Pearl's Most Controversial opinion
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the importance of parenting in the modern world and how we need to move with the times. How do we discipline our children? How can we make sure that our children are raised in a safe and caring environment? What role do we play in educating our children and how can we ensure that they grow up with the values that our parents instilled in them?
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like he said you need to move with the times because people may have the similar
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foundations to what they would have had before but the ideals and what the way
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people see the world is different so you need to communicate with them
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differently so we can't just try and discipline people the same way and give
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them certain morals that no longer are valued in the world that they in today
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because as much as you want to influence that person there's a million other
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people and a million different things that they see every single day that
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influences them even more than you you're just one voice out of so many so
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again like he said it's about evolving with the times we can't go back
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how do you evolve what do you mean evolved i think we need to explain the fact that
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the new generations believe extremely in the freedom of expression the freedom of
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self you are who you are you have your opinion that's why a lot of people so if
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people are believing in freedom of expression people are believing in the
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freedom of self you need to actually speak to people in a way where you still
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going to say to encourage that but you're going to also try and supplement
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that you can't force and you can't say this is how it should be this is how it's
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going to be instead potentially start doing things a little bit more
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entertaining that that communicate with what they know such as one thing that
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again i was a teacher i know that she was i was a special education like measure
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myself with anyone i'm explaining things from my experience and what my
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perspective on this is the point is people switch off the moment that things
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don't seem interesting to them so you need to speak to them on the level and
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speak to them in a language that they speak that's why he'll say people right now
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if you go as an adult i've had to had serious challenge with kids because they
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don't respect my authority because i'm an adult
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let me not let me not tell you are you no nigerian do not go against some of the
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ideals that your parents wrote you up with to an extent but all i'm saying is
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you've like someone said at the start this whole thing your foundations they
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start home if your parents are swearing 24 7 you're going to pick that up if your
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parents are holy you're gonna pick that up whether you now go to a different
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community or whatever and you learn from that community it's then now up to you
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to decide what you're gonna do kind of thing yes i learned from my stuff at home
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the foundations and yes i've learned from other people but if i now go with what
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i've learned in my communities where i grew up i'd be wayward right now and that's
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the facts of the matter but the issue now is that people both parents work now so
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people kids are raised by the state like we all got our idea of how uni was from
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american pie we get ideas from dating from tv we all get so you know as much as i
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understand auntie's sentiments i think you can't really turn back that clock for a
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number of reasons you don't really have lifetime jobs like that so people are way
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more mobile than they used to be you know there's all these there's all these
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international factors that that kind of mean that communities can't can't be as
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stable and last as long as they used to be back in the day
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you don't have to have your kids have a phone and also like if you don't if you
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don't like the school if you don't like the school system there's i mean i don't
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know how it works in the uk but like in the us you can homeschool yeah you can
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and you can raise them in an environment where you're like you have relatives and
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you have good people that are influencing them around like around them but you
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shouldn't exclude people in society that people wants to be friends with their kids
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you're not friends no no absolutely you're not friends yeah but you know what you know
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why that is because a lot of these people are having kids while they're still kids
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themselves that's the problem yeah that's one but plus two when this new modern
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day where it's like oh you can't do this you can't do whatever but at the end of
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day you've got to discipline your kid and they should discipline each other bring back
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bullying if you were if you weren't called ugly once in your childhood it was too good bring back
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that's why i think it's so important to have like masculine role models in in culture because
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i think right now a lot of our issues are from you know the mainstream media kind of
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feminizing men yes and so these boys are growing up and i was a teacher as well
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wait wait what are you talking okay what do you what do you explain
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nowadays nowadays men are just like us petty men are just like yeah because we we made them that way
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because because no no no how many times has girl have girls said i want a guy that's emotionally
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available it's crazy because we only fight for men's rights when it benefits us because we
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like we want them to be more emotionally available for us we don't like that it's not even about
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how many men are now the ones leeching off the woman like that's feminine to me
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okay okay if you if you okay okay okay okay if you like bums speak for yourself
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like if you're dating bums that's on you that like most women are more broke than men even if they
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out earn and we outspend them we make 70 to 80 percent of consumer buying decisions we own two
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thirds of the world's debt we we don't make good monetary decisions how are you going to go to men
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and say you guys are the broke ones we're the broke ones we don't know how to manage our money
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and we make less in the uk i don't think it's quite like that a lot of women the uk actually
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you're right you're just whatever no no okay you're you're correct you're correct you're correct
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like like some women under 30 like do out earn men in certain cities
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but we still outspend them so it's like you think you're the ship but you outspend them
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well i make my money i'll spend for me and then not only that because we outspend it because we
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got financial power then that's why a lot of men now see that as a plus and they start leeching off
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it again feminization no no no again again again again if you like bums speak for yourself
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can i say something so basically like let's go back to traditional homes so a man is basically
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like he's the head of the family he he like pays for everything right or like sometimes if your mom
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wanted to go grocery shopping or get stuff for the house or manage the house your dad would give her
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the money and then she would manage it would she not like she would be like okay this goes for
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groceries this goes for this this goes for that so how could you say like women are bad at managing
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money because because because statistically we are we hold most of the words world's debt we make
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most of the consumer buying decisions we we hold most of the world's debt that's why we're bad with
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money where even though we make less money where is it found you can you can literally google it
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which country you can live it's a worldwide we all hold two-thirds of the world's debt or the world's
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debt worldwide okay guys guys guys okay let's just let's just take anecdotally how many of us
