JustPearlyThings - Pearl's Solution For Stronger Marriages

00:00:00.000 I've spoken to women that have had, like, I don't know, six-year situationships on and off,

00:00:05.360 or between every relationship, and that's, like, how they keep their, like, body count low or whatever.

00:00:10.300 It's, like, a say-so.

00:00:11.300 They'll, like, go back to the last.

00:00:13.140 And it kind of, so, it kind of makes sense, you know what I mean?

00:00:16.720 Keeping your body count low, 100%, but you don't have to do that.

00:00:19.320 You can just use a toy.

00:00:19.920 Ain't that toxic?

00:00:21.940 Yeah, no, no.

00:00:23.340 Yeah, because, like...

00:00:24.020 If you're going back to past situations that may have not been good, that's toxic.

00:00:26.960 Yeah.

00:00:27.660 Use the toy.

00:00:28.700 You're going to meet a new guy going forward.

00:00:30.280 To relive your trauma.

00:00:31.440 That's too much toxicity that you're going to bring to the new guy that you may meet, and then your trauma.

00:00:36.900 Yeah, and, like, and any time you mess up, he's sitting there waiting.

00:00:41.080 He's sitting there waiting.

00:00:41.920 He's sitting there waiting.

00:00:42.840 It's a mess.

00:00:43.740 Now, you've got to get rid of all the exes, you know?

00:00:46.380 Everyone's got to come off.

00:00:47.660 Yeah, but they are, usually, usually the guys are the ones that are on standby.

00:00:52.740 They're waiting, and...

00:00:53.740 You know why?

00:00:54.600 Men will always be on standby.

00:00:56.060 They're always.

00:00:56.580 And I know what they want.

00:00:58.020 I'm not saying that I'm fooled, but...

00:00:59.860 And you know why it works for women, yeah? 1.00

00:01:01.540 They're always there.

00:01:02.120 You know why it works for women? 1.00

00:01:03.480 And men will always be there, because men don't talk to men.

00:01:05.620 But I'm not going to go to Ted and, like, yo, Ted, I'm dealing with Pell, you know?

00:01:10.320 Boom, boom, boom.

00:01:11.360 Whereas women always want to go to women about stuff. 1.00

00:01:13.360 Yeah.

00:01:13.500 So, you lot, in terms of, you can always have your exes there, because my man will just

00:01:18.100 wait in the background.

00:01:19.060 In the shadows.

00:01:19.560 Yeah, in the shadows.

00:01:20.220 Like, all right, cool.

00:01:21.180 When you're done with mine, come back and, you get me?

00:01:23.940 I'm going to say nothing.

00:01:25.200 But women, we try to have that one in the background. 1.00

00:01:28.280 Now, she won't be the main one.

00:01:29.900 She want to go to the main woman and tell her, yo, we've been together. 1.00

00:01:33.280 How long?

00:01:34.020 Rare, Rare been in the background.

00:01:35.260 I've never had that.

00:01:36.080 You know what I'm saying?

00:01:36.580 I'm going to read.

00:01:37.720 I'm going to read.

00:01:38.280 This was a, I think this is like a $50.

00:01:40.440 I don't know the conversion.

00:01:41.340 But Pearl, listen, all these discussions are pointless.

00:01:43.780 Walk outside and you will see the majority of men don't leave their homes. 0.89

00:01:46.360 This phenomenon first started in Japan.

00:01:48.360 We are just a few years behind.

00:01:50.040 I went to Japan and all I see is women outside. 1.00

00:01:52.000 My main point is you cannot bring back most men outside of their rooms if you have to waste 0.99

00:01:56.220 time arguing, debating with modern women. 0.98

00:01:58.140 Society will collapse, just like Japan. 1.00

00:02:00.620 Women will say it's expensive to have kids. 1.00

00:02:02.560 Tee-hee-hee-hee children. 0.99

00:02:05.260 Men are indoors with corn or what is he implying?

00:02:11.440 I don't know, to be honest.

00:02:13.000 I just read it.

00:02:15.200 I mean, I think in general people aren't leaving and especially like now they're going to have

00:02:19.140 AI and like, I think there's just more people aren't going outside.

00:02:23.160 It's his main point.

00:02:25.100 But I was thinking about this the other day because I was like, if I was a guy, how would

00:02:29.580 you pick a good, because I've been interviewing men for this divorce documentary I'm doing. 0.99

00:02:33.860 So I interview the men that have been like stupid, wrecked by divorce. 0.99

00:02:38.000 Okay. 0.99

00:02:38.320 So they're, and typically this happens like, this is kind of the story that I've heard

00:02:44.980 like from guys.

