JustPearlyThings - October 11, 2023


Pearl Educates Toxic Feminist


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10 minutes

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2,333

Sentence count

248

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Misogyny

42

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In this episode, we discuss the concept of perfectionism and why it's a bad thing to have a perfect body. We also talk about how we should be more selfless when it comes to caring for the other person.

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00:00:00.000 I lost my train of thought.
00:00:01.060 She said she can attract anybody, big or small, anyway,
00:00:04.180 and that she wants to be able to create AI and all types of stuff at work
00:00:07.680 so she doesn't want to lose her brains. 1.00
00:00:09.220 Okay.
00:00:09.600 I lost the train of thought.
00:00:11.760 My bad.
00:00:12.460 Well, I was going to say, I would want a perfect body
00:00:14.520 just so I can look in the mirror and be like,
00:00:16.260 damn, bitch, it's fucking fine. 1.00
00:00:17.660 Satisfied.
00:00:17.940 Yeah, not so I can catch a man or keep my girlfriend. 0.99
00:00:22.520 I wonder why this is like gut reaction of us women. 1.00
00:00:26.280 Whenever it's like we have this, you could have this for a man, 0.95
00:00:30.000 it's so interesting because we'll always have to say,
00:00:33.340 no, no, no, it's for myself.
00:00:35.380 But it's really interesting because a family is supposed to be selfless.
00:00:39.780 Families only work if we're selfless and we're thinking about the other person.
00:00:43.240 Yeah, because you're giving everything for your kids.
00:00:43.740 Yeah, and the husband.
00:00:45.660 And it's interesting, too, because we'll give up stuff for our kids
00:00:48.240 and we'll do stuff for the kids.
00:00:49.840 But it's like, why is it a bad thing to say,
00:00:52.180 I want to have a perfect body for the man?
00:00:54.960 I think the whole feminist movement of being an independent woman
00:00:59.120 and even saying that you're codependent on somebody
00:01:02.000 almost is a negative tone these days.
00:01:04.420 But it's not.
00:01:05.100 I mean, technically you are.
00:01:06.200 You're in a relationship.
00:01:07.100 It's okay to be codependent on each other.
00:01:09.300 Yeah, like I would love a perfect body to get married 0.93
00:01:12.680 and then a husband and then that's his body. 0.93
00:01:14.820 Like, I think that'd be great.
00:01:15.960 Like, what's wrong with that?
00:01:17.260 There's nothing wrong with that.
00:01:18.120 That's just how you view it.
00:01:19.680 You know what I mean?
00:01:20.200 I think everybody has to live with what they would feel comfortable with.
00:01:24.620 So if she doesn't feel comfortable with having a perfect body 0.84
00:01:27.560 but she feels comfortable with having a perfect brain,
00:01:29.820 that's her mindset now and then what she'll live with.
00:01:32.420 Right, and there's nothing wrong with that.
00:01:34.500 But I'm just more asking, like, why do we have this gut reaction
00:01:37.540 that anything we do, like, for the men, we have, like,
00:01:40.300 whenever girls say, oh, I don't put on makeup for the men, 0.65
00:01:42.720 I do it for myself.
00:01:43.780 I don't do this for the men.
00:01:45.000 Like, why is our gut reaction as women, like, this is for ourselves 0.61
00:01:48.960 when if we want to be in a long-term marriage,
00:01:51.160 you're supposed to do a lot, at least, for him.
00:01:54.300 So, if a guy grows a beard because his wife wants him to, 0.89
00:01:57.280 is that equivalent to what you're saying?
00:01:59.320 No, because I think men and women are different 0.99
00:02:01.180 and I think women are here to serve them. 1.00
00:02:02.580 So they have an exception that we don't.
00:02:04.280 Yeah, because I think we're lied to in saying that we're equal
00:02:07.520 and I think the natural order of the world is we're not.
00:02:09.860 I think everybody should be living for themselves
00:02:11.560 and their own happiness
00:02:12.300 and that you should never be codependent on your partner.
00:02:14.600 Okay, I'm going to...
00:02:15.160 Like, you should be happy on your own.
00:02:16.980 I think that's the problem.
00:02:18.000 They should be happy and we should be happy together.
