JustPearlyThings - May 09, 2023


Pearl Educates Modern Woman About Marriage


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12 minutes

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2,820

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240

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24

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In this episode, we discuss why women should or shouldn t get married at 40. We also talk about if women should stay in a relationship if they are in a monogamous relationship at that age. We discuss why a woman should or should not leave her husband if he cheats on her and why she should stay if he does cheat on her.

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00:00:00.000 Do you know what a chance of being married is?
00:00:02.640 No.
00:00:03.600 What is that?
00:00:03.900 That age.
00:00:04.800 Hit me with it.
00:00:05.560 Yeah, yeah.
00:00:06.880 12%.
00:00:07.440 But that doesn't mean she should feel so much.
00:00:08.840 I'll be in that song, Sam.
00:00:09.880 So my opinion with this, I feel like, as a woman, you should have standards, but then
00:00:14.280 there is a time and place.
00:00:15.800 Like, at that age, your standards should go a bit lower, let's be honest.
00:00:19.120 And then my opinion, if you've got a good career and you feel so hard for your career,
00:00:22.740 why can't you then take care and wear that? 0.52
00:00:24.740 You want to do that, right?
00:00:25.980 Do it then.
00:00:26.480 Why do you need now?
00:00:27.140 Wear the trousers.
00:00:27.560 Yeah, you wanted to do that.
00:00:29.220 You chose that, then do it.
00:00:30.880 Why now you want someone with high value?
00:00:33.080 That's my point.
00:00:33.980 It don't make sense.
00:00:34.660 That's my point.
00:00:35.140 Because at 22, she could have married a provider.
00:00:39.500 She could have had been in that position, but she chose to go after it.
00:00:43.260 That's fine.
00:00:44.240 I'm not knocking you for it.
00:00:45.640 But then you get to that position, and now you require someone that makes more.
00:00:50.220 It's like, well, why did you go for that?
00:00:52.020 My question is, why does she feel like she is above? 0.98
00:00:57.400 What is it that she's doing?
00:00:58.500 I just want to know, like, what is it that she's doing?
00:01:00.540 She's clearly doing something correct for her to have that opinion.
00:01:04.260 But what part of it made you think that she thinks she's above?
00:01:07.760 I don't know, like a newscaster or something.
00:01:09.840 News is important.
00:01:10.680 She's on TV every day. 0.68
00:01:11.740 Maybe that's something is sexual.
00:01:13.160 I don't know for her to feel that.
00:01:16.960 You know.
00:01:17.940 But what part of what she said made you feel like she felt that she was better than him?
00:01:22.580 No, I think that she must be doing something great to have that opinion.
00:01:25.180 Oh, to have that opinion.
00:01:25.900 That's my point.
00:01:26.540 I think she's just delusional.
00:01:28.140 This is what they say.
00:01:29.060 Listening to the reporter's response.
00:01:30.860 That's why she's 39 and alone.
00:01:32.480 She should buy a dog.
00:01:33.260 It has nothing to do with race.
00:01:34.880 Because, like, my whole point is he's in a job that makes society run.
00:01:39.480 And none of, like, women in general, none of us would be able to do anything if the men 0.93
00:01:43.360 didn't build society to a point that it runs.
00:01:46.040 And so now it's like the men are building and running society.
00:01:50.420 And then we come in and get these cushy jobs and act like we're better than the men that
00:01:54.720 are doing the hard jobs.
00:01:56.080 So it's not even that she's not a high value woman.
00:01:58.600 It's that she is perhaps too dominant in a sense, not feminine enough.
00:02:03.200 Because why is it that she's got a good career?
00:02:05.540 She looks good.
00:02:06.700 Why are you not married and settled down?
00:02:08.660 Yeah, no, she's.
00:02:09.480 What's wrong with her for her? 1.00
00:02:11.420 Correct.
