JustPearlyThings - August 17, 2023


Pearl EDUCATES The Panel On Disobedient Wives

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Beyonce G. Boundaries Jeff Bezos Kelly Halo
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11 minutes

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In this episode, I have my good friend and social media influencer, join me as we talk about how to be a better wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend. We talk about what it s like being a woman in the 21st century and how to deal with the pressures of being a wife and mother.

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00:00:00.000 And there's so much, like, input, like, I remember a long time ago, I was, like, in a relationship, and then the guy put me in my place, because I was drinking too much, he had told me, hey, you need to slow down, and I think my friends had heard him say that to me, and I was like, okay, sorry, and then on the side, she messages me, and she goes, wow, you're gonna let him, like, tell you what to do like that, and I think, like, a lot of, like, dynamics happen like that, where we should be listening, because that's their partner, if I was...
00:00:26.540 You don't know, they don't know the man that you know.
00:00:29.420 It sounds like a good influence to me.
00:00:31.220 It's a good influence.
00:00:32.200 So, the women only, my friends only heard.
00:00:35.240 He's trying to control you.
00:00:36.940 But what he's saying is facts. 0.98
00:00:38.500 Well, and the problem, too, is we have a generation of really shitty wives between the ages of, like, 35 to, like, 65. 1.00
00:00:45.960 They're just not good wives, and a lot of them got divorced, and a lot of them didn't obey their husbands, and a lot of them didn't listen to their men, and didn't teach us what it meant to be traditional. 1.00
00:00:55.320 Because I just don't see modern relationships working.
00:00:58.880 I think if you want to do it, fine, I got no qualms doing what you want to do.
00:01:02.380 I just don't see relationship, like, when there's a kingdom, right, there's one king, not two.
00:01:07.400 If there's two kings, they'd be fighting all the time.
00:01:09.120 There's a reason there's one.
00:01:10.360 And I think when there's two people trying to have control and power all the time, someone has to give.
00:01:15.460 And unfortunately, nowadays, it's more likely to be the men, because they're just tired of the women. 0.98
00:01:22.040 And, like, a lot of guys will just suffer in silence.
00:01:24.060 Yeah, there's a reason that we have those phrases.
00:01:27.300 It's cheaper to keep her, because there's a bunch of guys that they don't really have good wives that we can learn from, but they're still married. 0.98
00:01:34.780 And it's just like, you know, and they're almost like not even the king of their own house, and it's sad.
00:01:40.460 So I have a question.
00:01:42.100 Who, for you as a woman, who's a positive role model as a woman that's well-known?
00:01:48.520 Who do you look at as a woman that's successful and has the lifestyle you want and the family you want and the marriage you want? 1.00
00:01:56.320 Who do you look up to as a woman? 1.00
00:01:57.840 What are you starting over here?
00:01:58.720 I think that's really hard, because you really, you don't really know people's life.
00:02:03.140 You really, you're not with them day to day.
00:02:05.240 I mean, what looks good on Instagram and what looks good when they're in an interview is one thing, but what's actually going on behind closed door is very totally different.
00:02:13.400 Like, everybody wants a happy relationship, right?
00:02:15.980 No one goes into it saying, I want a terrible relationship.
00:02:18.680 I want to argue at least once a week.
00:02:20.400 I want to do this.
00:02:20.880 Even though that's the reality, those things are going to happen.
00:02:23.300 But it's how you handle those disagreements, how you handle those arguments. 0.99
00:02:27.200 Are you going to call them a bitch-ass nigger, or are you going to say something like, you know what, my apologies, you know, whatever the case may be. 0.98
00:02:34.280 So I don't think that, I don't look up to anybody because I realize that I don't know people's real relationship. 0.99
00:02:41.700 Well, and I always, that's why I always ask, like, the question, like, will you obey your husband?
00:02:46.200 Because that really kind of tells you where someone's mindset's at. 0.99
00:02:48.760 Like, could he tell you to shut the fuck up? 0.98
00:02:50.140 Could he, could he, no, but that's wrong. 1.00
00:02:52.840 It's kind of hot if he said shut the fuck up, if he is a boss-ass nigga, you know what I mean? 1.00
00:02:57.080 Well, you ever heard that? 1.00
00:02:58.080 I heard that.
