JustPearlyThings - November 13, 2023


Pearl DISMANTLED Modern Women with These Stats


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In this episode, we talk about where have all the good women gone in society? Why are there not enough good women? Why is it so hard to find a good woman? How do we know who the good ones are?

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00:00:00.000 Hey, we're going to talk about where have all the good women gone. 1.00
00:00:03.960 So one thing I always hear is where have all the good men gone, right, in society.
00:00:09.060 However, I just started looking up some stats, okay.
00:00:11.800 One in three women have an STD.
00:00:13.600 One in three women have had an abortion.
00:00:15.140 38% of kids are born into single-parent homes.
00:00:17.640 The average age of first child is 26, which is before the average age of first marriage, which is 30.
00:00:23.200 45% of marriages end in divorce.
00:00:24.980 The average number of partners for a woman is between four and eight.
00:00:28.400 And when women get above five partners, their chance of a happy marriage goes from 80% to 20%, depends on the study, plus or minus 10%.
00:00:36.820 And if men pick the wrong woman, they can be financially ruined, and their kids can be taken from them. 0.98
00:00:44.100 And on top of that, 70% of women, 60, 70% of women are overweight in the U.S. 0.94
00:00:51.060 So the question is, how does a guy identify a good woman?
00:00:56.060 And what percent of women do you think are good women? 0.99
00:00:58.400 Mm, really good question.
00:01:00.440 How does a guy identify a good woman?
00:01:02.440 I think mostly it's looks, but that's not how they do it.
00:01:05.560 But I think it's about a vibe, actually.
00:01:08.340 It's about an energy, and it's about respect.
00:01:11.840 If a woman, you know, can really show this man that she respects him. 0.98
00:01:15.880 Okay.
00:01:16.300 But in the beginning, that's challenging.
00:01:17.940 Because, you know, you're on a first date.
00:01:19.560 I think the first indication is usually looks.
00:01:22.000 What was the second question, Pearl?
00:01:23.380 What percent of women do you think are good women? 1.00
00:01:25.680 Ooh, in this day and age.
00:01:27.280 Yes.
00:01:27.600 I think women are so confused. 1.00
00:01:29.900 It's really hard to say.
00:01:31.060 I would say, good woman, what do you mean by that?
00:01:34.120 What I mean by that?
00:01:35.160 I think a good woman is probably less than 10% these days. 1.00
00:01:37.860 Okay.
00:01:38.700 I think a good woman is a healed woman. 0.97
00:01:40.840 So I feel like the reason why there's not much good women out there 1.00
00:01:45.220 is because no one really knows how to heal
00:01:46.780 and recover from their past relationships and traumas.
00:01:50.280 And so they bring those over.
00:01:51.800 Would good women not be, like, broken to begin with? 0.99
00:01:53.860 Yeah, 100%.
00:01:54.480 Yeah.
00:01:54.960 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:55.640 And so I feel like they found ways to heal,
00:01:58.040 and they've, like, taken time out to isolate themselves.
00:02:01.420 And I feel like maybe then they will be able to move forward
00:02:04.100 and find the right partner for the right reasons.
00:02:06.220 And I feel like why the percentage may be so low
00:02:10.200 is because no one's really willing to do the hard, dark shadow work.
00:02:14.580 What do you mean shadow work?
00:02:16.080 Because whenever I hear, like, this stuff, no offense,
00:02:18.940 like the shadow work, the healing, I always hear, like, nothing.
00:02:22.600 Like, never, like, real concrete steps of, like,
00:02:25.360 so if you're a woman, you're trying to improve, what do you do?
00:02:27.900 So you're trying to, like, your ego, you know, the dark side of you,
00:02:31.780 the side that you don't show anyone but it can come out.
00:02:34.500 So you're trying to, like, kind of tame that
00:02:36.380 and work on your insecurities
00:02:38.460 and all the things that you don't want people to see.
00:02:40.920 Okay.
00:02:41.440 And so you can...
00:02:42.580 How do you work on them?
00:02:44.140 I mean, for me personally, I write down, I journal stuff.
00:02:47.440 So I write things down, my fears
00:02:49.680 or things I don't like about myself or that I want to change
00:02:52.140 or that I feel I'm expressing maybe in the wrong way.
00:02:56.400 And so I try and, like, find ways to fix that
00:02:59.020 and just, you know, work on that side.
00:02:59.980 So how are you, like, held...
00:03:01.240 You know, like, if I want to lose weight,
00:03:02.620 you go to a personal trainer and they say, like, good, bad.
00:03:05.140 Like, how do you hold yourself accountable to...
00:03:07.380 Oh, doing research, finding a routine,
00:03:10.200 making sure that you're consistently keeping up with things
00:03:12.540 and maintaining that process?
00:03:15.280 Yeah, like, this just kind of sounds like nothing to me.
00:03:18.240 Do you think?
00:03:18.480 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:03:19.040 Okay.
00:03:19.340 I'm just... I'm sorry.
00:03:20.720 But it's real.
00:03:21.480 No, no, it's not.
00:03:21.960 No, no, but, like, whenever I hear girls, like, talk about this, 0.98
00:03:25.700 it just sounds like, okay, I write in my journal
00:03:28.040 and I Google things online and I try to be better,
00:03:33.520 but there's no, like, accountability,
00:03:35.100 like, anyone keeping you in check
00:03:36.440 to, like, show that you are getting better.
00:03:38.380 I think most people don't have anyone to keep them in check.
00:03:42.020 When there's a will, there's a way.
00:03:43.500 If you really want to change, 0.99
00:03:44.960 then you will make sure that you get that shit done. 0.97
00:03:46.720 Right, so if you're talking to a guy 0.99
00:03:48.580 and he says, like, okay, you said,
00:03:51.780 I was broken before, I'm healed now.
00:03:53.100 Like, what steps would you show him that I am now healed?
00:03:56.320 You're able to be more compassionate
00:03:57.940 and less judgmental and more open and vulnerable.
00:04:01.920 Okay, so how could you prove that you are?
00:04:03.960 Just by being, just by being that.
00:04:06.500 I mean, I feel like time will tell.
00:04:08.920 Okay.
00:04:09.380 You know?
00:04:09.800 Okay.
00:04:10.100 Because, like, I was just thinking,
00:04:11.860 like, if you want to concrete steps,
00:04:13.360 it's, like, married mentors,
00:04:15.020 maybe a male therapist, like, that sort of thing. 0.79
00:04:17.680 I just never hear,
00:04:19.000 whenever I hear women's self-improvement, 1.00
00:04:20.700 it's always, like, be more confident,
00:04:22.060 write in a journal and Google things.
