JustPearlyThings - May 03, 2023


Pearl Reveals What Men Love In Women


Episode Stats

Length

6 minutes

Words per Minute

218.76111

Word Count

1,435

Sentence Count

102

Misogynist Sentences

16

Hate Speech Sentences

3


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.640 Why is it that you bring that to the table?
00:00:04.260 Like, because a lot of people have controversial opinions,
00:00:08.060 but they don't feel like there's any point
00:00:09.640 in putting it out there
00:00:10.620 because they can't be bothered with the hassle.
00:00:12.540 Yeah, I've just always been that girl
00:00:14.540 that gave her opinion when no one asked, to be honest.
00:00:18.360 I would say a lot of the things I say are basic
00:00:20.920 and I grew up as just those are basic.
00:00:23.360 Like, for example, I always say that,
00:00:26.200 and I say this in no offense to you,
00:00:28.000 but my mom always taught me as a woman,
00:00:30.400 like, you shouldn't get tattoos.
00:00:31.920 And I felt like that was like a basic truth.
00:00:34.420 Like, men don't typically like girls with like sleeves.
00:00:37.080 And to me, that's just like something I was grown up with.
00:00:40.420 So I'll tweet it and then people get mad.
00:00:42.120 Well, the interesting thing about you is you've said things
00:00:45.100 like a woman's place is in the kitchen.
00:00:46.700 Watching you build a production company, build a business,
00:00:50.000 be the lady at the forefront of that business
00:00:52.920 who people have to listen to and the boss,
00:00:54.840 and then hear you to be coming up with these old school things.
00:00:58.860 I'm like, but your role in your life is kind of at odds
00:01:02.700 with some of your opinions.
00:01:03.800 Is that not right?
00:01:04.660 That's interesting.
00:01:05.500 I've gotten that criticism a lot.
00:01:07.160 I wouldn't say it's criticism, by the way.
00:01:08.600 Well, yeah.
00:01:09.120 I mean, observation maybe better.
00:01:11.780 And I would say, yeah, I think it's grown,
00:01:13.500 it's blown up a little faster than I thought.
00:01:15.340 And it came with a lot of problems that I wasn't expecting.
00:01:18.300 And I would say I also have a lot of room to grow and learn.
00:01:21.520 This last year, I've actually taken it upon myself
00:01:23.760 to learn how to cook better.
00:01:26.140 I just did a white, we started a second channel
00:01:28.080 called Wife School, where I actually, I learn.
00:01:30.820 And so I was kind of, I was thinking about this.
00:01:32.800 I was like, who else could figure out how to make it their job,
00:01:35.760 how to be a better wife?
00:01:37.200 I love it.
00:01:38.320 I do, because I kind of did a lot of the same.
00:01:40.600 I kind of see like what you're doing
00:01:42.040 is you're taking your interests
00:01:43.300 and you're turning them into a career.
00:01:45.580 Just like I did with boxing or whatever, you know?
00:01:48.080 So I admire your admission of like,
00:01:52.320 maybe I need to learn this.
00:01:53.480 So I'm just going to do it in public.
00:01:54.800 And if people want to shame me, then so be it.
00:01:57.740 Like, I don't know this, I don't know that.
00:01:59.340 Yeah.
00:01:59.960 No, I just did a wife's school episode
00:02:01.920 where it was like going through
00:02:03.720 what I would cook for my husband in a day.
00:02:05.620 And I fed my whole staff.
00:02:08.020 So like we went through and like what you would cook
00:02:10.380 for like a family of four,
00:02:11.600 because I want four kids.
00:02:12.480 Wow, you've really made your mind up.
00:02:14.700 I like it.
00:02:15.420 Yeah, I mean, ideally, you can't really.
00:02:18.020 Yeah, and it's weird
00:02:19.240 because you're in a relationship type show
00:02:22.020 where it's constantly picking apart
00:02:24.560 what men and women should expect from one another
00:02:26.720 and where the truth is.
00:02:28.860 I would say it's more like
00:02:29.960 based on the outcomes you want.
00:02:31.940 So a lot of times, like as women,
00:02:34.360 we demand traditional outcomes,
00:02:36.140 but we don't have any traditional skills.
00:02:38.780 So it's like, how would you demand that?
00:02:40.420 I don't really care if you want a modern outcome.
00:02:42.700 Like that's not really my problem.
00:02:44.300 Like you live your life how you want to live your life.
00:02:46.480 But if you're asking for traditional outcomes
00:02:49.020 and you don't have a traditional resume,
00:02:50.760 how are you supposed to get that?
00:02:52.540 And the first step is admitting you don't have that
00:02:54.800 and then working on skills to get there.
00:02:58.240 Yeah.
00:02:58.820 And it does feel like you call people out on your show
00:03:02.820 for kind of wanting their cake and eating it.
00:03:06.660 A lot of girls come in with this like,
00:03:09.120 well, I won't expect this from a man
00:03:10.760 and that from a man.
00:03:11.440 And you're like, okay, but what are you bringing?
00:03:13.480 And I've seen girls who thought they were a 10.
00:03:16.220 Oh my gosh.
00:03:16.800 And like one girl in particular,
