Pearl Educates Naive Modern On Her G＊y Male Friends
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the dangers of social media, dating apps, dating in general, and what it's like to be a woman in the modern dating culture. We also talk about whether or not women should be allowed to post selfies in dating apps and if it's okay to dress up for men.
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and she's got her phone in her hand you see right there and yeah I just think
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because of the phone she's getting usually she's got like 10 guy friends
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she's getting like 10 million likes from all the guys on Instagram messaging her
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every day trying to date her so it's like we just have this constant
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validation so we just think we're so amazing and hot it's true where the men
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are just told ain't shit all the time so it's like not a validation some
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equal validation and yeah so I think when we post the selfies it's just we're
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getting all this attention from the other people and I think we should avoid that
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if we can so I'm gonna say now all right so who says yes to the selfies raise your
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hand I still say yes I'm overruled today it's all right though so going back to
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dating question okay go ahead because I have to ask if you if I didn't post a
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picture of myself in a dating app would you be would any guy be more attracted to
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a blank profile than an actual profile with a picture on that depends on your
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bio do you go for people's bios more than I've never seen one without a selfie
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ever I know so you would need a selfie no but but the point is you're on a dating app for the men so
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obviously it's acceptable for you to post your picture there but if you claim that
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you're not on Instagram for men then why are you posting your picture
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because you could be like I said you could just be posting it for business purposes
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I see where everyone's coming from but realistically like you want to kind of know
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who you speak into like why would you not want to know who you speak into I'm sure that also goes
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into how to be attracted how to attract to someone unless you're like you know you've got a type of
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what would I say sapiosexual should be sapiosexual okay but I understand but like if it's like so for
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instance on my Instagram I have just four posts on there I'm a videographer as well as a producer
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but like I make videos but even though I make videos I don't necessarily post so many videos on there
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yeah I used to post a lot when I was actually doing my videography I'm doing a lot of edits but now
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I don't really post anything because it's like what's the point yeah I'm not just going to put
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a selfie so my point is it's not like you can't have a couple of pictures in there but like when
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you're posting selfies like today you post a selfie tomorrow you post a selfie that's what we're
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talking about we're not just talking about having like the odd selfie here and there okay
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that's just someone that's just an attention scene yeah that's to be posting all the time like
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that's too much going on I think my point is like men used to get like the best of us because
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all of our validation and attention was tied to making one guy happy so that was like our focus
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but now it's like you see these women you know they have their kids and they're like I saw a video the
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other day of a woman on her phone and the guy took her baby because she was paying attention to her phone
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and he just he just he gave it back to her but it was just to like point out that she wasn't paying
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any attention to her kid yeah and I just think like social media has just made us like crazy to
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the point where we're like dressing up for Instagram but not like like well we'll dress up for like
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you'll see wives dress up for a girls night out but not for their husband when he gets home and it's
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like almost like the internet's getting the best of us and not the people around us so it's kind of
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just a weird dynamic guy friends is that acceptable or unacceptable unacceptable just kind of
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based all right what do you think it's unacceptable even if you're out of a relationship
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no because everyone's trying to fuck I think it I think it depends like you know my guy friends
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two of them obviously they are um they're um homosexual so you know I don't really have a problem
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with them however other guy friends I wouldn't really say if I'm in a relationship I would keep
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up with them to be honest even out of a relationship just no just respect yeah like just respect you
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wouldn't just out of respect you wouldn't know every guy's trying to fuck that's what they say
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wait would the gay friends count like would they be okay yeah I feel no why I don't have any
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gay friends they don't want any pee they just want the dick what
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gay friends are the worst they probably move to your man
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because then the woman goes to them to spill gossip and the gay friend is not going to be
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nah I think I think it depends on what type of category they are um let me just be careful
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I feel like it depends what category you are like if there are someone who's a bit
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intensely feminine then of course they're not going to be um they're not going to really take
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the man's side but if there's somebody who can see both which is like masculine and feminine
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either way the right friend will always put you in the right direction always put you in the place if
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you're in the wrong realistically so I don't really see it as much of a problem I wouldn't trust I
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wouldn't trust gay friends around my girl simply because because there's a lot of things that I know women
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don't think about first of all you know how women get with their gay friends there there's almost
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no boundaries you tell them every single secret they look through your phones I might have pictures
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on there of my naked self on there and then your it sounds like you know from experience because
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this is too much going on this is too much going on very in depth literally logic I'm thinking like
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a man I'm telling you how men see it okay about yeah so it's like there's so many things that women
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just don't think about because you're just in the middle of oh yes my girlfriend ah la la
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and then now when I've mentioned it you're saying oh it doesn't have to be like an experience it's
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just logic like if you really think about it and that's the reason why like really and truly you
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shouldn't have too many friends that are so close to you when you're in a relationship because when you
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have so many people outside of a relationship that you go to with problems then you're just opening the
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doors for more problems it's true it's true I agree it's very true absolutely that's why it's like
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in in your relationship it would be best to like solve problems together rather than
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telling other people your problems like it would make more sense yeah yeah I've had friends advise
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me oh you need to leave him no you need to leave him and then when you when when you've left him
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they're like nowhere to be seen yeah literally like yeah so probably during a fallout you'll go and
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vent to your friend and then you'll get back with the guy and your friend now thinks you've you guys
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yeah exactly you've let him you've let i know way too much that's actually yeah that's a big one
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in a way as well you offer you make your friends offer an opinion when you tell them more about your
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relationship and they start having an opinion on your person as well because remember some friends don't
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want to see you happy yeah remember that some friends want you to be single just like somebody
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some friends want you to be miserable just like them like and that's just the truth don't forget
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when you're venting to a friend you're venting the negatives yeah you're not speaking about the good
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time your friend's just hearing all these negatives yeah and then and then when you get back together
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okay all right so guy friends raise your hand if you think yes okay so this is a consensus no not
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okay venting to someone like another guy it's just a woman venting yeah a woman venting to an absolutely
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no no no no no because he's going to want to sleep with you single women friends single women
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friends when you're in a relationship when you're in a relationship when you're in a relationship
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you know what's your i know i see you have thoughts on this when you're in a relationship
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I know you're in a relationship or when you're not in a relationship
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no when you're in a relationship what do you think about single women friends
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no I think you should i think you should not wait wait wait wait let's stop being
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kind of want their friend to be single with them.
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I think you should just keep your problems in the house.
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I think if you're a woman, you vent to your dad.
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Because your dad's going to tell you the truth.
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they're going to build their own perception on your partner?
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I feel like you really shouldn't give them a type of, like...
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I don't think you should give anyone even a say-so
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I think you should come on a podcast and vent it all.
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But then your business is going to be out there.
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Like married women will rather go to their single friend