JustPearlyThings - April 19, 2023


Pearl Savagely DESTROYS Entitled Woman


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10 minutes

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2,301

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181

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Misogyny

14

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Toxicity

15

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In this episode, we talk about what women bring to a relationship and why they should be valued in a relationship. We also talk about why women leave a relationship when they fall out of love with a partner and how to deal with it.

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00:00:00.000 Hmm. Well, that's down to your personal opinion. No, seriously, what do women bring in 2022 that 1.00
00:00:06.340 is special? Nothing. Do most women have a cookbook? No. Or do most women really know how to cater to 1.00
00:00:12.220 a man? No. Are most women virgins on their wedding day? No. So what do most women bring in 2022 that 0.98
00:00:19.100 is special? But why is it all about what we can offer? Why is it always about what we can bring?
00:00:23.300 What's about our values? Because when you're trying to sell a car, if you're trying to get
00:00:28.760 married, right? Please, I'm not saying that women are cars. It's just an analogy. But if you're 1.00
00:00:35.280 trying to sell a car, you have to study the buyer and figure out what the buyers want. And that's
00:00:39.280 what men want. And that's how it all became like a competition between men and women, between
00:00:45.140 everyone. And because like, oh, I need to show off that I know how to do this. And I need to show off
00:00:50.960 how I can do that, but better. You don't think that if you're trying to get married, you should
00:00:56.620 demonstrate that you have wife skills. Of course. For sure. Like who has them at the end of the 1.00
00:01:01.140 day? Not everyone. Not many women in 2022. No. But do you know what though? Have you ever
00:01:05.940 read the book? Why do men love bitches? Oh yeah. That was written by a single author that 1.00
00:01:10.900 is still single. These books are such a red. I met with someone and I saw that book in the
00:01:17.480 house and I just cut it off. I was like, you are lost. That book is on my bedside table.
00:01:22.760 That was my Bible a few years ago. Right next to her astrology set. You have been misled,
00:01:29.300 my dear. But you said you've never been in a relationship, so it doesn't work. No, I've
00:01:33.180 been in a relationship. That was me. I've been in a relationship. No, I thought that was you. No, it was pretty teeth. Sorry, that was you. I've been in a relationship. I've been in a relationship.
00:01:40.180 But like, nah, like if you're not showing me how you can protect me and how you can provide
00:01:44.400 me, I'm not cooking you a meal. Get lost. Order a takeaway. But why would you be with that 0.98
00:01:50.800 guy in the first place? Well, Fez, but... But you know, like for example, to one of my exes
00:01:58.180 once, I... and he's... and he was like a slightly recent relationship. And I was like, you know, I prepared
00:02:05.860 like his favorite dishes because I know how to cook because unfortunately my
00:02:10.340 grandmother taught me how to do it. Are you saying unfortunately? Because then like, yeah, no, I know
00:02:15.180 for my friends is good, but like for then someone else who's not appreciating it, like
00:02:19.560 why is it going to be good? But why are you picking guys that don't appreciate it? Because then I found out
00:02:24.060 like later on that he wasn't really appreciating it. Like, and you know, like I found out that
00:02:29.060 he cheated on me and like, because I got messages everywhere of people telling me because like,
00:02:34.000 you know, it seems like sometimes people has to come to you and tell you what and where
00:02:38.060 like people make mistakes. Hold on, pause for a second. How did he not appreciate it?
00:02:42.060 No, he did because like, he was like, oh my God, this is one of my favorite dishes that you
00:02:45.820 can make. And I was like, all right. So then tell me like, what have you done today? And he lied.
00:02:51.060 And I was like, so why would you lie to me when you asking me to be honest to you? And
00:02:56.880 I'm like, cause you can't handle the truth. I can trust me. I have, I've been through so
00:03:02.300 many things and he thought in his head that I wasn't enough, strong enough to handle that
00:03:09.060 through. But you left him because of that issue. Yeah. Because like, you know what? Like,
