Pearl REACTS to Andrew Tate on Why YOU SHOULD NEVER Get Married
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In this episode, I react to a clip where Andrew Tate talks about why he doesn't think men should ever be married. I talk about why I don't think this is a good idea and how to fix it.
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What up, guys? Welcome to the Just Parley Things YouTube channel, and welcome to my reaction series.
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Today, I'm going to be reacting to an Andrew Tate clip, talking about why men should never be married.
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subscribe, we have beef, okay, beef people. All right, pull it up, King. You know the story told
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about, you know, one day you come home. Patrick Bette Davis, yes. Your dad comes up to you and says,
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Andrew, I'll see you in a couple of weeks, and he's out, right? In the context of what happens when
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there's a conflict and we all react in three different ways, fight, flight, freeze. In that
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context, your dad is flight. He runs out and says, I don't want to deal with it. I'm out of here. I'm
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going to do my own thing. Okay. In America, a lot of that is happening right now, where it's a
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single parent household. Kids are being raised without a mom and dad being there, and it's just
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one mom, you know, mom trying to do both. And these boys, you know, my mom couldn't tell me what to do
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from a very, once my parents got a divorce, I'm a single mother raising me. I've seen my dad every
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other week. So it's not like he has direct influence to discipline me until I went into the military.
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Yes. How much of that, like, if you were to go back and think about what if your dad didn't take
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the flight approach? What if your dad took the fight approach? What if your parents were together?
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Would it have made a difference in you? And how do you view, you know, the idea of fathers being there
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with mom and dad together, family, nuclear family, nuclear, because a lot of times this is so
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interesting. That's such a good question. Oh, marriage no longer has, you know, the, the,
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the, what it once had, you know, like kids are better off being raised with a mom and dad.
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How do you process that yourself? Cause you became successful not being there.
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Land, Patrick, land. I want to, I want to know.
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So do you see this as well? It depends. There's exceptions to the rule. How do you process it?
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I think it's a fantastic environment. And I think in an idealistic world, that's the way it would be.
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I think the reason it's not happening today is that I don't think many men
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actually benefit from marriages or relationships anymore. And people are always going to have to
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require some degree of incentive. I think that we've set up the world now in a way where men
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are seen as worker droids. They're expected to go work all day, come home, clean up as well,
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share the cleaning with the woman, not have any, not no meal prepared for them, not have any authority
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over the household and just, and just be a worker droid and be a sad. And I don't think that many people
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understand that men are intrinsically wired to desire respect amongst our peers and in our
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environments. This is why CEOs work so hard because they get respect in their company. This is why we
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all want so much money and fast cars and status and influence because we're respected men desire
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respect. Like we desire oxygen. And if a man's coming home to a household where he doesn't feel
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any respect, he's not going to want to be there for very long. And I think the way you fix this is
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you need to understand that many. Well, I think that one, we, I think just as a group,
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we, as women need to improve. And I think that's something like, we always talk about how men need
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to improve, but we never talk about how we, as women need to improve. And like the first things
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first, um, I think a lot of women, um, have not learned a basic level of respect for men. Um,
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and I think there's a lot of women that struggle with this. I think we also, a lot of us are overweight,
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like, come on y'all, we got to lose the weight. But on top of that, we need to build systems that
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incentivize men to actually get married. Um, so one of that is women becoming better wives,
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but the other part of that is creating laws that actually incentivize men to get married rather
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than make it a huge risk for men. Don't have an incentive to be in the housing. I think that it's
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actually would be quite easy for a woman. In fact, there's a couple of women who even say this on
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YouTube. I can't remember their names, but it'd be quite easy for a woman to make a man really happy
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with super basic things. Just go up to your husband and say, Hey, you know more about this. What do you think
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about this? That would make most men's world. And there's so many sexless marriages out there
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with men who work their ass off and they come home to a sexless marriage and kids who don't
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fucking even like, if you were to just even ask him this question about some asinine bull,
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a lawnmower purchase, for example, he would feel so happy to feel like the man of the house.
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That's what men need. They need to feel like all this work I'm putting in all this I'm going through.
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I'm respected for it. As soon as a man feels like he has no respect, that's the absolute end of a man's
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interest or a man's tolerance of a situation. I think that's the reason it's happening.
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I think I know a lot of men who completely love their wives. They love them with all their heart.
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They die for her, but he's just not respected in this house. He doesn't get to be the man of the
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house. Is it on him? That's so sad. And I think sometimes like women, we don't really realize how
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like, especially like I'll see, I'll see men who after like they're married for a couple of years,
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just become like a shadow of who they used to be. And it's really sad to watch because
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the woman just has all the power in the relationship. And I don't know if it's
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something that like the woman knows she's doing consciously or, or what, but I know what he's
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Like does he need to go earn it or is it on her to provide it? It's a combination of both. I think
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it's certainly on him to earn it, but also the matrix programming is counter to him.
