JustPearlyThings - August 03, 2023


Pearl SAVAGELY DEBUNKS Body Positivity


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00:00:00.000 Why are we going to create a community of feeling good, being obese,
00:00:04.760 and knowing there's so much health challenges behind it?
00:00:06.700 My brother, my brother, there's a lot of people.
00:00:08.680 Let him finish this thought.
00:00:09.420 I'm not talking about the mentality, as I say.
00:00:11.660 Mentality.
00:00:12.500 Why are we promoting obesity, knowing there's so much health challenges behind it?
00:00:17.520 That's like you're saying, go have sex with everyone at all condom.
00:00:20.700 But that's what's being promoted.
00:00:22.440 Yeah, that's terrible.
00:00:23.020 And it's none of our concern.
00:00:23.620 Well, we should be wearing condoms.
00:00:25.000 Don't bother us.
00:00:26.520 But that doesn't get brought into discussion.
00:00:28.100 And for me, I just feel like, I know what you're saying, but at the same time.
00:00:32.700 You wouldn't tell your brother, listen, go have sex with that girl without a condom.
00:00:36.480 You would say, bro, make sure and wear your robbers.
00:00:38.880 Of course.
00:00:39.580 You would tell your boy that, right?
00:00:41.520 You have to.
00:00:42.420 You don't want to hear a boy coming home at STD.
00:00:44.980 Well, you've got to look at your health.
00:00:47.240 Yeah, you've got to protect yourself.
00:00:48.800 That's what I'm saying.
00:00:49.440 Of course.
00:00:49.740 It's protecting everybody else.
00:00:51.580 Yeah, but my thing is, she's allowed to use social media.
00:00:54.400 How she uses social media, it's up to her.
00:00:58.440 It's freedom of speech.
00:00:59.560 It's freedom of choice.
00:01:00.920 It's free will.
00:01:01.820 If she feels good, good for her.
00:01:03.540 Yeah, but that's why I think it's more important that we shame it.
00:01:07.940 I don't think we should say, definitely not shame it.
00:01:09.600 And say, wait, wait, wait.
00:01:10.240 That's what creates mental health.
00:01:11.820 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, and say, and say, put the rolls away.
00:01:15.860 We don't want to see that.
00:01:17.780 Put it away.
00:01:19.020 Go get on the treadmill.
00:01:20.320 Lose weight, wait, wait.
00:01:21.620 Lose some weight, and then come back.
00:01:24.980 My mom used to tell me, and everyone's going to say I was traumatized.
00:01:28.660 No, you're right.
00:01:29.400 Yeah, post the journey.
00:01:30.560 My mom used to tell me, and maybe everyone's going to say I was traumatized, that you have
00:01:35.220 to earn a bikini body.
00:01:36.560 And I believe that.
00:01:37.920 I really do.
00:01:38.860 And I think you should earn the right.
00:01:40.420 Some people don't want that, though.
00:01:41.760 It's up to them.
00:01:42.740 If they don't want to, you know.
00:01:44.460 I think we need to please stop talking about exceptions.
00:01:47.820 We want to talk about the rule.
00:01:49.560 I've said this.
00:01:50.280 I've said to friends that might be very overweight, like, I think you would have a better quality
00:01:55.360 of life.
00:01:55.720 I think you would enjoy it more.
00:01:57.380 That's as far as I'd go.
00:01:58.520 I would never shame them for it.
00:01:59.620 If that's still her choice, that's still her choice.
00:02:01.040 I'll do one more.
00:02:01.940 I'll have my overweight friends run up 21 flights of stairs with me.
00:02:06.920 I mean, if you're doing it in an encouraging way.
00:02:10.300 You're a bad man.
00:02:11.680 I think if we ask someone.
00:02:12.840 You can't do them things.
00:02:13.960 I think if we ask someone of that weight a question like.
00:02:16.440 No, I'm helpful.
00:02:17.780 What do you mean?
00:02:18.400 You can't do them things.
00:02:20.420 I think if you ask someone, do you want to lose weight?