00:02:45.960 Typically he meets her and there's like an unplanned pregnancy.

00:02:49.400 And typically like they get married pretty quick and then she'll go to a women's shelter, 1.00

00:02:56.560 like accuse him of abuse on some level when some, like they'll even prove that she was

00:03:01.520 lying because you get a free lawyer here if you accuse a guy of abuse.

00:03:05.620 And basically they have their whole lives ruined.

00:03:07.880 They're on these really big child support payments.

00:03:09.680 Like one guy lost his job.

00:03:11.040 Like, it's really, really sad.

00:03:13.040 Like I listened, like they're, and you can just tell they're like a shell of a dude who

00:03:16.460 they used to be.

00:03:17.300 Right.

00:03:17.780 And I'll speak to these men and I'm like, okay, so she, and some, the girls had red flags,

00:03:22.860 but some it's like, she was from a two parent home.

00:03:25.340 Um, she, there's, there's one that's in the news right now where they're both virgins on 0.56

00:03:30.580 their wedding night.

00:03:31.660 Um, I'll see another that's like, she, um, she came from a Christian family.

00:03:36.680 She was from Eastern Europe and like all the, like on paper.

00:03:39.380 And I'm like, I don't know as a guy, how you avoid that.

00:03:42.420 And so that's, that's why I did this show is I was genuinely asking, how do you like,

00:03:46.320 what, what, where are the good women and how do men pick them? 1.00

00:03:51.080 And right now I'll tell you what we've got.

00:03:53.020 Um, hold on.

00:03:53.880 And I have the list, um, go on a coffee date before or after you sleep with her, sleep

00:04:00.540 with her as soon as possible.

00:04:02.000 Um, one month to a year, ask her to make a coffee, ask to cook on the spot, take her on

00:04:07.720 a coffee date, date as many women as possible to tell the difference, make sure you're not 0.99

00:04:10.960 in birth control.

00:04:12.040 Um, what is her relationship like with her dad?

00:04:15.020 Um, and I, and I don't even say this to like harp on women, right?

00:04:17.880 Cause like men have issues, women have issues, but I just think like with how much guys have

00:04:21.860 to lose, I'm like, how, I can't even think of how you avoid it.

00:04:25.520 Well, I would say like, just don't, don't sign a contract when you get married, just get

00:04:28.320 married and don't sign the contract.

00:04:29.800 I thought this too.

00:04:30.680 I thought exactly like you, but no, it doesn't matter because when you have a kid.

00:04:37.200 So that's true.

00:04:37.800 But I think if there was more purity in the world, I think if the, if, if men and women

00:04:41.420 were both seeking more purity from each other, like how, how honest are you being right now?

00:04:45.600 You know, how, how gentle are you as a pure person?

00:04:48.460 Do you want to harm people?

00:04:49.640 Do you want to, do you go out of your way to lie and get angry?

00:04:52.380 Let's, let's, okay, let's follow this.

00:04:53.980 Let's say the guy says, I'm going to be as pure as possible.

00:04:57.040 I'm going to have as little experience with women as possible. 1.00

00:04:59.460 How does he tell the difference between a woman with a high body count and a low body count 0.95

00:05:03.100 if he has no experience with women?

00:05:05.040 There's no way.

00:05:05.740 He may not know.

00:05:06.260 There's, there's no, there really is no way.

00:05:08.120 Right.

00:05:08.680 So I, but if he has, if he has no experience, no factual ways.

00:05:12.780 No, but I'm saying, okay, I would think you'd have to like, kind of be with a lot of women 0.86

00:05:16.420 to figure that out.

00:05:17.360 But if he doesn't want to, if he follows the purity route.

00:05:21.100 I mean, I think that men still have to date women. 0.99

00:05:23.280 I think men and women should, to date men, a few men and women at least to see, like, see

00:05:28.000 what, see what people are out there to know the difference between different people.

00:05:30.760 And also observing other people's relationships is important, but I don't think you have to sleep

00:05:36.220 with somebody to know if somebody is a, is a, is a, is a wifey material, you know, I don't

00:05:41.220 think you have to sleep with someone.

00:05:42.280 Yeah.

00:05:42.400 I don't think you have to sleep with someone.

