JustPearlyThings - November 10, 2023


Pearl Calls Out This Double Standard In Society


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10 minutes

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Word count

2,246

Sentence count

172

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Misogyny

31

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In this episode, we discuss why women should cover up, why men should not cover up and why women need to cover up. We also talk about why women are sexualized by society and why men need to be protected.

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00:00:00.000 I think that you have nudity laws for a reason.
00:00:02.540 It's not just men.
00:00:03.780 It's like, I don't want to see, I'm, I'm actually quite tired on Twitter of women tweeting their 1.00
00:00:10.640 naked pictures at me.
00:00:13.500 I don't want to see it either.
00:00:16.100 And I'm a woman.
00:00:17.300 I say, put, put it all away.
00:00:20.400 I don't want to see it.
00:00:21.160 I'd much rather you say that though, rather than the, the predatory man.
00:00:25.440 But why, why is the man predatory?
00:00:28.000 I mean, now we, now we have generalized, I wouldn't say every man.
00:00:30.520 Right.
00:00:30.740 But I, but I'm saying like, why do we put it on the man?
00:00:34.100 Because it's a relevant thing.
00:00:35.400 I think if there is 20 men that aren't like that, and there's one that is, we're going
00:00:40.860 to remember that one and we're going to protect.
00:00:42.340 But what does that have to do with women covering up? 1.00
00:00:44.740 Like, I don't understand why does that have to be a sexual thing?
00:00:48.600 So I want to pull on his amazing point here to, to your answer right here in, in our human
00:00:53.860 species, women attract mates often by showing their body. 1.00
00:00:57.620 And so we see that as obscene, whereas men attract mates like a peacock, often by showing
00:01:02.740 their wealth on pointless expenditures.
00:01:05.580 I think we would live in a better society if we treated a man who drove around in an ultra 1.00
00:01:10.620 expensive car he didn't need the same way we treat a woman who walks around with little 1.00
00:01:14.560 stickers on her breasts because he's doing the same thing. 0.93
00:01:17.240 He's showing an obscene gender and sexual display to try to get partners in a way that
00:01:23.240 is completely unproductive to our society in a way that moves society backwards.
00:01:27.820 You're wrong because it takes, you're wrong because, and I'm not saying you should flaunt
00:01:32.480 it and be overt with it, but it takes character for a man to build a career.
00:01:36.520 It takes trust from the community.
00:01:37.760 A woman is born with it. 1.00
00:01:38.740 A man has to build it.
00:01:39.860 And I respect the man that's worked for himself.
00:01:41.720 And I, it's the same saying like, why is this guy with big muscles and a six pack, like
00:01:45.380 showing it off because he worked really hard to achieve that.
00:01:47.900 And I might, and I, and I can't look at that with resent now to your point about why your
00:01:51.800 dad might say that I have two daughters myself and I've had times where my older daughter,
00:01:56.040 um, you know, she's wearing like whatever she's wearing at home, playing her iPad and
00:02:00.600 I have people coming over.
00:02:01.720 It's not a sexualization thing.
00:02:03.000 It's just like, it's a respect between dudes thing.
00:02:04.940 Because if I went to another man's house and his young daughter is dressed very scandally,
00:02:09.080 I'm like, you're not protecting your daughter, which is a father's duty.
00:02:11.460 It's just the protective mechanism and men protect.
00:02:13.480 I was in church the other day and this like woman brought her two daughters and it honestly
00:02:21.140 made me sick the way they were dressed.
00:02:22.940 Cause they were so young and they were like, they were like, you could tell it was a single
