JustPearlyThings - Pearl Educates Naive Modern On Her G＊y Male Friends

00:00:00.000 and she's got her phone in her hand you see right there and yeah I just think

00:00:06.900 because of the phone she's getting usually she's got like 10 guy friends

00:00:11.240 she's getting like 10 million likes from all the guys on Instagram messaging her

00:00:16.180 every day trying to date her so it's like we just have this constant

00:00:20.080 validation so we just think we're so amazing and hot it's true where the men 0.96

00:00:24.320 are just told ain't shit all the time so it's like not a validation some 0.97

00:00:28.020 equal validation and yeah so I think when we post the selfies it's just we're

00:00:33.000 getting all this attention from the other people and I think we should avoid that

00:00:37.920 if we can so I'm gonna say now all right so who says yes to the selfies raise your

00:00:43.300 hand I still say yes I'm overruled today it's all right though so going back to

00:00:53.100 dating question okay go ahead because I have to ask if you if I didn't post a

00:00:58.540 picture of myself in a dating app would you be would any guy be more attracted to

00:01:02.880 a blank profile than an actual profile with a picture on that depends on your

00:01:06.740 bio do you go for people's bios more than I've never seen one without a selfie

00:01:12.860 ever I know so you would need a selfie no but but the point is you're on a dating app for the men so

00:01:19.200 obviously it's acceptable for you to post your picture there but if you claim that

00:01:23.280 you're not on Instagram for men then why are you posting your picture

00:01:26.780 because you could be like I said you could just be posting it for business purposes

00:01:33.480 I see where everyone's coming from but realistically like you want to kind of know

00:01:40.960 who you speak into like why would you not want to know who you speak into I'm sure that also goes

00:01:45.560 into how to be attracted how to attract to someone unless you're like you know you've got a type of

00:01:51.060 what would I say sapiosexual should be sapiosexual okay but I understand but like if it's like so for 1.00

00:01:57.500 instance on my Instagram I have just four posts on there I'm a videographer as well as a producer

00:02:02.640 but like I make videos but even though I make videos I don't necessarily post so many videos on there

00:02:08.320 yeah I used to post a lot when I was actually doing my videography I'm doing a lot of edits but now

00:02:12.820 I don't really post anything because it's like what's the point yeah I'm not just going to put

00:02:16.580 a selfie so my point is it's not like you can't have a couple of pictures in there but like when

00:02:20.620 you're posting selfies like today you post a selfie tomorrow you post a selfie that's what we're

00:02:23.920 talking about we're not just talking about having like the odd selfie here and there okay

00:02:28.040 that's just someone that's just an attention scene yeah that's to be posting all the time like

00:02:31.980 that's too much going on I think my point is like men used to get like the best of us because

00:02:42.180 all of our validation and attention was tied to making one guy happy so that was like our focus

00:02:48.060 but now it's like you see these women you know they have their kids and they're like I saw a video the 0.87

00:02:52.360 other day of a woman on her phone and the guy took her baby because she was paying attention to her phone

00:02:56.720 and he just he just he gave it back to her but it was just to like point out that she wasn't paying

00:03:01.140 any attention to her kid yeah and I just think like social media has just made us like crazy to

00:03:06.180 the point where we're like dressing up for Instagram but not like like well we'll dress up for like

00:03:11.740 you'll see wives dress up for a girls night out but not for their husband when he gets home and it's 0.90

00:03:16.280 like almost like the internet's getting the best of us and not the people around us so it's kind of

00:03:20.560 just a weird dynamic guy friends is that acceptable or unacceptable unacceptable just kind of

00:03:29.680 based all right what do you think it's unacceptable even if you're out of a relationship 0.53

00:03:34.280 no because everyone's trying to fuck I think it I think it depends like you know my guy friends 0.98

00:03:41.900 two of them obviously they are um they're um homosexual so you know I don't really have a problem 1.00

00:03:49.040 with them however other guy friends I wouldn't really say if I'm in a relationship I would keep

00:03:53.500 up with them to be honest even out of a relationship just no just respect yeah like just respect you 0.98

00:03:59.960 wouldn't just out of respect you wouldn't know every guy's trying to fuck that's what they say 0.99

00:04:06.420 wait would the gay friends count like would they be okay yeah I feel no why I don't have any 1.00

00:04:14.100 gay friends they don't want any pee they just want the dick what 1.00

00:04:17.400 gay friends are the worst they probably move to your man 1.00

00:04:20.480 no no wait 1.00

00:04:22.480 because then the woman goes to them to spill gossip and the gay friend is not going to be

00:04:29.240 on the man's side either ways

00:04:30.580 nah I think I think it depends on what type of category they are um let me just be careful

