JustPearlyThings - November 06, 2023


Pearl KICKED OUT A Man from Her Show for The First Time.


Episode Stats

Length

32 minutes

Words per Minute

212.37514

Word Count

6,860

Sentence Count

572

Misogynist Sentences

58

Hate Speech Sentences

44


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the reasons why women don t want to have kids, the benefits of having kids, and whether or not the government should be making it easier for people to have children. We also discuss the concept of ownership and the role of fathers in society.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 you're ready to have kids with me,
00:00:01.260 you must be ready to marry me also, do you get it?
00:00:03.160 Because I'm not about to raise no child by myself.
00:00:05.240 It's not happening.
00:00:06.240 I don't care how stable I am.
00:00:08.120 I don't care what point in life I'm at.
00:00:09.960 So it's bigger than just having a baby.
00:00:11.680 And I feel like a lot for a lot of women as well,
00:00:13.940 like a lot of the reason why women don't want to have kids,
00:00:16.900 it stems from trauma.
00:00:18.080 You watch your mother grow up as a single mother,
00:00:20.360 like you haven't had any good representations
00:00:23.100 of good marriages around you.
00:00:24.320 Like it's bigger than just having a baby.
00:00:26.820 So I feel like, yeah.
00:00:28.960 My mom says, to quote my mother,
00:00:31.600 cause she's just so wise.
00:00:32.780 Oh my God, what a woman.
00:00:34.000 She goes, as long as you're a woman, you're a mother.
00:00:35.960 That's what she always tells me.
00:00:37.600 That's such a Caribbean thing, you know.
00:00:39.260 But they're right.
00:00:40.540 She says, as long as you're a woman, you're a mother.
00:00:43.180 So at the end of the day, like.
00:00:44.480 Yeah, but a good mother or a bad mother?
00:00:46.980 What do you mean?
00:00:47.820 Because bad mothers, bad mothers create bad children.
00:00:50.980 And it's evolution.
00:00:51.980 Yeah, 100%, we get all of that.
00:00:53.400 But what she's just trying to say was just a simple.
00:00:55.280 Yeah, you're the strong.
00:00:56.440 No, it's not, it's not.
00:00:57.740 Let us speak, let us speak, let us know.
00:00:59.380 She's trying to say just one simple term.
00:01:01.000 From when you're a woman, you're a mother.
00:01:03.880 Meaning that we just have a natural disposition to love.
00:01:07.580 This is going to be your final warning.
00:01:09.280 Please stop interrupting everybody.
00:01:11.060 Go ahead, go.
00:01:11.780 It's just a natural inclination to just love and to take care.
00:01:15.260 Like when we saw the dog running around,
00:01:16.700 what did all the girls do?
00:01:18.400 Oh, we're ready to take the dog.
00:01:20.060 Of course, because they have that potato thing.
00:01:23.320 But we're just more extra with it, you know what I mean?
00:01:26.200 Yeah, nurturing.
00:01:26.700 Can I just say one thing to your plate though?
00:01:28.200 We're just nurturing.
00:01:29.200 I think it's been difficult to say this because I think, obviously,
00:01:32.700 you guys make all great points here in the room and it's good to have different opinions.
00:01:36.200 But from speaking to a lot of women, I'd like to say I've been fairly successful as a man,
00:01:43.640 maybe not in terms of relationships, but in terms of friendships and just building trust
00:01:47.640 with a lot of people.
00:01:48.680 And the conversations I have living in London, you know, some metropolitan city,
00:01:52.520 a lot of people have careers and I feel like they're so pressured these days.
00:01:56.840 And I feel like, you know, society is making it so difficult for people to actually want to,
00:02:02.680 you know, have kids.
00:02:03.800 It is very difficult, you know, growing up, watching our mothers struggle.
00:02:07.480 You know, that's a major one.
00:02:09.160 You're talking about trauma, right?
00:02:10.600 So I think when we're talking about owing something, I think we do owe, you know, every,
00:02:15.160 you know, we owe something to someone or to the community, to society.
00:02:19.960 But I think the government should make it a little bit easier for people.
00:02:23.400 I think it's very expensive and it is scary.
00:02:25.880 Like, you know, a lot of people that want to have kids, I think they probably think they can't afford to have kids.
00:02:29.800 Okay, that's no, the government should not make it easier for people.
00:02:32.440 That is not the government's responsibility.
00:02:34.280 And I want to talk about...
00:02:35.160 We're already very spoiled in this country already.
00:02:37.080 I want to talk...
00:02:38.120 There's a lot of people struggling.
00:02:38.760 No, no, this is what...
00:02:39.640 I agree with what you said, but I want to get a little granular.
00:02:42.520 And I want to ask you in a second, but if I may, because we talk about the concept of ownership.
00:02:47.080 Like, do I owe it to the world to be a mother?
00:02:49.000 And you said, well, maybe the government should make it easier.
00:02:50.920 And that completely voiced that over to the responsibility that men have.
00:02:54.920 So I asked the guys the question here, just the guys.
00:02:58.040 Do you owe it to the world to be productive?
00:03:02.600 Do you owe it to the world to have the best version of yourself?
00:03:06.760 Do you owe it to the world to build institutions?
00:03:09.240 Do you owe it to the world to conduct yourself with integrity and character?
00:03:12.600 And do you owe it to the world to be a trustworthy, respectable man?
00:03:15.560 Yes or no?
00:03:16.120 So I'm going to twist this question a bit in line of what's been said here.
00:03:20.200 No, no, no.
00:03:20.680 That was stuff one of stuff like two.
