Pearl's Solution For Stronger Marriages
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On this episode of the podcast, we have our first guest on the show, our guest is our good friend, Pearl. Pearl is a comedian, writer, and podcaster. In this episode, we discuss relationships, divorce, and what it means to be a woman in a relationship.
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I've spoken to women that have had, like, I don't know, six-year situationships on and off,
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or between every relationship, and that's, like, how they keep their, like, body count low or whatever.
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And it kind of, so, it kind of makes sense, you know what I mean?
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Keeping your body count low, 100%, but you don't have to do that.
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If you're going back to past situations that may have not been good, that's toxic.
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That's too much toxicity that you're going to bring to the new guy that you may meet, and then your trauma.
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Yeah, and, like, and any time you mess up, he's sitting there waiting.
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Now, you've got to get rid of all the exes, you know?
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Yeah, but they are, usually, usually the guys are the ones that are on standby.
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And you know why it works for women, yeah?
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And men will always be there, because men don't talk to men.
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But I'm not going to go to Ted and, like, yo, Ted, I'm dealing with Pell, you know?
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Whereas women always want to go to women about stuff.
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So, you lot, in terms of, you can always have your exes there, because my man will just
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When you're done with mine, come back and, you get me?
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But women, we try to have that one in the background.
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She want to go to the main woman and tell her, yo, we've been together.
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But Pearl, listen, all these discussions are pointless.
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Walk outside and you will see the majority of men don't leave their homes.
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I went to Japan and all I see is women outside.
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My main point is you cannot bring back most men outside of their rooms if you have to waste
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Women will say it's expensive to have kids.
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Men are indoors with corn or what is he implying?
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I mean, I think in general people aren't leaving and especially like now they're going to have
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AI and like, I think there's just more people aren't going outside.
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But I was thinking about this the other day because I was like, if I was a guy, how would
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you pick a good, because I've been interviewing men for this divorce documentary I'm doing.
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So I interview the men that have been like stupid, wrecked by divorce.
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So they're, and typically this happens like, this is kind of the story that I've heard
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Typically he meets her and there's like an unplanned pregnancy.
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And typically like they get married pretty quick and then she'll go to a women's shelter,
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like accuse him of abuse on some level when some, like they'll even prove that she was
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lying because you get a free lawyer here if you accuse a guy of abuse.
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And basically they have their whole lives ruined.
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They're on these really big child support payments.
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Like I listened, like they're, and you can just tell they're like a shell of a dude who
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And I'll speak to these men and I'm like, okay, so she, and some, the girls had red flags,
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but some it's like, she was from a two parent home.
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Um, she, there's, there's one that's in the news right now where they're both virgins on
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Um, I'll see another that's like, she, um, she came from a Christian family.
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She was from Eastern Europe and like all the, like on paper.
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And I'm like, I don't know as a guy, how you avoid that.
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And so that's, that's why I did this show is I was genuinely asking, how do you like,
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what, what, where are the good women and how do men pick them?
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And I have the list, um, go on a coffee date before or after you sleep with her, sleep
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Um, one month to a year, ask her to make a coffee, ask to cook on the spot, take her on
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a coffee date, date as many women as possible to tell the difference, make sure you're not
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Um, what is her relationship like with her dad?
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Um, and I, and I don't even say this to like harp on women, right?
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Cause like men have issues, women have issues, but I just think like with how much guys have
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to lose, I'm like, how, I can't even think of how you avoid it.
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Well, I would say like, just don't, don't sign a contract when you get married, just get
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I thought exactly like you, but no, it doesn't matter because when you have a kid.
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But I think if there was more purity in the world, I think if the, if, if men and women
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were both seeking more purity from each other, like how, how honest are you being right now?
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You know, how, how gentle are you as a pure person?
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Do you want to, do you go out of your way to lie and get angry?
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Let's say the guy says, I'm going to be as pure as possible.
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I'm going to have as little experience with women as possible.
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How does he tell the difference between a woman with a high body count and a low body count
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So I, but if he has, if he has no experience, no factual ways.
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No, but I'm saying, okay, I would think you'd have to like, kind of be with a lot of women
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But if he doesn't want to, if he follows the purity route.
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I mean, I think that men still have to date women.
