JustPearlyThings - June 21, 2023


Pearl Calls Out Delusional Instagram Model On Her BS


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Length

8 minutes

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202.00328

Word count

1,768

Sentence count

207

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

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Hate speech

4

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Summary

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In this episode, the lads talk about the double standard when it comes to online dating, social media and dating standards. We also talk about what it means to be a woman and a man in today's society.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I had a question. Do you check a guy's Instagram before you go on a date with them?
00:00:04.160 I haven't before.
00:00:05.760 Okay.
00:00:06.240 But you said you guys meet on there.
00:00:08.260 No, no, no. But that's like the main standard of today.
00:00:11.880 I'm very confused. I'm literally confused.
00:00:13.480 But I have met... What do you mean, babe?
00:00:15.240 Like I don't go out and don't meet guys outside.
00:00:17.580 Come on, babe. 1.00
00:00:18.400 So if you go to events or somewhere and you're outside...
00:00:21.000 You said dates, they don't date charge on the dates and all that.
00:00:23.320 And then they ask you to go on a date.
00:00:26.440 I don't always have the Instagram.
00:00:28.360 Really?
00:00:28.640 That wouldn't be the first thing.
00:00:29.720 Can I have your Instagram?
00:00:30.820 I want to see that they're not a serial killer, that they're real.
00:00:34.080 I know, but this just goes back to back in the days.
00:00:36.580 There wasn't social media back in the days.
00:00:38.620 Sometimes you just got to go.
00:00:40.260 Sometimes you just have to go on the date and see the person.
00:00:43.240 I just would like some...
00:00:44.300 This seems a little dishonest.
00:00:46.220 Like I think you're capping a bit.
00:00:48.100 I think you do.
00:00:49.740 Okay, no social media.
00:00:51.160 You just go.
00:00:51.640 We should try the social experiment.
00:00:53.520 Go on a guy's Instagram.
00:00:54.460 But his Instagram, it's like in the first picture,
00:00:56.440 he's like sitting on the floor eating ramen noodles.
00:00:58.460 In the next one, he's stealing ketchup packets from Wendy's
00:01:01.040 because he's like, why spend money at the store
00:01:03.120 when I can just get free ketchup at Wendy's?
00:01:05.240 You know, on the next picture, he's like, I'm on my vacation.
00:01:08.820 And he's like just watching TV in bed.
00:01:10.380 Like this is what I do for vacation, ladies. 1.00
00:01:11.980 And then you're like, I want to go on a date.
00:01:13.740 You see that.
00:01:14.240 He's like, but don't judge me based on what I'm putting out in the world
00:01:16.340 and advertising myself as to everybody out there.
00:01:19.040 Like there's got to be some level of understanding.
00:01:21.520 Of course.
00:01:22.360 That's what you're projecting.
00:01:23.060 But what I'm saying is I'm giving you what I have experienced in my life.
00:01:27.960 I've met people outside, not on social media,
00:01:32.340 and I haven't had their social medias,
00:01:34.680 and I've still met them to go on a date after.
00:01:37.080 It's not all on social media,
00:01:39.600 but I feel like a big percentage of people meeting people
00:01:44.740 and going on dates is from social media
00:01:47.380 because that's like, I mean, that's where you just like see people.
00:01:51.060 Yeah.
00:01:51.440 Yeah.
00:01:51.640 Like the whole point is you do judge men.