00:04:24.080 No fact, like, respectfully,
00:04:25.440 so I just don't understand it.
00:04:26.700 But you know what's crazy?
00:04:27.620 I've tried, personally, I've tried therapy,
00:04:30.020 and the first time I tried it,
00:04:31.420 I walked out in anger and rage.
00:04:33.660 I was, like, human.
00:04:34.880 And the second time, I told her,
00:04:36.280 look, this is not going to work.
00:04:37.080 I don't think you can fix my problems.
00:04:38.240 You know what, I agree with you.
00:04:39.900 I've been to therapists before, 1.00
00:04:41.300 and I just thought therapy was, like, stupid 1.00
00:04:42.700 for the most part. 0.99
00:04:43.720 And now I'm in school for psychology,
00:04:45.400 and I see the women that are therapists, 1.00
00:04:47.020 and they're nuts. 0.99
00:04:48.080 I would not go to therapy for any of these girls. 1.00
00:04:49.020 Yeah, I feel like they don't care.
00:04:50.540 They're just getting paid to do what they need to do. 0.99
00:04:52.520 They don't give a fuck, so. 0.99
00:04:53.660 Yeah, yeah. 0.99
00:04:54.720 But I do think there are some male therapists 0.92
00:04:56.760 that are helpful.
00:04:57.500 Absolutely.
00:04:57.640 I just think it's mostly, like, male.
00:05:00.340 What do you think about that?
00:05:02.360 I've never had a male therapist,
00:05:03.720 and I wouldn't go to a male therapist,
00:05:05.180 because I need to connect with a woman that's, like,
00:05:07.800 do you know what I mean?
00:05:08.300 Like, women to women. 0.98
00:05:08.900 That's broken like you.
00:05:09.880 No, not that's broken like me.
00:05:10.840 Not necessarily, but I feel like women connect easier. 0.99
00:05:13.920 No, I think women look to comfort, 1.00
00:05:15.720 and men look to solve problems.
00:05:17.020 And that's why I don't think therapy works
00:05:18.520 when they're women. 0.56
00:05:19.260 Most of the time, there's exceptions,
00:05:20.520 because, like, men, like, women are just going to comfort you.
00:05:23.240 They're going to tell you what you want to hear,
00:05:24.380 where men will tell you how to fix it. 0.92
00:05:26.240 But the problem is, like, women, 1.00
00:05:27.480 we never want to fix it, like, actually fix it.
00:05:29.960 That's interesting, yeah.
00:05:31.620 That's true.
00:05:32.060 I had a male therapist, actually.
00:05:33.680 Okay.
00:05:34.240 I had a therapist for eight years.
00:05:37.520 I'm not in therapy anymore.
00:05:38.580 But the first four years, it was a woman. 0.97
00:05:41.160 And the last four years, a man.
00:05:42.760 And I'm not in therapy anymore.
00:05:44.360 And I'm, like, I'm good now.
00:05:45.680 But that's because it was a man, not a woman.
00:05:47.500 Because when I was with a woman, 0.93
00:05:48.380 they would just sit there and soak in all my issues
00:05:50.940 and all the problems.
00:05:51.940 And there was never a solve or a solution.
00:05:54.200 No one was trying to help me.
00:05:55.460 And then trauma.
00:05:56.700 What's your, like, and they call everything trauma.
00:05:58.680 Everything trauma.
00:05:59.060 Everything's like abuse or trauma. 0.99
00:06:00.600 I'm like, what the fuck? 0.99
00:06:01.280 What do you mean? 0.99
00:06:02.240 You know, Pearl, I don't believe in trauma.
00:06:03.820 I don't believe in trauma either.
00:06:05.500 It's a bunch of BS.
00:06:06.680 It's just so that psychologists can make money off of it.
00:06:09.400 Yeah.
00:06:09.820 Well, I do believe in, like, war trauma. 0.59
00:06:12.740 Like, from war.
00:06:13.600 What do you mean?
00:06:13.900 Like, I think if a guy goes to war and sees some, like, sees things, that's real trauma.
00:06:18.440 But the way we use it today, my ex-boyfriend cheated on me.
00:06:22.940 I saw something.
00:06:23.560 My, it's just, everything's trauma.
00:06:25.720 Everything.
00:06:26.240 But can I say something?
00:06:27.080 Don't you think there's something called unhealed baggage that we be carrying with us
00:06:30.520 because we haven't overcome how we felt in the last relationship?
00:06:32.980 I think you should just get over it.
00:06:34.380 Okay.
00:06:34.660 I think that we should quit whining.
00:06:39.580 Our great-grandmothers had to deal with it. 1.00
00:06:41.700 Like, they used to have plagues and shit. 0.99
00:06:43.900 Getting cheated on. 0.98
00:06:44.980 Like, this is just the example I'm using.
00:06:46.420 But most of modern-day problems are really nothing compared to, like, 100, 200 years ago.
00:06:53.040 You could get the plague and, like, die, you know.
00:06:56.280 That'd be traumatic, being afraid, you know.
00:06:58.180 And you're right.
00:06:58.740 Do you know what?
00:06:59.140 Because I feel like, personally, I've been through so much.
00:07:00.980 I haven't had real therapy.
00:07:02.200 And I'm strong.
00:07:03.140 I'm still going.
00:07:04.300 You know what I mean?
00:07:04.720 I don't really, it's not affecting me.
00:07:06.100 Maybe it is, in a way.
00:07:07.960 But it's not intervening in my life.
00:07:10.820 Yeah.
00:07:11.700 Strongly.
00:07:12.340 The reveling in the story is what a lot of the women therapists read. 1.00
00:07:15.320 Penelope's my daughter.
00:07:16.540 And they were, you know, really listening to your story and giving a lot of emphasis to it.
00:07:22.280 Like, you were really overweight.
00:07:23.980 And the therapists were like, no, no, don't talk about it.
00:07:26.640 Don't try to help her lose weight.
00:07:28.700 And I'm like, what do you mean?
00:07:29.920 Like, we've got to fix this problem.
00:07:31.000 Like, what's the plan?
00:07:32.360 It was so frustrating.
00:07:33.900 So they wouldn't try to solve.
00:07:35.960 How big were you?
00:07:36.960 I was 300 pounds. 1.00
00:07:38.480 Shut up. 0.99
00:07:39.080 I was 300 pounds. 1.00
00:07:40.280 You look great.
00:07:41.120 Can we get us?
00:07:42.340 Can we get us?
00:07:43.100 How did your life change from going from 300 pounds to, I don't know what you are now,
00:07:49.000 but clearly not.