00:04:37.520 yeah what does that mean

00:04:38.680 I feel like it depends what category you are like if there are someone who's a bit

00:04:42.280 intensely feminine then of course they're not going to be um they're not going to really take 1.00

00:04:46.840 the man's side but if there's somebody who can see both which is like masculine and feminine

00:04:52.360 either way the right friend will always put you in the right direction always put you in the place if

00:04:56.120 you're in the wrong realistically so I don't really see it as much of a problem I wouldn't trust I

00:05:01.480 wouldn't trust gay friends around my girl simply because because there's a lot of things that I know women 1.00

00:05:06.360 don't think about first of all you know how women get with their gay friends there there's almost 1.00

00:05:11.240 no boundaries you tell them every single secret they look through your phones I might have pictures

00:05:17.160 on there of my naked self on there and then your it sounds like you know from experience because

00:05:22.120 this is too much going on this is too much going on very in depth literally logic I'm thinking like

00:05:30.120 a man I'm telling you how men see it okay about yeah so it's like there's so many things that women

00:05:35.080 just don't think about because you're just in the middle of oh yes my girlfriend ah la la

00:05:43.960 and then now when I've mentioned it you're saying oh it doesn't have to be like an experience it's

00:05:48.760 just logic like if you really think about it and that's the reason why like really and truly you

00:05:53.640 shouldn't have too many friends that are so close to you when you're in a relationship because when you

00:05:58.280 have so many people outside of a relationship that you go to with problems then you're just opening the

00:06:02.600 doors for more problems it's true it's true I agree it's very true absolutely that's why it's like

00:06:08.120 in in your relationship it would be best to like solve problems together rather than

00:06:13.320 telling other people your problems like it would make more sense yeah yeah I've had friends advise

00:06:18.920 me oh you need to leave him no you need to leave him and then when you when when you've left him

00:06:23.640 they're like nowhere to be seen yeah literally like yeah so probably during a fallout you'll go and

00:06:30.680 vent to your friend and then you'll get back with the guy and your friend now thinks you've you guys

00:06:35.720 yeah exactly you've let him you've let i know way too much that's actually yeah that's a big one

00:06:41.000 in a way as well you offer you make your friends offer an opinion when you tell them more about your

00:06:45.720 relationship and they start having an opinion on your person as well because remember some friends don't

00:06:50.680 want to see you happy yeah remember that some friends want you to be single just like somebody

00:06:55.240 some friends want you to be miserable just like them like and that's just the truth don't forget

00:06:59.480 when you're venting to a friend you're venting the negatives yeah you're not speaking about the good

00:07:04.280 time your friend's just hearing all these negatives yeah and then and then when you get back together

00:07:10.120 exactly it's an issue yeah yeah exactly

00:07:13.000 okay all right so guy friends raise your hand if you think yes okay so this is a consensus no not

00:07:26.360 okay venting to someone like another guy it's just a woman venting yeah a woman venting to an absolutely 1.00

00:07:33.720 no no no no no because he's going to want to sleep with you single women friends single women 1.00

00:07:41.400 friends when you're in a relationship when you're in a relationship when you're in a relationship

00:07:49.800 you know what's your i know i see you have thoughts on this when you're in a relationship

00:07:50.760 I know you're in a relationship or when you're not in a relationship

00:07:55.800 no when you're in a relationship what do you think about single women friends 1.00

00:08:03.560 no I think you should i think you should not wait wait wait wait let's stop being

00:08:09.960 and how much they vent and stuff.

00:08:12.100 Because you tend to find single women friends 0.87

00:08:15.240 kind of want their friend to be single with them.

00:08:18.220 Yeah, they're a bad influence.

00:08:20.140 Yeah, that's true.

00:08:20.820 I want to know from the guys,

00:08:22.400 is there any acceptable venting?

00:08:25.000 As women, like, we typically vent to somebody. 1.00

00:08:28.360 Who's acceptable to vent to?

00:08:31.640 Family.

00:08:32.620 Family?

00:08:33.500 I don't know about that.

00:08:34.900 I don't think family is a good one.

00:08:36.100 I think it depends on the issue.

00:08:37.960 Mild venting is fine.

00:08:40.440 So you vent to friends.

00:08:41.300 I don't know.

00:08:41.780 I think you should just keep your problems in the house.

00:08:44.140 I think if you're a woman, you vent to your dad. 0.99

00:08:46.440 Because your dad's going to tell you the truth.

00:08:48.180 If you're a man, you vent to your mum.

00:08:51.040 That's what I think.

00:08:51.900 But then don't you think, like,

00:08:53.340 when you vent to these people,

00:08:54.680 they're going to build their own perception on your partner?

