Pearl Reveals The UGLY TRUTH Behind Divorced Men
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the court system in the UK and how women are incentivized to falsely claim child support from their ex to get custody of their kids. Why should a man have to use his life savings to fight for his kids when it's 50% his DNA? Why does a woman have to pay for her ex's legal fees? And why does she get a council house even if she loses the case?
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Come back with some of your tweets, because I do want to keep going on these. They're fantastic.
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Why does a man have to use his life savings to fight for his kids when it's 50% his DNA?
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Yeah, no, I think it's actually disgusting what they do in the court system here. I'm doing a
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documentary on the court system in the UK. Oh my God. It's actually disgusting. The more I learn
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about it, there were women are incentivized to claim that a man like abused. I just had a girl
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on the show that said that they know someone that got free housing because they went to a
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women's shelter and said they were abused and she wasn't even in a relationship. In 2013,
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when they implemented that law where they get free counsel, abuse allegations went up 200%.
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Why are we rewarding women for claiming abuse? A guy I know had financial issues and he had to pay
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for all of his ex's court fees. So he's struggling financially and she gets all of her legal letters
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and everything paid for by him. So if she wanted and she wanted to be vindictive, she could ring her
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lawyer up every day for a month and every single phone call, every single letter goes on his bill.
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Well, and they'll kick the men out of the house with the men's name on the mortgage.
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So they're still paying their mortgage in a house they're kicked out of. Like this guy I talked to
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the other day, he didn't even get to go to court for a year and a half. So he didn't see his kids
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for a year and a half and he couldn't fight it because of COVID. It pushed all the court dates back
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and she accused him of abuse even though the kid was a mile away. So a mile away, he had no rights to
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his kids. And then, um, on top of the, he ended up homeless and losing his job because he, he worked
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in electricity. So it, you know, I mean, imagine one day you're just, you know, chilling with your
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wife by the TV. Then you go one phone call and now she's kicked you out of the house. The whole
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community thinks you're an abuser. And on top of that, um, now you have to pay child support and he
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doesn't even get a day in court. Another thing that really surprised me from this guy I was talking to
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was he would, him being low on money. If he has enough money to support himself and, uh, his ex,
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then, um, she doesn't get a council house. But if she takes him to court and bleeds him dry
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and leaves him penniless, she then gets the council house. So again, she is incentivized to bankrupt
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her ex. Well, and then I always hear the, the trad, like the more conservatives, like they'll come out
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at them and be like, well, man, it's because the men aren't fighting in court. And I'm like,
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well, would, would you fight in court if you had a 10% chance of winning?
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And also the more that if the, so in the event of it going to court, you are going to lose so much
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money. So you're literally being told, right. You either settle out of court for an extortionate
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amount of money or go to court and pay double that. Meanwhile, there is no risk on the woman's side
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at all. It's the most sexist thing I've ever seen in my life. And there's no penalty either
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for her. Like, what if she, she does all that and you get the kids, is there a penalty? Does
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she then have to pay all your court fees? And I heard, um, this was before I really studied the
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system. I used to not understand. I'm like, why would not a man not fight for his kids? Like that's,
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I literally used to think that. And I used to like look down, um, also on homeless people. Like I was
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like, how could you end up homeless? You're like in your forties or fifties, like you've had so much time.
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And then I realized a lot of these guys that are homeless have just been like wrecked in the court
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system. Cause imagine like if you're 40 or 50, it's not like you're going to be able to start over
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from scratch and really get to where you don't have the energy you have. You can be blackmailed as a
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man legally. You can, so a woman can literally say to you, you either buy me a house or I'll take you
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to court. I'll bleed you dry, leave you with nothing. And then I'll get a council house. So you're
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fucked either way. And you're just sitting there like, and, and so it, to me, when I hear about
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these guys that are like, you know what, I'll talk to the kid when they turn 18, it's, it's really
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sad, but I understand where they're coming from. Cause what else is he supposed to do? And the sad
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thing is too, a guy could go through all of this, right? And maybe he doesn't get primary custody and
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he only gets, um, and he gets the kids six days a month, which is a win, right? Weekends for,
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for a guy. That's a win. And, and like half of holidays, I think that's more standard,
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whatever it is. I think that's a win. Yeah. I know that's, that's the sad part. And,
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and she can just make a call and do the same thing all over again and accuse him of abuse all over
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again. So even if he wins and he will have to pay for the fees again, correct. And so it's like,
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guys are just more logical. Like women were emotional. We're like, fight for your kids. Come on.
