JustPearlyThings - October 14, 2023


Pearl Exposes Deluded Feminist


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10 minutes

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2,099

Sentence count

208

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Misogyny

24

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In this episode, we discuss cheating and how to deal with cheating in a relationship. We discuss cheating within a relationship and how cheating should be dealt with within a marriage. We also talk about cheating in single relationships and what to look out for when dealing with cheating.

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00:00:00.000 Do you guys accept,
00:00:01.400 would you guys try to work through cheating?
00:00:04.860 I think I'd be all right with cheating, honestly.
00:00:07.180 As long as I could film it for only fans.
00:00:08.840 If you could do it in front of me, that'd be fine.
00:00:10.240 Man or woman, I wouldn't mind. 0.99
00:00:11.300 Okay, go ahead.
00:00:12.280 If you asked me this about five years ago,
00:00:15.240 I would have said, nah.
00:00:16.980 Now I would be, I'd have to think about certain,
00:00:20.640 I couldn't make that dramatic, no.
00:00:23.020 Okay, you'd think about working through it.
00:00:24.800 I'd think about if it was like, yeah,
00:00:26.600 if it was the first time I'd have to think about that.
00:00:28.600 I can't like, just, it depends as well
00:00:31.260 of how long we're in the relationship for,
00:00:33.260 what we've got going on.
00:00:34.480 If it's something early,
00:00:35.420 then I don't think he's taking me serious, really.
00:00:37.640 I think it's just a play play thing, I wouldn't.
00:00:40.160 What changed from five years ago to now?
00:00:42.880 I was young, mentally.
00:00:44.400 I wasn't thinking, I was thinking,
00:00:46.300 oh, I'm the only one that you have to,
00:00:48.660 yep, it's all about, I wasn't looking into a man.
00:00:52.660 I didn't know what a man is.
00:00:54.360 I didn't know what men had to offer.
00:00:57.860 I didn't know, I was really young.
00:00:59.900 So my mentality was different.
00:01:01.520 I'm not saying, you know, there's so much about,
00:01:04.640 there's so much around it.
00:01:05.680 There is so much around it and I can't just sit here
00:01:07.960 and rant on about it forever.
00:01:09.320 But I do know that back then I would have been like, no.
00:01:13.580 But I think it's cause I experienced it when I was younger
00:01:16.200 and it put me in a very dark place.
00:01:18.140 And I was very like, guard up.
00:01:20.800 If you cheat on me, I swear, I'm never gonna deal with it.
00:01:23.920 What's stressful?
00:01:24.920 Yeah.
00:01:25.420 Like being on their phone all the time,
00:01:27.000 trying to figure out what they're doing.
00:01:28.520 No, no, no.
00:01:31.080 What do you mean?
00:01:32.020 Like, I just find that like, like, if you're worried about cheating all the time,
00:01:35.620 it's stressful.
00:01:37.320 Oh, I don't, I don't know about, no, I don't know.
00:01:39.840 I feel like going into a relationship without thinking about cheating
00:01:43.080 is a bit more of a healthier.
00:01:44.820 If you're there thinking about it, then you shouldn't be in a relationship.
00:01:47.060 You're not ready.
00:01:47.740 Yeah, I agree.
00:01:48.380 You need to heal.
00:01:48.900 Yeah.
00:01:49.680 The healing.
00:01:50.540 Yeah.
00:01:50.720 Yes.
00:01:51.120 Love healing.
00:01:51.540 What he said, the healing.
00:01:52.700 We all need to heal.
00:01:53.740 No, yeah, yeah.
00:01:55.060 What about you, cheating?
00:01:56.800 Yes, we can talk through it.
00:01:58.220 Okay.
00:01:59.280 Yeah, I've already said, yeah, from earlier,
00:02:01.600 I don't feel like that's a deal breaker within marriage.