00:02:58.740 No, because this is just, no, because it's like, it's like, okay, you know, a guy, it says in the Bible that your husband's supposed to love you, right?
00:03:09.140 And he doesn't say love you when you're being a perfect feminine woman. 1.00
00:03:12.260 Most of us, most women today, we're not perfect feminine women.
00:03:15.700 Yet we ask the men to be these perfect leaders and we'll only obey them when they're leading perfectly.
00:03:20.580 They're not always going to lead perfectly.
00:03:22.020 Life is long. 1.00
00:03:23.880 But, but the question is, like, and then, and then we get these, like, church, it's so stupid. 0.99
00:03:28.560 They, they, they put propaganda in the church in the early 1900s to influence women. 0.99
00:03:32.860 That's why you have all these single women in churches. 1.00
00:03:34.740 Basically saying that, like, you can only submit to your husband's authority when he follows God.
00:03:39.200 But then that puts the woman deciding when he's following God and when he's not following God.
00:03:43.260 But it's like, men have given us a lot of grace, but we have no grace for men.
00:03:46.680 I was going to say, I do look up to Jada and Will, believe it or not.
00:03:51.920 Oh my God.
00:03:52.500 I want to meet them.
00:03:53.780 I'm manifesting it.
00:03:54.700 Oh my God. 0.62
00:03:55.100 I think that they are so fucking cool because they're open enough to understand that sometimes you might have attractions to other people. 0.92
00:04:03.120 And it's okay to make these types of relationships as long as you stay partners together.
00:04:07.540 If I ever did get married, I would never want to get a divorce, even if we lived separately.
00:04:13.240 And what about you?
00:04:15.340 I don't particularly have a, like, a celebrity or anything that I'm looking up to.
00:04:21.160 Is there anybody, like, in your life, like, maybe your grandmother or something?
00:04:24.540 Uh, yeah.
00:04:29.020 I don't really have anybody that I'm looking up to.
00:04:30.920 Anyone else?
00:04:32.180 I think Denzel and his wife seem to have a pretty healthy relationship, but I don't know everything about them.
00:04:36.940 Sure, sure, sure.
00:04:37.380 But I'm talking about a woman, a woman. 0.80
00:04:39.300 But I love how, like, they're into charity, how they, like, how they're into charity, how they, like, want to, like, build together, how they're looked at, like, in another platform.
00:04:49.380 I would love to be at that kind of status.
00:04:51.460 I love the relationship and the camaraderie that they have with each other.
00:04:56.120 I think that's very admirable.
00:04:57.400 But, again, I don't know everything.
00:04:59.120 Sure, sure. 0.99
00:04:59.540 It could be fucking horrible. 0.98
00:05:00.300 So, my point is, is there's not a figure out there that's installing positive messages to women. 0.98
00:05:07.860 I mean, even Beyonce, I'm an independent.
00:05:10.660 I'm an, it's like, yes, sir. 1.00
00:05:12.860 What the fuck are you saying? 0.99
00:05:14.600 She has a new song. 1.00
00:05:15.800 No, no, no.
00:05:16.780 She's been married since she was 19.
00:05:18.940 She's been calling us.
00:05:20.000 I love my husband.
00:05:20.960 I can't wait to see my husband.
00:05:22.680 Right, but that's because you got, that's my point.
00:05:25.180 You started off, you're telling all these women to be independent, and you've been married. 0.99
00:05:29.200 She's the biggest con woman. 1.00
00:05:31.640 And you was fucking her when she was underage. 1.00
00:05:33.460 But we don't go there. 1.00
00:05:34.560 Or Kelly, too.
00:05:36.480 Or, you know, although Halo was a good one, you know.
00:05:39.240 I love that.
00:05:41.560 But I'll be with Halo.
00:05:42.780 So, Beyonce has no more anyway. 0.97
00:05:45.580 Sorry, Beyonce.
00:05:46.180 Well, here's the thing.
00:05:46.960 Even like a relationship is, when you go to work, there's rules, right?
00:05:50.560 There's things that you sign off to when you get employed to say, I will not do A, B, C, D, E, F, and G.
00:05:57.940 Boundaries.
00:05:58.340 That's the same, but when, I don't think people value that when they're in a relationship, because they don't look at it as a job or a contract.