00:02:23.060 90% of the answer, 95%, 98% of the answer will be yes.
00:02:28.920 What if they don't?
00:02:29.860 And I've been there.
00:02:31.000 I've been there.
00:02:31.520 I've been overweight.
00:02:31.840 You think they don't want to lose weight.
00:02:33.660 I'm just teasing.
00:02:35.700 But also, pal, so when I was a teenager, because I'm very tall, when I first had a growth span
00:02:41.600 height, I was very, very skinny and I couldn't really gain weight.
00:02:45.120 It was extremely hard for me and I hated it.
00:02:47.080 I've been through that.
00:02:47.980 Girls and stuff, yeah, would make comments and stuff and it made me feel so shit.
00:02:53.600 So I feel like there's empathy that comes from that, isn't it?
00:02:56.260 Isn't that?
00:02:56.760 I did obviously try and gain weight, so I don't know if that's the difference.
00:02:59.320 But it was so hard.
00:03:01.900 I used to get talk until I cried.
00:03:03.520 They call me bagaboons.
00:03:04.680 But this is what she's saying.
00:03:05.960 I know how you feel.
00:03:06.500 She's saying, she's saying, but basically bullying somebody encourages you to be a better
00:03:12.000 person or change your ways or whatever to how they think should be acceptable.
00:03:19.960 There are different people.
00:03:21.060 There's the people that could drive the mindset to get better.
00:03:25.620 Yeah, but that's a different way of speaking.
00:03:27.100 There are the people as well that could.
00:03:27.840 Yeah, it's a different way of speaking.
00:03:29.100 It's a different way of speaking.
00:03:29.120 Bullying them could break down.
00:03:30.360 Exactly.
00:03:31.040 You can break them down really bad and they would not try to get better.
00:03:32.900 To say you're fat, blah, blah, blah, and you know.
00:03:34.460 Body shaming and bullying is not acceptable on any level.
00:03:37.180 Isn't body shaming to call a spade a spade to say you're fat?
00:03:41.140 You are fat.
00:03:42.420 Like you are fat.
00:03:43.320 It's not, it's not to be mean, but I mean, then once we, but it's like, wait, wait.
00:03:48.340 So it's like, how do we fix problems if we can't acknowledge they exist?
00:03:53.240 This is the problem with the delusion.
00:03:55.180 Wait, wait.
00:03:56.640 This is the problem with the delusion of modern women.
00:03:59.580 It's like, we can't even acknowledge that there's a problem.
00:04:02.280 How the hell do we fix it?
00:04:04.220 If we can't even say, hey, the problem is there.
00:04:07.220 Yeah, I am obese.
00:04:08.660 Then you can at least say, maybe I should eat less.
00:04:11.100 Maybe I should get on the treadmill.
00:04:12.680 But it's like tooth and nail.
00:04:14.860 I'm like pulling teeth here trying to say, yeah, this is a problem.
00:04:18.380 But why is it our problem to fix?
00:04:21.540 It's not your problem.
00:04:22.460 It's my problem to fix.
00:04:25.920 I think if we care about someone, it is okay to encourage them.
00:04:31.020 But we'll say, I think we'll have a better quality of life because of this, this, and this.
00:04:34.500 Because I guess it could be from a caring perspective.
00:04:36.960 But not shaming.
00:04:38.200 And because some people do still find them desirable.
00:04:40.400 We don't need to shame.
00:04:41.000 And also, what about the people, the minority that can't help it?
00:04:44.440 At least it makes them feel more comfortable.
00:04:46.100 I don't think we need it to go down to the shame inside.
00:04:48.060 Like, let's be honest.
00:04:48.800 Like, you would talk to someone about their obesity in the most respectful way ever.
00:04:54.020 Exactly.
00:04:54.500 In the health aspect.
00:04:56.220 And you'd say, I'm concerned.
00:04:57.620 Maybe think of that.
00:04:58.560 Of course.
00:04:59.240 Nobody's trying to shame anybody.
00:05:00.560 But that's all you can do.