00:02:19.520 So, these people talk about being independent.
00:02:21.880 Independent means you're alone. 0.61
00:02:23.280 Yeah.
00:02:23.560 You're not independent in a relationship.
00:02:24.960 Independent means to fail.
00:02:25.400 If you...
00:02:25.920 Look, I'm a provider protector.
00:02:27.880 My responsibility as the king of the house
00:02:29.700 is to provide and protect for her, not control her.
00:02:32.300 Right.
00:02:32.500 You brought something up, but like, treat you bad.
00:02:34.740 There's always these exceptions.
00:02:36.840 I was in a toxic relationship.
00:02:38.520 Everybody's been in bad relationships.
00:02:40.280 Right.
00:02:40.460 But my duty and responsibility and honor
00:02:42.440 is to serve her and provide and protect for her.
00:02:45.400 Her responsibility, she takes care of the home. 0.94
00:02:48.340 She cooks the food.
00:02:49.140 This is how we live our life.
00:02:51.460 Now, when you say that, if I say I'm independent,
00:02:54.240 well, then why am I in a relationship?
00:02:55.700 Right.
00:02:55.880 I rely on her to take care of the home.
00:02:58.300 That's what she does. 1.00
00:02:59.260 I didn't say independent, did I?
00:03:00.640 No, but I'm saying you said codependent.
00:03:02.280 What are you saying?
00:03:02.360 Codependency is bad.
00:03:02.920 It's not codependent like you're unable to...
00:03:05.020 Like you can't survive.
00:03:06.680 That's not codependency.
00:03:07.400 It's just being a team.
00:03:08.880 Well, no, no, no.
00:03:09.820 So, this is the other misconception.
00:03:12.300 A relationship is not a partnership.
00:03:14.100 A partnership is where you go into business with somebody.
00:03:16.540 We're not in a partnership.
00:03:17.460 We're in a relationship.
00:03:18.780 I lead the home.
00:03:19.220 Marriage is a business. 0.57
00:03:20.160 It definitely is.
00:03:21.360 But it's not...
00:03:21.780 This is where the problems come in.
00:03:24.080 We come in, it's 50-50.
00:03:25.440 No, it's not 50-50.
00:03:26.420 And I agree with that.
00:03:27.300 I lead the home.
00:03:28.460 But here we are.
00:03:29.260 Right, here we are.
00:03:30.320 I don't believe it's 50-50 ever.
00:03:31.580 I don't believe it, but this new generation set of men
00:03:33.820 is why a lot of the women are the way they are 1.00
00:03:35.900 with the feelings of wanting to be so independent
00:03:38.500 because the men are, like, so aggressive with...
00:03:41.240 Men are the new bitches. 1.00
00:03:42.440 Well, let me tell you why.
00:03:43.780 Well, because women ask them to be bitches. 1.00
00:03:45.820 And 80% of the single-parent homes are women.
00:03:49.580 And they're trying to raise these boys,
00:03:51.180 and they're raising them as feminine men.
00:03:53.120 You need to do this.
00:03:54.000 You need to do this.
00:03:54.580 Your grandma, your great-grandmother's like,
00:03:56.540 go out and find yourself a good man that can take care of you.
00:03:59.580 A lot of...
00:03:59.940 And when I say this, I know for you,
00:04:02.040 a lot of these women nowadays, their mamas are like, 1.00
00:04:05.060 you don't need a man.
00:04:06.280 You can be an independent boss, bitch. 1.00
00:04:07.680 And then what happens is you become 50, 60 years old,
00:04:11.260 drinking boxed wine, watching Netflix with your cats.
00:04:15.280 Talking about angel numbers and horoscopes.
00:04:17.560 I'm fine.
00:04:18.220 I'm fine.
00:04:18.760 But let me tell you something.
00:04:19.720 I'm fine.
00:04:20.320 I'm fine.
00:04:20.780 And then you come 60, you're like,
00:04:22.140 what am I going to do for work?
00:04:24.000 You can't retire.
00:04:24.880 You don't have $2, $3 million.
00:04:26.180 If they picked the perfect body at 60,
00:04:29.180 it would be the retire-only man.
00:04:31.440 Okay.
00:04:32.300 Yeah, there you go.
00:04:33.140 There you go.
00:04:33.940 I'm not coming at you.
00:04:34.940 I'm just stating what, as a man of high-value man,
00:04:38.120 when we're looking, we're like,
00:04:39.600 I talked, I had a conversation last night.
00:04:42.020 I talked to hundreds and hundreds of women. 0.99
00:04:44.240 I coach men and women.
00:04:45.480 I get these challenges.
00:04:46.480 I've helped marriages.
00:04:47.460 Now, I'm not perfect.
00:04:49.180 I don't know everything,
00:04:50.160 but I'm rarely in doubt because this is what I do.
