JustPearlyThings - October 15, 2023


Pearl Explains Why Women Are Heartless


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11 minutes

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2,177

Sentence count

273

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Misogyny

24

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Toxicity

22

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15

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In this episode, we talk about the dating market and why women are looking for a man who is taller than them, stronger than them and smarter than them. We also talk about how much money a man should make and how much a woman should make.

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00:00:00.000 You have too many options, so you're like,
00:00:02.260 oh, don't worry, if that don't work out, this next one.
00:00:04.620 But don't you?
00:00:05.060 That's why girls get the ick so quick. 1.00
00:00:06.600 But don't you?
00:00:07.300 No.
00:00:07.960 Me?
00:00:08.460 Don't you have a lot of options?
00:00:09.700 Me?
00:00:09.960 Listen, I'm just focusing on me at the moment.
00:00:11.740 I can admit I'm confused.
00:00:13.340 Do you know what I mean?
00:00:13.860 Well, most men don't have a lot of options.
00:00:16.100 One out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year.
00:00:19.240 Really?
00:00:19.580 Wow.
00:00:20.020 Yeah, I'm going to, I actually, I'm going to get to you,
00:00:22.680 but I kind of want to show you guys something on the whiteboard.
00:00:24.380 You're going to get to the virgins. 0.93
00:00:25.340 Okay.
00:00:29.180 Okay.
00:00:30.000 So, we've got, all right, we're going to get the women here. 1.00
00:00:34.800 Oh, my God.
00:00:46.040 Up here in the sky.
00:00:56.960 All right.
00:00:57.660 So, I'm going to show you guys the dating.
00:00:59.380 All right.
00:01:02.700 So, would you guys agree that you want someone in general that makes more money than you in general?
00:01:07.240 Of course.
00:01:07.800 Yes.
00:01:07.900 Okay.
00:01:08.120 Would you agree that you want someone taller than you?
00:01:10.520 Yeah.
00:01:10.760 Absolutely.
00:01:11.360 Okay.
00:01:11.740 Would you agree that you want someone smarter than you?
00:01:14.760 Yeah.
00:01:15.040 Yes.
00:01:15.320 In general.
00:01:15.980 Okay.
00:01:16.120 So, now the problem is, we all do.
00:01:19.320 So, here's the dating market.
00:01:21.040 So, this is going to be, the lines are going to be sex, because we're not getting married
00:01:26.100 anymore. 0.98
00:01:26.500 So, this is just sex. 0.99
00:01:27.760 So, they have sex. 1.00
00:01:30.300 They have sex. 1.00
00:01:31.820 They have sex. 1.00
00:01:33.560 I'm going to add another. 0.92
00:01:34.280 So, this is the dating market, because women date across and up hierarchies, because we 1.00
00:01:43.060 want someone taller, stronger. 0.98
00:01:44.520 So, basically, we're just all screwing these guys. 0.85
00:01:48.360 And ones get left behind. 0.94
00:01:49.220 Yeah.
00:01:49.500 And these guys are virgins.
00:01:51.520 So, it used to be.
00:01:52.900 Well, they might get lucky sometimes.
00:01:54.500 They might get lucky.
00:01:55.020 They get lucky.
00:01:55.640 Here or there.
00:01:56.540 They might.
00:01:57.080 They might.
00:01:57.420 They might.
00:01:57.520 They might.
00:01:57.600 They might.
00:01:57.700 They might.
00:01:57.880 They might.
00:01:58.020 They might.
00:01:58.080 They might.
00:01:58.140 They might.
00:01:58.600 Yeah.
00:01:58.700 Yeah.
00:01:59.040 Yeah.
00:01:59.200 Yeah.
00:01:59.420 They might pick like this.
00:02:00.980 Like, this chick might be like, all right, fine. 0.95
00:02:04.040 But he'll get her like once, and then she's done.
00:02:06.460 She's like, I'm going back.
00:02:07.620 Yeah.
00:02:08.060 I'm going back.
00:02:08.680 Because women, it's so funny, we would rather share, we would rather be the king's concubine
00:02:14.820 rather than the peasant's wife. 1.00
00:02:16.520 Throughout all of time, yeah, if a stronger guy came in, and we're like in a tribe, we're
00:02:22.480 all together, and then, you know, my bouncer comes in and kills these guys, then boom, now
