JustPearlyThings - June 12, 2023


Pearl DEMOLISHES Modern Women


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8 minutes

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222.85431

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1,802

Sentence count

155

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Misogyny

27

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Toxicity

24

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Hate speech

19

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In this episode, we discuss who are the selectors and who selects a woman for a husband. Is it the women? or the men? Who selects the woman? And who selects the man? We discuss this and much more.

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00:00:00.000 Why do you think women, and historically, like, the fathers have been involved. 0.99
00:00:04.540 Women suck at picking men. 1.00
00:00:06.180 We do. 1.00
00:00:07.280 I'm like it.
00:00:07.860 I'm not saying I'm better than any woman.
00:00:09.800 Like, it's always better to ask your dad or your brothers about a guy because, I'm sorry, we're not good in general.
00:00:16.540 But my issue is that people suck at selecting people because people tend to be traumatized and regurgitate their childhood in their relationships. 0.99
00:00:25.280 I don't think it's women who suck because if men didn't suck, they wouldn't have so many problems with women. 1.00
00:00:30.360 I think it's the West. 1.00
00:00:31.800 I think it's modern women. 1.00
00:00:32.760 A lot of men move and don't have these problems.
00:00:34.740 I know a guy, he moved from America to Brazil.
00:00:37.800 He doesn't have those problems there.
00:00:39.280 It's the West. 1.00
00:00:40.280 Maybe it's a Western problem, but you can't say women suck because if men didn't suck at selecting women, they wouldn't have so many. 1.00
00:00:46.160 But women are the selectors. 1.00
00:00:47.860 Women are the selectors. 1.00
00:00:48.940 So it doesn't, like you just said, when it comes to dating, women are the selectors. 1.00
00:00:51.700 They're the ones who are going to decide if the guys sleep with them or don't.
00:00:55.440 So they are the selectors.
00:00:58.140 But it's not about what you believe.
00:00:58.960 Because who decides if you get married? 0.91
00:01:02.140 The man.
00:01:02.740 Right.
00:01:03.460 Right.
00:01:03.800 So if divorces are high, what does that tell you?
00:01:05.620 Are men selecting badly or women are selecting badly if men decide marriage?
00:01:08.640 But women are leaving the marriages. 0.98
00:01:10.020 So they're making the decisions.
00:01:11.180 But the vetting process has to come from the man, right?
00:01:13.920 Yeah, but they're not divorcing, they're not divorcing, sorry, the women, the men aren't divorcing women.
00:01:20.300 The women are divorcing men, like you said. 1.00
00:01:21.720 And that is their decision to remove themselves from a situation where they've got everything they can from the marriage.
00:01:27.440 And it's usually based on how they feel about the man.
00:01:29.740 That doesn't mean that they're selecting, that's deselecting after they have everything.
00:01:33.120 But who selected that woman?
00:01:34.500 No, I mean, the men.
00:01:35.280 But what you think, so hold on a second.
00:01:36.460 If you said if you select a woman, you're saying the issue is that he's made a bad selection and that's why she's divorced him.
00:01:41.940 I think men and women make bad choices. 1.00
00:01:42.880 No, no, no, no, I said, you said that who selected the woman in the first place, that woman who has now divorced him.
00:01:50.640 So you're saying that because he's picked a bad woman in the beginning, who's going to divorce him eventually, it's his fault.
00:02:00.660 Is that what you're saying?
00:02:01.340 Yeah, selection, both sides.
00:02:02.800 If we're saying that women select that woman. 0.92
00:02:03.920 No, no, not both sides.
00:02:04.920 I'm asking directly that particular situation.
00:02:07.620 Absolutely, selection is everything.
00:02:08.860 So if men and women get divorced and women get divorced, 0.99
00:02:12.880 women start, I'm just trying to understand them, women initiate their divorce, that's the man's fault because they selected a woman. 0.99
00:02:20.600 Is that right?