00:05:43.480 But being like intimate, having intimate conversations, having relationship, you know, having your

00:05:47.500 traditional values play out in life roles, you know, cooking and cleaning and taking

00:05:50.720 care of the house, whatever.

00:05:51.480 I think those are things, those are important things to do.

00:05:54.240 And that's how you'll know if that's a woman you actually want to marry one day, but that's 0.98

00:05:57.780 very pure, right?

00:05:58.640 There is no like, you know, having the intercourse and making out.

00:06:02.440 Right.

00:06:02.720 But I guess my question is like the average woman and like, we could talk about like what

00:06:06.980 we should do.

00:06:07.780 And this is where like, it's hard because I used to think like this.

00:06:11.720 I used to think like you, but it's like, I think we're like red pill and like trad cons

00:06:15.680 tend to like talk past each other where it's like the average woman is slept with five to 1.00

00:06:19.040 eight people.

00:06:19.660 Like, why would he wait for a woman that's like, so I agree with this. 0.99

00:06:25.020 And like, they should not, a man should not wait for someone who slept with five to nine 0.89

00:06:28.400 women. 0.81

00:06:28.700 Right.

00:06:29.020 And so how would he tell the difference between a virgin who's lying and a girl who's 0.97

00:06:32.320 at like actually a virgin unless he's carry themselves.

00:06:35.220 I mean, like you may, you won't know you will never know.

00:06:37.920 Right.

00:06:38.220 I agree with you.

00:06:39.400 You'll never know for sure.

00:06:40.260 But the, but the way a woman carries herself really shows a lot about who she is and if 0.98

00:06:44.680 she's going to lie about something or not.

00:06:46.140 Yeah, and what, yeah, that's a practical solution.

00:06:51.960 I like that on how she responds to difficult situations.

00:06:55.380 That's a good one.

00:06:56.160 Yeah, that's a really good one.

00:06:57.740 Cause that, that'll be the test every time go on a camping trip or travel with them or

00:07:02.500 do something that's, you know, challenging or out of their comfort zone.

00:07:05.380 And this is the hard thing.

00:07:06.440 I keep thinking to these men I was in the docu, like I did the documentary with and a

00:07:10.640 lot of them did this stuff and that's why I'm genuinely like, I think there's like,

00:07:15.200 there's no way you could know, like genuinely.

00:07:18.420 You could never, you could never know a hundred percent yet.

00:07:19.840 No, for sure.

00:07:20.580 Yeah.

00:07:20.860 But you can, you can gauge because through conversation, me and you're just having a

00:07:25.320 conversation and I find out, okay, how much relationship you, if you've been in a

00:07:29.320 relationship 10 years, one person, yeah, you could have done what you're doing in

00:07:32.280 between, but then I can gauge between this age and this, okay, you've had one person

00:07:36.620 that maybe you've been outside for the last two years.

00:07:39.700 Do you get what I'm saying?

00:07:40.480 I think you can gauge it that you will never know exact number cause she could be doing 0.99

00:07:43.520 and other things in between and your religion and spirituality definitely pays a part in

00:07:48.140 who you choose and how you act.

00:07:49.640 Right.

00:07:49.820 Cause if you both have a similar religion or spirituality, okay.

00:07:52.900 Okay.

00:07:53.140 So, so then why are the reputation of church women so bad? 1.00

00:07:56.620 Yeah. 0.80

00:07:56.740 The church team is mad.

00:07:57.680 So let me start. 0.98

00:07:58.240 A lot of women go to church and they do terrible things. 1.00

00:08:01.840 Yeah.

00:08:02.360 Right.

00:08:02.720 Right.

00:08:02.840 But I'm saying like the reputation of church women is, it's worse than the normal populace. 0.99

00:08:07.320 Yeah.

00:08:07.520 And so it's like, right.

00:08:09.140 No, but I, but it's like, it's, it's just crazy cause it's like everything we tell them

00:08:12.700 to look for.

00:08:13.820 It's like, yeah.

00:08:15.320 Cause they go and commit sins and they can wash them away on the Sunday.

00:08:18.080 And I think men and women both do that.

00:08:19.480 They both commit sins, you know, they both do that.

00:08:21.860 When it sounds like for women, it's, it's also pretty destructive cause their chances of 1.00

00:08:25.820 getting another guy is pretty low.

00:08:27.520 It sounds like it was decimating.

00:08:29.820 It totally destroys both of their lives.