00:08:58.020 I feel like you really shouldn't give them a type of, like...

00:09:00.660 Nobody?

00:09:01.300 I don't think you should.

00:09:02.320 I don't think you should give anyone even a say-so

00:09:04.180 in what you're going through.

00:09:05.100 I think you're a therapist.

00:09:06.400 Nope.

00:09:06.600 Yeah, but remember, sometimes you have to...

00:09:09.520 I think your therapist, definitely.

00:09:11.540 Or your mentor.

00:09:13.400 I think you should come on a podcast and vent it all.

00:09:16.300 Yeah.

00:09:16.680 But then your business is going to be out there.

00:09:18.660 Like, we did today.

00:09:20.320 Women shouldn't vote. 1.00

00:09:22.440 Oh, my gosh.

00:09:23.220 So venting, no.

00:09:24.600 It's a unanimous.

00:09:25.700 Single women. 0.65

00:09:26.480 Who says single women, friends, okay? 0.98

00:09:28.620 Raise your hand.

00:09:29.360 No.

00:09:30.280 I don't know.

00:09:30.820 I would say don't completely cut them off

00:09:33.560 because they're your friends.

00:09:34.680 You're just thinking you're a single...

00:09:36.100 If that's your true...

00:09:36.120 If that's your true true friend.

00:09:37.900 But hold on, you have less access to them

00:09:41.000 because you're having a...

00:09:42.060 You'll have a different lifestyle, you know?

00:09:43.640 I don't...

00:09:44.000 So it could be conflict of interest.

00:09:45.860 So I wouldn't say completely just be like,

00:09:47.400 oh, you're not my friend no more

00:09:48.380 because I'm in a relationship.

00:09:50.220 You know?

00:09:50.720 You're just going to slowly cut them off.

00:09:52.200 But just slowly just be like,

00:09:53.120 okay, I'm over here doing this.

00:09:54.580 You're over there.

00:09:55.000 That's so horrible.

00:09:56.040 Yeah, but I'm not going to lie.

00:09:57.680 I'm not saying cut them off,

00:09:59.180 but you'll have...

00:09:59.720 You've got...

00:10:00.080 It's like when you grow up,

00:10:01.320 you go and work on a permanent.

00:10:02.860 Do you know why it makes sense?

00:10:04.480 So you're going to slowly ghost your friend?

00:10:06.840 Yeah, but not in a bad way.

00:10:08.340 It's a bad way.

00:10:09.800 No matter how you hate it.

00:10:11.260 It makes sense because you see

00:10:12.860 when women have like a bad time, 1.00

00:10:15.120 especially like, for example, married women.

00:10:17.440 Like married women will rather go to their single friend 1.00

00:10:19.780 because their single friend has more time.

00:10:21.440 They'll go to them and be like,

00:10:22.460 oh, he did this to me

00:10:24.080 and he pissed me off, whatever.

00:10:25.940 But realistically,

00:10:27.600 if you're someone who's single

00:10:29.260 and you're not really like going out there

00:10:31.880 to go and find someone to marry

00:10:32.940 or settle down with, 1.00

00:10:34.580 you are going to give your friend shit advice. 0.99

00:10:36.640 And I'll be honest with you, 1.00

00:10:37.600 I've been the person who's giving shit advice, 0.99

00:10:39.260 but realistically, 0.99

00:10:40.540 you can't give advice to people

00:10:42.360 who are in a union.

00:10:43.920 Like you can't

00:10:44.320 because you don't even know what that is.

00:10:45.560 You don't even know what their union is like.

00:10:47.640 At least you know it

00:10:48.640 because like women always think 1.00

00:10:49.900 we give the best advice.

00:10:50.820 No, I'll be honest with you.

00:10:51.760 And we give horrible advice.

00:10:52.280 I take relationship advice

00:10:54.500 from women that are married

00:10:55.580 because I feel like

00:10:56.440 if I take advice from my single friends,

00:10:58.420 they're going to be like,

00:10:59.040 oh, city girls, 0.94

00:11:00.060 we're going to be outside.

00:11:01.300 We're going to do this.

00:11:01.960 But I'd rather like

00:11:03.160 have friends who are single

00:11:04.520 that would want to be encouraged

00:11:05.460 to actually have a union.

00:11:06.860 And I'd rather take advice

00:11:07.980 from women who are actually married

00:11:09.420 rather than single friends

00:11:10.420 who are going to,

00:11:11.260 you know,

00:11:11.640 want me to be outside.

00:11:12.800 Like that's just dead.

00:11:13.700 If you're a single girl

00:11:14.740 and you want to get married,

00:11:16.100 the best thing to do

00:11:16.780 is have four friends that are married.

