JustPearlyThings - June 23, 2023


Pearl Drops This Truth Bomb On Modern Woman


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

213.42482

Word Count

2,001

Sentence Count

184

Misogynist Sentences

16

Hate Speech Sentences

25


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Can I steer this just slightly?
00:00:03.500 No.
00:00:04.920 I'm doing it slightly.
00:00:09.020 So, you know, a lot of the things we're talking about is that, you know,
00:00:12.880 all of this is just to have, I guess, to weaken men and that, you know,
00:00:18.100 men are weak in all of this.
00:00:19.600 But going back to that,
00:00:21.320 do you not think that this is actually just to weaken people,
00:00:24.440 both men and women?
00:00:25.640 Yeah.
00:00:26.220 Because actually men and women, we both need each other as much.
00:00:30.000 You know, as much as a man needs a woman and vice versa.
00:00:33.360 So we're saying, you know,
00:00:34.840 actually this is all a systematic thing that's taken down men.
00:00:37.840 But actually if women were just as woke about this,
00:00:40.640 we would all just be as powerful.
00:00:42.520 Do you not believe that?
00:00:43.980 Women aren't weak today.
00:00:44.980 So I think when men win, they win for everyone.
00:00:47.880 When women win, they win for themselves.
00:00:50.480 Can you explain that a bit more?
00:00:51.840 So like when men had all the more power in society,
00:00:56.060 like they still gave women rights and privileges.
00:00:58.920 So, I mean, such as voting, they didn't,
00:01:02.280 men were the ones that built society, right?
00:01:04.300 And they gave us the right to vote.
00:01:05.740 But when women win, we're very selfish.
00:01:07.860 When we got the power to leave our husbands, we did.
00:01:10.840 And also who goes to war, men or women?
00:01:12.780 It's always men, but who starts the wars?
00:01:15.380 Actually women, no, no.
00:01:16.540 Over the last 500 years,
00:01:18.040 women have waged more wars than men when it comes to a percentage.
00:01:21.260 So like when women were in power, they wage war more,
00:01:24.080 which makes sense.
00:01:24.720 So Iraq, that was starting.
00:01:26.220 No, no, no.
00:01:26.780 I said more men have been in power in the last 500 years.
00:01:30.560 Absolutely.
00:01:31.120 But I'm saying if you look at it as a percentage basis.
00:01:34.180 So if you look at like there was 10 women in power,
00:01:37.040 it's a higher percentage that women have started wars.
00:01:40.280 Would you make sense?
00:01:40.820 We're more spiteful.
00:01:41.680 Come on.
00:01:42.080 Like imagine a group of guys living in a house versus a group of women.
00:01:45.480 Being labeled in like the whole group of women
00:01:47.440 because I don't seem, I don't know.
00:01:49.580 I don't think I'm not the same as you
00:01:51.080 and we're not the same as each other.
00:01:52.800 We have to make generalizations in order to have a conversation.
00:01:56.060 And I think there's like a female nature and a male.
00:01:58.140 That's where it gets a bit tricky though.
00:01:59.480 When we make generalizations.
00:02:01.300 I think we have to.
00:02:02.700 We have to.
00:02:03.620 We can't.
00:02:03.980 I try not to make generalizations about people.
00:02:05.980 Well, then you can't have a conversation about anything.
00:02:08.060 Because then it's your pre-judging, aren't you?
00:02:10.020 You're making like a pre-judgment.
00:02:11.560 And I like to give everybody the benefit of the doubt.
00:02:13.580 You're not the same as you and vice versa.
00:02:16.820 Do you think it's equal that men get along the same way women get along?
00:02:22.940 That's a very blanket term.
00:02:24.400 So you're going to need to dumb that down a little bit for me now.
00:02:26.780 How could I dumb it down more than that?
00:02:30.960 Do you think women get along the same way men get along?
00:02:34.780 So by getting along though,
00:02:36.560 I think that's what I'm asking you to dumb down
00:02:38.220 because that's quite a broad getting along.
00:02:40.480 What do you mean by getting along?
00:02:41.700 Do you mean just having a conversation?
00:02:44.080 Do you mean, you know, undergoing hobbies together?
00:02:46.240 What do you mean by that?
00:02:47.160 Not having disagreements.
00:02:49.320 Yeah.
00:02:49.580 So you think that women have disagreed?
00:02:52.920 I'm just trying to.
00:02:53.960 I think women disagree with each other more than men disagree with each other.
00:02:57.940 Okay.
00:02:58.720 Yeah.
00:02:58.940 I think women are more catty.
00:03:00.380 I think women are more spiteful.
00:03:01.860 I think women are more conniving in general.
00:03:03.920 Do you think that comes from us being a little bit more emotional?
00:03:07.900 Yeah.
00:03:08.540 Well, I think we're, we had to be more socially,
00:03:10.480 like men bully each other physically,
00:03:12.440 where I think women bully each other emotionally more.
