JustPearlyThings - August 15, 2023


Pearl SAVAGELY Said THIS About Emotional Men


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11 minutes

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208.38383

Word Count

2,464

Sentence Count

82

Misogynist Sentences

20

Hate Speech Sentences

20


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 What do you guys think the biggest thing
00:00:01.880 that men don't understand about women is
00:00:04.620 and that women don't understand about men?
00:00:07.380 Ooh.
00:00:10.880 Maybe I feel like I, as a woman,
00:00:14.740 don't understand how men portray their emotions.
00:00:20.120 I find it hard to, like, if there was, like,
00:00:22.720 I don't know how to explain it.
00:00:24.860 Like, wait, come back to me.
00:00:27.340 I need to word it in my head
00:00:28.520 before I actually say it out loud.
00:00:30.380 Is it sometimes, like, you don't understand?
00:00:33.060 Like, does your boyfriend do something where...
00:00:34.660 No, no, no.
00:00:35.300 So, like, you've got to come back to me.
00:00:39.560 I need to word it.
00:00:40.280 I need to word it.
00:00:40.860 I need to word it.
00:00:41.520 That's fine.
00:00:42.940 Yeah, sorry to cut you.
00:00:44.260 So, when you were saying that,
00:00:45.960 I was kind of thinking,
00:00:46.740 rah, I know she's going to say something
00:00:47.940 about what men being upset and showing their emotions.
00:00:50.620 Like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:00:52.120 I feel like you're with me.
00:00:53.560 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:00:53.900 I can see where you're going with it still.
00:00:55.300 And that's something what I would have said as well,
00:00:57.640 like, in life.
00:00:58.960 Do you know what I mean?
00:00:59.360 Men tend to not, you know, show their emotions.
00:01:02.540 As much as women.
00:01:03.100 It's the alpha thing.
00:01:04.020 Yeah.
00:01:04.380 In a guy.
00:01:04.960 Yeah.
00:01:05.360 But I think women like a guy to be more open
00:01:08.280 and show them their emotions.
00:01:09.900 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:10.340 You know what I'm saying?
00:01:10.840 But I think as men,
00:01:11.860 I think as how we grew, innit,
00:01:13.320 some men don't grow with their dads.
00:01:14.920 Yeah.
00:01:15.300 Had mummy around.
00:01:16.240 Yeah.
00:01:16.540 So, man had to take that role
00:01:17.720 and be in the stronger person.
00:01:19.700 Do you know what I mean?
00:01:19.980 Yeah.
00:01:20.200 So, if dad was around
00:01:21.980 and man was seeing man upset,
00:01:23.560 then man might be a bit more open.
00:01:25.060 But I don't know.
00:01:26.140 My circumstance was different.
00:01:27.340 My dad weren't around.
00:01:28.260 Yeah.
00:01:28.560 I understand.
00:01:28.900 But my dad was there.
00:01:29.860 Yeah.
00:01:30.240 Do you know what I mean?
00:01:30.640 But my dad passed away
00:01:32.040 during so-and-so, I can't say.
00:01:34.980 But, yeah, that.
00:01:36.220 And after that, it's like,
00:01:38.800 rah, I never had a relationship with him,
00:01:40.000 but I still remember my dad
00:01:41.620 and I remember all the things.
00:01:42.660 But I wish he maybe was there
00:01:44.340 at the start with my growing
00:01:45.820 because it might have made me
00:01:47.200 a different guy now.
00:01:48.300 He taught you things you didn't know.
00:01:49.000 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:01:49.840 And the one thing was emotions
00:01:51.880 because a lot of us
00:01:53.240 keep boiling it up
00:01:54.380 and we get angry
00:01:55.120 and we don't want to show it