00:04:52.160 And I see the challenges that some of the ladies and men have.
00:04:55.300 And a lot of these men are simping.
00:04:57.080 I get it.
00:04:57.660 They're simping.
00:04:58.560 And they'll come up, like Pearl.
00:05:00.260 Pearl was in a situation.
00:05:01.480 Watch this.
00:05:01.880 Pearl was in a situation.
00:05:03.100 A guy watched my podcast.
00:05:04.300 Pearl was on there.
00:05:05.500 He reached out to her, somehow, shape, way, or form.
00:05:08.520 And he wanted to date her.
00:05:10.040 And, like, soon as he met her, he goes,
00:05:11.820 I want to marry you.
00:05:12.740 It turned her off.
00:05:13.940 He was simping.
00:05:15.300 Thirsty.
00:05:16.040 Am I right?
00:05:17.040 Yeah, yeah, I did.
00:05:18.080 Wow.
00:05:19.280 And these guys, I say, men, stop chasing women.
00:05:22.980 Stop chasing women. 1.00
00:05:24.500 What value does a woman bring to the table, 1.00
00:05:27.000 I say, or to the relationship outside of sex?
00:05:29.840 What do you bring to the relationship outside of sex?
00:05:32.020 I'm fucking hilarious.
00:05:32.880 Dude, men don't want to date comedians.
00:05:36.180 They want to date models. 0.82
00:05:37.320 What?
00:05:38.260 If that was true, if men wanted to date funny,
00:05:40.940 if men wanted to date funny women,
00:05:42.780 I'm a funny-ass model, so what's up?
00:05:44.760 Chelsea, you're not that funny.
00:05:46.420 I also have a girlfriend, so y'all need to keep that into it.
00:05:48.740 Chelsea, well, yeah, I understand.
00:05:50.420 You're in a different relationship.
00:05:51.720 You're in a different relationship.
00:05:52.720 Yeah.
00:05:52.900 But, you know, for men, it's like they're not looking for funny chicks.
00:05:56.880 Otherwise, you wouldn't see all these comedians.
00:05:58.940 They're always single.
00:05:59.980 No, that's not true.
00:06:00.880 Have you seen that Asian comedian?
00:06:02.160 She just came out with a movie and she's fucking funny as shit. 0.99
00:06:04.480 You know what's so funny?
00:06:05.240 She was pregnant.
00:06:06.020 She already had that baby, I think.
00:06:07.040 Yeah, you know what's so funny?
00:06:08.580 It's like you have to bring up the exception whose name you don't even know.
00:06:12.020 You probably watch comedians.
00:06:13.120 Well, yeah, but, like, just think of Chelsea.
00:06:14.160 I can't remember her name, but I've seen the movie.
00:06:16.040 Chelsea Handlers, Byersel, all the big-name comedians are by themselves.
00:06:19.580 That woman is pain. 1.00
00:06:20.760 I still do think, like, as much as you can be as black and white with stuff,
00:06:24.460 I still think that men do choose you or fall in love with you or like you more
00:06:29.200 because of your personality and because of other things that you bring to the table.
00:06:33.480 Yeah, because they miss you when you're not around, not because you're fine.
00:06:35.940 I know women with perfect bodies, really nice bodies at that, 1.00
00:06:39.080 really nice bodies, tatted up, gorgeous.
00:06:41.060 I mean, the woman that all the men walk in the room and want,
00:06:44.620 and they still get cheated on.
00:06:45.540 Hold on, we have a man in the room, so I think he should get cheated on. 0.98
00:06:48.200 Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, I missed this.
00:06:49.540 That's just what they're saying.
00:06:50.840 What were you saying about the woman tattered in the room?
00:06:53.480 Say that again. 0.71
00:06:54.240 I mean, she could be tatted, she could be not tatted, 0.96
00:06:55.600 but I actually know women that are completely gorgeous bodies, beautiful faces, 1.00
00:06:59.380 intelligent, bring a lot to the table,
00:07:01.000 and they still are getting mistreated and cheated on and pushed to the side.
00:07:05.240 Look at Halle Berry. 0.53
00:07:06.280 Yeah.
00:07:08.020 Here's the stat.
00:07:08.700 Oh, I got no...
00:07:09.980 I mean, let me tell you, I met Halle Berry.
00:07:12.700 You want me to tell you about Halle Berry?
00:07:13.960 I wouldn't touch her with a 10-foot pole.
00:07:15.960 That woman's like a dude. 1.00
00:07:17.620 Masculine, bossy as hell.
00:07:18.900 I love it.
00:07:19.200 And anybody who gets to that, just like Kim Kardashian,
00:07:21.340 oh, she's a boss bitch. 1.00
00:07:22.860 Dude, she's been through so many dudes,
00:07:25.000 her body count's higher than, like, the tax returns.