00:03:22.520 But I just want to say, you know, I think a lot of guys, they try to be pronatalists, right?
00:03:26.280 And they're like, I'm just going to go out there and have a lot of kids, right?
00:03:28.840 But pronatalism is about culture.
00:03:30.760 If I just go out there and I have a lot of kids and I don't treat my wife like a queen,
00:03:33.960 if my daughters don't grow up wanting to be moms because of the way they see their mom live,
00:03:39.400 then I have failed.
00:03:40.920 And if I treat my wife like and my sons see that, then they're going to treat their wives that way and their daughters, yes.
00:03:48.680 And this is what pronatalism is about.
00:03:50.360 It's about rethinking as a society what it means to be married to somebody,
00:03:54.280 what it means to sacrifice for somebody because that's what I owe all of this to is her
00:03:59.240 because she's given up so much for me.
00:04:00.520 I like this guy.
00:04:01.320 It's hard.
00:04:01.800 Come on.
00:04:03.240 I owe it to my wife, but I haven't met her yet.
00:04:08.440 You know what I mean?
00:04:09.480 You owe it to your mom too, though.
00:04:11.000 Yeah, but my mom's-
00:04:11.560 Not just your wife.
00:04:12.200 You don't even have a wife right now.
00:04:13.160 Some of us got some generational curses to break.
00:04:15.800 Listen, and let me tell you where I'm coming from before I get kicked off the show.
00:04:20.280 Yeah, I'm not talking for humanity.
00:04:22.600 I'm talking for myself.
00:04:23.960 You said my mom.
00:04:24.920 My mom's in the sky.
00:04:26.040 She's been dead for like seven years.
00:04:28.440 So be careful what you say and how you say it,
00:04:30.840 because each individual person are going through their own pains
00:04:35.960 and their own mental brain processes are different.
00:04:39.480 Everyone's not the same.
00:04:41.160 And that's all I want everyone to understand.
00:04:43.720 We're not the same.
00:04:45.400 Everyone's trying to put us on the same playing field,
00:04:48.040 but we're not the same.
00:04:49.160 That's like water is wet.
00:04:50.200 The sky is blue.
00:04:51.000 Yeah, I'm not.
00:04:52.040 You're talking in parables.
00:04:53.720 I don't care about parables.
00:04:55.080 A parable?
00:04:55.560 A parable is water's wet.
00:04:57.480 Like, I don't really understand that.
00:04:59.720 The sky is blue, but the sky is a reflection of the sea.
00:05:04.200 Like, can we go back to the point where like,
00:05:05.800 if we got help, we would actually reproduce.
00:05:07.480 Because for example, you always see footballers at like 25 with bare kids.
00:05:12.280 And it's because they can afford it.
00:05:13.880 They can actually give that child a really good life that they may never have had.
00:05:17.480 If I had money, I would be on the hunt for a guy and I would be able to focus.
00:05:21.160 I don't think it's money.
00:05:23.000 I think it's that women throw themselves at these guys.
00:05:25.480 I don't know, it's so nice and easy saying, let's reproduce.
00:05:30.600 But people can't afford to have it.
00:05:32.840 Okay.
00:05:33.320 I actually, I want to let, um.
00:05:34.840 Pearl, this was exactly the second point.
00:05:37.240 I was starting a point.
00:05:38.040 Okay, go ahead.
00:05:38.520 And then this dude brilliantly hijacked my point,
00:05:40.440 twisted it into a new point, presented a third point,
00:05:43.560 and got an applause for it.
00:05:44.840 So thanks for stealing my thunder.
00:05:46.120 I killed him.
00:05:46.760 I killed him.
00:05:47.560 That was very rude.
00:05:48.600 He's a good dude.
00:05:50.200 So the question I postulate is do we men owe it to society
00:05:54.840 to be the best versions of ourselves to produce useful labor,
00:05:57.320 to build institutions, right?
00:05:58.840 And if the answer is yes,
00:05:59.960 because it gives us a purpose to aim for something higher,
00:06:02.680 why is it then that men owe it to society to build institutions?
00:06:06.040 Because building institutions, being reliable, being of high character,
00:06:09.880 being of value, of economic value to society,
00:06:12.760 what you do is you make money.
00:06:14.440 And by the way, the stripes on my suit say make money for that purpose,
00:06:17.960 because it, because it teaches you, it's not,
00:06:20.360 it's not supposed to be as reductive as it seems.
00:06:22.440 It's very simple.
00:06:23.240 It just teaches you to be self-reliant and independent
00:06:25.480 because it's a high purpose to shoot for,
00:06:27.400 to not have to rely on the government.
00:06:29.080 That's all that says.
00:06:29.800 It's like a freedom from government.
00:06:30.920 It's not about relying on the government.
00:06:32.120 I said, some people don't have the same opportunities as you.
00:06:35.320 Maybe you grew up in a very nice,
00:06:36.920 I don't know, I don't know.
00:06:38.040 Listen, I'm saying maybe, right?
00:06:39.320 I'm very, listen.
00:06:40.120 Okay, cool.
00:06:40.360 Maybe you didn't.
00:06:40.920 Bruv, stop.
00:06:42.040 I'm not done yet.
00:06:42.680 No, let him finish his point.
00:06:43.720 Yeah, but I'm just saying.
00:06:44.600 Let me finish my point before you argue my point.
00:06:45.960 You don't know my point.
00:06:46.920 Let him go.
00:06:47.960 You don't know my point.
00:06:48.600 Finish your point, bruv.
00:06:49.480 I grew up in a predominantly social housing,
00:06:52.040 ghetto neighborhood because I'm an immigrant from the Soviet Union,
00:06:54.680 and I ate at the food bank, and it was embarrassing.
00:06:57.240 So what does that mean?
00:06:58.040 What does that mean?
00:06:58.680 It means, it means that I'm-
00:07:00.040 I ain't at the food bank.
00:07:00.760 To me, what does that mean?
00:07:01.640 I'm not-
00:07:02.360 What does that mean nothing to you, bruv?
00:07:03.640 Don't knock your shit.