00:02:27.220 mother, you know, and they were literally like dressed like hookers. 1.00
00:02:31.520 And they're like, like a dog, like, like they're in a crop top.
00:02:34.140 This is in church.
00:02:35.260 And I'm thinking like, like, I don't think that's a, like, I'm not sexualizing the kid
00:02:39.060 because I want them to be covered up.
00:02:40.960 And I don't think that's because of men.
00:02:42.480 I just think that's human decency.
00:02:44.280 I have.
00:02:44.480 I agree with that.
00:02:45.660 Right.
00:02:45.900 But before you guys were saying that the men were sexualizing you because your dad told
00:02:50.900 you, you had to cover up as a kid.
00:02:52.160 And I'm saying, I think that's just human decency.
00:02:54.380 And I don't understand why we're making that into a creepy man thing.
00:02:57.660 I think it's both.
00:02:58.720 I genuinely think it's both.
00:02:59.880 Men have always been more sexual than women. 1.00
00:03:02.080 I actually know.
00:03:02.760 I think women are more sexual than men. 1.00
00:03:03.960 We're more sexual than men.
00:03:04.760 Yeah, I think women are more sexual than men. 1.00
00:03:06.840 So when I see a guy in life, when I see a guy, I don't go, oh, I really want to sleep
00:03:11.220 with him.
00:03:11.940 Whereas a man will pass me and go, oh, I would sleep with him. 0.96
00:03:14.420 Yeah, but men have no access. 1.00
00:03:15.640 That's the difference, right?
00:03:16.600 So for women, the social recourse for sex is way higher. 1.00
00:03:23.420 For women, the social risk for sex is way higher. 0.99
00:03:26.460 For women, the bodily damage and all that comes with babies is way higher. 1.00
00:03:30.080 The economic risk is higher, and yet women still choose to have sex. 1.00
00:03:33.820 So the access for women, the punishment is so much higher. 0.69
00:03:37.220 Women actually have a stronger desire. 1.00
00:03:39.020 They're just way better at selecting mates. 0.50
00:03:40.860 Our bar is very low as men. 1.00
00:03:42.560 I agree.
00:03:43.140 And by the way, just come back to your point.
00:03:44.960 If I were you and you're encouraging fertility rates, I would encourage way more married men 0.91
00:03:49.120 to buy supercars.
00:03:50.000 Because what it did for my wife when I got my first, we have four kids and she used to 1.00
00:03:54.420 go, she's like, hey, let's go to the movies.
00:03:55.760 And she's like, let's take that car.
00:03:57.100 And then we'd ride it for a while.
00:03:58.380 She's like, you know what, I'm feeling pretty good about this.
00:04:01.360 So you should be encouraging the opposite of what she said.
00:04:03.400 Oh, yeah, your peacock.
00:04:04.260 I think.
00:04:04.980 To my wife, yes.
00:04:06.440 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:07.240 I used to wear it.
00:04:08.440 I think, okay, so I think that women are more sexual than men. 0.99
00:04:12.980 And the reason, I know it's unpopular opinion, the reason I came to this conclusion is sometimes
00:04:17.140 I think men just couldn't even be bothered with women and sex. 0.72
00:04:20.260 Like, they'll get into this phase of their life where they're just like, I'm done with
00:04:23.040 women. 0.81
00:04:23.580 Women never have that phase. 1.00
00:04:24.960 So I once, like, went to, when I was, and this is just anecdotal, I guess, but I went
00:04:30.380 and visited my grandma in high school.
00:04:33.900 And my mom was mad at me one summer.
00:04:36.920 She, like, sent me to my grandma's house for the summer.
00:04:38.840 Yeah.
00:04:39.080 I don't know.
00:04:39.480 Did that happen to any of you?
00:04:40.520 Just me.
00:04:40.760 And I remember I was sitting with, like, a bunch of mostly widowed 70, you know, 60-something
00:04:49.400 old.
00:04:50.140 And they were talking the same way about boys that, like, me and my friends did, and I was
00:04:54.260 in high school.
00:04:55.200 And I just remember thinking, this never ends.
00:04:57.340 But it's like, I don't think.
