JustPearlyThings - May 03, 2023


Pearl Reveals The UGLY TRUTH Behind Divorced Men


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

214.74828

Word Count

2,056

Sentence Count

139

Misogynist Sentences

23

Hate Speech Sentences

15


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Come back with some of your tweets, because I do want to keep going on these. They're fantastic.
00:00:04.440 Why does a man have to use his life savings to fight for his kids when it's 50% his DNA?
00:00:10.760 Why isn't he automatically given custody 50%?
00:00:14.400 Yeah, no, I think it's actually disgusting what they do in the court system here. I'm doing a
00:00:18.200 documentary on the court system in the UK. Oh my God. It's actually disgusting. The more I learn
00:00:24.600 about it, there were women are incentivized to claim that a man like abused. I just had a girl
00:00:29.180 on the show that said that they know someone that got free housing because they went to a
00:00:34.840 women's shelter and said they were abused and she wasn't even in a relationship. In 2013,
00:00:38.580 when they implemented that law where they get free counsel, abuse allegations went up 200%.
00:00:43.640 Why are we rewarding women for claiming abuse? A guy I know had financial issues and he had to pay
00:00:53.860 for all of his ex's court fees. So he's struggling financially and she gets all of her legal letters
00:01:04.560 and everything paid for by him. So if she wanted and she wanted to be vindictive, she could ring her
00:01:10.160 lawyer up every day for a month and every single phone call, every single letter goes on his bill.
00:01:15.140 Well, and they'll kick the men out of the house with the men's name on the mortgage.
00:01:20.060 So they're still paying their mortgage in a house they're kicked out of. Like this guy I talked to
00:01:25.080 the other day, he didn't even get to go to court for a year and a half. So he didn't see his kids
00:01:30.820 for a year and a half and he couldn't fight it because of COVID. It pushed all the court dates back
00:01:35.600 and she accused him of abuse even though the kid was a mile away. So a mile away, he had no rights to
00:01:42.160 his kids. And then, um, on top of the, he ended up homeless and losing his job because he, he worked
00:01:48.360 in electricity. So it, you know, I mean, imagine one day you're just, you know, chilling with your
00:01:53.560 wife by the TV. Then you go one phone call and now she's kicked you out of the house. The whole
00:01:59.080 community thinks you're an abuser. And on top of that, um, now you have to pay child support and he
00:02:05.520 doesn't even get a day in court. Another thing that really surprised me from this guy I was talking to
00:02:10.000 was he would, him being low on money. If he has enough money to support himself and, uh, his ex,
00:02:18.140 then, um, she doesn't get a council house. But if she takes him to court and bleeds him dry
00:02:23.820 and leaves him penniless, she then gets the council house. So again, she is incentivized to bankrupt
00:02:29.960 her ex. Well, and then I always hear the, the trad, like the more conservatives, like they'll come out
00:02:36.520 at them and be like, well, man, it's because the men aren't fighting in court. And I'm like,
00:02:41.520 well, would, would you fight in court if you had a 10% chance of winning?
00:02:46.160 And also the more that if the, so in the event of it going to court, you are going to lose so much
00:02:51.980 money. So you're literally being told, right. You either settle out of court for an extortionate
00:02:56.920 amount of money or go to court and pay double that. Meanwhile, there is no risk on the woman's side
00:03:03.900 at all. It's the most sexist thing I've ever seen in my life. And there's no penalty either
00:03:07.820 for her. Like, what if she, she does all that and you get the kids, is there a penalty? Does
00:03:12.340 she then have to pay all your court fees? And I heard, um, this was before I really studied the
00:03:17.600 system. I used to not understand. I'm like, why would not a man not fight for his kids? Like that's,
00:03:22.700 I literally used to think that. And I used to like look down, um, also on homeless people. Like I was
00:03:28.460 like, how could you end up homeless? You're like in your forties or fifties, like you've had so much time.
00:03:32.360 And then I realized a lot of these guys that are homeless have just been like wrecked in the court
00:03:37.320 system. Cause imagine like if you're 40 or 50, it's not like you're going to be able to start over
00:03:42.900 from scratch and really get to where you don't have the energy you have. You can be blackmailed as a
00:03:47.260 man legally. You can, so a woman can literally say to you, you either buy me a house or I'll take you
00:03:53.160 to court. I'll bleed you dry, leave you with nothing. And then I'll get a council house. So you're
00:03:59.160 fucked either way. And you're just sitting there like, and, and so it, to me, when I hear about
00:04:04.200 these guys that are like, you know what, I'll talk to the kid when they turn 18, it's, it's really
00:04:08.660 sad, but I understand where they're coming from. Cause what else is he supposed to do? And the sad
00:04:13.360 thing is too, a guy could go through all of this, right? And maybe he doesn't get primary custody and
00:04:19.260 he only gets, um, and he gets the kids six days a month, which is a win, right? Weekends for,
00:04:24.040 for a guy. That's a win. And, and like half of holidays, I think that's more standard,
00:04:28.560 whatever it is. I think that's a win. Yeah. I know that's, that's the sad part. And,
00:04:32.880 and she can just make a call and do the same thing all over again and accuse him of abuse all over
00:04:38.660 again. So even if he wins and he will have to pay for the fees again, correct. And so it's like,
00:04:44.660 guys are just more logical. Like women were emotional. We're like, fight for your kids. Come on.
