JustPearlyThings - April 24, 2023


Pearl Logically Proved This About Modern Society

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
This Was The Most Honest Interview Ever The Reason Men and Women CAN'T BE Friends

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9 minutes

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2,065

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234

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36

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11

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In this episode, we discuss the issue of single motherhood and the role of a single mother in raising their children. We also talk about birth control, abortion, and who is to blame when it comes to getting pregnant?

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00:00:00.000 Sometimes you have part-time dads that sometimes see you.
00:00:05.720 They will come and see you every now and again when they're free,
00:00:09.160 when they're available.
00:00:10.060 You've got some dads that literally live their life.
00:00:12.400 They've separated from the partner and their family and they're going out
00:00:15.500 and they're living their best life and big up all the single moms, 1.00
00:00:18.320 by the way, because that is a very, very, very, very big job.
00:00:21.880 Big down because it was your life choice and you shouldn't have did that.
00:00:24.960 You should have stayed with the father or your kid.
00:00:26.380 No, no, no, no, no, because some men will walk out
00:00:29.680 on their women and the women will be on their knees begging them to stay 1.00
00:00:32.040 and they will not.
00:00:32.760 It's the exception.
00:00:34.200 And plus, those women, half the time, they pick men that have impregnated 1.00
00:00:37.040 like three girls and you're like, of course he's going to leave.
00:00:39.640 What did you expect?
00:00:40.620 It's not always the case.
00:00:41.860 I would say it's more often the case than not.
00:00:45.240 And plus, women leave more statistically. 0.99
00:00:48.500 Yeah, but there is those men that will be happy to have that woman there 1.00
00:00:52.900 and happy to use them to stay at their house, et cetera,
00:00:56.680 and then expect to see three people at the same time.
00:00:59.440 So obviously the woman's going to get frustrated. 1.00
00:01:01.360 That's the man that you chose.
00:01:02.540 Yeah, I blame that on the woman because like, why do we blame so much on the women? 0.92
00:01:08.160 No.
00:01:08.760 Like, this is, I don't get it.
00:01:10.780 Like, what is that?
00:01:11.360 It's not even a blame thing.
00:01:12.460 It's like, you go through a process before you actually get a guy.
00:01:16.080 No, but what is that?
00:01:17.220 Get him to know the guy.
00:01:17.840 What is this?
00:01:19.040 Like, we're blaming the women for a lot of things 0.99
00:01:21.620 that actually some men are heavily responsible for.
00:01:24.780 Because we're kings, man.
00:01:25.760 What is it?
00:01:26.200 It just breaks those statistics because he's mad.
00:01:29.260 Okay, which part?
00:01:31.000 Which part is mad?
00:01:32.320 You don't think you're, so if you have a child,
00:01:34.320 aren't you responsible for picking the father?
00:01:36.320 Isn't that your fault?
00:01:37.200 Facts.
00:01:37.880 It's a joint decision.
00:01:39.220 Unless you get a trick.
00:01:40.780 But we agree, we agree that women are in control of sex, right? 1.00
00:01:44.260 Yeah.
00:01:44.640 Right?
00:01:45.160 Women are, correct? 1.00
00:01:46.620 So if women are in control of sex, who is responsible when you get pregnant? 1.00
00:01:50.380 If you're not in a relationship and you're single and you want to find someone to have sex,
00:01:56.240 it's easier for a woman to go out and find that. 1.00
00:01:58.400 In a relationship, it's a partnership.
00:02:00.960 You're both responsible.
00:02:01.900 Okay, so another question.
00:02:02.820 Who knows?
00:02:03.480 Who knows?
00:02:04.740 So I have a question.
00:02:05.360 I have a question.
00:02:05.960 Who knows when you're ovulating?
00:02:08.260 Does he know when you're ovulating or does he know when you're ovulating?
00:02:11.860 I mean, are you not talking about this?
00:02:14.340 I know.
00:02:15.080 Right?
00:02:15.180 Are you not talking about it as a partnership, as a team, though?
00:02:18.040 No.
00:02:18.960 I think it depends if-
00:02:19.900 No, I need you to ask that.
00:02:21.340 Just in general.
00:02:22.760 Do men know if the women are ovulating or do women know if the men are ovulating?
00:02:28.920 Let's just, which one?
00:02:29.680 Who knows more?
00:02:30.360 Some women don't know. 1.00
00:02:31.560 Okay, can we talk about in general?
00:02:33.000 General, general.
00:02:33.760 In general, I can't-
00:02:34.420 Okay, the women- 1.00
00:02:35.020 Come on, come on. 0.99
00:02:35.860 Come on.
00:02:36.380 If we talk about in general the women that I'm around, we know and we talk about that with the people that we are in front.
