JustPearlyThings - Pearl Called Him Out On His Bad Habit

00:00:00.000 coming up next earlier you said like um that you seem to say like you couldn't lose the weight was

00:00:06.440 that what you were saying earlier yes i couldn't but it's but it's like before we the podcast start

00:00:11.620 you drink a coat and i'm not trying to call you out but no no no no no don't get me wrong yeah

00:00:17.180 um hello i'm on your podcast i want to have a good time you know i'm not at home i don't need

00:00:21.980 to be drinking old healthy stuff but what i'm saying okay the reason i say that is just because

00:00:27.340 i'll hear people say that but then i like watch what they eat and i'm like it doesn't seem to

00:00:32.140 do you know it's just about representation

00:00:34.400 i think what pearl said is absolutely correct we can't glorify this because at the end of the day

00:00:43.360 what we're doing is we're glorifying poor mental health yes because it's we can't be glorifying

00:00:49.380 that kind of stuff because and you're literally sending people off to an early grave i'm a big

00:00:54.100 fan of being alive even though now i get shamed why for being a man that got liposuction right

00:01:02.260 but i don't care because you get called lazy though that you were lazy oh you know everything

00:01:06.980 this guy does this guy has no discipline this guy this this guy that i'm like have you seen the

00:01:13.280 business empire that i run like i didn't run that being lazy and my biggest thing is too if we're

00:01:18.400 supposed to like enthusiastically support people chopping off their wieners and becoming women 1.00

00:01:24.020 like you got to shut up about this other stuff too like god women are more likely than men to gain 1.00

00:01:30.620 weight after marriage so do you guys think it's fair to gain weight after getting married why not i

00:01:39.780 i don't think it's i don't think so either you don't think it's fair drop it on them pam drop it

00:01:43.920 on them pam that person met you a certain way oh yeah and obviously that's what they went for and

00:01:52.220 that's what they desired so that's what they will continue to desire and although they would probably

00:01:57.280 still love you they definitely wouldn't find you still as attractive that's just that's just how it

00:02:02.660 would be yeah i think that's just like a lot of i think that's like really common sense that's

00:02:07.500 really not present in today's generation because it's just like it's unfair it's so selfish to just

00:02:14.240 like that's like a guy getting a relationship with a girl like oh you know what i'm gonna quit my job

00:02:19.720 and i want you to take care of me you guys encourage your partners just encourage them with food

00:02:27.660 encourage them exercise why do we for example use yeah but he probably was encouraging her but she

00:02:33.820 she literally gained 120 pounds that's a whole other human they did it together it feels it seems

00:02:39.820 that they it was their couple goal it was that goal you know couple no no no they didn't she got bigger 1.00

00:02:46.060 he didn't get that much bigger yeah let's play it again anyway you guys don't know the world of chop

00:02:52.200 chasers as well i'm i am big so i can tell you the world of chop chasers as well but we're talking about

00:02:56.440 the video like the he wasn't getting no no come on he wouldn't have made then he would have married

00:03:02.820 listen wait wait wait he would have married a big woman if you wanted a big woman so i think it's

00:03:08.920 one thing if you marry wait if you marry a chick and she's like over i don't know what 200 pounds is 1.00

00:03:14.460 here okay that's one thing but it's like if you sign up for one thing and then she bamboozles you

00:03:20.480 later you think that's fair just like if i marry a guy thinking he's gonna pay all the bills and i'm

00:03:25.660 gonna get to be a stay-at-home wife and that's what i thought and then one day he's like you know

00:03:29.940 what yeah i just don't feel like working anymore or i don't feel like being faithful anymore 0.99

00:03:37.700 i'm just gonna go fuck every girl i could find now or on her side too it just not be cool i just 0.99

00:03:44.940 think that you need to be because i think it's common sense when you get a relationship you're like 1.00

00:03:50.540 okay this is what i like so let's try to keep this going or make this better right and it goes

00:04:00.240 both ways yeah and i think that i've i've been there i've been in a relationship and i've put on

00:04:05.480 weight in that relationship so i'm not just talking you know blindly i've gone up to 16 stone at my

00:04:11.560 heaviest so but i also know that as much as you try to put this body positivity on everything at the

00:04:18.140 particular at that particular point in my life i was very unhappy through a lot of reasons because

00:04:24.480 i knew that i wasn't the same person i was when my partner met me and i didn't feel confident in

00:04:29.500 myself but even though i've lost that weight i've still carried that with me so for the americans at

00:04:35.800 home i was calculating yeah 16 stone is 224 pounds you look great oh my gosh you're 220 pounds

00:04:43.280 59 like nearly 16 stone that's how much you look seriously i know how i fit so as much as people

00:04:50.720 used to say oh you look good me personally for myself i didn't feel that way but you know i felt

00:04:57.420 i i was like that my whole life but i i was just sick and tired of being unhappy i'm like do you know

00:05:03.740 this world is so short yeah and if you can get to that point without that then great but me personally

00:05:09.240 it was just a massive thing for me i couldn't get past it's amazing how good you look now that's

00:05:14.340 like you because a lot of the majority of people they when they get that big they can't go back

00:05:19.620 it's a large percentage of people that well i was at my heaviest i was 19 stone that's more than 16

00:05:28.220 stone so that wow are you guys friends yeah yeah you guys meet each other did you guys do it together

00:05:35.180 yeah did you lose it together i i i was literally the the fat kid that ate cake i was the food was

00:05:41.800 my comfort it was it was everything to me matilda yeah and and that's that's all i loved and it was an

00:05:48.280 everyday thing but in my head in my mind i was shifting the weight but the reality of it as i wasn't

00:05:53.900 i wasn't motivated and there was nothing to work toward um and i lived with that for most of my

