Pearl Educates The Panel
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Summary
Where have all the good women gone? Why are there not more good women in society and why is it so hard to find good ones? How do men find good women? What does a good woman look for in a woman? Why does a woman need a good man?
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okay so uh today um we're gonna talk about where have all the good women gone so one thing i always
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hear is where have all the good men gone right in society um however i just started looking up some
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stats okay one in three women have an std one in three women have had an abortion 38 percent of
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kids are born into single parent homes the average age of first child is 26 which is before the
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average age of first marriage which is 30. 45 percent of marriages end in divorce the average
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number of partners for a woman is between four and eight and when women get below above five
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partners their chance of a happy marriage goes from 80 to 20 depends on the study plus or minus 10
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um and if men get pick the wrong woman they can be financially ruined and their kids can be taken
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from them and on top of that 70 of women um 60 70 of women are overweight in the u.s um so um the
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question is how does a guy identify a good woman and what percent of women do you think are good
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women really good question how does a guy identify a good woman i think mostly it's looks but that's
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not how they do it but i think it's about it it's about a vibe actually it's about an energy and it's
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about respect if a woman you know can really show this man that she respects him okay but in the
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beginning that's challenging because you know you're on a first date i think the first indication is
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usually looks what was the second question pearl what percent of women do you think are good women
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oh in this day and age yes i think women are so confused it's really hard to say i would say
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good woman what do you mean by that what i mean by that i think a good woman is probably less than 10
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these days okay i think a good woman is a healed woman so i feel like the reason why there's not much
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good women out there is because no one really knows how to heal and recover from their past
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relationships and traumas and so they bring those good women not be like broken to begin with yeah
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100 yeah yeah and so i feel like they found ways to heal and they've like taken time out to isolate
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themselves and i feel like maybe then they will be able to move forward and find the right partner for
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the right reasons and i feel like um why the percentage may be so low is because no one's really
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willing to do the hard dark shadow work what do you mean shadow because whenever i hear like this
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stuff no no offense like the shadow work the healing i always hear like nothing yeah like never like real
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concrete steps of like so if you're a woman you're trying to improve what do you what do you do so
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you're trying to select your ego you know the dark side of you decide that you don't show anyone but it
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can come out so you are trying to like kind of tame that and work on your insecurities and all the things
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that you don't want people to see okay and so you can how do you how do you work on them so i mean
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for me personally i write down i journal stuff so i write things down my fears or things i don't like
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about myself or that i want to change or that i feel i'm i'm um expression maybe in the wrong way and
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so i try and like find ways to fix that and just you know work so how are you like held you know like
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if i want to lose weight you go to a personal trainer and they say like good bad like how do you
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hold yourself accountable oh doing doing research finding a routine making sure that you're
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consistently keeping up with things and maintaining that process yeah this just kind of sounds like
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nothing to me yeah okay i'm just i'm sorry it's real no no no but like when i whenever i hear girls
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like talk about this it just sounds like okay i write in my journal um i and i google things online
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and i try to be better but there's no like accountability like anyone keeping you in check
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to like show that you are getting better i think most people um don't have anyone to keep them in
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check when there's a will there's a way if you really want to change then you will make sure that
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you get that done like so so so if you're talking to a guy and he says like okay you you said i was
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broken before i'm healed now like what steps would you show him that i am now healed um you're able to
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be more compassionate and less judgmental and more open and vulnerable okay so how could you prove that
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you are just by being just by being that i mean i feel like time will tell okay you know okay because
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like i was just thinking like if you want to concrete steps it's like married mentors uh maybe a male
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therapist like that sort of thing i just never hear whenever i hear women's self-improvement it's always
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like be more confident write in a journal and google things no fact like respectfully so i just i just don't
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understand but you know what's crazy i've tried personally i've tried therapy and i and the first
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time i tried it i walked out in an anger and rage that i was like fuming and the second time i told
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her look this is not gonna work i don't think you can fix my problems you know i agree with you i've
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been to therapists before and i just thought therapy was like stupid for the most part and now i'm in
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school for psychology and i see the women that are therapists and they're nuts i would not go to
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therapy yeah i feel like they don't care they're just getting paid to do what they need to do they
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don't give a fuck so yeah yeah but but i do think there are some male therapists that are helpful