00:07:04.680 Guy that's dressed like a grasshopper.
00:07:07.160 Stop interrupting, bruv.
00:07:08.600 What are you talking to me?
00:07:10.600 Yes, I'm talking exactly to you.
00:07:12.600 So, hey what we do.
00:07:13.960 Hey what we do.
00:07:14.840 Okay, hey what we do.
00:07:15.960 Listen, listen, listen.
00:07:16.840 Let me land.
00:07:17.400 Let me land.
00:07:18.200 Let me land.
00:07:18.680 Can you mute his mic?
00:07:19.480 Let me land.
00:07:20.040 I've given you so many warnings.
00:07:21.560 Please, guys.
00:07:22.280 Get rid of him.
00:07:23.160 Big up your comments, though.
00:07:25.160 Big up your comment.
00:07:26.040 I love that.
00:07:27.480 Can you see the buttons you're trying to press?
00:07:29.000 Can you mute his mic, please?
00:07:30.920 Thank you.
00:07:31.640 Mute my mic.
00:07:32.440 Yeah, no, you have to go.
00:07:33.400 I've told you to stop.
00:07:34.760 Um...
00:07:36.360 Hey, yo.
00:07:38.360 Okay, Dimitri, go ahead.
00:07:40.520 Anyway, so the aspiration for a man, there has to be a higher purpose, right?
00:07:44.360 I'm not saying that we're all, you know, the same and we have the same opportunity.
00:07:47.000 It's not that.
00:07:47.880 The idea is not that we have the same potential.
00:07:50.600 We all have different potentials.
00:07:51.640 You're probably a better musician than I am.
00:07:53.000 I'm not very creative, right?
00:07:54.440 We have different potentials in academia.
00:07:56.280 We have different potential in the way we present ourselves.
00:07:58.280 We all have different potential, right?
00:07:59.800 But the idea of being productive and a man of value is that you have a higher purpose to aim for.
00:08:07.320 So, Pearl, I want to answer your question.
00:08:09.800 Do women owe it to society to have kids?
00:08:11.480 I'm not going to tell women what they owe or they don't owe.
00:08:13.640 But the idea that if a woman owes it to society to have kids, that sets an extremely high bar of
00:08:19.560 aspiration because it's so damn hard to be a productive enough person for a man to attract a
00:08:25.720 woman who's got enough wisdom and sagaciousness and long-term outlook.
00:08:32.200 And by the way, we talk about we don't owe anything anyone, like servitude.
00:08:36.440 It's a very high bar to have children, is it not?
00:08:38.680 It is a high bar for yourself.
00:08:40.680 And that's aspirational and that's beautiful.
00:08:44.200 Oh, sorry.
00:08:45.960 Don't you feel like there has to be like some sort of stability within you and your partner to bring children?
00:08:52.920 No, no, no, stop for a second.
00:08:54.760 I take it on myself as a man that it is my job to bring stability.
00:08:58.600 And all the stoic literature and all the biblical literature says that it is up to a man to build
00:09:04.920 institutions.
00:09:05.400 Yes, you do need stability.
00:09:06.440 And who's responsible for that?
00:09:07.480 So I aim for the bar, the high bar as a man, that I can be productive and bring stability
00:09:12.200 so that I give a woman a safe place to have children.
00:09:14.360 Yeah.
00:09:14.840 So multiple things can be true.
00:09:16.200 One thing we've talked a lot about here, it's the cost of raising children, you know?
00:09:19.320 And I think two things can be true simultaneously.
00:09:21.880 One thing that is just true across countries is the less money you have, typically the more kids you have.
00:09:26.040 And this only really reverses when the family's income is over half a million a year.
00:09:30.280 Then it starts to go up again.
00:09:31.240 But, you know, that's a lot of money.
00:09:33.320 But it's also true that you have to make enormous sacrifices.
00:09:36.040 And it is enormously costly to have a kid in our society.
00:09:39.560 And I actually think that half a million mark, that's the mark in which people don't really
00:09:43.000 have to make sacrifices anymore to have kids.
00:09:45.240 So when you're dealing with below that level, I think a question that we need to ask ourselves,
00:09:49.080 when people say having kids is expensive, what they mean is having kids is expensive
00:09:52.440 without significantly changing my lifestyle.
00:09:54.200 My wife and I, we could be earning a lot more money than we do.
00:09:56.360 But we live in like a farm, you know?
00:09:58.680 And that is because it was cheaper to raise kids out there.
00:10:01.560 And so the cultural groups that do have high fertility, you know,
00:10:04.600 often there's these religious, people call them religious extremist weirdos or whatever, right?
00:10:09.080 Like they're weird and that they are different from the urban monoculture
00:10:12.440 and that they are different from the dominant cultures in our society.
00:10:14.680 And that's how we judge weirdness.
00:10:17.480 And one of the things that makes them weird is choosing lifestyles that are significantly
00:10:23.960 below the lifestyle they could live based on what they earn, because they believe there are
00:10:27.640 things more important than showing off how great they are to the world.
00:10:32.680 It's like a more selfless culture is what you're saying.
00:10:34.920 Absolutely.
00:10:35.480 Can I...
00:10:36.040 Right?
00:10:36.280 Absolutely.
00:10:38.200 Who said something?
00:10:39.240 Can I bring up something that you said earlier on, obviously about, obviously,
00:10:42.920 when you're bringing in kids, you want to obviously give them the best and stuff.
00:10:47.400 What about the people who obviously do have kids and they can't give them the best?
00:10:51.800 That was a choice.
00:10:53.240 Yeah, I do.
00:10:53.800 And yeah, obviously, it is a choice.
00:10:55.560 They can't give them the best.
00:10:56.520 These kids are suffering.
00:10:57.960 But what is the best?