00:06:00.260 childhood i lived with that throughout my early adult years um i i had children when i was young

00:06:05.980 so obviously after having children um you've got the baby weight that stayed on you and then you will

00:06:11.940 have areas of your body then that um you can't cover up yeah you know that you can't hide um and so

00:06:20.660 that kind of led me to then staying at home um and then there's a cycle after that um where you know

00:06:28.520 you you're at home you're socially excluded from from from places and people um and then you tend

00:06:34.760 to put yourself into a box uh a self-hate then um because whatever trauma that you actually had which

00:06:42.180 got you there starts to manifest as you get older and when you look at the people around you when you

00:06:47.880 look at how people respond to you um you're constantly battling yourself and it is self

00:06:53.320 um and and for me i had to heal first i had to first figure out what was the trauma yeah where's

00:07:00.640 the problem um and with that you don't even know where to begin because you don't know what the

00:07:05.820 problem is um then you have to soul search you have to look who you've got around you you then have

00:07:10.980 to look at your parents um how you grew up your school days um and all of that you have to calculate

00:07:17.260 and sometimes you are the problem sometimes the way that you've behaved is a problem however the

00:07:22.280 the way that you've behaved isn't necessarily because you've wanted to be that way but you

00:07:27.640 was trying to be something that you was not in the first instance so for me once i discovered all of

00:07:33.040 that um and i and i shifted to to some weight and got to a healthy weight i then chose for me to have

00:07:40.620 surgery that was that was the gift to myself so after i'd healed and i'd recognized where the trauma

00:07:47.340 came from and i dealt with that trauma my gift to myself then was to have surgery what kind of

00:07:52.980 surgery i had a tummy tuck good for you i've had liposuction me too i've had my boobs done i i had i 0.99

00:07:58.540 had like so i did so and tying into the whole thing because a lot of people try to like shit on me 0.94

00:08:03.060 right now because i got liposuction right because i was just in such a bad place you know why because i was

00:08:08.480 reading youtube comments everybody's just telling me this was in like 2021 march i got it but i also

00:08:15.500 was fully transparent about it and i made a full documentary good about it in tokyo and but at the

00:08:22.580 time it was so crazy because i was so like just constantly being slammed because i wasn't like huge i just

00:08:29.720 had like a little in the in my midsection and then i was just like a man possessed and then i just like

00:08:37.300 yeah let's do it let's do it pay pay pay pay whatever and the next thing you know i'm laying on the 0.96

00:08:41.240 fucking surgery table i'm like oh fuck like this is gonna be crazy and then i woke up and i was just 0.97

00:08:46.100 like oh my god i can't believe i went through with that but that you know the same for myself but and 0.99

00:08:52.880 anyways you know it's so crazy too given them because like i said i'm not i'm not hiding it i i don't

00:08:57.540 care i i tell everybody you know what put it on my tombstone like put it right there here here lies 1.00

00:09:02.420 mld you got liposuction what an asshole 0.99

00:09:04.300 you know um i'm happy when i did it and then i learned a lot of lessons along the way 1.00

00:09:12.320 so but even though now i get shamed why for being a man that got liposuction right but i don't care

00:09:21.260 because you get called lazy though that you were lazy oh you know everything this guy does this guy

00:09:27.040 has no discipline this guy this this guy that i'm like have you seen the business empire that i run

00:09:33.500 like i didn't run that being lazy but all that aside yeah i would rather personally i would rather

00:09:39.500 be shamed for getting liposuction than being shamed for being overweight and at this point in my

00:09:46.720 life if they because people are going to criticize you no matter what and i did use it because you

00:09:52.380 know i wanted to create this documentary and i wanted the fat cells out of my body and so um i'm

00:09:58.520 still i'm even here on the uk on my trip i'm still exercising i still eat clean yeah and i understand

00:10:04.840 to uh is it alicia alicia alicia alicia i'm so sorry i'm okay you'll forgive her alicia as alicia alluded

00:10:15.100 to earlier alicia was correct when she said the symptom is something going on inside you and then

00:10:20.140 pam pam as well said that what was going on inside of you is there is some there's some trauma there's

00:10:26.600 some things so i think what pearl said is absolutely correct we can't glorify this because at the end of

00:10:32.660 the day what we're doing is we're glorifying poor mental health yes because it's we can't be glorifying

00:10:38.900 that kind of stuff because and you're literally sending people off to an early grave i'm a big fan of

00:10:44.000 being alive you know and it's so it's interesting too that you guys like weren't hand selected

00:10:52.640 for this body positivity thing no i know i have no idea yeah that's like the universe is coming

00:10:58.280 together that's pretty cool the the thing is there's a perception um when it comes to people that choose

00:11:04.200 to have elective surgery and that is what i try in my day-to-day life try to allow people to see that

00:11:11.920 it's not about just wanting to have surgery to get rid but some people are not best gym candidates i

00:11:17.460 wasn't i mean i i'd spent thousands of pounds on on personal trainers on diet plans um i was doing

00:11:24.100 all sorts however what happens is yes you might lose the weight the weight will go down in my case

00:11:29.700 i i had a hernia i'd had three c-sections um my stomach was protruding that's the the the recti muscle

00:11:37.040 in the middle was had opened i needed to have muscle repair and that cannot be fixed in the gym

00:11:42.240 right so when i was losing the weight in fact i actually looked better when i was bigger because

00:11:46.740 i could hold my own when i lost the weight everything dropped and went down south and it

00:11:51.740 looked worse yeah to be fair um so when i saw that happened after i lost all the weight well what do i do

00:11:58.100 now because the gym is not going to help this yeah i need to have a tummy tuck yeah i need to have

00:12:04.520 muscle repair so so knowing that i needed to have that done there is there is a you know a number

