JustPearlyThings - October 26, 2023


Pearl Calls Out Deluded Modern's Hypocrisy


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

204.8217

Word Count

1,702

Sentence Count

163

Misogynist Sentences

17

Hate Speech Sentences

10


Summary

In this episode, we talk about sex and why you should wait to have sex with your significant other until you are ready. We also talk about the importance of self-care and how important it is to take care of your body.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 What do you guys think about the phrase,
00:00:02.440 a woman that makes you wait for sex isn't worth the wait?
00:00:08.460 That's only true if you're not, if she's not a real virgin,
00:00:13.560 which I know you can't really, you know, you can't really tell.
00:00:17.340 But that's what I think, at least.
00:00:18.920 But I think you guys have to be mindful when it comes to sex.
00:00:22.280 It's not just sex.
00:00:23.560 It's a spiritual energy exchange.
00:00:26.640 I don't care.
00:00:27.640 You guys, I have to say this stuff.
00:00:29.340 Like, honestly, it's not, it's a big thing.
00:00:33.580 So do you really want to just be having sex with anyone
00:00:36.660 and letting any kind of energy into your energy?
00:00:39.200 Like, it's not worth it, is it?
00:00:40.280 I don't think it's worth it.
00:00:41.520 And that's kind of like a toxic cycle, to be honest.
00:00:43.520 Can I just say that for us, it is always a spiritual exchange.
00:00:46.700 For them, it might just be sex.
00:00:49.120 And you might be thinking, oh, this is a spiritual exchange, but it's not.
00:00:52.520 And that's why I probably could only date spiritual men now, at this point.
00:00:55.740 But, like, I think if you thought it was a spiritual exchange,
00:00:58.300 you would have waited until you were married.
00:01:00.840 Like, that's why, this is what I mean, like, why, like, men hear the things we say
00:01:04.360 and it doesn't match up with what we do.
00:01:06.000 Because it's like, okay, you're 32, you've been dating since you were 18.
00:01:08.820 Was every guy you slept with in the last 12 years a spiritual?
00:01:12.020 But since 28, because I only spent spiritual when I was 28.
00:01:14.660 So my mindset completely shifted.
00:01:16.100 Do you realize there's, like, a pattern?
00:01:18.060 Wait, wait, wait.
00:01:18.440 So there's, like, a pattern.
00:01:19.580 So this is, like, guys, when they've dated enough women,
00:01:23.140 they start to see, like, patterns in our behavior.
00:01:25.620 And, like, one thing that they found was, like, women tend to, like, find God
00:01:28.600 around the age of 28.
00:01:29.780 So they kind of, like, start to rebrand.
00:01:31.400 So basically, like, it's kind of like a red flag when you say around 28,
00:01:35.000 I, like, found God or found the spiritual journey.
00:01:36.960 Because it's kind of like, okay, I spent the first half of my 20s being a hoe.
00:01:40.540 And then now it's, like, I'm not saying a hoe, but, like, okay, a hoe,
00:01:45.580 what is a hoe statistically more than five partners?
00:01:48.720 Okay.
00:01:49.140 So, okay, look, I don't need to know.
00:01:51.960 I don't need to know.
00:01:52.740 But what I'm saying, like, so a lot of times, like, women sort of try to rebrand
00:01:56.400 and it just doesn't really seem, like, genuine.
00:01:58.240 It's not really rebranding, it's growth.
00:02:00.020 Like, at the end of the day, if you're going to be the same first of your life,
00:02:02.280 you're never going to get anywhere.
00:02:03.180 It might be, but I'm just telling you how, like, men see it.
00:02:06.160 And that's not the men for me.
00:02:07.300 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:07.920 Okay, listen, listen, listen.
00:02:09.420 But this isn't the men for me.
00:02:11.780 I'm telling you, this is how, like, men see it.
00:02:13.320 Where it's, like, before the men, I gave this away for free.
00:02:17.460 Now you pay a premium price.
00:02:20.240 And so what that says to the men is you're not genuinely attracted to them.
00:02:23.900 Because you were genuinely attracted to the first guy because you had sex with him
00:02:28.300 right away.
