JustPearlyThings - October 26, 2023


Pearl Calls Out Deluded Modern's Hypocrisy


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8 minutes

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Word count

1,702

Sentence count

163

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Misogyny

17

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10

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In this episode, we talk about sex and why you should wait to have sex with your significant other until you are ready. We also talk about the importance of self-care and how important it is to take care of your body.

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00:00:00.000 What do you guys think about the phrase,
00:00:02.440 a woman that makes you wait for sex isn't worth the wait? 1.00
00:00:08.460 That's only true if you're not, if she's not a real virgin,
00:00:13.560 which I know you can't really, you know, you can't really tell.
00:00:17.340 But that's what I think, at least.
00:00:18.920 But I think you guys have to be mindful when it comes to sex.
00:00:22.280 It's not just sex.
00:00:23.560 It's a spiritual energy exchange.
00:00:26.640 I don't care.
00:00:27.640 You guys, I have to say this stuff.
00:00:29.340 Like, honestly, it's not, it's a big thing.
00:00:33.580 So do you really want to just be having sex with anyone
00:00:36.660 and letting any kind of energy into your energy?
00:00:39.200 Like, it's not worth it, is it?
00:00:40.280 I don't think it's worth it.
00:00:41.520 And that's kind of like a toxic cycle, to be honest.
00:00:43.520 Can I just say that for us, it is always a spiritual exchange.
00:00:46.700 For them, it might just be sex.
00:00:49.120 And you might be thinking, oh, this is a spiritual exchange, but it's not.
00:00:52.520 And that's why I probably could only date spiritual men now, at this point.
00:00:55.740 But, like, I think if you thought it was a spiritual exchange,
00:00:58.300 you would have waited until you were married.
00:01:00.840 Like, that's why, this is what I mean, like, why, like, men hear the things we say
00:01:04.360 and it doesn't match up with what we do.
00:01:06.000 Because it's like, okay, you're 32, you've been dating since you were 18.
00:01:08.820 Was every guy you slept with in the last 12 years a spiritual?
00:01:12.020 But since 28, because I only spent spiritual when I was 28.
00:01:14.660 So my mindset completely shifted.
00:01:16.100 Do you realize there's, like, a pattern?
00:01:18.060 Wait, wait, wait.
00:01:18.440 So there's, like, a pattern.
00:01:19.580 So this is, like, guys, when they've dated enough women,
00:01:23.140 they start to see, like, patterns in our behavior.
00:01:25.620 And, like, one thing that they found was, like, women tend to, like, find God
00:01:28.600 around the age of 28.
00:01:29.780 So they kind of, like, start to rebrand.
00:01:31.400 So basically, like, it's kind of like a red flag when you say around 28,
00:01:35.000 I, like, found God or found the spiritual journey.
00:01:36.960 Because it's kind of like, okay, I spent the first half of my 20s being a hoe. 1.00
00:01:40.540 And then now it's, like, I'm not saying a hoe, but, like, okay, a hoe, 1.00
00:01:45.580 what is a hoe statistically more than five partners? 1.00
00:01:48.720 Okay.
00:01:49.140 So, okay, look, I don't need to know.
00:01:51.960 I don't need to know.
00:01:52.740 But what I'm saying, like, so a lot of times, like, women sort of try to rebrand 1.00
00:01:56.400 and it just doesn't really seem, like, genuine.
00:01:58.240 It's not really rebranding, it's growth.
00:02:00.020 Like, at the end of the day, if you're going to be the same first of your life,
00:02:02.280 you're never going to get anywhere.
00:02:03.180 It might be, but I'm just telling you how, like, men see it.
00:02:06.160 And that's not the men for me.
00:02:07.300 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:07.920 Okay, listen, listen, listen.
00:02:09.420 But this isn't the men for me.
00:02:11.780 I'm telling you, this is how, like, men see it.
00:02:13.320 Where it's, like, before the men, I gave this away for free.
00:02:17.460 Now you pay a premium price.
00:02:20.240 And so what that says to the men is you're not genuinely attracted to them.
