JustPearlyThings - November 03, 2023


Pearl Scares The Feminists On The Panel


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In this episode, we talk about the differences between men and women and why men are more likely to get married and have kids compared to women. We also talk about why women today are not living up to the standards of the past and why it's a problem.

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00:00:00.000 difference between men and women is men already conform to what women want. So men know they have 0.95
00:00:05.060 to be tall. They typically have to be in good shape. They typically have to have a good job
00:00:09.860 and make money. They typically have to be charismatic to get women to even talk to them.
00:00:14.080 The difference is women don't know what men want because they'll still sleep with us and give us 1.00
00:00:17.960 attention. So women are not forced to conform to what men want because we'll get the attention 0.80
00:00:22.840 anyways. And there's evidence that suggests that 50% of women are never going to have kids or get 0.96
00:00:28.160 married. And then you take the women that do get married, 50% of them will divorce. And that's by 0.86
00:00:33.340 2030. So it's not even that far away. So like if we take this room, for example, how many girls are 0.99
00:00:38.900 there in this room? Two, four, six, seven. At least, let's make it nicer than it is. At least three of us
00:00:47.060 will never get married and never have kids. And that's a fact. Yeah, and that might be true. I'm 0.99
00:00:51.760 not saying just because there is somebody for everybody who's going to find that person. You
00:00:54.800 might not have the opportunity. Like I could go out in the street and get hit by a car and I can die
00:00:57.860 tomorrow and I didn't have my opportunity to meet my soulmate. But I might not be
00:01:03.000 everybody in this room's cup of tea. That might not be my ratio. That might not be my
00:01:07.640 room to be in. And you know, I actually, I actually agree. There's always, there's always a guy that
00:01:11.940 will date a woman. Yeah. And there's a woman who will accept a man. No, but that's, that's the 0.74
00:01:15.800 difference. Women will not accept them. There are. And that's why there's so many divorces. So I'll tell 1.00
00:01:19.600 you what percent. So they surveyed 5,000 men and they asked what percent of men have had more than
00:01:24.600 one sexual partner in the past year. What percent of men said that they did? Guess.
00:01:29.740 Guess. I would say 80 percent. 10 percent. So women, it's, it's basically a hundred percent of 1.00
00:01:37.880 women are sleeping with 20 percent of men. And it's the same when you look at dating apps. Women 1.00
00:01:42.580 swipe no on men 80 percent of the time. So, and they only swipe right 5 percent. So that's the
00:01:51.020 problem. It's not that the women can't get anybody, but it's once we've hit a certain level, we can't 1.00
00:01:55.140 go down. And women, and women admit this, right? They go, they go around and they say,
00:01:59.780 raise your standards. You're a queen. You're amazing. And then like, don't accept the treatment
00:02:04.220 that you accepted before. But the problem is you, there's not enough men that women want to go 0.99
00:02:10.900 around. Well, I think that might have something to do with the way our culture and mindset around
00:02:18.040 relationships have definitely changed. Like you guys are saying you are wanting a traditional
00:02:23.320 relationship. Well, nobody is moving in a traditional way these days. So that's why you're
00:02:28.580 not going to find people. You have older men looking for someone half their age because, you know,
00:02:33.720 they're not, they're clashing with the women who have these mindsets that they've gathered from 1.00
00:02:37.680 pop culture or whatever that's going on today. So, you know, if we have this imbalance of people
00:02:43.160 who are agreeing on what they want out of a relationship or what they actually can provide
00:02:47.640 in that relationship, because I think a lot of people also aren't realistic with themselves,
00:02:51.280 then of course, you're going to have some type of imbalance in the amount of people that want
00:02:56.080 to be married and the people that will get married.
00:02:58.200 No, but the reality is women today don't even understand what traditionalism is. Because 1.00
00:03:04.520 when women say they want to be traditional, they always have this idea of the man pays for 1.00
00:03:08.780 everything. The man and so much money that he can cater for the family. But the reality is
00:03:12.760 most people that were traditional back in the day weren't even living that kind of life.
00:03:17.300 The women were literally working alongside their husbands and still gave them the respect 1.00
00:03:22.300 of being the man of the house. They weren't living any soft life. Most people were poor
00:03:26.980 for most of humanity. So every family you see that have come through time, there's only
00:03:32.920 a few of them that actually lived a soft life. So women today all want to live like the queens 1.00
00:03:38.960 of the past.