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I think men and women should, to date men, a few men and women at least to see, like, see
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what, see what people are out there to know the difference between different people.
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And also observing other people's relationships is important, but I don't think you have to sleep
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with somebody to know if somebody is a, is a, is a, is a wifey material, you know, I don't
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But being like intimate, having intimate conversations, having relationship, you know, having your
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traditional values play out in life roles, you know, cooking and cleaning and taking
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I think those are things, those are important things to do.
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And that's how you'll know if that's a woman you actually want to marry one day, but that's
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There is no like, you know, having the intercourse and making out.
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But I guess my question is like the average woman and like, we could talk about like what
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And this is where like, it's hard because I used to think like this.
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I used to think like you, but it's like, I think we're like red pill and like trad cons
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tend to like talk past each other where it's like the average woman is slept with five to
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Like, why would he wait for a woman that's like, so I agree with this.
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And like, they should not, a man should not wait for someone who slept with five to nine
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And so how would he tell the difference between a virgin who's lying and a girl who's
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at like actually a virgin unless he's carry themselves.
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I mean, like you may, you won't know you will never know.
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But the, but the way a woman carries herself really shows a lot about who she is and if
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Yeah, and what, yeah, that's a practical solution.
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I like that on how she responds to difficult situations.
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Cause that, that'll be the test every time go on a camping trip or travel with them or
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do something that's, you know, challenging or out of their comfort zone.
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I keep thinking to these men I was in the docu, like I did the documentary with and a
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lot of them did this stuff and that's why I'm genuinely like, I think there's like,
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You could never, you could never know a hundred percent yet.
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But you can, you can gauge because through conversation, me and you're just having a
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conversation and I find out, okay, how much relationship you, if you've been in a
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relationship 10 years, one person, yeah, you could have done what you're doing in
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between, but then I can gauge between this age and this, okay, you've had one person
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that maybe you've been outside for the last two years.
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I think you can gauge it that you will never know exact number cause she could be doing
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and other things in between and your religion and spirituality definitely pays a part in
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Cause if you both have a similar religion or spirituality, okay.
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So, so then why are the reputation of church women so bad?
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A lot of women go to church and they do terrible things.
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But I'm saying like the reputation of church women is, it's worse than the normal populace.
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No, but I, but it's like, it's, it's just crazy cause it's like everything we tell them
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Cause they go and commit sins and they can wash them away on the Sunday.
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They both commit sins, you know, they both do that.
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When it sounds like for women, it's, it's also pretty destructive cause their chances of
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It sounds like when it doesn't work out, not only the man's life, but also the woman's life
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cause she doesn't have that many chances afterwards, according to the statistics you've been sharing.
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I feel like it's women that need to understand men more and understand what men want.
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If they understand what men want, they won't have the issue of finding another man.
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I just, I don't think women would leave if they didn't think they could do better.
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I'm not saying they can't like work with delusional, you know, but what's better?
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Well, I mean, a lot of times it's like the, we have imaginations.
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For example, a man could do way more for you, but it's about what you're accepting.
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He couldn't give you everything you want to make sure you're the number one woman.
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But if he goes out and he's got a couple of girls cheating or whatever, are you going to accept that for being a happy wife?
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I'm saying if he looks after your home, he makes...
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If he looks after the home, he makes sure you're good.
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But yes, he goes out sometimes and he goes on weekenders away, let's say, and he sleeps with women.
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But when he comes back, the house is patterned.
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There's something wrong with his connection to God or religion or something.
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What about maybe she did something to make him cheat?
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I always feel like there's a reason people cheat.
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Men don't cheat for no reason and women don't cheat for no reason.
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But I just think we kind of get in this, I think we get in this, like, if a guy cheats, he's like the worst.
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But, like, it's like, well, demonize the men for cheating.
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But when women go into relationships with open social media accounts and we don't demonize them, where they can still get attention from high value men.
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But yet, like, if a guy cheats, it's the worst thing ever.
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I feel like if a female cheats their demon, it's the worst thing ever.
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I think the women will always take him back.
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When you think about it, like, men marry single mothers all the time.
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And in a way, that's like, I mean, you're coming in with another man's kid.
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But I hear what you're saying to a certain degree.
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Because obviously, if you're letting someone inside your body, you...
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I don't think you're just going to open your legs to a man just off the rip at night.