00:00:00.000We could go for two results here. We could say, what's good for society? Children replacing the population, that's good for society. Or if we want to be completely selfish, let's just say, okay, let's do what's good for us as women. And it shows that we're more likely to be depressed if we have more sexual partners. We're more likely to, I can't remember all the stats off the top of my head, but it's like, we're more likely to be depressed. We're more likely to have all of these issues, the more sexual partners we have.
00:00:28.560And if we don't have a family over the age of 45, we become very depressed. And the data is super clear on this.
00:00:36.240What about men? If they have more sexual partners, they also get depressed?
00:00:40.800The difference, the difference, well, no, it's not the same repercussions for men and for women, because men care about women's body count. Women don't typically care about men's body count.
00:00:52.320I saw some interesting research that was measuring like different hormones and responses in men and women. And they did find that when a man and woman like sleep together, like first time they've met,
00:01:08.000where there is like this oxytocin, like love response from the woman that isn't from the man, where the man's like oxytocin starts to grow, where love starts to develop is when a woman is in his company getting to know him for weeks on end.
00:01:25.680And, you know, like, I think I, I, yeah, shame is absolutely a useful human adaptation. And that's why we've still got it.
00:01:39.680Like, I mean, you know, I think that so many young women are just given this message, you know, that empowerment is slut walks, and that there are no consequences.
00:01:50.680And that that's just a clump of cells. If you want to get rid of it, get rid of it. And you will never have any second thoughts about it. Definitely.
00:01:57.680I think if we just have like frank and honest conversations, we might be able to help women to make the right choices for them.
00:02:03.680I don't think there's any shame with like women getting to 50 and not having a child if that's their decision.
00:02:10.680Like, you know, there are women who genuinely like they have different life goals.
00:02:16.680But when it's the case that actually they've just been misguided, they've been told that they didn't need to rush.
00:02:22.680They've been told that they should focus on their career and they get to 50 and they go, oh, my God, I've made really bad decisions that have got me to a place where I've got like half of my life to live regretting the fact that I didn't sort out the family.
00:03:10.680But if you cannot have a baby and you want to have one, why can't it?
00:03:14.680I think it's selfish as a single woman to adopt.
00:03:17.680You're going to put your kid at every statistical disadvantage because you want a kid instead of letting that kid grow up in a two-parent household.
00:03:43.680Do you know what kids go through in the foster care field?
00:03:46.680You know, I actually, I do because I've been on both ends of adoption where my parents, they gave up one of my brothers and they actually adopted a different one.
00:05:20.680A lot of them are beaten, molested, essayed.
00:05:23.680All types of things happen to them just from being in the system.
00:05:27.680So I would rather a kid be adopted by a single woman than to be in the system messed up.
00:05:33.680Now growing up with mental health issues because they've been bounced around from home to home to all types of things.
00:05:39.680But typically, like in the situations I've seen, the single women typically want young children.
00:05:44.680And I think in that situation, it's quite, I just think it's quite selfish to like pick, to have a kid at every statistical disadvantage when it should be in a two parent household.
00:05:54.680If you could give a kid love, give them love.
00:05:56.680I understand like giving them love and sure, like maybe for the kids that have nowhere else to go.
00:06:02.680But I just think if you're going to take a baby where they could be in a two parent household, I think it's better to be in a two parent household.
00:06:10.680I don't know why you would bring them up in a situation where they're at a disadvantage.
00:06:14.680And there's so many two parents that want to adopt.
00:06:17.680But taking a kid, so infants are the high, like that's the most requested.
00:06:22.680Because again, you can mold that infant into who you need them to be there.