00:04:59.000 Go ahead.
00:04:59.340 Go ahead.
00:04:59.640 Like, even, like, male, like, female books that we read, they're always romantic.
00:05:03.880 They're always about love, sex, that stuff.
00:05:05.700 Exactly.
00:05:06.180 It's measurable.
00:05:06.700 Men, on the other hand, like, it's adventure.
00:05:09.580 It's like, you know, Lord of the Rings or whatever.
00:05:12.060 My brother did Harry Potter, you know.
00:05:14.100 When you look at expenditures per industry, when you look at corn versus romance novels,
00:05:18.600 which is basically female corn. 1.00
00:05:20.380 Right.
00:05:21.660 Huge industry over here.
00:05:23.360 Wait, is it higher than corn?
00:05:25.300 No way!
00:05:26.940 Oh my gosh.
00:05:28.620 Women are sex demons. 1.00
00:05:30.940 They are, but the dynamics are different.
00:05:33.160 I love it.
00:05:33.760 I love it when I have a theory that I'm working on.
00:05:36.700 And someone gives me a...
00:05:38.220 You got it.
00:05:38.840 You got it.
00:05:39.360 And the funniest thing, though, is, you know, most men aren't looking at corn on the subway.
00:05:43.440 Women, they are flagrant about it. 1.00
00:05:45.360 They are not even shy about it.
00:05:47.760 But the thing is that the dynamics are different, and this is why we don't recognize it, is women 1.00
00:05:51.280 are much more aroused by dominance and submission, not the actual, like, visual, like, whatever
00:05:57.220 is going on there.
00:05:58.060 That's men.
00:05:58.420 Whereas men are typically more, you know, aroused by the actual visual stuff, which is why you
00:06:04.120 see these different industries, but don't, do not mistake for a second what romance novels
00:06:08.080 are about.
00:06:08.740 It's so stimulating.
00:06:11.700 You get it.
00:06:12.560 I've been reading it.
00:06:13.440 You get it.
00:06:13.460 You have to be effective.
00:06:14.180 I've been reading it since I'm like 14, 14, like, 14, like, 14, you know.
00:06:18.340 Yes!
00:06:19.140 I was bored of the other books.
00:06:20.640 I think it's something interesting.
00:06:21.740 Even some of these TV shows, too, now, like the female TV shows, like The Notebook, Titanic. 0.80
00:06:28.760 They've gotten frisky.
00:06:31.360 I've noticed that.
00:06:32.560 It's how, like, a lot of shows on Netflix have gotten really frisky.
00:06:36.860 It's all about the odds.
00:06:37.440 You can't watch anything now without any sexual purpose.
00:06:40.080 Also, I've never heard of a long line of men lining up in front of, like, a mental institution,
00:06:47.140 writing letters to some crazy woman that killed a kid, but then you see the story of this
00:06:52.980 Dahmer guy, these serial killers, and you see women literally writing letters to them 0.98
00:06:57.140 in prison.
00:06:58.200 Dahmer was, uh, Dahmer was gay. 0.74
00:07:00.140 Yeah, but they were all gay. 1.00
00:07:00.880 That was the wrong one.
00:07:01.940 But it's still about dominance and submission.
00:07:03.380 No, no.
00:07:03.920 Yeah.
00:07:04.300 No, not Dahmer.
00:07:05.720 You wouldn't have looked at those.
00:07:07.000 Lots of girlfriends.
00:07:08.520 But I think one thing that we also need to remember with this, and it's really an interesting
00:07:12.800 phenomenon, and you had Sandman on your show, and he's talked about this in the past
00:07:15.640 as well, is that men are changing.
00:07:18.860 He says, when you look at the men's rights activists who are of, like, Gen Z, they now
00:07:23.080 are able to do something that no men's rights activist before was really able to do in large
00:07:26.440 numbers, which is just be like, I'm not even trying to, like, not be interested in girls.
00:07:30.220 I just have no interest.
00:07:31.460 And I think that generationally, whether it's due to pollutants or due to lower testosterone
00:07:34.880 rates or whatever is causing this in society, young men are just much less interested
00:07:39.980 in sexuality and sex than they ever have been historically.