00:03:39.640 I agree. And so do the men. That's why you have something called the sassy man apocalypse.
00:03:43.660 Like men are literally running around bragging about, but that's the dates out of women. 1.00
00:03:48.100 I actually disagree because all throughout history, only 40% of men have ever reproduced.
00:03:53.280 So the reality is throughout history, men have never really been at the table like women think. 0.85
00:04:00.760 The only reason why you think men have been is because it's the men you see. And those are
00:04:04.460 the men that are actually desirable.
00:04:05.700 Like what percent of men do you even think can finesse dates?
00:04:10.560 Um, I think, like I said, it's somebody for everybody. Like you literally have stuff like
00:04:14.600 people that come out of prison and they find women on Facebook and now a woman is taking
00:04:18.460 care of them and paying all their bills.
00:04:20.260 Women, women do love, women do, women do, women do, women do, women do, you've been watching
00:04:24.100 nifty.
00:04:25.100 I don't know.
00:04:26.100 No, no, no. She's actually, she's actually, she's actually.
00:04:29.100 Love off the look up.
00:04:30.100 Love off the look up.
00:04:31.100 Love off the look up.
00:04:32.100 That's true.
00:04:33.100 So you're actually, you're not, you're not wrong about, you're not, you're not wrong
00:04:38.100 about criminals. Like, um, violent criminals are more likely to reproduce, but that's because
00:04:42.520 women are attracted to men that can protect them. And there's some biology where women, you know, 1.00
00:04:48.100 I think that if a guy kills someone else, some reason that they can kill for her too.
00:04:53.100 And women hate to admit this. Women absolutely hate to admit that that's what we find attractive, 1.00
00:04:58.100 but there is a reason that every single girl loves watching horror films and documentaries
00:05:04.100 about serial killers.
00:05:05.100 I don't know if that's true.
00:05:06.100 Thank you.
00:05:07.100 It's absolutely true.
00:05:08.100 What percent, what percent of men do you think women find attractive?
00:05:11.100 What percent of men? Um, probably like 25, 30%.
00:05:17.100 20%.
00:05:18.100 But I also feel like that's an issue as well. Like we think we have so many choices and we
00:05:23.100 don't have everybody on the hinge. It's not your choice. Like you're not going to meet everybody
00:05:27.100 in the world. So you can't just base it off of who you're attracted to. Like there's so
00:05:31.100 many more things that go into a relationship.
00:05:33.100 You're, you're, you're, you're right. But the problem is that's what women select for in 1.00
00:05:37.100 their twenties. That's the number one thing women select for in their twenties is looks 1.00
00:05:41.100 and money goes higher in their thirties. And so when women have the most options, they're 1.00
00:05:46.100 selecting for looks and they're only dating and sleeping with the top 20% of men.
00:05:51.100 Wow. And that's why, that's why the, that's why the women will say men are trash, men are 1.00
00:05:55.100 the problem because they're all sleeping with 20% of men where 80% of men aren't really getting
00:05:59.100 play at all.
00:06:00.100 No, I agree.
00:06:01.100 Yeah.
00:06:02.100 80% of men on the hunt for these women.
00:06:03.100 Oh, I agree.
00:06:04.100 You don't got as many places.
00:06:05.100 Women should be pretty easy to get that 80%. 1.00
00:06:07.100 You need to settle down with the scrub, with the bag.
00:06:09.100 Benzel is not coming. Like he's not coming. And that's why people think that women expire 1.00
00:06:17.100 so early is because you're looking for somebody who has this certain image that you've seen
00:06:21.100 on Instagram, you've seen on social media where you're sleeping on, you know, every other aspect
00:06:25.100 that is the, the important things in a relationship looks will fade because if you ask me, if women 1.00
00:06:30.100 have an expiration date, so do men, like just because you can keep going like, but, but the
00:06:36.100 difference is men, men don't expire the same way women do. I would argue if men have an expiration 0.64
00:06:41.100 date, it's maybe 55, 50, but if you look on dating apps, what if you want to the most swiped
00:06:47.100 right age on, um, I think it's like plenty of fish or something for women. Guess what it is? 1.00
00:06:52.100 18.