00:07:49.580 So I lost 130 pounds, actually.
00:07:51.460 Wow.
00:07:52.120 And you're tall, too.
00:07:53.500 Yes.
00:07:53.860 What are you, 6'2"?
00:07:54.880 No, 5'9 1⁄2". 1.00
00:07:56.180 Oh, shit. 1.00
00:07:56.540 You look tall as heck. 1.00
00:07:58.140 We'll compare after.
00:07:58.820 Okay.
00:07:59.260 But basically, I was, you know, I think part of the problem was because I was in therapy
00:08:03.400 for so long, and nobody told me in therapy that there was anything wrong with me.
00:08:07.500 And I had depression.
00:08:08.540 I had anxiety.
00:08:09.240 I had suicidal thoughts.
00:08:10.280 And I was not, I didn't have a good relationship with my father at the time.
00:08:13.880 And nobody was saying, oh, you need to lose the weight.
00:08:16.580 Your life will be better if you just do that.
00:08:18.440 Nobody.
00:08:18.860 They tried to give me medication.
00:08:20.200 They tried to give me pills.
00:08:21.200 They tried to put me in more therapy.
00:08:23.280 And it wasn't until one day I looked in the mirror and I'm like, I don't want to be like
00:08:26.520 this anymore.
00:08:27.180 I don't want to feel like this anymore.
00:08:28.820 And to be honest, the body positivity movement crushed my soul and told me, oh, you should
00:08:34.360 be, you know, you're beautiful no matter what size you are.
00:08:36.920 You're beautiful no matter, you know, how much you weigh.
00:08:39.720 You're beautiful no matter what you eat.
00:08:40.900 You can eat anything you want.
00:08:42.420 And you're gorgeous.
00:08:43.360 Go, girl. 0.85
00:08:43.900 And I thought it was okay.
00:08:45.900 Wow.
00:08:46.260 I thought it was okay because no one said anything.
00:08:48.760 And I could be sitting here if 300 pounds are now, if I didn't make the decision to say, 0.94
00:08:51.980 Penelope, you need to get your butt off the couch and work out, fix your diet, fix your 0.98
00:08:56.200 mental health, fix everything. 0.99
00:08:58.080 And now I'm perfectly fine.
00:08:59.940 No meds.
00:09:01.060 Just naturally.
00:09:02.280 All natural.
00:09:03.520 Do you think that contributes to 70% of women being overweight in the U.S.?
00:09:08.260 Completely.
00:09:09.240 I completely think that.
00:09:11.380 Go ahead.
00:09:11.880 No, I just think that I think that the fact that people are obese and that they make all
00:09:15.420 these excuses for, oh, I'm obese because of this.
00:09:17.640 I'm obese because you can lose weight no matter what.
00:09:19.760 Anyone can lose weight.
00:09:21.060 It's just about finding the right way to do it.
00:09:23.320 And what do you think of the women that say we need like representation in magazines? 1.00
00:09:28.300 We need fat chicks on the cover. 1.00
00:09:30.940 Victoria's secret fashion show. 0.99
00:09:33.100 It repulses me.
00:09:33.860 It repulses me to see that.
00:09:36.040 Because you've been there.
00:09:36.940 It does.
00:09:37.620 Because I've been there.
00:09:38.500 And not only that, but you are showing thousands and millions of women in the world that it
00:09:42.780 is one, okay to be unhealthy, two, okay to be slowly killing yourself, and three, okay to
00:09:48.540 go outside and dress provocatively with your rolls out.
00:09:52.480 I was a plus size model.
00:09:55.780 Really?
00:09:56.060 In the 90s.
00:09:56.820 You were a plus size model. 1.00
00:09:58.060 In the 90s, yeah.
00:09:59.020 Is there anything wrong with a little plus size girl? 1.00
00:10:01.820 Yeah, because what about the people that actually can't lose weight physically?
00:10:06.600 That's not a thing.
00:10:07.600 That's not a thing.
00:10:08.420 But what about people that actually, but they mentally can't, so for the rest of their
00:10:11.680 life, they're going to be that same size.
00:10:12.780 That's not a thing.
00:10:13.260 They need some empowerment because otherwise they could commit suicide or something.
00:10:17.320 Do you go to a basketball game and look to see, like an NBA game, or what do you guys
00:10:23.380 have?
00:10:23.560 It's football, right?
00:10:24.380 Football here.
00:10:25.000 You go to a football game here and you try to see average football players.
00:10:29.100 Average.
00:10:29.600 Like below average football players play football here when you go to a professional game.
00:10:34.080 Do we see them?
00:10:34.720 No, do you go there to see that?
00:10:36.320 Oh, well, no.
00:10:37.800 So then why on the cover of magazines, which is supposed to be the epitome of beauty, do
00:10:41.460 we have below average women on it? 1.00
00:10:43.060 Right.
00:10:44.340 Like why?
00:10:44.780 Why is that?
00:10:45.960 Why do we need that?
00:10:47.320 I feel ashamed that I don't like it.
00:10:49.340 I don't want to see it.
00:10:50.140 I think you're right about the fact that they're doing it to, because, you know, if you want
00:10:54.220 to talk about the health system and the way the world's set up, they don't want people
00:10:56.920 to come out of a BCE, so they're going to make it look like it's okay. 0.92
00:11:01.380 They don't want you to.
00:11:02.420 So why wouldn't we have healthy people on the front of magazines? 0.99
00:11:05.180 I'm not saying like.
00:11:05.760 Because they don't want that.
00:11:06.620 Yeah.
00:11:07.060 Yeah.
00:11:07.260 But you said we need that earlier.
00:11:09.000 No, but I was saying that for the people that don't, that actually fit, I think in my head,
00:11:13.420 I'm thinking for the people that actually, because a person that actually cannot overcome
00:11:17.300 obesity, and for the rest of their life, till the age of 60, 70, they're still going
00:11:21.320 to be overweight.
00:11:22.840 Those people are probably feeling, yes, like they're feeling okay.
00:11:25.880 They're empowered.
00:11:27.000 That's not a thing.
00:11:28.120 Would you rather be empowered than commit suicide?
00:11:30.160 Because people think, oh, look at you. 1.00
00:11:31.840 You're fat. 0.90
00:11:32.480 But when you're overeating, you're slowly committing suicide. 1.00
00:11:35.660 Exactly.
00:11:36.320 My mother did it.
00:11:37.400 Wow.
00:11:38.100 She died.
00:11:39.200 Wow.
00:11:39.700 I was five months old.
00:11:40.460 Her cause of death was severe obesity.
00:11:42.200 And then when my daughter started gaining the weight, I was freaking out.