00:02:23.900 Because you were genuinely attracted to the first guy because you had sex with him
00:02:28.300 right away.
00:02:28.720 But you're not that attracted to the second because you're making him wait.
00:02:31.740 And, Pearl, I would even say that, like, again, going back to, like, your body's a temple.
00:02:35.680 It's not even just, like, your body's a temple.
00:02:36.940 It's also, like, what food you eat.
00:02:39.400 You know, how you treat your body.
00:02:40.860 Like, are you working out?
00:02:41.900 Like, are you taking care of yourself?
00:02:43.340 Like, these things are part of that.
00:02:45.860 And I think if you're doing all of those things, then, yeah, that both people should wait.
00:02:49.960 Because that means you're actually, you love yourself in an authentic, truthful way.
00:02:54.100 And you actually care about your body and your beliefs.
00:02:57.980 So that, to me, that would show that.
00:03:00.300 What would show?
00:03:01.160 Like, eating right?
00:03:02.200 Eating right.
00:03:02.680 Taking care of your body.
00:03:03.680 And also not, like, having a bunch of tattoos and not sleeping with a bunch of people.
00:03:06.680 Oh, okay.
00:03:07.240 I see.
00:03:07.440 I see.
00:03:07.740 So being pure.
00:03:08.620 Being, you know, yeah.
00:03:09.440 So do you think that majority of men think that, let's say, for example, before you're 28,
00:03:14.680 you slept around.
00:03:15.700 And then after 28, you found God reborn again.
00:03:18.760 No, I think that's terrible.
00:03:19.640 That's just, like, that's just, like, a cover-up.
00:03:21.820 But who is that, though?
00:03:23.680 Huh?
00:03:24.060 Who, like, is that?
00:03:25.460 I don't think everyone's like that, but.
00:03:27.420 Not everyone's like that.
00:03:28.100 I'm saying, but let's say there's a born-again woman at 28. 0.98
00:03:30.720 No, she's not born again.
00:03:31.260 Hold on.
00:03:31.580 I'm going to read this.
00:03:32.380 Some of them are.
00:03:33.680 I mean, let's give them credit.
00:03:35.420 Some of them could be.
00:03:36.580 You can find God at any time.
00:03:38.840 Okay.
00:03:39.760 This is from the Rational Mail.
00:03:43.040 I previously described this phase as parallels.
00:03:46.820 All right.
00:03:47.640 This time, the epiphany phase.
00:03:49.160 This is a precarious time for women, usually between the ages of 28 and 30, where she attempts 0.99
00:03:54.340 to reassess the last decade of her life.
00:03:56.860 Women's psychological rationalization engine begins a furious effort to account for and 1.00
00:04:02.880 explain her reasonings for not having successfully secured a long-term monogamous commitment from 0.98
00:04:07.960 an alpha, a man.
00:04:09.340 A man her attractiveness could attain for her.
00:04:11.520 Even women married prior to this phase will go through some self-doubt or self-pity, dealing 0.99
00:04:16.540 with the hypergamic uncertainty of her choice.
00:04:21.700 Is this really the best I can do?
00:04:23.520 It is during this phase that women will make radical shifts in their prioritization of what 1.00
00:04:29.700 traits qualify as attractive in a man.
00:04:32.220 An attempt to turn over a new leaf by changing up their behaviors to allow with this new persona
00:04:37.040 they created for themselves.
00:04:39.400 Since the physicality, sexual prowess, and the alpha dominance that made her formal arousal
00:04:44.720 cues in men aren't as forthcoming from men when she was in her sexual prime, she reprioritizes 1.00
00:04:52.520 them with preferences for more intrinsic male attributes that stress dependability, provisioning
00:04:58.300 capacity, humor, intellect, and esoteric definitions of compatibility and intimacy.
00:05:05.860 For the spiritually inclined women, this may manifest in a convenient return to the convictions 1.00
00:05:11.200 she disregarded since her adolescence.
00:05:14.020 For others, it may be a forced celibacy, a refusal to have sex under the hypergamic,
00:05:21.140 I'm like, what do you use these big words?
00:05:22.720 Ossipies, of her party years in hopes that a well-provisioning male will appreciate her 0.98
00:05:28.780 for her prudence.
00:05:29.660 So unlike herself and all of the other girls who rejected him the last decade.