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have our freaking nails done here let's just anecdotal like that's what i'm saying we spend money on
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stupid shit what do you think what does she think she ain't said nothing of what like about the
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conversation yeah but what part there's been a lot of this all right so about like girls like spending
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money on junk and stuff like that would you you agree with that or yeah i feel like the the um world
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that we're living in at the moment is like really consumer based like social media adverts you talk
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about something it pops up um i don't know too much about statistics of men and women but i i would
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believe yeah can i make a can i make a point where a lot of times the the phrase the world is being
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used a lot the world the world the world i think it's important to say that this is largely the
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modern west thank you yeah this is not the majority of the world i'd even say that it's very big city
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based right london the london's the new york city's the la's the miami's the mentality and the society and
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the culture there versus even within the same country in in more rural areas or smaller towns or
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villages the mentality is very very different let alone in developing parts of the world so-called
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second and third world countries you know there's different types of people everywhere but the
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mentality is very different i think that a lot of this is very much based on actually a small
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microcosm of society and we're speaking as if this is kind of like everyone and i don't think it is i
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i think it's the it's the i would say big city modern mentality i would say i agree with you 100%
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like because obviously for my experiences and everything i really talk from uk london and then
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the usa but the thing is with um the western side of the world the areas you're talking about they have
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the biggest influence yeah that you're saying worldwide so it is relevant to talk about these
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these regions yeah i know i'm certainly saying it's relevant i'm just i'm just saying i think
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it's important to be aware for ourselves and for the audience that this is not the it's not like a
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global norm yeah a lot of what we're talking about is actually a global anomaly even when you're talking
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about you know oh you know single single mothers it's like that's not the global norm the usa has the
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highest single parenthood rate in the entire world right usa number one that's probably not one that they
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should be too proud of i mean in many many countries like it's it's very rare yeah even now in
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2022 it's rare yeah because in countries if you're a single mom you're done you're done bro yeah but
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yeah it's also the culture though it's what's normalized yeah you know and i think one one of
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the big issues we have in the west and it goes beyond this issue but it's like we don't even strive
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for a good standard anymore and i think that's a problem right it's one thing to have a standard
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and for people to and understand some people are going to fall short of it right and we we do this
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with everything right even with with health and fitness oh you can be healthy at any size body
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positivity fat except it's like no it's bad to be obese right yeah like let's not be don't get
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canceled i can't be canceled bro like i'm immune to this but like but with everything it seems like
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we're just saying okay well some people are struggling to meet the standard so let's abolish
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the standard yeah right and i think that's a really dangerous mentality because you can just see how the
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culture is sliding and sliding and sliding into this descent and at some point you need to say tell
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people look guys we need to we need to step this up people need to take responsibility people need
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to take accountability we need to empower people individually and we need to take accountability we
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can all do better men women everybody it doesn't need to be it to me it's an adult thing men men are
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forced to take accountability women don't yeah but even a lot man there's a lot of we can't pretend
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there aren't millions of men who are also running running screaming from it
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you guys are telling me there are not millions of men who are running from accountability and responsibility
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hold on hold on hold on hold on hold on my people
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listen yeah okay first of all what i've noticed in my life yeah
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if you want to talk about a lot of guys running away from accountability
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a lot of times like for instance with the single mother thing yeah which is a huge thing in society
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right a lot of times these single these that these guys that are creating these single mothers
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they'll have multiple baby mamas bro multiple these are the guys that women are gravitating to
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even if they know they are adding themselves to a roster of four
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let me add myself as well because he's six foot four because he's cute because he's funny
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bro like come on bro like i don't think it's like the majority of guys i don't even think it's
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even 50 percent of guys who are just running around recklessly
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that would be insane it's still millions i said millions it's millions
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yeah i can still represent a small percentage though
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yeah i never said it didn't yeah i'm just saying
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yeah yeah but when it's like i don't know what 30 40 percent of women
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where it's like maybe five ten percent of guys like who's really the problem
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if it's if it's and even i i man it's more than 10 percent of young men that are not taking proper
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responsibility no i i would disagree because it's not
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what percent what percent what they're not doing anything they're not even chasing proper careers
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let me let me let me let me let me what percent of men actually get laid
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the other the other guys guys face consequences for their decisions like that's the whole point is like
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sure like like men when they make a bad decision they always have a consequence women don't and that's why
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the women are worse because one one gender has consequences one doesn't
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and to say and to say it's like equal i just think isn't like fair because like men when they
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make a bad decision they have the consequence immediately where women don't we're bailed out
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of everything how are we bailed out of everything okay okay okay every bad decision that you make
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you're bailed out of if you want to sleep around there's birth control if you get pregnant you don't
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want to keep it there's an abortion if you get pregnant and you want to get married to the guy and
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leave and take half you can do that and you can do it under the guise of being happy and you
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know and society will accept you and some simple probably marry you after and then and then on top
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of that if you're if you're bad with your money what are you going to do you're going to go to a
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women's shelter or the government will pay you if you also if you leave and you're a single mother
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and you're the fifth baby mama or whatever you can also go to the government they'll pay you
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oh you can cheat you're right you can cheat and if you cheat and if you cheat what'll happen oh people
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will ask you well why did she cheat da da da da da where men's just where men are just a dog
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yeah what is that that these systems are put into place because it is a man's world because
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us as women are my now are minorities no that's just that's just that's just that's just lazy
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that's just lazy we're not minorities we're the majority we're 55 of the population majority but like in terms of status men rule the world
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so therefore we do the things that you don't want to do
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have you noticed that like modern women always have an answer you could be like two plus two is four
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and she'll be like yeah but you know in my experience me and my girls
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five you know and so but i wanted to ask pearl and zibi an actual question right okay sure so we're
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