JustPearlyThings - May 03, 2023


Pearl Reveals The UGLY TRUTH Behind Divorced Men

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Length

9 minutes

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214.75

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2,056

Sentence count

160

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Misogyny

23

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Toxicity

5

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Hate speech

15

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In this episode, we talk about the court system in the UK and how women are incentivized to falsely claim child support from their ex to get custody of their kids. Why should a man have to use his life savings to fight for his kids when it's 50% his DNA? Why does a woman have to pay for her ex's legal fees? And why does she get a council house even if she loses the case?

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00:00:00.000 Come back with some of your tweets, because I do want to keep going on these. They're fantastic.
00:00:04.440 Why does a man have to use his life savings to fight for his kids when it's 50% his DNA?
00:00:10.760 Why isn't he automatically given custody 50%?
00:00:14.400 Yeah, no, I think it's actually disgusting what they do in the court system here. I'm doing a
00:00:18.200 documentary on the court system in the UK. Oh my God. It's actually disgusting. The more I learn
00:00:24.600 about it, there were women are incentivized to claim that a man like abused. I just had a girl
00:00:29.180 on the show that said that they know someone that got free housing because they went to a
00:00:34.840 women's shelter and said they were abused and she wasn't even in a relationship. In 2013,
00:00:38.580 when they implemented that law where they get free counsel, abuse allegations went up 200%.
00:00:43.640 Why are we rewarding women for claiming abuse? A guy I know had financial issues and he had to pay
00:00:53.860 for all of his ex's court fees. So he's struggling financially and she gets all of her legal letters
00:01:04.560 and everything paid for by him. So if she wanted and she wanted to be vindictive, she could ring her
00:01:10.160 lawyer up every day for a month and every single phone call, every single letter goes on his bill.
00:01:15.140 Well, and they'll kick the men out of the house with the men's name on the mortgage. 1.00
00:01:20.060 So they're still paying their mortgage in a house they're kicked out of. Like this guy I talked to
00:01:25.080 the other day, he didn't even get to go to court for a year and a half. So he didn't see his kids
00:01:30.820 for a year and a half and he couldn't fight it because of COVID. It pushed all the court dates back
00:01:35.600 and she accused him of abuse even though the kid was a mile away. So a mile away, he had no rights to
00:01:42.160 his kids. And then, um, on top of the, he ended up homeless and losing his job because he, he worked
00:01:48.360 in electricity. So it, you know, I mean, imagine one day you're just, you know, chilling with your
00:01:53.560 wife by the TV. Then you go one phone call and now she's kicked you out of the house. The whole 1.00
00:01:59.080 community thinks you're an abuser. And on top of that, um, now you have to pay child support and he
00:02:05.520 doesn't even get a day in court. Another thing that really surprised me from this guy I was talking to
00:02:10.000 was he would, him being low on money. If he has enough money to support himself and, uh, his ex,
00:02:18.140 then, um, she doesn't get a council house. But if she takes him to court and bleeds him dry 0.99
00:02:23.820 and leaves him penniless, she then gets the council house. So again, she is incentivized to bankrupt 0.99
00:02:29.960 her ex. Well, and then I always hear the, the trad, like the more conservatives, like they'll come out
00:02:36.520 at them and be like, well, man, it's because the men aren't fighting in court. And I'm like,
00:02:41.520 well, would, would you fight in court if you had a 10% chance of winning?
00:02:46.160 And also the more that if the, so in the event of it going to court, you are going to lose so much
00:02:51.980 money. So you're literally being told, right. You either settle out of court for an extortionate
00:02:56.920 amount of money or go to court and pay double that. Meanwhile, there is no risk on the woman's side 1.00
00:03:03.900 at all. It's the most sexist thing I've ever seen in my life. And there's no penalty either
00:03:07.820 for her. Like, what if she, she does all that and you get the kids, is there a penalty? Does 1.00
00:03:12.340 she then have to pay all your court fees? And I heard, um, this was before I really studied the
00:03:17.600 system. I used to not understand. I'm like, why would not a man not fight for his kids? Like that's,
00:03:22.700 I literally used to think that. And I used to like look down, um, also on homeless people. Like I was
00:03:28.460 like, how could you end up homeless? You're like in your forties or fifties, like you've had so much time.
00:03:32.360 And then I realized a lot of these guys that are homeless have just been like wrecked in the court
00:03:37.320 system. Cause imagine like if you're 40 or 50, it's not like you're going to be able to start over
00:03:42.900 from scratch and really get to where you don't have the energy you have. You can be blackmailed as a
00:03:47.260 man legally. You can, so a woman can literally say to you, you either buy me a house or I'll take you 0.98
00:03:53.160 to court. I'll bleed you dry, leave you with nothing. And then I'll get a council house. So you're 1.00
00:03:59.160 fucked either way. And you're just sitting there like, and, and so it, to me, when I hear about 0.99
00:04:04.200 these guys that are like, you know what, I'll talk to the kid when they turn 18, it's, it's really
00:04:08.660 sad, but I understand where they're coming from. Cause what else is he supposed to do? And the sad
00:04:13.360 thing is too, a guy could go through all of this, right? And maybe he doesn't get primary custody and
00:04:19.260 he only gets, um, and he gets the kids six days a month, which is a win, right? Weekends for,
00:04:24.040 for a guy. That's a win. And, and like half of holidays, I think that's more standard,
00:04:28.560 whatever it is. I think that's a win. Yeah. I know that's, that's the sad part. And,
