JustPearlyThings - November 02, 2023


Pearl DESTROYS Ignorant Feminist


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9 minutes

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1,839

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152

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Is there ever an age when a woman should consider taking marriage off the table? Is it ever too late for a woman to get married if she's over 35 years old? And what value does a man get from a woman over the age of 35?

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00:00:00.000 So I want to say, is there ever an age where a woman should consider, you know, like take marriage off the table? 0.53
00:00:08.020 Like marriage is, you know, marriage is no longer for you.
00:00:11.960 I don't think the average age of first marriage is 31 in the UK.
00:00:15.940 So at what age would it be easier if a woman took marriage off the table? 1.00
00:00:22.160 I don't think women should take marriage off the table. 1.00
00:00:24.460 Never.
00:00:25.080 Never.
00:00:28.280 That's women. 1.00
00:00:29.020 And men might have a different answer to that about marriage. 0.73
00:00:32.380 I'm going to, I'm going to want some hands here.
00:00:35.780 All right.
00:00:36.400 So if a woman is 50, should she take marriage off the table? 1.00
00:00:39.880 Raise your hand.
00:00:41.440 Who wants to marry a 50 year old? 1.00
00:00:43.300 Really?
00:00:43.880 50?
00:00:44.580 Okay.
00:00:45.280 All right.
00:00:46.040 35.
00:00:46.800 Should she take marriage off the table?
00:00:49.560 35.
00:00:50.560 Okay.
00:00:51.120 Then.
00:00:51.760 All right.
00:00:52.080 So basically the women think marriage is on the table forever. 1.00
00:00:56.020 Yeah.
00:00:56.180 What, why would a man marry a woman that's over the age of 35? 0.98
00:01:00.460 For what purpose?
00:01:01.260 Because you've got an eternal illness.
00:01:07.560 Wow.
00:01:08.040 What value does a guy get from a woman over the age of 35? 1.00
00:01:14.280 Companionship.
00:01:14.960 If you was with that individual for a substantial amount of time, that's okay.
00:01:18.860 If you met somebody randomly, it's a bit iffy buddy.
00:01:22.320 No, no.
00:01:22.860 She's, you met her 35 plus.
00:01:25.260 That's, well, 35.
00:01:26.500 There's no problem with that at all.
00:01:28.300 Okay.
00:01:28.560 50 odd.
00:01:30.340 Do you know what?
00:01:31.560 For me, yeah, this is a bit mad car.
00:01:33.700 If you meet someone that's 50, yeah, and you like them and you have a connection with
00:01:37.720 them and companionship, why would you not want to marry a woman? 0.95
00:01:41.580 I agree.
00:01:41.680 Well, what's the purpose of marriage?
00:01:43.760 Say it again, say it?
00:01:44.200 Family, kids.
00:01:45.580 Disagree.
00:01:46.220 Agree.
00:01:46.840 You're not going to get none of that.
00:01:48.140 And that's it.
00:01:49.220 But what if both partitions don't want that?
00:01:51.520 They don't want kids? 1.00
00:01:52.340 You get an up headache for 30, 20 year olds.
00:01:53.080 I would say, what's the point of marriage?
00:01:54.680 Yeah, zero point.
00:01:55.520 But I think marriage is different for 50 year olds than it would be for a 30 year old.
00:01:58.780 30 year old, yeah.
00:01:59.960 I think it's completely different.
00:02:01.800 Their mindset of marriage is completely different.
00:02:03.260 Different, yeah.
00:02:04.100 Well, I would say that at that point, you know, just being a long term relationship, what's
00:02:08.200 the point of marriage?
00:02:10.360 That's why I say, when does it go off the table?
00:02:12.500 Because it benefits the women and the women's going to get something. 1.00
00:02:15.460 You say never.
00:02:16.640 You say never.
00:02:17.580 It's never off the table.
00:02:19.040 You guys, when did you, when should, Sterling, when do you think?
00:02:21.980 Well, I'm like.
00:02:22.980 Under 25 to 30.
00:02:24.240 Under 25 is the kind of woman I would ask to marry me. 1.00
00:02:27.120 Okay.
00:02:27.660 Above that, again, like I said before, I don't see the runway there.
00:02:31.900 Like, the time, there's not enough time.
00:02:34.900 So you wouldn't marry anybody over 25?
00:02:36.860 I'm going to go with 25 as well.
00:02:38.500 I'd only go with 30 if I've been over it for a while.
00:02:43.500 He's like, let me bargain with it.
