say is um it's actually just go and go
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and take it away i think it's just the mind thought just escaped that's fine i think it all starts as
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well from a young age and how you're brought up yes and the way that your parents feed you and what
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they do for you being brought up well and that's why i think it's so important to like get in control
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of your eating habits if you want to have children because it's not fair to the next generation
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to be brought up with eating habits that will give you an early grave and i even think about that with
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myself because i have like a horrible sugar addiction i literally love sugar it's so bad so does
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everybody else it's addictive right but we do have like health problems because like a lot of people
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in my family eat a lot of i can't forget what the early onset something i don't know i'm not a person
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but but like i think of this even for myself you know so i think it's like important that
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we don't celebrate that sort of thing yeah i agree with that because growing up for me i used to see
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my mum forever doing different diets yeah going on the cambridge diet you know when you just eat the
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shakes and you have those cardboard bars yeah do you know the kilo diet as well yeah all of this and i
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saw my mum do that and i remember being at school and my mum was happy to say i'd be like mum i want to go on
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diet and she'd pack my rivita with my fruit and i was i was at school at year eight year nine so
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it's 12 13 and my mum was happy to do that whereas you know it's it's it's created bad habits for me
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and unhealthy habits everything in moderation do you know do you know what i realized too i think it's um
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a problem that comes from moms not being in the home anymore yeah because when moms are in the home
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they're watching like what everyone's eating that's like their full phone it's it's tough to do that
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to watch but everyone's eating when you're you're working like 20 30 in addition to that too in
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addition to that these a lot of these food companies are behind the body positivity movement because
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they know that their food is not really food it's like legislated poison yeah they have so much high
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fructose cornstern chemicals and then in addition to that too the rates of home cooking is going down
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all across the globe guilty yeah and then you know people want to order uber eats and this and all that
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crap and then you're just eating processed food and i personally this is me i'm not well i don't have a
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food degree or whatever my degree is in psychology but i do believe that the rise that we're seeing
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we're ever seeing an increasing rate of cancer in people i think that's directly correlated to the
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amount of processed food that we're consuming this is what i wanted to say earlier body positivity is
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important and the reason why it's important is because people have grown grown up watching
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different things they've watched a certain type of people they've watched a certain type of behavior
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and people there are some people that don't leave their house there are some people who travel
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there are some people who don't experience much and they don't know they they judge people they have
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certain behaviors what was taught on telly and that's why it's important it's not because it's important
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like big people should be promoted it's important because some people actually aren't nice and some
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people do judge and some people speak use a certain language and if there was while growing up if there
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was a mixture of people if there were a mixture of cultures mixtures of backgrounds all these things
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yeah their body positivity wouldn't be needed but unfortunately we've been programmed to think
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this is beautiful that is beautiful i don't think so i don't know no no if you try if you if you look
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at because they did a study on this this is what i do for a living yeah so let me just tell you so
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they did a study on female attractiveness across all cultures also over multiple different generations
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and time periods and what guys like is still the same small hips nice butt big breasts