00:05:33.420 So it's essentially like a rebrand.
00:05:36.200 Exactly.
00:05:37.240 It's a rebrand.
00:05:37.860 But it said even for married women, it said, right?
00:05:40.580 No, that had been married.
00:05:42.440 Oh.
00:05:42.900 Well, actually, maybe.
00:05:43.700 Wait, let me rewrite.
00:05:44.440 Because I understood it as even married women go through some sort of shift.
00:05:51.680 You might be right.
00:05:52.640 You might be right.
00:05:53.160 I'm just trying to find it.
00:05:54.480 I understood that too.
00:05:55.480 And I think I experienced that as well.
00:05:57.460 Mm-hmm.
00:05:58.100 I didn't divorce until I was 34, but.
00:06:00.380 I think that goes back to like emotions, how like women act out of emotions. 1.00
00:06:03.240 And like, I feel like women need to find better ways to deal with their emotions. 1.00
00:06:06.600 They're usually stuffing them down.
00:06:07.900 That's why there's so much obesity.
00:06:09.500 I know.
00:06:10.020 Or smearing them out, like pushing them out.
00:06:13.060 And smearing them other people through projection.
00:06:15.400 It's pretty destructive.
00:06:16.540 And then it's like, oh, that's fine.
00:06:17.900 You can just be born again.
00:06:19.040 You can just do that.
00:06:19.840 You can just do that.
00:06:20.520 And it's like, that's not, that's still not truthful and authentic.
00:06:23.440 Who taught us?
00:06:24.680 What?
00:06:25.280 Who taught us?
00:06:25.940 Who taught us that I deal with our emotions?
00:06:27.440 Maybe our parents didn't.
00:06:28.600 It's a natural thing.
00:06:29.840 No, it's not.
00:06:30.980 What?
00:06:31.280 I think women naturally are emotional. 1.00
00:06:33.620 No, but we don't naturally know how to deal.
00:06:36.360 Not everyone knows.
00:06:37.060 You don't have to deal with it, but you're naturally emotional.
00:06:39.240 And it's that.
00:06:40.340 So whether you know how to deal with it or not.
00:06:41.940 You think that when we say who taught us, it's almost like a way for women, like for us to like, 0.99
00:06:46.820 because I've noticed in our language, we like take accountability off of women, 1.00
00:06:50.760 where it's like we blame our choices over who taught us, where it's like if a guy's in jail,
00:06:55.480 they don't say who taught you that.
00:06:57.220 They just say he's in.
00:06:57.920 You ever notice that?
00:06:59.040 For sure.
00:06:59.600 No, absolutely.
00:07:00.080 Like, I don't think it's like intentional.
00:07:01.900 I just think, I feel like there's like these little things in conversation where we like
00:07:05.580 take accountability off of women and like put it onto someone else. 1.00
00:07:08.940 Yeah.
00:07:09.040 Thanks for shining light on that.
00:07:10.100 It's our responsibility.
00:07:11.240 That's what I'm for.
00:07:12.300 Yeah.
00:07:12.860 Definitely.
00:07:13.540 100%.
00:07:14.180 Okay.
00:07:17.900 I think I'm going to read Super Chats one more time.
00:07:21.460 But let me, actually, I want to go back really quick.
00:07:25.360 Oh, can I add something to the list before I forget?
00:07:27.700 Thank you.
00:07:27.840 Sorry.
00:07:27.860 Thank you.
00:07:28.200 Sorry.
00:07:29.020 If, because you were talking about a good woman, I think, for the last time, if she,
00:07:34.600 how she deals with past mistakes.
00:07:37.320 So this is part accountability, part admitting to them.
00:07:41.700 And as I appreciate her, because she said, I grew from that and I made better choices.
00:07:49.480 So she can admit that.
00:07:49.920 How did she, did she change her behavior after a mistake?
00:07:52.240 Exactly.
00:07:52.300 So that's the third component.
00:07:54.160 Does your behavior change?
00:07:56.660 Maybe if she, if he tells her something, does it change?
00:08:00.440 You know what I mean?
00:08:01.080 Like if he says like you're argumentative, does it switch or does she do the same thing?
00:08:04.340 Yeah.
00:08:04.680 Yeah.
00:08:04.920 Yeah.
00:08:05.020 If he says, if he says, get out of my house, does she leave or stay? 0.57
00:08:12.480 Um.
00:08:12.880 Okay.
00:08:13.560 I didn't.
00:08:13.720 Excuse me.
00:08:14.640 Okay.
00:08:14.820 I didn't, I don't know what I mean.
00:08:16.000 I don't know the same thing or the other thing.
00:08:17.340 I don't know.
00:08:17.820 I don't know.