00:02:27.560 we belong to the bouncer.
00:02:28.800 You see what I mean?
00:02:29.940 Yeah.
00:02:30.520 So.
00:02:30.760 The bouncer.
00:02:31.500 The bouncer.
00:02:32.260 Yeah.
00:02:32.780 Because basically, like, if a guy, like, bigger, stronger, richer, whatever came in, you
00:02:38.300 you just, you were forced to, yeah.
00:02:40.020 So that's why women were kind of heartless. 1.00
00:02:42.100 We just leave after, no offense, but after 19 years, you know?
00:02:46.740 And, and yeah, so, and the other problem is then.
00:02:50.140 Can I say something?
00:02:50.640 Yeah, go ahead.
00:02:51.020 Go ahead.
00:02:51.900 When I was with him, he was down there.
00:02:53.620 Oh.
00:02:54.140 Okay.
00:02:54.440 How tall was he?
00:02:55.860 He's not that much taller than me.
00:02:57.160 I'm quite tall anyway.
00:02:57.740 Okay.
00:02:57.900 So.
00:02:58.220 I'm 5'8".
00:02:58.740 So he was about 6 foot.
00:03:00.160 Okay.
00:03:00.520 So that's top 15% of men.
00:03:02.680 Okay.
00:03:04.160 Okay.
00:03:04.520 How much, how much money did he make?
00:03:05.900 Like, I mean, we were teenagers, so nothing.
00:03:09.180 No, now.
00:03:09.800 Like, after the 19 years, like, roughly.
00:03:11.760 After the 19.
00:03:12.820 I mean, he, he made the most money in between, I think.
00:03:17.300 I think he, I think I make more money than him now.
00:03:19.300 Okay.
00:03:20.140 Okay.
00:03:20.680 Well, that's usually when women leave. 1.00
00:03:22.300 Shame.
00:03:22.580 So thank you for, I had a suspicion.
00:03:25.020 Okay.
00:03:25.460 So, so, so, how, how much money did he make, roughly?
00:03:29.360 When?
00:03:29.820 Which one?
00:03:30.420 When you were together.
00:03:31.500 Just give me a rough salary.
00:03:32.580 So he started from, started from the bottom now.
00:03:34.700 No, he still started, no, he still started here.
00:03:38.180 If he was top 15% of height, okay, at least.
00:03:41.720 So then how much money did he make?
00:03:44.760 What, in between?
00:03:45.660 In the middle?
00:03:45.840 Oh my God.
00:03:46.440 Just, just, you know, just say 20 to 25 a year.
00:03:48.980 I mean, normal wage, nothing.
00:03:50.600 Okay.
00:03:51.200 25.
00:03:51.600 25 grand a year.
00:03:52.680 Okay.
00:03:53.080 Okay.
00:03:53.440 So a normal.
00:03:54.680 So, okay.
00:03:55.120 But he was still above average in height.
00:03:57.240 Yeah.
00:03:57.980 He was muscly and.
00:03:59.820 Okay.
00:04:00.180 So he was hot.
00:04:01.180 He was a hottie.
00:04:02.040 All right.
00:04:02.560 So he was still up here.
00:04:04.000 Now we get to the root.
00:04:05.140 Now we get to the root of this.
00:04:07.600 Yeah.
00:04:08.120 And so maybe.
00:04:09.260 You're going to be watching this thinking, why is she talking about it?
00:04:10.720 Yeah, no, but this is, this is what the women, like, this is what we do. 1.00
00:04:13.500 We usually go for the hot guys when we're younger.
00:04:15.800 Yeah. 0.99
00:04:16.060 And then later we're like, oh shit, I want to like have a better lifestyle. 0.98
00:04:19.340 So I'm either going to make money myself and leave, or I'm going to, I'm going to find 0.99
00:04:24.620 a guy that's richer.
00:04:25.600 These are trends.
00:04:26.600 It's not every chick.
00:04:27.480 What about.
00:04:28.140 You want to find yourself.
00:04:29.580 Well.
00:04:30.300 You spent so many years with a man and you forgot about yourself.
00:04:32.980 So this is the problem.
00:04:35.160 I'll tell you, I'll tell you finding my, this is what I found.
00:04:37.940 So here's Instagram.
00:04:39.840 Okay.
00:04:40.400 That really spins a little bit as well.
00:04:42.160 So here's Instagram.
00:04:43.120 So the problem with Instagram is they make all these chicks over here think they're hotter 1.00
00:04:48.420 than they are.
00:04:49.120 Oh, trust me.
00:04:49.700 So they think, so we, we have this thing where we just like believe Instagram.
00:04:54.300 So I've seen the trend of finding yourself.
00:04:56.860 It's like these chicks do these tick tocks, like leaving their boyfriends and like moving 1.00
00:05:00.600 to a new country or something.
00:05:02.000 Yeah.
