JustPearlyThings - Pearl Put Them On The Spot With This Question

In this episode, we discuss dealing with the baggage that comes with being in a relationship with a partner. Do you care about your partner's past? Is it a deal breaker? Can you deal with it? How many kids can a partner have? How much baggage does a partner bring to a relationship? Can a partner be a good father to their kids? Is there baggage from a partner that could be a dealbreaker for a partner? What does it mean to have a partner with kids? What is the difference between an ex-wife and a baby mama? What are the differences between a baby mom and a Baby mama with kids. Is it possible to deal with them? How does it affect a partner's ability to be a father? How do they handle the baggage from their past? What do they deal with the drama that comes from being a single parent and dealing with children?

00:00:00.000 is do you care about the past uh when it comes to your partner so i want the women to also answer 0.51

00:00:06.240 and the men yep um so start here and go around definitely you care yeah okay so what what's too

00:00:14.560 shady of a past for you um it depends when a man is too thirsty and like all the women's and 1.00

00:00:22.720 are on him and like he's not i like individuals i like like something that is private that no one's

00:00:28.160 like touching one you know so yeah i think that one okay go ahead i think um the truth for me is that

00:00:39.040 you know you obviously want to accept that that person has a past just like you have a past but

00:00:47.120 in my youth in my youth club in church when i was there in high school it was every saint has a past

00:00:52.960 in every center as a future so i think that you kind of have to think of it in that way and like

00:00:58.080 look at that person as yourself in a way because it's like i have a past we all have a past i know

00:01:04.000 i have a future i'm trying to live in the present with this person so so you don't care as much it's

00:01:10.400 not about caring or not because of course i care but does it phase me that's the question it doesn't

00:01:15.280 is it really gonna bother us every day not really okay we're gonna work it out if that's the person

00:01:21.440 i choose okay cool what about you um the past is definitely a concern well it would be if there's a

00:01:29.040 lot of baggage coming from that past um you know because it can get confusing if a man has like five

00:01:35.840 baby mothers good girl what about what about three can you get away with three that's me and three of 0.86

00:01:42.960 them and three kids like i don't know how many baby mamas is too many like one is two and one is 1.00

00:01:51.440 but you you could do two you could do one or no i might can you could do one yeah two two yes or no

00:01:57.680 um i don't know it depends it depends how close they are what if they're ex-wives is that different 0.99

00:02:05.200 well ex-wives are different in it because much stuff i think yeah it's much different yeah 0.99

00:02:10.640 wait wait why is the ex-wives different to the baby moms because okay wait they were married before 1.00

00:02:16.560 they had the kid yeah so it's like yeah but are we gonna continue we're gonna stick on to that one well

00:02:22.640 i was gonna i just was curious if it's different to you well no um with an ex-wife it's kind of

00:02:28.720 it's gone into a legal bind so if they legally you know parted it's like okay yeah all right that's

00:02:36.640 fine so two ex-wives you could two ex-wives with kids you could deal with the two baby mamas it's

00:02:42.000 enough it's drama because you know well there's drama either way i would say with the baby mom

00:02:52.640 the the baby dad would go to the flat and sleep on the sofa what do you mean he's sleeping on the

00:02:58.480 sofa so you were dating a guy yeah and then he said i'm gonna go sleep on my baby mother's sofa what

00:03:16.720 does that even mean you know he's homeless the wife of the baby mom is a totally different yeah 0.99

00:03:24.400 but what if he slept on the ex-wife sofa i don't think the ex-wife would don't do that because i feel

00:03:30.480 like the ex-wife would kind of have somebody there because he's an ex-husband ex-wife so you feel like

00:03:37.120 and in a way you're kind of saying like the ex-wife has more value than that than the baby mama

00:03:41.600 maybe maybe because there wasn't in a contract binded and if they depart from that contract you

00:03:47.280 know he's probably pissed off that he has to pay for the house so he ain't gonna go to the sofa is he

00:03:52.880 what about if if the guy so if the guy is paying um child support on his two kids yeah is that it was

00:04:00.160 that could that be a deal breaker for you no no that lets me know that he's very supportive and you know

00:04:06.640 what if it's what if he has to live a really frugal lifestyle because of it that's what i'm saying

00:04:12.080 like like he spends more he spends more on the on the two kids i don't mind because at least you're

00:04:17.440 looking out for the own but i'm a bit i love going out i love doing stuff i love the high life and

00:04:22.160 everything so if you got two baby mothers and you got child support to pay babe where am i coming into

00:04:26.720 this how are we gonna make this happen you know what i mean and it's it's tricky like who who you know

00:04:32.880 what i couldn't i don't think i could and i've i've just walked away from it so many times like

00:04:38.720 okay i can deal with the one baby mom and i can see the wait wait wait you said times

00:04:45.760 you said times how many baby family no no wow i'm thinking when i was a bit younger okay when i'm

00:04:54.960 dating in that time but my now time now now okay so now kids are off the table not