00:01:56.500 because we feel weak.
00:01:57.780 Yeah.
00:01:58.100 You know what I mean?
00:01:58.400 But it's not a dickheading
00:01:59.800 to cry, you understand?
00:02:01.380 Or to be open
00:02:02.860 and show your emotions.
00:02:04.700 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:05.560 I've had to learn the hard way
00:02:06.860 in life with certain things anyway.
00:02:08.400 So, I'm only talking from myself.
00:02:10.580 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:10.940 I was one of those guys
00:02:12.580 who built up the anger
00:02:14.180 and wanted to just let it out
00:02:15.720 with bare shouting and script
00:02:16.860 but not crying.
00:02:17.900 But then I learned
00:02:18.840 that crying is another healing.
00:02:20.800 It's natural, yeah.
00:02:21.640 It's a healing.
00:02:22.400 I feel like people like you
00:02:23.980 coming and talking about
00:02:25.380 emotions being so acceptable
00:02:27.580 in men is really important
00:02:28.780 and I feel like it is,
00:02:30.800 you're so right,
00:02:31.760 like there's such a stigma
00:02:32.980 around men having,
00:02:35.500 like being able to be emotional
00:02:37.220 or have like down days
00:02:40.060 or, but I feel like now
00:02:41.820 there's more and more positive
00:02:43.300 role models coming out
00:02:44.560 and who are kind of supporting that.
00:02:46.480 I think there should be
00:02:47.440 a stigma around men
00:02:48.680 being emotional.
00:02:49.680 Yeah.
00:02:50.060 You know what?
00:02:50.780 Yeah, yeah, I have to.
00:02:52.160 Because I think we need
00:02:53.100 strong men in society.
00:02:54.140 Do you know what?
00:02:54.620 I'm not saying like boil it up
00:02:56.240 and don't talk to anybody
00:02:57.240 but I actually like don't think
00:02:59.000 men should be overly emotional,
00:03:00.460 especially to women
00:03:01.140 because women I feel like
00:03:01.940 don't like it long term.
00:03:02.800 Do you know, it's good.
00:03:03.620 You know, so let me just cut
00:03:04.800 and I was going to say something
00:03:05.640 like conscious to what you say
00:03:07.640 and that I think
00:03:08.440 definitely in this day and age
00:03:09.920 a lot of men
00:03:10.480 who've been like
00:03:11.380 just brought up
00:03:12.300 by their mothers,
00:03:13.140 single parents,
00:03:14.040 by their mums.
00:03:14.980 Like they're very emotional.
00:03:17.300 And they've got
00:03:18.020 like feminine traits
00:03:20.100 because obviously
00:03:20.840 they're getting bang up.
00:03:22.360 By them.
00:03:22.760 Yeah.
00:03:23.220 So even when you were saying
00:03:23.980 about the man,
00:03:25.760 obviously I know
00:03:26.440 that's new school business
00:03:27.960 to me,
00:03:28.340 like man making accounts
00:03:29.480 to hit.
00:03:31.120 Yeah, that's adulting.
00:03:32.300 And I'm thinking,
00:03:32.880 but that's kind of girl business.
00:03:34.120 To me in my head,
00:03:34.700 I'm thinking that's girly business.
00:03:35.700 It is.
00:03:35.840 But that's nowadays
00:03:37.780 mans are doing
00:03:38.900 all these kind of girly
00:03:40.680 antics.
00:03:41.720 I agree with Pearl on that one.
00:03:43.560 Do you not think
00:03:43.840 you can still be
00:03:44.580 really, really masculine
00:03:45.580 but just be like
00:03:46.880 open to being
00:03:48.280 a little bit
00:03:49.400 in touch with your emotions
00:03:50.440 as well?
00:03:51.500 Yeah, but then
00:03:52.260 I mean,
00:03:53.360 it's a weird one
00:03:54.660 because masculine
00:03:55.320 Well, yes,
00:03:57.180 if you're being
00:03:57.960 like masculine