00:02:28.720 But you're not that attracted to the second because you're making him wait.
00:02:31.740 And, Pearl, I would even say that, like, again, going back to, like, your body's a temple.
00:02:35.680 It's not even just, like, your body's a temple.
00:02:36.940 It's also, like, what food you eat.
00:02:39.400 You know, how you treat your body.
00:02:40.860 Like, are you working out?
00:02:41.900 Like, are you taking care of yourself?
00:02:43.340 Like, these things are part of that.
00:02:45.860 And I think if you're doing all of those things, then, yeah, that both people should wait.
00:02:49.960 Because that means you're actually, you love yourself in an authentic, truthful way.
00:02:54.100 And you actually care about your body and your beliefs.
00:02:57.980 So that, to me, that would show that.
00:03:00.300 What would show?
00:03:01.160 Like, eating right?
00:03:02.200 Eating right.
00:03:02.680 Taking care of your body.
00:03:03.680 And also not, like, having a bunch of tattoos and not sleeping with a bunch of people.
00:03:06.680 Oh, okay.
00:03:07.240 I see.
00:03:07.440 I see.
00:03:07.740 So being pure.
00:03:08.620 Being, you know, yeah.
00:03:09.440 So do you think that majority of men think that, let's say, for example, before you're 28,
00:03:14.680 you slept around.
00:03:15.700 And then after 28, you found God reborn again.
00:03:18.760 No, I think that's terrible.
00:03:19.640 That's just, like, that's just, like, a cover-up.
00:03:21.820 But who is that, though?
00:03:23.680 Huh?
00:03:24.060 Who, like, is that?
00:03:25.460 I don't think everyone's like that, but.
00:03:27.420 Not everyone's like that.
00:03:28.100 I'm saying, but let's say there's a born-again woman at 28.
00:03:30.720 No, she's not born again.
00:03:31.260 Hold on.
00:03:31.580 I'm going to read this.
00:03:32.380 Some of them are.
00:03:33.680 I mean, let's give them credit.
00:03:35.420 Some of them could be.
00:03:36.580 You can find God at any time.
00:03:38.840 Okay.
00:03:39.760 This is from the Rational Mail.
00:03:43.040 I previously described this phase as parallels.
00:03:46.820 All right.
00:03:47.640 This time, the epiphany phase.
00:03:49.160 This is a precarious time for women, usually between the ages of 28 and 30, where she attempts
00:03:54.340 to reassess the last decade of her life.
00:03:56.860 Women's psychological rationalization engine begins a furious effort to account for and
00:04:02.880 explain her reasonings for not having successfully secured a long-term monogamous commitment from
00:04:07.960 an alpha, a man.
00:04:09.340 A man her attractiveness could attain for her.
00:04:11.520 Even women married prior to this phase will go through some self-doubt or self-pity, dealing
00:04:16.540 with the hypergamic uncertainty of her choice.
00:04:21.700 Is this really the best I can do?
00:04:23.520 It is during this phase that women will make radical shifts in their prioritization of what
00:04:29.700 traits qualify as attractive in a man.
00:04:32.220 An attempt to turn over a new leaf by changing up their behaviors to allow with this new persona
00:04:37.040 they created for themselves.
00:04:39.400 Since the physicality, sexual prowess, and the alpha dominance that made her formal arousal
00:04:44.720 cues in men aren't as forthcoming from men when she was in her sexual prime, she reprioritizes
00:04:52.520 them with preferences for more intrinsic male attributes that stress dependability, provisioning
00:04:58.300 capacity, humor, intellect, and esoteric definitions of compatibility and intimacy.
00:05:05.860 For the spiritually inclined women, this may manifest in a convenient return to the convictions
00:05:11.200 she disregarded since her adolescence.
00:05:14.020 For others, it may be a forced celibacy, a refusal to have sex under the hypergamic,
00:05:21.140 I'm like, what do you use these big words?
00:05:22.720 Ossipies, of her party years in hopes that a well-provisioning male will appreciate her
00:05:28.780 for her prudence.
00:05:29.660 So unlike herself and all of the other girls who rejected him the last decade.
00:05:33.420 So it's essentially like a rebrand.
00:05:36.200 Exactly.
