JustPearlyThings - November 18, 2023


Pearl Calls Out The Shitty Mothers In Society


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In this episode, I talk about the modern mother and how they treat their daughters and how to deal with it. I also talk about how to speak to your kids about being ungrateful and why you should be thankful for what you have been given.

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00:00:00.000 I wanted to talk about the modern mother today. I've talked a lot about this. I have interviewed
00:00:05.720 over a thousand people on the show. And when you have interviewed this many people, you start to
00:00:12.040 see patterns and trends in society. And one trend that I have seen is the modern mother. Now the
00:00:17.840 modern mother looks like a mother. She has a ring like a mother. Many times she is married like a 1.00
00:00:22.660 mother. Not always, but a lot of times she is married, but she doesn't act like a mother. And 0.99
00:00:28.560 there are so many older women, wives and mothers that give their daughters terrible advice and 1.00
00:00:35.880 compete with their daughters. I had a tweet that said, do women even like their kids? You would be 1.00
00:00:42.280 amazed at how many mothers compete with their own daughters. I have heard stories of mothers 0.99
00:00:49.120 dressing skimpily around daughters' boyfriends. I have heard stories of mothers sleeping with 0.93
00:00:56.880 daughters' boyfriend. Tradcath HQ says, modern women want to get married and have children, 0.97
00:01:01.940 but not be a wife and a mother. Yes, that is women that might on paper be a wife and a mother, 0.94
00:01:07.360 but that doesn't mean they act like one. And it's really obvious. You can see it in their life
00:01:11.360 decisions. They usually have a lot of work done. They typically have big hoop earrings. They're
00:01:15.700 typically in the latest fashion trends. They're typically at all of the socializing events because
00:01:20.620 they care more about themselves, their reputation, and their looks more than their children.
00:01:28.780 Bonfire brother. This is a tragic behavior I've noted in some women. As a father, 0.97
00:01:33.060 I want my children to do better than me. That means I will do a good job and my legacy will survive.
00:01:38.600 No, they really don't. You can tell in all the treatment. That's why they'd be wanting
00:01:42.800 trophies. We're doing the bare minimum for them. And that's what's expected. And I noticed this too.
00:01:47.920 So all of these women want to be put on a pedestal and treated like a God because they stayed home 1.00
00:01:52.980 with the kids. It's actually not a selfless job. It's actually a privilege. It is absolutely a
00:02:00.320 privilege that you should be thanking your husband for. And you'll notice in women's language, 0.98
00:02:04.940 when they're constantly bringing the conversation towards them. So they'll say,
00:02:09.360 I stay home with the kids. I am a traditional woman. When they're bringing the attention to them,
00:02:14.420 typically, they're not traditional because traditional women bring attention to the family 1.00
00:02:19.340 and their husband. They are family focused and husband first. They do not need the glory.
00:02:27.020 And so many times you see modern mothers seeking validation and attention from the world when they
00:02:32.740 should be seeking it from their husbands. That is why families do not work in this dynamic because 1.00
00:02:38.360 you cannot serve two masters, the public and your husband. You should only be seeking validation
00:02:43.500 from God and from your husband. And so let me pull you guys up a clip from the morning show. Let's pull
00:02:48.800 it up.
00:02:49.040 Okay. Okay, then I will leave. Great. Go share it with America. They'll take care of you. 1.00
00:03:00.160 Oh, fuck you, kid. Oh, fuck you. Did you really just say that? 1.00
00:03:06.240 Yeah, I did. I just said fuck you. And I mean, how fucking dare you. After all that I have done and all that I have given to you. My life, my love, my body. I broke my fucking vagina with a big fucking head of yours. And I had to be surgically 1.00
00:03:25.540 sewn back together. I bet you didn't know that, did you? Oh, and if you staying with your father,
00:03:31.760 after all these years of him driving me insane with his condescending my loves, he talked to me like I was a fucking five-year-old and I am sick of it. 1.00
00:03:40.400 I am sick of it. I want happiness. I earned happiness. I'm a human being, Lizzie. 0.99
00:03:46.840 And you know what else? Don't you dare bitch at me about my career. Little miss, I'm so progressive. Yes, I worked my ass off to get where I am. And I wanted it. I wanted to be something. I wanted to remain something in this world. 0.87
00:04:07.480 I didn't know that was a fucking crime. Life isn't perfect. Okay, baby, we don't get everything we want. You're young, you know, go make the life that you want. You see how fucking easy it is. And stop bitching and complaining and blaming me. And you get your own fucking pizza. This is my pizza. I'm taking my pizza. I earned this shit. Fuck you, mom. Oh, fuck you, kid. 0.90
00:04:31.420 If you could save yourself, you'd save us all. Is that what you called me for? 1.00
00:04:45.340 Okay, so I wanted to point out a couple things in this dynamic. This is what I call the modern mother and the ungrateful daughter. What did Jennifer Aniston say in this clip? She said, I deserve happiness. 0.99
00:04:56.540 She talks about how her husband treated her like a five-year-old with all of the my loves. So this is a woman that is married and unhappy in the marriage and put her career over the family. And it leads to children that are ungrateful often and confused. And a lot of times they adopt this leftist wokeism because their mother was not there to instill good values and be a good example.