00:02:05.040 I feel like it's something that you can work out as a couple.
00:02:07.280 Okay.
00:02:07.980 If it's sexual, then no.
00:02:10.040 I mean, like picture post and whatever.
00:02:11.660 But I feel like it's different for a woman to have sex, 1.00
00:02:14.240 cheat in a marriage than it is for a man to cheat in a marriage.
00:02:16.400 I know it's going to sound so bad, but it is very different.
00:02:19.720 Yeah.
00:02:21.320 Someone said, actually, I'll read this later.
00:02:23.840 Go ahead.
00:02:25.300 Oh, I was intrigued to know.
00:02:31.280 Yeah, I think it's something that you can work through.
00:02:34.360 Have you ever worked through it?
00:02:36.200 Yes, I have.
00:02:37.000 Okay.
00:02:37.680 Do you feel like, were you able to let it go or did you still bring it up?
00:02:45.560 I feel like if a guy's making you feel like inferior to that other woman
00:02:51.900 or makes you feel like no self-worth and stuff, then that's really wrong.
00:02:57.140 But then, like, if he does it in a way where he kind of just keeps that, like, to himself, like, oh, no.
00:03:05.160 I don't know, like, when he starts to wreck the home or say the woman becomes a home wrecker,
00:03:10.500 the woman that is, like, flirting with or whatever, and she starts phoning you and abusing you 0.78
00:03:16.300 and sort of, like, causing disruptions with the home, then I feel that that's, like, really, really wrong.
00:03:22.100 But then, on the other hand, I don't know.
00:03:25.860 I wouldn't say it's acceptable, but...
00:03:28.600 If it was a flinging napper, then you'd be like, right. 0.92
00:03:32.320 It's never going to see that person again.
00:03:34.960 I still wouldn't really be happy about it.
00:03:36.720 No, no, no happy.
00:03:38.540 Yeah.
00:03:39.080 I wouldn't be happy about it, but, however, I don't know.
00:03:46.400 I think there's levels, man.
00:03:47.760 There's definitely levels to it.
00:03:49.560 There's definitely levels.
00:03:50.460 Well, I've come to the understanding when it comes to cheating, when the male is cheating anyway,
00:03:58.920 is that there's a reason why the male has cheated,
00:04:02.620 and it's most likely because the female is lacking something within that relation. 1.00
00:04:08.780 So it can be worked upon if they have that conversation or communicate that,
00:04:14.960 and she kind of fixes what she's lacking.
00:04:17.580 If she can't fix what she's lacking, then... 0.94
00:04:20.500 He's going to continue.
00:04:22.280 You know, he's going to continue to cheat,
00:04:24.240 and then, obviously, that female is going to feel hurt, or what a case may be. 1.00
00:04:27.360 So would I work on it?
00:04:32.340 If I was lacking something, I would.
00:04:34.720 If I wasn't lacking anything, and he was cheating for the sake of cheating,
00:04:39.600 then, no, I would not work on it.
00:04:41.400 You think you're ever lacking nothing?
00:04:46.040 That's very personal.
00:04:47.580 I know I'm going to get drawn up for this, but I consider myself as a high-quality woman.
00:04:54.760 So compared to a lot of females out there, I would see myself as high-quality currently today. 0.64
00:05:03.640 Right, but I said lacking nothing.
00:05:05.880 The things that I lack wouldn't be so much of a big deal to a male.
00:05:17.300 Okay, what do you lack?
00:05:18.680 I'm annoying.
00:05:20.160 I'll ask you that question.
00:05:22.180 That's annoying.
00:05:23.900 That's literally the first thing that would make the man go and cheat, that you're annoying.
00:05:29.080 You think so?
00:05:30.740 100%.
00:05:31.140 What?
00:05:32.380 When he can get someone that's just going to say,
00:05:34.420 oh, yeah, you're the best man in the world, and then he comes home to you, and you're just being annoying.
00:05:40.180 Okay, well, your siblings can be annoying, but you're not going to hate them for it,