00:05:37.240 It's a rebrand.
00:05:37.860 But it said even for married women, it said, right?
00:05:40.580 No, that had been married.
00:05:42.440 Oh.
00:05:42.900 Well, actually, maybe.
00:05:43.700 Wait, let me rewrite.
00:05:44.440 Because I understood it as even married women go through some sort of shift.
00:05:51.680 You might be right.
00:05:52.640 You might be right.
00:05:53.160 I'm just trying to find it.
00:05:54.480 I understood that too.
00:05:55.480 And I think I experienced that as well.
00:05:57.460 Mm-hmm.
00:05:58.100 I didn't divorce until I was 34, but.
00:06:00.380 I think that goes back to like emotions, how like women act out of emotions.
00:06:03.240 And like, I feel like women need to find better ways to deal with their emotions.
00:06:06.600 They're usually stuffing them down.
00:06:07.900 That's why there's so much obesity.
00:06:09.500 I know.
00:06:10.020 Or smearing them out, like pushing them out.
00:06:13.060 And smearing them other people through projection.
00:06:15.400 It's pretty destructive.
00:06:16.540 And then it's like, oh, that's fine.
00:06:17.900 You can just be born again.
00:06:19.040 You can just do that.
00:06:19.840 You can just do that.
00:06:20.520 And it's like, that's not, that's still not truthful and authentic.
00:06:23.440 Who taught us?
00:06:24.680 What?
00:06:25.280 Who taught us?
00:06:25.940 Who taught us that I deal with our emotions?
00:06:27.440 Maybe our parents didn't.
00:06:28.600 It's a natural thing.
00:06:29.840 No, it's not.
00:06:30.980 What?
00:06:31.280 I think women naturally are emotional.
00:06:33.620 No, but we don't naturally know how to deal.
00:06:36.360 Not everyone knows.
00:06:37.060 You don't have to deal with it, but you're naturally emotional.
00:06:39.240 And it's that.
00:06:40.340 So whether you know how to deal with it or not.
00:06:41.940 You think that when we say who taught us, it's almost like a way for women, like for us to like,
00:06:46.820 because I've noticed in our language, we like take accountability off of women,
00:06:50.760 where it's like we blame our choices over who taught us, where it's like if a guy's in jail,
00:06:55.480 they don't say who taught you that.
00:06:57.220 They just say he's in.
00:06:57.920 You ever notice that?
00:06:59.040 For sure.
00:06:59.600 No, absolutely.
00:07:00.080 Like, I don't think it's like intentional.
00:07:01.900 I just think, I feel like there's like these little things in conversation where we like
00:07:05.580 take accountability off of women and like put it onto someone else.
00:07:08.940 Yeah.
00:07:09.040 Thanks for shining light on that.
00:07:10.100 It's our responsibility.
00:07:11.240 That's what I'm for.
00:07:12.300 Yeah.
00:07:12.860 Definitely.
00:07:13.540 100%.
00:07:14.180 Okay.
00:07:17.900 I think I'm going to read Super Chats one more time.
00:07:21.460 But let me, actually, I want to go back really quick.
00:07:25.360 Oh, can I add something to the list before I forget?
00:07:27.700 Thank you.
00:07:27.840 Sorry.
00:07:27.860 Thank you.
00:07:28.200 Sorry.
00:07:29.020 If, because you were talking about a good woman, I think, for the last time, if she,
00:07:34.600 how she deals with past mistakes.
00:07:37.320 So this is part accountability, part admitting to them.
00:07:41.700 And as I appreciate her, because she said, I grew from that and I made better choices.
00:07:49.480 So she can admit that.
00:07:49.920 How did she, did she change her behavior after a mistake?
00:07:52.240 Exactly.
00:07:52.300 So that's the third component.
00:07:54.160 Does your behavior change?
00:07:56.660 Maybe if she, if he tells her something, does it change?
00:08:00.440 You know what I mean?
00:08:01.080 Like if he says like you're argumentative, does it switch or does she do the same thing?
00:08:04.340 Yeah.
00:08:04.680 Yeah.
00:08:04.920 Yeah.
00:08:05.020 If he says, if he says, get out of my house, does she leave or stay?
00:08:12.480 Um.
00:08:12.880 Okay.
00:08:13.560 I didn't.
00:08:13.720 Excuse me.
00:08:14.640 Okay.
00:08:14.820 I didn't, I don't know what I mean.
00:08:16.000 I don't know the same thing or the other thing.
00:08:17.340 I don't know.
00:08:17.820 I don't know.