00:11:45.340 Right.
00:11:46.140 And so that's why we're on a mission.
00:11:47.920 Yeah.
00:11:48.100 But don't you think there's a certain level, though?
00:11:49.660 Obviously, there's obesity.
00:11:51.140 And there's, because I feel like the modeling world has always promoted unhealthy, unhealthiness,
00:11:57.080 if that makes sense.
00:11:57.640 Even the slim women.
00:11:58.780 Slim women was like six and like very small. 1.00
00:12:01.840 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:12:02.420 That would, it looked like they weren't eating at a certain time.
00:12:04.160 I don't think so.
00:12:04.180 If you look at, I always hear that, but I like, I look at Marilyn Monroe.
00:12:07.660 She was healthy.
00:12:08.240 Yeah, but they're talking about one person.
00:12:09.580 There's a lot of, a lot of women in the modeling world was very slim and they wouldn't eat 1.00
00:12:13.940 or they wouldn't do something just to fit in a certain category.
00:12:16.300 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:12:16.680 I mean, there was some, but I just, maybe for like an early 2000s, but I think if you
00:12:21.420 look at the last like 100 years, I think most women on the covers were just objectively beautiful. 1.00
00:12:26.960 What's the average weight you would say?
00:12:29.400 Let's see.
00:12:30.460 I don't know off the top of my head.
00:12:31.820 I mean, as a Ford model, the girls who were in straight size modeling, they were size four. 1.00
00:12:36.340 And that's because the samples are made in a size four.
00:12:39.880 Is your four different from UK four?
00:12:42.000 Oh, yeah.
00:12:42.480 It is a bit.
00:12:43.580 Yeah, but more like a two.
00:12:45.040 I think it would be more like a two.
00:12:46.120 Two hair.
00:12:47.160 The average, the average woman.
00:12:48.540 Mama, she's gone.
00:12:50.140 Okay.
00:12:50.740 The average woman is five four. 0.83
00:12:52.840 I'm in America and I can do UK in a second.
00:12:55.020 Yeah.
00:12:55.240 Five four, 20 years old and weighs 170 pounds.
00:12:59.120 What's that in stone, please?
00:13:00.700 The pounds.
00:13:01.500 Okay, okay.
00:13:02.140 Close mine off.
00:13:05.700 Average stones.
00:13:07.440 I don't actually know.
00:13:13.120 But that's overweight.
00:13:14.560 I would say that that average that she just quoted would be over 12 stone.
00:13:17.980 12 stone.
00:13:18.340 12.14 stone.
00:13:19.620 Okay.
00:13:20.140 Because I would think that average is between eight to 12.
00:13:22.840 I think if you're in a good in-shape 12, there's good in-shape 12 women. 1.00
00:13:27.940 Anything above that, then we're talking obesity.
00:13:30.400 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:13:30.760 I mean, I think it's BMI.
00:13:34.140 To be honest, sorry.
00:13:35.180 To be honest, it depends.
00:13:36.540 I think like around 10 years ago, it used to be way different.
00:13:42.720 I think now they kind of raised it.
00:13:44.880 A little bit.
00:13:45.380 Yeah.
00:13:45.740 Yeah.
00:13:46.340 10 years ago, I went, I don't know.
00:13:48.880 I was like 65 kilos.
00:13:50.320 I don't know what that is.
00:13:51.260 Sorry.
00:13:51.480 In stones.
00:13:53.740 It must be like 165 in America.
00:13:57.720 2.2 to 1.
00:13:58.660 Yeah.
00:13:59.180 And they would already say, oh, you should try to lose weight, you know, for your height,
00:14:03.400 whatever.
00:14:04.120 Now, if you look at that, they're like, yeah, you're perfect.
00:14:06.940 You can be a model.
00:14:08.080 Yeah.
00:14:08.220 So it really changed in the last decade, I would say.
00:14:11.880 Really, it did.
00:14:12.660 So it was about around 10 years ago, was there plus size models?
00:14:15.940 Is that a new thing?
00:14:16.960 I'll be honest.
00:14:17.700 Not really.
00:14:18.620 There definitely were on America's Next Top Model.
00:14:21.060 I mean, it wasn't that as common though, but I definitely, I used to watch Tyra Banks. 0.93
00:14:25.900 Anyone?
00:14:26.300 Yeah.
00:14:26.860 Anyone?
00:14:27.560 There was some.
00:14:28.640 But they weren't like, they weren't like the super, yeah, like you see today, they were
00:14:34.340 just kind of like, they're like 10s, you know?
00:14:36.500 Big boned.
00:14:36.900 10s, all right?
00:14:39.800 10s not big.
00:14:40.900 No, 10s not big at all.
00:14:42.480 12, 12s.
00:14:43.260 10s not big.
00:14:44.260 Well, this is what I'm saying, for the modeling world, that's quite big, yeah?
00:14:46.680 But again, it's like when you go to an NBA game, I want to see good basketball players.
00:14:50.800 Like, it's supposed to be the epitome of beauty.
00:14:53.040 But now we're rewarding average, like, I don't want to see average chicks, like, faces on 1.00
00:14:57.800 the cover of magazines.
00:14:58.700 Why do I want to see average bodies?
00:15:00.880 I hear that.
00:15:01.200 But if she's a good, I'm not saying plus, plus, but if she's a good size 12 with good curves 1.00
00:15:05.880 and that, men don't want to see that.
00:15:07.680 We don't really want to just see slim girls all the time. 1.00
00:15:09.760 I'll be honest.
00:15:10.100 I believe that.
00:15:10.720 I believe that some men like that.
00:15:12.600 I really do.
00:15:13.100 Yeah, but it's typically, to be honest, it's typically broke men.
00:15:16.140 Because if you look at rich men, yeah, yeah.
00:15:18.300 If you look at, like, it's so Catholic. 0.94
00:15:20.020 I'm just, I don't like liars.
00:15:21.820 No offense.
00:15:22.480 But it's like, when you see rich men, what do they have on their arms?
00:15:26.520 Slim women. 0.99
00:15:27.140 Slim women. 0.99
00:15:27.760 But the only reason why they have slim women is because the slim women are in the higher 1.00
00:15:31.940 echelons of places where the other women, not in beauty, no, let's not talk about beauty 1.00
00:15:36.660 only.
00:15:36.940 I'm talking about venues, certain venues, certain places that they get to go to.
00:15:41.720 Certain women can't get to go there. 1.00
00:15:43.380 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:15:44.560 Leonardo DiCaprio, if he wanted a big chick, he couldn't find one. 1.00
00:15:48.380 No, he can find one.