00:05:02.500 I've seen this.
00:05:03.720 And yeah, Instagram is like, yes, the streets are super fun.
00:05:08.280 And so the women that are married here, right. 1.00
00:05:11.240 And they, maybe, maybe she snagged this might, you know, maybe she snagged this guy or this
00:05:15.740 guy.
00:05:15.940 She was like, all right, I can't, these guys keep pumping and dumping.
00:05:18.320 So I got to stop here.
00:05:19.420 And so now they get married here, right.
00:05:23.340 But Instagram comes in and basically, and convinces her that she can get this guy now or this
00:05:30.080 guy, or maybe she starts to make more money than usually thinks she can do better or just 1.00
00:05:35.040 make enough money to live without them.
00:05:37.260 And so basically when women don't need men, we tend to leave them for whatever reason. 0.95
00:05:43.100 We just tend to go.
00:05:44.680 Yep.
00:05:44.960 Leave them for more money. 0.98
00:05:46.340 Is that awful or is that bad?
00:05:47.760 I would say it's our fault for leaving.
00:05:49.680 Yeah.
00:05:50.160 Yep.
00:05:50.960 Do you know what?
00:05:51.620 Yeah.
00:05:52.320 Old school relationships used to actually work on the issues and their problems and communicate
00:05:57.020 and actually stuck it out.
00:05:59.060 This is why we shouldn't vote.
00:06:01.260 All right.
00:06:01.880 So what if the man stops leading a woman?
00:06:04.680 So what happens then if he stops leading on which a man is typically supposed to do?
00:06:08.900 Well, did you, well, did you, did you stop following?
00:06:12.140 If you stop leading, then I'm going to stop.
00:06:13.840 Well, well, I, I think, you know, I think that's kind of an excuse.
00:06:17.760 Because I think when you think of the most docile feminine women, I'm not saying it's
00:06:21.860 me, but I'm saying like when we think of like the most docile women, they're going to be 1.00
00:06:26.040 led, even if a guy isn't like the strongest lead.
00:06:29.420 Guys naturally lead.
00:06:31.140 That's part of who they are.
00:06:32.020 I mean, but what if they naturally stop leading?
00:06:34.200 Okay.
00:06:34.320 What does that mean?
00:06:35.460 Stop leading?
00:06:36.480 Stop being a man.
00:06:37.520 Okay.
00:06:37.780 What does that mean?
00:06:38.760 Just fall back.
00:06:39.580 This is what I find.
00:06:40.740 I find that usually, okay, it'll start, start man because God are above the man and then the
00:06:46.560 women. 0.81
00:06:46.880 This is just my beliefs.
00:06:47.920 Okay.
00:06:48.300 So, you know, take this or leave it.
00:06:49.860 But I think usually when I hear that, it means she's a really argumentative domineering woman 1.00
00:06:54.480 that, you know, basically made his life hell for 20 years and he just got tired of like 1.00
00:07:00.460 listening to her bitch. 1.00
00:07:01.500 So he just gave up. 1.00
00:07:02.740 I'm not saying it to you.
00:07:03.940 I don't know.
00:07:04.500 Of course it's not me.
00:07:05.140 This is just, this is just what I find.
00:07:06.980 Because like usually a guy will tell you something and do you listen or do you accuse him of not
00:07:12.600 leading?
00:07:13.800 You know, this is.
00:07:14.580 It depends what he says.
00:07:15.260 Well, see, that means you can't follow.
00:07:17.400 Well, I think what he does.
00:07:18.280 See, but it shouldn't depend.
00:07:19.940 This shouldn't depend.
00:07:21.120 When you, when you tell your kids something, do you say, do they say it depends when I'm
00:07:24.420 going to listen?
00:07:25.780 No.
00:07:26.140 I mean.
00:07:26.420 No, they're just supposed to listen.
00:07:28.280 Because they're below.
00:07:29.900 There he, ah, so you're saying the woman is below the man, so she should just listen. 0.94
00:07:34.740 Yeah, that's the hierarchy.
00:07:35.440 What he says.
00:07:36.280 If he says, you know, just jump off a cliff.
00:07:39.140 Well, I think if he tells you, I think, you know, I think there are some extremes.
00:07:43.580 Right.
00:07:43.740 I'll give you an example when, I'll give you an example.
00:07:46.460 Well, as long as there's no rocks at the bottom.
00:07:47.720 I'll give you an example when I, I don't believe in birth control.
