Pearl's Warning To Women In Their Late 20s
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about dating when you're in your late 20s and early 30s, and how it can affect your chances of ever having kids. We also talk about what it means to be a Christian in your 30s and how to deal with that.
Transcript
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And I think that if he's messaging somebody else,
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And I think I'm very strict when it comes to that.
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Like, I think that if you're going to be in a relationship with me,
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I think that you have to put some boundaries in place.
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What if you're on holiday and then you come back
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Because to me, it seems a bit much to break up over a message.
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I'm just thinking, because you're 29, if you're in a relationship, like, do you want kids?
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So, you know, if you're single by 30, your chance of having a child drops below 50%.
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So, you're actually more likely to not have a kid than have one.
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And by 34, your chance of having, like, any kids at all, like, geriatric pregnancy working
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I'm just thinking, because I'm assuming you're picky, right?
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I just want a guy that's, like, serious about me, has pure intentions for me, and will be
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Well, I'm just thinking, because you've been dating since, what, 18?
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Okay, so, like, I'm just thinking of nine years.
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If none of the guys that approached you, you like enough to marry, like, you're probably
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Like, usually that women that are single over the age of, like, 25.
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I think, to be honest, I'm a Christian, and I think that that makes things a bit harder
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for me, because there's certain things that I'm, like, that I want to do to please God,
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or there's some views that I have that are more, like, biblical than, like, the world.
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And I think that now, I used to date guys that were non-Christians, but the things that
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I was passionate about, the values that I had, they didn't share those same values.
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And I want to be with someone that shares those same values as me and has the same worldview
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No, I mean, he has to be a Christian, of course, but there's just certain things that, like,
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I mean, yeah, I'm not perfect, but that's definitely a desire.
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Okay, but you're, I'm assuming, 29, you're probably not a virgin.
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I mean, yeah, that's the type of world that we're living in.
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I'm not saying it won't happen, but it's a desire, and I would like to stick to that.
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Because I guess in my head, I'm like, okay, so if you're 29, you know that by...
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Now you know, at least, that if you're single by next year, you're most likely not going
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And by 34, your chance of having a kid is basically nothing, like, biologically.
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So I'm just thinking, if you get into a relationship with a guy that you like, which I'm assuming
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is very hard to find a guy that meets all your criteria, because, I mean, me too, it's
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Because I'm thinking, like, if you get to that point, it's kind of like your last chance
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It's like, I would think in the grand scheme of things, it would be more important to have
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a family to you, especially, you know, they say, like, be fruitful and multiply in the
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Yeah, but I think for me, it's also very important to be in a situation that is healthy.
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And I would rather be single than be in a relationship where I'm not valued, or where
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I'm being disrespected, or where the dude is emotionally or sexually cheating.
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Yeah, sometimes I just think the church, like, leaves women single.
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And I think it's really sad, because I think sometimes they tell women, like, we have to
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Not the message, you know, that's not that crazy.
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I think the church does need to do a better job with teaching young Christians, like,
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Like, I go to an amazing church, and it's, I'm learning now, like, through, I go to the
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Tab London, and my pastor is amazing, and he just recently done a sermon on dating,
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and, like, how to date, you know, for marriage, with the intention of marriage, and it was
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Would you submit to your husband for everything?
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But the thing is, like, with me choosing a husband, I'm going to choose somebody that
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And for me, submission is about, if he's submitting to Christ, I'm low-key submitting to Christ,
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But it's like, to me, submitting, I think I need to learn about that more.
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I'm definitely my own woman, but I think it depends in, like, in what degree, like, in
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Well, no, it just, it confuses me when, like...
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It just confuses me, like, when you say you want a Christian man, but you don't want to
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So, like, why would a man that's super Christian want to be with you if you don't want to live
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But what do you mean by not living in a Christian way?
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So the Bible says you have to submit to your husband.
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I think in certain situations, I think, and how can I word this?
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In certain situations, of course, if the decision that my husband is making makes sense, and
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Yeah, I don't really know how to explain the thoughts that I'm having right now.
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But then the Bible also, the thing is, the Bible does instruct women with, like, how to
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But then the Bible also instructs men with how to treat their wives as well.
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And so, like, the Bible says to women, like, respect your husbands, and husbands love your
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Yeah, but how are we supposed to get a Christian guy if we can't start with what we have to
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Because I'm just, you know, because you want to start a family, that's what you said, so
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Is it an issue of knowing, so you said about the whole decision thing, which logically makes
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So, like, if he's saying something, and you don't, I'm just guessing, right?
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If he says something, and you don't know why, is your point, you want to know why, and
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if it makes sense to you, then you agree, and that's your version of submitting?
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Yeah, I think, and that's the thing, my thing is, I think that a marriage, there's going
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to be a lot of, like, complexities, and, like, a lot of different situations that we're going
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It's going to be a learning curve, it's going to be, like, a journey, and I think that also,
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with whatever the Bible does say, the Bible also teaches about, like, sanctification,
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and about, like, a journey of becoming more like Christ.
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So I'm not saying that I'm perfect, but I'm saying, hopefully me and my husband will get
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to a point where, you know, we're on the same page.
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No, but don't say no, because going with the flow could be the best thing.
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The reason why I say going with the flow, you could be dating, you could be on Tinder,
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whatever, and someone could say, what are you looking for, right?
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And I could say, for me, as a 33-year-old, I want a child.
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If God blesses me with a child, I get blessed with a child.
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I'm not religious in any way, shape, or form, but I believe in an almighty.
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My thing right now, when I meet a girl or a guy and they say, like, what you're looking
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for, I just say, look, like, my portfolio would say, like, I want kids soon, blah, blah,
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But I'd just say, look, I'm just here going for the flow, but I'm looking for a serious
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But, like, when I say I'm going with the flow, it doesn't mean I want to marry you or date
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I just want to chill with you and see where things go.
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Yeah, it's just about getting to know the person.
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But I feel like if you're with the whole Christian thing, hats off to you.
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I feel like for guys, it can be a bit intimidating and we don't know where to start.
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But if you feel like Glenn, there's a super chat, says there's no exception to submission
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in the Bible where it says to only submit to your husband when you want to, it says
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Because you've got to choose a man that you trust to lead.
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Because sometimes you can ask, like, at the end of the day, if you really are submitting
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to your husband, you're trusting that they know what they're doing.
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So any decision they make, you shouldn't even be questioning it anyway, because you should
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trust them enough to know that they've already thought that through.
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So by asking questions, you're kind of creating problems for him for having to explain it all
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And then also you're potentially causing another problem by them putting up a barrier
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if you don't agree with something that he's done.
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I trust him enough that he knows what he's doing.
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Let's say, imagine Alex Ferguson's your manager.
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This player's going to win us the Champions League.
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And you've got this one brother that's always, always like, nah, I'm the manager.
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If you find a man that keeps leading you into the darkness, then that's not the man for
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But you've got to be on that journey and actually accept that call.
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