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In this episode, we discuss the controversial topic of whether or not it's selfish to post naked pictures of your kids online when you know you're going to have kids later. Do you think it sets a good example for your children? Is it a wise thing to do? Should you protect your kids from seeing their own private parts on the internet when they grow up? Do you want them to grow up in a safe environment where they are not exposed to the same things you were exposed to when you were growing up? Are you a good mother because of the things you post about yourself on social media?
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do you guys think it's selfish to put promiscuous things on the internet knowing that you want to
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have kids later yeah yeah yeah no very i hate to say it yeah who said who said no i said no why
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because you're your own human being and i think that you should shelter your children from that
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until they're of age to understand that you are an adult that's made your own choices
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um and that they are an adult and they can make their own choices you don't think the family comes
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before you because that just sounds like me me me i'm my own person but a family's supposed to be
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one unit it's so difficult though to make those decisions before you're a mother because it does
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change like you can regret you can change there are there are women who i think are fantastic mothers
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that have been corn stars that have been prostitutes that can move on get married have kids and just
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have a normal life i like shannon rose on youtube she's a big ex-corn star i think she's a great
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mother it's not to say that they can't be a great mother but we're talking about the decision
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the decision like why would you put something on the internet when you have kids later you might
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not want children then but even so it's like if i don't think that's why i said that's why i said
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knowing you're going to have kids later i didn't say you don't want kids i don't think that you should
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live your entire life of like oh what would my children think like i just really i do i think you
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should have a legacy that you'd be proud of that you want your kids to see i don't think that that
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defines you though i don't think posting some racy pictures on the internet is what defines you
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don't think your your actions define who you are like your choices your life choices we see time
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and time again that all these tick tock trains of going like look how hot my mum was when she was
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young you know like people don't care they love seeing racy pictures of their parents but you're
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not going to see like videos of your mom that's a rarity that ain't true i might see a picture of my mum at a party back in the day
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that's different than sleeping with someone but if people are posting pictures of like
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their parents because their parents look good like people look good you go i mean that people
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are not just attractive now they've been attractive yeah but like if you're going around and you're
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posting pictures of yourself naked on the internet and stuff like that like and you know you want kids
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later you gotta remember everything comes around 360 you want your kids to look at you after they've
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seen you so modest your whole life and then they're seeing you just posting yourself and
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flaunting yourself on the internet like you've got no respect for yourself like i just it doesn't set
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a good example especially if it's something you can't take off okay what do you think it's about
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go ahead i think you're just an adult that can make your decisions again trisha paytas another example
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she has a terrible history on the internet she's done everything wrong you could possibly do but
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everything i see of her as a mother i think she's fantastic i think she's a great mother i think that her
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children you think a woman with bipolar disorder she's got borderline personality girl how do you
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know if she's a good mother literally what we see on social media yeah but are the best mothers
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putting their kids on social media is that a wise thing to do i understand the the point that you're
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making but all i can do is use the examples that i see in the media because i don't know anyone in my
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personal life that's done corn and then gone on to have children which is why i have to use those
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examples um but what i would say is that like i think it's important to shelter your children from
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a period of time and then when they're old enough have an adult conversation of being like mum did
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this here it is you know like just with the internet you can't you don't have that you don't have that
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choice like some kid in the playground when they're eight years old is going to find it and you know
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that you don't have that ownership of the of the entire web like and i'm not saying i'm one way or the
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other but you can't say that i'm gonna wait until they're 16 years old and then it's all gonna be fine
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because they'll find out way before i think the main point is it doesn't make you a bad mother i
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think that's wild to say that doing corn makes you a bad mother it's more a case of just know that
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all your actions have consequences yeah and i think your kids reap that consequence yeah but usually
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every time someone has that sort of past and they have kids it's almost as if they want a clean state
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and they want to erase it for example black china's trying to do that kim kardashian is trying to do that so
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it just comes i think it's just something about motherhood and you know having your own kids that
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you don't want them to see what you had to do or that choice that you made because at that time
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you're just doing what kind of works for your lifestyle but once you become a mother and you're
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trying to set an example that's where it comes in where you're like actually i don't want my kids to
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see that because one you don't want your kids to follow in those sort of footsteps you know sorry no
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it's just nothing to say that they're bad parents but it's just a proven you know opinion that i think
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they're worse parents do you think so yeah yeah i do i think you're you're probably a balance of
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if i had to guess you're probably a worse parent if you did corn than the people that didn't most
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likely if i had to guess if i had to like bet on it i would probably bet on the one do you not think