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Like, why would you not? But from a man's point of view, it's like, I'm going to fight. And yet
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she, unless I get, unless he gets primary custody, which is 10% of the time, she has all the power.
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I mean, like, let's be real for a man to get custody. She has to be a crackhead.
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Correct. Yeah. So I read something that hookers are more likely to get custody of their,
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I don't know. I don't quote me. That might not be true.
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We are like dirt. You know, we are dogs in, in, in, in the eyes of the law. And it's,
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it's, I really appreciate a woman standing up for us in that respect because men are just
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voiceless. And you see these fathers for justice and, you know, they're trying to make a stand,
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but they, they ain't got hope right now. You know, they need help.
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That's who I've been working with actually on the documentary. I've been interviewing a lot of them.
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Yeah. It's, it's really sad. And it's, it shows in society how they don't act like we need fathers.
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Even women, when you talk about their backup plan, if they don't have kids, it's IVF.
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That is the most selfish thing I've ever heard.
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You're going to choose to be a single mother. Like you don't think you need a dad.
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I mean, you could do it. It doesn't make it a good idea. You know, like,
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I think it's selfish. I think it goes back to like the me, me, me culture where it's me before
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the family. I want a kid so bad that I'm going to put my best interest instead of the kids,
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instead of, I don't know, lowering your standards.
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Well, you know, you're opening up a whole load of different topics there, which I think are
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fascinating. Like what is for, for a man, there is no incentive for marriage anymore.
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There is none. None. Yeah. Why? I mean, the sad part is like all of the risks that come
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with marriage from what, from what I'm learning is that you really can't avoid them. If you have
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a child, like, like the kid really isn't yours. It's really hers legally. And I understand that
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women obviously like make the decision to give life. So I understand that the part of the logic,
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but we've got no rights. Like I don't, fair enough, wait it to the woman, but give us something.
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I wouldn't even say like, I just think it's 50% his DNA. It's half his kid. It should be 50.
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I mean, if he's paying all the money, especially which many men are not, not all, but many men are
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covering all the bills and everything post the relationship. And yet they get, they get nothing
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for it. Yeah. I think a lot of men, even if it didn't work out with these, they want to take care of
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their kids. You know, um, I just don't really believe this like deadbeat dad narrative. I think
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a lot of times it's like more women, not letting men access their kids. Then we really give credit
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to. Unfortunately, children do become used as a pawn in the game. And that is the most common thing.
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Let's not act like it isn't. It's very common. One thing I found really interesting by watching
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your show that I became more aware of is the statistics and the changing of the, the, the dating
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game right now and how, um, I think, I don't know if the stats are right, but like how women
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are now less and less getting married, less and less having children before the age of
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30. And there's a bit of a crisis there in, um, you know, people aren't settling down the
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I think women are delusional. I think a lot of girls, like, we think we're hotter than we
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are. And we think we have more leverage than we do when really like by and large as women,
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we offer less than we did in previous generations, just my opinion. Um, and I think less than
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I think women tend to want traditional men. And I think men tend to want traditional women.
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You know, I know there's outliers in this, but I think by and large, like women are attracted
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to more traditional men. Men are attracted to more traditional women, but like by and large,
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like how many women virgins are there? How many virgin brides are there nowadays? How many
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women like have a cookbook, know how to cook from scratch? How many women, um, would delete
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their Instagram cause their husband told them to without arguing or even delete certain
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photographs? Yeah. And you, you comment a lot about women who post like semi nude images
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Well, you know, it's interesting. Um, okay. Do you think this is true? Cause in order for
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me to ask this question, you have to believe this is true. Do you think attention is to women,
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um, is what like sex is to men? Like women want attention.
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I think you're close on that for sure. I, I, I, not every woman, but yeah, I think there's
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like in general, there's a link that women are seeking attention. Men are seeking sex.
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So it's interesting because if you get into a relationship, you're expected to stop sleeping
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with other people, but the woman's not expected to delete Instagram. You know, the men are looked
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at as dogs if they cheat, right? But, but the women are not looked at as dogs if they have
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a provocative picture on their Instagram. And if anything, they'll die trying to defend
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it. So it's just not, it's not really a fair exchange.
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