00:01:53.660 Yeah.
00:01:54.000 Yeah.
00:01:54.320 Yeah.
00:01:54.460 It's okay.
00:01:55.200 Oh yeah, of course.
00:01:56.200 As you should.
00:01:57.000 Everybody does.
00:01:58.160 I feel like everyone judges people a little bit.
00:02:00.280 But now you're switching off of like,
00:02:01.540 you don't want them to judge me.
00:02:02.800 And this is like, I think we don't understand.
00:02:04.680 From that.
00:02:05.440 No, but I think.
00:02:06.300 As a person, like meet me in person.
00:02:09.220 But you can talk to a guy for five minutes
00:02:11.160 and know if you like him or not.
00:02:12.480 You know, you can't.
00:02:13.220 You're a woman.
00:02:13.700 I'm a woman.
00:02:14.260 I know this.
00:02:15.060 Of course.
00:02:15.240 And so it's like, we're asking them to not judge us,
00:02:17.960 but we judge them all the time.
00:02:19.180 It's a bit of a double standard.
00:02:21.500 I hear that.
00:02:22.860 It's true.
00:02:24.240 But.
00:02:25.380 Yeah.
00:02:25.960 So does your,
00:02:26.740 what does your dad think of your Instagram?
00:02:30.800 He, obviously,
00:02:31.960 I don't know what the hell his friends think.
00:02:35.240 I don't care.
00:02:36.300 Why would I ask them?
00:02:37.580 Well, they know.
00:02:38.880 Yeah.
00:02:39.480 That's for them.
00:02:40.580 But he doesn't mind it.
00:02:43.520 I mean, he doesn't,
00:02:44.620 obviously some pictures are not,
00:02:46.100 I don't want to see,
00:02:47.280 but.
00:02:47.800 So your dad's never said anything?
00:02:50.100 Like, that's maybe a little much.
00:02:51.400 Never said anything?
00:02:52.420 No.
00:02:52.720 Obviously, like,
00:02:54.000 there's some pictures that he might not like,
00:02:55.840 but there's people,
00:02:56.740 there's people,
00:02:58.000 guys,
00:02:58.680 there's people posting a madness on social media.
00:03:03.040 More than me.
00:03:03.900 Would you just,
00:03:04.600 would you just,
00:03:04.980 I'm like soft.
00:03:06.180 You're not soft.
00:03:07.040 I do this every day.
00:03:08.160 I do this every day.
00:03:09.100 No, you don't.
00:03:10.760 So wait, wait,
00:03:11.600 would you describe your dad as like,
00:03:13.260 as not overly masculine?
00:03:17.680 Does he have,
00:03:18.280 no,
00:03:18.720 no,
00:03:19.180 he is very masculine.
00:03:20.300 I would say.
00:03:21.320 Okay.
00:03:21.700 I'm just thinking like a masculine guy is usually,
00:03:25.020 it's usually protective of his daughter.
00:03:27.500 So I just wonder like,
00:03:29.100 why is he not protective of you?
00:03:31.220 Cause you know,
00:03:31.760 as his daughter,
00:03:32.340 like he shouldn't.
00:03:33.220 I hear that.
00:03:33.620 Yeah.
00:03:33.880 I'm also a grown woman.
00:03:35.120 I can protect myself.
00:03:36.620 And I understand that as from a father aspect,
00:03:39.680 I get that.
00:03:41.860 But at the same time,
00:03:43.120 I am a grown woman.
00:03:44.780 I can look after myself.
00:03:45.940 Like.
00:03:48.180 Who laughed?
00:03:50.300 Okay.
00:03:50.900 So if he attacks you,
00:03:51.940 how would you protect yourself?
00:03:52.700 First,
00:03:52.940 I wouldn't,
00:03:53.240 I'm not going to attack you.
00:03:53.780 No,
00:03:53.920 no,
00:03:54.080 no,
00:03:54.360 no.
00:03:54.780 But it's the point.
00:03:55.720 Like we say like we can protect ourselves.
00:03:57.260 No,
00:03:57.500 I know.
00:03:58.080 But you don't,
00:03:58.720 you know what I mean?
00:03:59.080 Like,
00:03:59.260 yeah,
00:04:00.000 let's be for real.
00:04:01.440 Of course.
00:04:02.280 Yeah,
00:04:02.480 of course.
00:04:03.080 But yeah,
00:04:04.520 what can I do?
00:04:05.300 I can give it all I can.
00:04:06.340 No,
00:04:06.580 not a question.
