JustPearlyThings - August 21, 2023


Pearl Hits Modern Women With This Reality Check


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Length

8 minutes

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1,803

Sentence count

164

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Misogyny

15

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Toxicity

19

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Hate speech

9

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In this episode, we talk about what it's like to be a millennial in the 21st century and how to deal with the pressures of being a millennial. We talk about our views on what it means to be an adult in today's society and how we should deal with it.

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00:00:00.000 So then how are you going to call me rude and then you're rude as well?
00:00:03.560 How are you going to call out rude when you just were talking about someone's husband,
00:00:06.820 when the husband is literally sitting right there?
00:00:08.400 I didn't say that.
00:00:09.540 It was someone else.
00:00:11.780 I have a question.
00:00:12.880 Two weeks.
00:00:13.980 Would you?
00:00:14.460 Well, like, we've been talking, obviously, for a while.
00:00:16.760 But, like, before everything is, like, obviously official.
00:00:19.220 Okay, yeah, go ahead.
00:00:19.920 But how long are you actually, you think you're both going to get engaged?
00:00:24.300 No, like, not, like, tomorrow, obviously.
00:00:26.380 Like, we're going to date for a while.
00:00:28.120 But, like, it's my dream to get married young.
00:00:30.480 That's what I want. 0.97
00:00:31.300 Like, I don't want to wait until I'm 30 to have kids and do shit like that. 0.95
00:00:34.800 Like, I'd rather do that now at a young age and just get out of the way. 0.96
00:00:38.800 I feel like I have more energy now to deal with children.
00:00:40.900 I'm a nanny as well.
00:00:41.740 Like, I take care of people's kids for a living.
00:00:44.420 And, you know, to be a nanny, you really genuinely have to love children to do it.
00:00:48.140 I was also a dance teacher, so I've always worked with kids.
00:00:50.660 And it's just, like, I feel like that's what my calling is.
00:00:53.620 I feel like that's what women are meant to do. 1.00
00:00:55.460 And, yeah, people may be like, oh, you're fucking crazy because you're young and da, da, da, da. 1.00
00:01:00.060 I really don't care. 0.99
00:01:01.600 Sorry, how old are you again?
00:01:02.680 I just turned 23, like, three months ago.
00:01:04.220 My mom had me at 23.
00:01:05.720 Yeah, that's a good point.
00:01:06.440 Yeah, so my mom had me at 23 as well.
00:01:08.320 But it was out of wedlock.
00:01:09.560 And this is what I was trying to say before.
00:01:11.240 Like, my parents have been separated on and off my whole entire life.
00:01:14.900 Got divorced when I was 12.
00:01:16.480 So, like, honestly, people think it's crazy that I'm very, like, you know, red pill and conservative and stuff like that because of how my upbringing was as well.
00:01:24.380 But, like, honestly, it's an example of, like, what I don't want to do what my parents did.
00:01:29.000 So.
00:01:29.840 Well, and it's unfortunate because I just think that we don't really have places to learn from because, honestly, the generation before us really was not taught to submit to their husbands.
00:01:39.800 And I think it caused, I mean, I don't know what their problems were, but I think the mindset of equality really caused a lot of issues because you can't have two kings of a household.
00:01:50.120 Someone's got to lead.
00:01:51.020 It doesn't work.
00:01:51.360 It doesn't work.
00:01:52.640 It never will.
00:01:53.340 Isn't it about balance, though?
00:01:55.020 Because it just seems so extreme.
00:01:56.840 No.
00:01:57.420 We're talking about such extreme views on two different ways.
00:02:00.120 This is just my view, right?
00:02:01.600 So I just see what worked.
00:02:04.400 And 100 years ago when women believed in submitting and serving their husbands, that worked. 0.99
00:02:09.020 And the more we try this equality, being equal, like, I just see women trying to control men. 1.00
00:02:14.240 That's what I keep seeing.
00:02:15.340 And I think it doesn't work.
00:02:16.940 And I think it's evil.
