JustPearlyThings - June 05, 2023


Pearl DEBUNKS Female Discrimination


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

216.24208

Word Count

1,808

Sentence Count

146

Misogynist Sentences

22

Hate Speech Sentences

14


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 want to work 60, 70 hours a week. I interviewed top like, I decided I wanted more rich friends
00:00:05.620 when I lived in Milwaukee. And I just asked the executives if I could like a billion dollar
00:00:09.720 companies, if I could sit there, have a coffee with them and just interview them about their
00:00:13.300 life. And both of them that I got to interview, I could see the one deficit they had in their
00:00:18.420 life. Neither of them really had families. And it was really sad. And you can tell both of them
00:00:22.440 like missed out on a part of life and you could tell they regretted it. You can't have everything.
00:00:26.680 And women don't want to do those roles because they are ungodly hard. Can you imagine having
00:00:32.840 like, some women do. But it's a lot harder. You've got to think like in the 90s, women
00:00:40.320 couldn't even vote. This is how. In the 90s? In the 90s? Yeah, it was like 1980. No, no,
00:00:46.300 that's not true. It's like the 20s. No, no, it was 1918. Oh, 18. Oh, 18. I think you said
00:00:53.180 it is. Okay. But why women couldn't even vote. So remember, but why? Why didn't women
00:00:59.060 have the right to vote? Women? So historically, men had to go to war and fight. That is why
00:01:04.420 women couldn't vote was because we if you had the choice today in 2022, and we were in
00:01:10.200 war, and you had to go fight on the front lines, would you pick it? Personally, and this
00:01:14.940 is where people will take me out of context and say I don't think women should vote. Personally,
00:01:18.520 if I, in 2022, had the choice where I had to go fight in the front lines, just like
00:01:22.120 the men, in a war, or I could give up my right to vote, I would give up my right to
00:01:26.580 vote. And that's what happened back then is they equated voting with going to war
00:01:31.220 because it's all I'm trying to put it in. I agree with that. Because yeah, men do take
00:01:35.560 a lot on themselves. The fact that they fight for us. I appreciate men. The stuff that they
00:01:40.860 do. But I'm saying we weren't discriminated against. It was just how society run. We weren't
00:01:47.140 discriminated against. We had a freedom, like that was a freedom that came with the
00:01:51.760 responsibility of getting drafted. That wasn't discrimination. If you wanted to be
00:01:55.280 equally drafted, go vote. Yeah, but what I'm trying to say is that's how society...
00:01:58.880 Who's picking that? Who's? Anyone? Anyone? Yeah, she's like, I would give it up.
00:02:02.360 But that's my point. Because they couldn't vote. I don't like politics.
00:02:05.740 And it's also the same thing. Women didn't have access to education until very long ago.
00:02:10.480 They couldn't own property. Which means that realistically...
00:02:13.700 You could typically remember back then, it was typical for people to get married young.
00:02:18.100 So it was typical for them. So the reason was when you were married, you were looked at as one.
00:02:25.060 And typically women submitted to their husbands and trusted their husbands with their judgment.
00:02:31.180 So that's why the property thing happened. And same with the property. It was like women still
00:02:37.820 could own properties if they did not get married.
00:02:42.620 But you know... But typically then women got married.
00:02:44.700 I'll tell you, I'll tell you, if we want to go back into history, I'll tell you something about
00:02:49.500 history that I think, and this is why earlier... Shout out Emily in Pankhurst.
00:02:52.380 I mentioned, that's why I mentioned to Andrew Tate that my problem wasn't necessarily with men.
00:02:58.620 It is with the men that are running the machine that obviously controls our societies. Because
00:03:03.660 when women first started going to work, they started going to work out of the fact that there was a
00:03:07.660 lack of men in the country because there was war going on. War wars. So women had to pick up,
00:03:13.180 go to work and do their thing. Cool. From the aftermath of war, there's women that are already in
00:03:18.460 the workplace. And then there's women that are also left widowed, which means that they now have a
00:03:22.300 choice. Either you starve at home with your family and stay a housewife, or you're going to get up and
00:03:26.860 you're going to go to work. And that's how a lot of women have become what they call masculine,
00:03:31.260 because they come out of trauma. They come out also the consequences of history. And this is why,
00:03:35.580 at this point, and what I've been trying to say for time is, let's stop trying to blame women
00:03:41.340 for what's going on in society right now. Let's understand that this is a construct and a
00:03:45.900 consequence of history. And let's start, let's start respecting because we cannot go back.
00:03:50.300 And I agree with you. I'm not, I'm not saying it's one gender or the other. I'm just saying,
00:03:54.860 like, we have been talking about the men forever. It's like, we like they, I don't want no scrubs,