00:15:49.320 But I'm saying, in certain, the venue, the events, the events he goes to, though.
00:15:53.760 No, half these guys get their chicks from Instagram.
00:15:55.460 Come on.
00:15:57.200 They can get any chick they want. 0.99
00:15:59.160 Yeah, they can.
00:16:00.140 But do you think Leonardo's just got in in bear girls DMs, just hollering girls in the DMs?
00:16:04.700 No more.
00:16:05.000 I think if he wants it, I think he'll pick, like, he hollered at that one chick, the Hadid.
00:16:11.480 Who's that?
00:16:12.040 Oh, yeah.
00:16:13.340 Gigi Hadid?
00:16:14.180 Gigi.
00:16:14.580 Oh, Gigi.
00:16:15.260 The model, yeah.
00:16:16.240 Gigi.
00:16:16.720 I don't know what I'm saying.
00:16:18.100 It's like, if you look at the richest, most successful men, they typically have slim women. 0.92
00:16:21.940 I'm saying, if you're looking at the richest parts of events and venues, Mayfair, whatever,
00:16:27.140 in America, Manhattan, whatever, if you go to the upper echelons of places, they've got to be,
00:16:32.320 you know what I'm saying?
00:16:33.020 Do you really think that the only reason they're with slim, beautiful women is because of the events
00:16:38.600 they go to?
00:16:39.020 No.
00:16:39.460 But I'm saying because of the environment that they're in, they're going to be-
00:16:43.020 I think that was because that is society's ideal of a beautiful woman.
00:16:46.580 That's why.
00:16:47.360 And so I feel like the plus model came in when people started complaining that there wasn't
00:16:51.480 a selection of variety of different sizes.
00:16:52.980 But then why is it that all around the world, they like young, beautiful, slim women everywhere, 0.99
00:16:59.680 even in different societies with completely different cultures.
00:17:02.660 Please, please do not bring up this one fringent tribe in Africa. 0.98
00:17:07.540 Everyone brings up, but it's like, it's such a small percentage of the world.
00:17:11.720 Well, Africa.
00:17:12.720 There's something-
00:17:13.460 No, Africa's the biggest country in the world. 0.97
00:17:15.020 They bring up some tribe in Africa that likes the fat women, but it's a very, very- 1.00
00:17:19.900 I've done this conversation.
00:17:20.900 Well, if you think-
00:17:21.640 I hear that, but if you think about it, it's the motherland.
00:17:25.360 Please don't go to be disingenuous.
00:17:27.100 No, I'm not being disingenuous.
00:17:28.180 But I'm-
00:17:28.940 Okay, because you know, you know, deep down, you know that men like slim women in general. 1.00
00:17:33.760 I'm going to be honest.
00:17:34.560 I don't think they do.
00:17:35.400 I'm going to be honest.
00:17:36.440 I don't- 0.90
00:17:37.020 And I'm going to say this coming from being a black man.
00:17:41.180 If I'm talking about being a black man, I'm from a black perspective of, I feel like 0.56
00:17:46.600 majority of us men like thicker women. 1.00
00:17:49.020 Okay, well, Michael B. Jordan.
00:17:51.000 No, no, no.
00:17:51.440 They have big chicks sometimes.
00:17:52.260 But you keep talking about celebrity men that are going to be around higher women that-
00:17:57.500 I'm from a 1% family.
00:18:00.060 My dad is a top 1% earner.
00:18:02.260 I grew up around in a wealthy neighborhood.
00:18:04.200 I'm telling you, they do not put fat chicks on their arms. 1.00
00:18:06.600 I hear that. 0.92
00:18:06.880 High-class society and celebrities want people with the option to not have a fat chick on their arm. 1.00
00:18:13.000 Do not.
00:18:13.740 All right.
00:18:14.060 But even like I was having a conversation the other day with a woman, and she was a slim woman. 1.00
00:18:19.120 She's from America as well.
00:18:20.220 She's American, I think Atlanta or whatever.
00:18:23.560 And she said when she was slim, she was only getting approached by white men.
00:18:27.080 Okay.
00:18:27.360 She put on a lot of weight.
00:18:29.040 No, not a lot of weight, but she's ticked, got body, whatever, blah, blah, blah. 1.00
00:18:32.020 Now she's getting approached by a lot of black men.
00:18:34.080 Which is what, do you get what I'm saying?
00:18:36.300 But I'm saying, if you look at it on the Democrats thing- 0.99
00:18:39.840 Which successful black men that we know are dating fat chicks? 1.00
00:18:43.400 Yeah, but are we only going to talk about successful men? 0.98
00:18:44.980 Yeah, because those are the men with options.
00:18:46.540 Broke men don't have as many options as rich men. 1.00
00:18:48.160 Broke men definitely have options. 1.00
00:18:49.060 They do not have as many options as rich men.
00:18:51.240 So if you look at the men with the most options, to look-
00:18:53.500 Okay, so if we want to see what women want, we got to look at the women with the most options. 1.00
00:18:56.700 Who do the most beautiful, the youngest, most fertile women pick? 1.00
00:19:00.420 If we want to look at men, what do men like?
00:19:02.160 We have to look at the men with the most options.
00:19:03.780 Because it's not really fair to say, oh, I like fat chicks if I make, you know, $10 an hour at Taco Bell. 1.00
00:19:09.180 Right?
00:19:09.520 Like, you can't-
00:19:10.480 You don't get-
00:19:11.020 No, I hear that.
00:19:11.700 I hear that.
00:19:12.680 Like, no-
00:19:13.160 No, I get that.
00:19:14.560 But obviously, if you're going-
00:19:15.800 If you're talking about celebrities, celebrities are guided-
00:19:18.380 No, I didn't-
00:19:18.980 But I didn't just say celebrities.
00:19:20.200 I also said I'm from-
00:19:22.160 My dad is in, like, he's a top 1% earner.
00:19:25.180 I grew up with 10 siblings in a 10-bedroom mansion in a community where many people made that amount of money.
00:19:30.960 Yeah.
00:19:31.100 So I've been around a successful, wealthy man, and they don't put fat chicks. 0.98
00:19:35.560 Sometimes they do get fat later, but they don't appreciate that, you know what I mean?
00:19:39.980 So, yeah, but I hear what you're saying, but I'm saying the reason-
00:19:43.520 These men, obviously, are going to go for similar because they're around-
00:19:46.580 That's what-
00:19:47.080 You being in the top 1% and being in this neighborhood-
00:19:49.800 Okay.
00:19:50.580 It allows you to see different things, you get me?
00:19:52.520 Okay.