00:03:59.480 and men
00:04:00.700 and old school men
00:04:01.640 it's not really
00:04:03.520 showing your emotions
00:04:04.460 like that
00:04:05.020 because that's just
00:04:05.840 a man.
00:04:06.580 It doesn't mean
00:04:07.160 you need to be
00:04:07.620 like wearing your heart
00:04:08.340 in your sleep
00:04:08.740 all the time
00:04:09.580 but like
00:04:10.140 just being okay
00:04:11.480 with not being okay.
00:04:12.960 I think society
00:04:15.360 brainwashes men
00:04:16.520 to be women.
00:04:17.900 And I think
00:04:18.540 we always
00:04:19.060 like it's really weird
00:04:20.540 because once you see this
00:04:21.360 you can't unsee it.
00:04:22.120 It's always like
00:04:22.620 the feminine way
00:04:23.640 to do things
00:04:24.180 is always assumed
00:04:24.880 to be right.
00:04:26.100 So like how women
00:04:27.040 deal with problems
00:04:28.040 that's like assumed
00:04:28.780 to be correct
00:04:29.560 in society
00:04:30.140 like crying,
00:04:30.900 being emotional
00:04:31.460 like that's assumed
00:04:32.220 to be the right way
00:04:33.180 to deal with it.
00:04:34.180 So it's like
00:04:34.580 we have a generation
00:04:35.360 of men
00:04:35.940 that have been told
00:04:36.880 to be women
00:04:37.700 where and it's like
00:04:38.800 it's really
00:04:39.780 because the psychologists
00:04:40.880 are mostly women
00:04:41.920 the teachers
00:04:42.940 are mostly women
00:04:43.880 so it's like
00:04:44.440 they raise men
00:04:45.540 to be women
00:04:46.280 but like the way men
00:04:47.580 usually dealt with problems
00:04:48.880 at least historically
00:04:49.540 was aggression
00:04:50.120 but like aggression
00:04:51.360 is seen as bad
00:04:52.260 like men fighting
00:04:53.040 in the schoolyard
00:04:53.620 that's seen
00:04:53.960 as like a negative thing.
00:04:55.140 I like you poorly man
00:04:56.780 but you know
00:04:57.800 they paint people
00:05:00.260 that talk for themselves
00:05:02.040 that have got confidence
00:05:02.900 as a toxic trait
00:05:04.260 as well
00:05:05.060 in like social media
00:05:06.060 people that are confident
00:05:07.720 and talk up
00:05:09.160 and have their opinions
00:05:10.380 and have their
00:05:10.960 strong viewpoints
00:05:12.100 they create
00:05:12.640 that kind of guy
00:05:13.620 as toxic
00:05:14.380 do you know what I mean?
00:05:14.980 so yeah
00:05:15.820 cocky
00:05:16.300 arrogant
00:05:16.680 toxic
00:05:17.160 so a lot of
00:05:17.840 a lot of guys
00:05:18.680 don't
00:05:19.340 are scared
00:05:20.460 to be on true self
00:05:21.260 because they're scared
00:05:21.720 to get cancelled
00:05:22.300 because they're getting cancelled
00:05:23.120 women love cocky
00:05:24.760 toxic men
00:05:25.520 and I promise you
00:05:26.260 from doing these shows
00:05:27.320 oh I promise you
00:05:28.320 it's always like
00:05:29.460 the girl
00:05:29.800 like sometimes
00:05:30.420 like a girl
00:05:31.080 will be arguing
00:05:31.780 with a guy
00:05:32.260 and saying he's wrong
00:05:33.060 the whole show
00:05:33.680 but after she's flirting
00:05:34.720 with him
00:05:35.160 and I'm like
00:05:35.640 and so it's like
00:05:38.560 it's like
00:05:39.200 like girls say
00:05:40.260 they don't like those traits
00:05:41.380 but I think
00:05:41.900 they genuinely do
00:05:42.940 people like confident people
00:05:44.320 yeah
00:05:44.620 100%
00:05:45.200 yeah
00:05:45.720 if you're confident
00:05:46.420 people are going to like that
00:05:47.740 and you know what I think
00:05:48.900 with this whole emotion thing
00:05:50.080 these are
00:05:50.660 everyone's just overly emotional
