JustPearlyThings - July 11, 2023


Pearl DEBUNKS Independent Woman With This Question


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In this episode, the guys talk about women and money and how they should or shouldn t split the bill when it comes to paying for things. Also, we talk about how traditional women should be treated in the 21st century.

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00:00:00.000 Do you guys care about a girl's money? 0.70
00:00:03.540 I wouldn't care, but if she had money, then it's all mine.
00:00:06.820 And my money's mine, easy as.
00:00:09.460 Do you understand?
00:00:10.380 Yeah.
00:00:11.020 So, like, if she needed something and she has my kids,
00:00:13.740 do you know what I'm saying?
00:00:14.300 Then I would obviously offer it to her.
00:00:16.500 But my money's my money.
00:00:18.100 I'll obviously give it to you if you need it.
00:00:19.520 And your money's my money, easy as.
00:00:21.880 That's how it works.
00:00:22.900 Do you understand?
00:00:23.460 Yeah, in a marriage, yeah, because you come together, don't you?
00:00:25.620 Because, like, the girl's money's my money, 0.52
00:00:27.600 and my money's my money.
00:00:28.880 Do you understand?
00:00:29.360 But when she needs something, I'll obviously provide it for her.
00:00:31.740 Jonathan.
00:00:32.340 Yeah.
00:00:33.040 Yeah, that's exactly what I'm saying.
00:00:34.400 I would still see it as my money,
00:00:36.820 but I'm not going to not allow you to have it
00:00:39.100 because we're married, we're a partnership.
00:00:40.980 Do you know what I mean?
00:00:41.560 Exactly.
00:00:41.960 Let's say your man needs it.
00:00:44.460 It's not even a question you could have it today.
00:00:46.400 That's good, Ashton.
00:00:47.180 That's very good.
00:00:47.840 I respect that about you.
00:00:48.600 Thank you very much.
00:00:50.220 Thanks.
00:00:51.140 Do you care?
00:00:52.060 No, I don't care at all.
00:00:53.320 And any woman that's ever, like, done anything with me, 0.99
00:00:56.060 I pay for everything.
00:00:57.200 Five-star hotels, restaurants.
00:00:58.420 I'm flying to Poland tomorrow.
00:01:01.600 Her and her friend are supposed to meet up with me.
00:01:03.060 She said, we're not rich like that.
00:01:05.460 I said, whenever I ever had you pay for anything.
00:01:08.160 I find it offensive when a girl offers a pay. 1.00
00:01:10.620 Yeah, money doesn't matter.
00:01:11.200 I find it offensive when a girl offers a pay. 1.00
00:01:12.260 You find it offensive?
00:01:13.400 Yeah, I find it offensive, bro.
00:01:15.100 Because, like...
00:01:15.760 But isn't it rude if they don't, though?
00:01:17.320 Would you not be rude?
00:01:17.960 No, it's not.
00:01:18.380 Because you know who splits the bill?
00:01:19.320 Why do you think it's offensive?
00:01:20.340 You know who splits the bill?
00:01:21.900 Friends split the bill.
00:01:23.340 They're like, oh, my friend.
00:01:24.480 Let me split the bill with you.
00:01:25.180 But the offer, though, would you rather a girl offer than not? 0.78
00:01:27.460 It's not the offer.
00:01:27.620 That's offensive.
00:01:28.400 That's offensive, end of.
00:01:29.720 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:01:30.140 So then she could be used when I offer back in. 0.95
00:01:32.300 Girls need to get used to the fact that the car's on me, the cash is on me, tap it, end of. 1.00
00:01:37.420 Go.
00:01:38.160 It's not a way to go.
00:01:39.020 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:01:39.860 No, can I split this with you?
00:01:42.140 That's embarrassing for the man.
00:01:43.140 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:01:43.980 The man knows he has to pay.
00:01:45.480 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:01:45.920 And the girl should know to stand back. 1.00
00:01:47.760 Let him handle the finances.
00:01:49.300 Easy as.
00:01:50.160 You can't just say to your own man, oh, can I split the bill with you?
00:01:53.640 That's offensive.
00:01:54.880 That's the hell saying I'm friends with you.
00:01:56.840 So I'll offer to split the bill.
00:01:58.260 If you know he was truly your man, you would just leave it to him.
00:02:01.300 Go pay it, this and that.
00:02:02.660 You don't think about it.
00:02:03.420 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:02:03.880 Do you think if a guy accepts splitting the bill, he doesn't like her that much?
00:02:07.140 Then he's a bitch, bro. 1.00
00:02:08.000 Easy as, end of.
00:02:09.520 Okay.