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they're just going to be trying to prove exactly no i think that people that make those decisions think
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about themselves before their future families and i think a lot of those people are selfish and they
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they want a quick they want a quick out um they want quick money as opposed to doing things the
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hard way or the right way yeah i don't disagree with that but also you've got the you're talking
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about future children that you may never have and you may not be able to have so you're living your
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life for 30 years of your life for these imaginary children that you could never have i think the best
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mothers wanted to be mothers from a young age so if i had to pick yeah if i had to pick the the women
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typically that make the best mothers like if i had an a plus you wanted that from a young age and that's
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all they wanted and i think being a parent i think the bottom and top line of being a great parent is
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being selfless yeah and i think you know that's one of the hardest traits a woman um any human that
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can actually do because being so you you're naturally selfish anyway you know you go out to get money for
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yourself well obviously it's for the family and stuff but it's for you to also look after yourself
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do certain things and whatever so we're naturally selfish i think mastering you know the trait of
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being selfless is what makes you a good mother a good mother or good father trust me that comes
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naturally like as soon as you have children but then lips i think you have to try and be selfless
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beforehand and i think like you said you might you i could be preparing for kids god forbid but i could
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never have but i've got nieces coming up behind me i've got women coming up behind me that i also
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have a duty that i feel to influence and i don't want to influence them in the wrong way and i don't
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want people on the street word on the street is your auntie's doing x y and z i don't want my nieces
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going through that you'll speak or your parents or your siblings like if i like if i didn't corn tomorrow
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like that's that's me if tomorrow i started an only fans like i would be thinking of myself over my
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family that's so embarrassing to my whole family my mom went through all that labor for me to go
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out and do that i don't think all of us here though is speaking from a point of privilege where we have
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a choice like we have a choice everyone here has a job we earn a living we're fine there are a lot of
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people coerced into corn there are a lot of people that find themselves trapped in it i think that it's
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unfair to say that those people i think it's perfectly fair because men are in the same situation and
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they don't have an out they just go to mcdonald's it's not if the women don't want to go to mcdonald's
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that they choose to do they tend to join the army but yeah well joining the army is better than giving
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that yeah but that's the point like women women we have a choice and so if they make the selfish choice
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it's i think we can assume they're more selfish i don't i mean women are trafficked every day and
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then end up in corn and then we're not we're not we're not talking about women that are trafficked
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we're talking about women but like you keep going to an exception and not the rule we're talking about
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women that choose to do corn i'm not i'm not talking about women that work trafficked yeah so
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do you think women that have done that in their past should not have the privilege of having children
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no i think i think everyone should everyone should have kids yeah everyone should have the choice but
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you can't take away the accountability of knowing that that action was selfish and that you have to
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take accountability for what your kids could go through and you've got to take responsibility for that
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and at one point in your life you might have to apologize for that and i think that's where
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women don't that's what women don't do it's like no but they shouldn't be going through this because
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of x y that and they shouldn't yeah that's just life it's like i shouldn't have to always have to
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think about locking my doors and locking my windows if i leave my house but i have to be why because
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i might not come back to no yard i'm going to answer your question i think that women that have done
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of or corn should be able to have children if they want however i think that men should not get them
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pregnant yeah why would i tell a guy to pick her when he could pick someone that didn't doesn't do
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it like would you want your brother to pick someone that did corn or of or your son
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someone will always do it though so that'll yeah yeah but then also too that that maybe comes from
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the part that if you do corn then you're like like you're written off as a woman that's what you know
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like it's you know it's like like people like what they like and i just think that if that's the
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path that you had to take whether it was your choice or not then there's there just has to be
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some accountability when you do have kids and be like okay this was me and can i just say when you
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said sorry that choice i think you know when it even comes to men that say you know you don't want to
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work in mcdonald's you don't want a normal job you gotta do whatever it is you want to do most of these
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things normally stem from which is you want more money to do more things that are actually not
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substantial they're not things that you need they're things that you want so ultimately that
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choice isn't coming from a place of need it's coming from a place of one you don't want to work
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in mcdonald's because you don't want to wear primark you don't want to work in mcdonald's because you
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don't want to always have to eat let's say corn beef and rice you want to be going fat crab and you
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want to be doing stk like what what is the reasons for you making these choices is it for a reasonable
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sacrifice or is it because it's just selfish again for the for the reasons of your own well-being
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to be heightened most people in corn aren't earning big money though that's a small percentage
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of people that are earning big bucks do people go into corn to make little money is that their
