Pearl Exposes Women's Malicious Nature
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about abuse in relationships and how to deal with it. We talk about our own experiences of abuse and how we dealt with it and what we would do if we were in a similar situation. We also talk about some of the things that have happened to us that we have dealt with in our relationships.
Transcript
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I've seen this guy for a long while and he's supposed to take me to shop and he didn't turn up so I went to his house.
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But we used to hang out with all of his friends.
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And I asked where he was and she knew me because she's always upstairs.
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And he just sort of like, and she climbed into bed and he was just.
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And I was like, and you can see him trying to, I thought, you're already in bed with her.
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Yeah, I could see him trying to diss him and stuff.
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And she went downstairs and he said, I said, what do you want me to say?
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I ended up being her friend because I would hang out with all the guys and all the guys
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I said, I watched dinner and I thought, this is what you're having for dinner.
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Yeah, but I was nice about it and I didn't disrespect her, you know.
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And then one day I turned up and his whole car was covered in white paint.
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I know some people have like ripped windscreen wipers off.
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Do you think if we flipped the genders that it would be the same reaction?
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Like if I said, oh, I cheated on a guy and he put paint all over my car and keyed it,
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I think they expect the whole car to disappear.
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It's just interesting because I feel like if it was the opposite, like if I said, oh,
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he keyed my car and did this after I cheated, like it wouldn't result in people laughing.
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No, I think people would say that he's dangerous.
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I'll be like, I'm glad it was the car and not me.
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But I just think the way people are nowadays, men are the villains in every scenario.
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And anything that happens to a woman, if you flip it on its head and it happening to a man,
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But I feel like society, I just think conversations make it seem like that is the consensus.
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Well, it's even like when we talk about cheating, like if the guy does it, it's always we demonize
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But if the girl does it, the first question is always why?
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No, I would, I would say, I would always ask why did the guy cheat?
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I always, I don't think that's a fair enough comment.
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Do you think that's common when you see it on, when you see it on say TikTok, when they
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tell cheating stories, it's always the, if you look at any cheating story on TikTok, if
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it's a girl telling it the story of how she cheated, like they'll always say, oh, well,
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What, what, what, yeah, but for the men, it's like, you know, if I say he cheated because
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he hasn't slept, his wife hasn't slept with him in three years, they still make him out
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It's like, you know, one out of four marriages is sexless, usually on the man's part or like on the
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I honestly, I just feel like when we have conversations about sex in marriage, like women have to be honest.
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There are points in your marriage where you have to make an effort, where you have to look
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Like he needs me in this capacity and I may not feel like it for the foreseeable.
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So let me avail myself in the same way you would want like your husband or your partner
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to avail himself in whatever other scenario or even the same.
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I just feel like it is not that uncommon for a woman to not want to have sex because when you become,
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when you are a woman of a house, you've got a lot going on, especially if you work as well.
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There's a lot happening and you have babies and stuff like that.
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I just feel like sometimes, yes, like the wife is required to make an effort.
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She's not always going to feel like it, but some women choose not to make an effort.
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Some women are like, I will wait until I feel like it.
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So if you didn't feel like it, you still do it.
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But yes, like I will, because he needs me in that.
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Like I just feel like for men, it's not always I'm horny.
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They're like, they want to be close to you and they don't want to sit down and have a gossip
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They don't want to listen to your like stories that you say is going to be two minutes,
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Like just sometimes you have to avail yourself.
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You know, you watch one of my, sure you watch me on one of Pearl's podcast before Pearl.
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You remember the one where I said about the women?
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I was like, if she don't feel like it, you know, just like read the book, bend over and
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just like, you know, watch TV, be on the phone.
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Not always, because the fact of the matter is, is if you are with someone,
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So if you don't feel like it, there's going to be times where they're like, that's fine.
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But then sometimes like you may not feel like it for like two months.
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So if you're having a baby, not talking about you, but just like, you know, if you was having
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a baby, you didn't feel like it, is there other ways that you can please your man?
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No, because I said this before and I said that, you know, basically a woman shouldn't refuse
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But for women, they want to make love for a man.
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What happens if you're really angry at him about something he's done and he wants it right
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We might as well have sex with a woman when she's angry.
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That could be better than counseling, you know?
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I can't ever see me being so angry that I don't want to have sex with a man.