Pearl Leaves Panel Speechless After Saying This
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss what it means to be a good communicator, how to communicate with a man, and how to deal with the expectations of a woman in a relationship. We also discuss the difference between a man and a woman, and why it's important to have good communication.
Transcript
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90% of women would never get the man they want, and this is because most women want
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a man that is assertive, confident, strong, a leader, and all of that good stuff, has
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money, tall, beautiful, whatever, but at the same time they say, well, he can't tell me
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what to do. Typically, a man that's like that is not going to take your direction. He's
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going to do what he does, and he's going to expect you to follow. So it's very funny
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when women come out and say, I want this guy, I want that guy, but then they still
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come out and try to act like they are the man in the relationship. It never works, and
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it's never going to work. I mean, the earlier women start to understand that. Either you
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want that guy, or you just go for a guy you can control. Usually there's no middle ground.
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And it's interesting that they want all these things, but they cannot really offer something
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in return, something that is worth enough for what they ask. Do you disagree?
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No, many times it is. But I think it comes a lot with maturity as well, and also a lot
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of the brainwash, because I don't agree with many things. And that's why I always say, like,
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I'll protect my family and my relationship, right? And there is some, if you're really
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like a mature, mature woman, you will know what you have to do and what a man, I don't agree
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that they are equal, that they do the same things. No. And especially inside a home, you know,
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it works in different ways. So I think it demands a lot of intelligence, wisdom and maturity
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to, you know, to occur this dynamic between men and women. And I think we've been programmed.
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That's why we are so resistant and things like this and why so many relationships don't work.
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Okay, I don't understand. What is this table? Where do we find this table? Is it a marriage
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about a table? Like, this is what I was trying to say before. When I came to the table, what
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Okay, what should women bring to a relationship? Like, when you go on a date with a man, you
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No. Not me. Not me. I've been with a homeless guy for two and a half years. So you don't
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But this is the thing. That's not like a good rebuttal to what she's saying. You're saying
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that like, that's okay because you've been a homeless guy. So that's not good.
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No, no, no. One second. One second. I said that because she just mentioned, oh, like,
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if you pay. It's not me. I'm not about the pay. I'm saying it's not that. I don't have
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like, it needs to be this or it needs to be this.
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She's talking about the standard that women expect. So you're saying that is not really
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like answering the question. You're just trying to throw off the question without really answering
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I'm saying not me. Not me. I'm talking about me. I can answer just as me, not like other
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Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. So she wants nothing. So, okay.
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What about, what about, what about you? What, what does the average woman bring to the table
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Wait, wait, wait, no, no, wait. I want to, I want to give a good, a good, a good actual
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answer. I mean, there are many things, you know, you have to, you have to sort of be mentally
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aligned because you want to have like good communication. You want to be able to talk about stuff,
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Are, are, is the average woman a good communicator?
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No, no. I said, is the average woman a good communicator?
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Okay. So do men typically want communication from women? Is that what they seek?
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They want, they want communication. They want, um, they want femininity as well, to be honest.
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Okay. And they, and they want, they do want attractiveness, obviously.
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But you, you can't, it's, you can't be that superficial for like, for one date. Yes. Maybe
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Okay. So the average woman brings communication. What else?
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Well, I don't know about the average woman, but you know, good women.
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Um, they also want, um, yeah, they want someone that looks good. They want someone that, you
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Okay. So they, they want to grow. So they bring looks and communication. What else?
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There are a lot of fake alphas out there, including men.
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Okay. So women, women bring femininity sometimes, sometimes. Okay. What, what else do women bring?
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Um, well, they can bring status, depending what they do as well.
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I don't know. I think some do. Some do. My ex actually did.
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I don't know about average men. I've only dated quite, you know, good.
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Does the man women typically want care about status?
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No, because he'll probably bring her up if you're going to go average.
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But I do think that if you are a certain level of guy, then you want something more than just a pretty girl on the arm.
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Okay. Okay. So the average woman brings communication.
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Okay. The slightly above average woman brings communication, femininity, and looks.
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I like how you're not answering the question I asked.
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It's like women, when we, you don't like the answer that, that we would have to give.
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What does the average woman bring to the table in 2023?
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Okay. So the average woman, I guess, is everyone that is on social media.
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But if you're going on a date and you don't know the person, how do you know it?
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Average means already that it doesn't bring much, right?
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And women are being forced to bring on the table things that I think for men is not very useful anymore.
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Like if you talk to most of girls here, they have like really good jobs working for governments, high education.
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Like in a relationship, like sex, if you put on the top for men is number one, right?
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And unfortunately, the other things affect women on this way and things like this.
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For women to be very well educated and have a job.
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Of course, if you live in London, if you don't work, if you don't make money, the city is going to struggle.
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So what was stopping us from getting married at 21?
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We wanted to be more, we wanted to be independent.
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I'm going to get to you, but I'm going to let her answer.
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Yeah, for me at least I wanted to do more things.
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Maybe it wasn't the right man, like that proposed.
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Or it's not, or you don't bring, like you're saying the young people, right?
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In London, it doesn't really, like, I don't know that many people that got married.
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They've had long relationships, but they don't get married in their, like, 20s.
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Probably because economically he wants to be of a certain stature.
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Okay, why couldn't she get a guy that is high, that makes a lot of money?
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Well, I think at 21 you don't have the maturity enough to handle a house nowadays.
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Nowadays, you know, for example, if you look for...
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But nowadays, like, I'm a teacher as well, right?
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I see the girls, you know, even if I talk to many friends of mine there.
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So now in the past years, things have been happening that people are not.
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If you're married, it means in a while you're going to have kids.
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No, but mostly, we're talking generally, you're going to have kids, right?
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So the thing is, nowadays, people are being brainwashed.
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If you get married young nowadays with the brain that they are having,
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they're not going to be able to raise kids properly.
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Do you think it's harder for women to change the older they are or the younger they are?
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I think for every human being, it's harder the older you get.
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Okay, so wouldn't it make more sense to get married younger rather than older?
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So you can molt, like you can grow together with the man?
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The younger you get, usually the rate of divorces are higher.
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So it's not about the age, it's about maturity.
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Because you can find people 40, 30, 50 years old, they're not mature.
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And I've seen people getting married in a young age.
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Of course, if a wise man wants maturity, otherwise what happens with men?