00:02:10.280 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:02:11.080 Yeah.
00:02:11.400 Because he'll be like, oh, yeah, let me split the bill.
00:02:13.420 Do you think women that are not traditional deserve traditional treatment? 0.99
00:02:18.360 No.
00:02:19.580 Because most, I don't think traditional women exist in 2023. 1.00
00:02:23.440 I think some do.
00:02:24.420 I think some do.
00:02:24.880 I know a few virgins, to be fair. 0.99
00:02:26.820 I don't think, I think even a traditional woman can't be traditional because she's still 1.00
00:02:30.800 too influenced by the culture.
00:02:32.280 She doesn't live in a rat sack in the middle of nowhere.
00:02:35.520 It's TikTok, Instagram.
00:02:36.980 Right.
00:02:37.300 Because girls follow trends, right? 1.00
00:02:38.320 It changes everyone.
00:02:38.960 And I don't, like what percent of girls have their own cookbook of recipes from scratch? 0.97
00:02:44.720 What, what percent of girls, like what percent of girls, like genuinely the skills that our
00:02:48.200 grandmothers had, like that they could, you know, my grandma had nine kids and she managed 1.00
00:02:53.840 the household of nine kids.
00:02:55.000 She could sew, she could cook, she could clean.
00:02:57.100 And I'll just say, I can't do half of that shit.
00:02:59.340 I can't sew.
00:03:00.320 It is amazing.
00:03:01.280 Who here knows how to sew?
00:03:02.380 I do, but not very well.
00:03:03.280 I do.
00:03:04.940 I sew my clothes back together when they have a hole in it.
00:03:11.220 Okay, right.
00:03:12.380 But, but, but you see what I'm saying?
00:03:13.940 Like what percent of girls really have those skills? 1.00
00:03:16.140 So like one argument I've heard from guys is like, why would I treat her like a traditional
00:03:19.980 woman when like they're not? 1.00
00:03:21.580 The thing is, the thing is, the thing is, you have to train your girl, like I'm not even 0.96
00:03:26.820 being rude.
00:03:28.000 I'm not trying to say like she's something bad, but training her girl, like even if you
00:03:31.780 don't like the way she is, you can train her, you can mold her. 0.99
00:03:34.280 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:35.040 Mold her? 0.94
00:03:35.960 Not mold, but like train her.
00:03:37.500 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:37.840 Right.
00:03:38.180 No, I, I agree with you.
00:03:39.820 Like, I don't disagree.
00:03:40.600 I've just heard, I heard them, I think Brian talk about it on whatever.
00:03:43.840 And he's like, why would I split the bill when half the time I meet these girls and they're
00:03:47.780 going to sleep with another dude after the date?
00:03:50.560 So, and so, and so he's saying like, why, why would I do that?
00:03:53.760 And she has to prove to me that she's not like that before I'm really going to treat 0.88
00:03:57.120 her like that. 0.98
00:03:57.380 Even if she does sleep with guys, let's say you're out of her, yeah? 1.00
00:03:59.760 Yeah.
00:04:00.360 Cool.
00:04:00.600 You don't know that she's scared yet.
00:04:01.840 You still pay the bill.
00:04:02.700 That's your instinct as a month.
00:04:04.100 Even if she's slept with a hundred guys, you still pay the bill.
00:04:06.480 They're going to go like, oh, split the bill.
00:04:08.000 You can have the bill.
00:04:08.980 Shut up. 0.95
00:04:09.720 Just pay the bill.
00:04:10.420 Get on with it, bruv.
00:04:11.080 No matter what, then don't speak to her afterwards.
00:04:13.060 Easy as, you know what I'm saying?
00:04:14.800 I agree with him because I think when you want to date, you should, you should be dating
00:04:18.280 with intent for, first off.
00:04:19.620 Right.
00:04:19.900 You should be asking questions that are meaningful and purposeful and beneficial to your long
00:04:23.440 term commitment.
00:04:24.500 Right?
00:04:24.820 So if you realize that that girl's not a modern mentality woman, you said, as a man, pay the 0.86
00:04:31.660 bill, you enjoy your night.
00:04:33.020 Yeah.
00:04:33.360 I'm out.
00:04:33.740 Why am I going to waste my time with a girl that I know is not going to give me what I 1.00
00:04:37.120 need?
00:04:37.240 Unless you want to have fun with her for like one, two times, three times.
00:04:40.560 That's what you want to do.
00:04:42.920 You go to the club, pay the club bill, go to the house and then pay the drinks and then
00:04:47.860 have sex with her and then send her home, have sex with her again. 1.00
00:04:51.260 That's the lane you want to take.