00:05:52.580 yeah
00:05:52.960 way too
00:05:53.640 yeah
00:05:54.120 but
00:05:54.700 me I
00:05:55.740 it's about keeping your emotions
00:05:57.760 in check
00:05:58.240 balance
00:05:58.720 not being too overly happy
00:06:00.260 or too overly sad
00:06:01.340 you know what I mean
00:06:01.580 having that
00:06:02.180 yeah it's just about balance
00:06:03.440 yeah
00:06:03.780 that's where I find it
00:06:05.420 and again
00:06:06.100 a lot of men
00:06:06.740 are going on to
00:06:07.620 fair enough
00:06:08.260 women are more emotional
00:06:09.660 we know this
00:06:10.380 but nowadays
00:06:11.360 a lot of men
00:06:12.100 are going over
00:06:13.540 to that emotional side
00:06:14.600 as well
00:06:14.920 to me man
00:06:16.800 needs to kind of
00:06:17.700 pull back
00:06:18.040 I think you can be emotional
00:06:19.080 without being feminine
00:06:20.000 though
00:06:20.760 as a man
00:06:21.460 like you can be a little bit
00:06:22.860 you can just be
00:06:23.500 like accept them
00:06:24.800 move on
00:06:25.360 deal with it in your way
00:06:26.300 without having to like
00:06:27.140 block it out
00:06:27.740 and hide it
00:06:28.380 or be feminine
00:06:29.320 I don't know
00:06:30.580 like a lot of
00:06:31.440 some of these emotions
00:06:32.600 they don't really
00:06:34.780 benefit or help
00:06:36.600 situations
00:06:37.400 and that's why
00:06:38.040 as a man
00:06:39.080 we're not really
00:06:40.700 that emotional
00:06:41.160 because it doesn't
00:06:41.820 make that much difference
00:06:42.740 how would being emotional
00:06:44.180 help a man survive
00:06:45.240 historically
00:06:45.900 it won't
00:06:47.160 it won't
00:06:47.520 exactly
00:06:47.900 it won't
00:06:49.200 it's going to get you
00:06:49.740 in trouble
00:06:50.080 for anything
00:06:50.640 I don't agree to a stent
00:06:53.200 I hear what you man
00:06:54.240 are saying
00:06:54.580 I won't personally
00:06:56.360 say being emotional
00:06:57.400 when I was saying
00:06:58.100 being emotional
00:06:58.640 is be emotional
00:06:59.780 around everyone
00:07:00.680 there's certain people
00:07:01.860 to be emotional
00:07:02.580 around
00:07:02.880 do you feel me
00:07:03.680 like if it's my brother
00:07:04.840 my family
00:07:05.420 people I'm close to me
00:07:06.860 they can see that
00:07:07.920 I'm not saying cry
00:07:08.800 around everyone
00:07:09.360 I'm not trying to tell
00:07:10.160 them I'm be a baby
00:07:10.860 do you understand
00:07:11.660 I'm just saying
00:07:12.720 with the emotional thing
00:07:13.840 you've got to know
00:07:14.800 who and who
00:07:15.280 you're being emotional
00:07:16.060 around
00:07:16.340 so I hear what
00:07:17.280 Pearlie's saying
00:07:17.740 about yeah
00:07:18.320 I feel like they
00:07:19.240 should put a stigma
00:07:19.860 in it
00:07:20.080 but I get you
00:07:21.000 but at the same time
00:07:22.460 if the man
00:07:23.120 ain't showing their
00:07:23.960 emotions
00:07:24.360 when are you going
00:07:25.640 to then
00:07:26.000 when someone's dead
00:07:27.020 or when something's
00:07:28.080 happening
00:07:28.160 exactly
00:07:28.460 that's right
00:07:29.020 that's not life
00:07:31.160 but it's always been life
00:07:32.900 to be honest
00:07:33.760 if we look at humans
00:07:35.760 throughout history
00:07:36.520 from an evolutionary
00:07:38.240 perspective
00:07:38.940 10% of our ancestors
00:07:41.780 before
00:07:42.400 what's it called
00:07:43.320 in the hunter-gatherer days
00:07:44.800 literally died
00:07:45.460 from murder
00:07:46.580 so how would being emotional
00:07:48.000 help you survive
