JustPearlyThings - Pearl CONFRONTS Entitled Woman

00:00:00.000 are leaving. The reason why I think women are leaving is because back then women were put in 1.00

00:00:03.620 a position to where, well, men had set the life up to where they had more power. Women needed a man 1.00

00:00:08.940 to live the life or provide the life that she wanted. Now that women can provide the life that 1.00

00:00:13.380 they want, they don't have to stick around. When a man is being disloyal to you, he's not being

00:00:18.620 honest. He's in and out of the house and living life on his own accord while also trying.

00:00:22.660 So your impression is that 50% of marriages fail, right? And on top of that, if we included

00:00:29.680 long-term relationships, most fail. Do you know the statistics for how long relationships

00:00:33.400 last? So, so it, it depends if it's, if you don't, if you get married, it's like seven,

00:00:37.580 eight years. If you're in just a normal relationship, it's roughly three. Okay. So, so, and your

00:00:43.320 impression is that they are just disloyal men that are failing. Well, no, I think it's just

00:00:49.860 men before women were put in a position to where they needed a man more. Now we're not

00:00:53.840 in a position where we need it as much. So we're, so we're quicker to leave because we

00:00:57.780 don't need them as much. So your first, the first point is true because yes, economically you don't

00:01:03.900 need men because you can, women work and obviously there's government support and all that. So that's 1.00

00:01:08.180 absolutely true. The bit that I contest is the reason why they're leaving. So Paul was on the

00:01:12.600 show and this anecdotal, Paul was on a show recently in the UK and a woman on there was

00:01:16.660 saying that there was this woman who was, she was in her sixties. They'd been married for 20 years.

00:01:20.560 They had several kids together. And then in her sixties, this woman decided to leave the 1.00

00:01:25.120 husband. And the reason she gave was, well, I've, I've been like constrained. I've only been a wife

00:01:30.300 and a mother all of my life. I want to explore myself. I want to explore myself as being a

00:01:34.320 different kind of woman. That guy, as far as we know, wasn't disloyal. That guy wasn't fucking 1.00

00:01:39.080 around. You know, it was just, she was like, Oh, the grass is greener. I want to do the eat, 0.98

00:01:42.680 pray, love thing. So I think, you know, my impression is that a lot of women are leaving 0.83

00:01:46.200 because they kind of get bored and the grass is greener on the other side.

00:01:49.180 I think that applies in some situations for sure. But I think in most situations when a woman is in a 0.99

00:01:54.300 relationship with a man and she chooses to leave that man, the man has let her down in some way.

00:01:58.460 And she's, and she's decided that she's, and she's decided it's better without him.

00:02:02.440 What is let me down? It's relationships. People will let you down all the time.

00:02:06.660 I will say this. And this is a issue.

00:02:08.260 My thing is you've never let someone down ever really. Are you not?

00:02:11.980 I've never let my partner down.

00:02:12.820 Never? I really like, this is narcissism. Come on. Like never. You've been a perfect angel.

00:02:19.460 No.

00:02:19.900 You've been a perfect.

00:02:20.660 Do you know the personality traits? The, like the, like the.

00:02:24.820 No, I don't care. I'm asking. Okay. You were perfect in your relationship.

00:02:28.600 Yes.

00:02:29.380 Yes, I was.

00:02:30.620 So, okay.

00:02:31.140 That's the issue. That's the issue with women today. That's the issue with the majority of 1.00

00:02:34.820 women today is the lack of accountability. So you're telling me. 1.00

00:02:36.960 I always hold myself.

00:02:38.560 You did nothing wrong in any relationship.

00:02:41.380 No, I've only been in one relationship from 19 to 27 and I did nothing wrong.

00:02:45.380 Nothing wrong.

00:02:46.020 Nothing wrong. I got the ring.

00:02:47.600 I would want to ask him.

00:02:48.740 I got the ring. I'm the one who chose to leave.

00:02:50.500 Call him right now. Call him right now.

00:02:52.120 Oh, okay. Okay. All right. All right. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah.