00:03:16.060 yeah. I call bullshit. But why would she stay? Women make up reasons they leave men when they 1.00
00:03:21.300 just fall out of love with them. Yeah. So if you're really in love with them, you wouldn't
00:03:24.800 have left them. And yeah, but like, you know, and by the way, cooking's overrated. Men don't 1.00
00:03:28.960 care about that anymore. No, I'm not. No, I'm going to tell you. I have Uber Eats. I do
00:03:32.640 care, but I'll tell you, I don't think it's like people are like, it's like some special
00:03:37.100 thing. Yeah. I think it's, it's like an, it's like a normal thing that would endear you to
00:03:41.040 a man, right? Yeah. But people are like, if I cook you a meal, you owe me a relationship
00:03:45.720 now. You owe me like perfectly. No, for example, that's like a nice thing to do for someone,
00:03:49.640 right? No, but you know what they say? I love you, but I love myself more. So that's why
00:03:53.340 I leave. Yeah. And because, um, you know, and I admit, and I admit, I'm still in love with
00:03:59.780 that man. He's the love of my life, but like, but you left him. Yeah. Because I love myself,
00:04:04.900 no, because I love my, I love myself more. Did he, did he leave because he cheated? Would
00:04:09.180 you say, would you say that's selfish? It's valuing him. Wouldn't you say that's selfish
00:04:15.580 to love yourself more? No, because like, uh, you need, you know, like everyone says, like
00:04:21.300 you need to love yourself before you love someone else. Everyone doesn't say that. Women say 1.00
00:04:25.080 that. I don't know. I'm pointing RuPaul. No, I'm saying single, single women say that to 1.00
00:04:32.920 that. You need to love yourself before a relationship. But if you want to start a family, what do you
00:04:36.320 have to love more of the family? Your kids? Yeah. Yeah, you're right. The family, the
00:04:40.460 kids. And so it's like, if you're already just demonstrating before you're even with
00:04:43.960 a guy that you need to love yourself more than the relationship, then it's like, you
00:04:47.900 don't think that's selfish? You know, because your kids are going to be forever. You said
00:04:50.380 you're in love with him. Yeah. You should call him. On the shut line. I'm just trying to
00:04:56.040 get around the idea that you said you, you love this guy and he didn't tell you something.
00:05:01.180 He was dishonest to you, but you could handle the truth, but you, you fell out over this
00:05:05.600 issue, even though you just admitted you love him. So you've just shown that he should
00:05:09.260 have lied to you. Yeah. But like, if you admit something, I can deal with that. But
00:05:13.400 if you're telling me, no, I've been doing this instead of that, and then I know what
00:05:18.200 you've done. Like, surely now is when you actually build the trust by showing you can handle the
00:05:21.880 truth, right? Saying, Hey, you don't need to lie to me anymore. We can, this is where you
00:05:25.620 get to negotiate and compromise. Right. I mean, I don't lie. If valuing yourself meant
00:05:33.320 like, no, if valuing them meant disrespecting yourself, would you still carry on doing it?
00:05:39.700 Do you think that's what it is? Because we live in a world full of girls that put their 1.00
00:05:42.980 ass and titties on the internet every day. I am the first one. Yeah. So what you're saying 1.00
00:05:48.440 is absolute bullshit. You weren't in love with that man. You value yourself. You're a sex 1.00
00:05:51.400 worker. Let's call it straight. No, but like, I value myself. I leave you for cheating. You're 1.00
00:05:56.040 a sex worker. And I will admit, I stopped doing it while I was with him because he asked me 0.99
00:06:00.640 to you and I tried to, but then I went back to it because, because I can't get enough of
00:06:04.880 it. And I don't mean it to disrespect you, but when I. You can't get enough of it? Oh yeah,
00:06:09.280 no. Of the work? Yeah. In a professional sense or like? Yeah. It's fulfilling, literally?
00:06:14.640 Yeah. Every, every hole. You need to get back with this guy. That guy really changed.
00:06:21.880 But another, another strand of this though, is, is, is what is perhaps what Justin often
00:06:26.320 talks about, which is that, um, if he was genuinely high value, he would have been up
00:06:30.360 front with you at the beginning. Cause you're saying that he lied about it or he, he concealed
00:06:33.460 it. Whereas actually if he'd have said up front, listen, you know, you're my main girl,
00:06:37.180 but guess what? Yeah. From my point of view, I will be, I was like, you know,
