JustPearlyThings - Pearl Drops This Hard Truth About Women

00:00:00.000 oh sorry don't you feel like there has to be like some sort of stability within you and your partner

00:00:08.040 so for a second i take it on myself as a man that it is my job to bring stability

00:00:14.780 and every and all the stoic literature and all the biblical literature says

00:00:19.360 that it is up to a man to build institutions yes you do need stability and who's responsible for

00:00:23.600 that so i aim for the bar the high bar as a man that i can be productive and bring stability

00:00:28.100 so that i give a woman a safe place to have children yeah so multiple things can be true

00:00:32.380 one thing we've talked a lot about here it's the cost of raising children you know and i think two

00:00:36.220 things can be true simultaneously one thing that is just true across countries is the less money you

00:00:40.780 have typically the more kids you have um and this only really reverses when the family's income is

00:00:45.380 over half a million a year then it starts to go up again but you know that's that's a lot of money

00:00:48.720 um but it's also true that you have to make enormous sacrifices and it is enormously costly

00:00:53.860 to have a kid in our society and i actually think that half a million mark that's the market which

00:00:58.540 people don't really have to make sacrifices anymore to have kids so when you're dealing with below that

00:01:03.040 level i think a question that we need to ask ourselves when people say having kids is expensive

00:01:06.680 what they mean is having kids is expensive without significantly changing my lifestyle my wife and

00:01:10.840 i we could be earning a lot more money than we do but we live in like a farm you know um and and that

00:01:15.520 is because it was cheaper to raise kids out there um and so the cultural groups that do have high

00:01:20.140 fertility you know often there's these religious people call them religious extremists weirdos or

00:01:24.240 whatever right like they're weird and that they are different from the urban monoculture and that

00:01:28.860 they are different from the dominant cultures in our society and that's how we judge weirdness um

00:01:33.200 and uh uh they they one of the things that makes them weird is choosing lifestyles uh that are

00:01:39.480 significantly below the lifestyle they could live based on what they earn because they believe there

00:01:43.740 are things more important than than showing off how great they are to the world it's like a more

00:01:49.500 selfless culture is what you're saying can i um right absolutely who said something can i bring

00:01:56.040 up something that you said earlier on obviously about obviously when you're bringing in kids you

00:02:01.000 want to obviously give them the best and stuff what about the people who obviously do have kids and

00:02:06.280 they can't give them the best that was a choice yeah i do and yeah obviously it is a choice they

00:02:11.940 can't give them the best these kids are suffering but what is the best because you know we have all

00:02:17.560 this money in the west and we really have a higher standard of living than like any time in human

00:02:22.160 history but people are more depressed than ever and even like there's a clip that just went viral of

00:02:27.160 kim kardashian um her her daughter north right and north is talking about how she prefers to be at

00:02:34.200 kanye's house because at kanye's house there's no chef there's no she's like i don't like the chef i

00:02:40.040 want to get there's no security there i just want to go to dad's house yeah so it's like you know

00:02:44.940 these kids can have everything but if they don't have what matters can i say something yeah i grew

00:02:52.460 up in jamaica in like the countryside so it was very poor i saw knife crime violence sex just my

00:02:59.320 parents used to sell drugs so i could eat all this type of stuff my dad was a fisherman like we was poor

00:03:04.860 we didn't have much we lived in little board houses all of that and i had the best upbringing ever my

00:03:11.020 parents are rastafarians they used to take me to the hot springs the healing waters they're taking me

00:03:15.420 to all like the rastafarian events i was living my best life all i remembered from my childhood

00:03:21.660 was getting fish like basically cooking with my dad on the coal stove outside up we're going to the

00:03:28.220 hot springs them dancing together that's all i remember was the time spent so i just feel like

00:03:33.100 the western world we just have so much stimuli being thrown at us that we just we're confused about

00:03:38.380 every single aspect of our lives from down to our gender when we're meant to have kids

00:03:42.140 our bodies where this makes things so complicated when you return to a simpler life if you unlearn to

00:03:48.220 learn return to a more simpler form of living you realize that there's so much joy in just actually

00:03:53.980 having love and you and you you and your parents both around right now yeah no like growing up right

00:04:00.620 yeah so who's who's richer like you who might have grown up and you you said it was poor he's really

00:04:06.540 poor but but your parents were around or you know kim's kids where they see their dad twice a month

00:04:14.300 and they don't really see their mom either because there's a nanny watching them yeah i didn't have

00:04:18.140 that i had both devoted yeah but i'm saying like who who's in a better off position really um i think

00:04:24.140 they're just both equal i just didn't see any difference what you mean better off position

00:04:29.980 i'm saying i'm saying i'm saying i'm saying i would argue that the kid with both of their parents

00:04:35.260 involved is in a better position i agree than the one that has money i agree and so much time and

00:04:41.020 especially like in the rest yeah yeah especially in the west there's so many times where they we equate