00:05:43.200 or you're not going to now say they're not your siblings.
00:05:44.380 Yeah, he doesn't hate you because he cheated.
00:05:45.860 He just wanted to put his dick somewhere else.
00:05:48.620 Because you annoy him.
00:05:49.640 You wouldn't cheat because someone annoys you.
00:05:51.680 So why don't you listen?
00:05:52.860 He's a man.
00:05:54.080 Like, why are you telling him why?
00:05:56.480 That is annoying.
00:05:59.280 You know what, it's just funny.
00:06:00.320 It's like we don't listen to what the men say.
00:06:02.120 Oh, I'm not even dating.
00:06:03.020 Imagine if we're dating, bruv.
00:06:06.140 My annoying, I don't mean annoying in the times where you would hate me.
00:06:09.640 Obviously, you wouldn't even be with me in the first place.
00:06:11.840 But I'm annoying in the sense where, you know, like how your siblings would be annoying,
00:06:15.920 but you still love them at the same time.
00:06:17.980 Yeah, but we know that men don't cheat. 1.00
00:06:20.240 Everyone's annoying to a certain degree.
00:06:21.760 There's some aspects of all of us that will, you know, that's annoying to other people.
00:06:25.540 But my whole point was, you don't think there's any areas you could improve it.
00:06:30.380 And you said, well, I'm annoying, but that wouldn't make him cheat.
00:06:33.380 She did say she was going to get drawn out right now.
00:06:36.060 Oh, yeah, that's another draw.
00:06:37.040 I mean, you can say it, but I...
00:06:39.480 Okay, I would say, oh, please save me the draw.
00:06:43.240 Do you know what?
00:06:44.240 Like, some men can have their cake, their cherry, and their icing and still cheat.
00:06:48.320 Like, you can be the perfect wife. 0.90
00:06:49.880 You do everything, yeah?
00:06:52.160 And they're still just, they're just them guys that just like going out.
00:06:55.540 Like, what does a guy call lacking in a woman?
00:06:58.340 It's like, what was, supposing she's not...
00:07:02.240 Overweight, high body count.
00:07:03.840 Yeah, but supposing she's doing none of all those things then,
00:07:06.400 and she's doing like, what a wife's supposed to do. 1.00
00:07:08.620 That's where they lack communication.
00:07:10.380 What if she's doing everything that a wife's supposed to do? 1.00
00:07:12.540 But that's what I'm saying.
00:07:13.360 Well, actually, actually, I'll tell you what she's probably lacking in femininity, 1.00
00:07:19.900 because part of femininity is humility. 0.92
00:07:22.740 Well, you just said that men will cheat regardless.
00:07:24.740 You said it's in our nature to...
00:07:26.200 No, I would say men, I said men, no, no, no, I said men want to cheat regardless.
00:07:30.420 But only the top 15% of men...
00:07:32.020 And you even said that women should just accept it.
00:07:33.840 Only, I said, no, I said, no, no, no, no.
00:07:36.820 I said go into the marriage assuming it may happen and try to work through it.
00:07:41.620 But a very small percentage of men can cheat.
00:07:44.360 Yes, but...
00:07:44.880 So we go back to women pick men that cheat. 0.94
00:07:47.760 Yeah, but it's in our biological system to want to reproduce it. 0.95
00:07:51.140 Therefore, there's more chances for men to cheat.
00:07:53.000 Without it being any fault on the woman, it's still...
00:07:56.040 There's no more chances for men to want to cheat.
00:07:57.700 No, no, I'm just saying that.
00:07:58.520 What you're saying is just how that comes with the male makeup.
00:08:01.060 That's how we are.
00:08:01.740 No, I...
00:08:02.340 But think about it like this.
00:08:03.340 The average man can't get women easily. 0.99
00:08:05.900 So for a man to actively go out and look for a woman to cheat with
00:08:10.680 when he can't really even attract women
00:08:12.620 means that there is actually something wrong.