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i have something here too it says um obese women are 20 less likely to marry um this is a survey of
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over 10 000 people which is a huge sample size according to a large 2022 social survey on dating
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65 percent of men would would assign a rejection score to three out of five women
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meaning they would they're more likely to reject them and 18 percent of men assign a five out of five
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rejection score meaning they would definitely reject them so on that i'd like to point out that we
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are talking about obese people because fatness is seen as the monolith of body positivity and fat people
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are an easy target we can have skinny people on the covers of magazines and no one will say anything you
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won't hear a peak but their help is still in danger in many instances no they did in the early 2000s
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they said the girls were too skinny i actually remember that yeah no they definitely did and where's
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that now anorexia was literally a thing models were yeah they were demonizing it the casting directors
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were getting sued all sorts yeah that's what i'm saying people complained um where is that now
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the skinny girls aren't on the covers anymore they're replaced you think they're being replaced by fat
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people yes no no no that's not true please that's not true i'm sorry let's look at let's look at the
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victoria's secret fashion show that come on that was like the epitome of modeling yeah yeah but that's
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but victoria's that was one of the the top like the epitome you cannot tell me and then that that was
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not one of the most competitive like everyone wanted to be a victoria's secret model and then since
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they've switched to victoria's secret has been bleeding money they're losing money right now they're no
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longer a profitable business you need to think about how these brands are moving as well with
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victoria's secret it was this tall woman there's this blonde hair yeah she's she's a certain looking
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type and you really see a difference um in what rihanna's doing she's involving a whole load of range
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and she's getting the sales so victoria's secret didn't move with the time and now the friend is
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taking over i mean i don't think we should have to adjust because of people's choices like i don't
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don't like because if you make a choice to be overweight like why does society have to adjust
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to you like why does there have to be representation wait let me finish why does there have to be
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representation on the cover of magazines why do they have to make specific stores for bigger people
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when really we should be focusing on losing the weight but pearl imagine for you as a tall person i used
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to be i used to be pretty big so you're you're tall so i'm sorry i just i keep on losing my thoughts
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sorry you're tall right and imagine you going to look i'm guessing loads of places you go and
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you're like oh gosh i'm tall i can't actually i can't include myself in that just like with plus
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size people now some people are lazy no no fair though but some people are some people are lazy and
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i have to pay extra money but i live you know yeah life isn't fair but that's the thing some people
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have a choice of being big some people are ill and they're big there are different types of reasons
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why people are big some people look at i'll personally and i'll put this on the podcast
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anyone says they have that they have no choice in being big i'll pay for their personal training and
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their nutrition i'll pay for it myself because if i want to lose weight okay if i want to lose weight
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can i get in touch with you if i want to lose weight and you're gonna pay for it yeah because listen
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there's there's i'm doing it with you i'm not wasting money you have to meet me at the gym
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but then look there's certain laws of physics too that are like like you can't just spontaneously get
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fat like the only way you get fat is from over consuming calories there's no ands ifs or buts about
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it my mom just came to tokyo and i told her i'm going to take care of you but you got to be in fat camp