00:05:01.700 It's down to that individual whether they want to change their ways or not.
00:05:04.000 Obese person, as I said, 98% of them want to lose weight.
00:05:08.880 They do want to lose weight.
00:05:10.280 If you talk to them, you ask them a question, do you want to lose weight?
00:05:12.420 They will say yes.
00:05:13.420 And they just don't know how to.
00:05:14.340 So I am not trying to stand up here and be like, oh, I am going to support you being obese.
00:05:19.040 Yeah.
00:05:19.280 I do think we should shame them off the internet, though.
00:05:23.020 I do.
00:05:23.960 I do.
00:05:24.440 No, no.
00:05:25.060 Yeah.
00:05:25.340 No, I don't think we should be promoting that to kids.
00:05:28.000 To be honest.
00:05:28.820 No, I think.
00:05:29.340 I think I disagree with.
00:05:30.400 Kids are on the internet.
00:05:32.340 Like, I don't think we should be promoting, like, fat chicks on the covers of magazines.
00:05:35.500 I don't think we should be promoting, yes, queen.
00:05:38.100 That's a good thing that you're obese.
00:05:39.940 Like, yeah, you do look good on social media.
00:05:42.040 There's kids on social media.
00:05:43.260 What messaging are we pushing?
00:05:44.340 And this is why a lot of women, they get work done.
00:05:49.160 And this is their example.
00:05:50.740 If you're going to push the narrative of you need to be perfect, then you're going to go do certain things to your body because of idolization.
00:05:59.160 But there are these women who are put in their journeys, though.
00:06:02.840 Let me respond to this, okay?
00:06:04.500 Women get work done because they're lazy.
00:06:07.780 Not necessarily.
00:06:08.820 Because some women lack in larger breasts or bigger bum.
00:06:13.100 And you don't want to do that to please the man or whatever.
00:06:15.560 You know what I'm saying?
00:06:16.460 Women, okay, sorry.
00:06:17.500 There's two reasons.
00:06:18.500 One, they want more attention.
00:06:20.520 And the attention that they got and that God gave them wasn't enough.
00:06:23.800 So they say, let me go get surgery so I can get more attention.
00:06:26.780 Because it's pushed.
00:06:27.740 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:06:28.900 I need you to wait for one second.
00:06:31.280 And the second reason is because they're lazy and they'd rather get a BBL than go to the gym.
00:06:35.720 I'm serious.
00:06:37.080 Like, they would rather.
00:06:37.860 Ask a question.
00:06:38.880 Nutrition is hard, right?
00:06:40.620 Nutrition is, like, the hardest part.
00:06:41.820 It varies, like 80% is so hard.
00:06:43.760 Yeah, it's so hard.
00:06:44.580 Nutrition is hard.
00:06:45.820 Working out every day is hard.
00:06:47.840 Getting a surgery is a cheat code.
00:06:51.200 To your point, though, I think that is why it's a good thing to celebrate uniqueness and differences.
00:06:55.520 Of course.
00:06:55.760 Because otherwise, everyone is pressurized to look the same way.
00:06:58.320 A certain way.
00:06:59.100 But my brother, look.
00:07:00.120 I had done personal training years ago.
00:07:02.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:07:02.680 You're a person training now.
00:07:03.700 Can you grow a bum?
00:07:05.720 Can you, you know, can you exercise and get the same bum as a BBL?
00:07:11.500 No, you can shape your bum.
00:07:12.580 You can shape your bum.
00:07:13.320 You can't grow your bum.
00:07:13.880 And you can lift it.
00:07:14.500 You can grow your glutes a bit.
00:07:16.120 A bit.
00:07:16.480 But it comes with body fat.
00:07:18.520 Right, okay.
00:07:19.460 So my point exactly is this world is pushing women in, like, front line to look a certain way,
00:07:27.940 to dress a certain way, and it makes little girls like my daughter to look at them and think,
00:07:33.160 I want to be like that.
00:07:34.120 I go down reverse down.
00:07:35.040 If I don't look like that, then I'm a piece of shit, and I'm not going to be desired by the man that I want or whatever.