00:07:27.760 I used to hang out with Kim back in the day.
00:07:32.720 So, but regarding those high-value men, yeah, look at Kevin Hart, Jay-Z.
00:07:37.400 They all cheated, right?
00:07:38.620 But guess what?
00:07:40.360 She still stayed with him.
00:07:41.900 She still stayed with him, right?
00:07:43.600 So the question is, if you were in a relationship with Drake and married to Drake and he cheated on you,
00:07:47.340 would you still stay married to him?
00:07:49.080 No.
00:07:49.980 Why do guys get to have such a high body count and women don't? 1.00
00:07:54.280 That's my big problem.
00:07:55.460 And, like, I don't really.
00:07:56.700 Let me answer that one.
00:07:57.420 No, no, no.
00:07:58.400 Guys and women are different.
00:07:59.400 Hold on.
00:07:59.920 They get away with everything.
00:08:00.700 Hold on.
00:08:01.080 Or we can get away with shit.
00:08:01.880 Let me just finish real quick.
00:08:02.440 We get away with everything.
00:08:03.980 We're fat.
00:08:04.720 We're smart.
00:08:05.140 We're fat.
00:08:06.120 We're whores nowadays. 1.00
00:08:07.300 We're on birth control.
00:08:08.520 We get away with everything.
00:08:09.620 I don't really.
00:08:10.340 Like, I'm somebody who's been taking advantage of a lot,
00:08:13.760 so I don't really do the whole, like, super sexual thing.
00:08:16.740 Sure, sure, sure.
00:08:17.160 I don't have a lot of bodies up under me.
00:08:18.920 But I still stand with women, which don't judge a man, 0.97
00:08:23.160 like, don't not judge a man when he has a high body count.
00:08:26.140 But if a woman fucks who the fuck she wants because she can, 1.00
00:08:28.860 because she's a bad bitch, why the fuck you calling her a hug? 1.00
00:08:31.760 I don't like that.
00:08:32.700 First of all, you don't have to be a bad bitch to fuck a bunch of guys. 1.00
00:08:36.460 Any girls can fuck that. 1.00
00:08:37.120 You can be a mid-bitch. 1.00
00:08:37.780 Every girl in here can get on the phone. 1.00
00:08:40.100 I'm talking about the bad bitches. 1.00
00:08:41.580 I'm not saying that you have to be one to do it.
00:08:43.040 Right, but women, all you women right now can get on the phone 1.00
00:08:46.460 and have sex tonight.
00:08:47.440 Yes, right.
00:08:47.940 It's very hard for men to do that.
00:08:49.340 You can just walk out down the strip and be like, sex, 0.82
00:08:52.360 and then someone will come.
00:08:53.280 It's very hard.
00:08:53.760 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:57.260 It's very hard for men.
00:08:59.120 A lot of women don't believe this. 1.00
00:09:00.360 It's very hard for men to have sex with women. 0.66
00:09:02.120 I've heard men say that.
00:09:02.880 It's very challenging.
00:09:03.700 Let me explain something.
00:09:04.540 For you?
00:09:04.960 No, no.
00:09:05.320 10% of men are actually sexually active.
00:09:08.240 A lot of women think all these dudes.
00:09:09.660 And the 10% that are sexually active, they're the ones having sex with y'all. 0.62
00:09:13.900 You see what I'm saying?
00:09:15.140 Yeah.
00:09:15.300 So what happens is for a man to go out and have sex, for him to have access to women 0.79
00:09:19.440 and have options, he's got to be on point, high valued, have status, have swag.
00:09:25.000 He's worked hard to get to that level.
00:09:26.520 Now, to answer your question on why is it bad, when a woman gets past six men body count, 1.00
00:09:31.560 her pair bonding starts, her ability to pair bond with a man goes down to 25%. 0.62
00:09:36.640 Where did you learn this?
00:09:37.920 I read psychology books on relationships.
00:09:40.280 People have interviewed 10,000 people all over the world.
00:09:42.240 You have a specific number.
00:09:43.580 Yeah.
00:09:44.080 Let me explain something.
00:09:45.300 Your oxytocin levels go down.
00:09:47.120 It's hard for you to pair bond with a man.
00:09:49.020 The more men you've been with.
00:09:50.420 Actually, I can speak on this.
00:09:51.440 I'm sorry.
00:09:51.700 Okay.
00:09:51.900 But I'm going to have Pearl talk to you.
00:09:53.140 But that's a good question.
00:09:53.980 I've been fucking for 21 years.
00:09:55.020 You think it ain't?
00:09:56.000 But you're not with a man.
00:09:58.840 You have a choice, right?
00:09:59.740 Yes.
00:10:00.220 But to my point, you'll see women go through guys or go through relationships, have problems.
00:10:05.300 It's hard for them to bond.