00:06:06.240 But it actually is.
00:06:07.820 There's things in there you're going to tell your man, don't hit me, don't cuss at me, or whatever your boundaries are, the things that make you feel uncomfortable.
00:06:14.680 And something, you know what else is really interesting?
00:06:17.500 Who here is in a relationship?
00:06:19.240 Raise your hand.
00:06:20.260 Almost there.
00:06:21.080 Three, three, okay.
00:06:21.920 It's interesting, because I can't, I can't, oh my God, I don't know what she's saying.
00:06:27.840 But it's interesting, because I can't tell the difference between women in a relationship and not in a relationship in this room, based on like how provocatively like you guys are dressed.
00:06:37.380 And there used to be a time where like, when you got married, it's like I can't even tell the difference between the wives and the mothers, and the young women that are single and signaling. 0.76
00:06:46.140 But you know, you're funny.
00:06:47.240 But wait a minute, let me just cut you off.
00:06:48.680 Because I just told her, I said, I wore a t-shirt here, because I thought there would be a bunch of men here.
00:06:55.040 But when I found out it was majority women in the room, I took my shirt off. 1.00
00:06:58.700 She took her shirt off from me.
00:07:02.780 I personally think I'm dressed very conservative.
00:07:07.020 Yes, you are.
00:07:08.160 You look very nice.
00:07:10.000 Do you know what's interesting about the way you guys, do you know what's interesting the way you guys process information is you process it very personal, where it's like about you. 0.95
00:07:17.600 And I'm not talking about any of you individually, but I'm just saying as a group, like I can, I walk down the street, and I'll see women holding the hands of a guy dressed like a hooker. 0.90
00:07:27.900 I'll see wives and mothers on Instagram dressed like thirst traps. 0.98
00:07:31.840 And it's like, where are we as women in society if I can't tell the difference?
00:07:36.120 I just think it's just too, it's 2023.
00:07:39.860 Like, if my, if my, if I was, if the guy that I'm dating said to me, hey, when you are not with me, or I don't like that you dress like that, then I would change.
00:07:49.060 But, but the thing is, if there's not an issue, there's not an issue.
00:07:52.200 But the thing is, like, men will study us to figure out what we want, and then adjust accordingly.
00:07:56.580 Like, they'll be like, okay, like, they don't like it when, women don't like when we do this, this, and that. 1.00
00:08:01.120 I think we do that to some type of realm.
00:08:02.740 Not really.
00:08:03.320 I mean, come on, do you think we'd start by being in shape?
00:08:06.120 Like, that's the one thing.
00:08:06.840 I'm in shape!
00:08:09.820 So you're already processing information as you.
00:08:12.740 But I'm saying as a group, 70% of us are overweight.
00:08:15.720 So, let me say something, though. 1.00
00:08:17.280 The guys who are the most in shape, the buffest, most fucking cut up dudes, like fat bitches. 1.00
00:08:23.780 To fuck, they don't marry those women. 1.00
00:08:25.380 Shout out to my brother. 1.00
00:08:26.440 Okay, but, like, even if you're a skinny.
00:08:32.160 I mean, look, there's always some, there's always going to be someone.
00:08:35.320 There's always going to be, and see, like, it's like the personal attacks.
00:08:38.120 That's what they're always going to.
00:08:39.500 She said the 600 pound wife people are married. 1.00
00:08:42.240 Look, it's sometimes, sometimes, but it's never, it's never, it's never to the men that you want. 1.00
00:08:48.340 They're always these dorky ass dudes. 0.99
00:08:50.580 Okay, okay, okay, I'm going to say this. 1.00
00:08:52.760 Even if you're skinny, it doesn't mean that, like, all of a sudden a guy's going to fall in love with you
00:08:57.260 and be right to you or nothing that.
00:08:58.920 But it's going to be easier.
00:08:59.240 Like, you're talking, no, it doesn't make it easier. 0.99
00:09:02.020 I am fucking hot as shit. 1.00
00:09:03.460 I don't give a fuck what anybody has to say, and I still deal with the shit 1.00
00:09:06.660 because a guy's going to do what the fuck he wants to do because he wants to. 1.00
00:09:11.520 I never said that. 0.97
00:09:12.760 Right, remember?