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because i want my mom around right and so i brought her over and i had to teach her the
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fundamentals of losing weight fasting physical fitness training muscle training and all these
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things right she was grossly grossly undereducated on these things and in three months she lost 25
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pounds and i sent her back home right so but you know what she told me before she came to tokyo she's
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like well i have been going through menopause that's why i'm gaining weight i was like mom i love
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you but that is literally impossible yeah for you just to spontaneously create fat cells it doesn't
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work like that like it is understanding your daily calorie needs and then if you over consume those
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daily calorie needs your body will convert the remainder food into fat and there is no ands ifs or
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buts about it so i'm not saying i understand what you're saying like being fat isn't choice but
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because i think people are just under educated because when you do over consume food because a
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lot of people like you know when you when i see these girls drinking these like venti size starbucks
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with like 800 that's like one drink is like 800 calories that's like that's like a ribeye steak
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hey mine's 300. honestly this whole obesity thing look at what the food industry is doing look at the
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policies and procedures that are changing like a lot of food remember a lot of obesity starts because
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people are are reacting with what's in our food that's not actually good for us air fryers they're
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they're having they're having causes they're the worst i love air fries i'm sorry but with the
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internet there's just no excuse you can look into all of this stuff you know like you can't
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blame the food industry like that you know i still drink my i've been trying to lose 15 pounds
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forever but i still drink my starbucks every day it's my own damn fault we had pizza last night
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yeah some people some people i tried to i tried to cook something i didn't eat breakfast or lunch
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today because we have pizza but no that's me either i have the same thing and some people maybe can only
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afford dollar store food you don't know or pan shop or iceland eggs are cheap yeah beef is cheap like
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chicken the cheap one is cheap i mean because it's got stuff in it but if you want to get an organic one
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oatmeal is cheap no i mean there's not no there's really but you'd be surprised how many stuff is
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in our meat in our chicken no i did this i actually have an episode on wife's school if you want to
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watch it like um auntie got me 50 pounds for two weeks of groceries all organic food so if you guys
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do want to learn about it it's on wife's school you you can do it though i remember i think it was
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maybe start this year or last year i literally went grocery shopping and i went to obviously like aldi
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or something like that right luxury you know it's cheap but like you can get good you know healthy
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foods there and i was like i was vegetarian for nine months i did live with an indian family at
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time as well so like it helped me i was at that time literally 10 kilograms heavier than i am now
00:25:23.040
and when i went vegetarian for nine months i'd have like meat every so often um when i was at my ex
00:25:30.000
boyfriend's now house but like just cutting out the meat for me all that time helped me actually
00:25:38.480
that weight but also compared to australia and here your food here goes off so much quicker which
00:25:44.560
is a good thing yeah and in australia i it can be in my fridge for like two months a month and it's
00:25:50.240
still i can still eat it yeah it doesn't last more than three days here the best kind of food expires in
00:25:55.200
like five days and after five days you're like oh which is good like i live in japan like the
00:26:00.080
the japanese wives they go to the grocery store every day yeah because it does go off quickly yeah
00:26:05.920
do you know what the world is going to get fatter and fatter shall i tell you why why because you
00:26:10.000
know a lot of these vegan foods these processed sausages and all that and they're saying it's vegan
00:26:14.720
you need to see what's actually in them they're they're actually they're gonna they they actually
00:26:20.160
they're not a process they're actually marketing thing it's another agenda yeah so all all this
00:26:26.000
vegan food is still going to carry on the obesityness because what they're putting in it's it's not great
00:26:32.880