00:04:07.280 More of an observation.
00:04:09.020 I think if we put the perfect guy right here in front of you,
00:04:12.300 you would not be able to tell he's a good guy.
00:04:14.900 Cause I don't think.
00:04:15.460 Would you be able to tell?
00:04:16.740 I don't think if we put the perfect guy right here in front of you right now,
00:04:21.160 I don't think you would be able to recognize the characteristics that he has that make him the perfect guy.
00:04:28.240 Would you be able to recognize the same if I put a woman here in front of you that was perfect for you? 1.00
00:04:32.840 Most likely would you judge that from experience or just because you just know you was born with it?
00:04:41.520 You just know.
00:04:43.240 No one's born with it.
00:04:44.640 I don't think it was.
00:04:45.620 Experience has to be experienced.
00:04:46.780 Exactly.
00:04:47.320 So that's what I'm saying from my,
00:04:49.260 everything is from my own experience.
00:04:50.900 That's what I'm saying.
00:04:51.900 My point is,
00:04:52.860 it sounds to me like you haven't had a strong guy in your life ever.
00:04:59.280 Not your dad,
00:05:00.180 not your grandpa,
00:05:01.580 nobody.
00:05:02.280 That's what Pearl was going at with this Instagram and asking you,
00:05:06.440 why is your dad not taking care of you?
00:05:09.300 Obviously.
00:05:10.060 So following up of the question that I asked before,
00:05:12.400 if you like that tension that you get from the Instagram,
00:05:15.380 that kind,
00:05:16.600 that tension that you will get from this kind of Instagram are those guys that you're dating today.
00:05:21.360 Yes.
00:05:21.720 So you will never be able to experience a high valuable guy treating yourself like that
00:05:27.440 because all the guys that will treat you will be like that.
00:05:30.900 Okay.
00:05:31.600 Based on that Instagram.
00:05:33.060 That's fine.
00:05:33.540 That's your opinion.
00:05:35.080 That's the truth.
00:05:35.960 You know,
00:05:36.140 guys,
00:05:36.440 one thing,
00:05:36.780 one thing too,
00:05:37.340 like there's a,
00:05:38.080 we've had like three very different interviews and one thing for this one,
00:05:40.780 like,
00:05:41.960 I don't know,
00:05:42.660 maybe there's no nice way to express it.
00:05:44.300 I'll just tell you the truth.
00:05:45.560 How I feel.
00:05:46.260 It's like,
00:05:46.380 I just feel a little bit sad because like,
00:05:48.660 um,
00:05:49.640 I'll tell you why,
00:05:50.420 because you're well-spoken.
00:05:51.480 Yeah.
00:05:51.880 Thank you.
00:05:52.300 Um,
00:05:52.700 because you're probably in the top,
00:05:55.620 let's say 10% even for beauty that you see in this country.
00:06:00.420 Um,
00:06:00.860 and there'd be a lot of dudes that like,
00:06:02.880 if you had at least signaled like more traditional submissive feminine values, 0.98
00:06:08.600 you would probably attract like a really,
00:06:11.220 really different kind of guy and it wouldn't take you long.
00:06:14.040 Yeah.
00:06:14.420 But the problem is you're,
00:06:15.720 you know,
00:06:16.060 at 30,
00:06:16.880 90% of your eggs are gone by 34.
00:06:18.680 If you're single and childless,
00:06:19.660 the percent of the chance of you having kids is I think now statistically zero by 34.
00:06:24.620 The unhappiest,
00:06:25.460 the unhappiest demographic that we have right now in the Western world are single women age 40. 1.00
00:06:30.400 And we see that because the,
00:06:31.880 uh,
00:06:32.220 antidepressants that are being prescribed are now significantly more for women than for men.
00:06:36.180 So there's an epidemic happening there for the first time ever this year in 2023,