00:09:13.600 And I'm not going to.
00:09:15.340 Okay, okay, okay, is this guy hot?
00:09:18.680 Is he hot?
00:09:20.000 No.
00:09:20.160 I don't know what's that going to come up with.
00:09:21.600 To me, that's to me.
00:09:23.500 No, no, no, no, no, okay. 0.67
00:09:24.780 He's eating my brain.
00:09:26.320 Wait, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on.
00:09:28.860 Okay, here's my point.
00:09:30.400 Here's my point.
00:09:31.260 It doesn't even matter.
00:09:31.920 Here's my point.
00:09:32.640 It doesn't even matter.
00:09:33.100 His girlfriend is super attractive because he's a high-valued man,
00:09:38.440 and he wants a fit, feminine, attractive woman. 1.00
00:09:41.280 He paid $38 billion to get a divorce to be with a Latina news reporter who looks like a model. 0.95
00:09:47.740 And is waiting for him to die so he can get rich.
00:09:50.020 Hold on.
00:09:50.440 High-valued men want fit, feminine, attractive women.
00:09:54.320 So when you say, well, I know guys.
00:09:56.740 Yeah, I know guys, too, that'll be with a woman that's overweight or obese. 1.00
00:10:00.320 But the point is, the guys that most of the women go after, this guy's not attractive.
00:10:06.820 Right?
00:10:07.440 If he was at 7-Eleven with a name tag that said Jeff Bezos on it, you wouldn't take a second look.
00:10:11.760 You know what?
00:10:12.240 A lot of women go after this guy. 1.00
00:10:14.100 Why?
00:10:14.800 Because he's got money.
00:10:15.980 Because he has money.
00:10:16.780 Because he has money.
00:10:16.940 Resources.
00:10:17.700 Resources.
00:10:18.400 That's my point.
00:10:19.180 So when you talk to these guys, where are all the high-valued men?
00:10:22.240 They're with the pretty girls. 0.86
00:10:23.480 They're the guys that have the yacht in Monaco, and the girl's 19, 21 years old, and she's
00:10:28.220 got a brain of a box of rocks. 0.98
00:10:30.040 She's not smart. 0.99
00:10:31.200 Well, and it's like, if women didn't know this, it's like, we spend thousands of dollars
00:10:34.800 on BBLs, boot jobs, to look younger.
00:10:38.900 Like, it's like, women will spend money to look younger, smaller, tighter. 1.00
00:10:43.200 They'll go to personal trainers and then say that men don't like what they like. 1.00
00:10:46.640 This is why, like, even though I don't agree with you, and I feel like a lot of the shit 1.00
00:10:53.020 you say is stupid, I still like you. 1.00
00:10:56.200 Because, like, you do... 1.00
00:10:57.500 You're stupid, but I like you. 1.00
00:10:58.760 No, but, like, you really do, like, say a lot of shit that I do agree with. 1.00
00:11:03.120 And, like, people tell me I'm a confused-ass Republican all the time. 1.00
00:11:06.320 They're like, you believe in capital punishment and fucking abortion and all this shit? 1.00
00:11:09.920 I'm like, yeah, but, you know, I'm not Republican. 1.00
00:11:13.980 You know, it's, like, you know, just some shit like that, you know? 0.99
00:11:17.080 Some women shouldn't vote, yeah? 1.00
00:11:18.340 You better stop.
00:11:19.960 I'm tired of her. 1.00
00:11:21.160 Somebody get her, mute her. 1.00
00:11:22.960 Oh, we gonna get her on mute. 0.99
00:11:24.440 We gonna get her on B-Go and we gonna mute her. 0.93
00:11:26.420 Anyways.
00:11:29.540 It's so funny.
00:11:31.320 We'll have this whole convo, and, like, I think by the end, it's like, I'm showing why
00:11:34.960 we shouldn't vote.
00:11:35.960 It's like, because we can't even, we're arguing about, is water wet?
00:11:41.520 Do men like thin chicks? 1.00
00:11:42.960 Right.
00:11:43.680 It's like, come on.
00:11:44.540 We don't have to.
00:11:44.680 We don't have to.
00:11:45.360 We don't have to.
00:11:47.860 We don't have to.