JustPearlyThings - Pearl Challenges Modern Women

00:00:00.000 We could go for two results here. We could say, what's good for society? Children replacing the population, that's good for society. Or if we want to be completely selfish, let's just say, okay, let's do what's good for us as women. And it shows that we're more likely to be depressed if we have more sexual partners. We're more likely to, I can't remember all the stats off the top of my head, but it's like, we're more likely to be depressed. We're more likely to have all of these issues, the more sexual partners we have.

00:00:28.560 And if we don't have a family over the age of 45, we become very depressed. And the data is super clear on this.

00:00:36.240 What about men? If they have more sexual partners, they also get depressed?

00:00:40.800 The difference, the difference, well, no, it's not the same repercussions for men and for women, because men care about women's body count. Women don't typically care about men's body count.

00:00:52.320 I saw some interesting research that was measuring like different hormones and responses in men and women. And they did find that when a man and woman like sleep together, like first time they've met,

00:01:08.000 where there is like this oxytocin, like love response from the woman that isn't from the man, where the man's like oxytocin starts to grow, where love starts to develop is when a woman is in his company getting to know him for weeks on end.

00:01:25.680 And, you know, like, I think I, I, yeah, shame is absolutely a useful human adaptation. And that's why we've still got it.

00:01:33.680 To the level of it, yes.

00:01:34.680 But actually, I think we could start with just giving women proper information. 0.99

00:01:38.680 Education.

00:01:39.680 Like, I mean, you know, I think that so many young women are just given this message, you know, that empowerment is slut walks, and that there are no consequences.

00:01:50.680 And that that's just a clump of cells. If you want to get rid of it, get rid of it. And you will never have any second thoughts about it. Definitely.

00:01:57.680 I think if we just have like frank and honest conversations, we might be able to help women to make the right choices for them. 0.63

00:02:03.680 I don't think there's any shame with like women getting to 50 and not having a child if that's their decision.

00:02:10.680 Like, you know, there are women who genuinely like they have different life goals.

00:02:15.680 They cannot have a child.

00:02:16.680 But when it's the case that actually they've just been misguided, they've been told that they didn't need to rush.

00:02:22.680 They've been told that they should focus on their career and they get to 50 and they go, oh, my God, I've made really bad decisions that have got me to a place where I've got like half of my life to live regretting the fact that I didn't sort out the family.

00:02:38.680 Well, you know, 80% of women. 1.00

00:02:39.680 That's just really sad.

00:02:40.680 You know, 80% of women that don't have kids wish they had them. 1.00

00:02:43.680 Yeah, exactly.

00:02:44.680 Yeah.

00:02:45.680 So it's like, I just think, you know, when you hear from them, they were lied to. That is the issue.

00:02:51.680 So, King, can you pull up the super chat?

00:02:55.680 It's my laptop died.

00:02:56.680 I don't think my charger is out here.

00:02:57.680 How interesting.

00:02:58.680 Why cannot older women adopt children and have a family? 1.00

00:03:01.680 More women probably might want to adopt because honestly, childbirth hurts. 1.00

00:03:05.680 Well, it's a painful thing and it hurts.

00:03:07.680 But it's a beautiful and magical experience.

00:03:09.680 Yeah, I understand.

00:03:10.680 But if you cannot have a baby and you want to have one, why can't it?

00:03:14.680 I think it's selfish as a single woman to adopt.

00:03:17.680 You're going to put your kid at every statistical disadvantage because you want a kid instead of letting that kid grow up in a two-parent household.

00:03:24.680 Like, why would you choose that?

00:03:26.680 It's not necessarily she's single.

00:03:27.680 She's just older because she was focusing on the career.

00:03:29.680 She was asked to pay 50-50 for things, right?

00:03:31.680 I mean, if she's married, then I think that's one thing.

00:03:34.680 But I also think like most men want a wife for kids.

00:03:37.680 But do you know what kids...

00:03:38.680 So it's kind of like, what do they get out of it then?

00:03:40.680 Let me say this.

00:03:41.680 Adoption is imperative.

00:03:43.680 Do you know what kids go through in the foster care field?

00:03:46.680 You know, I actually, I do because I've been on both ends of adoption where my parents, they gave up one of my brothers and they actually adopted a different one.

00:03:53.680 So we've actually been on both ends.

00:03:56.680 So, because one brother, my parents gave up when my mom was 17, same parents, but they gave him up for adoption.

00:04:02.680 I met him when I was 22, grew up with a completely different family.

00:04:05.680 And we also adopted teenagers that were in the foster care system.

00:04:09.680 The problem is not giving up kids for adoption.

00:04:12.680 It's actually, if you give an infant up for adoption, you're most likely going to find a family that wants to adopt them.

