JustPearlyThings - October 16, 2023


Pearl Educates Naive Modern On Her G＊y Male Friends


Episode Stats

Length

13 minutes

Words per Minute

202.0683

Word Count

2,716

Sentence Count

120

Misogynist Sentences

20

Hate Speech Sentences

18


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 and she's got her phone in her hand you see right there and yeah I just think
00:00:06.900 because of the phone she's getting usually she's got like 10 guy friends
00:00:11.240 she's getting like 10 million likes from all the guys on Instagram messaging her
00:00:16.180 every day trying to date her so it's like we just have this constant
00:00:20.080 validation so we just think we're so amazing and hot it's true where the men
00:00:24.320 are just told ain't shit all the time so it's like not a validation some
00:00:28.020 equal validation and yeah so I think when we post the selfies it's just we're
00:00:33.000 getting all this attention from the other people and I think we should avoid that
00:00:37.920 if we can so I'm gonna say now all right so who says yes to the selfies raise your
00:00:43.300 hand I still say yes I'm overruled today it's all right though so going back to
00:00:53.100 dating question okay go ahead because I have to ask if you if I didn't post a
00:00:58.540 picture of myself in a dating app would you be would any guy be more attracted to
00:01:02.880 a blank profile than an actual profile with a picture on that depends on your
00:01:06.740 bio do you go for people's bios more than I've never seen one without a selfie
00:01:12.860 ever I know so you would need a selfie no but but the point is you're on a dating app for the men so
00:01:19.200 obviously it's acceptable for you to post your picture there but if you claim that
00:01:23.280 you're not on Instagram for men then why are you posting your picture
00:01:26.780 because you could be like I said you could just be posting it for business purposes
00:01:33.480 I see where everyone's coming from but realistically like you want to kind of know
00:01:40.960 who you speak into like why would you not want to know who you speak into I'm sure that also goes
00:01:45.560 into how to be attracted how to attract to someone unless you're like you know you've got a type of
00:01:51.060 what would I say sapiosexual should be sapiosexual okay but I understand but like if it's like so for
00:01:57.500 instance on my Instagram I have just four posts on there I'm a videographer as well as a producer
00:02:02.640 but like I make videos but even though I make videos I don't necessarily post so many videos on there
00:02:08.320 yeah I used to post a lot when I was actually doing my videography I'm doing a lot of edits but now
00:02:12.820 I don't really post anything because it's like what's the point yeah I'm not just going to put
00:02:16.580 a selfie so my point is it's not like you can't have a couple of pictures in there but like when
00:02:20.620 you're posting selfies like today you post a selfie tomorrow you post a selfie that's what we're
00:02:23.920 talking about we're not just talking about having like the odd selfie here and there okay
00:02:28.040 that's just someone that's just an attention scene yeah that's to be posting all the time like
00:02:31.980 that's too much going on I think my point is like men used to get like the best of us because
00:02:42.180 all of our validation and attention was tied to making one guy happy so that was like our focus
00:02:48.060 but now it's like you see these women you know they have their kids and they're like I saw a video the
00:02:52.360 other day of a woman on her phone and the guy took her baby because she was paying attention to her phone
00:02:56.720 and he just he just he gave it back to her but it was just to like point out that she wasn't paying
00:03:01.140 any attention to her kid yeah and I just think like social media has just made us like crazy to
00:03:06.180 the point where we're like dressing up for Instagram but not like like well we'll dress up for like
00:03:11.740 you'll see wives dress up for a girls night out but not for their husband when he gets home and it's
00:03:16.280 like almost like the internet's getting the best of us and not the people around us so it's kind of
00:03:20.560 just a weird dynamic guy friends is that acceptable or unacceptable unacceptable just kind of
00:03:29.680 based all right what do you think it's unacceptable even if you're out of a relationship
00:03:34.280 no because everyone's trying to fuck I think it I think it depends like you know my guy friends
00:03:41.900 two of them obviously they are um they're um homosexual so you know I don't really have a problem