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Yeah, that's true. Like in every single, in every single TV show we see on TV, the dad's
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a deadbeat or a doofus or something. And the woman's the smart one. So it's like, I genuinely
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think that male logic is a gift from God. And that as women, like we get so emotional within
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certain times. Like when we're feeling really emotional, we cannot see straight. And it's
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like the men that are supposed to come in and help and like guide us. But the problem is
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the programming is telling us that men aren't there to guide us, that we don't need men,
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that we are the logical ones when it's just not how we're wired. I mean, there's a reason
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we got so much debt, ladies. There's a reason. There is a reason. Like I got lucky, you know,
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and I remember actually having this conversation with my dad and they're going to call me spoiled
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in the comments, but it's fine. My dad paid for my college, right? So I got really lucky where
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I had a dad that paid for my college, but I remember I got a lot of scholarships for my
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first school. Okay. And I was a volleyball player and I played there, but I really didn't
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like the team. The team kind of bullied me a bit. I was freshman of the year for volleyball.
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So I came in, I kind of thought I was hot shit and I was hot shit in all honesty, but the team
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just did not like me. I was kind of cocky and rightfully so, you know, but so what happened
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was I transferred schools because basically because the team kind of bullied me and, um,
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you know, I mean, if you ask them, I probably deserved it, you know, I was pretty cocky,
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but, but I went to a more expensive school that probably would have left me in debt had
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my dad not paid for it. Now that's a really illogical decision to switch schools based on
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the way I felt and based on other people. Um, and I actually preferred the first school
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I was at. So in the end, I ended up being okay. Like the second school I still liked, but
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like, and I remember my dad kind of was saying, are you sure? Whatever. And I still ended up
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transferring and it was fine. But, um, long story short, had I actually reaped the consequence
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of that decision, I'd probably be in debt to this day. And it's like, we don't think
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things long-term. Like a lot of times we want to make decisions now based on how we feel
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instead of thinking the long-term. And I genuinely think it's a gift from God that God gives men
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the ability to see long-term where like women, typically we don't really see it.
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He's trying to tell him that he shouldn't be allowed to be the man of the house. That
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he shouldn't be allowed to have any kind of authority in any regard. He shouldn't be allowed
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to be able to say what happens. The matrix programming saying the absolute opposite all
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the time. And if that's getting into your woman and you don't have that much influence
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and that's getting to all your children. Right. And so like the average person spends
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six hours a day on the phone, who has more influence over your girl? You who like, so you
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work at nine to five or whatever. So you might see her in the morning at night. You, and like,
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how often are you really taught? Like, do you want to talk after a long day? No. So you're, you're
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hanging out after work, but all day she's the average girl's on her phone six hours a day.
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So this is what we're, we're taking in where the men don't realize oftentimes like how much
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that influences us. Cause again, women are more susceptible to propaganda. So men might
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see the same ad, but it doesn't influence him as much. Much influence. Now you're coming
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home to a household where everyone just thinks you're the dude who should just fucking work.
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You're just a worker droid. You're the slave. You're the robot. And your feelings don't matter.
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And your authority doesn't matter and get fucked. And this is, this is very conscious. If you watch
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any Netflix show, the mother is the smart one. And the man is the bumbling idiot.
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Correct. Turn on a show. I dare you. Turn on a family show. The mother is the one. Hey,
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hey, calm down. I'm smart. And the man's the little beer. Watch any of these shows.
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All of it. All of it. Any, any of it. All of it. They're reducing, they're reducing the man
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to just bumbling idiot. And it's very hard. I think for a lot of men to accept being a position
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of constant disrespect. I'll tell you this now. If I had to choose a long lasting marriage with a
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woman who loved me or a woman who truly respected me, I might choose respect over love. Even though
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they're the same thing for a woman because she loves you, she respects you by default. But if I
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had to choose, I'd choose respect. What would you pick? You pick respect over love. This was part of
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my red pill journey. I didn't realize that, that like men view, I do now, but I didn't at the time
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realize like that men view respect as love. Like it's more important to them than love.
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I've been through too much and worked too hard.
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Because the thing is, when we're outside in the world, we're almost always constantly battling,
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competing, trying to force that respect to be given to us. Right? So it's kind of crazy when
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you come home and the person who is meant to be closest to you, who you've let down all your walls
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for, who's, who has access to everything about you, doesn't give you that respect. That's like,
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that's like, so what's the point of doing all of this outside and then to come home to face
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an even worse battle? It's just weird. I think, I think evil women can destroy men more so than
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like anything. Like, have you ever seen a guy that's in like a dead end marriage for like five,
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10 years? He becomes like a shadow of his former self. It's really sad.