00:05:22.460 Women like this want all of the credit. Do you know how much I did for you? They don't do anything nice out of kindness. They do it out of wanting gratitude and credit. 0.99
00:05:33.020 The most selfless, amazing mothers that you know are not worried about credit. They're worried about you.
00:05:38.880 And so there is an entire generation of moms that don't do things out of the kindness of their heart. 0.66
00:05:45.360 They do things out of wanting validation from everybody. And, you know, they want to be God's gift to the earth because they gave birth. Yeah, we get it. Dogs give birth.
00:05:56.700 Now, I'm not saying, you know, at some point as an adult, you can't blame your parents anymore.
00:06:02.340 I mean, at some point you're an adult, whatever should happen, you got to just get over it.
00:06:06.500 But it's a common dynamic I see. It's usually a domineering mother and an ungrateful daughter that results in it. 1.00
00:06:13.860 This dynamic is very, very common in middle class, upper class families because it's usually the mother that put the career before the kids. 1.00
00:06:23.000 And oftentimes you'll see a bunch of liberal kids come out of there because the mother was not there to instill values and properly influence the kids.
00:06:30.900 I saw another mother-daughter video that I thought really showed this dynamic. Let's pull it up.
00:06:36.520 Okay, so I need to know, because what I just read was pretty serious. What happened on 4th of July?
00:06:42.320 We started fighting. So she came towards me. We were going back and forth.
00:06:48.020 She was saying something like, I'll choke somebody, I'll slap you because she didn't like how I was talking to her.
00:06:51.820 But she was coming at me aggressive, so I gave her the same energy. 0.88
00:06:55.700 Then she, I remember she grabbed me by my neck and pushed me on the bed. 0.99
00:06:58.680 Oh my gosh, okay.
00:06:59.800 And then, um, she grabbed me by my neck, pushed me on the bed, and then as I was, like, getting back up, I don't remember exactly how it led to it, but we started having, like, Italian war.
00:07:09.660 Like, she pulled me by my hair and I pulled her by hers.
00:07:13.000 So, like, at this point we're going, like, back and forth.
00:07:16.040 Um, I'm telling her to let me go.
00:07:17.820 Um, yes.
00:07:19.380 That situation made me, like, not want to do it with her.
00:07:21.800 Got it.
00:07:22.240 Did she throw things at you that day too?
00:07:24.240 Yeah, so, um, she threw, like, the, one of the game boxes and it hit me in my face.
00:07:28.800 Um, is it the first time you got physical with your mom?
00:07:32.200 No.
00:07:32.780 No.
00:07:33.460 We just started arguing recently, probably, like, last year is when we got in, like, the biggest argument, because usually, like, I'll just shut down.
00:07:40.900 I won't talk anymore.
00:07:42.180 Got it. 0.91
00:07:42.720 Oh, so your personality is you shut down.
00:07:44.580 So do you feel like she threatens you?
00:07:46.240 Is that just making you shut down?
00:07:48.160 Um, she threatens me when she feels like I'm being combative.
00:07:53.180 Did she threaten you that day?
00:07:54.360 Yes.
00:07:54.780 You told my producers that you said that your mother says she's going to make you leak.
00:07:59.580 Your mother said it to you, you're going to make you leak.
00:08:01.340 Now, listen, I have friends in the hood, so I know what, when they say that, what that mean.
00:08:04.740 Right.
00:08:05.380 If someone says they're going to make you leak, what did you take it as when she said that?
00:08:08.800 Um, that she's trying to, like, like, she's going to fight me, like, I'm not her kid anymore.
00:08:12.860 So when she was talking to me, it was like, like, what's up?
00:08:16.980 Like, I don't want to be like that with my mom, but I'm sorry.