and that's the truth and that's why i say anyone who wants to lose weight since this is a plus size
00:26:38.240
topic eat natural foods great your vegetable try and go as organic as you can and just think about
00:26:44.800
green what's good what's yeah what can you take from the earth that's been provided naturally and
00:26:50.720
that's my advice i would say walk just i just wanted to say like when like we were going on the um
00:26:57.760
topic of like front of magazines and stuff like that the covers of magazines do you not also think that
00:27:03.920
this whole you know 10 perfect image can also have a detrimental effect mentally women because we
00:27:11.360
are going to strive to want to be that 10 so that's going to then create a whole that was
00:27:16.720
me you got it you got it yeah i have an answer i have an answer only if you're mentally weak
00:27:28.720
i want my self-esteem to be a little bit humbled and lowered when i look on the covers i remember the
00:27:35.840
days when i could pull the cover off and put it on my fridge and she was my motivation yeah i
00:27:41.280
i liked those days that's a good thing you're right but it does create more issues for those
00:27:48.640
people who have the trauma well and i also think it's okay to be an average chick like why do we
00:27:54.000
live in this world where you need to be top 10 percent but there's a new average but there's a new
00:27:58.480
average if people are growing more corpulent and obesity is becoming the norm then the average is
00:28:04.320
actually changing and what i want lowered right well you would agree or did you say being it's being
00:28:09.680
changed i didn't say lowered or elevated because i think that's quite subjective we're talking about
00:28:14.400
beauty we're talking about health health i don't think is beauty isn't subjective men find genuine
00:28:20.160
generally the same things attractive in what cultures and at what time periods if we read up on it
00:28:25.440
across cultures you could see that in history being on the heavier side was actually a sign of being
00:28:31.440
wealthy we've had so many people bring this up on the shows it's not true not across the board yeah
00:28:41.520
in what cultures is it not true it goes back to like mesopotamia
00:28:46.720
and are we talking about so when i say it was a sign of being wealthy or rich we're talking about
00:28:52.560
people not having enough money and therefore starving and being on the gaunter side of the spectrum right
00:28:58.720
versus people who are wealthy and obviously when you have money you're you know your discipline
00:29:03.120
decreases and so you're spending on food and you grow to be more corpulent and so what i'm trying
00:29:08.560
to say is like there have been multiple time periods multiple cultures where they studied multiple
00:29:14.800
fertility gods and goddesses of sex and they all were the same they were a big nice round butt small hips
00:29:22.880
big breasts yeah flat stomach okay young yes right and that's literally multiple time periods over
00:29:29.680
multiple cultures that couldn't even communicate with each other so you're talking about asia
00:29:33.120
africa you know the aztecs all of these europe they have all of these things and it's correlating across
00:29:40.880
all of these cultures during all these time periods so it's it is an objective marker and then if you look
00:29:47.360
at now too like despite this gigantic corporate push towards body positivity dudes still like skinny
00:29:56.720
hot girls big boobs okay and those same women who are the personification of beauty for men how do we
00:30:04.720
know that they are not equally unhealthy as someone who is perhaps my shape who is a little bit on the on
00:30:10.560
the rounder side and people might look at me and have health concerns that's a good yeah like let's talk
00:30:14.800
about the difference the disparity between how someone presents and what is going on on the inside
00:30:20.960
because this discussion it transcends health and beauty we're talking about i'll give you two things
00:30:27.520
one is a lot more common so the obesity is much more common than anorexia only like yeah i don't know
00:30:33.920
the exact number but it's less than five percent of women are even underweight so one is much more common
00:30:39.200
um and the second thing is um morbidly obese people's life expectancy drops so by by molt i
00:30:46.080
don't i don't know the exact number off the top of my head so when you look at the numbers of the
00:30:49.520
people that are underweight and the people that are morbidly obese the people that are morbidly obese
00:30:53.440
have a lower life expectancy yeah like these these style model these plus size models are starting to drop
00:30:58.880
off there was this latina plus size model she was 37 years old she died from heart heart attack
00:31:04.400
and the number one reason people die in the world is due to circulatory issues and once you're obese
00:31:10.480
and you're consuming too much food your veins and everything they actually get clogged up with excess
00:31:16.320
amounts of fat when you're a skinny person that's just i mean biologically it's impossible because you
00:31:21.280
don't have an excess amount of fat so when you talk about markers of health that's what i'm trying to
00:31:26.240
say is like the larger girls that one marker of health in regards to circulatory health is going to be
00:31:32.400
lower compared to somebody who is thinner and we're talking about that one specific marker of
00:31:37.840
health well do you know do you know which uh which people live the longest on the planet
00:31:45.680
isn't it isn't it mediterranean no it's japanese women oh no way japan has the third lowest obesity
00:31:53.040
rate in the world you know as a direct correlation to that so i'll tell you why why because they eat
00:31:59.680
their own food and they ain't eating no processed foods they stuck to their rice yeah they stuck to
00:32:04.800
their steamed fish they stuck to all the natural foods that's why because they kept it not they kept
00:32:11.760
