Pearl DEBATES Married Millionaire On Marriage
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the future of marriage and why men are walking away from it. We also talk about Cernovich's new book and why he thinks 90% of men who speak out against marriage aren t sought after.
Transcript
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So I want to give you like my take on marriage in 2023.
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I think marriage, traditional marriage is beautiful.
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I love seeing couples that like make that work.
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But what I what I don't want is men not making an informed decision.
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So I think that men should be aware of the risks that come with it.
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And I think that some men and this is regardless of what I say or I don't say you're with the laws being how they are.
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You're going to keep seeing men walk away from marriage until the laws change.
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It's going to be a bigger and bigger number every year, regardless of what Pearl says, because, again, men are kind of logical.
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Right. So they kind of weigh the risks of marriage and the reward.
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And, you know, sometimes they'll meet a girl where the reward is worth it.
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Some guys go to different countries to figure this out.
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But until we start lowering the risks, the women of 2023 are definitely worse than the women 20 years ago.
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Those women are worse than we were just seeing a trend across the board.
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But it's becoming more and more difficult for men to be traditional because many men are punished for being traditional.
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And what I see a lot of times is the men that say, you know what, this is too much.
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They're shamed by the traditional conservatives for making that choice.
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And I think for men, sometimes, and I think it depends on the guy, right?
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So, you know, I think a YouTuber is going to have a very different experience than, say, a factory worker.
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And, you know, we need factory workers for this country to run.
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And I think they just sometimes have a hard time.
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And a lot of times, those are the guys we see, like, walk away.
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Because, you know, again, with the Instagram economy, it's really hard to have the average woman stay unless you're exceptional as a man.
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Unfortunately, I don't say this in, like, a happy way.
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So, Cernovich says, 90% of men speaking out against marriage aren't sought after.
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The truth is that a desired man who isn't a sociopath will date widely enough until he meets someone who has his number, and that's it.
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The playboy or whatever is a goober myth from a beer commercial.
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In my experience, and this is just from, like, interviewing guys, getting screwed in divorce,
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I think a lot of the guys that speak out against marriage actually had success in dating and got married and then just got screwed over.
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In regards to 90% of men who speak out against, 90% of men speaking out against marriage aren't sought after.
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I mean, if I couldn't get any bitches, and I had six inches taken off my dick, I would probably have the same theory.
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It's just, I think that there are a lot of attractive men that are actually able,
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I don't want to use the word dominate to disrespect all the loving and respectful wives out there,
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but they are the dominant force in the family as the clear, undisputed leader.
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Like, to the point where you can have a woman say, yeah, you are the man and you are the leader.
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Now, that doesn't mean she's the donkey or the cow in the relationship.
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But I do think that there are a group of men who are good ladies' men.
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These are the sort of men that are ladies' men.
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These are the sort of men that are good with women, and they get a wife that is actually,
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and I don't want to use the word subservient, but they are very respectful and they admire their husband.
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Are there a lot of guys that are simps and get walked over?
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Well, I think you're just, if the answer is these men that are complaining, are they're just subservient men?
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Like, do you think 60% of men aren't good enough for marriage?
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Because 60% of men aren't looking for marriage and relationship.
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So, like, in my head, it's like the average man used to be able to get an average woman.
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You know, he didn't have to be this, like, six-foot tall.
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He didn't have to have this amazing job in order to attract a woman.
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It was like an average guy could get a 120-pound virgin.
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In Mike's defense, let's just say, for example, Mike here.
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Mike is, like, six-foot-four, athletic build, successful, highly intelligent.
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His wife, I've never met his wife, but from what I see, his wife respects him.
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So he might have not the same, but that doesn't mean every guy can do what he did.
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Well, that's my point is a lot of times the guys that come at this are kind of like, you know, rich men tend to stay married longer, right?
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They tend to, the divorce rate's like 25% among, like, rich men.
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Yeah, so I think they live in a different reality than the average men in this country.
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One of the top, in America anyway, one of the top places people are employed is truckers, okay?
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I think a lot of times they speak down on the men that allow us to do what we do, right?
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Like, doing this, someone in a factory had to make this microphone.
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And I think that average women don't respect average men anymore.
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And I think it is very risky because what I've seen, like, just doing the divorce documentary,
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is the men that get screwed over the most aren't the rich men.
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The rich men might pay the most, but they can kind of recover and make their money back later.
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It's the average men are the ones, like, that I've seen, like, commit suicide and divorce.
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Or, like, I would say on the brink of suicide are ones that get false accusations.
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Or worked the same job for 20 years, and then their wife took half.
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Like, imagine, like, the average divorce is 46 years old.
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So, again, like, my one point is that a lot of the men that talk about this,
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they're not over the average age of first divorce.
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And a third of them will, half of them will divorce.
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If they're Christian, it's like a quarter, right?
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And a lot of the men that commit suicide in this country over this stuff are the men that worked 20 years.
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Then their wife takes half their shit, alienates them from their children.
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And they haven't seen them in many, many, like, sometimes it's, like, two, three years.
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And these are the Uber drivers, the truck drivers, the plumbers, the factory.
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And so, I think a lot of times, like, the tall, good-looking, successful men will kind of shit on them.
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But most of them can't do what they do without them.
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I mean, speak to your point about plumbers in particular.
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Also, because of their exposure to that environment, they may be getting cancer at a higher rate than a general population.
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Yeah, so not only is that plumber maybe more exposed to an environment and toxins that give them a higher rate of probability of getting cancer.
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So not only are they not making a high income, they're more exposed to these chronic conditions.
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I think they for sure deserve much more respect, at the very least, top-class healthcare.
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But that's my point is I just think, like, a lot of times they'll kind of say that they're crybabies or whatever.
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But it's like, no, I don't think it's these men that can't get women.
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But I don't see them as these men that can't get women.
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I see them as average men who thought they signed up for the wife and kids and were absolutely devastated when they had no idea what family court is like.
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And I think until you've really spent, like, a week in family court to see, no, these were not loser men.
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It's just the average men that built this country that are getting absolutely destroyed by these women.
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I'll say, do you know a guy that's been falsely accused?
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You know, like, like, this is a huge risk for men.
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I think, you know, sometimes you find a woman that you think is worth the risk.
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But what I don't think is good is to encourage young men to be naive.