Pearl Put Them On The Spot With This Question
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss dealing with the baggage that comes with being in a relationship with a partner. Do you care about your partner's past? Is it a deal breaker? Can you deal with it? How many kids can a partner have? How much baggage does a partner bring to a relationship? Can a partner be a good father to their kids? Is there baggage from a partner that could be a dealbreaker for a partner? What does it mean to have a partner with kids? What is the difference between an ex-wife and a baby mama? What are the differences between a baby mom and a Baby mama with kids. Is it possible to deal with them? How does it affect a partner's ability to be a father? How do they handle the baggage from their past? What do they deal with the drama that comes from being a single parent and dealing with children?
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is do you care about the past uh when it comes to your partner so i want the women to also answer
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and the men yep um so start here and go around definitely you care yeah okay so what what's too
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shady of a past for you um it depends when a man is too thirsty and like all the women's and
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are on him and like he's not i like individuals i like like something that is private that no one's
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like touching one you know so yeah i think that one okay go ahead i think um the truth for me is that
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you know you obviously want to accept that that person has a past just like you have a past but
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in my youth in my youth club in church when i was there in high school it was every saint has a past
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in every center as a future so i think that you kind of have to think of it in that way and like
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look at that person as yourself in a way because it's like i have a past we all have a past i know
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i have a future i'm trying to live in the present with this person so so you don't care as much it's
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not about caring or not because of course i care but does it phase me that's the question it doesn't
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is it really gonna bother us every day not really okay we're gonna work it out if that's the person
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i choose okay cool what about you um the past is definitely a concern well it would be if there's a
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lot of baggage coming from that past um you know because it can get confusing if a man has like five
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baby mothers good girl what about what about three can you get away with three that's me and three of
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them and three kids like i don't know how many baby mamas is too many like one is two and one is
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but you you could do two you could do one or no i might can you could do one yeah two two yes or no
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um i don't know it depends it depends how close they are what if they're ex-wives is that different
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well ex-wives are different in it because much stuff i think yeah it's much different yeah
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wait wait why is the ex-wives different to the baby moms because okay wait they were married before
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they had the kid yeah so it's like yeah but are we gonna continue we're gonna stick on to that one well
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i was gonna i just was curious if it's different to you well no um with an ex-wife it's kind of
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it's gone into a legal bind so if they legally you know parted it's like okay yeah all right that's
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fine so two ex-wives you could two ex-wives with kids you could deal with the two baby mamas it's
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enough it's drama because you know well there's drama either way i would say with the baby mom
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the the baby dad would go to the flat and sleep on the sofa what do you mean he's sleeping on the
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sofa so you were dating a guy yeah and then he said i'm gonna go sleep on my baby mother's sofa what
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does that even mean you know he's homeless the wife of the baby mom is a totally different yeah
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but what if he slept on the ex-wife sofa i don't think the ex-wife would don't do that because i feel
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like the ex-wife would kind of have somebody there because he's an ex-husband ex-wife so you feel like
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and in a way you're kind of saying like the ex-wife has more value than that than the baby mama
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maybe maybe because there wasn't in a contract binded and if they depart from that contract you
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know he's probably pissed off that he has to pay for the house so he ain't gonna go to the sofa is he
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what about if if the guy so if the guy is paying um child support on his two kids yeah is that it was
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that could that be a deal breaker for you no no that lets me know that he's very supportive and you know
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what if it's what if he has to live a really frugal lifestyle because of it that's what i'm saying
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like like he spends more he spends more on the on the two kids i don't mind because at least you're
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looking out for the own but i'm a bit i love going out i love doing stuff i love the high life and
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everything so if you got two baby mothers and you got child support to pay babe where am i coming into
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this how are we gonna make this happen you know what i mean and it's it's tricky like who who you know
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what i couldn't i don't think i could and i've i've just walked away from it so many times like
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okay i can deal with the one baby mom and i can see the wait wait wait you said times
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you said times how many baby family no no wow i'm thinking when i was a bit younger okay when i'm
