JustPearlyThings - November 10, 2023


Pearl Calls Out This Double Standard In Society


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10 minutes

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220.0307

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2,246

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172


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I think that you have nudity laws for a reason.
00:00:02.540 It's not just men.
00:00:03.780 It's like, I don't want to see, I'm, I'm actually quite tired on Twitter of women tweeting their
00:00:10.640 naked pictures at me.
00:00:13.500 I don't want to see it either.
00:00:16.100 And I'm a woman.
00:00:17.300 I say, put, put it all away.
00:00:20.400 I don't want to see it.
00:00:21.160 I'd much rather you say that though, rather than the, the predatory man.
00:00:25.440 But why, why is the man predatory?
00:00:28.000 I mean, now we, now we have generalized, I wouldn't say every man.
00:00:30.520 Right.
00:00:30.740 But I, but I'm saying like, why do we put it on the man?
00:00:34.100 Because it's a relevant thing.
00:00:35.400 I think if there is 20 men that aren't like that, and there's one that is, we're going
00:00:40.860 to remember that one and we're going to protect.
00:00:42.340 But what does that have to do with women covering up?
00:00:44.740 Like, I don't understand why does that have to be a sexual thing?
00:00:48.600 So I want to pull on his amazing point here to, to your answer right here in, in our human
00:00:53.860 species, women attract mates often by showing their body.
00:00:57.620 And so we see that as obscene, whereas men attract mates like a peacock, often by showing
00:01:02.740 their wealth on pointless expenditures.
00:01:05.580 I think we would live in a better society if we treated a man who drove around in an ultra
00:01:10.620 expensive car he didn't need the same way we treat a woman who walks around with little
00:01:14.560 stickers on her breasts because he's doing the same thing.
00:01:17.240 He's showing an obscene gender and sexual display to try to get partners in a way that
00:01:23.240 is completely unproductive to our society in a way that moves society backwards.
00:01:27.820 You're wrong because it takes, you're wrong because, and I'm not saying you should flaunt
00:01:32.480 it and be overt with it, but it takes character for a man to build a career.
00:01:36.520 It takes trust from the community.
00:01:37.760 A woman is born with it.
00:01:38.740 A man has to build it.
00:01:39.860 And I respect the man that's worked for himself.
00:01:41.720 And I, it's the same saying like, why is this guy with big muscles and a six pack, like
00:01:45.380 showing it off because he worked really hard to achieve that.
00:01:47.900 And I might, and I, and I can't look at that with resent now to your point about why your
00:01:51.800 dad might say that I have two daughters myself and I've had times where my older daughter,
00:01:56.040 um, you know, she's wearing like whatever she's wearing at home, playing her iPad and
00:02:00.600 I have people coming over.
00:02:01.720 It's not a sexualization thing.
00:02:03.000 It's just like, it's a respect between dudes thing.
00:02:04.940 Because if I went to another man's house and his young daughter is dressed very scandally,
00:02:09.080 I'm like, you're not protecting your daughter, which is a father's duty.
00:02:11.460 It's just the protective mechanism and men protect.
00:02:13.480 I was in church the other day and this like woman brought her two daughters and it honestly
00:02:21.140 made me sick the way they were dressed.
00:02:22.940 Cause they were so young and they were like, they were like, you could tell it was a single
00:02:27.220 mother, you know, and they were literally like dressed like hookers.
00:02:31.520 And they're like, like a dog, like, like they're in a crop top.
00:02:34.140 This is in church.
00:02:35.260 And I'm thinking like, like, I don't think that's a, like, I'm not sexualizing the kid
00:02:39.060 because I want them to be covered up.
00:02:40.960 And I don't think that's because of men.
00:02:42.480 I just think that's human decency.
00:02:44.280 I have.
00:02:44.480 I agree with that.
00:02:45.660 Right.
00:02:45.900 But before you guys were saying that the men were sexualizing you because your dad told
00:02:50.900 you, you had to cover up as a kid.
00:02:52.160 And I'm saying, I think that's just human decency.
00:02:54.380 And I don't understand why we're making that into a creepy man thing.
00:02:57.660 I think it's both.
00:02:58.720 I genuinely think it's both.
00:02:59.880 Men have always been more sexual than women.
00:03:02.080 I actually know.
00:03:02.760 I think women are more sexual than men.
00:03:03.960 We're more sexual than men.
00:03:04.760 Yeah, I think women are more sexual than men.
00:03:06.840 So when I see a guy in life, when I see a guy, I don't go, oh, I really want to sleep
00:03:11.220 with him.
00:03:11.940 Whereas a man will pass me and go, oh, I would sleep with him.
00:03:14.420 Yeah, but men have no access.
00:03:15.640 That's the difference, right?