00:02:21.120 It's not the man's fault.
00:02:22.560 It's not the man's fault that the women are paid to leave. 1.00
00:02:25.780 If you pay someone to do, like men have no say in that. 0.61
00:02:28.920 That's why I said it's the West.
00:02:30.040 They move.
00:02:30.540 They don't have these problems.
00:02:31.800 Where else in the world are men moving to get different wives because the women are so bad? 1.00
00:02:40.560 Moving to a whole new country.
00:02:42.220 Do you think you would have a happier marriage if you married someone outside of the West?
00:02:49.720 Me personally?
00:02:50.640 You guys.
00:02:52.080 I know you weren't giving that question to him.
00:02:53.940 No, no, but you can, no, no.
00:02:55.040 But I'm glad, actually, I'm glad you gave that question to me because even though my wife's Western or whatever, 0.65
00:03:00.560 but she was born in Egypt and she's been here from when she was young, her values are instilled from when she was younger in the country that she was born at.
00:03:09.020 So her Western art, she hasn't got the same level of Western ideals.
00:03:14.100 And I've always been like that.
00:03:15.020 I've always been with women who align with my morals and values.
00:03:18.580 And most of them women are either, their parents are either, you know, first generation or they've been born there or they've been born here, 0.90
00:03:26.420 but their parents have always been first generation and been in a successful, happy couple.
00:03:30.800 And that's always played a huge part into the selection process.
00:03:34.460 Do you think then you made a good selection?
00:03:36.260 A hundred percent.
00:03:36.860 So do you think selection matters when men are choosing women to marry?
00:03:40.260 Yes.
00:03:41.440 I'm glad we can agree.
00:03:43.960 But I'm not disputing it.
00:03:44.940 I'm not disputing it.
00:03:45.620 I'm just saying that if they've selected someone, no one, if you've selected someone, that is the best person that you could select based on yourself, the time, the options, et cetera.
00:03:54.520 But women change based on how they feel. 1.00
00:03:57.220 So if they feel differently, you know, things can change up.
00:04:00.040 That's why you should never base your decisions as a man on how she feels.
00:04:06.040 Because if, let's say you made a decision on how you felt and I went along with it and now your decisions change, the accountability isn't going to lie with you, it's going to lie with me.
00:04:14.980 Because I should have been man enough to turn around and be like, no, no, that's great.
00:04:18.360 That's how you feel now.
00:04:19.080 But that's not the plan.
00:04:19.820 Well, I did a video that went quite big.
00:04:21.940 And the main thing I said is men should always marry a woman that loves them more than they love them. 0.92
00:04:26.240 I agree.
00:04:27.040 Yeah.
00:04:27.560 And because that's part of the selection process.
00:04:30.080 If she doesn't love you, when men, they stay loyal to the cause.
00:04:32.700 They can stay in a marriage that they're not madly in love with because they see the bigger picture.
00:04:37.800 For women, they can't stay loyal to the cause. 1.00
00:04:39.580 So it's always important that you pick a woman that loves you more than you love her.
00:04:42.560 And you know what?
00:04:43.060 This goes across other boards as well with men in loyalty. 0.98
00:04:45.880 I think we're sometimes, you know, perceived as, oh, we're not loyal and we're scumbags, et cetera, et cetera. 0.94
00:04:52.020 There's young boys dying in the street because of loyalty to their friends. 0.87
00:04:56.180 And that doesn't go, that goes to that and it also goes into love of a woman. 0.51
00:05:00.480 So if they, our loyalty is not the issue.
00:05:02.880 Any manner of like integrity and loyalty and other men recognise them, going back to the high value or the alpha or however you want to describe it.
00:05:09.640 These are the kind of key traits.
00:05:10.820 It's not always just about money, loyalty, integrity.
00:05:12.940 These are the things that men judge other men not.
00:05:14.140 It's not the same as being faithful as well.
00:05:15.520 Loyal to the cause.
00:05:16.380 Like sticking with that woman, even if you, it's not the same as being faithful, unfortunately.
00:05:19.660 It doesn't mean the same thing.