00:12:10.480 of people out there will be a while you go to the gym well i did yeah for many years and my biggest

00:12:15.000 things too if we're supposed to like enthusiastically support people chopping off their wieners and

00:12:20.840 becoming women like you got to shut up about this other stuff too like guys can i say something

00:12:26.200 you know you gotta choose one can i share something come on can i just remind you all that body positivity

00:12:32.660 isn't only like people with big black related it's about unable people as well and people are born

00:12:40.760 deformed some people are born with disabilities and i think body positivity is also linked with that

00:12:47.240 but the main the main marketing component of body positivity is towards women to say you can be 0.69

00:12:52.580 obese i just don't think we should celebrate something that's a choice 0.91

00:12:57.720 you're celebrating it when you're putting on the cover of magazines that's a reward that's like a

00:13:04.740 positive thing when you're you're specifically giving people parts because they're plus size when

00:13:09.480 you're specifically trying to put it out there make that the representation of in the media um um and

00:13:15.660 and it's interesting too because earlier you said like um that you seem to say like you couldn't

00:13:21.880 lose the weight was that what you were saying earlier yes i couldn't but it's but it's like before we

00:13:27.080 the podcast start you drink a coat i'm not trying to call you out but you know no no no no don't get

00:13:32.640 me wrong yeah um hello i'm on your podcast i want to have a good time you know i'm not at home i don't

00:13:38.180 need to be drinking old healthy stuff but what i'm saying okay the reason i say that is just because

00:13:43.700 i'll hear people say that but then i like watch what they eat and i'm like it doesn't seem to do you

00:13:49.140 know it's just about representation it's it's basically the little things from like there's

00:13:56.460 for example you can go to a store you can't get certain things um you can order something from

00:14:04.400 online you can't see you can't actually because there's not the person wearing you can't see it

00:14:09.540 what i was actually going to say something what i wanted to say is um it's actually just go and go

00:14:17.360 and take it away i think it's just the mind thought just escaped that's fine i think it all starts as

00:14:24.720 well from a young age and how you're brought up yes and the way that your parents feed you and what

00:14:32.300 they do for you being brought up well and that's why i think it's so important to like get in control

00:14:38.240 of your eating habits if you want to have children because it's not fair to the next generation 1.00

00:14:42.400 to be brought up with eating habits that will give you an early grave and i even think about that with

00:14:47.720 myself because i have like a horrible sugar addiction i literally love sugar it's so bad so does

00:14:53.760 everybody else it's addictive right but we do have like health problems because like a lot of people

00:14:59.380 in my family eat a lot of i can't forget what the early onset something i don't know i'm not a person

00:15:05.360 but but like i think of this even for myself you know so i think it's like important that

00:15:10.680 we don't celebrate that sort of thing yeah i agree with that because growing up for me i used to see

00:15:16.140 my mum forever doing different diets yeah going on the cambridge diet you know when you just eat the

00:15:21.400 shakes and you have those cardboard bars yeah do you know the kilo diet as well yeah all of this and i

00:15:26.040 saw my mum do that and i remember being at school and my mum was happy to say i'd be like mum i want to go on

00:15:30.560 diet and she'd pack my rivita with my fruit and i was i was at school at year eight year nine so

00:15:36.560 it's 12 13 and my mum was happy to do that whereas you know it's it's it's created bad habits for me

00:15:43.500 and unhealthy habits everything in moderation do you know do you know what i realized too i think it's um

00:15:49.100 a problem that comes from moms not being in the home anymore yeah because when moms are in the home 1.00

00:15:54.580 they're watching like what everyone's eating that's like their full phone it's it's tough to do that

00:15:58.920 to watch but everyone's eating when you're you're working like 20 30 in addition to that too in

00:16:03.560 addition to that these a lot of these food companies are behind the body positivity movement because

00:16:09.460 they know that their food is not really food it's like legislated poison yeah they have so much high

00:16:15.700 fructose cornstern chemicals and then in addition to that too the rates of home cooking is going down

00:16:22.640 all across the globe guilty yeah and then you know people want to order uber eats and this and all that

00:16:28.720 crap and then you're just eating processed food and i personally this is me i'm not well i don't have a

00:16:35.220 food degree or whatever my degree is in psychology but i do believe that the rise that we're seeing 0.98

00:16:42.420 we're ever seeing an increasing rate of cancer in people i think that's directly correlated to the

00:16:47.900 amount of processed food that we're consuming this is what i wanted to say earlier body positivity is

00:16:54.380 important and the reason why it's important is because people have grown grown up watching

00:17:02.200 different things they've watched a certain type of people they've watched a certain type of behavior

00:17:07.440 and people there are some people that don't leave their house there are some people who travel

00:17:13.060 there are some people who don't experience much and they don't know they they judge people they have

00:17:21.880 certain behaviors what was taught on telly and that's why it's important it's not because it's important

00:17:29.820 like big people should be promoted it's important because some people actually aren't nice and some

00:17:36.840 people do judge and some people speak use a certain language and if there was while growing up if there

00:17:43.400 was a mixture of people if there were a mixture of cultures mixtures of backgrounds all these things

00:17:49.560 yeah their body positivity wouldn't be needed but unfortunately we've been programmed to think

00:17:57.960 this is beautiful that is beautiful i don't think so i don't know no no if you try if you if you look

00:18:03.420 at because they did a study on this this is what i do for a living yeah so let me just tell you so

00:18:06.820 they did a study on female attractiveness across all cultures also over multiple different generations

00:18:13.440 and time periods and what guys like is still the same small hips nice butt big breasts 0.96

00:18:20.400 i have something here too it says um obese women are 20 less likely to marry um this is a survey of

00:18:29.440 over 10 000 people which is a huge sample size according to a large 2022 social survey on dating