00:04:01.180 scrubs. Yeah. Like there's, there's no, there's no, there's no song saying, I don't want no whale.
00:04:08.460 Like nobody's saying that. And I'm saying like, we, they have had, like, we have had decades where
00:04:14.380 we talk. It's like, now the men are finally talking and we can't even give them their...
00:04:18.860 To be fair, that's kind of true because even men, when they were singing about women,
00:04:22.140 they sang a lot about... Love songs. It was nice.
00:04:25.500 Ooh, my dear. And I think it's sad to see that men are not making that music.
00:04:29.180 I feel like from the moment you're born, I don't know if it's just in an African home,
00:04:33.660 in an African home, you're literally raised to cater for your man. From as long as I was,
00:04:39.260 my mom, I was eight. My mom was like, you need to know how to cook for your man. You need to look good for
00:04:44.060 your man. You should be thankful you were naturally taught game. A lot of girls didn't get
00:04:48.780 taught them. I didn't get that. Yeah. Like a lot of, a lot of women would love, like even,
00:04:54.300 I mean, my parents just started dating. My parents, my parents started dating when they were 17. My
00:04:58.860 mom taught me no game. She's like, meet your husband in high school. A lot of women aren't
00:05:02.780 taught the basic necessities of being a woman, like cooking, cleaning. This is shocking to me.
00:05:07.740 Yeah. So it's a privilege. Like you, you have something in your holster, in your bag that you can
00:05:13.820 whip out whenever you need to for a man. Like, okay, I can cook for him. I can clean for him
00:05:17.740 because you have it on you. A lot of women had to learn that on their, on their own,
00:05:22.220 or just had to go throughout life and learning it. They, they never were taught it or they never
00:05:28.140 needed to have it until they were in a position where like, oh, I can't do this on my own. I can't
00:05:33.420 cook. I can't clean. I can't work a simple vacuum. I can't do this because things have been done for me
00:05:40.140 my whole life or I was never taught that. And so you shouldn't look at it as it like, oh,
00:05:45.580 I was taught this from jump. I was taught how to cater to my man or be a woman.
00:05:50.060 Yeah, I mean, that was my reality. And like African women, like women like me,
00:05:53.740 Nigerian background, especially, that's all we know. It's about, even like now I'm 26,
00:05:59.340 my mom tells me if I'm 30 without a husband, I am basically useless.
00:06:03.020 Okay. Okay. But you, you at least, so, so if you look at dating app data, she's right.
00:06:08.860 She's absolutely right. So, so, so if you look at dating app data, that's when the numbers change
00:06:14.220 where like women typically have more like leverage on dating apps than, than men until 30. And then men
00:06:19.580 typically do, I, I can't remember it. Some girl was going over the study, but, but, and so like,
00:06:25.420 she was being honest. And if anything, you should be thankful for how well they prepped you for the
00:06:29.820 world because a lot of girls hit 30 and have no idea. Not like, this is a privilege. A lot of girls don't
00:06:36.540 have a dad or a mom to like, tell them these things. And even me, like my mom didn't know
00:06:42.620 shit about dating or the dating landscape. And yeah. And it's like, so you at least know this
00:06:48.540 at 26, where you can still make choices that, that would get you in a better position at 30,
00:06:53.900 where other girls are going to hit 30 completely blind and screwed.
00:06:57.820 Oh, but you know what? I, although today I'm not in your side, I will agree with her. And the only
00:07:05.180 thing I will do is say slightly different. I will say like, for example, for me, like I mentioned,
00:07:12.700 my dad passed away when I was 12, but I grew up seeing my mom catered to my dad. So I learned a lot
00:07:17.740 from him. But then after he was gone, what my mom did is teach me these survival skills that you need
00:07:25.260 any ways to be able to make it through the world. So I believe that even things like cooking, sewing,
00:07:31.340 this, this, that, that's all type of kind of like self care. And once you learn to take care of
00:07:36.300 yourself, you'll be able to learn to take care of someone else. But the fact that a lot of the time,
00:07:40.220 a lot of women also have the ability to take accountability means you're not taking care of
00:07:44.220 yourself because you don't even know what you're doing wrong. So you can't even be better. So when you
00:07:48.380 go into a relationship, you land yourself in trouble. That's what it is. What you should be able to
00:07:52.700 do for yourself or you can do for others. If not, then there's no point in you trying to say,
00:07:56.940 oh, but you know, I'm a woman. And why am I going to do this for a man? Do it for yourself. How can
00:08:00.940 you not cook? What's going to happen if you can't cook? What about the fact that as a woman, you're
00:08:05.180 going to be the mother? And as I mentioned earlier, as the mother, as the woman, you're going to be more
00:08:09.260 nurturing. So these basic life skills, forget about even for a man, do it for you. And for the fact that
00:08:14.540 one that you may want to be a mother, then everything falls into place. If that makes it an easy appeal to
00:08:19.580 someone.