00:06:40.600 binge drinking for women has exceeded binge drinking for men.
00:06:43.280 So we're seeing a lot of depression in women because we were sold, 1.00
00:06:45.740 women were sold this dream that you're going to be a bad bitch. 1.00
00:06:47.980 You're going to be a boss babe,
00:06:48.940 blah,
00:06:49.160 blah,
00:06:49.280 blah,
00:06:49.420 blah,
00:06:49.440 blah,
00:06:49.560 blah.
00:06:50.200 And you're out there,
00:06:50.920 you know,
00:06:51.120 and you're like,
00:06:51.480 well,
00:06:51.560 I'm smart and I look nice so I can be a bad bitch and I can be a boss babe. 0.94
00:06:55.440 Yeah.
00:06:55.640 But the problem is,
00:06:56.420 you know,
00:06:56.620 the guys that are taking,
00:06:57.300 but the guys that are taking you on dates,
00:06:59.440 you wouldn't marry them, 0.99
00:07:00.560 forget them marrying you, 0.69
00:07:01.520 you wouldn't marry them.
00:07:02.640 So,
00:07:03.020 but,
00:07:03.160 but,
00:07:03.360 but here's a statistic and I just,
00:07:05.020 I know this,
00:07:05.560 I'm not going to change your life here.
00:07:06.700 I was going to give you some numbers.
00:07:07.480 90,
00:07:08.780 sorry,
00:07:08.940 85% of millionaires are married.
00:07:11.780 85% of millionaire men have the lowest divorce rates out of any other class of men.
00:07:18.940 He has to get divorced.
00:07:19.920 Yes.
00:07:20.340 85% of billionaires are married.
00:07:22.560 So it's not like there's no good,
00:07:24.420 successful,
00:07:25.260 loyal guys out there.
00:07:26.520 There's an entire class of men that are successful and married and staying loyal to their wives and raising empires and families.
00:07:34.380 And they're not choosing to date you.
00:07:36.760 And,
00:07:37.240 and,
00:07:37.460 and the only reason that's happening is because you have this perception that,
00:07:40.760 um,
00:07:41.640 I can do this stuff on Instagram and have no consequences,
00:07:44.420 but there are consequences.
00:07:45.780 No,
00:07:46.040 no,
00:07:46.660 I do believe there are consequences.
00:07:48.200 Like I do know that there's some men like,
00:07:50.720 for example,
00:07:51.020 like yourselves like that.
00:07:52.320 No,
00:07:52.660 like you're like a guy that was born 6,
00:07:55.140 10,
00:07:55.480 and super athletic.
00:07:57.380 He gets put in the league.
00:07:58.300 I did tell you like,
00:07:59.380 it might be me.
00:08:00.140 That's the man.
00:08:03.040 That's,
00:08:03.480 that's very self-perceptive.
00:08:04.840 And that's incredible,
00:08:05.260 but,
00:08:05.860 but man,
00:08:06.460 but that's,
00:08:06.880 but if you want to get married,
00:08:07.800 like guys,
00:08:08.500 do you want to marry a girl that you compete with on male criteria?
00:08:12.280 And we don't want that,
00:08:13.120 right?
00:08:13.340 Like we just don't.
00:08:14.900 No,
00:08:15.080 I definitely understand that.
00:08:17.120 But like I said,
00:08:17.820 what's theort replacing?
00:08:21.640 Yeah.
00:08:21.920 Yeah.
00:08:23.620 Yeah.
00:08:24.200 Yeah.
00:08:24.300 Yeah.
00:08:24.640 Yeah.
00:08:24.900 Yeah.
00:08:25.420 Yeah.
00:08:25.960 Yeah.
00:08:27.000 Yeah.
00:08:27.360 Yeah.
00:08:27.860 Yeah.
00:08:28.140 Yeah.
00:08:28.860 Yeah.
00:08:29.060 Yeah.
00:08:30.260 Yeah.
00:08:30.380 Yeah.
00:08:30.840 Yay.
00:08:31.120 Yeah.
00:08:31.360 Yeah.
00:08:31.940 Yeah.
00:08:32.060 Yeah.
00:08:32.520 Yeah.
00:08:33.020 Yeah.
00:08:33.100 Yeah.
00:08:33.680 That'd be like,
00:08:34.440 Yeah.
00:08:35.140 Yeah.
00:08:35.900 Yeah.
00:08:36.540 Ha ha.
00:08:37.120 Again.
00:08:38.160 Oh,
00:08:38.520 yeah.
00:08:39.300 Yeah.
00:08:40.180 Yeah.
00:08:41.280 Yeah.
00:08:42.080 So let's,
00:08:43.440 yeah.
00:08:44.040 It's up.