00:02:45.480 You get it.
00:02:46.400 Okay, so all the, and you say under 45.
00:02:49.100 Yeah, 50 is pushing it, but like around the 40 mark, cool, we're good.
00:02:53.180 All right.
00:02:53.740 So I'm going to wait.
00:02:55.800 50 should be gone before I'm gone.
00:03:01.020 Who here thinks women should never take marriage off the table?
00:03:06.900 Wow.
00:03:08.060 We love selling dreams.
00:03:10.400 Yeah, let them be happy.
00:03:12.280 Let them go get their little marriage thing. 1.00
00:03:13.800 No, you know what your chance, if you, after you're the age of 35 is, of getting a ring, ladies?
00:03:18.320 Who wants to know?
00:03:19.160 It's like 5%.
00:03:20.160 Higher than that.
00:03:21.700 Oh, okay.
00:03:24.180 15% over the age of 35.
00:03:26.880 They get a ring.
00:03:28.260 They get married.
00:03:29.120 And that's the previous generation.
00:03:31.200 So I would guess if you're not married after 35 in this generation where marriage is less common, it's probably going to go down.
00:03:36.640 I was going to say this generation will probably never get married. 0.99
00:03:38.740 I think we're just setting ourselves up for failure at this point at the end of the day.
00:03:42.060 If we say we're never taking marriage off the table, you're ultimately setting yourself up to fail.
00:03:46.480 Because I think realistically, if you're not actually, you know, married or engaged by 25, chances are it's probably never going to happen.
00:03:53.000 And if you tell yourself one day it's going to happen, one day it's going to happen, you're constantly living in hope and expectation.
00:03:58.640 So then when it doesn't happen and you're on your deathbed and you're not married, you're going to be thinking, oh, I've not found love.
00:04:04.200 But it's like, if you put it out your mind, if you just say, like, by the time I'm 25, if I'm not married, I'm going to put it out of my mind.
00:04:11.540 If it happens, great.
00:04:13.640 But then if it doesn't, at least then you're not going to be upset that you didn't get it.
00:04:18.040 Well, we've been sold.
00:04:18.880 We've been sold a lie that women deserve a husband and that all women are going to get them. 1.00
00:04:23.520 And when the truth of the matter is most women, most women will not have a happy ending. 1.00
00:04:27.780 Like most, if you look at the stats, half of women aren't going to have kids or a husband out of the half that do have kids if they get married. 1.00
00:04:35.660 So maybe let's say the other half gets married, half will fail.
00:04:39.600 So you have one in four women that will stay married if that. 1.00
00:04:42.660 And I'd argue it's even lower because you have to account for women that had kids and didn't get married. 0.99
00:04:47.240 There's a big thing here as well, like a big part of why I set that age range so low is because the higher up that ladder you go, the more entitlement women tend to have. 1.00
00:05:00.060 Like if you look at that video we watched before, there was at least one of those women in that clip. 1.00
00:05:03.960 She was like, why don't men open doors anymore?
00:05:06.380 That's just one little example.
00:05:08.060 You'll see lots of clips like that on TikTok of women who are, you know, in their 30s. 1.00
00:05:12.740 Not just in that clip, but their level of entitlement seems to stack up the longer they have waited for someone to pop the question.
00:05:22.320 Do you think men shouldn't open doors? 0.99
00:05:24.500 I think they absolutely should open doors, 100%.
00:05:26.900 No, I was going to say, so you feel like women feel more entitled after 25? 0.91
00:05:30.780 Yeah, because they haven't got what they were promised.
00:05:33.360 Like Pearl just said, there's this level of, they've been promised, they've been sold this dream their whole life since they were a young girl.
00:05:39.260 Like, you're a princess, you're going to find your prince charming, this is going to happen.
00:05:42.220 And it hasn't happened yet, hasn't happened yet, hasn't happened yet.
00:05:44.920 That expectation is building up and up and up, and that builds that entitlement along with it.
00:05:49.300 But if we're raising young girls to believe that they deserve prince charming, are we raising our sons to be prince charming?
00:05:58.140 No, we're not.
00:05:59.420 So how do you expect to expect something if it's not even been brought forward?