00:02:12.020 And so that's why I say she's delusional because she has this ego. 0.74
00:02:15.420 Yeah. 0.98
00:02:15.600 Where it's like, okay, if you're 40 and you're unmarried, you're basically a loser by 0.79
00:02:20.220 women's standards. 1.00
00:02:21.240 You're a loser. 1.00
00:02:21.960 And so she's a loser out here and she's shitting on an average dude. 1.00
00:02:28.680 Let her live in her delusion. 1.00
00:02:30.360 You know what?
00:02:30.720 Sometimes delusion pays off.
00:02:32.600 So let her live in her delusion and she will see what she may find and she will have to 0.82
00:02:37.660 accept.
00:02:38.040 What's the definition of insanity?
00:02:40.100 Doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.
00:02:43.280 Exactly.
00:02:44.440 That's my point.
00:02:46.100 There's no context here with this lady.
00:02:47.900 That's the hardest thing.
00:02:48.780 We don't even know.
00:02:49.200 She might have just came out of a marriage that he's just cheated.
00:02:52.460 So she's left because she's confident in herself and has the self-worth to leave.
00:02:56.380 In that example, she's not a loser.
00:02:58.560 She's not.
00:02:59.080 I don't.
00:02:59.360 I think she's actually doing the right thing.
00:03:01.420 So how do we know?
00:03:02.120 I think women should stay if they get cheated on in general. 1.00
00:03:05.300 You think they should stay?
00:03:06.080 As a blanket statement or do you mean if he's a provider?
00:03:08.620 No, I think in general you should stay because I think women don't care about vows anymore. 1.00
00:03:13.620 And at the end of the day, you did take vows for richer, for better, for worse.
00:03:17.540 Because I think most women at some point have accepted attention from another man in a relationship.
00:03:22.620 I think at some.
00:03:23.240 And so a lot of times I think like women will demonize men for cheating, but they still have open Instagram accounts. 0.69
00:03:28.540 Yeah.
00:03:28.880 They still put ads and pictures on Instagram.
00:03:30.880 What about for business though?
00:03:32.820 I mean, it's still a for sale sign if your face is on it.
00:03:36.620 So because I'm taken, do you think I should put my account on private?
00:03:39.260 Yeah, I think you should.
00:03:40.340 Even if it blocks all of my business and my work, no one can see my content.
00:03:43.460 It doesn't share.
00:03:43.980 It's on private.
00:03:44.420 I mean, I think it depends what matters to you.
00:03:47.600 But yeah, I think if you're with a guy that you want to be married to, I would.
00:03:51.440 And what if he doesn't care?
00:03:53.160 You know, I'm not going to tell you how to run your relationship.
00:03:55.960 But I think in general it's just funny because, again, I believe attention is to women, as sex is to men. 0.55
00:04:00.060 We get into a relationship.
00:04:01.620 The men are expected to stop having sex with other people, but the women are not expected to put away Instagram.
00:04:06.600 And so I think a lot of times women demonize men for cheating and make them be this evil person. 1.00
00:04:11.560 But we don't take the, like, the thorn out of our own eye before throwing in the towel.
00:04:17.140 How many times, when you say cheat, do you mean just like the one-off or what?
00:04:22.660 How do I put it?
00:04:23.360 Like, I think there's a lot of issues that we don't talk about in a marriage.
00:04:26.420 And I think one of them is that a lot of men are in sexless marriages.
00:04:29.280 So the women are not sleeping with them. 1.00
00:04:32.120 That's crazy.
00:04:32.660 Or they're belittling them every day.
00:04:34.040 They get home and they're just nagging, nagging, nagging.
00:04:36.320 And so then the guy goes elsewhere because of something the woman did.
00:04:40.200 And so, and then the girl will cry on social media and say, oh, I was cheated on. 0.99
00:04:44.140 And we immediately say, aww, without asking any questions of what she had to play.
00:04:49.840 My question is, like, if a man is to cheat multiple times, should the woman stay? 0.52
00:04:55.600 Ideally, yeah.
00:04:56.380 I think you should try to work it out.
00:04:57.740 It doesn't mean he'll cheat forever.
00:04:59.360 But I think sometimes you have to go through hard times.