00:10:59.560 Because, you know, we have all this money in the West
00:11:02.840 and we really have a higher standard of living than like any time in human history,
00:11:06.520 but people are more depressed than ever.
00:11:08.760 And even like, there's a clip that just went viral of Kim Kardashian,
00:11:12.440 her daughter, North, right?
00:11:14.840 And North is talking about how she prefers to be at Kanye's house.
00:11:18.520 I saw that.
00:11:19.080 Because at Kanye's house, there's no chef.
00:11:21.720 There's no...
00:11:22.520 She's like, I don't like the chef.
00:11:23.720 I want to get...
00:11:24.200 There's no security there.
00:11:25.320 I just want to go to dad's house.
00:11:26.760 Yeah.
00:11:27.160 So it's like, you know, these kids can have everything,
00:11:30.040 but if they don't have what matters, then they care.
00:11:32.840 Can I say something, guys?
00:11:34.360 Can I say something?
00:11:35.160 Yeah.
00:11:35.720 I grew up in Jamaica in like the countryside.
00:11:39.080 So it was very poor.
00:11:40.120 I saw knife crime, violence, sex.
00:11:42.600 Just my parents used to sell drugs so I could eat all this type of stuff.
00:11:46.280 My dad was a fisherman.
00:11:47.320 Like we was poor.
00:11:48.680 We didn't have much.
00:11:49.480 We lived in little board houses, all of that.
00:11:52.040 And I had the best upbringing ever.
00:11:54.600 My parents are Rastafarians.
00:11:55.880 They used to take me to the hot springs, the healing waters.
00:11:58.680 They're taking me to all like the Rastafarian events.
00:12:01.480 I was living my best life.
00:12:03.240 All I remembered from my childhood was getting fish,
00:12:07.800 like basically cooking with my dad on the coal stove outside.
00:12:11.480 We're going to the hot springs, them dancing together.
00:12:13.880 That's all I remember was the time spent.
00:12:16.280 So I just feel like the Western world,
00:12:18.200 we just have so much stimuli being thrown at us that we just,
00:12:21.240 we're confused about every single aspect of our lives from down to our gender,
00:12:24.760 when we're meant to have kids, our bodies,
00:12:26.680 where it just makes things so complicated.
00:12:29.400 When you return to a simpler life, if you unlearn to learn,
00:12:32.600 return to a more simpler form of living,
00:12:35.400 you realize that there's so much joy in just actually having love.
00:12:38.840 And you, and you, you and your parents both around, right?
00:12:42.840 Now.
00:12:43.240 Yeah, no, like growing up, right?
00:12:44.520 Yeah.
00:12:44.920 So who's richer?
00:12:46.760 Like you who might have grown up and you said it was poor,
00:12:50.120 really poor, but your parents were around or,
00:12:53.960 you know, Kim's kids where they see their dad twice a month
00:12:57.400 and they don't really see their mom either because there's a nanny watching them.
00:13:01.320 Yeah.
00:13:01.560 I didn't have that.
00:13:02.280 I had both devoted parents.
00:13:04.360 But I'm saying like, who, who's in a better off position, really?
00:13:07.000 Um, I think they're just both equal.
00:13:09.080 I just didn't see any difference.
00:13:10.360 What do you mean better off position?
00:13:11.800 I think you're so comparing Kim.
00:13:14.600 I'm saying, I'm saying, I would argue that the kid with both of their parents involved
00:13:19.800 is in a better position than the one that has money.
00:13:23.240 I agree.
00:13:23.800 And so much time and especially like in the West.
00:13:26.120 Sorry.
00:13:26.680 Yeah, yeah, especially in the West.
00:13:29.160 There's so many times where they, we equate money can replace parents and it, and it can't.
00:13:35.800 It's neglect.
00:13:36.760 You feel neglected and abandoned when you don't have them, but you have the material.
00:13:42.760 Like kids, no offense, like if you notice, like if you give kids money and stuff like that,
00:13:47.160 they don't seem as grateful compared to when you actually give them.
00:13:49.160 I know they're brats, they're rich.
00:13:51.640 If you want to see messed up kids, look at the kids of rich people.
00:13:54.520 Like, if you want to see that the thing that you can always give your kids is yourself.
00:14:01.160 Yeah.
00:14:01.640 And, and, and there are always going to be competing interests from that because society,
00:14:05.480 you know, this is, I love capitalism, but the one bad thing about capitalism is it can price an
00:14:10.280 individual exactly, exactly the minimum amount it needs to pay them to not spend time on their kids,
00:14:15.800 on their family.
00:14:16.920 And so remember, you know, yeah, just, just be aware that this system, it's going to try
00:14:21.720 to take you away from your family and, and you are the most important thing they have.
00:14:25.800 And these traditions, I love you talk about growing up Rastafarian and these traditions
00:14:29.800 that they had were so important to you and the traditions that you build for your kids.
00:14:33.960 You know, I think a lot of us, we come from backgrounds now where we feel we don't have a
00:14:37.080 connection to our ancestors anymore or our traditions.
00:14:40.440 And that can mean work with your spouse and build new ones, you know, if you have to,
00:14:45.000 because this matters to kids.
00:14:46.600 It matters to them.
00:14:47.240 Yeah.
00:14:47.800 It matters to their kids.
00:14:48.680 So it goes back to our culture though, because when you, when I speak to, again,
00:14:52.200 going back to speaking to women, right, when I speak to women and I ask them like, okay,
00:14:56.760 so if a guy tells you he's got two, three, four kids, what do you say?
00:15:01.400 Usually they say, well, I'm not interested, even if he's got one.
00:15:04.040 Yeah.
00:15:04.520 And then, and then he tells me that there's, there's a problem with our culture.