it good but with i think with the western food in general a lot of it is processed that that is the
00:32:19.760
issue a lot it's all about money when it's quick yeah it's accessible we can easy like when people
00:32:25.440
sit around they they people sit around and they eat carbs and they think like i'm just eating carbs
00:32:31.200
like i'm because i feel hungry but they keep eating it and then they wonder why they keep feeling hungry
00:32:35.920
it's because they're not getting satiated they're not getting the vitamins they need they're not getting
00:32:39.760
nutrients the micronutrients all these things so like i noticed personally that when i switched to just
00:32:44.960
eating two grass-fed grass-finished steaks a day like i would be completely satiated but i mean when
00:32:51.840
was last time you're eating potato chips you're like yeah i've had enough potato chips let's talk about
00:32:56.320
your cholesterol you know just slamming them down yeah let's talk about your cholesterol because aren't
00:33:00.240
there some schools of thought that say if you over index on red meat that your cholesterol goes through
00:33:05.120
the roof yes and butter no as well potentially i i actually had a woman that only eats red meat yeah
00:33:12.080
on the show and what her insights look good what did she look good she looked great she had really
00:33:17.600
um clear skin and all of her annual like um autoimmune issues went away like she had like a bunch of
00:33:22.400
health problems they all went away but eating i don't know it's it's all down to the meat industry
00:33:26.800
where does she get her meat we don't know she probably gets good meat and if she has a heart
00:33:30.320
attack tomorrow what do we what do we say to that then it probably didn't work but so far she hasn't
00:33:35.440
had a heart attack so far so far but then there were loads of uh sort of plus-sized people myself
00:33:40.240
including i haven't had a heart attack yet and i'm i'm like my bmi is terrible i haven't had a heart
00:33:44.800
attack and i can still stand for an hour you're only you're only you're only 24 though it's like i've
00:33:50.000
talked to people like your size roughly and they'll say like after like 30 that's when they really start
00:33:54.800
to get healthy yes girl it really comes in like honestly as soon as you hit 30 i'm telling you
00:34:01.920
i i wish i prepared personally so my advice is before you reach 30 just start stretching stretching is one
00:34:10.080
thing i wish i did more of and now i'm learning the lesson the hard way but now that i've got
00:34:14.640
myself into practice it's just so much easier about stretching i just think too as a culture
00:34:20.320
people like just eat too much in general people eat when they're i mean did you guys eat when you
00:34:24.960
were bored yes yeah i would eat for fun all the time i'd be sitting at home and i'd be like oh i'm
00:34:31.600
bored let me just go to the pantry and find something oh there's nothing there oh let me okay
00:34:35.520
i looked at the health effects of being obese and then it's at all causes of death
00:34:42.080
so it's like high blood pressure high high cholesterol low cholesterol type 2 diabetes
00:34:47.360
coronary heart disease stroke strokes gallbladder um osteoarthritis sleep apnea low quality mental
00:34:55.680
illness such as clinical depression anxiety and other mental disorders body pain and so it's like i just
00:35:01.360
think it's like we wouldn't put someone that like that's a my cousin he was a heroin addict and i
00:35:07.200
we wouldn't put heroin addicts on the covers of magazines but more people are kill or die from
00:35:12.080
obesity related yeah causes you know how many people die from obesity every day 1400 people die
00:35:18.080
every day do you know how many people died in september 11th how many just 500 no just over 3 000
00:35:26.720
you know so you're having like i was on brian carter's show and he was telling me this so he says like
00:35:30.400
every three days you're having a september 11th in in modern life so you know it like yeah i think
00:35:37.840
it's just it's because nobody wants to be called fat nobody wants to be told you're ugly nobody wants
00:35:44.080
to be sexually unattractive men or women we all want to be hot we all want to be sexy you know we
00:35:51.120
want to be good looking it doesn't that never leaves you and so when you're confronted with an
00:35:57.600
uncomfortable reality most people and it's sad to say but most people can't handle the truth
00:36:03.680
yeah and so they choose a nice little lie that makes them feel better and that's why oprah has
00:36:09.280
money that's why the view has money that's why dr oz has money that's why dr phil has money sit down
00:36:14.400
down and lie to women come on down you know and sometimes it's like i think harsh truths that time
00:36:20.000
can make you make life changes yeah like like i i was i was pretty heavy at one point and what made
00:36:25.760
me like 200 club yeah what was your weight um what was the highest that you've got like like 210 maybe
00:36:32.800
215 i saw a picture of myself no that was personally well i'll tell you natalie that happened to me
00:36:51.280
so i played i played volleyball my whole life so i was training like five hours a day from the time i was
00:36:56.960
like i don't know 10 years old so i was just an athlete and when i stopped playing my eating habits
00:37:02.080
were horrible like absolutely horrible so i gained weight like really really fast because i just
00:37:07.040
couldn't burn off all the calories i was burning before and i was working a sales job and there was
00:37:11.280
a guy i had a crush on at work i had the biggest crush on this guy's and i heard i heard him laughing
00:37:17.040
with um the other guys at work saying oh like the the one guy was like oh i'm like 190 or something and
00:37:24.000
he's like you can't be that big that's so that's so heavy i would never like and then they were talking
00:37:28.400