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dating in that time but my now time now now okay so now kids are off the table not
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okay okay it depends on the man though okay okay so for the right guy how many baby moms could he
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have the right guy every okay but not two not two not two but two ex-wives he could have one ex-wife
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one ex-okay because that lets me know how much his pocket is spending out okay you know okay uh what
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about you what do you think about past yeah um no i don't think someone's past matters for me
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i don't think a man's past matters um i think if he's bringing baggage from his past then that's
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something that would have to be addressed and everything's case by case but if we're talking
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about like you're not bringing no baggage you've just been a hoe and now we're doing relationship
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i don't think i would judge him on his past what if what if he slept with one of your friends
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but it was it was just a casual one night yeah i think i think number one um if there if it was if
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it was just like a one night stand thing all right i don't care so who who here out of the girls if
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you slept with one of your friends you could you could get over it no i would get you can get over
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it i don't think you can get over it wait hold on guys you gotta have boundaries
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so i would say if like he couldn't have just slept with my friend last month and now he's trying to
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talk to me about xyz i would have to assess how my friend feels about that there would be factors to it
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but if it was there was no strings attached they both just had a fling they had a one-time thing
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there was no feeling in the situation i wouldn't i wouldn't care okay so you you you're saying no
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she said yes she said yes what do you say i no i think that if there's betrayal in anything then
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you know things always you're just left with i now have to react it wasn't a betrayal it wasn't
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a betrayal before you before me that i knew yeah yeah you're you're finding out this is you know
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the guy he's in your circle whatever he's a good guy that's the thing he slept with her a year ago
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it just happened to happen one night yeah i wasn't even thinking about yeah yeah so you could get over
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it you could get over it that's cool but you wouldn't be able to get over it i get that
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like men wouldn't be able to get over us doing that today oh oh we'll find out okay what do you think
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could you get over it um not really because i wouldn't even go to like my man's friend and
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like be with him so it's the same thing okay it's the same thing okay uh you have strong
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go ahead go ahead go ahead strong opinions wow right which which i'll start on firstly if it was with
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my friend that's a negative no no no never no because how are we should no we're not sharing the same
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no but you wouldn't be you wouldn't be sharing no she went there first then i'll be gone there yeah
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and that's my friend and then that's all too much there's a lot of men out there yeah i'm all right
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i'll keep it moving yeah i'm back to the bag of the past for me the only thing that really would
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really go for me in a part of a man's past is if there's a history because you see the you see when
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geezers are like oh yeah my ex is crazy but my other ex is crazy but my other ex is crazy yeah
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my other ex is crazy that's when it's like yeah that's when i care about your past because i'm
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like how either you just meet all crazy women or you're turning them all crazy has that happened
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to you before no yes yes oh yes how what happened yeah everyone was crazy apparently
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did you find out what he did or like or what happened he just he was one of them he just told
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a lot of lies you know when you're just telling a lot of lies and make it and this is when and he
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went for younger girls as well so they're a bit more naive and it was like he told them lies and
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telling more lies and then the lies caught up with him and then he then it was he'd keep it moving
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and be like yeah she's crazy she's crazy and i'm like yeah no you've met the real crazy now so oh so
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you were the real crazy yeah i'm the real crazy so then what did you do what did you do i said bye
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oh that's it yeah i said bye that doesn't sound crazy no of course not but apparently i've heard
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i've heard i've heard i am crazy oh so now he's saying you're crazy so it's like one of them it's
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a little pattern that that's what i mean but if he slept around or anything that you don't care
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like if he slept if he was he had a hoe phase for like i think all men have had a hoe phase
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i don't know about that one of three men are under 30 or either virgins or haven't had sex in the past
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year but my what yeah one out of every three yeah i need to talk to my friends because they're
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they have a whole pack of um yeah no but um i mean do you think the guy at tesco is really getting
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laid there's nothing wrong with tesco's oh my god there's nothing wrong with tesco