00:15:08.360 You know, we look down on that.
00:15:10.360 And, and I personally don't, if I'm speaking to a girl, she says, look, I've got two kids.
00:15:14.360 I think that's a beautiful thing.
00:15:15.320 Yeah, but that's because you've got kids though.
00:15:17.160 That's because you've got kids.
00:15:18.200 I don't have kids.
00:15:18.840 I've never had kids.
00:15:19.480 I thought you said you had two sons.
00:15:21.320 I got two sons.
00:15:22.040 It's me.
00:15:22.440 I got two sons.
00:15:22.920 It's not the kid.
00:15:23.560 It's all the other stuff that I deal with.
00:15:25.720 What do you, welcome.
00:15:26.360 I think it's beautiful.
00:15:26.920 I've never had kids though.
00:15:27.960 Welcome to the show.
00:15:28.920 What's your name?
00:15:29.640 Ty.
00:15:30.200 Ty, what do you think?
00:15:31.240 Do, do women owe society children?
00:15:33.960 Oh, that's a strong question.
00:15:36.760 As I look around the room, that's a strong question.
00:15:40.200 Do women owe society kids?
00:15:44.200 In my opinion, women are very different.
00:15:47.720 Okay.
00:15:48.360 So in different situations, you're going to come across different, I guess, mentalities.
00:15:52.520 So for me, depending on the person, you're not really owe anyone anything, in my opinion.
00:15:58.200 That's my opinion.
00:15:59.480 You don't, you know, do men owe it to society to be productive?
00:16:03.240 No.
00:16:03.880 No, no.
00:16:04.360 If they choose to not be.
00:16:06.280 Have you seen the consequences of unproductive men and what they have on society?
00:16:09.560 Like if we choose not to be productive, what is the consequences?
00:16:12.120 Well, the consequences, we ruin society.
00:16:13.640 It's like, you know, Chris Rock has that joke.
00:16:15.160 If you're outside at 1 p.m. in a neighborhood and moms are walking strollers, you're a nice neighborhood.
00:16:18.760 If you're outside a neighborhood at 1 p.m. and dudes are working out, you're in danger.
00:16:21.880 So you would say that every man that is not being productive at this present moment
00:16:27.240 or never has a child, they are just...
00:16:29.880 No, not.
00:16:30.520 The child thing is a little, like that's a few steps ahead.
00:16:33.000 I'd say that a man who's not being productive or not taking steps towards being productive,
00:16:37.960 he's not building society.
00:16:39.080 And it is a man's job to build.
00:16:40.520 Like a man always has to be building something.
00:16:42.680 Otherwise, a man becomes a danger to himself and society.
00:16:44.920 And we see that, you know, represented in the preponderance of, you know, criminals, for example.
00:16:48.440 And you see in countries that have high unemployment rates, you see a lot of very negative correlations with that.
00:16:53.480 But the question, you know, the reason that I postulated that earlier is because like
00:16:56.920 for a woman to be able to reach her potential to have kids, she needs a man who's reaching his potential.
00:17:02.600 And a man has to lead.
00:17:03.480 And that's why a man has to lead.
00:17:04.520 And I also think there's a reason why we look down on the homeless like bum crackheads down the street.
00:17:11.000 Like that aren't doing anything.
00:17:12.360 They're not paying anything.
00:17:13.480 Like they're not contributing to society.
00:17:15.320 There's a reason why they're considered losers in society.
00:17:18.760 I don't look at them as losers though.
00:17:20.040 I don't judge people.
00:17:22.040 Okay, I'm not saying you personally, but I'm saying as a society, do we tend to put crackheads on a pedestal?
00:17:27.800 No.
00:17:28.360 No.
00:17:29.000 Do we tend to say grow up and be home?
00:17:31.880 Yeah, I get that.
00:17:33.000 That's the point.
00:17:33.800 They're not losers.
00:17:34.760 But I mean, I think if you're not doing anything.
00:17:37.480 It depends.
00:17:38.280 It's not even just homeless people.
00:17:40.120 It's guys who drive buses or bin men.
00:17:42.040 We don't put them on pedestals either.
00:17:43.880 We actually look down on men.
00:17:45.240 Unfortunately, I don't like I think if you have a job that contributes to society, I think that's fine.
00:17:50.200 But I do think you owe your society to be a productive member of society.
00:17:55.320 And if women aren't going to go down the kids route, like I think they owe the same exact thing.
00:18:00.200 Yeah, I agree with that.
00:18:01.400 Yeah.
00:18:01.480 I absolutely agree with that.
00:18:02.600 I just want to say, sorry, sorry to interject.
00:18:04.360 Um, in terms of owing to society, etc.
00:18:08.600 My thing is if you're not doing anything or contribute, contributing towards the society in any way can be anything.
00:18:14.680 I personally think you deserve nothing.
00:18:16.920 And I don't mean that in a horrible way.
00:18:19.080 Yeah, I don't mean a horrible way.
00:18:20.760 You need to put something in to get something back.
00:18:23.400 Yeah.
00:18:23.960 And that's how it's always been.
00:18:24.920 The cause and effect.
00:18:25.880 The greatest lie, I think, this urban monoculture I talk about, this dominant culture in our society tells people,
00:18:31.400 is that if you do whatever you want, whatever you want to do it, that you're going to be happy and fulfilled.
00:18:36.440 You will not.
00:18:37.560 Our biologies are wonderfully structured.
00:18:40.280 Perhaps God made us this way.
00:18:42.280 But when you do whatever you want, whenever you want to do it, a hollowness builds inside you.
00:18:46.280 When you are out there working to make the world a better place,
00:18:50.200 you will feel a type of happiness that cannot be achieved from anything else.
00:18:55.080 True happiness is only achieved by effectively living your value system.