00:03:49.040 with them however other guy friends I wouldn't really say if I'm in a relationship I would keep
00:03:53.500 up with them to be honest even out of a relationship just no just respect yeah like just respect you
00:03:59.960 wouldn't just out of respect you wouldn't know every guy's trying to fuck that's what they say
00:04:06.420 wait would the gay friends count like would they be okay yeah I feel no why I don't have any
00:04:14.100 gay friends they don't want any pee they just want the dick what
00:04:17.400 gay friends are the worst they probably move to your man
00:04:20.480 no no wait
00:04:22.480 because then the woman goes to them to spill gossip and the gay friend is not going to be
00:04:29.240 on the man's side either ways
00:04:30.580 nah I think I think it depends on what type of category they are um let me just be careful
00:04:37.520 yeah what does that mean
00:04:38.680 I feel like it depends what category you are like if there are someone who's a bit
00:04:42.280 intensely feminine then of course they're not going to be um they're not going to really take
00:04:46.840 the man's side but if there's somebody who can see both which is like masculine and feminine
00:04:52.360 either way the right friend will always put you in the right direction always put you in the place if
00:04:56.120 you're in the wrong realistically so I don't really see it as much of a problem I wouldn't trust I
00:05:01.480 wouldn't trust gay friends around my girl simply because because there's a lot of things that I know women
00:05:06.360 don't think about first of all you know how women get with their gay friends there there's almost
00:05:11.240 no boundaries you tell them every single secret they look through your phones I might have pictures
00:05:17.160 on there of my naked self on there and then your it sounds like you know from experience because
00:05:22.120 this is too much going on this is too much going on very in depth literally logic I'm thinking like
00:05:30.120 a man I'm telling you how men see it okay about yeah so it's like there's so many things that women
00:05:35.080 just don't think about because you're just in the middle of oh yes my girlfriend ah la la
00:05:43.960 and then now when I've mentioned it you're saying oh it doesn't have to be like an experience it's
00:05:48.760 just logic like if you really think about it and that's the reason why like really and truly you
00:05:53.640 shouldn't have too many friends that are so close to you when you're in a relationship because when you
00:05:58.280 have so many people outside of a relationship that you go to with problems then you're just opening the
00:06:02.600 doors for more problems it's true it's true I agree it's very true absolutely that's why it's like
00:06:08.120 in in your relationship it would be best to like solve problems together rather than
00:06:13.320 telling other people your problems like it would make more sense yeah yeah I've had friends advise
00:06:18.920 me oh you need to leave him no you need to leave him and then when you when when you've left him
00:06:23.640 they're like nowhere to be seen yeah literally like yeah so probably during a fallout you'll go and
00:06:30.680 vent to your friend and then you'll get back with the guy and your friend now thinks you've you guys
00:06:35.720 yeah exactly you've let him you've let i know way too much that's actually yeah that's a big one
00:06:41.000 in a way as well you offer you make your friends offer an opinion when you tell them more about your
00:06:45.720 relationship and they start having an opinion on your person as well because remember some friends don't
00:06:50.680 want to see you happy yeah remember that some friends want you to be single just like somebody
00:06:55.240 some friends want you to be miserable just like them like and that's just the truth don't forget
00:06:59.480 when you're venting to a friend you're venting the negatives yeah you're not speaking about the good
00:07:04.280 time your friend's just hearing all these negatives yeah and then and then when you get back together
00:07:10.120 exactly it's an issue yeah yeah exactly
00:07:13.000 okay all right so guy friends raise your hand if you think yes okay so this is a consensus no not
00:07:26.360 okay venting to someone like another guy it's just a woman venting yeah a woman venting to an absolutely
00:07:33.720 no no no no no because he's going to want to sleep with you single women friends single women
00:07:41.400 friends when you're in a relationship when you're in a relationship when you're in a relationship
00:07:49.800 you know what's your i know i see you have thoughts on this when you're in a relationship