00:07:41.600 And that's a wrong narrative.
00:07:43.200 It's not right.
00:07:44.300 The men aren't asking for this, though.
00:07:46.640 The men aren't asking for the Botox.
00:07:48.520 They're not asking for the BBLs.
00:07:50.320 They're not asking for the lip fillers.
00:07:51.940 Women just do that shit on their own.
00:07:53.920 And that's my point, but that gets glamorized.
00:07:55.680 Watch out when I reverse this, like, onto, yeah?
00:07:58.580 You just said that society is pushing women to do these things, right?
00:08:02.140 100%.
00:08:02.500 Right.
00:08:03.760 Then that's the reason why obesity shouldn't be on Instagram like that.
00:08:08.680 No, I hear you.
00:08:09.720 But what I'm saying...
00:08:10.900 It's the same thing.
00:08:11.300 No, but I'm talking about something different.
00:08:13.180 So I'm talking about the fact that a lot of these women...
00:08:16.840 He just made a really good point.
00:08:18.180 You should acknowledge that.
00:08:19.180 That was a really good point.
00:08:20.000 No, I understand.
00:08:21.200 But what she was doing online was self-love.
00:08:24.740 It had nothing to do with her body and how she looks.
00:08:27.220 And she wasn't like, oh, look at me.
00:08:28.720 I look like this.
00:08:29.520 She was just saying, look, I feel good or whatever she said.
00:08:33.200 But what I got from that video was self-love.
00:08:37.360 And a lot of people don't love themselves.
00:08:38.980 She wanted to say more about it.
00:08:39.960 I mean, do you understand what I'm saying?
00:08:41.440 It's self-love.
00:08:42.420 So if she's saying...
00:08:43.560 Okay, but again, to me, this goes to delusion.
00:08:46.580 If she says, I look good and she clearly doesn't, that is narcissism.
00:08:51.620 If you say that I feel good and there's no way in hell that you can be that big and feel good,
00:08:57.020 you're a liar.
00:08:58.220 You're a big liar.
00:08:59.820 Narcissistic and delusional.
00:09:00.800 You have a high visceral fat which is going to cause...
00:09:03.400 For narcissism, you also have to want to control people.
00:09:07.920 You also normally hurt people.
00:09:09.460 It's not just having self-love.
00:09:11.640 And also, when people are bullied and they are made to feel shit about themselves,
00:09:15.960 actually that can lead to narcissism because they have to be the best all the time.
00:09:19.660 And they're not kind or good to other people.
00:09:21.940 This is why I'm here to tell them the truth so I can help them.
00:09:24.600 Just saying.
00:09:25.600 Say it again.
00:09:26.240 This is why we're here to tell them the truth.
00:09:27.840 This is why I can help them.
00:09:28.780 Also, it might make, I said this before, it might make those minority people that can't help it feel better.
00:09:33.980 It's kind of like transgender.
00:09:35.340 Not everyone all having different identities.
00:09:37.320 Not everyone probably does need to relate to a different identity.
00:09:39.800 But I guess at least the minority that are probably born of the wrong chromosome.
00:09:44.540 But then look, that gets pushed more than obesity though.
00:09:47.980 That's a deep one.
00:09:48.960 That's a deep one.
00:09:49.960 Let's talk about that then.
00:09:51.120 Because you want to accept transgender and stuff, but you don't want to, you know.
00:09:55.740 I don't want to accept that either.
00:09:57.140 They scare me a bit.
00:09:58.220 Yeah, but apparently it's accepted.
00:10:01.960 Apparently we can't say nothing to them.
00:10:03.540 We can't have an opinion.
00:10:04.660 Oh, I'll say something.
00:10:06.200 You know, so let's talk about it, please.
00:10:08.800 I want to do a panel.
00:10:09.460 I do want to talk about it.
00:10:10.160 I do want to do a panel with some transgenders and I want to do a panel with just obese women so we can talk about these topics.
00:10:17.360 That would be very interesting.
00:10:18.300 Can you invite me please?