JustPearlyThings - Pearl Quickly Saw Through This Feminist's BS

00:00:00.000 so that is very so i was a sexual health advisor for the largest trust in the uk

00:00:05.120 bpass who are the british pregnancy advisory service i don't know the number one i'd also

00:00:09.380 like to say every single person that i know that's had an abortion it was like just them

00:00:13.920 being irresponsible like it was literally just them being like i don't know a single person

00:00:18.180 well i i've in my time in my position i'd only spoken to one girl who was like

00:00:23.260 oh yeah i need an abortion but i used to know the bpass number but off by heart it's something like

00:00:27.620 oh 300 300 800 or oh 300 800 oh i mean i knew it off by heart but the first woman i ever spoke to

00:00:33.560 assisted in abortion she was a married woman she had two kids her oldest son was um disabled um she

00:00:42.200 was like even my daughter that we had was like an accident but a happy accident and she was like

00:00:47.180 she was sobbing to me on the phone she was like in her late 30s and she was like something maybe say 0.74

00:00:52.700 that's not really like natural if we're like sobbing like like if that's your reaction to it

00:00:57.940 yeah yeah yeah no no not at all but then i was like you don't need to explain yourself to me i was

00:01:02.180 like it's not my business i was like it's not my business not my opinion i was like you like you've 0.98

00:01:06.820 clearly had like a nice night with your husband your family like you've got a lot of shit going on i 0.99

00:01:10.760 was like it's not my business i was like if you want an abortion get an abortion yeah but then i've 1.00

00:01:13.800 also spoken to some women who were like really chill like hey i need an abortion as if it's 1.00

00:01:20.000 birth control yeah and i'm there like honey like that's just go just go on proper birth control you

00:01:27.380 know you know my mom was in a position where she like like most people would have advised her to get 0.92

00:01:32.520 an abortion because she was 17 and she got pregnant but um by my dad actually at the time and they

00:01:38.340 actually ended up like giving up that kid for adoption and he like he ended up being like a really

00:01:43.420 successful like sales software engineer you just got married that's why i actually have a really hard

00:01:47.380 time with it because i feel like if anyone was going to get it it could have been my mom like she

00:01:52.660 was broke she was 17 so this is very interesting um i studied under professor roger ingram if he's

00:02:00.640 ever watching which he might not be so i studied um psychology of sexual health and we did um my

00:02:07.420 personal project was outcomes of teenage conception yeah and it's proven all of the research and

00:02:13.300 you have to obviously look in the bias all the research shows that it's more harmful for the

00:02:17.780 woman the bearer of that child to have a child and give it up than it is to have an abortion what 1.00

00:02:23.760 what do you what does that mean it's more like so the woman for the rest of her life will be like 1.00

00:02:29.200 did i make the right choice is my child okay rather than being like i'm gonna have an abortion

00:02:33.740 and this is why and so i think i think a lot of times like again we're making it about us when

00:02:38.560 it's really it's not about you because there's a kid in the picture yeah so you can't you can't you

00:02:43.620 can't then but then it's like why is that kid more important than you why i mean i think in my mom's

00:02:49.780 case like he grew up to like have a really great life yeah like and so it's it kind of like rubs

00:02:54.640 me the wrong way we don't use the word i think i think that's like why it rubs me a wrong way the

00:02:58.240 little bit when people are like make it not a life because like my brother grew up and like yeah

00:03:03.700 did all these like amazing yeah and there's always gonna be but this is why so uh roger

00:03:08.140 he's a professor he's a professor he's like the best in his field um he so he literally told

00:03:14.200 everyone he was like we don't use the term pro-life right to be pro-life you would have to be a

00:03:18.300 vegetarian a vegan you won't step on an amp but you would care about that woman yeah telling you i 0.98

00:03:23.360 want an abortion because i mean you're you're either pro-choice or you're anti-abortion you're not