00:04:52.680 But I mean, if you're looking for more than just fun, right?
00:04:55.600 You meet a girl, you realize she's not really that modern mentality.
00:04:58.640 She's a modern mentality woman. 1.00
00:05:00.400 She's not like more traditional values and morals.
00:05:02.900 Why am I going to waste my time?
00:05:04.460 I don't got no issue with you.
00:05:05.400 I'm just going to pay the bill.
00:05:06.280 You have a drink.
00:05:07.120 I think his thing is like he just doesn't want to waste his money on someone that is
00:05:11.840 modern or like a modern mentality because he's like, right, right.
00:05:15.820 Because she's most likely talking to like 10 dudes sleeping with another dude. 1.00
00:05:19.620 You know, I'm not, I'm not saying you do or you don't.
00:05:21.300 I was just curious what you think of that.
00:05:22.640 It's just the cost of taking risk, right?
00:05:24.860 You know what I'm saying?
00:05:25.640 Because you don't really know until you meet the person.
00:05:27.440 So if I invited her out, I mean, I got to take that out, right?
00:05:31.000 Would you guys go on another date with a guy if he didn't pay the bill?
00:05:36.260 Yeah.
00:05:36.880 To be fair, I've been on dates where I've paid for the date.
00:05:41.460 Yeah, so have I.
00:05:41.680 Yeah.
00:05:42.100 And it hasn't bothered me though.
00:05:43.580 Did you sleep with them?
00:05:44.060 It never.
00:05:45.880 No.
00:05:46.180 Yeah, no, I did.
00:05:47.060 No.
00:05:47.660 I did.
00:05:48.080 Oh, you did.
00:05:48.340 Okay.
00:05:48.720 I did.
00:05:49.320 You did?
00:05:49.820 Because it doesn't, stuff like that doesn't get to me.
00:05:52.580 I'm not that kind of person.
00:05:54.860 Um, yeah.
00:05:57.100 Yeah, no, it doesn't bother me.
00:05:58.180 But it wasn't at one time then.
00:06:00.000 I never saw him again, no.
00:06:01.100 There you go.
00:06:01.860 But it wasn't, it wasn't just because, it wasn't because of that.
00:06:04.200 I just didn't really like him like that, but.
00:06:06.240 Only in a relationship I will.
00:06:08.160 Mm-hmm.
00:06:09.920 You only sleep with a guy in a relationship.
00:06:12.340 Oh, no, wait.
00:06:13.040 What are we talking about?
00:06:13.640 Oh, no.
00:06:14.000 Oh, no.
00:06:14.560 You're talking about paying.
00:06:15.920 Yeah, I'm talking about paying, yeah.
00:06:17.100 What about, um, what about you?
00:06:19.720 If you had to go back, would you stay a virgin until you were married? 0.89
00:06:23.300 No.
00:06:23.660 You'll never change me.
00:06:27.480 No, no, it's just, it's crazy to me because you know it caused you trauma.
00:06:31.400 Like, you said that.
00:06:32.580 You see how it's damaging.
00:06:34.420 Like, why wouldn't you?
00:06:35.440 Because to me, if I, like, if I know, if I know a relationship, like, you know, because
00:06:40.440 people are like, oh, I wouldn't change anything.
00:06:42.140 And I think I would absolutely.
00:06:44.200 Maybe then, yeah.
00:06:44.960 Like, you know it didn't work.
00:06:47.120 Yeah, I see where you're coming from.
00:06:49.080 But, I don't know, I just don't like being bored.
00:06:51.900 I feel like I'd have too much temptation.
00:06:54.560 I'm not patient.
00:06:55.760 I'm not a patient person.
00:06:57.300 So, I feel like I'm.
00:06:57.740 Have you ever been in love?
00:06:58.920 Proper in love?
00:06:59.360 I'd know.
00:07:00.140 Never.
00:07:00.520 That's why, then.
00:07:01.120 That's probably why.
00:07:01.780 If you find a guy that you properly love, and that you're going to say hello to him for
00:07:05.020 the rest of your life, you have to find a guy that you proper love.
00:07:07.640 Yeah, maybe I just haven't had them emotions yet.
00:07:09.920 What do you think love is?
00:07:12.280 I think love is, I believe in love, I can't lie.
00:07:14.780 Yeah, what do you think it is?
00:07:15.820 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:07:16.320 Is it more than just a feeling?
00:07:17.600 It's when, I think it's different for boys and girls, I can't lie.
00:07:19.960 Yeah, I think so too.
00:07:21.220 So, for girls, it's a feeling, obviously.
00:07:23.420 It's not a physical thing, is it?