00:18:59.880 And more specifically, that leads to some form of suffering through growth.
00:19:03.960 And so therefore, and this is the Viktor Frankl argument, right?
00:19:06.680 So very cool.
00:19:10.840 So the next question, I'm going to read Super Chats really quick.
00:19:16.200 Guys, make sure you like the video.
00:19:18.120 That's the most important metric that YouTube uses to push out these streams.
00:19:21.720 Okay.
00:19:22.520 Um, Bryden says, the true question is what brings you meaning?
00:19:27.000 Thane Mattress says, classic case of a suit,
00:19:30.760 maketh?
00:19:31.720 Is that a suit?
00:19:32.280 A suit maketh a man?
00:19:33.720 I've never.
00:19:34.680 Oh, a classic case of a suit maketh a man.
00:19:38.200 Good.
00:19:38.680 Make it not.
00:19:39.400 Oh, wait.
00:19:40.040 Sorry.
00:19:40.440 Sorry.
00:19:41.160 I've never heard of it.
00:19:42.520 It's a classic case of a suit maketh a man not.
00:19:45.560 Good Frank Castle.
00:19:47.960 I have no idea what you just said.
00:19:49.080 Yeah, that's how confusing it is.
00:19:50.840 No, you still read that room.
00:19:51.880 I forgot.
00:19:52.440 I read it right.
00:19:53.240 It's a little, it's a little joke.
00:19:54.360 There's a quote, the suit maketh a man.
00:19:55.800 He's saying a suit maketh a man not.
00:19:57.160 Yeah.
00:19:57.480 Oh, same.
00:19:58.040 Oh, I totally, I totally, I totally got it.
00:20:00.920 Glenn Lawrence, oh God, here comes the servant leader talk.
00:20:07.880 Juan Figuera, as a man, as a man and father of 3, 21, 7, 5, we want children, but the laws
00:20:15.960 are unfair and the risk 18 to 25 years of child support to reproduce the female market is unstable
00:20:23.080 to risk this amount of effort, paying, paying, I can't read your username, I'm sorry.
00:20:30.600 Women that don't have children are super lucius, a society strictly all men can do everything
00:20:38.520 except have children.
00:20:40.120 Cruxy says, Simone and Malcolm, I appreciate your gene selection, work related.
00:20:45.400 Uh oh, selective.
00:20:47.400 Uh oh.
00:20:48.520 Uh oh.
00:20:49.560 Related, please recommend Pearl to talk to Edward Dutton.
00:20:53.160 Uh oh, I don't get what's the uh oh.
00:20:56.680 It's the spicy stuff, yeah.
00:20:58.680 Okay.
00:20:59.320 He has greatly helped my understanding of why our world is in the current state.
00:21:04.120 Emily Ziegler, thanks to your pearls of wisdom, I've been finding more and more ways to serve
00:21:08.920 and submit to my husband.
00:21:10.600 My husband has been the happiest man and my family is thriving ever since.
00:21:14.520 We love you, Pearl.
00:21:15.880 Thank you, Emily.
00:21:16.600 Uh, see, see, see, don't, I can't, guys, I can't say your new usernames.
00:21:22.840 Talk about, um, talk about the dancing in rail Israelis on 9-11.
00:21:30.280 Oh my god.
00:21:31.320 I don't, I don't know what that is.
00:21:33.880 Just about to go down.
00:21:34.600 Oh, oh, sorry.
00:21:35.800 That's from the Zerka thing, I think.
00:21:37.880 Um, anyways, um, I think that's all the super.
00:21:42.840 How do you guys think a cat would answer that question?
00:21:44.760 Do women owe it to society to have kids?
00:21:46.360 Like if I, if I wasn't a human, if I was just a group of cats sitting here in a suit, pretending to be a person,
00:21:50.920 what I, what, what would I, what would I say about the subject?
00:21:53.640 They would be irrational.
00:21:55.000 Huh?
00:21:56.040 Yeah, what would I answer?
00:21:57.240 Meow.
00:21:58.440 How would you know?
00:21:59.000 Meow.
00:21:59.640 Cats would just say, please shut up and give me some tuna right now.
00:22:02.600 They'd be like, nah, girls don't have any kids, it's cool.
00:22:06.440 Cats do not care, do not care.
00:22:07.480 You know, I think there's a pretty, pretty strong, like, uh, correlation between the cat population
00:22:12.120 and the amount of single childless women, isn't there?
00:22:13.880 No?
00:22:14.920 I'll look at the study.
00:22:16.520 Well, that's the truth of the cat lady.
00:22:17.800 Some people use animals to masturbate the instinct to have kids.
00:22:20.920 Um, no, it's true.
00:22:23.480 They, they, and this is done both because they don't have some, sometimes it's not their choice.
00:22:27.720 You know, sometimes they just end up single without kids for whatever reason,
00:22:30.600 but there are ways that you can, this is why they call it their baby, right?
00:22:33.400 Can we just, can we just expand on that masturbating your instincts?
00:22:36.680 So if I smell delicious cupcakes, but I don't eat them, am I just masturbating my instincts?
00:22:40.680 Well, what I mean by that is in the same way when an individual masturbates,
00:22:44.680 they are taking sex and they are fake having sex.
00:22:47.800 I just, I just love the phrase.
00:22:48.360 They are fulfilling an instinct by looking at a simulacrum, uh, of, of the thing that
00:22:53.640 they really want, um, with a kid or a little dog, it looks like a little child.
00:22:58.680 It's got the big eyes.
00:22:59.560 It's sweet to you, but it doesn't require real sacrifice.
00:23:02.840 Not at the same level, uh, in the same way that porn doesn't require the, the real,
00:23:06.680 real sacrifice of going out there and impressing a person.
00:23:08.920 A cat's a lot cheaper than a baby.
00:23:12.040 Well, it is, and porn's a lot cheaper than a date.
00:23:14.600 You just haven't seen a fat enough cat.
00:23:18.520 I challenge that.
00:23:20.360 I think men need to desexualize themselves though.
00:23:22.920 I think that a corn, I think it's, it's, it's definitely not a good thing for men.
00:23:27.560 We need to stop it.
00:23:28.440 Personally, myself, I've been practicing, um, um, you know, semen retention.
00:23:33.240 Yeah.
00:23:33.800 And I feel so much more energized.