00:04:18.680 The issue is these crackhead moms will keep the kid for like five years and the government will take them. 1.00

00:04:24.680 And now what parent is going to want a kid that's been basically... 1.00

00:04:28.680 Yeah, it's fucked up. 0.99

00:04:29.680 Because by the time they're three, their brain is fully developed. 0.99

00:04:32.680 And I've been on both ends.

00:04:34.680 Like they, I know a couple that adopted two brothers.

00:04:37.680 One brother was five.

00:04:38.680 One brother was like two or one and a half when they adopted him.

00:04:41.680 The older brother, it was like, they couldn't, even though they're super nice parents, like he was too developed.

00:04:47.680 And like he ended up stealing from them.

00:04:49.680 He always in and out of trouble.

00:04:50.680 The younger brother was like a musical genius.

00:04:52.680 So it really just depends on the age.

00:04:54.680 So I actually, straight out of college, that was my first job, right?

00:04:57.680 Foster care, social worker, right?

00:05:00.680 Case manager or whatever like that.

00:05:01.680 Grew up with the foster care.

00:05:03.680 We always adopted different family members and stuff.

00:05:06.680 Like grew up in this, around this, seen stories and all that.

00:05:08.680 It is imperative for adoptions to happen.

00:05:11.680 Because when people give up these kids, these same crackhead moms or whatever like that. 1.00

00:05:15.680 These kids, when they're not adopted, whether it's by a single woman or not, they go through the system.

00:05:19.680 They jump from home to home.

00:05:20.680 A lot of them are beaten, molested, essayed.

00:05:23.680 All types of things happen to them just from being in the system.

00:05:27.680 So I would rather a kid be adopted by a single woman than to be in the system messed up.

00:05:33.680 Now growing up with mental health issues because they've been bounced around from home to home to all types of things.

00:05:39.680 But typically, like in the situations I've seen, the single women typically want young children. 1.00

00:05:44.680 And I think in that situation, it's quite, I just think it's quite selfish to like pick, to have a kid at every statistical disadvantage when it should be in a two parent household.

00:05:54.680 If you could give a kid love, give them love.

00:05:56.680 I understand like giving them love and sure, like maybe for the kids that have nowhere else to go.

00:06:02.680 But I just think if you're going to take a baby where they could be in a two parent household, I think it's better to be in a two parent household.

00:06:10.680 I don't know why you would bring them up in a situation where they're at a disadvantage.

00:06:14.680 And there's so many two parents that want to adopt.

00:06:17.680 But taking a kid, so infants are the high, like that's the most requested.

00:06:22.680 Because again, you can mold that infant into who you need them to be there.

00:06:25.680 I think sort of.

00:06:26.680 My brother was still pretty similar to us, even though I didn't meet him until I was 22.

00:06:30.680 No, but it's like working and they let you know that like most people are going to go for an infant.

00:06:35.680 It is so harder to, it's hard to place older kids because like you said, they're developing into whoever they are.

00:06:41.680 But it's still like infants, whoever, it's still just get the kids out of there. 0.88

00:06:45.680 Kids don't ask to be here.

00:06:46.680 But I think the better solution is for women to get married and stay married. 1.00

00:06:51.680 Because that's where we're seeing a lot of these, there are a lot of men.

00:06:56.680 Women are too picky. 1.00

00:06:57.680 That's the problem. 0.99

00:06:58.680 You have average overweight women. 1.00

00:06:59.680 The average woman's 170 pounds. 1.00

00:07:01.680 It's overweight fat.

00:07:02.680 And yet they think they deserve like men that make a lot of money.

00:07:05.680 The average woman's had over, over 10 partners. 0.98

00:07:09.680 This is based on different studies.

00:07:11.680 The average, so they don't bring purity anymore.

00:07:15.680 They don't bring youth.

00:07:16.680 The average bride is 31. 0.94

00:07:17.680 So 90% of your OGs are gone by 31.

00:07:20.680 Yeah, a woman's standards of course change. 1.00

00:07:22.680 When you're younger, you want this whole list.

00:07:24.680 When you get older, you realize you need to chop that list down, right?

00:07:26.680 Yeah, because your value goes down.

00:07:27.680 But there still has to be enough men for these women. 1.00

00:07:31.680 There has to be enough men that fit the criteria for these women as far as, again, being single.

00:07:36.680 One out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year.

00:07:40.680 So they're single men.

00:07:42.680 But having sex doesn't mean that you're not in a relationship.

00:07:45.680 Look at Ciara and Russell Wilson.

00:07:47.680 They didn't have sex though.

00:07:48.680 They didn't have, Russell didn't have sex.