00:07:25.340 So, when a girl, as she only thinks about him, she sees her future with him only, 0.52
00:07:29.960 thinks in her head, I can't replace this guy, so I can't get anything better than him.
00:07:35.360 I'm going to stick with him.
00:07:36.620 He's the love of my life.
00:07:37.620 I respect him.
00:07:38.780 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:07:40.320 And for the man, that's a beautiful thing for a woman. 0.68
00:07:42.860 Yeah.
00:07:43.940 But the guy has to be high value.
00:07:45.560 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:07:46.400 A girl can't just be head over heels in love with a guy. 0.88
00:07:49.540 That's not high value.
00:07:50.620 It can't be a homeless guy that speaks words, like you were saying, and poems and that.
00:07:54.780 She won't fall head over heels in love with him.
00:07:56.880 That's in fairy tales.
00:07:57.720 It has to be high value for the value to matter, for the love to matter.
00:08:01.120 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:08:01.460 I think that's what I go through.
00:08:02.880 I feel like it's just a lust all the time.
00:08:04.880 Yeah, it's just a feeling.
00:08:05.700 It's not a love.
00:08:06.900 You know what I did the other day?
00:08:09.300 You can be in love more than once.
00:08:12.760 What, men? 0.56
00:08:13.540 Yeah, yeah.
00:08:14.340 Anyone, really.
00:08:15.300 I mean, I don't know about men, but I can speak for women on behalf.
00:08:19.260 Like, how come we have exes, right?
00:08:22.880 There must have been something there to spend that time with.
00:08:25.060 You clearly was in love with them, and then that didn't work out, and now you're in love
00:08:29.140 with someone else.
00:08:30.200 Yeah, but...
00:08:30.580 So it's just a feeling.
00:08:31.680 So you can have it with anyone.
00:08:32.580 Okay, I actually have a question.
00:08:33.660 Do you feel like the older you get, you can't fall in love as hard?
00:08:37.220 Because I think there's nothing like your first love.
00:08:39.700 Yeah.
00:08:40.040 Like, I think the first guy that you're really in love with, like, you don't ever fall in
00:08:43.740 love that hard again.
00:08:44.700 I think that's actually true for men and for women.
00:08:47.360 Like, I just think there's nothing like your first love.
00:08:50.300 And so it's like, why would I not want to feel that with my husband?
00:08:53.520 Because now it's like the love you experience with your husband isn't the same level of deep
00:08:58.700 as the one you experienced before.
00:09:01.100 I don't, do you know what?
00:09:01.800 I don't think I've ever been in, I feel like in the moment I feel like I'm in love.
00:09:05.640 But then even with my first going back, it was definitely just a love thing.
00:09:10.140 Yeah.
00:09:10.400 Definitely just a love thing.
00:09:11.620 In the moment, you like the feeling of the affection and you like the feeling of being
00:09:17.040 comforted, someone being there, just kind of like a friend, not them obviously being
00:09:21.660 a friend, but like someone being there, like your mum, you know, just the feeling of it.
00:09:25.620 And if you don't have that, you hold on to it more.
00:09:28.020 And when, especially with like damaged people, if people have gone and came back, gone and
00:09:32.840 came back and you get attachment issues.
00:09:34.940 So when you, when you do find that person that actually wants to be there.
00:09:39.000 And loves you the way that you know loved me.
00:09:41.820 And then they go.
00:09:44.240 Do you think that's love?
00:09:45.840 But like sometimes.
00:09:47.160 Well, they wouldn't have gone if it's love.
00:09:48.600 Yeah.
00:09:49.060 They'll always be in your life.
00:09:50.820 I disagree with that.
00:09:52.080 I think that people that love you can leave if you treat them poorly.
00:09:55.560 Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:09:56.300 And I think a lot of times with women, we always put ourselves as like the victim in relationships 1.00
00:10:00.280 when a lot of times we took him for granted or we treated him poorly.
00:10:03.220 And so he left and maybe he loved you, but he left.
00:10:06.120 Because he just got sick of the.
00:10:07.680 I think we're sold to dream.
00:10:08.960 Like we're told you have this Prince Charming that's waiting and you're just perfect enough
00:10:12.400 to do nothing.
00:10:13.040 Like even you, when I asked you like what skills are you working on to be a wife or to be 0.98
00:10:17.380 a mother?
00:10:18.080 You were like.
00:10:19.000 I know.
00:10:19.440 I've thought of some now to be there.
00:10:20.740 Iというの.
00:10:22.600 I think that's the key.
00:10:23.720 Yeah.
00:10:24.740 Alright.
00:10:26.460 I'll see you next week.
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