00:08:31.600 It sounds like when it doesn't work out, not only the man's life, but also the woman's life

00:08:34.780 cause she doesn't have that many chances afterwards, according to the statistics you've been sharing.

00:08:38.560 But you know what?

00:08:39.080 I don't think this is a man issue though.

00:08:40.560 I feel like it's women that need to understand men more and understand what men want. 0.99

00:08:44.440 If they understand what men want, they won't have the issue of finding another man. 0.64

00:08:47.060 It's actually quite simple, isn't it?

00:08:48.460 I just, I don't think women would leave if they didn't think they could do better. 1.00

00:08:52.440 Like nobody, nobody leaves to like be alone.

00:08:55.260 I'm not saying they can't like work with delusional, you know, but what's better?

00:08:59.120 Because they might think that guy's better.

00:09:00.980 Well, I mean, a lot of times it's like the, we have imaginations.

00:09:03.900 For example, a man could do way more for you, but it's about what you're accepting.

00:09:07.320 He couldn't give you everything you want to make sure you're the number one woman.

00:09:10.080 But if he goes out and he's got a couple of girls cheating or whatever, are you going to accept that for being a happy wife?

00:09:15.380 Of course not.

00:09:16.120 Well, no one would.

00:09:17.120 A lot of people do.

00:09:18.920 Exactly.

00:09:19.420 A lot of people do.

00:09:19.880 I didn't, but a lot of people do.

00:09:21.800 I'm saying if he looks after your home, he makes...

00:09:23.480 He cares.

00:09:24.000 What do you mean he cares?

00:09:24.540 You can look after yourself.

00:09:25.480 There's not a lot about this.

00:09:26.320 Say it again.

00:09:27.400 Say it again.

00:09:27.920 If he looks after the home, he makes sure you're good.

00:09:30.500 Everything at home is patterned.

00:09:31.760 You're the number one woman.

00:09:32.880 But yes, he goes out sometimes and he goes on weekenders away, let's say, and he sleeps with women.

00:09:38.840 But when he comes back, the house is patterned.

00:09:41.900 Everything's looked after.

00:09:42.980 There's just something wrong with his values.

00:09:44.820 There's something wrong with his connection to God or religion or something.

00:09:48.000 There's something wrong with his values.

00:09:49.840 But what about her?

00:09:50.780 What about maybe she did something to make him cheat?

00:09:53.140 You don't know.

00:09:53.920 No, that's true.

00:09:54.320 I agree.

00:09:55.240 I always feel like there's a reason people cheat.

00:09:57.300 Always.

00:09:57.960 Men don't cheat for no reason and women don't cheat for no reason.

00:10:00.160 But I just think we kind of get in this, I think we get in this, like, if a guy cheats, he's like the worst.

00:10:05.940 Like, people always misconstrue my thought.

00:10:08.080 I don't think cheating is good.

00:10:09.200 But, like, it's like, well, demonize the men for cheating.

00:10:12.200 Right?

00:10:12.600 But when women go into relationships with open social media accounts and we don't demonize them, where they can still get attention from high value men. 1.00

00:10:20.620 Exactly.

00:10:21.000 100%.

00:10:21.380 And it's like, we don't, it's the same thing.

00:10:23.780 But yet, like, if a guy cheats, it's the worst thing ever.

00:10:26.060 No, I think it's both equally.

00:10:27.080 I feel like if a female cheats their demon, it's the worst thing ever. 0.99

00:10:30.760 And that man will never take her back.

00:10:32.240 Never.

00:10:32.440 So, I think it's the opposite.

00:10:33.600 I think the women will always take him back. 0.97

00:10:35.740 That's not true.

00:10:36.600 When you think about it, like, men marry single mothers all the time. 0.64

00:10:40.000 Men take women back. 1.00

00:10:40.960 And in a way, that's like, I mean, you're coming in with another man's kid.

00:10:44.920 But I hear what you're saying to a certain degree.

00:10:47.640 Men, yeah.

00:10:48.200 Because obviously, if you're letting someone inside your body, you...

00:10:50.860 That man is going to look at you differently.

00:10:52.500 No, no, no.

00:10:53.220 Forget the man looking at you.

00:10:54.220 He is going to look at you differently.

00:10:55.180 I'm saying, if you're opening your leg...

00:10:57.220 I don't think you're just going to open your legs to a man just off the rip at night.

JustPearlyThings - October 25, 2023

Pearl's Solution For Stronger Marriages

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