00:03:15.520 So I think, I think we're just more like our weapon is emotions.
00:03:18.840 Where men's a weapon is violence.
00:03:20.520 And that's what makes,
00:03:21.220 that's what makes us different as men and women, isn't it?
00:03:23.520 But I also believe that within each person, we have a lot of balance, right?
00:03:27.780 So we all have masculine and feminine traits about us.
00:03:30.620 There's no one person that's just entirely masculine.
00:03:33.220 And there's no one woman or man that's entirely feminine.
00:03:36.400 Do you get what I mean?
00:03:37.180 But I believe that.
00:03:37.940 So it's having that balance.
00:03:38.840 But I believe men and women are born in different,
00:03:41.240 like I think, I don't think it's equal when we're born.
00:03:43.900 Like it's a blank slate.
00:03:45.680 Oh, absolutely.
00:03:46.340 In this society, we're not equal.
00:03:48.860 What do you mean?
00:03:50.060 In this society that we've been brought up in,
00:03:52.260 men and women are not equal.
00:03:53.260 Well, I'm talking about biology.
00:03:55.580 Even biology, we're not the same.
00:03:57.340 Yeah.
00:03:57.720 So like, I think men are better leaders in general.
00:04:01.480 Yes.
00:04:02.120 Because they're less emotional.
00:04:03.800 They are able to make clear decisions compared to women.
00:04:08.800 But sometimes you need that.
00:04:09.380 You've got to leave those beliefs in Morocco when you come to the West.
00:04:12.480 You know, you can't say those things.
00:04:13.620 I think sometimes you need a little,
00:04:15.400 that's where balance comes in though,
00:04:16.960 because you need to have a little bit.
00:04:18.920 No, no, I know.
00:04:19.540 I'm being sarcastic.
00:04:21.540 I do feel like good things like that though.
00:04:23.780 As much as we're saying like,
00:04:25.000 okay, so like men are better leaders because they're not emotional.
00:04:27.740 Well, actually,
00:04:28.220 I think you do need to have a little bit of emotion there for it to be a leader
00:04:32.100 because you need to be able to empathize with the people that you are leading.
00:04:35.940 Do you not agree with that?
00:04:37.120 I do not want a commander in chief general.
00:04:41.900 I'm not saying be soft and like cry all the time.
00:04:45.360 I'm saying have balance.
00:04:46.480 That's the key here.
00:04:47.760 When you have imbalance,
00:04:49.140 that's when you have problems.
00:04:50.520 So there are plenty of male leaders who have balance
00:04:52.380 and it's only a tiny bit of empathy,
00:04:54.440 which is needed in order to be a good leader.
00:04:56.540 But then how's that tiny bit of empathy?
00:04:58.100 But this is actually an example of like,
00:05:01.760 you're telling men to emote like women.
00:05:03.940 Oh, no, not emote.
00:05:04.640 I said balance.
00:05:05.540 I'm not saying.
00:05:06.200 No, but balance is like saying be more emotional,
00:05:08.340 be more feminine.
00:05:09.400 It's really,
00:05:10.000 it's in our language.
00:05:11.300 Because here's that thing, right?
00:05:12.620 We say about men,
00:05:13.560 that's a horrible thing that people say is that men shouldn't cry.
00:05:16.700 That's a horrible thing.
00:05:18.200 But actually,
00:05:18.920 crying is a natural emotion.
00:05:20.400 But I feel like now it's starting to get normalized.
00:05:22.540 Like I see a lot of things on social media about men should,
00:05:26.120 should,
00:05:26.820 if they want to express themselves and if they want to cry,
00:05:29.440 they should be allowed to.
00:05:30.420 But this is,
00:05:31.300 it's the same conversation though.
00:05:32.980 It's like telling men to emote like women.
00:05:35.060 Women cry.
00:05:36.000 So you're saying men be more like a woman.
00:05:38.020 But it's natural to cry.
00:05:39.240 So don't deny something that's natural.
00:05:40.840 To women.
00:05:41.700 But why,
00:05:42.120 why is that assumed to be like good?
00:05:44.620 What do you mean?
00:05:45.320 If you're,
00:05:45.700 if you're releasing an emotion that is keeping,
00:05:48.760 but that's it.
00:05:49.560 If it's troubling him
00:05:51.540 and his natural emotion is that they're,
00:05:54.420 they're literally tears are welling up.
00:05:56.140 I'm not going to be like,
00:05:57.040 suck those tears up boy.
00:05:58.360 No,
00:05:58.600 no,
00:05:58.700 you got to be a real man and go home and cry in secret.
00:06:01.660 And let nobody know.
00:06:02.500 You're still crying though,
00:06:03.480 right?
00:06:04.120 And it's,
00:06:04.620 yeah,
00:06:04.740 there's nothing,
00:06:05.380 there's nothing wrong with it,
00:06:06.220 but I think,
00:06:06.820 but she's nothing wrong with it.
00:06:08.300 There's nothing wrong with it.
00:06:09.240 But this,
00:06:10.280 this,
00:06:10.940 um,
00:06:11.660 there's a media campaign for a reason.
00:06:13.580 This media campaign to push dudes to be more in tune with their emotions.