00:19:52.940 I've interviewed hundreds of men.
00:19:53.940 No, but if you do have-
00:19:54.860 Obviously, if you do have money, a lot of people with money are in the gym.
00:19:58.820 They do it because they have more time on their hands to do other things.
00:20:01.400 You get what I'm saying?
00:20:01.940 No, they have less time.
00:20:03.160 Exactly.
00:20:03.400 I guarantee-
00:20:04.200 You think they have less time?
00:20:05.200 They're scheduled.
00:20:05.620 Rich people absolutely have less time.
00:20:07.240 Totally.
00:20:07.780 No, I don't know about that, you know.
00:20:09.020 Of course.
00:20:09.380 No, I could tell you 100%.
00:20:11.100 But also, I think the reason that a lot of women are slimmer and why do you think more successful men want women who are slimmer is because it's healthier for them. 0.89
00:20:19.940 Like, their risk for getting, you know, diseases at an older age, their risk for having pregnancy risks are much lower if they're not overweight.
00:20:28.260 Yeah, of course.
00:20:28.540 So, why would a man choose a woman if he wants to marry them if they're going to die at 50, if they're going to die at 70, if their children are going to be at risk for birth risk? 0.73
00:20:38.000 I mean, I would never want that.
00:20:39.700 And I don't think men want that.
00:20:41.620 Like, when men are looking for wives, they're not looking for women who are going to have risks.
00:20:47.800 And we even saw, for you, how your bad habit passed on to her.
00:20:52.060 And that's like, if you have a bad habit yourself, you will pass it on to your kids, and then it's another problem that your kids-
00:20:57.320 Because I had the same-
00:20:58.180 My mom used to feed me, like, Pop-Tarts and stuff when I was a kid.
00:21:00.800 And my mom was pretty big, and then she ended up, like, losing all the weight.
00:21:04.720 And she told me, like, she literally did it for my dad.
00:21:08.140 And, yeah, I have a sugar addiction to this day.
00:21:11.600 You know what I mean?
00:21:12.280 So, it's like, bad habits pass from, like, the parents to the kids.
00:21:15.040 Exactly.
00:21:15.480 And sugar is more addictive than cocaine.
00:21:17.520 Yeah.
00:21:17.840 It's crazy.
00:21:18.120 Yeah, I do miss Pop-Tarts.
00:21:21.020 They make healthy Pop-Tarts, but they're really not healthy.
00:21:23.320 They're still junk food.
00:21:24.240 No, I don't like that.
00:21:25.560 I like the cinnamon ones.
00:21:27.600 I went in the complete opposite direction, like total neurosis.
00:21:30.760 I got my bachelor's and master's degree in nutrition.
00:21:33.080 I helped thousands of people lose weight, regain their health.
00:21:36.160 And it was almost like her rebellion.
00:21:38.020 So, her choice to gain autonomy through overeating and ill health was almost, you know, well, it was just so crazy for me because I was still healthy.
00:21:48.280 Oh, shoot.
00:21:48.400 I thought you said you were overweight.
00:21:50.180 As a kid, I was.
00:21:51.280 Oh.
00:21:51.500 But as an adult, I really.
00:21:52.700 So, you were super.
00:21:52.980 What were you doing?
00:21:54.260 My whole life, until I was, like, 15, I was, like, rebelling against her.
00:21:58.380 I was, like, I'm going to eat all the junk food.
00:22:00.520 So, I'd go to my friend's house and I'd stuff my face with pizza.
00:22:02.820 And then their moms would call her and be, like, oh, my gosh, is your daughter okay?
00:22:06.840 She's eaten, like, a box of pizza and, like, my whole box of goldfish.
00:22:10.520 Wow.
00:22:11.220 And I would just do that.
00:22:12.060 And then I'd come home and I would never like her cooking, even though she's the best cook I know.
00:22:15.960 But, like, I would, I just rebelled my whole life.
00:22:18.160 Yeah.
00:22:18.700 It was terrible.
00:22:20.040 James says, there's a difference between fit and thick.
00:22:22.900 Men want fit women. 1.00
00:22:25.100 Puffy, I'm in Las Vegas and I see plenty of women from Africa. 1.00
00:22:28.400 I am black.
00:22:28.960 This is cap. 0.68
00:22:29.620 We like thin women. 1.00
00:22:30.620 And then I think there was one more.
00:22:33.380 I'm just going to do it really quick.
00:22:35.220 Lady in the red is telling the truth. 0.69
00:22:36.760 I've lost 67 pounds.
00:22:38.040 My life is better off.
00:22:39.200 These plus-size influencers are lying to people.
00:22:41.660 Example Lizzo.
00:22:42.640 Yeah.
00:22:42.800 What do you think of Lizzo?
00:22:43.840 So, I actually recently did a video on this.
00:22:45.780 I set up a podcast.
00:22:46.960 But, basically, Lizzo is portraying something that is terrible for young women.
00:22:51.960 And then you have thousands of young women saying, oh, my gosh, Lizzo is so beautiful.
00:22:56.440 Everyone should be like Lizzo.
00:22:57.280 And then you have all the fat people looking at Lizzo, feeding off of her positivity, her body positivity. 0.52
00:23:03.340 And why does she lead with it, too? 0.92
00:23:06.200 Because it's her brand. 0.94
00:23:07.400 To make people sick. 0.77
00:23:08.100 Yeah.
00:23:08.400 Nobody would talk when Adele was overweight. 0.98
00:23:11.120 Nobody really spoke about her weight because she didn't lead with it. 0.98
00:23:13.440 No.
00:23:13.720 You know, they did speak about it when she lost the weight.
00:23:16.100 Right.
00:23:16.280 They were like, oh, we can't believe you lost the weight.
00:23:18.620 We hate you now.
00:23:19.380 Like, we don't like you. 0.89
00:23:20.020 Like, you did this for social media.
00:23:21.660 And it's like, what?
00:23:22.440 Yeah.
00:23:22.940 What about doing this to save her life?
00:23:24.340 Why aren't more people supporting women losing weight? 0.85
00:23:27.700 That's what real body positivity is.
00:23:29.520 Because we know the whole world is lazy.
00:23:31.280 The majority of people.
00:23:32.600 So, it fits.
00:23:33.880 Well, also, the food industry.
00:23:35.200 It benefits the food industry and the medical industry to have more overweight people.
00:23:38.580 Because then you have more surgeries.
00:23:39.860 Then you have more medications being handed out.
00:23:41.800 Then you have more depression, anxiety, suicide.
00:23:44.020 I mean, the divorce rates, you know?
00:23:45.540 Right.
00:23:45.880 It's insane.