00:07:50.760 I know you're in a relationship or when you're not in a relationship
00:07:55.800 no when you're in a relationship what do you think about single women friends
00:08:03.560 no I think you should i think you should not wait wait wait wait let's stop being
00:08:09.960 and how much they vent and stuff.
00:08:12.100 Because you tend to find single women friends
00:08:15.240 kind of want their friend to be single with them.
00:08:18.220 Yeah, they're a bad influence.
00:08:20.140 Yeah, that's true.
00:08:20.820 I want to know from the guys,
00:08:22.400 is there any acceptable venting?
00:08:25.000 As women, like, we typically vent to somebody.
00:08:28.360 Who's acceptable to vent to?
00:08:31.640 Family.
00:08:32.620 Family?
00:08:33.500 I don't know about that.
00:08:34.900 I don't think family is a good one.
00:08:36.100 I think it depends on the issue.
00:08:37.960 Mild venting is fine.
00:08:40.440 So you vent to friends.
00:08:41.300 I don't know.
00:08:41.780 I think you should just keep your problems in the house.
00:08:44.140 I think if you're a woman, you vent to your dad.
00:08:46.440 Because your dad's going to tell you the truth.
00:08:48.180 If you're a man, you vent to your mum.
00:08:51.040 That's what I think.
00:08:51.900 But then don't you think, like,
00:08:53.340 when you vent to these people,
00:08:54.680 they're going to build their own perception on your partner?
00:08:58.020 I feel like you really shouldn't give them a type of, like...
00:09:00.660 Nobody?
00:09:01.300 I don't think you should.
00:09:02.320 I don't think you should give anyone even a say-so
00:09:04.180 in what you're going through.
00:09:05.100 I think you're a therapist.
00:09:06.400 Nope.
00:09:06.600 Yeah, but remember, sometimes you have to...
00:09:09.520 I think your therapist, definitely.
00:09:11.540 Or your mentor.
00:09:13.400 I think you should come on a podcast and vent it all.
00:09:16.300 Yeah.
00:09:16.680 But then your business is going to be out there.
00:09:18.660 Like, we did today.
00:09:20.320 Women shouldn't vote.
00:09:22.440 Oh, my gosh.
00:09:23.220 So venting, no.
00:09:24.600 It's a unanimous.
00:09:25.700 Single women.
00:09:26.480 Who says single women, friends, okay?
00:09:28.620 Raise your hand.
00:09:29.360 No.
00:09:30.280 I don't know.
00:09:30.820 I would say don't completely cut them off
00:09:33.560 because they're your friends.
00:09:34.680 You're just thinking you're a single...
00:09:36.100 If that's your true...
00:09:36.120 If that's your true true friend.
00:09:37.900 But hold on, you have less access to them
00:09:41.000 because you're having a...
00:09:42.060 You'll have a different lifestyle, you know?
00:09:43.640 I don't...
00:09:44.000 So it could be conflict of interest.
00:09:45.860 So I wouldn't say completely just be like,
00:09:47.400 oh, you're not my friend no more
00:09:48.380 because I'm in a relationship.
00:09:50.220 You know?
00:09:50.720 You're just going to slowly cut them off.
00:09:52.200 But just slowly just be like,
00:09:53.120 okay, I'm over here doing this.
00:09:54.580 You're over there.
00:09:55.000 That's so horrible.
00:09:56.040 Yeah, but I'm not going to lie.
00:09:57.680 I'm not saying cut them off,
00:09:59.180 but you'll have...
00:09:59.720 You've got...
00:10:00.080 It's like when you grow up,
00:10:01.320 you go and work on a permanent.
00:10:02.860 Do you know why it makes sense?
00:10:04.480 So you're going to slowly ghost your friend?
00:10:06.840 Yeah, but not in a bad way.
00:10:08.340 It's a bad way.
00:10:09.800 No matter how you hate it.
00:10:11.260 It makes sense because you see
00:10:12.860 when women have like a bad time,
00:10:15.120 especially like, for example, married women.
00:10:17.440 Like married women will rather go to their single friend
00:10:19.780 because their single friend has more time.
00:10:21.440 They'll go to them and be like,
00:10:22.460 oh, he did this to me
00:10:24.080 and he pissed me off, whatever.
00:10:25.940 But realistically,
00:10:27.600 if you're someone who's single
00:10:29.260 and you're not really like going out there
00:10:31.880 to go and find someone to marry
00:10:32.940 or settle down with,
00:10:34.580 you are going to give your friend shit advice.
00:10:36.640 And I'll be honest with you,
00:10:37.600 I've been the person who's giving shit advice,
00:10:39.260 but realistically,
00:10:40.540 you can't give advice to people
00:10:42.360 who are in a union.
00:10:43.920 Like you can't
00:10:44.320 because you don't even know what that is.
00:10:45.560 You don't even know what their union is like.
00:10:47.640 At least you know it
00:10:48.640 because like women always think