00:08:20.860 No, you're fine.
00:08:22.140 Yeah.
00:08:23.800 Yeah.
00:08:25.640 What was it like growing up with your mom? 0.98
00:08:28.100 Crazy. 0.98
00:08:29.040 Yeah.
00:08:29.400 In what ways?
00:08:30.940 Um, she had, like, abusive relationships.
00:08:34.580 Uh, I had to intervene a lot of times.
00:08:39.240 Um, yeah, I would be in the middle of it.
00:08:43.700 I would have to be, like, a mediator because it was more like the person that she dealt with at the time,
00:08:50.540 it was like, he would be more aggressive towards her than he was to me.
00:08:54.000 So, like, okay, well, talk to him and see, make sure he doesn't come to college and try to harm us or something.
00:08:58.680 Um, it was really, like, I was putting situations I didn't want to be in.
00:09:02.440 Um, did your mom get into physical alterations with other people when you were younger?
00:09:06.840 Yes.
00:09:07.460 She did.
00:09:08.340 What happened when she was eight months pregnant with your sibling? 0.98
00:09:10.820 Um, so that day she was going to McDonald's.
00:09:13.420 Um, it wasn't that far.
00:09:15.020 She asked me if I wanted to go with her and that day I just didn't feel like it.
00:09:18.720 Um, so, because she didn't have her car, that's why she walked to McDonald's. 0.93
00:09:22.780 She seen, I guess she seen her car on the street.
00:09:24.460 She seen her car on the street or she seen the person that had her car on the street.
00:09:27.440 She seen them and then, like, she confronted them and, like, per usual, they, like, was tussling or whatever.
00:09:32.760 The girl, she ran her over. 1.00
00:09:35.720 Ran her mother over. 0.86
00:09:37.720 And she was eight months pregnant?
00:09:39.300 Mm-hmm.
00:09:40.580 Okay.
00:09:41.160 And so, how old were you at this time?
00:09:43.220 Seven.
00:09:43.980 So, you're seven years old and your mother gets ran over while pregnant.
00:09:47.900 Um, did your sibling survive?
00:09:51.020 Did not survive.
00:09:51.940 Okay.
00:09:52.720 Okay.
00:09:53.280 So, what does she say now when you bring it up?
00:09:55.260 You don't feel it.
00:09:56.040 Oh, okay.
00:09:57.400 What did your mom say when she found out you were pregnant at 17? 1.00
00:10:00.200 She wanted to abort it.
00:10:01.140 She wanted you to abort it.
00:10:02.220 Okay.
00:10:02.960 And what did you say back?
00:10:04.620 Um, at first, I was like, okay, like, maybe she's right, maybe.
00:10:08.840 But then, when it was, like, time to go for it, I was like, okay.
00:10:11.460 Didn't want to do it.
00:10:12.180 Yeah.
00:10:12.560 And your mother is 38 and you're 21, so she had you at 17.
00:10:15.960 So, you had a child at 17 and your mother had a child at 17.
00:10:18.500 Mm-hmm.
00:10:18.720 Okay.
00:10:19.220 I understand.
00:10:20.400 So, what do you want from me today?
00:10:22.300 What are you hoping for?
00:10:23.540 Um, I want my mom to understand what she put me through.
00:10:27.340 I understand, like, you know, we can move past it, but I want you to, like, not admit,
00:10:32.240 but own up to what you put me through.
00:10:34.500 Like, acknowledge it at least.
00:10:36.840 Got it.
00:10:37.220 Got it.
00:10:37.520 Got it.
00:10:37.980 Okay.
00:10:38.420 That makes a lot of sense to me.
00:10:40.380 Um, well, listen, it's time to meet your mom.
00:10:42.760 Um, so, everyone, please welcome Portia to the show.
00:10:54.440 So, hello.
00:10:55.900 Um, so, first of all, I'm just, don't understand how me being ran over caused her so much trauma
00:11:03.060 to where it's, like, she just can't get over it.
00:11:05.320 One fact, you weren't there.
00:11:07.700 That's a fact.
00:11:08.620 You didn't see me getting run over.
00:11:09.880 I just ran over here.
00:11:10.220 Right.
00:11:10.500 I know.
00:11:10.820 I didn't say that, but you didn't see me getting ran over.
00:11:13.080 You didn't, like, experience that.
00:11:15.060 So, I'm just saying, so, to put yourself in that trauma and stay in it is something that
00:11:18.980 I just can't do.
00:11:20.080 I want to know from you.