00:18:36.080 65 percent of men would would assign a rejection score to three out of five women 0.81

00:18:42.240 meaning they would they're more likely to reject them and 18 percent of men assign a five out of five

00:18:46.960 rejection score meaning they would definitely reject them so on that i'd like to point out that we

00:18:51.840 are talking about obese people because fatness is seen as the monolith of body positivity and fat people

00:18:59.920 are an easy target we can have skinny people on the covers of magazines and no one will say anything you

00:19:05.680 won't hear a peak but their help is still in danger in many instances no they did in the early 2000s

00:19:11.280 they said the girls were too skinny i actually remember that yeah no they definitely did and where's 0.98

00:19:16.000 that now anorexia was literally a thing models were yeah they were demonizing it the casting directors 1.00

00:19:22.160 were getting sued all sorts yeah that's what i'm saying people complained um where is that now

00:19:26.560 the skinny girls aren't on the covers anymore they're replaced you think they're being replaced by fat 1.00

00:19:31.120 people yes no no no that's not true please that's not true i'm sorry let's look at let's look at the

00:19:37.680 victoria's secret fashion show that come on that was like the epitome of modeling yeah yeah but that's 0.63

00:19:43.440 but victoria's that was one of the the top like the epitome you cannot tell me and then that that was

00:19:49.280 not one of the most competitive like everyone wanted to be a victoria's secret model and then since

00:19:53.840 they've switched to victoria's secret has been bleeding money they're losing money right now they're no

00:19:59.120 longer a profitable business you need to think about how these brands are moving as well with

00:20:03.280 victoria's secret it was this tall woman there's this blonde hair yeah she's she's a certain looking 1.00

00:20:11.040 type and you really see a difference um in what rihanna's doing she's involving a whole load of range

00:20:18.480 and she's getting the sales so victoria's secret didn't move with the time and now the friend is

00:20:23.600 taking over i mean i don't think we should have to adjust because of people's choices like i don't

00:20:28.960 don't like because if you make a choice to be overweight like why does society have to adjust

00:20:33.200 to you like why does there have to be representation wait let me finish why does there have to be

00:20:37.760 representation on the cover of magazines why do they have to make specific stores for bigger people

00:20:42.400 when really we should be focusing on losing the weight but pearl imagine for you as a tall person i used

00:20:48.560 to be i used to be pretty big so you're you're tall so i'm sorry i just i keep on losing my thoughts

00:20:55.120 sorry you're tall right and imagine you going to look i'm guessing loads of places you go and

00:21:01.920 you're like oh gosh i'm tall i can't actually i can't include myself in that just like with plus

00:21:07.920 size people now some people are lazy no no fair though but some people are some people are lazy and

00:21:13.360 i have to pay extra money but i live you know yeah life isn't fair but that's the thing some people

00:21:19.600 have a choice of being big some people are ill and they're big there are different types of reasons

00:21:25.200 why people are big some people look at i'll personally and i'll put this on the podcast

00:21:30.800 anyone says they have that they have no choice in being big i'll pay for their personal training and

00:21:34.880 their nutrition i'll pay for it myself because if i want to lose weight okay if i want to lose weight

00:21:39.920 can i get in touch with you if i want to lose weight and you're gonna pay for it yeah because listen

00:21:44.160 there's there's i'm doing it with you i'm not wasting money you have to meet me at the gym

00:21:51.440 but then look there's certain laws of physics too that are like like you can't just spontaneously get

00:21:59.760 fat like the only way you get fat is from over consuming calories there's no ands ifs or buts about

00:22:06.640 it my mom just came to tokyo and i told her i'm going to take care of you but you got to be in fat camp

00:22:11.840 because i want my mom around right and so i brought her over and i had to teach her the 0.97

00:22:16.560 fundamentals of losing weight fasting physical fitness training muscle training and all these

00:22:22.400 things right she was grossly grossly undereducated on these things and in three months she lost 25

00:22:30.000 pounds and i sent her back home right so but you know what she told me before she came to tokyo she's 0.89

00:22:38.720 like well i have been going through menopause that's why i'm gaining weight i was like mom i love

00:22:43.280 you but that is literally impossible yeah for you just to spontaneously create fat cells it doesn't

00:22:51.520 work like that like it is understanding your daily calorie needs and then if you over consume those

00:22:58.560 daily calorie needs your body will convert the remainder food into fat and there is no ands ifs or

00:23:05.520 buts about it so i'm not saying i understand what you're saying like being fat isn't choice but

00:23:10.000 because i think people are just under educated because when you do over consume food because a

00:23:15.360 lot of people like you know when you when i see these girls drinking these like venti size starbucks 1.00

00:23:21.360 with like 800 that's like one drink is like 800 calories that's like that's like a ribeye steak

00:23:28.800 hey mine's 300. honestly this whole obesity thing look at what the food industry is doing look at the

00:23:40.160 policies and procedures that are changing like a lot of food remember a lot of obesity starts because

00:23:46.880 people are are reacting with what's in our food that's not actually good for us air fryers they're

00:23:53.200 they're having they're having causes they're the worst i love air fries i'm sorry but with the

00:23:57.600 internet there's just no excuse you can look into all of this stuff you know like you can't

00:24:02.240 blame the food industry like that you know i still drink my i've been trying to lose 15 pounds 0.56

00:24:07.360 forever but i still drink my starbucks every day it's my own damn fault we had pizza last night 0.58

00:24:12.080 yeah some people some people i tried to i tried to cook something i didn't eat breakfast or lunch

00:24:19.360 today because we have pizza but no that's me either i have the same thing and some people maybe can only

00:24:25.040 afford dollar store food you don't know or pan shop or iceland eggs are cheap yeah beef is cheap like

