Pearl CONFRONTS Entitled Woman
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the reasons why women are leaving their marriages and why they choose to leave them. We discuss why women leave their marriages, why they leave them and how they can be held accountable for their actions.
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are leaving. The reason why I think women are leaving is because back then women were put in
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a position to where, well, men had set the life up to where they had more power. Women needed a man
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to live the life or provide the life that she wanted. Now that women can provide the life that
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they want, they don't have to stick around. When a man is being disloyal to you, he's not being
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honest. He's in and out of the house and living life on his own accord while also trying.
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So your impression is that 50% of marriages fail, right? And on top of that, if we included
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long-term relationships, most fail. Do you know the statistics for how long relationships
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last? So, so it, it depends if it's, if you don't, if you get married, it's like seven,
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eight years. If you're in just a normal relationship, it's roughly three. Okay. So, so, and your
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impression is that they are just disloyal men that are failing. Well, no, I think it's just
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men before women were put in a position to where they needed a man more. Now we're not
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in a position where we need it as much. So we're, so we're quicker to leave because we
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don't need them as much. So your first, the first point is true because yes, economically you don't
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need men because you can, women work and obviously there's government support and all that. So that's
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absolutely true. The bit that I contest is the reason why they're leaving. So Paul was on the
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show and this anecdotal, Paul was on a show recently in the UK and a woman on there was
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saying that there was this woman who was, she was in her sixties. They'd been married for 20 years.
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They had several kids together. And then in her sixties, this woman decided to leave the
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husband. And the reason she gave was, well, I've, I've been like constrained. I've only been a wife
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and a mother all of my life. I want to explore myself. I want to explore myself as being a
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different kind of woman. That guy, as far as we know, wasn't disloyal. That guy wasn't fucking
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around. You know, it was just, she was like, Oh, the grass is greener. I want to do the eat,
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pray, love thing. So I think, you know, my impression is that a lot of women are leaving
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because they kind of get bored and the grass is greener on the other side.
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I think that applies in some situations for sure. But I think in most situations when a woman is in a
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relationship with a man and she chooses to leave that man, the man has let her down in some way.
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And she's, and she's decided that she's, and she's decided it's better without him.
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What is let me down? It's relationships. People will let you down all the time.
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My thing is you've never let someone down ever really. Are you not?
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Never? I really like, this is narcissism. Come on. Like never. You've been a perfect angel.
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Do you know the personality traits? The, like the, like the.
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No, I don't care. I'm asking. Okay. You were perfect in your relationship.
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That's the issue. That's the issue with women today. That's the issue with the majority of
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women today is the lack of accountability. So you're telling me.
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No, I've only been in one relationship from 19 to 27 and I did nothing wrong.
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I got the ring. I'm the one who chose to leave.
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Oh, okay. Okay. All right. All right. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah.
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I will say this. I feel like people in general give up on each other way too quickly. And when
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you go into a marriage, if you decide this is the person that I'm going to marry, then you
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do have to see it through as much as you can. Right? And this is why people in the 60s
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in the 70s that did last long marriages, they always say the same thing. You don't, you
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don't give up on the person that you're with. You just, you know, you just fix it. You fix
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your problem. Nowadays, because there's so many options and because there's so many places
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you can go to get what you need. It's like that 20-80 rule. We don't have to settle.
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Do you know what the 20-80 rule is? What is settle? Yeah. What the fuck? What are you
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talking about? I want to hear her finish what she's saying and then I'll say it.
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So the 20-80 rule is when you're with somebody, they're giving you 80% because really no one
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is perfect. And then you go out and you meet someone with the, you meet someone and you think,
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oh, they're filling that 20% void that the person you're with isn't filling. But it goes
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both ways. It's not just a woman. It's on both sides. It's on both sides. This is why women
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should not give advice, bro. This is why. The only difference. This is why women need fathers.
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I'm not, first of all, number one, I'm not saying that I agree with that. I think that people need
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to work things out. Unless you're being, you know, mistreated to the point where he's beating
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your ass. He's cheating so much that he's bringing diseases back home to you. He's mistreating your
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kids and the kid, just any of those things that are obvious to everybody, like that's wrong.
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But stupid shit, like he didn't clean the dishes or he didn't help me with the trash or he's like,
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those things can be worked through. And I feel like nowadays. Yeah. I mean, people in general,
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not. What about if the sexism is good? Because look, we all know. Good point. After a few years,
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the sex starts to, you know, you know each other well, the sex starts to kind of, you know,
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usually are the ones to veer off first. Right. Not necessarily because women get bored as well
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because that women will say, well, no, I deserve to be satisfied. I deserve to have some amazing
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sex. Fun fact, actually. Fun fact. If a guy has a kid, 5% chance it's not yours, fellas.