00:07:50.680 They waited until marriage, right?

00:07:51.680 That's fine.

00:07:52.680 That's fine.

00:07:53.680 But that's what I'm saying.

00:07:54.680 I just don't, there's no excuses.

00:07:56.680 I just don't like the excuses.

00:07:58.680 More teamworkless excuses.

00:08:01.680 The world will be a beautiful place.

00:08:03.680 Yeah, I'm saying like, I think the goal should be to get married and stay married.

00:08:06.680 I think that would solve a lot of these problems.

00:08:08.680 Women want to get married. 1.00

00:08:09.680 If men are not asking women to marry them. 0.70

00:08:10.680 No, I would say women, women are the ones pushing off marriage because men will always 1.00

00:08:15.680 want young women.

00:08:16.680 They're biologically, even just from a smell test, like men are biologically predispositioned 0.95

00:08:21.680 to like young, fertile women.

00:08:23.680 So when the men are looking for wives, the young women don't want to get married because 1.00

00:08:28.680 women have the most power when they're young and we choose to not get married till we're older. 1.00

00:08:32.680 Are young men looking for these young women?

00:08:34.680 Or is it older men looking for these younger women?

00:08:36.680 Both.

00:08:37.680 But you can't, both.

00:08:38.680 Yeah, she's right.

00:08:39.680 Both.

00:08:40.680 But you can always date older.

00:08:41.680 You have the most sexual power when you are young as a woman. 1.00

00:08:46.680 But most women, right? 1.00

00:08:47.680 When they're in a relationship and they're waiting, when most women are in a relationship, 0.99

00:08:51.680 right?

00:08:52.680 And they're waiting for their man to ask them to marry them.

00:08:53.680 What is the most common excuse?

00:08:55.680 I have to get myself together first.

00:08:58.680 I need to make sure financially, career-wise.

00:09:00.680 But that's the woman's choice, though, because she could date older. 0.96

00:09:03.680 When you are young, you can date older.

00:09:05.680 And if you don't choose to, that's...

00:09:07.680 Exactly.

00:09:08.680 But at 25, are other 25-year-old men ready to get married?

00:09:12.680 Are they waiting to be happy, right?

00:09:14.680 So date 35-year-old men.

00:09:16.680 Like, I just can't be excuses.

00:09:18.680 But it's not excuses.

00:09:20.680 It's real life.

00:09:21.680 Because then more women would be married. 1.00

00:09:23.680 But the problem is...

00:09:24.680 But the question is, okay, if you have a product, if you're a company and you're selling a product,

00:09:29.680 and nobody's buying the product, do you blame the customer or do you fix the product?

00:09:35.680 You fix the product.

00:09:36.680 Okay, so why is it with men?

00:09:38.680 We'll blame them for not wanting to get married instead of fixing the product, which is women. 1.00

00:09:41.680 Because humans are not products.

00:09:43.680 So if you fix yourself up, even if you could be the best woman there is, if a man's not ready, 0.76

00:09:48.680 he's not ready, you cannot make a man do what he doesn't want to do.

00:09:51.680 And I agree with you, but that goes back to our decision-making.

00:09:54.680 We will stay with a guy for...

00:09:56.680 We'll pick a guy and say, I will make you into a husband when he's clearly not a husband, 1.00

00:10:01.680 and then complain about the results.

00:10:03.680 Like, you said you dated a criminal.

00:10:06.680 Yes.

00:10:07.680 Like, the criminal's not a husband.

00:10:08.680 That's not husband material.

00:10:10.680 Okay, right?

00:10:11.680 Right?

00:10:12.680 He might have been wrongly imprisoned.

00:10:14.680 So...

00:10:15.680 But was he a criminal because he was trying to make money to provide for the family?

00:10:18.680 If you're trying to make money to provide for the family, yes, you had to take an illegal right,

00:10:21.680 but if that's all the work that there was around for you... 0.99

00:10:23.680 Like, I can't make this shit up. 0.99

00:10:25.680 But this is real life. 1.00

00:10:28.680 This is real life.

00:10:29.680 We're not going off of statistics.

00:10:31.680 Everything I say is living in a real world.

00:10:32.680 Okay, okay.

00:10:33.680 But I'm saying, so don't whine later, because what women will do is they'll date the drug dealers, 1.00

00:10:38.680 the bad boys in our 20s, and then come in our 30s and say to the men, oh, please, now I want the nice guy.

00:10:44.680 Well, but when you had the most options and you had the most beauty, the most youth, the most purity,

00:10:50.680 you picked the bad guys, and then you want the nice guys to take you later.

JustPearlyThings - October 22, 2023

Pearl Challenges Modern Women

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