00:07:48.720 back then
00:07:49.120 when 10% of the people
00:07:50.020 were dying from murder
00:07:50.860 isn't that crazy
00:07:51.680 so it's like
00:07:52.940 men don't have any
00:07:53.980 biological reason
00:07:54.860 to be emotional
00:07:55.640 so again
00:07:56.340 we're women
00:07:56.800 we have a biological
00:07:57.640 reason to be emotional
00:07:58.760 because
00:07:59.100 if we bonded
00:08:01.780 with the guy
00:08:02.600 then we would get
00:08:04.240 his resources
00:08:04.960 so we have
00:08:05.700 biological reasons
00:08:06.660 why we're more
00:08:07.300 emotional than men
00:08:08.260 where men don't
00:08:09.260 so
00:08:09.500 and while
00:08:11.080 we are in 2023
00:08:12.120 and it is like
00:08:12.760 a modern world
00:08:13.420 we don't get rid
00:08:14.080 of our biology
00:08:14.800 so by encouraging
00:08:15.880 men to be emotional
00:08:16.720 it's like we're
00:08:17.180 encouraging men
00:08:17.900 to be women
00:08:18.540 wow
00:08:19.540 no
00:08:20.000 I don't agree
00:08:20.800 I don't believe
00:08:21.360 that's what I'm saying
00:08:22.160 that's what I don't
00:08:23.520 you know why
00:08:24.460 I can't agree
00:08:24.860 you have to look around
00:08:25.600 because crying
00:08:26.820 crying for the right
00:08:28.220 reasons is a healing
00:08:29.320 bro
00:08:29.620 you've got to cry
00:08:30.720 to the right people
00:08:31.640 you understand
00:08:32.100 so where you're
00:08:33.520 telling me
00:08:34.140 if I cry
00:08:35.000 it makes me weak
00:08:36.000 or rah rah
00:08:36.660 I've cried
00:08:37.880 because now
00:08:38.620 I've got over
00:08:39.240 but she didn't say
00:08:39.820 weak though
00:08:40.300 no but I'm saying
00:08:41.180 some people look
00:08:41.880 at it as a different
00:08:42.760 angle
00:08:43.100 but personally
00:08:44.900 you can't tell me
00:08:47.900 I'm not crying
00:08:49.760 and I must be
00:08:50.560 dead
00:08:50.760 because I'm marling
00:08:51.540 this sounds bad
00:08:52.860 you know
00:08:53.220 this sounds bad
00:08:54.120 but like
00:08:54.500 I do think men
00:08:55.560 that like cry
00:08:56.440 are weaker
00:08:57.140 see in general
00:08:58.080 yeah
00:08:58.400 no because
00:08:59.080 think about
00:08:59.480 I disagree
00:09:00.320 I disagree
00:09:00.980 but hear me out
00:09:02.520 hear me out
00:09:02.940 hear me out
00:09:03.260 hear me out
00:09:03.700 as to why
00:09:04.140 if we have guy A
00:09:05.320 that cries 10 times a month
00:09:06.660 and guy B that cries 0 times a month
00:09:08.320 who's stronger
00:09:08.940 like I just think like
00:09:10.300 I know there's exceptions
00:09:11.600 but it's like
00:09:12.300 let me ask that question
00:09:14.920 what she just said
00:09:15.920 yeah
00:09:16.140 the guy say it again
00:09:17.400 let me ask
00:09:17.920 if guy A cries 10 times a month
00:09:20.720 and guy B cries 0 times a month
00:09:23.000 who's stronger
00:09:23.860 I go gym
00:09:24.620 every fucking day
00:09:26.120 that guy there
00:09:27.200 cannot do me nothing
00:09:28.520 I'm definitely stronger
00:09:29.920 than this done
00:09:30.480 so there's nothing to do with
00:09:32.100 oh whether
00:09:32.640 do you cry 10 times a month
00:09:33.780 no no
00:09:34.240 but I'm saying
00:09:34.680 it don't make you weaker
00:09:35.780 if you cry
00:09:36.320 talk into your mic
00:09:37.120 oh sorry
00:09:37.660 it doesn't make you weaker
00:09:39.020 if you're crying
00:09:39.800 this is what I'm trying to show
00:09:40.560 the people then
00:09:41.240 do you understand
00:09:41.880 it's not a weak ting
00:09:43.500 when you're crying