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Yeah. Dr. David Baker, if anyone wants to source. Usually a man steps out for sex. He wants the
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reason why. So does a woman. I just gave you 5%. Oh, yeah, yeah. 5% chance. She'll only listen to
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the facts that apply to the woman. Yeah, it's not yours. 5% chance. And it's that's on the low end,
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actually, but some people that have estimated it higher. But I think a lot of y'all opinions are
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based off of just simple bad experiences with men. It seems, it seems, it seems, it seems as if
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you've only, you've only been with one man your whole life. Oh, I had eight sexual partners. I've
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only been in a relationship with one man, man. That's a red flag. Yeah, that's crazy. You've had
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eight sexual partners, but you've only been in a relationship with one of them. Yes. That's 17 to
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21. Um, my first two boy, I had two before him. He was number three. And then everyone has came after
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in the last two years. But you've only been in relationship with eight of the men that you
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with a one of the eight men that you let enter your body. Yes. You know, you don't see anything
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wrong with that? No, I don't. Interesting. Oh, actually, no, my first boyfriend, we were together
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for three years, but I don't really consider him an actual boyfriend because we were in high school.
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I'm saying as an adult, as an adult, I've only dated 19 to 27. I've dated one man. But you had sex
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with him in high school? Um, my first boy, my first boyfriend. Yes. After high school,
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18. Yeah, I think that you guys are basing your opinions on just bad experiences with men.
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Because if you were to have good experiences with men, I'm not saying him specifically,
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I'm saying with men in general. Okay. Yeah. Right. Not him specifically. You might have had a very
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beautiful experience. I did. I really did. I really can't say much about him. But then you said he was
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bisexual and that's why you left him. That's literally the only deal breaker. Yeah, exactly.
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Bro, AKA bad experience. Do you think he was bisexual? Because I don't think a guy can be
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bisexual. No, I don't think men can be bisexual. Do you think he was bisexual? I'm sorry. Do you
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think he was gay before or after you? I know for a fact he was gay before me because after I found
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the text messages, I went through the house and I found a list. He literally wrote a list of everybody
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he's ever slept with. And there was a guy's name on there before me. His name was Lando.
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Wow. And I don't think you could just like from one day to the next and be like, oh, I'm
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gay. No, no. He was gay before me. And like actually, you said how there might have been
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one red flag. The only red flag that I can think of now after the fact is like when we
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first started dating, he talked a lot about his very best friend in middle school. And
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honestly, he never said anything. It wasn't confirmed. But I think that was like his first
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love. I think that was the first person he was in love with was his best friend in elementary,
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middle school. I think he might've been gay. And then after dating you, he was like, you
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know what? I'm going to stick with men. Let's be serious, Eric. But no. And also, I think
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a big reason why he was hiding who he was is because his dad is homophobic. And my ex was
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13 years my senior. And his dad is very homophobic. So with having a homophobic father-
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What is homophobic? Like he, he doesn't, they, he, they talk shit about, they do not
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like fat people. They don't, they don't like it or they just don't accept it or they disagree
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with it. Um, no, they didn't like it. They disagree with everything. Like it was like,
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they literally would, you know what phobia means? Yeah. You're the fear of. No, strong
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irrational. I don't understand it. Cause if I don't like the gay stuff, why, why am I afraid
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of it? I'm not afraid of it. I just don't, I, I don't like it. Yeah. No, no. His dad
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is homophobic. He literally, no. So he has a strong, rational, you're missing what she's
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saying. Like, I just, I don't think that's like, if you don't support gay marriage or
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about any of that stuff, why is it homophobic? I guess that's what, that's what everyone's
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just labeled it as. Yeah. That's what makes it seem like we're afraid. No, but I'm just saying
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words are important. So that implies that like, I'm afraid of it. Yeah. Yeah. And that
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proves my point that we set off for air where I'm scared of gay people. You know, this man
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went to war. He wasn't scared of anybody. I'm afraid of gay people. He wasn't scared of
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anybody, but he had an irrational fear against gay people. Because that's what the word that
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people use to do it. So just because they use it. To be fair, I think the definition of
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the term has been extended somewhat popularly now. Colloquially, yes. The original definition
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you know, from the Greek was fear of or irrational, you know, story rational fear of. However,
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I think the definition is now extended. So people are using it to label just, just, just
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general dislike. Yeah, exactly. But then that's not homophobic. You just don't like it.
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But no, I'm saying that, I know, but I'm saying that the manner, the manner in which people
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are now using the term has been extended. Yeah, they're just using it wrong.
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You can say, you can, you can say they're using it. Literally a gay couple would be walking
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by on the street and he would like, there's literally no, no reason for him to say anything.
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And he would say, Oh, look at these fucking faggots. You know, I love that though.