00:23:37.080 Honestly, I'm just like, even like, I just think differently.
00:23:39.480 I just get up in the morning without no coffee, just active.
00:23:41.800 That's a good thing.
00:23:42.600 But we need to desexualize our minds.
00:23:44.040 I think as men, we, that's something that we owe to society.
00:23:46.680 I think women should actually stop first because the more we keep giving out the nuni,
00:23:50.200 what do you think these men are going to do?
00:23:51.640 Say no.
00:23:52.760 Listen, if I was a dude and I heard here's free ting on a flat toe, I'm taking it.
00:23:56.440 So this kind of goes back to, this kind of goes back to, um, you know,
00:24:01.240 this question as to what women in general owe society.
00:24:05.080 Right.
00:24:05.960 And, you know, one question I had is do women owe society modesty?
00:24:11.880 Yes, because now, now, now I'm starting to see.
00:24:16.600 So I went to Vegas, um, for like a collab, like a couple months back and I couldn't believe
00:24:23.480 I was walking down the street and I saw women with their boobs out and just stickers
00:24:28.520 on their boobs walking in public.
00:24:31.160 This is legal there.
00:24:32.920 And I thought to myself, you know, they're, they're, how is this not public nudity?
00:24:41.720 Why are women wanting to do this?
00:24:43.160 Well, you're not arrested.
00:24:43.960 This used to be a thing where you get arrested for public.
00:24:46.440 Yeah.
00:24:46.840 And now they can literally have stickers on their boobs.
00:24:49.480 So it kind of bears the question, do women owe society modesty?
00:24:54.120 And you, you seem to want to go, so go ahead.
00:24:55.960 I want her to go because she had a long rant about this.
00:24:58.920 We were, we were reading your tweets about this this afternoon.
00:25:01.400 Oh, we're going to, we're going to judge the pictures later too.
00:25:03.960 Oh boy.
00:25:04.920 But go ahead, go first.
00:25:05.880 Yeah.
00:25:06.040 I mean, you know, a lot of what we're looking at is, um, there's a problem with society in
00:25:10.600 which every woman, despite her age, wants to look like she's 20, but she can't pull it off
00:25:14.840 after a certain age.
00:25:15.560 I'm just sorry.
00:25:16.440 So part of it's, you know, you have to realize after a certain age, you can't pull it off and you
00:25:20.280 have to actually want to desire to be something else, maybe to be a mentor, maybe to be a
00:25:24.200 professional, maybe to be a mother.
00:25:25.960 And there are appropriate outfits for all of that.
00:25:28.520 But we also have to remember that like, honestly, like some women, unfortunately don't have that
00:25:33.720 much to offer.
00:25:35.000 And so they marry people who want them to flaunt it.
00:25:39.800 They, they, they become trophy wives and they kind of have to dress that way.
00:25:43.480 So I do think that there is a place for an immodest woman, even a mother, even a woman of a
00:25:47.640 certain age to dress in an extremely sexualized and showy matter.
00:25:51.640 Because frankly, that's her job at that point.
00:25:54.200 She has nothing else.
00:25:55.000 That is her way to be productive for society.
00:25:56.840 And where, where would she do that?
00:25:58.440 Like, what are the rules?
00:25:59.080 Wherever the hell her husband wants her to.
00:26:00.520 So that-
00:26:01.640 See, I don't know.
00:26:02.440 I don't know because I'm thinking like if, I think that some of these outfits,
00:26:07.240 it's like wrong because there are kids around and you can't just,
00:26:11.000 even if your husband wants you to dress like a hooker.
00:26:13.480 Okay.
00:26:13.800 So I grew up in a super progressive society where like,
00:26:17.000 I thought that a wedding was getting naked and wearing masks in the woods and dancing around.
00:26:20.920 Right.
00:26:21.160 So I grew up around a lot of-
00:26:22.680 Wait, wait.
00:26:23.000 Oh, wow.
00:26:23.960 I grew up in Silicon Valley.
00:26:25.240 I don't, is that normal?
00:26:27.160 In Silicon Valley it was, naked sweat lodge, the masks, the dancing, the whatever.
00:26:31.480 Right.
00:26:31.720 I'm very, very progressive.
00:26:33.160 Right.
00:26:33.560 Okay.
00:26:34.040 So, you know, and I, so you could say that I grew up as a kid around debauchery.
00:26:38.120 Um, but it didn't screw me up at all.
00:26:40.760 Um, I actually, I, I, I lost my virginity with my husband.
00:26:44.840 Um, it's, uh, I don't think that these things necessarily hurt people.
00:26:49.160 I don't think that nudity or sexualization hurts people.
00:26:51.480 In fact, it made me kind of blind to it.
00:26:53.240 I mean, the fact that I, at age like 15, went to burning man and I swear to you,
00:26:57.240 I didn't see anyone use any drugs somehow.
00:26:59.800 Um, so I, I don't think I, I, at least anecdotally, it doesn't mean you weren't using them.
00:27:04.360 You know, I still, I've never been high except for doctor's offices, which is super fun.
00:27:10.280 Of course.
00:27:10.760 Yeah.
00:27:11.080 Um, but yeah, I just, uh, anecdotally and among the people, the peers that I grew up around,
00:27:16.440 um, I, I just, uh, in that progressive culture actually grew up around a bunch of prudes, frankly.
00:27:22.440 I think what you're saying, Simone, is that when women dress that way, it's because they have
00:27:25.800 nothing else to offer a women dress in a way that shows what they think they have to offer to society.
00:27:31.400 And if they don't feel, and a lot of women feel very disempowered in our society,
00:27:34.200 and they do feel that they have nothing else to offer, or this is their primary asset.
00:27:37.560 But presumably as a woman ages, because this asset deteriorates so quickly in terms of its market