00:05:01.440 So are you trying to say, like, cheating is not that steep?
00:05:03.760 I'm not saying cheating.
00:05:04.860 I'm not saying cheating.
00:05:05.840 I think I always misquote me.
00:05:06.820 I'm not saying cheating is okay or should be inspired for.
00:05:09.340 And I think you should aim to get a guy that doesn't cheat.
00:05:11.660 But what I'm saying is, like, we used to believe that the family was more important than our
00:05:16.040 feelings.
00:05:16.920 And now if we are hurt or damaged in a relationship, we want to, like, play the victim and act like
00:05:23.060 we didn't hurt or damage him ever.
00:05:24.960 Yeah.
00:05:25.300 And there's no understanding in relationships anymore.
00:05:27.920 Okay.
00:05:28.200 Now, if you are on point towards your man and he still has this promiscuous attitude where
00:05:33.420 he wants to go and do that, then what?
00:05:36.040 I think, you know, I think there should be some humility because you're probably not on
00:05:40.680 point with everything.
00:05:41.760 Yeah.
00:05:41.980 No, but I mean, you're the best that you can be, and he loves that.
00:05:45.820 But perhaps, it's rare, by the way, that a man would act that way.
00:05:50.200 But if he does, should the woman still stay? 0.89
00:05:52.440 I think the goal should always be to work it out.
00:05:55.780 I think the goal, like, are there exceptions where you should leave?
00:05:59.440 Sure.
00:05:59.920 Yeah.
00:06:00.100 But I think as woman, like, and wanting to keep families together, your goal should always
00:06:04.740 be to work it out instead of just to leave every time it gets hard.
00:06:08.560 Because, like, come on.
00:06:09.680 The girl, like, the girl gets cheated on, but it's like, you've never flirted with another
00:06:13.440 guy in a relationship ever.
00:06:15.120 Like, come on.
00:06:15.780 Do you say this because you're putting children at, like, the epicenter of, like, keeping the
00:06:20.280 family together?
00:06:21.220 I'm putting it because I believe in marriage.
00:06:22.800 And I believe in real marriage, not the marriage we have today.
00:06:26.000 So, like, now, I think marriage isn't marriage anymore today.
00:06:29.440 I think if you believe that you should leave in every, like, bad part of a relationship,
00:06:34.360 you don't, you shouldn't be married.
00:06:36.020 Agreed.
00:06:36.260 Like, stay out of marriage. 0.55
00:06:37.320 Just be in relationship to relationship.
00:06:39.060 But if you believe in for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, that means your
00:06:43.080 husband might step out and you might have to work it out. 0.75
00:06:46.120 And I think we should go into, like, marriage just knowing that might happen and knowing
00:06:49.760 our goal is to work it out.
00:06:51.380 But that's why a lot of people are not getting married nowadays.
00:06:53.920 And also, on both sides, the man is also going to do things that are wrong.
00:06:58.940 He also has to stay.
00:07:00.120 It works both ways.
00:07:01.200 Yeah, of course.
00:07:01.760 If you step out of line, are you staying?
00:07:03.880 Do you know what I mean?
00:07:04.200 And do you hold women to the same regard in terms of, like, if a woman cheats the majesty?
00:07:08.000 I think cheating is infinitely worse for women than men. 0.99
00:07:11.780 I mean, I think if a woman cheats, I would. 1.00
00:07:16.140 They say in the Bible that, like, a woman can, or a man can divorce a woman if she cheats,
00:07:22.140 but they don't say the same for a woman to a man.
00:07:25.080 So the Bible's kind of red pill in that.
00:07:27.900 But I think the goal is always to work it out.
00:07:30.800 I think that should be the goal on both sides.
00:07:33.080 But I would, you know, I'm a little biased.
00:07:35.520 I think if the woman cheats, he should divorce her more. 1.00
00:07:38.160 But let's even put aside the Bible.
00:07:41.020 As a woman, you're receiving.
00:07:42.600 You're receiving energy.
00:07:44.320 And, you know, yeah, you're getting something.