00:02:57.200 I will say this. I feel like people in general give up on each other way too quickly. And when

00:03:02.560 you go into a marriage, if you decide this is the person that I'm going to marry, then you

00:03:07.480 do have to see it through as much as you can. Right? And this is why people in the 60s

00:03:14.420 in the 70s that did last long marriages, they always say the same thing. You don't, you

00:03:20.460 don't give up on the person that you're with. You just, you know, you just fix it. You fix

00:03:24.120 your problem. Nowadays, because there's so many options and because there's so many places

00:03:29.680 you can go to get what you need. It's like that 20-80 rule. We don't have to settle.

00:03:35.040 Do you know what the 20-80 rule is? What is settle? Yeah. What the fuck? What are you

00:03:39.240 talking about? I want to hear her finish what she's saying and then I'll say it.

00:03:42.920 So the 20-80 rule is when you're with somebody, they're giving you 80% because really no one

00:03:47.280 is perfect. And then you go out and you meet someone with the, you meet someone and you think,

00:03:53.620 oh, they're filling that 20% void that the person you're with isn't filling. But it goes

00:04:00.620 both ways. It's not just a woman. It's on both sides. It's on both sides. This is why women 1.00

00:04:05.640 should not give advice, bro. This is why. The only difference. This is why women need fathers. 0.97

00:04:10.900 I'm not, first of all, number one, I'm not saying that I agree with that. I think that people need

00:04:15.500 to work things out. Unless you're being, you know, mistreated to the point where he's beating

00:04:21.560 your ass. He's cheating so much that he's bringing diseases back home to you. He's mistreating your 1.00

00:04:27.880 kids and the kid, just any of those things that are obvious to everybody, like that's wrong. 1.00

00:04:32.740 But stupid shit, like he didn't clean the dishes or he didn't help me with the trash or he's like, 1.00

00:04:38.720 those things can be worked through. And I feel like nowadays. Yeah. I mean, people in general, 1.00

00:04:43.800 not. What about if the sexism is good? Because look, we all know. Good point. After a few years,

00:04:48.440 the sex starts to, you know, you know each other well, the sex starts to kind of, you know,

00:04:52.700 usually are the ones to veer off first. Right. Not necessarily because women get bored as well 1.00

00:04:57.220 because that women will say, well, no, I deserve to be satisfied. I deserve to have some amazing

00:05:01.460 sex. Fun fact, actually. Fun fact. If a guy has a kid, 5% chance it's not yours, fellas. 1.00

00:05:07.720 Yeah. Dr. David Baker, if anyone wants to source. Usually a man steps out for sex. He wants the

00:05:14.520 reason why. So does a woman. I just gave you 5%. Oh, yeah, yeah. 5% chance. She'll only listen to 1.00

00:05:21.120 the facts that apply to the woman. Yeah, it's not yours. 5% chance. And it's that's on the low end,

00:05:27.880 actually, but some people that have estimated it higher. But I think a lot of y'all opinions are

00:05:33.260 based off of just simple bad experiences with men. It seems, it seems, it seems, it seems as if

00:05:40.680 you've only, you've only been with one man your whole life. Oh, I had eight sexual partners. I've

00:05:46.400 only been in a relationship with one man, man. That's a red flag. Yeah, that's crazy. You've had

00:05:50.080 eight sexual partners, but you've only been in a relationship with one of them. Yes. That's 17 to

00:05:54.780 21. Um, my first two boy, I had two before him. He was number three. And then everyone has came after

00:06:00.640 in the last two years. But you've only been in relationship with eight of the men that you

00:06:05.100 with a one of the eight men that you let enter your body. Yes. You know, you don't see anything

00:06:10.140 wrong with that? No, I don't. Interesting. Oh, actually, no, my first boyfriend, we were together

00:06:16.060 for three years, but I don't really consider him an actual boyfriend because we were in high school.

00:06:20.800 I'm saying as an adult, as an adult, I've only dated 19 to 27. I've dated one man. But you had sex

00:06:26.540 with him in high school? Um, my first boy, my first boyfriend. Yes. After high school, 0.71

00:06:31.880 18. Yeah, I think that you guys are basing your opinions on just bad experiences with men.