about girls and they're like i would never date a girl over 200 and i was like they didn't think i
00:37:33.280
was that big because i'm tall so i carry it a bit better yeah but really but that but that harsh truth
00:37:38.240
like i lost a bunch of weight after that and i and i've kept it off ever since yeah so you know
00:37:43.520
sometimes you need that kick don't you just to make you realize yeah and like you know it might
00:37:47.760
have been harsh at first but it was true if we're talking about self-esteem doesn't you mentioned
00:37:52.000
being weak-minded earlier hearing your crush or people that you might fancy and and realizing that
00:37:57.520
your type doesn't like you back does that not make you weak-minded then if self-esteem is really in
00:38:02.560
self and you're hearing people you find desirable talk about you in an undesirable way and you're
00:38:07.920
saying that made you change even though the change was for the positive let's say does that not make
00:38:12.800
you weak of mind because they're strong because i made me do something strong i ran a marathon
00:38:18.560
because i was like you know if those are the type of guys i want to date this is what they want
00:38:22.640
and the difference is women have never heard what men want but men always change to try to get us
00:38:27.280
like they try to make more money they try to get better shade they take steroids
00:38:34.240
they learn how to talk to women and it's like we have never heard what men want like ever because
00:38:40.400
the media is constantly telling us what we want to hear so no i i don't think it makes me a weak
00:38:46.240
person i think i could have it would have been weak to go and cry but i went and did something about it
00:38:51.120
but taking on someone's opinion and letting that influence your lifestyle and your actions is not
00:38:56.720
weak i i don't think it's a bad thing to be maybe it's not an opinion i mean i mean it's a fact
00:39:02.480
yeah i think i think because then you you kind of fall into the school of thoughts like you know
00:39:06.720
because like if you're getting fired from job after job after job you'd be like well these people have
00:39:11.040
a poor opinion of me like but that's what's can i just say something that's what's that's what's wrong
00:39:17.520
with the world people care too much yeah yeah and and and i think people don't care enough i think people
00:39:22.560
don't care enough have an effect like you said earlier but i think you i think we should care
00:39:26.720
about outcomes especially as women because it's like yeah if we don't in our 20s and like early 30s
00:39:32.240
get our together like we don't get to have children but power and so it's like like one
00:39:36.960
obesity effects effects if you get to have kids and two it affects the type of husband you you get
00:39:41.760
because geriatric pregnancy starts at 35. don't ever assume big people can't they're honestly
00:39:48.880
big people likely to conceive as a big guy i'm not even gonna i feel ugly most of my life
00:39:53.760
but when i went knightsbridge i'm not gonna i learned the power of being big all these people
00:40:00.560
from uae they'd be beeping the car so they'd be saying hello there's numbers on this at least for
00:40:06.400
women i i don't research it as much for men but like i research it more for women like men that don't
00:40:11.360
make as much money tend to date bigger but like it's really yeah yeah because they get free food
00:40:17.600
probably and they get hugs and cuddles no because i get like i mean what what guy with money power and
00:40:24.400
status married a big girl someone who has a preference yeah i'm saying nobody but i'm saying
00:40:30.640
i'm saying nobody the guys that have all the options nobody does it just like a beautiful woman is never
00:40:35.520
gonna pick a broke man in the same way the most the top the top 10 15 no no it's not agree it's like
00:40:41.680
if we look at the men that have everything the most desired men in society they don't typically pick big
00:40:46.960
girls the same way the most desired women in society don't typically pick broke men yeah just like
00:40:53.040
i've actually got my own pam pam disagrees i want to hear what because it's it falls down to to your
00:40:58.720
preference what you actually like so if you know yourself and you know what you like whether that
00:41:04.560
person has money or not it wouldn't even matter yeah just like it from from women to men or men what
00:41:09.360
are you talking from women select from women to men so if you don't have any money or you need a bit of
00:41:15.120
help but i like you anyway i'm gonna like who you are yeah i've got a theory by the way guys can i
00:41:20.640
share my theory data it just doesn't like it's really nice when we could say this and maybe that
00:41:25.120
applies to you but at large it just doesn't like women when women get a promotion at work they're
00:41:29.840
more likely to divorce their husband when i earn their man that's really why i think that people are
00:41:35.040
crazy i think the world's gone mad my theory is okay people who have come up to me like a lot of
00:41:41.920
people have come up to me and i don't know why once i asked one of them how long were you breastfed
00:41:48.240
for four and they replied saying oh a bit older and i realized everyone that likes big people yeah
00:41:57.840
they've been breastfed for long and or their mom or they are they had a big auntie or a big mom
00:42:03.200
so and they're used to like that sort of feeling so as an older adult that's what they seek and that's
00:42:09.360
the two that means unfortunately it's a cycle i don't know if it's also unfortunate but it is
00:42:13.840
a cycle i mean fat fat fat people raise fat children because they pass you you pass your ways on you
00:42:19.520
know but sometimes the parents ain't even big that's why rich people typically their children are also
00:42:24.720
rich because they pass on the knowledge of being but sometimes i know families i know families where
00:42:30.720