00:05:01.040 okay okay it depends on the man though okay okay so for the right guy how many baby moms could he

00:05:10.160 have the right guy every okay but not two not two not two but two ex-wives he could have one ex-wife 0.72

00:05:17.760 one ex-okay because that lets me know how much his pocket is spending out okay you know okay uh what

00:05:23.600 about you what do you think about past yeah um no i don't think someone's past matters for me

00:05:31.040 i don't think a man's past matters um i think if he's bringing baggage from his past then that's

00:05:37.200 something that would have to be addressed and everything's case by case but if we're talking

00:05:41.280 about like you're not bringing no baggage you've just been a hoe and now we're doing relationship 0.99

00:05:47.120 i don't think i would judge him on his past what if what if he slept with one of your friends

00:05:51.120 but it was it was just a casual one night yeah i think i think number one um if there if it was if

00:05:57.760 it was just like a one night stand thing all right i don't care so who who here out of the girls if 1.00

00:06:02.240 you slept with one of your friends you could you could get over it no i would get you can get over

00:06:06.240 it i don't think you can get over it wait hold on guys you gotta have boundaries

00:06:16.080 so i would say if like he couldn't have just slept with my friend last month and now he's trying to

00:06:21.200 talk to me about xyz i would have to assess how my friend feels about that there would be factors to it

00:06:26.960 but if it was there was no strings attached they both just had a fling they had a one-time thing

00:06:31.840 there was no feeling in the situation i wouldn't i wouldn't care okay so you you you're saying no

00:06:38.240 she said yes she said yes what do you say i no i think that if there's betrayal in anything then

00:06:46.400 you know things always you're just left with i now have to react it wasn't a betrayal it wasn't

00:06:51.360 a betrayal before you before me that i knew yeah yeah you're you're finding out this is you know

00:06:57.680 the guy he's in your circle whatever he's a good guy that's the thing he slept with her a year ago 0.99

00:07:03.440 it just happened to happen one night yeah i wasn't even thinking about yeah yeah so you could get over

00:07:08.160 it you could get over it that's cool but you wouldn't be able to get over it i get that

00:07:12.640 like men wouldn't be able to get over us doing that today oh oh we'll find out okay what do you think

00:07:19.360 could you get over it um not really because i wouldn't even go to like my man's friend and

00:07:24.960 like be with him so it's the same thing okay it's the same thing okay uh you have strong

00:07:31.200 go ahead go ahead go ahead strong opinions wow right which which i'll start on firstly if it was with

00:07:37.600 my friend that's a negative no no no never no because how are we should no we're not sharing the same

00:07:43.840 no but you wouldn't be you wouldn't be sharing no she went there first then i'll be gone there yeah

00:07:49.440 and that's my friend and then that's all too much there's a lot of men out there yeah i'm all right

00:07:53.200 i'll keep it moving yeah i'm back to the bag of the past for me the only thing that really would

00:07:59.120 really go for me in a part of a man's past is if there's a history because you see the you see when

00:08:05.040 geezers are like oh yeah my ex is crazy but my other ex is crazy but my other ex is crazy yeah 0.93

00:08:10.400 my other ex is crazy that's when it's like yeah that's when i care about your past because i'm 0.99

00:08:14.320 like how either you just meet all crazy women or you're turning them all crazy has that happened 0.99

00:08:18.880 to you before no yes yes oh yes how what happened yeah everyone was crazy apparently

00:08:31.120 did you find out what he did or like or what happened he just he was one of them he just told

00:08:36.240 a lot of lies you know when you're just telling a lot of lies and make it and this is when and he

00:08:41.440 went for younger girls as well so they're a bit more naive and it was like he told them lies and

00:08:46.000 telling more lies and then the lies caught up with him and then he then it was he'd keep it moving 0.94

00:08:50.480 and be like yeah she's crazy she's crazy and i'm like yeah no you've met the real crazy now so oh so 0.98

00:08:56.080 you were the real crazy yeah i'm the real crazy so then what did you do what did you do i said bye 0.97

00:09:00.960 oh that's it yeah i said bye that doesn't sound crazy no of course not but apparently i've heard 0.98

00:09:05.040 i've heard i've heard i am crazy oh so now he's saying you're crazy so it's like one of them it's

00:09:11.280 a little pattern that that's what i mean but if he slept around or anything that you don't care

00:09:16.080 like if he slept if he was he had a hoe phase for like i think all men have had a hoe phase 0.95

00:09:21.200 i don't know about that one of three men are under 30 or either virgins or haven't had sex in the past

00:09:26.160 year but my what yeah one out of every three yeah i need to talk to my friends because they're

00:09:34.400 they have a whole pack of um yeah no but um i mean do you think the guy at tesco is really getting

00:09:40.480 laid there's nothing wrong with tesco's oh my god there's nothing wrong with tesco

JustPearlyThings - June 10, 2023

Pearl Put Them On The Spot With This Question

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