Pearl Calls Out Modern Women On This
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Summary
In this episode, the brother and sister duo of the sit down and discuss the controversial topic of whether or not someone should be allowed to date someone with a criminal record. They discuss the pros and cons of allowing a partner to have a criminal past and how to deal with it.
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She's going to obviously have to get involved with the children.
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I feel like people, like you said, people change, people grow, people reform, people, you know, people change their lives.
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You know, we're not the same people we were last week, yesterday, probably a minute ago.
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So we've got to look forward to what's in the future.
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One time I was dating this guy my dad was not a fan of.
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And I said to my dad, I said, Dad, you know, do people change?
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Right. And my dad looks at me and he goes, yeah, they do change.
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So whatever trait you see now, just expect it to get worse in 10 years.
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If you commit a crime when you're a teenager, that doesn't mean you'll commit worse.
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You know, we can talk about these exceptions, right?
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You know, but like over time, I think people kind of have a core of who they are.
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Are you saying like once a cheater, always a cheater kind of thing or once a whatever, always that?
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I think that if you date someone that's cheated in the past, he's more likely to cheat than someone who has not cheated in the past.
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So I do think that, yeah, you should look at people's past.
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But I feel like it doesn't necessarily define somebody 100 percent, though, because a lot of these traumas, a lot of these situations that people have gone through, they've learned to grow from that to become the people they are today.
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Crime completely depends on your circumstances and your class and what you're born into.
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Like you could be a good person, but you've been born in a dissonance.
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I think that people will say, you know, Pearl, you didn't grow up with in that situation.
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I think that, you know, my dad grew up pretty poor and he wouldn't do that because he's not the type of guy.
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I just think you're either that type of person that will do that or you aren't.
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Like your dad might have had a protective factor.
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I don't know what it might be, but he might have that other people didn't have.
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We've come up with a lot of extreme situations today.
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We've come up with a lot of like every extreme we've come up with.
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I mean, it depends on what warp of life, you know, you've been around.
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Trinidad is not the best place when it comes to crime.
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I grew up like literally around violence and I was around it.
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Now, I could have made a choice to be in it or stay out of it.
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And not because I was in it means I was going to become that person.
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So I just believe that at the end of the day, it's like it all boils down the choice and it's nothing deep.
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You choose to be in it, you choose to be out of it.
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There's also factors like ADHD, which is a risk factor.
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Like if that means you're more of a risk taker, that means it's hard for you to focus.
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That means it's hard for you to see the future and be disciplined for it.
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Okay, Your Honor, I'm sorry I committed this crime.
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When you're in Europe divergent, your brain naturally works.
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Everybody and themselves want to be better, right?
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The only reason you're staying in it is because one, delusional, two, or whatever it is.
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But because you want to be better, now you have that choice.
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That's just, it's up to what you personally want.
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But imagine you're a child when you do want to court.
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I think you guys were asking if I would want my sister to date someone with a criminal record.
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I would say don't date the guy with the criminal record.
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And then he said that's like judging someone on their criminal record.
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And I said I would, in fact, judge someone on their criminal record.
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I would say I would judge people based on their choices that they make.
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But some people are born into situations where they're more, they're at an advantage to make better choices.
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But that does not mean that you should stay in it.
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When you're neurodivergent, your brain literally sends you different signals to make different decisions.
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It doesn't change your goals and dreams of what you want to become.
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Yeah, but a lot of people get into crime really young.
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Yeah, it changes the way that you react to certain situations, how you deal with, how you process information.
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But we're not, for example, we are not black males born in, well, I didn't have loads of money, but not proper poverty, probably.
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And not with the same pressure and not with the same.
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For example, in London, people born in poverty live next to people who have so much money.
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I've done a lot of volunteering in developing countries.
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Yeah, so I just think like poverty here isn't really real poverty.
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And it was like during this like super hot summer.
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It's about the insecurities and what they've been through.
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And probably also some of them, obviously we're not saying everyone born into crime is black,
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but some of them are, and they experience racism as well.
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Like it's very hard as a teenage boy to feel that you're in poverty.
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You don't feel secure and you're trying to prove yourself.
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And it's very hard as a teenager not to try and be cool.
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And unfortunately in London now, to be cool and to be worthy and to feel good, you're
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And girls also, women actually are a problem in this because teenage girls go for that.
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And that actually encourages them so much more.
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So what does it take from a successful man who was in poverty to become successful?
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I think there must, there's probably different factors.
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Some people do have a stronger mindset than others.
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Like you can do whatever you put your mind to, but there are some situations where life
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in general is heavy and they don't have the brain capacity to even think about next week.
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In regards to dealing with everyday life, work stress, family stress, struggle stress,
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There's a lot of people who came out of that though.
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But you don't know what those people have had different.
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Like what if you're more rebellious because you don't have attachments to your parents where
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I know people in the same exact family where one grew up to be a multi-millionaire and one
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Like I'm just not with this, this excuse, that excuse, that excuse.
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I know people in countries that have real poverty, that have real, like no options.
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And so it's like, you know how spoiled we sound in the West to say, oh my ADHD, oh this, oh that.
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Yeah, but you really know what you know as well, right?
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India, wherever, you know, whichever country you were giving that example, that is what
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I grew up with like nannies from around the world.
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So like we had a different nanny from like a different country every year.
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So I've spoken to people from literally, like I grew up with them all over the world.
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And I'm telling you, like the, we sound so spoiled.
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I agree with you to expect, because I've also seen, I've also seen poverty like that.
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But unless we take all of our children and teenagers to developing countries and show them,
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they, like you said, they only know, they're only in that bubble.
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And also, if you're fortunate to have a nanny, there's certain lifestyles that you can't
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even comprehend, because there are certain people that can't even afford to eat.
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I can comprehend, this is the whole, oh you're rich, you know, therefore choices, it still
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goes back to, you can still be born into anything and your choices, it still matters.
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So I don't really know like what we're arguing here.
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Like you should be given a pass, because you grew up in a bad situation.