Pearl's Message To Politically Correct People
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about beauty standards, feminism, dating apps, and why men are more picky than women. We also talk about the fact that men swipe right on dating apps more often than women and why that matters.
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Feminism, you know, with feminism, women say like, oh, I can do whatever I want, when I want, how I want, so like, you know, I can underdress myself.
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But it's interesting because feminists complain the most about beauty standards, but it just seems like they care the least about them.
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Well, wouldn't their view just be like, well, I don't have to bother because why would I let a man dictate how I look?
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Yeah, they'll say, oh, women have such high beauty standards.
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It's so hard for women because of the beauty standards Instagram.
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And, you know, while I can sympathize, it's like if we really cared, wouldn't we be more put together and way less?
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I think it's because there's a lot of activists now in feminism and they're trying to prove that.
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They feel like all women do what they do for men.
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Yeah, but because there's that lining of doing things for men, a lot of feminisms now are like, they don't want to do it just because they feel like it's doing it for a man.
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Is it even such a bad thing, even if they were doing it for men, though?
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Because, like, you get guys who work out because they want to look ripped for women.
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Yeah, it wouldn't be that terrible, to be honest.
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It's like, if you know, if you like someone and you want to, you know, wear something and you think it's going to be like, yeah, it's not like, no, no, I'm wearing this, just, you know, you want to feel good, but you also, you know, want to be nice for other people.
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Whose beauty standards are higher, men or women?
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You have to pick one, pick one, pick one, pick one and tell me why.
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I think maybe men have higher beauty standards.
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I think it's because they see a lot of women and they now begin to compare, make comparisons between different types of women.
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And it's like, when they see a particular woman, look in a particular way, is they would compare another woman to the woman that they've seen.
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But you think that men have higher standards for women, not that the men have the higher standards they have to live up to, just to clarify.
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So like the women have higher beauty standards to me.
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And that's what's making women feel like they need to comply with these standards.
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What percent of the time do you think men swipe right on dating apps?
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What percent of the time do you think women swipe right on dating apps?
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Do you think men are very like, if they've got a certain standard, they're more rigid.
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What percent of the time do you think men swipe right on dating apps?
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So men swipe right 60 to 70% of the time, where women, what percent of the time do you think
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What percent of the time do you think women swipe right?
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I was actually, I thought the male one was actually going to be a bit higher, to be honest,
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because a lot of guys, well, not a lot of guys, but guys have sometimes have this strategy
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before the algorithm started clamping down that they would just swipe on everything and
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But how could you say that women are, that men are pickier if women only swipe right 5% of the
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Because they're talking about the, they're talking about the top 1% men, aren't they?
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Those top 1% men, those chads, they're really picky, but that's all they're bothered about.
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They're not bothered about the other guys who aren't getting a look in anyway.
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What, what percent of men do you guys think are sexually active?
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I feel like it's not that much of a high percentage.
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I don't know the percentage though, but I feel like it's lower than women's.
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What percent of men do you think are sexually active?
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God, I'm being very bad manners for a person, aren't I?
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I'm curious what, can you tell them a little bit about your experience like coaching men
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I write, but I coach guys to get traction in terms of dating.
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And the dating marketplace is very tough out there now for everybody.
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But, you know, a lot of guys, they just really don't get a look at, you know, and I think
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A lot of women think, oh, men are just, you know, that it comes as easily to men as it
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And it really doesn't, you know, because a woman basically, unless she's irredeemably
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unattractive for some reason, can pretty much go out and probably attract somebody that
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With guys, that's not necessarily the case, unless they happen to be either, you know,
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top whatever percentile in terms of looks, or they have social status or they're famous,
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So a lot of guys, and a lot of guys sort of who fall below that find it very, very hard
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And then when you add on top of that, a sort of a lack of social skills or a lack of confidence,
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a lack of ability to sort of overcome some of the other difficulties they might have.
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You know, there are guys who are really, really finding it very tough.
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And we seem to be coming into this environment now where, you know, the rich get richer,
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So the guys who are at the top who are getting traction, they're getting more and more market
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And then the guys at the bottom are getting less and less.
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And that's why we've got this issue of guys who are frustrated.
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And there's, you know, there's sort of the insult thing online and everything like that,
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So I think it's pretty tough out there for a lot of average sort of dudes, I think.
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Like, yeah, one out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year.
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But so it's funny because a lot of girls like think that men are pickier than women, but
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I mean, think about out of every 10 men, how many are you really attracted to?
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Is anyone here, would you, anyone here say that they're not picky?
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So then wouldn't you say that men have higher beauty standards they have to live up to?
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Haven't you heard women say they won't date short men?
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So two inches shorter than you, any of you doing it?
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And I like to wear heels, so it's not going to work out.
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I think looks-wise, it has got tougher for guys.
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And I think, you know, maybe you could say, well, we've had it coming because the guys
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You know, again, look through Instagram, dudes with six packs, chiseled, you know, features,
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And the way that social media has worked and the way that the dating apps has worked has
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meant that women are now looking at these apps and they're looking at all these like top
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guys, you know, top percentile guys are like, oh, that guy's super hot.
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And then the bloke who doesn't have those attributes doesn't measure up.
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So she's thinking, well, I want this guy at the top.
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So now guys are being encouraged to level up, you know, which is not altogether a bad
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Because self-improvement is good for everybody.
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You know, we should all be doing what we can do to improve ourselves every day, right?
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But at the same time, I think it has got tougher for guys.
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And then in a society like here, like in the UK, there's a lot of guys who are very thirsty
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and, you know, and they will, they, they will drop their standards, you know?
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How, so do you ever teach guys to like cold approach women?
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And what percent of women are receptive would you say to, I mean, like you've been doing
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Um, it, like he has to go through how many girls to get a number.
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You know, there are certain places, like if you're in like Latin America, it's a lot
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I don't, I maybe not, but you know, Latin culture is a bit more like open.
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They play the card, like, you know, Latin lover.
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But to answer the question, um, you, you have to be prepared to go through a lot of rejection,
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you know, like if you're an average guy and you're, you're going to talk to a woman in
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a coffee shop or a, you know, a bar or bookstore or the grocery store, whatever it is, you know,
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you are going to go through, through rejection.
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Um, in fact, rejection is, is the rule and the exception really is to get, is to get accepted,
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You know, it's a question of accepting that being okay with that, being confident and
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working on yourself every day in order to be the best possible man that you can be.