00:23:46.740 Right.
00:23:47.600 No, I mean, honestly, like, one time I was at work.
00:23:50.820 And these guys were, like, clowning on women over 200 pounds.
00:23:54.060 They were like, oh, I would never date.
00:23:55.180 But they didn't know I was.
00:23:56.180 Because, like, I don't look.
00:23:57.700 Like, I didn't look like I was over 200.
00:23:59.920 Right.
00:24:00.140 And literally, I ended up, like, losing a bunch of weight.
00:24:03.060 Because I was so embarrassed.
00:24:05.080 And then it was the best thing that ever happened to me.
00:24:07.360 I ran a marathon.
00:24:08.160 Because I was like, I'm done.
00:24:09.000 I'm done with this.
00:24:09.540 I know.
00:24:10.200 It's like the quickest way to lose weight.
00:24:11.560 Run a marathon.
00:24:12.520 Yeah.
00:24:12.880 And I got addicted to exercise, too.
00:24:14.520 Like, I remember being in that place.
00:24:15.740 I went to the doctor's office, actually.
00:24:17.400 And that's when I started.
00:24:18.920 They were like, your triglycerides are up.
00:24:21.020 Your risk, heart disease, type 2 diabetes.
00:24:23.740 And, you know, if you don't start now, you are going to die very, like, slowly but soon.
00:24:29.380 And I was terrified.
00:24:30.660 I was like, what?
00:24:31.340 Just from being fat?
00:24:32.880 I was mortified.
00:24:34.180 How long did they say you had?
00:24:36.060 I'm just curious.
00:24:37.500 No.
00:24:37.660 They weren't like, you're going to die tomorrow.
00:24:42.280 But they weren't like.
00:24:42.760 No, I'm curious.
00:24:43.100 Like, how long do 300-pound people live?
00:24:45.220 I don't know.
00:24:46.020 Do you know?
00:24:46.620 I don't know the stats on that, actually.
00:24:48.340 No.
00:24:48.600 But they definitely have a higher risk of cardiovascular disease, which is a number one killer.
00:24:53.480 They have a higher risk of cancer.
00:24:55.220 They definitely will develop diabetes type 2 and other diseases that are 100% preventable.
00:24:59.500 There was that influencer that just, like, dropped dead the other day because she was obese. 0.99
00:25:03.540 And, like, she would literally always be eating and doing mukbangs. 0.99
00:25:06.040 Then she died.
00:25:07.140 I'm not surprised.
00:25:08.100 Yeah.
00:25:08.200 And then they say, like, when obese people go to the doctor and they say to lose weight, that they're, like, not listening to them.
00:25:17.400 But I'm like, well, I mean, I'm not a doctor, but you might want to, like, watch for your head.
00:25:22.420 But even doctors are lying to people now saying, oh, it's okay to eat, like, cheeseburger.
00:25:26.480 It's okay to eat pizza.
00:25:27.580 They can't weigh you.
00:25:28.280 They can't weigh you either.
00:25:28.640 Even that.
00:25:29.220 And it's like, you guys, why are you lying to these people who actually, some people who actually want to be helped are being lied to.
00:25:34.860 Yeah.
00:25:35.280 Oh, just do the keto diet.
00:25:36.300 Oh, just do the paleo diet.
00:25:37.320 You'll be fine.
00:25:37.920 That's not a long-term solution.
00:25:39.480 That's not a lifestyle.
00:25:40.780 Doctors aren't really even trained in nutrition.
00:25:43.360 They don't know how to help.
00:25:44.960 And the business model isn't set up for them to support their patients.
00:25:49.540 So the whole model is flawed.
00:25:51.940 And we really need to get smart and get responsible and be clear about what we're putting in our thoughts, in our minds, and in our mouths.
00:26:00.540 Literally.
00:26:01.540 They said, as an African woman, Zimbabwean, we are curvy.
00:26:05.160 There is a big difference between being curvy and overweight.
00:26:07.320 You can be thin and curvy and just big, big.
00:26:12.900 And then there is another one that was from interracial marriages or relationships. 0.97
00:26:17.920 For a black men community, we value bigger women because they make for better sex partners. 0.82
00:26:24.720 Marriage is different requirements than sex. 0.99
00:26:27.500 My thin woman felt like she was too pretty to fulfill my sexual requirements. 1.00
00:26:34.220 Okay.
00:26:36.300 So how did you say, how does a man identify a good woman?
00:26:40.100 I would say that a man identifies a good woman if she's one, healthy and fit.
00:26:44.340 That's important.
00:26:45.140 Okay.
00:26:45.460 Especially for childbearing.
00:26:46.640 And I'd say number two, if she has traditional values, if she believes in being submissive, if she believes in being feminine, she loves to be.
00:26:56.400 Susan, I'm going to answer that question.
00:26:58.560 We're going to get to the men.
00:27:00.000 Okay.
00:27:00.340 Don't worry.
00:27:03.840 It was just whoever was sitting, you know.
00:27:06.340 And then I think if she wants to cook, if she's okay cleaning, she's a homemaker, she would love to, you know, have children and take care of them and be a housewife. 1.00
00:27:14.340 I think that's beautiful.
00:27:15.900 And so that's what I think identifies a good woman.
00:27:18.380 Okay.
00:27:18.640 What about you?
00:27:20.920 Well, identifying as a good woman nowadays is a bit difficult.
00:27:25.440 However, I would emphasize on the values and the morals of the woman. 1.00
00:27:32.500 Primarily, her ability to be a good wife, her ability to raise good children and even her thoughts and the things she has in mind, because she's going to be molding the next generation. 1.00
00:27:44.440 And so how does he know?
00:27:46.300 Well, it can.
00:27:47.380 Because, you know, women lie, like we can just say things like I'm. 1.00
00:27:50.980 But, you know, if you have a deep conversation with a person.
00:27:54.400 She can still lie.
00:27:55.720 But no, but to an extent.
00:27:58.720 But believe me, throughout time, you can identify.
00:28:01.720 Okay.
00:28:02.020 So how much, how much time?
00:28:06.280 If it's, I would say, I would give it like three months, but it can't.
00:28:10.660 Okay.
00:28:10.960 So three months.
00:28:12.160 Of constant, constant meeting.
00:28:17.380 Okay.
00:28:17.720 So you think in three months, he can see if she has traditional values.
00:28:20.560 Yes, she would.
00:28:21.520 I mean, just so healthy.
00:28:22.840 So he can look.
00:28:23.700 She healthy and fit.
00:28:24.700 Cool.
00:28:25.240 Yeah.
00:28:25.620 If she, how can he test if she's submissive?