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intention nobody goes into any job to make little money okay so it's still her point is still the
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same you do it for a quick money hmm people go into just because just because you're bad at it
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like you still went in for the same intention yeah i'd be so embarrassed i'd be so embarrassed if i
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started an ounce and nobody bought it like do you think people go to start a line to make
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guys don't go to start a line or do certain things to be making the same wage yeah as a man that's earning
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30k i think from a guy point of view as i said like i don't think it writes you off as a woman as you said
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there's always going to be men that do go for go for that especially if they think the girl is
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beautiful and everything like that they'll still go there but i think it's just i think where it
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only just winds me up is you know like mia khalifa for example goes into corn makes loads of money does
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really well decides it's not for her and then it's like well no one should be judging me for what i've
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done and that's just the world that we live in she didn't make loads of money that's why she's annoyed
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she didn't make anything no she still did do very well no there's a number one she was the number
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one yeah and she didn't get the money for it she got a small pay for what she did initially this is
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her whole thing that's why she's on social media speaking out against how much did she make i think
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it was like 10 000 pounds no i'm pretty sure it was and then she said the production company took
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everything else because that was that was like the first tick tock i saw from her was her talking about
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how like she was taken advantage of taken advantage oh come on she was not taken advantage of i mean
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she's a very young girl and she did some extremely regret she was like what 18 i don't i don't know
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in my first job at a uni i took a job very very silly because it was very it's quite near my home
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it was like a recruitment job for like 16 500 pounds i could sit there and say that i was taking
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advantage of no i was just silly i made a very stupid and dumb choice and it is what it is i
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learned from it like come on we all have to be accountable for our choices i can't just say oh
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because she was a young girl come on i think you're underestimating how manipulative these industries are
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she chose to get into it she wanted to make money she made money she's upset about the amount she made
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cool but she wanted to make that money anyway so regardless whether she made 20 pounds or
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100k like and even what she wanted and even if you just saw the stats there as well even if she
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made 10 000 which i know it was more than that but let's say it was 10 000 that's a lot of money for
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a girl that i'm not saying that she didn't get ripped off by the production company i agree with
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you on that but that's still a substantial amount of money i don't think that's a lot of money for what
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you're doing and the fact that you then can't go back and it's the same with like um lana rhodes that's
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another one that speaks out constantly about how she was coerced into doing more and more and more
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and she was constantly told by this production company we've done it now you can't go back you've
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done it now you can't go back but do you see the tendency stories it's all time she was made to
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drink her own sick she chose to drink her own she just like like why do we say coerce when it's a
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choice you chose something this is the consequence nobody's gonna respect you ever and why did the
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crazy thing is these corn stars they still use their corn names if you're so ashamed why do you still
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have your corn name go back to your legal name that's the only way that she can make money now
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is by influencing essentially she has so she still makes money off her name mcdonald's is hiring she
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could go to mcdonald's she just wants the lifestyle and the attention or she could chain make money off
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of changing the narrative literally she is that's exactly what she's doing she's still using her name
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exactly and she knows that people are still going to look for her under her name for that reason and
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you still use it because it makes her money it's a continuation of what that gave her the
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popularity and she's now using it to to get the income that she now feels that she deserves basically
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i think she is totally entitled to that she's her own personality now and her whole thing is speaking
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out against the corn industry but i support her but the reason why she's using that name is because
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it's like it's funny when your parents talk to you and things come back to you it's like
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you know that's what they say sometimes do the best things that you want to be and be who you
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want to be while you're young because ultimately the reason why they're still using these cornstar
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names is because they're on borrowed time now they wasted all this time if you know if you notice the
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bottom line in all these situations people are angry because this is time time is the currency you can
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never get back i mean i think it's just back to accountability like women don't want to take
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accountability for anything yeah like she i mean i would respect it more sorry i would respect it more
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if she doesn't use words like i was coerced like and she just owned it like i did it it was stupid
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i'm moving on yeah and changed her name i just can't how much can you regret it if you have the
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same name like if if that was me and i was so ashamed i wouldn't want to have anything to do with
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it i wouldn't want anyone to associate that name with me yeah but i think it's devil's advocate again
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i just believe that they're using these names like he said they're not taking accountability one
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but two because they feel like they're on borrowed time so they're trying to find this minimal thing
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to help them still reap the benefit of that time that they wasted do you see what i mean yeah i
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disagree i feel like it's almost like another bailout for women's bad decisions so you can go on like a
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whole apology tour it's like you can do that and then go back and make more money apologizing for it
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it's like a it's like a system yeah that needs to be broken to be honest