Pearl CALLS OUT This Trait In Modern Women
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about relationships with narcissists and how they can effect our mental health. We also talk about the pros and cons of being in a relationship with a narcissist and how to deal with them.
Transcript
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What do you guys think of that, stay-at-home dads?
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We're not, yeah, it is a woman's job to stay at home and look after the house,
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look after the children, and, like, at the end of the day, like,
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I've not had kids, but I know if I do have kids, and if I do, it's a big if.
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I just look at society today and I think, what the?
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So wouldn't that give you more motivation to raise good kids?
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And it's not like, like, I wouldn't just have a child with just anyone, like,
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It might be a bit different story, but I don't think I've really met him yet,
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so I have to cross that bridge when I come to it.
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Yeah, have you ever had, like, a long-term relationship?
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Like, it's like, because I would imagine if he's a narcissist,
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Like, I wouldn't say he's what you would call a stereotypical narcissist.
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He's not like a direct narcissist 24-7 that would sit there and beat you down to a pulp.
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He wouldn't do that, that, but it would come across more like patronizing,
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if that makes sense, like belittling, patronizing.
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Beating someone to a pulp is not narcissism, though.
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Narcissism is when you don't really care about anyone but yourself.
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And towards the end, at the first start of the relationship, no, I would say I didn't see that.
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But then when you start getting like six months down the line or a year down the line
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and you start seeing sides of someone that you thought you knew but are completely different.
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So, for example, he has, like, I went to university quite a lot.
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And it just, like, I don't know, like, it was just never happy for me.
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Or say if I, probably not the best of examples we're talking about, like, say if I went out
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for my friends for one of my friends' birthdays.
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But at the time, obviously, I look at it a little bit differently now.
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But at the time, yeah, I would see him as a massive narcissist because he wouldn't let
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me go out for a dinner with my friends, for example.
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I just don't know why, like, women just call everybody a narcissist.
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So it's unlikely that you would even meet a narcissist, much less a date.
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And so the odds of you actually dating a narcissist is, like, slim.
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So I'd imagine if you're calling him a narcissist, there's, like, a diagnosis.
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So then I would imagine there was, like, some crazy things.
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But now it's, like, he didn't want me to go to dinner with my friends.
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I sound like a narcissist, though, when you say something like that.
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Towards the end of the relationship, something really quite drastic happened.
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And obviously, it's not really nice to talk about.
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It's not a nice situation for anyone to go to, especially any female.
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But I needed him there when it was probably the most important time in both of our relationships
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But so, basically, I found out I was pregnant with him.
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And then we were in a relationship for about two years, two and a half years at this point.
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And I just said, I don't want to talk to you right now.
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And do you think I didn't hear from him about four months?
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I think he was just like, this bitch told me she was on birth control.
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This just doesn't scream like narcissist to me.
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No, but I think sometimes as women, we tell stories and we don't even know how they sound.
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I think us as individuals, anyone, anyone, men and women are biased to believe their own stories.
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But women especially will tell themselves a story to try and make themselves feel a little bit better about the situation.
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I've just had so many chicks say they dated narcissists.
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Maybe not narcissists directly then, but maybe they would have shown or portrayed narcissistic behavior throughout them.
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Do you think you ever have narcissistic behavior?
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I can have very narcissistic tendencies sometimes.
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What's more narcissistic, social media or video games?
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Neither are a problem until they become a problem and they're used in excess.
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The average ticket's like six or seven hours a day.
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Because, you know, instead of thinking of where he was coming from when he ghosted you,
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But if you're on birth, you just probably thought, right?
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It was a guy, isn't that what you would think if she was on birth control and then she got
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I mean, you may have been, but I'm just telling you how it looks to, like, because if we're
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on a birth control that's 98, 99% effective, we can only get pregnant three days of the month.
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So if you get pregnant, it's like the guys are kind of like, ah, how did this happen?