00:02:44.380 Also, we can use protection anyway.
00:02:46.240 Let's continue.
00:02:47.280 Let's continue.
00:02:47.740 I can't talk about everybody that I don't know.
00:02:48.920 So let's continue.
00:02:50.480 Do we know if we're on birth control or do the men know if we're on birth control?
00:02:55.340 Yeah, we know.
00:02:56.340 Okay.
00:02:56.800 If I was a man, I wouldn't be sleeping with someone without protection ever.
00:03:00.160 Yeah, okay.
00:03:00.960 So do we get to choose if we get an abortion or do the men get to choose if we get an abortion? 0.89
00:03:07.300 That depends, though.
00:03:09.160 That really does depend.
00:03:10.780 The men shouldn't be sleeping with someone without protection.
00:03:13.120 They do not want a child.
00:03:13.860 No, but it's still a choice.
00:03:15.220 I'm asking about the women right now. 0.95
00:03:16.700 We can get to the men, okay?
00:03:17.800 We can get to them later.
00:03:18.800 Can we just get to the women first? 1.00
00:03:20.020 Okay, on the women, though, it depends whether you were tricked because, yes, if that man 0.99
00:03:24.740 is obviously not going to be good to you, I do personally think it is stupid to have 1.00
00:03:28.520 a child. 1.00
00:03:29.200 Well, sorry.
00:03:29.860 That's a bit offensive.
00:03:30.360 No, I'm just asking about the choice.
00:03:31.920 Like, do the men get a choice in if we get an abortion or not? 0.61
00:03:35.380 I'm asking about the choice.
00:03:36.180 It depends.
00:03:36.820 So, okay, how does the man get any say?
00:03:39.400 Does he get to?
00:03:40.300 Because it could be a thing where they can manipulate the woman and say, look, I don't 0.52
00:03:44.020 want to be a father.
00:03:45.760 They could convince her, but at the end of the day, who gets to pick?
00:03:49.720 The men or the women? 0.89
00:03:50.360 Of course it's the women. 1.00
00:03:51.100 Okay, so that's my point.
00:03:52.580 So, now who gets to pick if we get an IUD or not?
00:03:56.660 Who gets to pick if we take a plan B or not?
00:03:59.280 The women. 0.81
00:03:59.600 So, if we get to do all this picking, don't you think we should take more of the responsibility?
00:04:03.520 Like, it's more on us since, because when we have sex, right, we know if they're wearing
00:04:07.460 a condom or not, but the men don't know if we're on birth control or not.
00:04:10.900 So, we're the only one.
00:04:11.700 We know if we're ovulating or not, where the men don't know if we're ovulating or not.
00:04:14.660 So, we're the one with all the information, where the men don't always have all the information.
00:04:18.620 But men know that women do baby trap sometimes, so just use protection. 1.00
00:04:24.640 Like...
00:04:24.960 I feel like it's a shared responsibility with all adults. 0.98
00:04:27.380 Don't act dumb, like... 0.95
00:04:28.860 I would say it's more on the women for picking who you have a child with. 1.00
00:04:33.520 Do you know what, I like this because I have daughters, so I'm trying to...
00:04:38.040 I'm learning all of this.
00:04:39.760 So, you're not...
00:04:40.320 You're right.
00:04:40.740 I feel like you're really right, because at the end of the day...
00:04:42.880 Tell them to communicate with whoever they're dealing with.
00:04:44.820 That was no problem.
00:04:45.220 Yeah, I know, but like you said, it is the woman... 1.00
00:04:48.060 Like, let's be respectful here, but at the end of the day, it is the woman's control 1.00
00:04:54.000 to have something grow in her, in a way.
00:04:57.400 You know, if you want to have a baby, you can be like, oh, I'm having a baby with or without
00:05:01.920 you.
00:05:02.300 That's my decision, not yours. 0.69
00:05:04.780 You know the man is not ready, but then you still make the choice to go ahead and have
00:05:09.400 that child.
00:05:09.720 You know, if you know you're going to have unprotected sex, you should prepare for that.
00:05:12.840 You've both made the decision.
00:05:14.140 No, but...
00:05:14.500 If you go in and have unprotected sex, you're both consenting adults. 0.97
00:05:18.440 You have brain cells.
00:05:19.900 You know what can happen.
00:05:20.740 Some women don't think like that, though. 1.00
00:05:22.420 I know, but that's the thing.
00:05:23.340 But women are 100% in control of who's born. 1.00
00:05:26.140 Yeah. 0.81
00:05:26.500 Men are just in control of who they have sex with. 1.00
00:05:28.900 But women are 100% in control of who gets born. 1.00
00:05:32.140 I agree that they should...
00:05:33.940 No, it's true.
00:05:35.020 It's true.
00:05:35.800 It's true.
00:05:36.840 I'm sorry.
00:05:37.600 So much going on in my head.
00:05:38.680 I'm not just saying it out loud.
00:05:40.080 What if you don't believe in abortion? 0.99
00:05:41.320 My question isn't why are you having unprotected sex with men who shouldn't be fathers? 0.99
00:05:45.920 Yeah. 0.99
00:05:46.240 That's my question.
00:05:47.860 That is a good point.
00:05:49.360 I do agree with you, but what if they've made you think that they're a good guy?