00:24:32.720 chicken the cheap one is cheap i mean because it's got stuff in it but if you want to get an organic one

00:24:39.040 oatmeal is cheap no i mean there's not no there's really but you'd be surprised how many stuff is

00:24:43.360 in our meat in our chicken no i did this i actually have an episode on wife's school if you want to

00:24:47.440 watch it like um auntie got me 50 pounds for two weeks of groceries all organic food so if you guys

00:24:52.880 do want to learn about it it's on wife's school you you can do it though i remember i think it was

00:24:58.640 maybe start this year or last year i literally went grocery shopping and i went to obviously like aldi

00:25:04.560 or something like that right luxury you know it's cheap but like you can get good you know healthy

00:25:10.960 foods there and i was like i was vegetarian for nine months i did live with an indian family at

00:25:16.400 time as well so like it helped me i was at that time literally 10 kilograms heavier than i am now

00:25:23.040 and when i went vegetarian for nine months i'd have like meat every so often um when i was at my ex

00:25:30.000 boyfriend's now house but like just cutting out the meat for me all that time helped me actually

00:25:38.480 that weight but also compared to australia and here your food here goes off so much quicker which

00:25:44.560 is a good thing yeah and in australia i it can be in my fridge for like two months a month and it's

00:25:50.240 still i can still eat it yeah it doesn't last more than three days here the best kind of food expires in

00:25:55.200 like five days and after five days you're like oh which is good like i live in japan like the

00:26:00.080 the japanese wives they go to the grocery store every day yeah because it does go off quickly yeah 1.00

00:26:05.920 do you know what the world is going to get fatter and fatter shall i tell you why why because you

00:26:10.000 know a lot of these vegan foods these processed sausages and all that and they're saying it's vegan

00:26:14.720 you need to see what's actually in them they're they're actually they're gonna they they actually

00:26:20.160 they're not a process they're actually marketing thing it's another agenda yeah so all all this

00:26:26.000 vegan food is still going to carry on the obesityness because what they're putting in it's it's not great

00:26:32.880 and that's the truth and that's why i say anyone who wants to lose weight since this is a plus size

00:26:38.240 topic eat natural foods great your vegetable try and go as organic as you can and just think about

00:26:44.800 green what's good what's yeah what can you take from the earth that's been provided naturally and

00:26:50.720 that's my advice i would say walk just i just wanted to say like when like we were going on the um

00:26:57.760 topic of like front of magazines and stuff like that the covers of magazines do you not also think that

00:27:03.920 this whole you know 10 perfect image can also have a detrimental effect mentally women because we 1.00

00:27:11.360 are going to strive to want to be that 10 so that's going to then create a whole that was

00:27:16.720 me you got it you got it yeah i have an answer i have an answer only if you're mentally weak 0.60

00:27:28.720 i want my self-esteem to be a little bit humbled and lowered when i look on the covers i remember the

00:27:35.840 days when i could pull the cover off and put it on my fridge and she was my motivation yeah i

00:27:41.280 i liked those days that's a good thing you're right but it does create more issues for those

00:27:48.640 people who have the trauma well and i also think it's okay to be an average chick like why do we

00:27:54.000 live in this world where you need to be top 10 percent but there's a new average but there's a new

00:27:58.480 average if people are growing more corpulent and obesity is becoming the norm then the average is

00:28:04.320 actually changing and what i want lowered right well you would agree or did you say being it's being

00:28:09.680 changed i didn't say lowered or elevated because i think that's quite subjective we're talking about

00:28:14.400 beauty we're talking about health health i don't think is beauty isn't subjective men find genuine

00:28:20.160 generally the same things attractive in what cultures and at what time periods if we read up on it

00:28:25.440 across cultures you could see that in history being on the heavier side was actually a sign of being

00:28:31.440 wealthy we've had so many people bring this up on the shows it's not true not across the board yeah

00:28:41.520 in what cultures is it not true it goes back to like mesopotamia

00:28:46.720 and are we talking about so when i say it was a sign of being wealthy or rich we're talking about

00:28:52.560 people not having enough money and therefore starving and being on the gaunter side of the spectrum right

00:28:58.720 versus people who are wealthy and obviously when you have money you're you know your discipline

00:29:03.120 decreases and so you're spending on food and you grow to be more corpulent and so what i'm trying

00:29:08.560 to say is like there have been multiple time periods multiple cultures where they studied multiple 0.94

00:29:14.800 fertility gods and goddesses of sex and they all were the same they were a big nice round butt small hips 1.00

00:29:22.880 big breasts yeah flat stomach okay young yes right and that's literally multiple time periods over 0.99

00:29:29.680 multiple cultures that couldn't even communicate with each other so you're talking about asia

00:29:33.120 africa you know the aztecs all of these europe they have all of these things and it's correlating across

00:29:40.880 all of these cultures during all these time periods so it's it is an objective marker and then if you look

00:29:47.360 at now too like despite this gigantic corporate push towards body positivity dudes still like skinny

00:29:56.720 hot girls big boobs okay and those same women who are the personification of beauty for men how do we 1.00

00:30:04.720 know that they are not equally unhealthy as someone who is perhaps my shape who is a little bit on the on

00:30:10.560 the rounder side and people might look at me and have health concerns that's a good yeah like let's talk

00:30:14.800 about the difference the disparity between how someone presents and what is going on on the inside

00:30:20.960 because this discussion it transcends health and beauty we're talking about i'll give you two things

00:30:27.520 one is a lot more common so the obesity is much more common than anorexia only like yeah i don't know

00:30:33.920 the exact number but it's less than five percent of women are even underweight so one is much more common 1.00

00:30:39.200 um and the second thing is um morbidly obese people's life expectancy drops so by by molt i

00:30:46.080 don't i don't know the exact number off the top of my head so when you look at the numbers of the