00:09:44.460 it's a release ting
00:09:45.460 it's what's happened
00:09:47.140 and what you're going through
00:09:48.320 it's emotions
00:09:48.780 everyone's got feelings
00:09:49.700 do you understand
00:09:50.560 I agree with you
00:09:52.180 it doesn't need to be
00:09:55.080 one extreme or the other
00:09:56.160 but I think men are human
00:09:58.360 men have feelings
00:09:59.400 men need to cry
00:10:00.440 and if they don't
00:10:01.420 let them out
00:10:02.260 and it's not saying
00:10:02.860 it's not saying
00:10:04.360 they need to go on
00:10:05.160 Instagram live
00:10:06.320 and do it in front of everyone
00:10:07.240 or they need to do it
00:10:09.260 every single time they're out
00:10:10.240 but if they don't
00:10:10.880 they're going to bottle up
00:10:11.700 those feelings
00:10:12.180 they're going to get worse and worse
00:10:13.380 but suicide rates are so high
00:10:15.500 with men
00:10:16.120 and this is why
00:10:17.220 I would actually say
00:10:20.800 that suicide rates
00:10:21.760 are high with men
00:10:22.500 because women ruin them
00:10:23.920 financially
00:10:24.560 and take away their children
00:10:26.080 and the legal system
00:10:27.180 and it's legal for them
00:10:28.100 to do so
00:10:28.760 I would say yeah
00:10:29.940 like they zero out men
00:10:31.480 at about 45
00:10:32.460 when they've wasted 20
00:10:34.240 or you not wasted
00:10:35.580 but they've spent 20 years
00:10:36.660 of their life
00:10:37.100 building themselves up
00:10:38.060 having a family
00:10:38.860 and women just say
00:10:39.900 I'm not feeling it today
00:10:40.880 I'm going to take your children
00:10:41.880 and have your shit
00:10:42.660 I would say that's the real reason
00:10:44.600 that suicide
00:10:45.080 and we have a society
00:10:46.500 of women telling men
00:10:48.720 how to be
00:10:49.280 like teaching men
00:10:50.500 how to be women
00:10:51.320 because it's like again
00:10:52.440 at what point
00:10:53.740 is the man
00:10:55.120 like is the crying enough
00:10:56.820 right
00:10:57.360 at what point
00:10:58.260 is he a strong man
00:10:59.780 and I just think it's lying
00:11:01.420 like the girls
00:11:02.040 and no offense
00:11:02.860 no offense to you
00:11:03.500 not personally
00:11:04.100 but I feel like as women
00:11:05.800 like it sounds nice
00:11:06.740 to say yeah
00:11:07.320 cry to me
00:11:08.020 however
00:11:08.580 they do studies
00:11:09.440 on this stuff
00:11:10.100 and women lose respect
00:11:11.700 for men
00:11:12.320 when they see you cry
00:11:13.500 and they lose attraction
00:11:14.700 for you
00:11:15.180 so it sounds nice
00:11:16.780 for me to say yes
00:11:17.640 cry in front of women
00:11:18.720 but I'm being honest
00:11:21.780 that's what I was going to say
00:11:22.840 I was going to say that still
00:11:24.000 I mean
00:11:24.560 without Moojot
00:11:26.680 I was going to say yes
00:11:30.600 I don't care
00:11:31.140 if I was like
00:11:32.540 I don't want the
00:11:33.480 to say yes
00:11:33.800 I feel like
00:11:34.020 I'm being honest
00:11:34.940 because I mean
00:11:35.480 I don't know
00:11:36.100 I'm being honest
00:11:36.340 yeah
00:11:37.160 and it's not
00:11:37.620 as long as you
00:11:37.840 but I'm being honest
00:11:38.300 because it's not
00:11:38.560 anything
00:11:39.320 because I'll make a
00:11:40.280 surprise
00:11:40.820 that still
00:11:41.180 it's not
00:11:42.400 I don't want to say yes
00:11:43.900 there's no reason
00:11:44.700 I don't want to say yes
00:11:46.160 because you're saying yes
00:11:47.100 I don't want to say yes
00:11:48.280 especially if I don't know