00:27:43.560 value, most women who have anything else to offer, switch what they're selling to like,
00:27:48.200 I'm a good mother or I'm a good chef or something like that.
00:27:51.720 Um, whereas, uh, it's a really negative sign to, to an
00:27:55.400 individual if they're still showing this and they're like 40 or 30.
00:27:58.120 But when you're younger, uh, something to think about as a woman is the type of woman,
00:28:02.280 not the type of guy you want to have sex with you, the type of guy you want to marry you.
00:28:05.480 Is he going to be attracted when you're showing all this out?
00:28:08.200 Or is he going to look at that and think, oh, this is not what I want in a wife?
00:28:11.960 Because I think that a lot of women, they get confused.
00:28:15.080 They say, oh, when I do this, guys hit on me.
00:28:17.720 When I do this, guys sleep with me.
00:28:19.560 And then they then think that that's the type of thing that will get a guy to marry them.
00:28:23.000 But these are two different things that you're courting for.
00:28:25.720 Have we created a problem, though, as men?
00:28:27.080 Yeah, we have.
00:28:27.720 Hell yeah, we have.
00:28:29.720 Yes, thank you.
00:28:30.280 And what I wanted to say was women have been sexualized since this big...
00:28:35.000 I remember my father being like, you know, my friends are coming around.
00:28:37.720 No, no, women sexualize themselves.
00:28:39.720 Women get naked.
00:28:41.720 No, no, I disagree.
00:28:43.480 I think that women will get naked far quicker than men will ask for sex.
00:28:47.880 And my proof of this is going to Vegas, those women are walking around naked.
00:28:53.320 Women walk around naked outside.
00:28:55.800 They walk around naked to work.
00:28:58.040 They take off their clothes more and more and more, far before men ask for sex.
00:29:02.440 But would we be still talking about this if a guy was walking with his top off?
00:29:06.600 We wouldn't, because women have been sexualized.
00:29:08.920 Men can walk out with a t-shirt on and no one says anything.
00:29:11.240 But who would they walk out with their slippers just hanging on the clothes?
00:29:13.960 No, no, no. We're talking about in Vegas when it's hot, it's a sunny day, and man's walking with no t-shirt.
00:29:18.920 Okay, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:29:21.160 Are we really gonna have...
00:29:22.280 No shit.
00:29:22.840 Okay, okay. Are we really gonna...
00:29:25.560 How old are you?
00:29:26.520 28.
00:29:27.160 Okay, you're 28 and you don't understand why women have boobs.
00:29:31.720 That's why we have to have a shirt on.
00:29:34.120 No, no, no.
00:29:35.240 I feel like women from a young age, like what I was trying to say is when I was younger,
00:29:40.440 my father would say, you know, my friends are coming around, make sure you're, you know,
00:29:43.880 you're covered up.
00:29:44.600 Why on earth am I being told to cover up when people are coming around the house?
00:29:50.520 So you don't...
00:29:51.400 So he doesn't look like a terrible father.
00:29:54.920 No, but can I not wear shorts and a t-shirt?
00:29:58.440 So you don't grow up to be a whore.
00:30:00.760 But do we have to be covered from head to toe to not be sexualized?
00:30:05.800 When men come over, they coming from a background where I've seen men coming to people's homes
00:30:10.760 and they abuse certain people's children, including me, obviously not to knock them out,
00:30:14.840 but you might touch me, but it's like, no, seriously, black eyes, everything.
00:30:19.880 The reason...
00:30:20.840 Sorry, sorry about that.
00:30:22.840 When men or other uncles, all this come into your house, you're a young girl,
00:30:27.640 your mom and dad should teach you modesty.
00:30:29.400 It doesn't mean you have to lose your sexy when you grow up.
00:30:31.240 I lost my sexy.
00:30:32.440 I'm sexy without having to speak.
00:30:34.120 You know what I mean?
00:30:36.120 But it's like, when you're a young kid, you have to cover up.
00:30:38.760 You need to learn decency, modesty, understand how to dress when people come over.
00:30:42.280 People are predators.
00:30:43.480 Your parents can't fully protect you all the time.
00:30:45.480 So you have to know how to protect yourself.
00:30:46.840 Of course.
00:30:47.240 And the first way to do that is by dressing properly.
00:30:49.480 I used to be at home in short shorts, crop tops,
00:30:51.800 but I knew if a visitor's coming, I dress appropriately.
00:30:54.600 It's just a respect for yourself, for the people that are coming over and for your family.
00:30:57.640 So should the little boy cover up when the female's coming out?
00:30:59.880 What's he going to wear?
00:31:00.840 He's not in the phone.
00:31:01.640 No, no, no, no, no.
00:31:02.600 But like, you might be a shorts and a t-shirt off.
00:31:04.360 Because boys and girls are different.
00:31:05.800 Why can't people just understand that?
00:31:06.840 No, but why is women sexualized?
00:31:08.120 And why is men not sexualized?
00:31:10.440 Because women are sexy.
00:31:11.000 No, that's not an answer for me.
00:31:12.680 Over here, even as a man, I've got to say, I think you've got a point.
00:31:15.720 Thank you.
00:31:16.120 Because at the same time, I know you're saying, okay, well, it doesn't matter.
00:31:19.880 You keep on saying people, but it is the influence of men.
00:31:23.240 Of course.
00:31:24.440 Do you say you have to protect yourself?
00:31:26.440 Sorry, sorry.
00:31:27.480 Why do we have to protect ourselves?
00:31:28.600 No, I'll explain to you.
00:31:29.720 I'll explain to you.
00:31:30.600 In all of nature, there are things.
00:31:34.520 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:31:39.400 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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