00:03:18.500 there was a clip that went viral where,
00:03:19.960 you know, she was what people would class as overweight.
00:03:23.120 You know, and you kind of-
00:03:24.380 A whale.
00:03:26.040 Yeah.
00:03:27.100 She was a bigger girl.
00:03:28.200 Whaling it, yeah.
00:03:28.860 And look, and some men would love that, obviously,
00:03:31.100 but like, you know, she had a-
00:03:32.540 Not really.
00:03:33.120 Her perception of herself in reality,
00:03:35.500 you were kind of having to drop some truth on her
00:03:38.320 in that moment.
00:03:39.220 But not just that,
00:03:40.000 there's women who expect men to have six packs,
00:03:42.500 high income, yada, yada.
00:03:43.880 The whole works.
00:03:44.840 And you're looking at them like,
00:03:46.000 but what are you though?
00:03:47.460 And a lot of times,
00:03:48.680 I grew up in a 1% family.
00:03:50.940 So my dad owns a software company
00:03:52.680 with like 200 to 300 people.
00:03:55.620 Most of my brothers make six figures.
00:03:57.400 And I just know like,
00:03:59.740 they would never get in the door.
00:04:01.100 Not even about,
00:04:02.000 I mean, that girl based on her looks.
00:04:03.960 But a lot of the girls,
00:04:04.840 a lot of the girls,
00:04:05.780 they wouldn't get in the door
00:04:06.620 based on how they carry themselves.
00:04:08.220 You know what men are looking for.
00:04:10.840 I know what those type of guys are looking for.
00:04:13.500 Like again,
00:04:14.340 like even with the tattoo thing,
00:04:15.900 like some guys want the girls with the sleeves.
00:04:18.460 They don't care.
00:04:20.220 But like where I'm from,
00:04:21.800 that's just not,
00:04:22.780 you know, for girls,
00:04:23.560 that's not a big thing.
00:04:24.560 I feel bad.
00:04:25.140 I feel like I'm picking on you.
00:04:26.000 No, no.
00:04:26.540 Look, it's fine.
00:04:28.460 It's fine.
00:04:28.820 You can bully me at this point.
00:04:30.560 I've seen how you rule the roost.
00:04:32.320 But one thing that does seem to ring true about you
00:04:34.820 is you seem very aware that
00:04:36.920 men want to be respected
00:04:39.420 and you have a better understanding of men
00:04:41.580 than a lot of women do.
00:04:43.280 And you also understand men's problems with women.
00:04:46.100 It's as if you've been a man
00:04:47.300 and been in a relationship with a woman.
00:04:49.020 You clearly have done research.
00:04:50.660 Where did you come up with this information?
00:04:53.400 A couple of different places.
00:04:54.680 One was my relationship with my little brother.
00:04:58.540 His name's Adam.
00:04:59.940 And me and Adam,
00:05:00.780 Adam is like what I would call
00:05:02.260 like a natural like alpha or,
00:05:04.280 you know, leader.
00:05:05.960 Adam, it's like his way or the highway.
00:05:08.380 And a lot of my sisters like
00:05:09.920 would always fight with Adam.
00:05:11.760 Like Adam was,
00:05:12.420 he just,
00:05:12.920 if you don't do it Adam's way.
00:05:14.060 And what I realized was
00:05:15.000 me and Adam always got along
00:05:16.660 and we didn't when we were younger.
00:05:18.380 And what switched was
00:05:19.660 I just started to stop arguing with him
00:05:21.680 and I just listened to him
00:05:22.820 and took his opinion.
00:05:23.740 And what I realized was
00:05:24.500 I was like,
00:05:25.600 he was willing to do like more for me
00:05:28.620 than I realized.
00:05:29.700 Like he,
00:05:30.400 there's no one that helps me more
00:05:31.800 like behind the scenes
00:05:32.820 than my little brother Adam and my dad.
00:05:35.040 And it's because I genuinely like
00:05:36.560 respect their opinion
00:05:37.460 and listen to them.
00:05:38.500 And it was a really big like
00:05:39.640 turning point for me
00:05:40.640 in my relationship with Adam.
00:05:41.740 It was like when I was like 12.
00:05:42.780 So this was years ago,
00:05:43.820 you know,
00:05:44.220 but where I would always argue
00:05:45.880 and like fight with him
00:05:46.820 than when I just listened to him.
00:05:48.180 And it's also from being on the show
00:05:49.660 where I just started to realize
00:05:51.260 like a lot of times girls,
00:05:52.680 we just cap a lot.
00:05:55.020 And it's just,
00:05:55.780 then I started to feel like a guy
00:05:57.040 because even when I was recruiting
00:05:58.180 for the show,
00:05:59.020 it was like the guys
00:06:00.800 would show up on time.
00:06:02.580 The girls,
00:06:03.220 we would start the show
00:06:04.020 like an hour late
00:06:04.780 because all the girls
00:06:05.380 are like 45 minutes,
00:06:06.600 an hour late.
00:06:07.360 So I would just say
00:06:09.020 it's from partially
00:06:09.780 from like dealing with women
00:06:10.900 on the show,
00:06:11.940 my family and,
00:06:13.320 you know,
00:06:13.500 past relationships too.
00:06:14.800 I haven't always been perfect
00:06:15.980 and you know,
00:06:16.680 you learn from that.
00:06:17.700 As many of you know,
00:06:18.380 I was just banned on TikTok
00:06:20.500 and we are demonetized
00:06:22.220 on a daily basis
00:06:23.460 on this platform.
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