00:07:45.520 Yeah.
00:07:46.060 No, I've noticed that, too, because I was thinking even, like, boys' nights versus girls'
00:07:50.800 nights.
00:07:51.320 Like, girls' nights just get together to talk about boys, and then boys will just, like,
00:07:55.600 be doing the dumbest shit together. 0.84
00:07:57.080 Wait, is that an opinion?
00:07:59.840 Is that an opinion or fact?
00:08:01.680 Because when you say that...
00:08:02.580 Just that's what I'm dropping, is it a fact?
00:08:03.620 No, it's a fact.
00:08:04.420 But then when you say that men are not as sexual these days, it makes me wonder, because nowadays
00:08:08.380 men are paying for sex, subscribing on OnlyFans and many other avenues.
00:08:13.420 So I think men are very sexual these days, but just in the wrong way, if you know what I
00:08:18.320 mean.
00:08:18.340 That's actually a really good point.
00:08:19.180 I just don't think we like each other.
00:08:20.220 Because you're doing the semen resension thing. 0.90
00:08:21.720 That's a really interesting point.
00:08:22.720 Like, a really interesting thing that has happened in society, there's, like, lots of
00:08:26.880 very cool studies on it, is men are just less desperate.
00:08:29.020 And so what happens is, because there's corn unavailable or whatever, lack of desperation
00:08:33.400 leads to lack of risk-taking.
00:08:35.200 So more desperate men take more risks to produce more status-signaling behavior, because risk
00:08:40.640 and status are very correlated.
00:08:41.880 So what that means is, something like 95% of men have never approached a woman randomly
00:08:46.540 on the street or in a store just to say that they like her and ask for her number.
00:08:49.640 And the reason is, they're just not desperate enough to do it, right?
00:08:51.840 Because right now, a young man can see more naked, beautiful women by the time he's 12
00:08:55.440 than the greatest kings in history I've ever seen, right?
00:08:57.880 And so what happens is, there's no desperation to push the action into a risk-seeking behavior.
00:09:02.300 So we just sit at home and, that word that you used.
00:09:05.200 But there's two really interesting studies I read recently, which I thought I'd share,
00:09:08.460 is women enjoy a tremendous amount of sexual privilege in the marketplace. 1.00
00:09:11.960 And these studies are as follows.
00:09:13.920 When women are asked, what would be the ideal number of sexual partners they've had last year 0.58
00:09:19.140 versus what they imagined they would or wanted to have, women's numbers are generally very close. 1.00
00:09:23.240 The number of partners they want to have is generally what they have.
00:09:25.440 That goes for both promiscuous and unpromiscuous women. 1.00
00:09:27.680 So if a woman is highly promiscuous, she'll say, I wanted 15 partners last year, she'll get 15 partners, right? 0.98
00:09:31.980 For men, the discrepancy is very high.
00:09:33.940 A man's ideal number of partners that he would like to have is substantially higher than his actual partners that he's generated.
00:09:40.040 That's the first statistic.
00:09:40.860 The second statistic is what kind of sex men and women want.
00:09:43.020 A man's attractiveness to a woman generally grows with the woman's age.
00:09:46.780 So a 20-year-old woman will find a 25-year-old guy attractive.
00:09:49.280 A 50-year-old woman will still find a 55-year-old guy attractive, etc., etc.
00:09:52.820 It correlates, right?
00:09:53.840 Whereas for men, they consistently, across all age groups, rank 23-year-old women as the most beautiful.
00:09:58.160 So as men get older, and they're obviously copulating with older women, usually their wife or whoever,
00:10:04.000 they're not having the ideal sex.
00:10:05.420 So women get the number of sex partners they want and the kind of sex they want, 1.00
00:10:08.580 and men are suffering from that, right?
00:10:10.080 I just thought it's kind of cool because we don't talk about it.