00:02:17.980 And a lot of men live their lives with nagging wives and just are bending to her will for a lifetime.
00:02:24.480 And, you know, I just think it's sad.
00:02:26.660 I don't think I'd want to live my life like that.
00:02:28.900 Happy wife, happy life.
00:02:29.800 So if you submit to a man, is it okay for them to then control you?
00:02:34.860 Yeah.
00:02:35.560 It is.
00:02:36.400 Yes.
00:02:36.960 That's the point.
00:02:38.460 I think everyone's controlling, though, in such a bad way.
00:02:40.920 Like, it's really not.
00:02:41.760 Because, like, look at her.
00:02:42.620 Do you look at her? 1.00
00:02:43.700 You think she's in a toxic-ass marriage, miserable, crying herself to sleep every night? 1.00
00:02:48.100 No. 0.99
00:02:48.420 Because when you do submit to your man and your man is leading and protecting and providing, everything naturally falls into place.
00:02:56.240 But I think that sounds healthy compared to control.
00:02:58.240 I don't think control sounds healthy.
00:02:59.800 It's like she said, like, control doesn't have to be negative.
00:03:02.800 It's just, like, there's order.
00:03:04.620 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:05.200 Does your, okay, does your boss control you?
00:03:10.160 If he gives you an order, you listen, right?
00:03:12.960 Not always.
00:03:14.320 Okay, well, you're an OnlyFans.
00:03:15.640 That doesn't count.
00:03:16.680 Well, when I do have a job, because I actually have had very normal period of time.
00:03:19.540 No, I'm not asking you.
00:03:20.960 I'm asking her.
00:03:22.000 When you, you know, your boss gives you an order, you listen, right?
00:03:25.480 Yeah.
00:03:26.280 So, it's interesting because we'll listen to people that give us money, but we won't listen to the father of our kids.
00:03:33.160 Isn't that kind of backwards?
00:03:34.420 Who loves you and who you love.
00:03:35.580 No, I kind of get what you, I do get what you're saying.
00:03:38.320 I just, I just, I think maybe it's just a choice of words of how you say it.
00:03:41.280 Surely you should still listen to the mother of his kids, though.
00:03:44.040 No, I don't think, I think as women, again, we've proven this whole show that women really aren't the smartest, and we don't make great decisions. 1.00
00:03:53.740 And I look, I just look at the last hundred years, okay?
00:03:57.420 And I look at what's worked and what hasn't worked.
00:03:59.660 And the truth of the matter is when women get more power and control, we're not very nice with it. 1.00
00:04:04.120 We tend to break up our families.
00:04:05.440 We tend to spend too much money.
00:04:07.540 We get into a bunch of debt.
00:04:09.260 We're super emotional.
00:04:09.900 Yeah, we get, we are promiscuous.
00:04:12.080 My mom has taught me that my whole life.
00:04:13.380 Feelings are not facts.
00:04:14.620 And, and I think.
00:04:15.520 And that's what we live off of.
00:04:16.200 Yeah, and I think they've lied to us because they've told us we can be men and we can't.
00:04:20.280 My mom wears the trousers in the relationship. 1.00
00:04:23.040 I, I, I guess that actually.
00:04:24.860 I guess that, yeah.
00:04:26.400 That's, that's, that's, that's, that's.
00:04:28.040 Oh, they're, they're in a very deep relationship.
00:04:30.780 Leave them out of it.
00:04:31.840 No, no, but that's, that's the.
00:04:33.300 The point is you said, which I'm not even trying to be funny.
00:04:36.480 You literally said your mom encouraged you to do OnlyFans.
00:04:39.400 Yeah.
00:04:39.900 And if your father wore the pants in the family, that would never fly.
00:04:43.480 Oh, dad doesn't mind either.
00:04:45.040 I am interested.
00:04:46.540 That's his point.
00:04:47.200 Because your mom wears the pants. 1.00
00:04:49.040 That's the point.
00:04:49.620 Some parents love their kids unconditionally, you know.
00:04:51.720 Yeah.
00:04:52.300 No, no.
00:04:53.080 If they did, they wouldn't encourage them.
00:04:54.080 I am interested.
00:04:54.720 I got your points of view.
00:04:56.020 So I see, I see.
00:04:58.720 So I, you know, it's funny.
00:05:00.240 I knew that about her because I've done so many of these interviews.
00:05:03.040 She didn't even have to say it because whenever you see a household that's super out of order,