00:05:54.680 This hasn't actually happened to me, but...
00:05:56.540 But that's the woman's judgment, though, in a way.
00:05:59.220 What if they've made you think that...
00:06:00.880 I guess they can't think that.
00:06:02.260 I'm sorry.
00:06:03.200 Babies should be like step 10, all right?
00:06:05.940 Yeah, you're right.
00:06:06.540 You should be married first. 1.00
00:06:07.660 So, like, it's like, what were you doing making a baby?
00:06:10.380 You should.
00:06:10.400 Married first.
00:06:11.140 We're not in the 50s, girl.
00:06:12.560 What?
00:06:12.940 Ideally, you were in the 50s, girl.
00:06:14.500 Making a baby?
00:06:15.580 No, as in marriage first, and then...
00:06:18.420 You don't think you should get married before you have a kid?
00:06:20.520 Times have changed.
00:06:22.300 Okay, well, I would prefer to go that route.
00:06:26.500 Do you know what?
00:06:27.160 It's expensive.
00:06:28.200 I'll be honest with you, yeah?
00:06:29.380 I think it is better to get married and have children.
00:06:33.060 Reason why is because there's more stability, yeah?
00:06:35.500 There's more like, okay, we put each other first, we are loyal to each other first, and we made something signed and sealed, we can now, you know, conquer life.
00:06:46.160 You know, the whole having babies out of wedlock always seems to be the reason why a lot of relationships fail.
00:06:52.520 And that's, you know, I'm not going to say it's facts, but I'm saying that's my opinion.
00:06:55.720 But for me, it's a thing where, you know, if you're married, you already built already a foundation of how you're going to raise your child.
00:07:03.720 And your child's going to look at you too and be like, okay, well, you look on my example of how I should, you know, live my life and meet somebody and kind of do the same thing.
00:07:13.760 I hope we're talking about what can be changed because this generation right now is...
00:07:17.960 That's another topic.
00:07:18.640 That's what I'm saying.
00:07:19.180 If you're fortunate enough to find someone that you can marry and settle down with and do all that, then good for you.
00:07:26.840 I don't think it's that hard, to be honest.
00:07:29.420 Really?
00:07:30.280 Yeah.
00:07:30.760 Teach me, please.
00:07:31.320 I think, well, I think a lot of women... 1.00
00:07:34.060 I love the way you speak.
00:07:34.860 It's just not that deep.
00:07:35.920 Yeah.
00:07:36.600 Yeah, it's not that deep.
00:07:37.620 Now, don't get me wrong.
00:07:38.920 Don't get me wrong.
00:07:40.700 It is hard to find a guy that meets all of your requirements as a woman. 1.00
00:07:46.340 I will say we're all pretty picky.
00:07:49.400 High standards.
00:07:50.340 Yeah.
00:07:50.820 Yeah.
00:07:51.020 In general, let's just call a spade a spade here.
00:07:54.260 Women are picky. 1.00
00:07:55.380 Men are not as picky.
00:07:57.160 And I do think it is hard for women to find a guy that meets all their requirements.
00:08:01.840 But, okay, so if a guy...
00:08:03.460 If you're saying, okay, I can't find a guy that meets my requirements.
00:08:07.300 Well, it's maybe you're not good enough, so you should probably try to be better.
00:08:10.820 Um, or, or maybe lower the requirements and get a guy that's on your level.
00:08:17.180 I would say those are, you know, if nobody's buying, you got to figure out what's the problem.
00:08:21.900 Yeah.
00:08:22.360 And either fix the problem or lower what you want.
00:08:26.220 Lower your price.
00:08:27.880 There's also a lot of women that go for guys that are emotionally unavailable. 1.00
00:08:32.540 Out of their league.
00:08:34.020 And they stick with it.
00:08:34.920 I think it's out of their league.
00:08:36.300 Yeah, that's what I think.
00:08:37.600 I think when they say emotionally unavailable, it just means he doesn't like me that much.
00:08:42.200 She's only there for his looks and more.
00:08:44.180 Yeah, so, like, she's a five, a six, maybe a seven, going for a nine or a ten.
00:08:49.380 And he's emotionally unavailable because he doesn't like her.
00:08:52.900 And he just won one thing.
00:08:54.280 There's some guys, though, if they've experienced trauma, they've got trust issues.
00:08:57.980 Like, really deep trauma or trust issues.
00:09:01.020 The women could be anything. 1.00
00:09:02.480 And actually, they still wouldn't be able to maintain it because they would purposely be avoiding, or their subconscious would, because they're afraid of abandonment and stuff like that.
00:09:10.960 I do think women sometimes pick men that aren't husbands. 1.00
00:09:14.660 Yeah.
00:09:14.900 And then get surprised when they don't act like husbands, when he wasn't raised to be a husband.
00:09:19.520 He doesn't want to be married.
00:09:20.900 I don't know why we're surprised that, you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:09:27.140 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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