00:03:16.600 So for women, the social recourse for sex is way higher.
00:03:23.420 For women, the social risk for sex is way higher.
00:03:26.460 For women, the bodily damage and all that comes with babies is way higher.
00:03:30.080 The economic risk is higher, and yet women still choose to have sex.
00:03:33.820 So the access for women, the punishment is so much higher.
00:03:37.220 Women actually have a stronger desire.
00:03:39.020 They're just way better at selecting mates.
00:03:40.860 Our bar is very low as men.
00:03:42.560 I agree.
00:03:43.140 And by the way, just come back to your point.
00:03:44.960 If I were you and you're encouraging fertility rates, I would encourage way more married men
00:03:49.120 to buy supercars.
00:03:50.000 Because what it did for my wife when I got my first, we have four kids and she used to
00:03:54.420 go, she's like, hey, let's go to the movies.
00:03:55.760 And she's like, let's take that car.
00:03:57.100 And then we'd ride it for a while.
00:03:58.380 She's like, you know what, I'm feeling pretty good about this.
00:04:01.360 So you should be encouraging the opposite of what she said.
00:04:03.400 Oh, yeah, your peacock.
00:04:04.260 I think.
00:04:04.980 To my wife, yes.
00:04:06.440 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:07.240 I used to wear it.
00:04:08.440 I think, okay, so I think that women are more sexual than men.
00:04:12.980 And the reason, I know it's unpopular opinion, the reason I came to this conclusion is sometimes
00:04:17.140 I think men just couldn't even be bothered with women and sex.
00:04:20.260 Like, they'll get into this phase of their life where they're just like, I'm done with
00:04:23.040 women.
00:04:23.580 Women never have that phase.
00:04:24.960 So I once, like, went to, when I was, and this is just anecdotal, I guess, but I went
00:04:30.380 and visited my grandma in high school.
00:04:33.900 And my mom was mad at me one summer.
00:04:36.920 She, like, sent me to my grandma's house for the summer.
00:04:38.840 Yeah.
00:04:39.080 I don't know.
00:04:39.480 Did that happen to any of you?
00:04:40.520 Just me.
00:04:40.760 And I remember I was sitting with, like, a bunch of mostly widowed 70, you know, 60-something
00:04:49.400 old.
00:04:50.140 And they were talking the same way about boys that, like, me and my friends did, and I was
00:04:54.260 in high school.
00:04:55.200 And I just remember thinking, this never ends.
00:04:57.340 But it's like, I don't think.
00:04:59.000 Go ahead.
00:04:59.340 Go ahead.
00:04:59.640 Like, even, like, male, like, female books that we read, they're always romantic.
00:05:03.880 They're always about love, sex, that stuff.
00:05:05.700 Exactly.
00:05:06.180 It's measurable.
00:05:06.700 Men, on the other hand, like, it's adventure.
00:05:09.580 It's like, you know, Lord of the Rings or whatever.
00:05:12.060 My brother did Harry Potter, you know.
00:05:14.100 When you look at expenditures per industry, when you look at corn versus romance novels,
00:05:18.600 which is basically female corn.
00:05:20.380 Right.
00:05:21.660 Huge industry over here.
00:05:23.360 Wait, is it higher than corn?
00:05:25.300 No way!
00:05:26.940 Oh my gosh.
00:05:28.620 Women are sex demons.
00:05:30.940 They are, but the dynamics are different.
00:05:33.160 I love it.
00:05:33.760 I love it when I have a theory that I'm working on.
00:05:36.700 And someone gives me a...
00:05:38.220 You got it.
00:05:38.840 You got it.
00:05:39.360 And the funniest thing, though, is, you know, most men aren't looking at corn on the subway.
00:05:43.440 Women, they are flagrant about it.
00:05:45.360 They are not even shy about it.
00:05:47.760 But the thing is that the dynamics are different, and this is why we don't recognize it, is women
00:05:51.280 are much more aroused by dominance and submission, not the actual, like, visual, like, whatever
00:05:57.220 is going on there.
00:05:58.060 That's men.
00:05:58.420 Whereas men are typically more, you know, aroused by the actual visual stuff, which is why you
00:06:04.120 see these different industries, but don't, do not mistake for a second what romance novels
00:06:08.080 are about.
00:06:08.740 It's so stimulating.
00:06:11.700 You get it.
00:06:12.560 I've been reading it.
00:06:13.440 You get it.
00:06:13.460 You have to be effective.
00:06:14.180 I've been reading it since I'm like 14, 14, like, 14, like, 14, you know.
00:06:18.340 Yes!
00:06:19.140 I was bored of the other books.
00:06:20.640 I think it's something interesting.
00:06:21.740 Even some of these TV shows, too, now, like the female TV shows, like The Notebook, Titanic.
00:06:28.760 They've gotten frisky.
00:06:31.360 I've noticed that.
00:06:32.560 It's how, like, a lot of shows on Netflix have gotten really frisky.
00:06:36.860 It's all about the odds.
00:06:37.440 You can't watch anything now without any sexual purpose.
00:06:40.080 Also, I've never heard of a long line of men lining up in front of, like, a mental institution,
00:06:47.140 writing letters to some crazy woman that killed a kid, but then you see the story of this
00:06:52.980 Dahmer guy, these serial killers, and you see women literally writing letters to them