00:30:49.520 people that are underweight and the people that are morbidly obese the people that are morbidly obese

00:30:53.440 have a lower life expectancy yeah like these these style model these plus size models are starting to drop 1.00

00:30:58.880 off there was this latina plus size model she was 37 years old she died from heart heart attack

00:31:04.400 and the number one reason people die in the world is due to circulatory issues and once you're obese

00:31:10.480 and you're consuming too much food your veins and everything they actually get clogged up with excess

00:31:16.320 amounts of fat when you're a skinny person that's just i mean biologically it's impossible because you

00:31:21.280 don't have an excess amount of fat so when you talk about markers of health that's what i'm trying to

00:31:26.240 say is like the larger girls that one marker of health in regards to circulatory health is going to be 1.00

00:31:32.400 lower compared to somebody who is thinner and we're talking about that one specific marker of

00:31:37.840 health well do you know do you know which uh which people live the longest on the planet

00:31:45.680 isn't it isn't it mediterranean no it's japanese women oh no way japan has the third lowest obesity 1.00

00:31:53.040 rate in the world you know as a direct correlation to that so i'll tell you why why because they eat

00:31:59.680 their own food and they ain't eating no processed foods they stuck to their rice yeah they stuck to

00:32:04.800 their steamed fish they stuck to all the natural foods that's why because they kept it not they kept

00:32:11.760 it good but with i think with the western food in general a lot of it is processed that that is the

00:32:19.760 issue a lot it's all about money when it's quick yeah it's accessible we can easy like when people

00:32:25.440 sit around they they people sit around and they eat carbs and they think like i'm just eating carbs

00:32:31.200 like i'm because i feel hungry but they keep eating it and then they wonder why they keep feeling hungry

00:32:35.920 it's because they're not getting satiated they're not getting the vitamins they need they're not getting

00:32:39.760 nutrients the micronutrients all these things so like i noticed personally that when i switched to just

00:32:44.960 eating two grass-fed grass-finished steaks a day like i would be completely satiated but i mean when

00:32:51.840 was last time you're eating potato chips you're like yeah i've had enough potato chips let's talk about

00:32:56.320 your cholesterol you know just slamming them down yeah let's talk about your cholesterol because aren't

00:33:00.240 there some schools of thought that say if you over index on red meat that your cholesterol goes through

00:33:05.120 the roof yes and butter no as well potentially i i actually had a woman that only eats red meat yeah 1.00

00:33:12.080 on the show and what her insights look good what did she look good she looked great she had really

00:33:17.600 um clear skin and all of her annual like um autoimmune issues went away like she had like a bunch of

00:33:22.400 health problems they all went away but eating i don't know it's it's all down to the meat industry

00:33:26.800 where does she get her meat we don't know she probably gets good meat and if she has a heart 1.00

00:33:30.320 attack tomorrow what do we what do we say to that then it probably didn't work but so far she hasn't

00:33:35.440 had a heart attack so far so far but then there were loads of uh sort of plus-sized people myself

00:33:40.240 including i haven't had a heart attack yet and i'm i'm like my bmi is terrible i haven't had a heart

00:33:44.800 attack and i can still stand for an hour you're only you're only you're only 24 though it's like i've

00:33:50.000 talked to people like your size roughly and they'll say like after like 30 that's when they really start

00:33:54.800 to get healthy yes girl it really comes in like honestly as soon as you hit 30 i'm telling you

00:34:01.920 i i wish i prepared personally so my advice is before you reach 30 just start stretching stretching is one

00:34:10.080 thing i wish i did more of and now i'm learning the lesson the hard way but now that i've got

00:34:14.640 myself into practice it's just so much easier about stretching i just think too as a culture

00:34:20.320 people like just eat too much in general people eat when they're i mean did you guys eat when you

00:34:24.960 were bored yes yeah i would eat for fun all the time i'd be sitting at home and i'd be like oh i'm

00:34:31.600 bored let me just go to the pantry and find something oh there's nothing there oh let me okay

00:34:35.520 i looked at the health effects of being obese and then it's at all causes of death

00:34:42.080 so it's like high blood pressure high high cholesterol low cholesterol type 2 diabetes

00:34:47.360 coronary heart disease stroke strokes gallbladder um osteoarthritis sleep apnea low quality mental

00:34:55.680 illness such as clinical depression anxiety and other mental disorders body pain and so it's like i just

00:35:01.360 think it's like we wouldn't put someone that like that's a my cousin he was a heroin addict and i

00:35:07.200 we wouldn't put heroin addicts on the covers of magazines but more people are kill or die from

00:35:12.080 obesity related yeah causes you know how many people die from obesity every day 1400 people die

00:35:18.080 every day do you know how many people died in september 11th how many just 500 no just over 3 000

00:35:26.720 you know so you're having like i was on brian carter's show and he was telling me this so he says like

00:35:30.400 every three days you're having a september 11th in in modern life so you know it like yeah i think

00:35:37.840 it's just it's because nobody wants to be called fat nobody wants to be told you're ugly nobody wants

00:35:44.080 to be sexually unattractive men or women we all want to be hot we all want to be sexy you know we

00:35:51.120 want to be good looking it doesn't that never leaves you and so when you're confronted with an

00:35:57.600 uncomfortable reality most people and it's sad to say but most people can't handle the truth

00:36:03.680 yeah and so they choose a nice little lie that makes them feel better and that's why oprah has 0.99

00:36:09.280 money that's why the view has money that's why dr oz has money that's why dr phil has money sit down

00:36:14.400 down and lie to women come on down you know and sometimes it's like i think harsh truths that time

00:36:20.000 can make you make life changes yeah like like i i was i was pretty heavy at one point and what made