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That's the thing. Men can't destroy men. Men, a man can end another man. He can delete another man,
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but only a woman can destroy a man. Yeah. Because it's like, we have like,
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men have like the logical superpower where women have the verbal superpower and they're like
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manipulative, I guess. Like, you know how men can like have an aggress, they're like,
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they can be aggressive at their worst where women can be crazy manipulative at their worst.
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Through too much in day-to-day life to come home to my house and be having battles over asinine,
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I take care of you and I love you with all of my heart. I would die for you. If someone broke
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into this house, I would engage the invader and die. Like, please just cook dinner. Please.
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What do you want from me? What more can I do for you? Like, and once they feel disrespected,
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this is another thing about the world that a lot of people don't understand. It's disrespect that will
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drive a man to the most heinous of crimes. It's disrespect that-
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Yeah, that's so true. Oh my gosh. People always argue over respect, especially,
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oh gosh. And it's like, they'll justify the craziest behavior. I'm not even talking about
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into marriage, but like, it's like weird because my mom always raised me to like give people the
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benefit of the doubt. So like if somebody, you know, said something or something I took as rude,
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she'd be like, you don't know what kind of day they're having. Just give people the benefit of
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the doubt. But I've seen people that aren't raised in that way where they just are very
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hypersensitive to like disrespect. You know, they take everything as disrespect. And it's so crazy
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because it'll be like, to me, like the smallest things will elevate so fast over so-called like
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Parts to school shooter bullshit. It's disrespect that makes men go to jail for life sentences.
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Yo, okay. This is one thing they don't talk about. A lot of times dudes commit heinous crimes in family
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courts. That's what happened to that Chris dude who killed his family and his wife and his daughters.
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Now look at this is, he shouldn't have did this. Okay. But what happened was the wife said
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that she was going to leave him and not let him see the kids. And basically then this man just like
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snapped and went crazy and killed everybody. And a lot of guys do that where the woman is like
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dragging him through the family court system. So she'll like throw an abuse allegation at him.
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She'll throw, um, she won't like, she'll, she'll not let him see the kids for like a year or whatever.
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And the dude tries to go to court where he thinks it's like a fair system, that he has a fair shot.
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And then he goes to court being a good dad, realizing he has no fair shot. And these men often,
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like sometimes they'll, they'll kill themselves, but other times they'll commit really heinous crimes
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and the media will paint them as these like bad guys that were always horrible, but they don't
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talk about like what drove them to commit that crime. And that's not me saying that it's okay.
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It's like clearly not okay, but you know, we have to talk about, it's a real problem.
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Truly disrespect the man in a public and permanent way. That's when they switch. That's why I'm so
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respectful in public. You don't know who you're talking to. He might've got his last straw and
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you're just disrespected. Hey, you're a bitch. Anyway, you're skinny mother. Fuck you. You don't
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know. That might be the last time he heard it. Bad enough. You don't know. Disrespect is dangerous,
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right? And in a household where you're constantly. That's true. A man, he's going to end up depressed
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and sad for even accepting it. Men just want to feel respected. It's not that hard to do.
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Gosh, Andrew is such a good speaker. He is, he doesn't, he is such a good speaker.
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If you truly, I said to anyone watching this, if you truly love your man, it would be so easy for
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you to just make him feel respected. It doesn't even take actions. You can do it with basic words,
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ask his opinion on something, big him up once in a while. And because we're supposed to be Superman
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and we purport ourselves as Superman and we're stoic, but we talked earlier about how we still feel
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everything. So when you're a strong man, especially they're like, ah, he's fine. He's
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fine. He's fine. He's fine. Be nice to the dude. You'd be surprised how far you get. But this is
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why I think men walk out marriages. Cause they're like, you know what? I'm not getting any respect
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here. I get more respect from this kid stripper, 18 year old for throwing money at her that I do
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giving money to my own. Oh my gosh. It is so crazy talking to sex workers about their experiences with
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men, because there are so many that'll tell me that the men don't even really come for the sex.
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They come for that, like that basic level of respect, just someone to like, listen to them
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or, you know, act like they're paying. It's so sad. It is so sad. Where am I being respected?
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At least she's smiling at me. She ain't smiled at me in years. If you enjoyed this video and you
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want to watch the entire podcast, she's smiled at me in years. Wow. Andrew Tate is so great. He is
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like, I always look at things from an entertainer and a speaker's perspective. And it's actually so
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crazy how well thought out all of his ideas are. Uh, so let me know what you guys think
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in the comments. Like the video on your way out. How important is respect to men? Leave
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