00:06:57.140 in prison.
00:06:58.200 Dahmer was, uh, Dahmer was gay.
00:07:00.140 Yeah, but they were all gay.
00:07:00.880 That was the wrong one.
00:07:01.940 But it's still about dominance and submission.
00:07:03.380 No, no.
00:07:03.920 Yeah.
00:07:04.300 No, not Dahmer.
00:07:05.720 You wouldn't have looked at those.
00:07:07.000 Lots of girlfriends.
00:07:08.520 But I think one thing that we also need to remember with this, and it's really an interesting
00:07:12.800 phenomenon, and you had Sandman on your show, and he's talked about this in the past
00:07:15.640 as well, is that men are changing.
00:07:18.860 He says, when you look at the men's rights activists who are of, like, Gen Z, they now
00:07:23.080 are able to do something that no men's rights activist before was really able to do in large
00:07:26.440 numbers, which is just be like, I'm not even trying to, like, not be interested in girls.
00:07:30.220 I just have no interest.
00:07:31.460 And I think that generationally, whether it's due to pollutants or due to lower testosterone
00:07:34.880 rates or whatever is causing this in society, young men are just much less interested
00:07:39.980 in sexuality and sex than they ever have been historically.
00:07:45.520 Yeah.
00:07:46.060 No, I've noticed that, too, because I was thinking even, like, boys' nights versus girls'
00:07:50.800 nights.
00:07:51.320 Like, girls' nights just get together to talk about boys, and then boys will just, like,
00:07:55.600 be doing the dumbest shit together.
00:07:57.080 Wait, is that an opinion?
00:07:59.840 Is that an opinion or fact?
00:08:01.680 Because when you say that...
00:08:02.580 Just that's what I'm dropping, is it a fact?
00:08:03.620 No, it's a fact.
00:08:04.420 But then when you say that men are not as sexual these days, it makes me wonder, because nowadays
00:08:08.380 men are paying for sex, subscribing on OnlyFans and many other avenues.
00:08:13.420 So I think men are very sexual these days, but just in the wrong way, if you know what I
00:08:18.320 mean.
00:08:18.340 That's actually a really good point.
00:08:19.180 I just don't think we like each other.
00:08:20.220 Because you're doing the semen resension thing.
00:08:21.720 That's a really interesting point.
00:08:22.720 Like, a really interesting thing that has happened in society, there's, like, lots of
00:08:26.880 very cool studies on it, is men are just less desperate.
00:08:29.020 And so what happens is, because there's corn unavailable or whatever, lack of desperation
00:08:33.400 leads to lack of risk-taking.
00:08:35.200 So more desperate men take more risks to produce more status-signaling behavior, because risk
00:08:40.640 and status are very correlated.
00:08:41.880 So what that means is, something like 95% of men have never approached a woman randomly
00:08:46.540 on the street or in a store just to say that they like her and ask for her number.
00:08:49.640 And the reason is, they're just not desperate enough to do it, right?
00:08:51.840 Because right now, a young man can see more naked, beautiful women by the time he's 12
00:08:55.440 than the greatest kings in history I've ever seen, right?
00:08:57.880 And so what happens is, there's no desperation to push the action into a risk-seeking behavior.
00:09:02.300 So we just sit at home and, that word that you used.
00:09:05.200 But there's two really interesting studies I read recently, which I thought I'd share,
00:09:08.460 is women enjoy a tremendous amount of sexual privilege in the marketplace.
00:09:11.960 And these studies are as follows.
00:09:13.920 When women are asked, what would be the ideal number of sexual partners they've had last year
00:09:19.140 versus what they imagined they would or wanted to have, women's numbers are generally very close.
00:09:23.240 The number of partners they want to have is generally what they have.
00:09:25.440 That goes for both promiscuous and unpromiscuous women.
00:09:27.680 So if a woman is highly promiscuous, she'll say, I wanted 15 partners last year, she'll get 15 partners, right?
00:09:31.980 For men, the discrepancy is very high.
00:09:33.940 A man's ideal number of partners that he would like to have is substantially higher than his actual partners that he's generated.
00:09:40.040 That's the first statistic.
00:09:40.860 The second statistic is what kind of sex men and women want.
00:09:43.020 A man's attractiveness to a woman generally grows with the woman's age.
00:09:46.780 So a 20-year-old woman will find a 25-year-old guy attractive.
00:09:49.280 A 50-year-old woman will still find a 55-year-old guy attractive, etc., etc.
00:09:52.820 It correlates, right?
00:09:53.840 Whereas for men, they consistently, across all age groups, rank 23-year-old women as the most beautiful.
00:09:58.160 So as men get older, and they're obviously copulating with older women, usually their wife or whoever,
00:10:04.000 they're not having the ideal sex.
00:10:05.420 So women get the number of sex partners they want and the kind of sex they want,
00:10:08.580 and men are suffering from that, right?
00:10:10.080 I just thought it's kind of cool because we don't talk about it.