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i just think it's mostly like male um what do you think about that um i've never had a male therapist
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and i wouldn't go to a male therapist because i need to i need to connect with a woman that's like
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do you know i mean like women's women no that's broken like me not necessarily but i feel like women
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connect easier that no i think i think women look to comfort and men look to solve problems and that's
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why i don't think therapy works when they're women most of the time there's exceptions because like men
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like women are just going to comfort you they're going to tell you what you want to hear where men
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will tell you how to fix it but the problem is like women we never want to fix it like actually
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fix it it's interesting yeah it's true i had a male therapist actually or the i had a therapist for
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eight years i'm not in therapy anymore but the first four years it was a woman and the last four
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years a man and i'm not in therapy anymore and i'm like i'm good now but that's because it was a man
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not a woman because when i was with a woman they would just sit there and soak in all my issues and all the
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problems and there was never a solve or a solution no one was trying to help me and then the trauma
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what's your like and they call everything trauma everything you know everything abuse or trauma i'm
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like what the what do you mean i don't believe in trauma i don't believe in trauma either it's a
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bunch of bs it's just so that psychologists can make money off yeah well i do i do believe in like
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war trauma like from war you know like i think if a guy goes to war and see some like sees things
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that's real trauma but the way we use it today my ex-boyfriend cheated on me my it's just everything's
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everything but can i say something don't you think there's something called unhealed baggage that we
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be carrying with us because we haven't overcome how we felt in the last relationship you should
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just get over it okay yeah yeah i think that we should quit whining our great grandmothers had to
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deal with it like they used to have plagues and getting cheated on like this is just the example i'm
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using but most of modern day problems are really nothing compared to like 100 200 years ago you
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could get the plague and like die you know that'd be traumatic being afraid you know and you're right
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you know what because i feel like personally i've been through so much i haven't had real therapy and
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i'm i'm strong i'm i'm still going you know what i mean i don't really it's not affecting me maybe it
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is in a way but it's not in intervening in my life yeah strong strongly the reveling in the story
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is what a lot of the women therapists were using penelope's my daughter and they were um you know
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really listening to your story and and and giving a lot of emphasis to it like you were really
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overweight and the therapists were like no no don't don't talk about it don't don't don't try to help
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her lose weight and i'm like what what do you mean like we've got to fix this problem like what's the
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plan it was so frustrating oh so they wouldn't try to solve like how big were you i was 300 pounds shut up i was 300
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pounds you look great can we get us can we get us how did how did your life change from going from 300
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pounds to i don't know what you are now but clearly not so i lost 130 pounds actually wow and you're
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tall too yes what are you six two no five nine and a half oh shit you look you look tall as heck
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we'll compare okay um but basically i was you know i think part of the problem was because i was in
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therapy for so long and i nobody told me in therapy that there was anything wrong with me
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and i had depression i had anxiety i had suicidal thoughts and i was not i didn't have a good
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relationship with my father at the time and nobody was saying oh you need to lose the weight
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your life will be better if you just do that nobody they tried to give me medication they tried
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to give me pills they tried to put me in more therapy and it wasn't until one day i looked in the
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mirror and i'm like i don't want to be like this anymore i don't want to feel like this anymore
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and to be honest the body positivity movement crushed my soul and told me oh you should be
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you know you're beautiful no matter what size you are you're beautiful no matter you know how much
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you weigh you're beautiful no matter what you eat you can eat anything you want and you're gorgeous
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go girl and i and i thought it was okay wow i thought it was good because no one said anything
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and i could be sitting here if 300 pounds or enough i didn't make the decision to say penelope you need
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to get your butt off the couch and work out fix your diet fix your mental health fix everything and
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now i'm perfectly fine no meds just naturally all natural what do you do you think that contributes
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to 70 percent of women being overweight in the u.s completely i completely think that yeah go ahead
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no i just think that i think that the fact that people are obese and that they make all these excuses
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for oh i'm obese because of this i'm obese because you can lose weight no matter what anyone can lose
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weight it's just about finding the right way to do it and what do you think of the women that say we need
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like representation and magazines uh we need fat chicks on the cover victoria's secret fashion
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show it repulses me so it repulses me to see that because you've been there it does because i've been
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there and not only that but you are showing thousands and millions of women in the world that it is one
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okay to be unhealthy two okay to be slowly killing yourself and three okay to go outside and dress