00:03:28.960 pro-life because to be pro-life i need you to clarify that so because i step on ants

00:03:35.420 yeah pro-life that doesn't really make sense so to be that well then you're not pro-life because

00:03:40.000 that's a life that's that's not a human life so then you're pro-human life but then if you're

00:03:44.840 pro-human but like i think it's like easily implied like like everyone everyone you know you know okay

00:03:50.560 let me just let me just let me just ask you do you do you think there's a difference between a human

00:03:54.440 life and an ant yeah i do but then it's still a life it's right but i know but like is you just

00:03:59.060 kind of trying to get like a gotcha question like oh it's a little clearly everyone everyone knows

00:04:03.280 the difference telling you yeah i want an abortion yeah why is her life less important because i don't 0.63

00:04:11.020 think just because you have a kid your life is over i also think i also think the argument is that

00:04:17.060 she's in that situation because of the decisions that she's made whereas the consequences happening

00:04:24.420 to the child which is the only innocent party arguably does that make sense but again it's

00:04:30.920 like if it's a ball of cells but also okay what if she's on contraception and she's taking it's not

00:04:35.040 even just like it has a unique dna sequence yeah like a very like you can see but then why is it

00:04:40.340 valuable if she doesn't value it why is it valuable to everyone else and then we go on to adoption

00:04:44.340 okay if these kids are valuable why are we overrun in every western community of like children get that's

00:04:53.620 it they get your so you think the kids aren't valuable if they're poor i think they're valuable

00:04:57.920 but they're clearly not being adopted by people who are pro-life there they are they are my parents

00:05:02.720 are pro-life they adopted three kids and gave up one but that's but that's just your personal

00:05:06.440 experience right there's a lot of people that want to adopt like even now like yeah it's it's but

00:05:11.080 could you let me finish um but the problem is that like the legal systems are aren't don't make it

00:05:18.520 easy yeah no no so a lot like there's families that have been waiting for years to adopt but like

00:05:23.840 they want a baby they don't want a kid that's been waiting for years oh for sure that's i mean i've

00:05:29.320 seen like i've actually seen the negative like consequences of getting a kid that's too old

00:05:33.060 it's really hard to d like if you if you get them past a certain age a lot of them come with a lot of

00:05:37.440 issues yeah like this is it yeah professor roger all the research shows so i think ideally i think

00:05:44.100 ideally like it would be better if the kids were adopted earlier rather than like growing up in

00:05:48.260 foster care that's not good for any kid yeah but then they don't get a choice in that they don't

00:05:52.140 get a say when they're born that's just a decision made for them by being forced to be born and there's

00:05:56.960 a lot of people who will joke and be like i didn't ask to be born so i was suicidal for three years and

00:06:03.440 i was like i didn't ask to be born and my mom will say to me my mom is quite unwell at the moment my

00:06:07.340 mom will say to me i wish i bought she's like i wish i bought you yeah that's really sad that's really

00:06:11.660 sad but i know she doesn't mean it i know she loves me but she's like i have so much guilt and

00:06:16.040 she was a mom who carried us to term who looked after us and she's like i still feel like i can't

00:06:21.740 provide for you and i'm like no i get it i understand that you would not have a lot of guilt you wouldn't

00:06:26.840 have a lot of like responsibility like xyz um but i'm again it's like it's also a difference i'm like i

00:06:33.380 understand that for a lot of people they're successful stories for a lot of people um but for

00:06:38.260 myself individually yeah i'm very i'm very pro-choice yeah it's not black or white it's just

00:06:43.020 like almost like we focus on like the negative stories rather than the positive like even when

00:06:47.640 me and you talking about this now like your focus immediately is well there's all these kids in

00:06:52.320 foster care that can't get adopted rather than like the story i just told you of the three dot like

00:06:56.960 right you know it's just weird how like that that's your immediate focus rather like

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JustPearlyThings - April 28, 2023

Pearl Quickly Saw Through This Feminist's BS

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