00:04:49.080 Like, why would you not? But from a man's point of view, it's like, I'm going to fight. And yet
00:04:53.540 she, unless I get, unless he gets primary custody, which is 10% of the time, she has all the power.
00:04:58.860 I mean, like, let's be real for a man to get custody. She has to be a crackhead.
00:05:03.920 Correct. Yeah. So I read something that hookers are more likely to get custody of their,
00:05:09.260 I don't know. I don't quote me. That might not be true.
00:05:11.960 I would not be shocked.
00:05:13.140 I wouldn't be either.
00:05:14.320 We are like dirt. You know, we are dogs in, in, in, in the eyes of the law. And it's,
00:05:18.660 it's, I really appreciate a woman standing up for us in that respect because men are just
00:05:24.620 voiceless. And you see these fathers for justice and, you know, they're trying to make a stand,
00:05:28.580 but they, they ain't got hope right now. You know, they need help.
00:05:32.020 That's who I've been working with actually on the documentary. I've been interviewing a lot of them.
00:05:36.500 Yeah. It's, it's really sad. And it's, it shows in society how they don't act like we need fathers.
00:05:41.240 Even women, when you talk about their backup plan, if they don't have kids, it's IVF.
00:05:46.060 That is the most selfish thing I've ever heard.
00:05:47.820 You're going to choose to be a single mother. Like you don't think you need a dad.
00:05:52.720 I mean, you could do it. It doesn't make it a good idea. You know, like,
00:05:56.120 I think it's selfish. I think it goes back to like the me, me, me culture where it's me before
00:05:59.980 the family. I want a kid so bad that I'm going to put my best interest instead of the kids,
00:06:04.500 instead of, I don't know, lowering your standards.
00:06:06.820 Well, you know, you're opening up a whole load of different topics there, which I think are
00:06:10.420 fascinating. Like what is for, for a man, there is no incentive for marriage anymore.
00:06:15.520 There is none. None. Yeah. Why? I mean, the sad part is like all of the risks that come
00:06:20.440 with marriage from what, from what I'm learning is that you really can't avoid them. If you have
00:06:24.720 a child, like, like the kid really isn't yours. It's really hers legally. And I understand that
00:06:29.620 women obviously like make the decision to give life. So I understand that the part of the logic,
00:06:35.060 but we've got no rights. Like I don't, fair enough, wait it to the woman, but give us something.
00:06:40.780 I wouldn't even say like, I just think it's 50% his DNA. It's half his kid. It should be 50.
00:06:45.960 I mean, if he's paying all the money, especially which many men are not, not all, but many men are
00:06:51.260 covering all the bills and everything post the relationship. And yet they get, they get nothing
00:06:56.460 for it. Yeah. I think a lot of men, even if it didn't work out with these, they want to take care of
00:07:00.980 their kids. You know, um, I just don't really believe this like deadbeat dad narrative. I think
00:07:06.300 a lot of times it's like more women, not letting men access their kids. Then we really give credit
00:07:13.100 to. Unfortunately, children do become used as a pawn in the game. And that is the most common thing.
00:07:19.000 Let's not act like it isn't. It's very common. One thing I found really interesting by watching
00:07:22.500 your show that I became more aware of is the statistics and the changing of the, the, the dating
00:07:29.260 game right now and how, um, I think, I don't know if the stats are right, but like how women
00:07:35.700 are now less and less getting married, less and less having children before the age of
00:07:39.340 30. And there's a bit of a crisis there in, um, you know, people aren't settling down the
00:07:44.040 way they used to. Why do you think that is?
00:07:46.560 I think women are delusional. I think a lot of girls, like, we think we're hotter than we
00:07:50.840 are. And we think we have more leverage than we do when really like by and large as women,
00:07:54.580 we offer less than we did in previous generations, just my opinion. Um, and I think less than
00:07:59.820 how, what way, sorry.
00:08:00.640 I think women tend to want traditional men. And I think men tend to want traditional women.
00:08:05.600 You know, I know there's outliers in this, but I think by and large, like women are attracted
00:08:09.320 to more traditional men. Men are attracted to more traditional women, but like by and large,
00:08:13.960 like how many women virgins are there? How many virgin brides are there nowadays? How many
00:08:18.180 women like have a cookbook, know how to cook from scratch? How many women, um, would delete
00:08:22.740 their Instagram cause their husband told them to without arguing or even delete certain
00:08:27.080 photographs? Yeah. And you, you comment a lot about women who post like semi nude images
00:08:33.060 on their Instagram and that sort of thing.
00:08:34.920 Well, you know, it's interesting. Um, okay. Do you think this is true? Cause in order for
00:08:39.200 me to ask this question, you have to believe this is true. Do you think attention is to women,
00:08:42.820 um, is what like sex is to men? Like women want attention.
00:08:46.620 I think you're close on that for sure. I, I, I, not every woman, but yeah, I think there's
00:08:50.060 like in general, there's a link that women are seeking attention. Men are seeking sex.
00:08:53.740 So it's interesting because if you get into a relationship, you're expected to stop sleeping
00:08:59.820 with other people, but the woman's not expected to delete Instagram. You know, the men are looked
00:09:04.480 at as dogs if they cheat, right? But, but the women are not looked at as dogs if they have
00:09:10.400 a provocative picture on their Instagram. And if anything, they'll die trying to defend
00:09:14.640 it. So it's just not, it's not really a fair exchange.
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