00:06:43.860 if you were telling me from the beginning, like, oh, look, I want to do this. Yeah.
00:06:47.880 But, and not use my job against me. I could have thought about it because otherwise it
00:06:53.560 would, I mean, like, you know what? Like we can be polyamorous. Everyone is doing it.
00:06:57.580 Let's try. I think maybe that's what we need to start respecting a little bit more as opposed
00:07:03.500 to loyalty. It's just the honesty, the honesty. Yeah. It's just, you know, yeah. And I don't
00:07:09.520 like to have someone else to come and tell me, look, here's the truth though. Because
00:07:13.580 if, if a man came to you and you truly loved him and he set you down, got everything out
00:07:17.680 the way and you were knee to knee and he looked you dead in the eyes to say, listen, I really
00:07:20.660 care about you. Obviously I'm going to see other women. There's no way I'll ever have 1.00
00:07:24.300 feelings for them. I'm going to take care of you completely. I want to be the man that
00:07:26.980 makes your dreams come true. Let's go to the dark side of the moon. I'm going to be the
00:07:30.700 rock that your emotional waves crashed into. I am there for you. I am in love with you. Let's have
00:07:34.360 kids. I'm going to have sex with women every now and then. She, that girl's delusional. 1.00
00:07:38.160 She doesn't know. And he tells you the truth instead of being a coward. See, the problem 0.99
00:07:43.080 is you don't like a man that's going to be a coward and lie behind your back because he's 1.00
00:07:47.600 too much of a bitch to tell you the truth. You know, the truth, you know, the truth from 1.00
00:07:51.420 the jump that every man wants to do it. It's the respect of sitting you down and telling
00:07:54.760 you the truth. Furthermore, most often when a woman truly, truly loves a man, she does not 0.99
00:07:59.960 want to sleep with other men at all. It's not this, Oh, you get to do it. I want to do it
00:08:04.520 too, because she's so in love with a man. She just wants to be with a man.
00:08:08.160 So in that, in that way, I really respect what you said because it is true in a lot 0.92
00:08:14.080 of women when a man has the balls to actually tell the truth will in fact stay because they 1.00
00:08:19.120 know they can go get with the next guy, live a shittier life and then get lied to from 1.00
00:08:22.660 a coward. I think it comes from the idea and this might be controversial, but it's the idea 0.89
00:08:27.880 that, you know, this is life's not fair. This is how it is. Men are men. I don't know.
00:08:35.800 That's just how I feel. If you're going to be men and men, that's how they're going to
00:08:40.440 be. So if you, if you, if you're man enough to say, look, this is, this is, this is the
00:08:44.840 truth. This is what you're going to have to deal with. I love you, but this is what it
00:08:48.360 is. I would take that any day over.
00:08:51.220 Well, the issue is it's a marketplace, isn't it? You know, and it's very unromantic and
00:08:55.140 it's very, sounds very crude to say, but the reality is that dating, sex relationships,
00:08:58.920 it's a big marketplace out there, right? So the guy who is high value, who has options
00:09:04.040 is good, is, is going to exercise those options in most cases, right? Now, every guy wants to,
00:09:09.400 would like to have multiple women. Not every guy is going to be capable of achieving that.
00:09:13.640 So you're going to get some guys who are sort of lower down in the hierarchy, right? You
00:09:17.120 could date them or you could marry them and they would probably be faithful. 0.64
00:09:20.340 Oh, you go to a trans girl. 1.00
00:09:21.940 Okay. One thing I think people keep on missing with this is that maybe you're not really even
00:09:26.700 messing with the high quality people. Maybe it's just a lot of mediocre, but good looking
00:09:30.400 people who have convinced themselves that they're worthy of the ultimate commitment and love
00:09:34.940 and attention from each other when you're all as mediocre as each other, right? So if you're
00:09:39.060 dating athletes and rappers who are known for being promiscuous, they're not particularly men
00:09:42.680 of high stature in terms of character and you're in a short skirt at an after party,
00:09:48.200 you're not particularly wife material right then. So why, why, why do we kind of convince
00:09:52.980 ourselves that we don't need to compromise and work for what we want? Because I think men 1.00
00:09:57.700 understand that you have to work to get the, the, the woman, like the, the, the one, but
00:10:02.340 I never hear who I'm talking about.
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