00:07:47.620 Whereas the man, yeah, you're giving.
00:07:49.700 It's not okay, but it's very, very different as a woman. 0.98
00:07:53.700 Yeah, I think cheating's worse for women. 1.00
00:07:55.840 It is.
00:07:56.420 Well, it is because it takes a woman. 1.00
00:07:57.900 Is it like, that's like the final straw, really?
00:07:59.780 A woman cheating is the final straw. 1.00
00:08:01.540 She's not just going to step out for fun.
00:08:02.980 Not only that, but also in the Bible and in the Quran,
00:08:06.600 it says that like women are just more precious physically. 1.00
00:08:09.740 You know, men were created by dust.
00:08:11.560 So that means not to say you guys are dirty. 0.56
00:08:13.080 You guys are only for dust. 0.97
00:08:14.400 Whilst women, we actually come from the man's ribs. 1.00
00:08:16.520 So therefore, we are way more precious.
00:08:17.980 So when we cheat, it does hurt.
00:08:19.580 And I also want to add to the point that keeping the family together
00:08:22.200 just creates a healthy society.
00:08:23.580 Because we all know that when kids come from a broken home,
00:08:27.220 they become more damaged and they become more confused
00:08:29.380 and they start to do things.
00:08:30.460 So I agree on the point that you should make it work,
00:08:33.080 but I'm still against you.
00:08:33.780 But that is why it's so important for the husband as well.
00:08:36.400 Because if the woman is just trying, it's not okay for the kids. 1.00
00:08:39.520 I've seen that happen where the woman is giving, giving, giving 1.00
00:08:41.920 and the man is just doing what he wants.
00:08:44.180 It works both ways.
00:08:45.520 I think, yeah, but without like talking with exceptions and stuff,
00:08:48.520 because there's always, oh, this could be, he could be abusive,
00:08:50.660 he could be this.
00:08:51.500 Without talking, let's say a healthy relationship
00:08:53.580 and that occurred, I do believe we should work it out.
00:08:57.440 And I don't condone it.
00:09:00.220 It shouldn't happen in the first place.
00:09:02.200 But realistically, would he be looking somewhere else
00:09:05.080 if we didn't, if he didn't receive it at home?
00:09:07.560 If he didn't, if he didn't have the home environment,
00:09:11.400 would he go look somewhere else?
00:09:12.960 And I'm talking, if we're going to,
00:09:14.140 we're not going to talk about exceptions
00:09:15.500 because we, there is bad men as well without the exception.
00:09:17.940 The good relationship.
00:09:18.820 Yeah, I think, I think we should work it out.
00:09:20.780 I could actually justify a man cheating
00:09:22.520 if he's not getting it from his wife.
00:09:23.860 I can completely justify that. 0.99
00:09:25.660 Or if she's bringing bullshit every single day. 0.99
00:09:27.740 I can, I can get that. 0.99
00:09:28.960 I have a question for the men.
00:09:30.220 I feel like a lot of men say that you can love a woman 0.96
00:09:32.780 and still like, you know, have SEX with another woman.
00:09:35.700 Like, I actually want you guys to break it down to be like,
00:09:38.540 how does that work where you can, you know,
00:09:41.920 love one woman, but do something to hurt her at the same time,
00:09:44.980 but still say you love her?
00:09:46.060 Like, would you be able to answer that question?
00:09:47.460 How does that work?
00:09:48.140 Yes, because men like to bust nuts. 0.94
00:09:52.220 I can see how that could work though.
00:09:54.620 So that's it.
00:09:55.240 It's just bust in the nut.
00:09:56.000 What if bust in the nut is going to break her heart? 0.99
00:09:57.700 Because they're mutually exclusive.
00:09:59.040 Like, it doesn't take away from the other.
00:10:01.160 My love for you, it's not gone because I'm talking to somebody else.
00:10:05.480 Think about it biologically.
00:10:07.600 If a woman gets pregnant, she's out for almost nine months 0.99
00:10:12.080 and a man still has to bust nuts.