the parents are like twigs and the kids are like monsters i literally and i don't mean that in a bad way
00:42:36.160
but compared to the parents this whole physical look again this is an open invite look at anybody
00:42:44.080
that thinks they cannot lose weight for whatever reason it's impossible look at i'll pay for it
00:42:49.280
come come to london come on down yeah you need to be careful what you say because there might be a lot
00:42:56.880
of big people that start messaging you yeah um i just wanted to um touch on the point of food the
00:43:15.200
reality is it doesn't really matter what you eat processed foods healthy foods the reality is the
00:43:21.920
science is clear if you eat more calories than your body can can convert to energy you're gonna get
00:43:28.080
fat yeah that's irrefutable that's not i don't believe in that i'll tell you why i mean it look
00:43:33.280
it looks like he doesn't believe in that though it's true i'll give you my anecdotal experience okay
00:43:37.760
for the most part of my life i have i have been eating unhealthy like i don't eat healthy the only
00:43:43.120
times i really ate healthy was when i was young but for most of my adult years i don't have time to cook
00:43:48.800
i don't have time to do all of that but i eat once a day and i exercise so it's the science is
00:43:55.200
clear i don't know if anyone here is refuting the science does anyone here disagree that the more
00:43:59.520
calories you consume and you don't exercise yeah we all agree on that i think sugarpuff said he
00:44:05.520
disagreed okay you can't put calories on a on a leaf you can't put calories on spinach you can't do
00:44:13.920
that you see you just eat it it goes from the ground that's when i think with all this calorie
00:44:19.520
counting and stuff like that how do you actually calorie count a carrot because each carrot is
00:44:24.160
different or each and also did you know calories you can weigh it did you know you know you weigh the
00:44:32.240
food you know food calories when they say on the label like whatever calories it is did you know each
00:44:37.280
person consumed in their body when they consume food the calories change and it's different for each
00:44:43.360
person it then boils down to your metabolism yeah but you can do a metabolism like my whole point is
00:44:49.680
this is all we can all fit like this is something that can be fixed it can be changed and that's the
00:44:54.640
great thing about like women most of the things that men want can be fixed like men want fit feminine
00:45:00.560
friendly women those are all things that can be fixed we're faithful yeah good good good trust them
00:45:08.640
right but on the other hand it's like men they can't make themselves taller no but they don't
00:45:13.680
complain near as much as we do about men's preferences we are we can we are our own worth enemy to be
00:45:20.800
fair yeah um and cancelled a woman speaking the truth and then we try to as a woman we try to
00:45:30.880
look for a solution and sometimes that solution um i mean my job is i take women for surgery i take
00:45:37.600
them to turkey i take them to the dominican republic um they they come to me we sit down we
00:45:42.480
look at the mental health issues surrounding that um and then i provide them with their
00:45:46.480
post-operative care so so i see yeah genius it's amazing it's amazing i've recently been
00:45:51.840
shut down by instagram myself as well so i know what that's like but um but but we have a generation
00:45:57.600
now of women today who um they're they're they're using some of them not all are using surgery as a
00:46:06.000
as a as a as a way as a way to lose weight as a quick fix and they're not getting healthy um and
00:46:12.560
you've got clinics now um that are easily accessible the price is now great and and
00:46:18.160
they're going for surgery and they're having these surgeries and they're coming home and they're coming
00:46:22.000
home with issues yeah so so i've been dedicated and i've and i have a passion for making sure that
00:46:28.800
that women are are fully informed um as to what they are doing why they are doing that and to
00:46:34.800
understand the processes that happen afterwards yeah but we have a problem we have a real real issue
00:46:41.360
especially here in the uk um where women are dying yeah because of it yep kanye west's
00:46:48.640
kanye west's mother she went to get plastic surgery died you know but and there's you know because um
00:46:54.480
after i got so for men do you know what happens to men after you get liposuction no tell me so
00:47:00.000
so your penis swells up wait wait hang on a second that happens to the vagina does it happen
00:47:07.120
because here's the thing the the all the fluids and everything gravity dry you know it it drops down
00:47:23.520
there yeah but i guarantee your vagina didn't look like a huge purple eggplant
00:47:28.400
purple it was huge and nobody told me about me neither me neither i had surgery five years ago
00:47:35.680
you could see it in my documentary i'll link you i will link you yeah i was i couldn't believe it
00:47:44.720
it was huge no you know you know i don't know who's as big as yours or mine but believe me when i saw mine
00:47:50.480
i said this this is not normal no mine was like my so my testicles and my my balls swole up i'm not
00:47:58.400
even joking to the size of like a like an overly like a super gmo grapefruit like this
00:48:04.480
wow that sounds painful that sounds painful more than anything you know it's all the fluids fluids yeah
00:48:11.120
you know it's crazy i was dating this beautiful chinese girl at the time and she took lotion and
00:48:15.600
like rubbed it all over me took care of me i couldn't even believe a woman would do this yeah
00:48:19.920
so right yeah yeah and and she massaged it and she took care of me i saw a deeper side of female
00:48:29.040
love during that time well i hope she wasn't small framed in because you really do damage this
00:48:37.520
surprise she didn't get a ring huh i don't think she'll ever forget me though