00:11:18.380 You know,

00:11:18.600 they say if you have four friends

00:11:20.200 that are married,

00:11:20.540 you're going to become a good friend.

00:11:21.660 Half the time,

00:11:22.420 half of these girls, 0.99

00:11:23.360 like, you know,

00:11:24.480 some men might not see it, 0.98

00:11:25.420 but they're miserable. 0.98

00:11:26.140 They look nice when you see them, 1.00

00:11:27.400 but they're miserable. 0.98

00:11:28.520 They're upset. 0.87

00:11:29.140 Like they're not happy.

00:11:30.700 So it would be better

00:11:31.760 to just go to people

00:11:32.700 who are actually

00:11:33.540 in better situations

00:11:34.640 than yourself.

00:11:36.040 So single women, 1.00

00:11:37.260 raise your hands

00:11:37.880 if you think

00:11:38.320 single women friends are okay. 0.97

00:11:40.060 Yeah.

00:11:40.700 If they're trying to get married.

00:11:42.020 If they're trying to get married.

00:11:43.120 Yeah.

00:11:43.680 Okay.

00:11:44.720 No.

00:11:45.540 No.

00:11:46.120 No?

00:11:46.880 You know,

00:11:47.280 I just like taking away all rights.

00:11:49.760 I'm going to say no.

00:11:54.520 Trying to think

00:11:55.220 if there's anything else

00:11:56.100 I wanted to add.

00:11:56.840 I think we covered most of it.

00:11:58.660 Anything you guys think

00:12:00.140 we should add

00:12:00.740 to the list of things

00:12:01.780 to ask about?

00:12:03.560 I'm open to suggestions.

00:12:05.520 What about,

00:12:06.140 what about like

00:12:07.240 taking advice

00:12:08.920 from like

00:12:09.560 your mom

00:12:10.820 and your mom's

00:12:12.040 like in a weird situation?

00:12:13.620 No.

00:12:14.740 No?

00:12:15.300 No, I think no.

00:12:16.700 I think mothers,

00:12:17.960 mothers,

00:12:18.440 it's the natural order.

00:12:19.700 What about,

00:12:20.200 what about girls trips?

00:12:22.200 Oh, God, yeah.

00:12:23.960 What about

00:12:24.360 when you're in a relationship

00:12:25.500 and you have like

00:12:26.520 men's trips

00:12:27.200 and girls trips?

00:12:28.020 Is the guys allowed

00:12:28.820 to go on their trips

00:12:29.860 and the girls not?

00:12:30.780 Or can you both

00:12:31.500 be your own?

00:12:31.900 Okay, hear me out.

00:12:33.260 Hear me out.

00:12:33.940 Hear me out.

00:12:34.660 I think the men

00:12:35.620 should be allowed

00:12:36.340 to go on the boys trips.

00:12:37.640 Oh, God.

00:12:38.500 You would say that.

00:12:39.220 But the girls can't go on 1.00

00:12:40.620 How would you even say that?

00:12:42.360 Okay, okay.

00:12:42.740 All right.

00:12:43.540 Hear me out.

00:12:44.340 You guys are thinking the worst.

00:12:45.840 You're thinking the worst.

00:12:47.140 You know,

00:12:47.400 my brothers go hunting

00:12:48.500 and four-wheeling

00:12:49.140 and they have a great time.

00:12:50.600 I think men...

00:12:51.360 Oh, no, wait, wait, wait.

00:12:52.300 What does that mean?

00:12:53.340 Did they go to Miami?

00:12:54.040 What's hunting

00:12:55.400 and four-wheeling?

00:12:56.000 They kill some deer.

00:12:58.040 Okay, all right.

00:12:58.720 They kill some, you know,

00:12:59.960 and they go snowmobile.

00:13:01.240 Like, I think men 0.99

00:13:02.820 have to be around other men.

00:13:05.220 Like, I think they get too

00:13:06.380 feminine if they're just 0.88

00:13:07.620 around women all the time.

00:13:09.040 I think like,

00:13:09.900 I don't know,

00:13:10.620 there's something where guys

00:13:11.760 just like love to be

00:13:12.940 around each other

00:13:13.980 and like,

00:13:14.580 but when women get around 1.00

00:13:15.600 each other,

00:13:16.100 we lead towards destruction.

00:13:17.540 All right.

00:13:23.320 All right.

00:13:24.440 Missile.

00:13:25.380 Like,

00:13:25.860 Missile.

00:13:26.000 Missile.

JustPearlyThings - October 16, 2023

Pearl Educates Naive Modern On Her G＊y Male Friends

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