00:06:36.480 Because if you were to have good experiences with men, I'm not saying him specifically,

00:06:41.880 I'm saying with men in general. Okay. Yeah. Right. Not him specifically. You might have had a very

00:06:46.680 beautiful experience. I did. I really did. I really can't say much about him. But then you said he was

00:06:50.040 bisexual and that's why you left him. That's literally the only deal breaker. Yeah, exactly. 1.00

00:06:52.920 Bro, AKA bad experience. Do you think he was bisexual? Because I don't think a guy can be 1.00

00:06:59.840 bisexual. No, I don't think men can be bisexual. Do you think he was bisexual? I'm sorry. Do you 1.00

00:07:03.480 think he was gay before or after you? I know for a fact he was gay before me because after I found 0.72

00:07:09.260 the text messages, I went through the house and I found a list. He literally wrote a list of everybody

00:07:13.700 he's ever slept with. And there was a guy's name on there before me. His name was Lando.

00:07:18.980 Wow. And I don't think you could just like from one day to the next and be like, oh, I'm

00:07:24.400 gay. No, no. He was gay before me. And like actually, you said how there might have been

00:07:29.660 one red flag. The only red flag that I can think of now after the fact is like when we

00:07:34.380 first started dating, he talked a lot about his very best friend in middle school. And

00:07:38.580 honestly, he never said anything. It wasn't confirmed. But I think that was like his first

00:07:42.020 love. I think that was the first person he was in love with was his best friend in elementary,

00:07:45.580 middle school. I think he might've been gay. And then after dating you, he was like, you

00:07:49.760 know what? I'm going to stick with men. Let's be serious, Eric. But no. And also, I think

00:07:55.960 a big reason why he was hiding who he was is because his dad is homophobic. And my ex was

00:08:01.620 13 years my senior. And his dad is very homophobic. So with having a homophobic father- 0.88

00:08:05.580 What is homophobic? Like he, he doesn't, they, he, they talk shit about, they do not 1.00

00:08:10.980 like fat people. They don't, they don't like it or they just don't accept it or they disagree 0.99

00:08:15.440 with it. Um, no, they didn't like it. They disagree with everything. Like it was like,

00:08:19.600 they literally would, you know what phobia means? Yeah. You're the fear of. No, strong

00:08:23.800 irrational. I don't understand it. Cause if I don't like the gay stuff, why, why am I afraid 1.00

00:08:30.560 of it? I'm not afraid of it. I just don't, I, I don't like it. Yeah. No, no. His dad

00:08:34.820 is homophobic. He literally, no. So he has a strong, rational, you're missing what she's 0.85

00:08:39.100 saying. Like, I just, I don't think that's like, if you don't support gay marriage or

00:08:45.940 about any of that stuff, why is it homophobic? I guess that's what, that's what everyone's

00:08:51.560 just labeled it as. Yeah. That's what makes it seem like we're afraid. No, but I'm just saying

00:08:59.040 words are important. So that implies that like, I'm afraid of it. Yeah. Yeah. And that

00:09:04.560 proves my point that we set off for air where I'm scared of gay people. You know, this man 1.00

00:09:11.020 went to war. He wasn't scared of anybody. I'm afraid of gay people. He wasn't scared of

00:09:14.260 anybody, but he had an irrational fear against gay people. Because that's what the word that 0.88

00:09:17.980 people use to do it. So just because they use it. To be fair, I think the definition of

00:09:22.580 the term has been extended somewhat popularly now. Colloquially, yes. The original definition

00:09:28.040 you know, from the Greek was fear of or irrational, you know, story rational fear of. However,

00:09:31.940 I think the definition is now extended. So people are using it to label just, just, just

00:09:35.160 general dislike. Yeah, exactly. But then that's not homophobic. You just don't like it.

00:09:39.720 But no, I'm saying that, I know, but I'm saying that the manner, the manner in which people

00:09:42.960 are now using the term has been extended. Yeah, they're just using it wrong.

00:09:46.160 You can say, you can, you can say they're using it. Literally a gay couple would be walking 1.00

00:09:51.000 by on the street and he would like, there's literally no, no reason for him to say anything. 1.00

00:09:55.600 And he would say, Oh, look at these fucking faggots. You know, I love that though. 1.00

00:09:59.500 I love that.

JustPearlyThings - October 31, 2023

Pearl CONFRONTS Entitled Woman

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