00:08:14.960 Why don't you go sex workers? 1.00
00:08:16.060 They can pay and go sleep with women. 1.00
00:08:17.900 Is that not cheating?
00:08:19.720 No, just answer me.
00:08:20.600 Is that not cheating?
00:08:21.180 Either way, my point is for a man to actively go out.
00:08:25.040 Look.
00:08:25.400 The man that doesn't normally get women, 0.98
00:08:27.140 for him to actually leave his woman who is meant to be, obviously...
00:08:31.480 But it's in our makeup, like you're saying, bro.
00:08:33.060 You said it's in our makeup to step out.
00:08:35.080 Most men can't... 0.98
00:08:36.000 Most men don't even get sex.
00:08:37.840 That's the reality.
00:08:38.300 That's on those...
00:08:39.060 How are they stepping out?
00:08:40.100 Some can't get in.
00:08:41.720 Okay.
00:08:42.120 Well, you know what?
00:08:43.240 Not to say you're right or wrong,
00:08:45.000 but I read this book by a guy who was a pimp in New Orleans,
00:08:48.720 and he describes how he became a pimp.
00:08:51.500 There's no way any woman could change him 1.00
00:08:52.700 because that's how he just saw his environment,
00:08:54.800 how his mom was.
00:08:55.520 Right.
00:08:56.000 So if that's his makeup,
00:08:57.380 it doesn't matter what kind of woman he's going to be with.
00:08:59.040 But the whole point is most men don't even get the opportunity to do that.
00:09:02.420 Like, it's only 15, 20% of men that can really cheat like that.
00:09:05.860 One out of three men are either virgins
00:09:07.420 or haven't had sex in the past year.
00:09:09.620 Okay.
00:09:09.880 I actually disagree with that strongly.
00:09:12.260 You disagree with what?
00:09:13.360 Strongly.
00:09:14.000 What part?
00:09:15.400 I would add to that and say...
00:09:17.360 That men are not virgins?
00:09:18.920 That men can't get... 0.99
00:09:21.180 Women. 0.81
00:09:21.840 A woman if he desires to want to have sex. 0.97
00:09:25.060 I disagree with that.
00:09:26.500 Any man can actually have sex with a woman.
00:09:29.820 He will find sex. 0.88
00:09:31.160 It's just a type of quality a woman he's not going to get. 0.99
00:09:34.140 That's the difference.
00:09:34.560 It's a quality.
00:09:35.780 It's a quality.
00:09:36.500 I agree.
00:09:37.340 It's a quality.
00:09:38.480 That's not true.
00:09:39.440 I'm telling you.
00:09:40.480 If you...
00:09:41.120 I went to, like, a pickup artist conference once.
00:09:45.140 And this is where, like, men pay thousands of dollars
00:09:47.780 to know how to get laid, to learn how to get laid.
00:09:50.220 That's not men.
00:09:51.000 I don't believe that's not true.
00:09:52.900 That's a bit different.
00:09:53.580 No, but that's the whole point.
00:09:55.040 There's one out of three men that are very, very lonely.
00:09:58.700 That I don't...
00:09:59.320 That are very unattractive.
00:10:01.620 That, like, most women, I think, would be very hard 1.00
00:10:04.160 to get a woman to sleep with. 0.99
00:10:05.760 I don't think it's as...
00:10:06.940 I've seen a real-life experience.
00:10:08.760 Okay, what's your real-life experience?
00:10:10.960 So, when I was very young, I was working at Domino's.
00:10:14.940 And as a delivery driver.
00:10:16.720 So, I went to go and do a delivery.
00:10:18.660 And I saw two people having sex in front of my car on the bonnet.
00:10:21.840 What?
00:10:22.020 But those two people were obviously homeless.
00:10:27.860 And the woman was doing it to get some money. 1.00
00:10:31.520 And the man was just penetrating her in front of my car.
00:10:33.940 So, a guy can have sex if he wants to have sex.
00:10:36.380 Oh, you're talking about hookers. 1.00
00:10:39.020 No, she was a homeless woman on the road. 0.70
00:10:42.080 Right, but it was for money.
00:10:43.640 Yeah.
00:10:44.140 So, it's a hooker. 0.94
00:10:45.140 It's a prostitute, yeah. 1.00