00:28:29.240 He can ask something and see the reaction.
00:28:32.520 So ask her to do something and see what she does.
00:28:35.460 For example, you can tell, I mean, if a man tells to a woman, can you please make me a coffee or a meal? 0.87
00:28:40.580 And she'd say, hell no, I'm not doing this to you.
00:28:42.460 I mean, that's easily.
00:28:43.500 If she's here for three months, ask her to make him a coffee.
00:28:46.960 What else can he do?
00:28:58.520 How does he, does he, like, what else, what else does he do?
00:29:02.560 I mean, well.
00:29:05.380 Because I was here, just find a good woman. 0.80
00:29:07.320 So I'm just trying to get from the women. 1.00
00:29:09.220 How do the men just find a good woman? 1.00
00:29:12.460 Yeah.
00:29:12.640 It's his ability to identify what he values in a woman.
00:29:16.600 Okay.
00:29:17.080 I mean, that's going to be subjective to an extent.
00:29:20.160 Yeah.
00:29:20.480 So I'm asking, like, what makes someone a good woman and how does he identify that?
00:29:25.080 I think what you were saying as well, men do test women.
00:29:27.580 I've been tested by men, like, with certain things.
00:29:29.960 How does he test a woman?
00:29:30.860 So, like, oh, can you cook for me?
00:29:32.180 Can you make me food?
00:29:33.020 Or, like, on the spot, though?
00:29:34.880 Ask to cook on the spot.
00:29:38.520 But it really happens, you know?
00:29:40.020 It's a good test.
00:29:40.760 It really happens, for real.
00:29:42.560 And then he will know, do you know how to cook?
00:29:45.020 Can you cook properly?
00:29:45.980 Do you know what I mean?
00:29:46.400 Can you season that properly?
00:29:47.260 Even your presentation.
00:29:48.940 How you deliver the food.
00:29:50.140 You're dropping the gravy on the side of the place.
00:29:51.820 So I'm just, I want to get it step by step further.
00:29:54.460 Where I'm going to let the men talk, I'm just curious how it's going to align with
00:29:57.420 what you guys say, from the women than the men.
00:29:59.960 Okay, so first he's going to see her for three months.
00:30:03.000 Ask her to make him a coffee and ask to cook. 0.90
00:30:06.320 Oh, I disagree with all of that.
00:30:08.680 I think that, honestly, if it's a high-value man, most of the time he's going to know without
00:30:16.040 all of that, honestly.
00:30:17.460 Most of the men nowadays.
00:30:18.760 How does he know?
00:30:20.860 There is this, I don't know if it's the right word, but there is this aura.
00:30:25.960 There is this sense when you sit with a woman who you know is going to be respectful to
00:30:31.920 you or not.
00:30:32.720 I honestly feel that.
00:30:34.060 You think that average men just know this?
00:30:36.480 Because you're talking about high-value.
00:30:37.800 That's like 5% of men.
00:30:40.200 But average men nowadays look at high-value men's content more and more and more and try
00:30:46.340 to see.
00:30:47.380 So you think, I'm just curious, you think men just know?
00:30:52.220 They don't just know, but they should get to a point to just know.
00:30:57.620 So how does he get to that point that he just knows?
00:31:01.840 Well, slowly, slowly, slowly, we're getting to a point where I think they need to go to
00:31:06.320 certain parts of the world to know.
00:31:08.920 And certain parts of the world, they will just know that 90% of the women will not be 1.00
00:31:13.780 like that.
00:31:14.660 Okay, so he has to travel to...
00:31:17.040 Slowly, we're getting there.
00:31:17.920 He needs to travel somewhere else and then experience those women and then compare them 1.00
00:31:22.580 to...
00:31:22.780 Exactly, exactly.
00:31:23.500 Okay, but for a guy that doesn't travel, like he stays in the West, because most, remember,
00:31:27.540 most guys don't make a ton of money.
00:31:29.060 Like, I think half of U.S. men don't have passports.
00:31:33.380 So most men aren't traveling like that.
00:31:35.620 So for a guy that's not traveling, how does he know a good woman versus bad woman?
00:31:39.640 I would say if you...
00:31:41.420 If the first conversation with her is like, oh, so where are we going to dinner?
00:31:45.900 Are we having drinks?
00:31:47.120 This is not a right way to meet.
00:31:49.760 I think when you meet a girl, you should take her for coffee and that's it.
00:31:53.820 Even if you like her so much that you...
00:31:56.240 Take on a coffee date.
00:31:58.320 And see what she's like and see if she's...
00:32:02.500 I don't know if she wants to continue the date and get you to buy her dinner and... 0.98
00:32:06.880 Can a man know a good woman from a bad woman without experiencing a lot of women? 1.00
00:32:13.440 Not really.
00:32:14.420 Okay, so in order to identify, he has to what?
00:32:17.840 Does he have to date a lot of women?
00:32:20.020 I would suggest that in his 20s, he dates as many women as he can.
00:32:23.900 That's right.
00:32:24.280 That's right.
00:32:24.800 Okay.
00:32:25.340 Okay.
00:32:25.880 So how many women should he date?
00:32:28.740 As much as you can.
00:32:31.240 Yeah.
00:32:31.620 As much as you can.
00:32:32.920 Yeah.
00:32:33.240 I'm not saying sleep with all of them.
00:32:35.200 Some guys have given numbers.
00:32:36.200 Date as many women as possible to tell the difference. 0.99
00:32:42.500 Because, again, remember, I just want to remind everybody of the stats.
00:32:46.260 One out of three women has an STD.
00:32:48.340 One out of three women has had an abortion.
00:32:51.060 38% of women or of kids are born into single-parent homes, meaning 38% of the next generation has never seen a functioning marriage.
00:33:00.980 Average child, first child, is before the average age of first marriage.
00:33:05.080 So the first kid, 26.
00:33:07.040 First marriage, 30. 0.77
00:33:08.400 Half of marriages will end in divorce.
00:33:10.680 Average number of partners for a woman is between four and eight.
00:33:14.760 And that's self-reported, so, you know, take that with a grain of salt.
00:33:18.840 But women have a 20% chance of being in a happy marriage if they have slept with more than five people. 0.93
00:33:24.100 So, yeah.
00:33:26.100 And if men get divorced, they can be financially ruined and their kids can be taken from them.
00:33:32.220 70% of women are overweight. 0.80
00:33:33.900 So, basically, there's a lot riding on them picking the right woman.
00:33:36.580 So, I'm trying to give them a foolproof plan.
00:33:39.600 That makes sense.
00:33:40.380 There's a book that I read.
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