00:07:50.460 So, I wouldn't, if a guy told me go on birth control, I'd be like, look, I think that's
00:07:54.260 against.
00:07:54.580 That's true.
00:07:55.400 Against, yeah.
00:07:56.140 I don't believe in birth control either.
00:07:57.300 So, so, you know, but that's.
00:08:00.020 What is it, a pull out method?
00:08:01.940 What do you mean?
00:08:03.040 What do you look at?
00:08:03.860 You don't know what a pull out method is.
00:08:04.840 I don't, I think when you get married, you should just, yeah.
00:08:07.560 All right, not pull out.
00:08:08.700 Yeah.
00:08:08.980 I think you just, you know, see what happens.
00:08:11.340 No pull out.
00:08:11.640 But, but yeah, so that's what I think.
00:08:16.200 I think usually when relationships end, it's the woman's fault. 1.00
00:08:20.620 Yeah.
00:08:20.760 Really?
00:08:21.280 Do you know what?
00:08:21.820 No, no.
00:08:22.820 I don't agree.
00:08:23.480 So, what if it's a situation, what if it's a situation, as you said, the man, the man not
00:08:28.740 being the leader anymore.
00:08:30.140 What if he just lacks motivation?
00:08:31.940 What if he lacks teaching you better or bettering you?
00:08:34.300 Okay, so how, okay, tell me like what motivation is, give me an example.
00:08:38.220 Um, for example, okay, cool.
00:08:40.080 Um, I'm like, oh, babe, I want to set up a cake shop, um, just, you know, to better us.
00:08:46.320 You can manage it, but, um, I want you to, like, help set up a cake shop.
00:08:51.280 He's probably not going to motivate you or push you in the direction of you can simply
00:08:55.320 get in the stuff of, you know, the cake cutters or tools that you would need.
00:08:59.000 I'll give you, I'll give you an example with this cake shop.
00:09:01.520 You know, men are more logical. 1.00
00:09:03.100 So, most men would probably say that's a stupid idea. 1.00
00:09:05.780 They will. 1.00
00:09:06.680 Yeah, and that's the thing, because women, we're led with our emotions, what's like fun 1.00
00:09:10.220 in the moment, right?
00:09:11.400 You know, but men are just a little more logical. 1.00
00:09:14.000 So, I think a lot of times we have stupid ideas and we bring them to men and they kind 0.99
00:09:18.380 of like nicely tell us no, but we don't take a hint. 0.99
00:09:21.880 You guys can tell me if I'm wrong.
00:09:23.640 No, but the other side of this is like, it's his investment.
00:09:26.680 Like, he's investing into this.
00:09:29.000 Into your idea for a cake shop?
00:09:31.160 For a cake shop.
00:09:32.020 Okay, but maybe, okay, did he say yes to the cake shop?
00:09:36.180 I asked him.
00:09:37.020 I wanted him to motivate me.
00:09:38.800 Okay.
00:09:39.280 Why is it his job to motivate you?
00:09:41.180 Because he's the man.
00:09:42.240 He's the leader, not the motivator.
00:09:44.640 Like, you want to be sure that comes into it.
00:09:47.760 I'm sure that comes into it.
00:09:49.500 Well, it's like, he can...
00:09:50.720 He wants to motivate your children and your women.
00:09:52.080 Oh, yeah.
00:09:52.540 Not really.
00:09:53.600 Okay, so...
00:09:54.420 Why can't you motivate yourself?
00:09:56.720 Because now you're a strong, independent woman and you're finding yourself.
00:10:02.060 But you don't want to be an independent woman. 1.00
00:10:04.100 You want to be behind you.
00:10:07.000 But now you want to...
00:10:07.680 No, no, no, no, no.
00:10:08.520 No, let's fix it.
00:10:09.660 You're behind him.
00:10:11.740 He's in front.
00:10:12.960 Yeah.
00:10:13.300 He's the leader.
00:10:13.800 Yeah, he's the leader.
00:10:14.900 But if he's not leading for you or the children...
00:10:17.400 If he's out, okay, if he's out spending five days a week in the club...
00:10:21.140 And he's drinking and he's whatever and he's partying and you don't see him at night.
00:10:26.000 He doesn't see the children.
00:10:27.880 What do you do then?
00:10:28.820 Is he leading?
00:10:29.500 Okay, okay.
00:10:30.400 So then I would ask, why are you with a guy that spends five days a week in the club?
00:10:36.200 And that's why a woman leaves. 1.00
00:10:37.640 And that's why a woman leaves. 1.00