00:04:32.880 and she can just make a call and do the same thing all over again and accuse him of abuse all over 0.99
00:04:38.660 again. So even if he wins and he will have to pay for the fees again, correct. And so it's like,
00:04:44.660 guys are just more logical. Like women were emotional. We're like, fight for your kids. Come on. 1.00
00:04:49.080 Like, why would you not? But from a man's point of view, it's like, I'm going to fight. And yet
00:04:53.540 she, unless I get, unless he gets primary custody, which is 10% of the time, she has all the power. 0.99
00:04:58.860 I mean, like, let's be real for a man to get custody. She has to be a crackhead. 1.00
00:05:03.920 Correct. Yeah. So I read something that hookers are more likely to get custody of their, 1.00
00:05:09.260 I don't know. I don't quote me. That might not be true.
00:05:11.960 I would not be shocked.
00:05:13.140 I wouldn't be either. 0.53
00:05:14.320 We are like dirt. You know, we are dogs in, in, in, in the eyes of the law. And it's, 0.87
00:05:18.660 it's, I really appreciate a woman standing up for us in that respect because men are just
00:05:24.620 voiceless. And you see these fathers for justice and, you know, they're trying to make a stand,
00:05:28.580 but they, they ain't got hope right now. You know, they need help.
00:05:32.020 That's who I've been working with actually on the documentary. I've been interviewing a lot of them.
00:05:36.500 Yeah. It's, it's really sad. And it's, it shows in society how they don't act like we need fathers.
00:05:41.240 Even women, when you talk about their backup plan, if they don't have kids, it's IVF. 1.00
00:05:46.060 That is the most selfish thing I've ever heard.
00:05:47.820 You're going to choose to be a single mother. Like you don't think you need a dad.
00:05:52.720 I mean, you could do it. It doesn't make it a good idea. You know, like,
00:05:56.120 I think it's selfish. I think it goes back to like the me, me, me culture where it's me before
00:05:59.980 the family. I want a kid so bad that I'm going to put my best interest instead of the kids,
00:06:04.500 instead of, I don't know, lowering your standards.
00:06:06.820 Well, you know, you're opening up a whole load of different topics there, which I think are
00:06:10.420 fascinating. Like what is for, for a man, there is no incentive for marriage anymore.
00:06:15.520 There is none. None. Yeah. Why? I mean, the sad part is like all of the risks that come
00:06:20.440 with marriage from what, from what I'm learning is that you really can't avoid them. If you have
00:06:24.720 a child, like, like the kid really isn't yours. It's really hers legally. And I understand that
00:06:29.620 women obviously like make the decision to give life. So I understand that the part of the logic, 0.99
00:06:35.060 but we've got no rights. Like I don't, fair enough, wait it to the woman, but give us something. 0.97
00:06:40.780 I wouldn't even say like, I just think it's 50% his DNA. It's half his kid. It should be 50.
00:06:45.960 I mean, if he's paying all the money, especially which many men are not, not all, but many men are
00:06:51.260 covering all the bills and everything post the relationship. And yet they get, they get nothing
00:06:56.460 for it. Yeah. I think a lot of men, even if it didn't work out with these, they want to take care of
00:07:00.980 their kids. You know, um, I just don't really believe this like deadbeat dad narrative. I think
00:07:06.300 a lot of times it's like more women, not letting men access their kids. Then we really give credit 0.88
00:07:13.100 to. Unfortunately, children do become used as a pawn in the game. And that is the most common thing. 0.61
00:07:19.000 Let's not act like it isn't. It's very common. One thing I found really interesting by watching
00:07:22.500 your show that I became more aware of is the statistics and the changing of the, the, the dating
00:07:29.260 game right now and how, um, I think, I don't know if the stats are right, but like how women 1.00
00:07:35.700 are now less and less getting married, less and less having children before the age of
00:07:39.340 30. And there's a bit of a crisis there in, um, you know, people aren't settling down the
00:07:44.040 way they used to. Why do you think that is?
00:07:46.560 I think women are delusional. I think a lot of girls, like, we think we're hotter than we 1.00
00:07:50.840 are. And we think we have more leverage than we do when really like by and large as women, 0.96
00:07:54.580 we offer less than we did in previous generations, just my opinion. Um, and I think less than
00:07:59.820 how, what way, sorry.
00:08:00.640 I think women tend to want traditional men. And I think men tend to want traditional women.
00:08:05.600 You know, I know there's outliers in this, but I think by and large, like women are attracted 1.00
00:08:09.320 to more traditional men. Men are attracted to more traditional women, but like by and large,
00:08:13.960 like how many women virgins are there? How many virgin brides are there nowadays? How many 1.00
00:08:18.180 women like have a cookbook, know how to cook from scratch? How many women, um, would delete 1.00
00:08:22.740 their Instagram cause their husband told them to without arguing or even delete certain
00:08:27.080 photographs? Yeah. And you, you comment a lot about women who post like semi nude images
00:08:33.060 on their Instagram and that sort of thing.
00:08:34.920 Well, you know, it's interesting. Um, okay. Do you think this is true? Cause in order for
00:08:39.200 me to ask this question, you have to believe this is true. Do you think attention is to women, 0.97
00:08:42.820 um, is what like sex is to men? Like women want attention. 1.00
00:08:46.620 I think you're close on that for sure. I, I, I, not every woman, but yeah, I think there's
00:08:50.060 like in general, there's a link that women are seeking attention. Men are seeking sex. 0.97
00:08:53.740 So it's interesting because if you get into a relationship, you're expected to stop sleeping
00:08:59.820 with other people, but the woman's not expected to delete Instagram. You know, the men are looked
00:09:04.480 at as dogs if they cheat, right? But, but the women are not looked at as dogs if they have 1.00
00:09:10.400 a provocative picture on their Instagram. And if anything, they'll die trying to defend
00:09:14.640 it. So it's just not, it's not really a fair exchange.
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