00:06:18.740 Listen,
00:06:19.180 anybody who lives based upon their emotions is going to be a guaranteed failure.
00:06:24.380 And that's why I said balance.
00:06:25.880 That is the key thing.
00:06:26.820 I think we're all like not really grasping here is that I'm saying balance because if you're too emotional,
00:06:31.740 you're going to go one way.
00:06:32.820 And if you don't have any emotion at all,
00:06:34.920 you're going to go the other way.
00:06:35.940 So it's just having it.
00:06:37.260 So I agree with you on that.
00:06:38.440 But at the same time,
00:06:39.420 if you want to be a leader,
00:06:40.320 if you're too emotional or,
00:06:42.940 you know,
00:06:43.260 you claim to have these balances,
00:06:44.580 but if you show an emotional side,
00:06:46.980 that side can be manipulated against you.
00:06:49.400 But that's,
00:06:50.160 it can balance.
00:06:51.520 Emotional,
00:06:51.880 emotional men,
00:06:52.940 emotional men become school shooters.
00:06:55.020 You don't have to show that's what happens when men are mentally ill though.
00:06:59.820 That's someone that's mentally ill having emotion and displaying a little bit of emotion.
00:07:04.020 I think it's kind of different to someone having like mental illness.
00:07:06.260 Who are women to tell men how to emote?
00:07:08.500 Like this is the whole,
00:07:09.340 but you are because you're,
00:07:10.260 you are because you're saying like emote like a woman.
00:07:12.900 No,
00:07:13.400 I didn't,
00:07:13.980 never.
00:07:14.980 You didn't say those words.
00:07:16.440 You said have a balance.
00:07:17.800 You said have a balance.
00:07:18.600 Okay.
00:07:19.060 But you,
00:07:20.220 but you as a woman,
00:07:21.600 so you're,
00:07:21.880 you're saying that from your point of view.
00:07:23.640 So you're saying this is the perfect,
00:07:25.120 wait,
00:07:25.400 wait,
00:07:25.600 you're saying this is the perfect amount of emotional balance,
00:07:28.100 whatever it is.
00:07:28.860 So emote like me,
00:07:30.600 but men are not women.
00:07:32.080 I don't want anyone to emote like me first of all,
00:07:35.100 because,
00:07:35.440 oh my God,
00:07:35.920 we'd be in a situation.
00:07:38.520 No.
00:07:39.480 What I'm saying is,
00:07:40.640 it's just,
00:07:41.080 it's having that bit of balance because imagine how hard it must be for men,
00:07:44.720 because there's a lot of pressure on men in this society as well,
00:07:47.720 that they have to constantly always be the strongest person.
00:07:50.840 But let's be real as human beings,
00:07:52.760 not everybody is strong 100% of the time.
00:07:54.500 You can't lean and be emotional.
00:07:56.420 You can't.
00:07:57.300 I have a question for you.
00:07:58.120 As our friend said.
00:07:59.920 I have a question for you.
00:08:00.940 So you keep talking about this balance.
00:08:03.200 So can you tell us how to identify where the line for the balance is?
00:08:07.700 I don't know where the line is,
00:08:08.820 because I feel like that's very subjective for every person.
00:08:11.600 Exactly.
00:08:12.340 Everyone's going to have.
00:08:13.160 No,
00:08:13.340 but that's the point because.
00:08:14.200 Exactly.
00:08:14.740 So everyone's.
00:08:15.700 Because if you keep saying balance,
00:08:17.140 balance for everyone is going to be different.
00:08:19.320 Right.
00:08:19.520 Even when a man tries to be more emotional,
00:08:22.760 he's going to be in front of a certain woman.
00:08:25.520 Right.
00:08:25.800 And he doesn't necessarily know if he becomes this much emotional,
00:08:30.140 if he's going to put that woman off.
00:08:32.060 That's his problem.
00:08:33.780 Exactly.
00:08:34.860 Subjective.
00:08:35.560 So that is why men are asked to be more stoic,
00:08:38.640 because then you tend to remove all those problems.
00:08:41.700 And how much pressure does that put on a man if he has to constantly be there?
00:08:45.560 It doesn't matter.
00:08:45.580 Men were built for pressure.
00:08:46.660 That's the point.
00:08:47.240 Yeah.
00:08:47.380 But these days people are trying to tell men that we shouldn't do what we're built for.
00:08:52.940 Our ancestors had to run miles to look for food.
00:08:56.140 Our ancestors had to run miles to look for water.
00:08:58.740 They had to fight wild animals.
00:09:00.460 But today we're telling men you need to cry more.
00:09:03.300 I'm not telling no man to cry more.
00:09:05.620 I'm saying that.
00:09:06.240 You just did.
00:09:06.920 No,
00:09:07.220 I didn't.
00:09:07.700 I said to have balance.
00:09:08.780 And I've also said that it is okay if you need to do so.
00:09:11.920 You said be more emotional.
00:09:12.280 But let me ask you this.
00:09:13.300 I said to have balance,
00:09:14.940 not to be more emotional.
00:09:16.440 So,
00:09:16.760 so,
00:09:17.000 okay,
00:09:17.380 you said have a more balance.
00:09:19.440 According to you.
00:09:20.400 So,
00:09:20.880 so balance according to you.