00:05:07.040 typically the woman is imposing her will on the man. 1.00
00:05:09.480 Because women typically, because women, I mean, you can't be in order if she's doing OnlyFans, 1.00
00:05:14.800 right?
00:05:15.560 Can you mute their mics?
00:05:16.640 Because they just keep interrupting.
00:05:18.780 So, so typically I just think the natural order of the world is God, men, women, children.
00:05:24.380 And it sounds extreme when you first hear it.
00:05:26.960 But right now we have a society where men and women have been told we're equal, right?
00:05:31.020 And we have an equal say.
00:05:32.020 You just have to find a balance, et cetera, whatever.
00:05:34.500 And the issue with that is ever since we've gotten power, what's happened?
00:05:38.220 We've left our husbands.
00:05:39.260 We've gotten into all this debt. 0.99
00:05:40.580 We've gone on OnlyFans, all this shit, right? 0.97
00:05:42.940 So that tells me women, we don't make wise decisions on our own. 0.99
00:05:45.980 But we've been told that we do and we really don't.
00:05:48.340 We've been told that we're smarter and we're really not.
00:05:50.820 And I think that leaves us to live in delusion when I think you're supposed to trust the guy you have kids with
00:05:56.080 to follow his judgment.
00:05:57.520 If you were at work and every time your boss wanted to make a decision, you argued.
00:06:00.880 That would never work, right?
00:06:03.040 So we'll give the best of us to our boss, but we won't give it to the person we're having a family with.
00:06:07.300 It's backwards.
00:06:10.860 But then, okay.
00:06:12.000 No, I don't disagree with what you're saying.
00:06:15.100 I think it's interesting.
00:06:16.120 If you were the right man, yeah.
00:06:17.580 I was going to say that.
00:06:18.360 First of all, find the right man.
00:06:20.280 Right.
00:06:20.740 For starters, yeah.
00:06:21.700 Who's going to do this amazing leading.
00:06:23.780 For the family, yeah.
00:06:27.500 That's very difficult in the modern age, right from the beginning, what you said about finding that man.
00:06:32.540 Well, I'll tell you the problem, though. 0.98
00:06:34.540 So women, we find 80% of men is ugly. 0.99
00:06:36.920 Not okay, not unattractive, but ugly. 0.99
00:06:39.220 That's why I know we're all sleeping with the same guys. 0.99
00:06:41.400 Because women find them all ugly. 1.00
00:06:43.020 The difference was before you didn't have access to the hottest guys.
00:06:46.620 You didn't have access to the celebrities.
00:06:48.240 You didn't have access to, it doesn't even have to be celebrities, but just the hot guys on social media, dating apps, Instagram, right?
00:06:54.080 So, you know, all the hottest guys would go get married and then, you know, the okay looking guy would kind of make you laugh and you fall in love and like the guy down the street.
00:07:03.180 That's kind of how it would happen, right?
00:07:04.380 Because we can build our attraction in other ways.
00:07:06.780 But the issue is women mate select for looks typically in their 20s. 1.00
00:07:10.760 And then in their 30s, it switches more to long-term and like resources typically.
00:07:15.860 And so the issue we get is like, you know, we get to 30, we've slept around with all these people, and then we're less valuable to the guy that was really on our level 10 years ago.
00:07:24.420 But we just have an inflated sense of ego because, you know, it's like the men being addicted to porn.
00:07:29.200 We are addicted to social media.
00:07:30.840 It changes our whole worldview.
00:07:32.600 And nobody can convince me otherwise because I just hear girls coming in with the same arguments that are just regurgitated on social media. 1.00
00:07:40.540 And again, I think that's what happens when the media is female-led. 1.00
00:07:44.200 Evil happens, right?
00:07:45.100 When marriages are female-led, evil happens. 1.00
00:07:47.840 And I just see the same trend that whenever stuff is catered to the woman and even family dynamics, it's like we hear 20 years later that the dad actually wasn't a bad guy. 0.99
00:07:57.840 The mom was just shit-talking him for 20 years or the mom's encouraging her to do OnlyFans. 0.98
00:08:02.820 Like I just see women, we just are not logical. 1.00
00:08:05.500 We're emotions-based.
00:08:07.480 And I just don't think it works.