00:10:14.320 So, biologically, one woman really can't satisfy a man. 1.00
00:10:19.720 He can do that with her. 0.93
00:10:21.240 If a man cheats on his pregnant wife, that's disgusting. 0.99
00:10:24.620 That's mad.
00:10:25.580 I'm not talking about the morality.
00:10:27.060 I'm talking about the facts.
00:10:29.140 Yeah, but that's what you're basing on, that time period.
00:10:31.860 But you see that?
00:10:32.240 It's like you demonize him so quick. 0.99
00:10:35.360 Oh, that's disgusting. 0.98
00:10:36.600 But that's what I'm saying. 0.98
00:10:38.460 We lack understanding for men.
00:10:41.260 I don't lack understanding.
00:10:42.180 Wait, wait, you do based on that response. 0.96
00:10:44.720 Because your immediate response is, oh, that's disgusting.
00:10:47.520 I'm basing it on what I know.
00:10:49.020 Right, I know, it's fine.
00:10:50.280 But I'm saying as a society, we lack understanding for men
00:10:53.960 instead of understanding where they're coming from.
00:10:56.700 If she's not sleeping with you and she's pregnant, it's hard for a guy. 0.89
00:11:00.260 That's hard.
00:11:00.840 So what I've based it on is the woman is still wanting to sleep with her man, 0.97
00:11:06.240 but he views her, a lot of men, they get turned off during the woman's pregnancy, right?
00:11:11.320 She doesn't look the same, so therefore they look elsewhere. 0.93
00:11:14.280 That is a type of, in my eyes, that is disgusting.
00:11:18.000 And that's the type of man that you want to avoid. 0.99
00:11:20.860 That's crazy.
00:11:21.820 That's what I'm talking about.
00:11:23.300 I don't mean like, I don't mean a good man who's, you know,
00:11:26.920 the woman's turning him down, he's looking elsewhere.
00:11:28.440 That's different.
00:11:28.960 If your woman's willing to give it to you 1.00
00:11:30.780 and you're just looking at her thinking, oh, she looks ugly. 1.00
00:11:32.740 Yeah. 0.96
00:11:34.000 Yeah.
00:11:34.880 Is that a thing?
00:11:35.820 Like men don't want to sleep when they're pregnant? 0.98
00:11:37.500 Yeah, have you not heard of that?
00:11:38.840 The percentage is a high.
00:11:40.080 That's another minority of men.
00:11:42.120 They cheat.
00:11:42.960 No, I think that like women kind of like have these horror stories 1.00
00:11:46.920 that were just like propagating.
00:11:48.280 Because women are more susceptible to like propaganda, to be honest. 0.99
00:11:51.380 So I think there's like a bunch of like programming
00:11:54.140 where they just give us these crazy stories that don't really.
00:11:56.980 It's not like if you have sex, you're poking the baby's head and stuff. 0.60
00:11:59.500 No, no.
00:12:00.260 I mean like.
00:12:00.860 But the story that I just gave, is that what you mean?
00:12:03.380 No, I mean not just you, but like one of them, yeah.
00:12:06.640 Like the, you know you guys,
00:12:08.420 how many times have people mentioned abuse in the show?
00:12:10.740 Mm-mm.
00:12:11.660 Yeah, like why is that even mentioned all the time? 0.95
00:12:14.020 Like this is left and right, men are abusing women. 0.99
00:12:16.860 It's just not, it's not true.
00:12:18.340 Women are abusing men is why it works both ways. 1.00
00:12:20.300 Yeah, we both said that though.
00:12:21.420 Right, but I'm saying like that's always the women's immediate response. 0.79
00:12:24.640 It's like what's the worst that can happen?
00:12:26.420 Yeah.
00:12:26.960 It's like a gut.
00:12:27.880 Like whenever we talk about things that women are doing wrong, 1.00
00:12:30.860 it's always like gut reaction.
00:12:32.100 What's the worst that can happen?
00:12:34.020 I've just noticed it because I've been doing this for so long.
00:12:36.140 So,
00:12:36.640 you know,