00:36:25.760 me like 200 club yeah what was your weight um what was the highest that you've got like like 210 maybe

00:36:32.800 215 i saw a picture of myself no that was personally well i'll tell you natalie that happened to me

00:36:46.960 i'll tell you i'll show you the picture

00:36:51.280 so i played i played volleyball my whole life so i was training like five hours a day from the time i was

00:36:56.960 like i don't know 10 years old so i was just an athlete and when i stopped playing my eating habits

00:37:02.080 were horrible like absolutely horrible so i gained weight like really really fast because i just

00:37:07.040 couldn't burn off all the calories i was burning before and i was working a sales job and there was

00:37:11.280 a guy i had a crush on at work i had the biggest crush on this guy's and i heard i heard him laughing

00:37:17.040 with um the other guys at work saying oh like the the one guy was like oh i'm like 190 or something and

00:37:24.000 he's like you can't be that big that's so that's so heavy i would never like and then they were talking

00:37:28.400 about girls and they're like i would never date a girl over 200 and i was like they didn't think i

00:37:33.280 was that big because i'm tall so i carry it a bit better yeah but really but that but that harsh truth

00:37:38.240 like i lost a bunch of weight after that and i and i've kept it off ever since yeah so you know

00:37:43.520 sometimes you need that kick don't you just to make you realize yeah and like you know it might

00:37:47.760 have been harsh at first but it was true if we're talking about self-esteem doesn't you mentioned

00:37:52.000 being weak-minded earlier hearing your crush or people that you might fancy and and realizing that

00:37:57.520 your type doesn't like you back does that not make you weak-minded then if self-esteem is really in

00:38:02.560 self and you're hearing people you find desirable talk about you in an undesirable way and you're

00:38:07.920 saying that made you change even though the change was for the positive let's say does that not make

00:38:12.800 you weak of mind because they're strong because i made me do something strong i ran a marathon

00:38:18.560 because i was like you know if those are the type of guys i want to date this is what they want

00:38:22.640 and the difference is women have never heard what men want but men always change to try to get us

00:38:27.280 like they try to make more money they try to get better shade they take steroids

00:38:34.240 they learn how to talk to women and it's like we have never heard what men want like ever because

00:38:40.400 the media is constantly telling us what we want to hear so no i i don't think it makes me a weak

00:38:46.240 person i think i could have it would have been weak to go and cry but i went and did something about it

00:38:51.120 but taking on someone's opinion and letting that influence your lifestyle and your actions is not

00:38:56.720 weak i i don't think it's a bad thing to be maybe it's not an opinion i mean i mean it's a fact

00:39:02.480 yeah i think i think because then you you kind of fall into the school of thoughts like you know

00:39:06.720 because like if you're getting fired from job after job after job you'd be like well these people have

00:39:11.040 a poor opinion of me like but that's what's can i just say something that's what's that's what's wrong

00:39:17.520 with the world people care too much yeah yeah and and and i think people don't care enough i think people

00:39:22.560 don't care enough have an effect like you said earlier but i think you i think we should care

00:39:26.720 about outcomes especially as women because it's like yeah if we don't in our 20s and like early 30s 0.87

00:39:32.240 get our together like we don't get to have children but power and so it's like like one

00:39:36.960 obesity effects effects if you get to have kids and two it affects the type of husband you you get

00:39:41.760 because geriatric pregnancy starts at 35. don't ever assume big people can't they're honestly

00:39:48.880 big people likely to conceive as a big guy i'm not even gonna i feel ugly most of my life

00:39:53.760 but when i went knightsbridge i'm not gonna i learned the power of being big all these people

00:40:00.560 from uae they'd be beeping the car so they'd be saying hello there's numbers on this at least for

00:40:06.400 women i i don't research it as much for men but like i research it more for women like men that don't

00:40:11.360 make as much money tend to date bigger but like it's really yeah yeah because they get free food

00:40:17.600 probably and they get hugs and cuddles no because i get like i mean what what guy with money power and

00:40:24.400 status married a big girl someone who has a preference yeah i'm saying nobody but i'm saying

00:40:30.640 i'm saying nobody the guys that have all the options nobody does it just like a beautiful woman is never 1.00

00:40:35.520 gonna pick a broke man in the same way the most the top the top 10 15 no no it's not agree it's like

00:40:41.680 if we look at the men that have everything the most desired men in society they don't typically pick big

00:40:46.960 girls the same way the most desired women in society don't typically pick broke men yeah just like 0.98

00:40:53.040 i've actually got my own pam pam disagrees i want to hear what because it's it falls down to to your

00:40:58.720 preference what you actually like so if you know yourself and you know what you like whether that

00:41:04.560 person has money or not it wouldn't even matter yeah just like it from from women to men or men what 1.00

00:41:09.360 are you talking from women select from women to men so if you don't have any money or you need a bit of

00:41:15.120 help but i like you anyway i'm gonna like who you are yeah i've got a theory by the way guys can i

00:41:20.640 share my theory data it just doesn't like it's really nice when we could say this and maybe that

00:41:25.120 applies to you but at large it just doesn't like women when women get a promotion at work they're 1.00

00:41:29.840 more likely to divorce their husband when i earn their man that's really why i think that people are 1.00

00:41:35.040 crazy i think the world's gone mad my theory is okay people who have come up to me like a lot of

00:41:41.920 people have come up to me and i don't know why once i asked one of them how long were you breastfed

00:41:48.240 for four and they replied saying oh a bit older and i realized everyone that likes big people yeah

00:41:57.840 they've been breastfed for long and or their mom or they are they had a big auntie or a big mom

00:42:03.200 so and they're used to like that sort of feeling so as an older adult that's what they seek and that's

00:42:09.360 the two that means unfortunately it's a cycle i don't know if it's also unfortunate but it is