00:05:20.740 Yeah, I agree.
00:05:21.600 I've been going to the same barber for like 15 years.
00:05:23.620 There you go. 1.00
00:05:24.520 Shut up. 1.00
00:05:24.880 So what was the next thing you said? 1.00
00:05:29.020 Women, women can't, what was the other things that you were saying? 1.00
00:05:33.020 Women think with their feelings. 1.00
00:05:35.160 So they always say things like fuck your feelings. 1.00
00:05:36.940 But my argument is if we know women are designed to have more emotional intelligence, we produce more estrogen, we produce more oxytocin. 1.00
00:05:45.460 We actually by design more emotional.
00:05:47.600 Why would that be an insult? 1.00
00:05:48.800 It's like saying to somebody, oh, you're disabled, fuck your legs. 1.00
00:05:51.820 Like, no, you're designed that way. 1.00
00:05:53.660 Why is that used as an insult?
00:05:54.880 To women. 0.64
00:05:55.800 I mean, I think he's just talking about like a lot of times women think their feelings are reality. 0.99
00:06:00.520 So girls on the show will come on the show and say this is like, this is how the world is because of how I feel.
00:06:06.940 Basically.
00:06:07.360 But that is her reality because that's how she's designed by biology. 1.00
00:06:09.820 But that's not what's true.
00:06:11.240 So for example, we could talk about the pay gap. 1.00
00:06:15.460 Women could feel like we make less than men, but he would say something like, fuck your feelings. 1.00
00:06:20.320 Yeah. 1.00
00:06:20.500 And so that's the context that he's using it in.
00:06:23.000 In that context, it makes sense because this pay gap is just not true.
00:06:25.720 But in general, we have innate mechanisms to make us feel more anxious than the situation is.
00:06:31.380 That's why we're mothers. 1.00
00:06:32.680 Why we get why we're so good at being mothers is because we sense danger when it's not there.
00:06:36.760 We think our baby's being left alone.
00:06:38.140 Oh, we've got to go.
00:06:38.780 Right.
00:06:38.880 We're designed by that.
00:06:39.940 And if we weren't governed by our feelings, we'd both be like, OK, baby's asleep.
00:06:44.060 Don't need to check on it.
00:06:44.840 But biologically, we're designed to be more feeling based.
00:06:47.400 It's what makes women beautiful, which is not an insult.
00:06:50.620 And he uses it as an insult.
00:06:51.960 I don't think he's using it as an insult.
00:06:53.640 I think he's just saying it doesn't work in a debate when you're talking about topics.
00:06:57.480 But it works in a discourse.
00:06:59.020 If you're going to communicate to women and men are going to communicate with women, 0.76
00:07:03.380 that if they don't recognize that women exercise feelings and women don't recognize men exercise logic,
00:07:08.620 they'll never be compatible.
00:07:09.920 You have to talk in that language.
00:07:11.360 I think he knows that women exercise. 0.99
00:07:12.820 But, OK, like this is an example of you as a woman telling men how they need to talk to us. 1.00
00:07:18.900 And it's like you're trying to dictate like how men need to say things.
00:07:22.840 But that's not how men do things.
00:07:24.980 Men talk how they talk. 0.97
00:07:28.000 And so it's like, why would I go to a man and say you have to talk like a woman? 0.98
00:07:31.340 Because I know that if I'm a man and if I've got a son as well,
00:07:34.860 I know I have to speak to him from a place of logic for him to understand it.
00:07:37.940 He won't understand if I talk to him entirely emotionally.
00:07:40.080 So if you come to me as a man with a problem, I will say, me and Nathaniel talk all the time,
00:07:44.560 and I'll say I'll give him practical advice because he's a man.
00:07:46.980 And I speak his language.
00:07:48.200 He will give me more emotional advice because he recognizes I'm a woman.
00:07:50.980 That's how we have intelligent discourse.
00:07:52.400 I've been giving you logical advice.
00:07:53.580 He does give me logical advice.
00:07:54.460 I can't just...
00:07:55.780 Yeah.
00:07:56.620 That seems quite strong.
00:07:58.080 That's how life works.
00:07:59.440 Yeah, but not overall.
00:08:00.360 No, but not overall.
00:08:01.180 That's your experience.
00:08:02.140 That's your experience.
00:08:02.980 That's exactly what you said there.
00:08:04.160 But that's how healthy discourse...