00:06:05.640 Wait, are you, can you explain that more?
00:06:07.240 Are we raising our sons to be prince charming?
00:06:09.160 If you, he said, you know, the entitlement is almost installed in you from a young girl, you're a princess, you deserve this.
00:06:15.740 So when you don't get it past 25, the entitlement's already a part of you.
00:06:19.860 Yeah.
00:06:20.160 So touch whatever age.
00:06:21.760 But so is this supposed prince charming that we've raised her.
00:06:25.140 If we have a son, are we raising him to be the perfect gentleman that we expect for someone's daughter? 0.54
00:06:30.640 Because if someone's son.
00:06:31.980 Right, but who is he being a gentleman for?
00:06:33.980 No, but that's my whole point.
00:06:35.960 If we're raising her to have expectations, I mean, somebody has a son.
00:06:40.280 Are you raising your son to be a prince charming as a young woman, as a wife or a mother?
00:06:45.220 Well, I would say, I would say women don't reward prince charming. 0.98
00:06:48.680 No.
00:06:49.140 They don't, they don't, women do not reward good behavior. 1.00
00:06:52.020 Nope.
00:06:52.720 In general.
00:06:53.340 Not at all.
00:06:53.600 I would say if women did reward good behavior and chivalry, then you would see more of it. 1.00
00:06:58.440 Because men will do anything to get sex. 1.00
00:07:00.460 But if we don't reward it, how can we be mad when they don't do it?
00:07:04.860 So who's entitled?
00:07:06.920 Women. 0.81
00:07:07.720 Oh.
00:07:08.380 Women, because. 1.00
00:07:09.320 Not because they want a reward for being, having decency and manners and courtesy and chivalry.
00:07:15.460 Women, women, no, because they, because, because they're not, we're not traditional. 0.98
00:07:19.780 Exactly.
00:07:20.480 That's the point.
00:07:21.380 So it's like we're asking for traditional.
00:07:23.600 A 25 year old was probably, if a 24 year old was born not that long ago, 24 years ago,
00:07:31.060 we're in a society where this is not a part of their norm.
00:07:35.500 What isn't a part of the norm?
00:07:37.080 To be traditional.
00:07:39.260 Right.
00:07:39.720 Yeah.
00:07:39.840 So you are raised, she's being raised to be a part of a masculine world that is what the 1.00
00:07:47.360 norm is now.
00:07:48.160 Right.
00:07:48.600 So a more traditional woman is probably going to be older, but unfortunately she's been cut 1.00
00:07:53.000 off because she's expired.
00:07:54.900 No, I would say more traditional women are going to be married. 1.00
00:07:58.720 It's traditional.
00:07:59.520 Right.
00:07:59.760 Because traditional women get married before the age of 25, typically. 1.00
00:08:03.680 Perhaps.
00:08:04.180 Yeah.
00:08:04.360 So, so I would say, no, the older women that are still single, like they have a term for 1.00
00:08:09.240 it.
00:08:09.360 It's called leftover in China.
00:08:11.320 They call women over, and I think it's over the age of 30 or maybe even 27, 28, and they
00:08:19.680 just call them leftover.
00:08:20.700 Because like, if the product's amazing, wouldn't someone have bought it?
00:08:24.360 Mm-hmm.
00:08:27.200 Notice in the language you're using as well, it's like, it's, it's all always, what does
00:08:33.660 she deserve? 0.80
00:08:34.840 It's not, what has she earned?
00:08:37.000 Mm-hmm.
00:08:37.600 It's, that's what, that's what I'm saying about the entitlement, right?
00:08:39.900 That's what entitlement means.
00:08:41.180 Yeah, exactly.
00:08:41.720 That's what, I'm, I'm just elaborating, right?
00:08:44.140 It's not, we're not teaching young women like, oh, you need to earn your Prince Charming. 0.96
00:08:49.440 You need to earn a good man, a good husband.
00:08:51.400 You should be given.
00:08:51.940 You should just be given, you should, you're entitled to it, and it should just come to
00:08:54.780 you one day, magically from the sky, without you actually like, sitting down and saying,
00:09:00.940 you know what, I, I, here's, here's when I want to get married by, I want to get, and
00:09:03.980 I'm going to put it at a reasonable age, because I'm, I, I know that it's a competition, because
00:09:08.560 everything's a competition in life, right?
00:09:10.000 Mm-hmm.
00:09:10.940 And so I'm going to take my dating decisions a lot more seriously, right, than, than most women 0.99
00:09:18.800 tend to do at a younger age.