00:10:49.900 we give the best advice.
00:10:50.820 No, I'll be honest with you.
00:10:51.760 And we give horrible advice.
00:10:52.280 I take relationship advice
00:10:54.500 from women that are married
00:10:55.580 because I feel like
00:10:56.440 if I take advice from my single friends,
00:10:58.420 they're going to be like,
00:10:59.040 oh, city girls,
00:11:00.060 we're going to be outside.
00:11:01.300 We're going to do this.
00:11:01.960 But I'd rather like
00:11:03.160 have friends who are single
00:11:04.520 that would want to be encouraged
00:11:05.460 to actually have a union.
00:11:06.860 And I'd rather take advice
00:11:07.980 from women who are actually married
00:11:09.420 rather than single friends
00:11:10.420 who are going to,
00:11:11.260 you know,
00:11:11.640 want me to be outside.
00:11:12.800 Like that's just dead.
00:11:13.700 If you're a single girl
00:11:14.740 and you want to get married,
00:11:16.100 the best thing to do
00:11:16.780 is have four friends that are married.
00:11:18.380 You know,
00:11:18.600 they say if you have four friends
00:11:20.200 that are married,
00:11:20.540 you're going to become a good friend.
00:11:21.660 Half the time,
00:11:22.420 half of these girls,
00:11:23.360 like, you know,
00:11:24.480 some men might not see it,
00:11:25.420 but they're miserable.
00:11:26.140 They look nice when you see them,
00:11:27.400 but they're miserable.
00:11:28.520 They're upset.
00:11:29.140 Like they're not happy.
00:11:30.700 So it would be better
00:11:31.760 to just go to people
00:11:32.700 who are actually
00:11:33.540 in better situations
00:11:34.640 than yourself.
00:11:36.040 So single women,
00:11:37.260 raise your hands
00:11:37.880 if you think
00:11:38.320 single women friends are okay.
00:11:40.060 Yeah.
00:11:40.700 If they're trying to get married.
00:11:42.020 If they're trying to get married.
00:11:43.120 Yeah.
00:11:43.680 Okay.
00:11:44.720 No.
00:11:45.540 No.
00:11:46.120 No?
00:11:46.880 You know,
00:11:47.280 I just like taking away all rights.
00:11:49.760 I'm going to say no.
00:11:54.520 Trying to think
00:11:55.220 if there's anything else
00:11:56.100 I wanted to add.
00:11:56.840 I think we covered most of it.
00:11:58.660 Anything you guys think
00:12:00.140 we should add
00:12:00.740 to the list of things
00:12:01.780 to ask about?
00:12:03.560 I'm open to suggestions.
00:12:05.520 What about,
00:12:06.140 what about like
00:12:07.240 taking advice
00:12:08.920 from like
00:12:09.560 your mom
00:12:10.820 and your mom's
00:12:12.040 like in a weird situation?
00:12:13.620 No.
00:12:14.740 No?
00:12:15.300 No, I think no.
00:12:16.700 I think mothers,
00:12:17.960 mothers,
00:12:18.440 it's the natural order.
00:12:19.700 What about,
00:12:20.200 what about girls trips?
00:12:22.200 Oh, God, yeah.
00:12:23.960 What about
00:12:24.360 when you're in a relationship
00:12:25.500 and you have like
00:12:26.520 men's trips
00:12:27.200 and girls trips?
00:12:28.020 Is the guys allowed
00:12:28.820 to go on their trips
00:12:29.860 and the girls not?
00:12:30.780 Or can you both
00:12:31.500 be your own?
00:12:31.900 Okay, hear me out.
00:12:33.260 Hear me out.
00:12:33.940 Hear me out.
00:12:34.660 I think the men
00:12:35.620 should be allowed
00:12:36.340 to go on the boys trips.
00:12:37.640 Oh, God.
00:12:38.500 You would say that.
00:12:39.220 But the girls can't go on
00:12:40.620 How would you even say that?
00:12:42.360 Okay, okay.
00:12:42.740 All right.
00:12:43.540 Hear me out.
00:12:44.340 You guys are thinking the worst.
00:12:45.840 You're thinking the worst.
00:12:47.140 You know,
00:12:47.400 my brothers go hunting
00:12:48.500 and four-wheeling
00:12:49.140 and they have a great time.
00:12:50.600 I think men...
00:12:51.360 Oh, no, wait, wait, wait.
00:12:52.300 What does that mean?
00:12:53.340 Did they go to Miami?
00:12:54.040 What's hunting
00:12:55.400 and four-wheeling?
00:12:56.000 They kill some deer.
00:12:58.040 Okay, all right.
00:12:58.720 They kill some, you know,
00:12:59.960 and they go snowmobile.
00:13:01.240 Like, I think men
00:13:02.820 have to be around other men.
00:13:05.220 Like, I think they get too
00:13:06.380 feminine if they're just
00:13:07.620 around women all the time.
00:13:09.040 I think like,
00:13:09.900 I don't know,
00:13:10.620 there's something where guys
00:13:11.760 just like love to be
00:13:12.940 around each other
00:13:13.980 and like,
00:13:14.580 but when women get around
00:13:15.600 each other,
00:13:16.100 we lead towards destruction.
00:13:17.540 All right.
00:13:23.320 All right.
00:13:24.440 Missile.
00:13:25.380 Like,
00:13:25.860 Missile.
00:13:26.000 Missile.