00:11:21.080 Can you tell me what happened on the 4th of July?
00:11:23.120 Yeah.
00:11:23.900 You can take a seat, please.
00:11:24.920 Yeah, please take a seat.
00:11:25.900 Thank you.
00:11:26.380 Thanks for being here, by the way.
00:11:27.360 Right.
00:11:27.800 Yeah.
00:11:28.100 Um, so, the 4th of July.
00:11:30.020 Um, okay, first of all, I'm yelling at my youngest daughter.
00:11:33.060 So, if you see I'm yelling at her, I'm the mama.
00:11:35.580 You know, this a bear.
00:11:37.000 I'm roaring right now.
00:11:38.240 So, I'm yelling, and then I come in there, and I say something to you, and I got an attitude.
00:11:41.820 Me, if I was there, I'm like, girl, bye.
00:11:44.160 You talk at me.
00:11:45.180 You don't talk to me.
00:11:46.360 No, you're too sensitive.
00:11:47.960 No, I'm not.
00:11:48.860 Yes, you are.
00:11:49.500 I don't like that.
00:11:50.300 Like, I'm not going to be on those.
00:11:51.880 No, you don't know how to understand.
00:11:53.380 You don't take what people say to you, and you don't be like, okay, well, I did this.
00:11:57.520 I'm sorry.
00:11:58.080 You don't know how to apologize.
00:11:59.340 You be like, okay, well, get over it.
00:12:01.180 Like, oh, well.
00:12:01.880 Why did it get physical that day, though?
00:12:04.880 I'm still not understanding why they get physical.
00:12:06.900 Because when she stood up, she was talking to Buck.
00:12:09.740 You know what I mean?
00:12:10.380 Don't get up and start bucking at me. 0.98
00:12:12.120 You kept saying you would hit me.
00:12:12.940 Like, what do you mean?
00:12:13.920 Juicy, I did not tell you that I would hit you.
00:12:16.000 Yes, you did.
00:12:16.560 You kept threatening me.
00:12:17.920 Well, guess what?
00:12:19.280 You see, well, get out of my face then.
00:12:21.280 Girl.
00:12:22.780 Who threw the first punch that day?
00:12:24.280 It wasn't no punches because she was doing too much.
00:12:26.600 So, yeah, I choked her a little bit. 0.96
00:12:28.060 Yeah, get down. 0.99
00:12:28.880 So, this is what I call the ghetto mom. 0.99
00:12:31.800 The ghetto mom, the abusive mom. 1.00
00:12:33.700 She's constantly not apologizing for anything. 0.99
00:12:37.220 She's constantly blaming her daughter.
00:12:39.640 And she doesn't act like a mother that actually loves her daughter.
00:12:43.200 Why would you tell a 17-year-old to abort their kid?
00:12:45.800 How is the daughter going to turn out to be a good person
00:12:49.500 when she has no guidance from the mother?
00:12:52.640 Whenever she has any complaints, the mom just kind of puts it back on her. 0.95
00:12:56.820 She's abusive, poop earrings, heavy makeup. 1.00
00:13:00.020 Again, that indicates self-centered. 0.99
00:13:01.980 And the saddest thing is typically even abusive mothers, 0.97
00:13:05.160 the daughters still want relationships with them. 1.00
00:13:08.440 The daughter even said she was willing to move past this.
00:13:11.680 Daughters crave relationships with their mothers. 1.00
00:13:15.060 And it's actually so sad how few mothers act like wives and actual mothers
00:13:21.500 and can be that for their daughter.
00:13:23.520 So, the first one I call the modern mother.
00:13:26.140 The second one I call the ghetto mother. 0.99
00:13:28.060 Once you start noticing this stuff, guys, you can't unsee it.
00:13:31.320 The modern mother tends to prioritize her career above the family. 0.98
00:13:34.620 The ghetto mom tends to have more, like, anger issues, abusive. 1.00
00:13:39.340 Usually, like, usually the modern mother is, like, working or divorced. 1.00
00:13:44.380 Once you start noticing this, guys, most family dysfunction comes from the mom.
00:13:48.260 It's usually her inability to follow what her husband says, 0.93
00:13:51.720 and it's usually her inability to listen and her will to control the man.
00:13:57.100 It's in the Bible.
00:13:58.080 You know, they said that you would have the will that you would want to control your husband.
00:14:03.420 I can't remember the exact verse, but it's true, guys.
00:14:06.640 I can't remember the exact verse, but it's true, guys.