00:42:13.840 a cycle i mean fat fat fat people raise fat children because they pass you you pass your ways on you

00:42:19.520 know but sometimes the parents ain't even big that's why rich people typically their children are also

00:42:24.720 rich because they pass on the knowledge of being but sometimes i know families i know families where

00:42:30.720 the parents are like twigs and the kids are like monsters i literally and i don't mean that in a bad way

00:42:36.160 but compared to the parents this whole physical look again this is an open invite look at anybody

00:42:44.080 that thinks they cannot lose weight for whatever reason it's impossible look at i'll pay for it

00:42:49.280 come come to london come on down yeah you need to be careful what you say because there might be a lot

00:42:56.880 of big people that start messaging you yeah um i just wanted to um touch on the point of food the

00:43:15.200 reality is it doesn't really matter what you eat processed foods healthy foods the reality is the

00:43:21.920 science is clear if you eat more calories than your body can can convert to energy you're gonna get

00:43:28.080 fat yeah that's irrefutable that's not i don't believe in that i'll tell you why i mean it look

00:43:33.280 it looks like he doesn't believe in that though it's true i'll give you my anecdotal experience okay

00:43:37.760 for the most part of my life i have i have been eating unhealthy like i don't eat healthy the only

00:43:43.120 times i really ate healthy was when i was young but for most of my adult years i don't have time to cook

00:43:48.800 i don't have time to do all of that but i eat once a day and i exercise so it's the science is

00:43:55.200 clear i don't know if anyone here is refuting the science does anyone here disagree that the more

00:43:59.520 calories you consume and you don't exercise yeah we all agree on that i think sugarpuff said he

00:44:05.520 disagreed okay you can't put calories on a on a leaf you can't put calories on spinach you can't do

00:44:13.920 that you see you just eat it it goes from the ground that's when i think with all this calorie

00:44:19.520 counting and stuff like that how do you actually calorie count a carrot because each carrot is

00:44:24.160 different or each and also did you know calories you can weigh it did you know you know you weigh the

00:44:32.240 food you know food calories when they say on the label like whatever calories it is did you know each

00:44:37.280 person consumed in their body when they consume food the calories change and it's different for each

00:44:43.360 person it then boils down to your metabolism yeah but you can do a metabolism like my whole point is

00:44:49.680 this is all we can all fit like this is something that can be fixed it can be changed and that's the

00:44:54.640 great thing about like women most of the things that men want can be fixed like men want fit feminine 0.97

00:45:00.560 friendly women those are all things that can be fixed we're faithful yeah good good good trust them

00:45:08.640 right but on the other hand it's like men they can't make themselves taller no but they don't

00:45:13.680 complain near as much as we do about men's preferences we are we can we are our own worth enemy to be

00:45:20.800 fair yeah um and cancelled a woman speaking the truth and then we try to as a woman we try to 0.93

00:45:30.880 look for a solution and sometimes that solution um i mean my job is i take women for surgery i take

00:45:37.600 them to turkey i take them to the dominican republic um they they come to me we sit down we

00:45:42.480 look at the mental health issues surrounding that um and then i provide them with their

00:45:46.480 post-operative care so so i see yeah genius it's amazing it's amazing i've recently been

00:45:51.840 shut down by instagram myself as well so i know what that's like but um but but we have a generation

00:45:57.600 now of women today who um they're they're they're using some of them not all are using surgery as a

00:46:06.000 as a as a as a way as a way to lose weight as a quick fix and they're not getting healthy um and

00:46:12.560 you've got clinics now um that are easily accessible the price is now great and and

00:46:18.160 they're going for surgery and they're having these surgeries and they're coming home and they're coming

00:46:22.000 home with issues yeah so so i've been dedicated and i've and i have a passion for making sure that

00:46:28.800 that women are are fully informed um as to what they are doing why they are doing that and to

00:46:34.800 understand the processes that happen afterwards yeah but we have a problem we have a real real issue

00:46:41.360 especially here in the uk um where women are dying yeah because of it yep kanye west's 1.00

00:46:48.640 kanye west's mother she went to get plastic surgery died you know but and there's you know because um

00:46:54.480 after i got so for men do you know what happens to men after you get liposuction no tell me so 0.99

00:47:00.000 so your penis swells up wait wait hang on a second that happens to the vagina does it happen 1.00

00:47:07.120 because here's the thing the the all the fluids and everything gravity dry you know it it drops down 1.00

00:47:23.520 there yeah but i guarantee your vagina didn't look like a huge purple eggplant 1.00

00:47:28.400 purple it was huge and nobody told me about me neither me neither i had surgery five years ago 0.98

00:47:35.680 you could see it in my documentary i'll link you i will link you yeah i was i couldn't believe it

00:47:44.720 it was huge no you know you know i don't know who's as big as yours or mine but believe me when i saw mine 0.96

00:47:50.480 i said this this is not normal no mine was like my so my testicles and my my balls swole up i'm not 0.98

00:47:58.400 even joking to the size of like a like an overly like a super gmo grapefruit like this 0.96

00:48:04.480 wow that sounds painful that sounds painful more than anything you know it's all the fluids fluids yeah

00:48:11.120 you know it's crazy i was dating this beautiful chinese girl at the time and she took lotion and 0.70

00:48:15.600 like rubbed it all over me took care of me i couldn't even believe a woman would do this yeah 1.00

00:48:19.920 so right yeah yeah and and she massaged it and she took care of me i saw a deeper side of female 1.00

00:48:29.040 love during that time well i hope she wasn't small framed in because you really do damage this

00:48:37.520 surprise she didn't get a ring huh i don't think she'll ever forget me though

JustPearlyThings - July 05, 2023

Pearl Called Him Out On His Bad Habit

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