00:04:47.420 money can replace parents and it can't it's neglect you feel neglected and abandoned when you don't

00:04:56.060 have them but you have the material like kids are no offense like if you notice like if you give kids

00:05:02.460 money and stuff like that they don't seem as grateful compared to when you know their brass

00:05:07.820 if you want to see messed up kids look at the kids of rich people like yeah yeah and if you want to

00:05:13.580 see the thing that that you can always give your kids is yourself yeah and and and there are always

00:05:19.580 going to be competing interests from that because society you know this is i love capitalism but the

00:05:23.820 one bad thing about capitalism is it can price an individual exactly exactly the minimum amount it needs

00:05:29.180 to pay them to not spend time on their kids on their family and so remember you know uh yeah just just

00:05:35.980 be aware that this system it's going to try to take you away from your family and and you are the most

00:05:40.860 important thing they have and these traditions i love you talk about growing up rastafarian and

00:05:45.100 these traditions that they had were so important to you and the traditions that you build for your

00:05:49.660 kids you know i think a lot of us we come from backgrounds now where we feel we don't have a

00:05:53.180 connection to our ancestors anymore or our traditions and and that can mean work with your spouse and and

00:05:58.780 build new ones you know if you have to because this matters to kids it matters to them yeah it

00:06:04.060 matters to their kids so it goes back to our culture though because when you when i speak to again going back to

00:06:09.420 speaking to women right when i speak to women and i ask them like okay so if a guy tells you he's 0.98

00:06:14.460 got two three four kids what do you say usually they say well i'm not interested even if he's got

00:06:19.740 one yeah and then and then he tells me that there's there's a problem with our culture

00:06:24.540 you know we look down on that and and i personally don't if i'm speaking to a girl she 1.00

00:06:29.020 says look i've got two kids i think that's a beautiful thing yeah but that's because you've got

00:06:32.700 kids though i've never had kids i don't have kids i've never had kids you got a person i thought

00:06:36.460 you said you had two sons it's me i got it it's not the kid it's all the other stuff

00:06:42.300 i think it's beautiful i've never had kids though welcome to the show what's your name hi hi what do

00:06:46.860 you think do do women owe society children oh that's a strong question if i look around the room that's a

00:06:55.100 strong question do women owe society kids in my opinion women are very different okay so in 1.00

00:07:04.780 different situations you're going to come across different i guess mentalities so for me depends

00:07:09.980 on the person you're not really owe anyone anything in my opinion that's my opinion you don't you know

00:07:16.620 do men owe it to society to be productive no no no they choose to not be have you seen the consequences

00:07:23.660 of unproductive men and what they have on society like if we choose not to be productive what is the

00:07:27.740 consequences well the consequences we ruin society it's like you know chris rock has that joke if

00:07:31.420 you're outside at 1 p.m in a neighborhood and moms are walking strollers you're a nice neighborhood if

00:07:35.020 you're outside a neighborhood 1 p.m and dudes are working out you you in danger so you would say yeah

00:07:39.500 that every man that is not being productive at this present moment or never has a child they are just

00:07:45.980 no i'm not not the child thing is a little like that's that's a few steps ahead i'd say that a man who's not

00:07:50.700 being uh productive or not taking steps towards being productive he's not building society and it

00:07:55.660 is a man's job to build like a man always has to be building something otherwise a man becomes a 1.00

00:07:59.820 danger to himself and society and we see that you know represented in the preponderance of you know

00:08:03.500 criminals for example and you see in countries that have high unemployment rates you see a lot of very

00:08:07.820 negative correlations with that um but the question you know the reason that i postulated that earlier

00:08:12.140 is because like for a woman to be able um to reach her potential to have kids she needs a man who's 1.00

00:08:17.820 reaching his potential and a man has to lead and that's why a man and i and i also think there's

00:08:21.660 a reason why we look down on the homeless like bum crackheads down the street like that that aren't 1.00

00:08:27.900 doing anything they're not paying anything like they're not contributing to society there's a reason

00:08:32.060 why they're considered losers in society i don't look at them as losers okay i'm not saying you personally

00:08:39.660 but i'm saying as a society do they tend do the do we tend to put crackheads on a pedestal no no

00:08:44.620 do we do we tend to say grow up grow up but i mean i think if you're not doing anything it's not

00:08:54.780 even just um homeless people it's guys who drive buses or bin men we we don't put them on pedestals

00:08:59.660 either we actually look down on men unfortunately i don't like i think if you have a job that contributes

00:09:04.540 to society i think that's fine but i do think you owe your society to be a productive member of society

00:09:11.420 and if women aren't gonna go down the kids route like i i think they owe the same exact thing yeah 1.00

00:09:16.540 i agree with that yeah i absolutely agree with that

JustPearlyThings - November 10, 2023

Pearl Drops This Hard Truth About Women

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