00:06:54.100 18.
00:06:55.100 18.
00:06:56.100 And guess what it is for men?
00:06:58.100 Probably 60 because it's not for love.
00:07:01.100 Not that. No, no, no. But it's what we're attracted to. Don't you? Okay. Are you attracted to a guy that
00:07:05.100 has a good career and he's hardworking? Okay. Then what does that come with? Age.
00:07:10.100 That's true. This is true. But yeah, you, and are you, are you, are you attracted to a guy that's wiser
00:07:15.100 than you that knows more about the world than you?
00:07:17.100 Yeah. In general.
00:07:18.100 Yeah. But men don't care about that. They don't care about what you do for work. They don't care about 1.00
00:07:24.100 how wise you are about the world. Like they can, they can, men are kind of attracted to girls that
00:07:28.100 are naive and that comes with youth. So we're just not attracted to the same things.
00:07:33.100 That's, this is true. And I feel like, I'd say teachable instead of naive. Okay. Yeah.
00:07:39.100 Moldable. Moldable has like a manipulative flavor to it. Yeah. But like, if I can teach her about the
00:07:44.100 reality of the world and she's going to, she's going to like learn it. Conform.
00:07:48.100 Way better. If she's on my, like, if I can get her on my game plan, we're all going to win.
00:07:53.100 Right. If she's like combating me and fighting it. Cause you've got all this other programming
00:07:57.100 in her head already. Yeah. We're going to be fighting each other the whole way.
00:08:01.100 That's it. And if she's like 30 going on 40, so many other people have tried to teach her stuff.
00:08:05.100 Yeah. By the time she comes around to me, but I've got to teach you, you're going to tell me everything.
00:08:09.100 Okay. But then that also comes down to, obviously, we're not talking about age, but when you're having a partner,
00:08:16.100 one of my things is, um, I say to my friends before we got here, do you have the desire to want to unlearn some of your BS behavior?
00:08:26.100 Do you have that desire as a friend, as a family member, as a whatever, because some things may not be serving you the way you think it does.
00:08:36.100 So for example, the young lady over there said, um, communication, effective communication, the way she receives, the way she delivers.
00:08:45.100 He may decide that, you know what? I'm not saying he needs to conform to, um, her throwing her toys at the car to want an argument, whatever.
00:08:52.100 But he understands that maybe that is means that she just wants a bit of attention.
00:08:56.100 So I'm not even going to feed into that. I'm going to go and, um, give her a hug, whatever it is that he knows,
00:09:02.100 gets her to a place of comfort where she feels safe, whatever it is that, so that again, you're understanding her communication.
00:09:10.100 That is the worst advice ever.
00:09:12.100 What? To unlearn bad behavior?
00:09:15.100 No, like when you said, um, if, if she's doing all of that, then he just, um,
00:09:21.100 I'm not saying he needs to give a hug. I'm just saying whatever works for her.
00:09:24.100 No, but whatever works for her is not what he should do.
00:09:27.100 Or whatever works for him.
00:09:28.100 Because, because what happens is, is just like the child analogy.
00:09:31.100 When a child throws a tantrum and then you suit their tantrum, you literally tell them that whenever they want something, they can get it by doing that.
00:09:41.100 So yeah, literally teaching her bad behaviors.
00:09:43.100 Right. So then back to my original point was, do we have the willingness to unlearn?
00:09:48.100 So perhaps it's the open conversation that needs to happen at a later stage or there.
00:09:53.100 And then if he wants to have that conversation, can he effectively communicate that?
00:09:58.100 Can they both take it in and understand?
00:10:00.100 Cause you can listen and hear something, but you may not understand it.
00:10:03.100 So you can just say, yes. Okay.
00:10:05.100 Did you hear me? Yeah.
00:10:07.100 Did you understand me?
00:10:09.100 But then if I drill that into you, then maybe that's what she meant.
00:10:13.100 It's a nag. 1.00
00:10:14.100 No.
00:10:15.100 You know?
00:10:16.100 So again, unlearning bad behavior or unlearning bad habits that were installed, programmed society, outside social media, whatever it is.
00:10:23.100 That's one of the things we have to be willing to unlearn things that don't serve you or serve the purpose of whatever the relationship is.
00:10:30.100 Mm mm hmm.
00:10:31.100 So yes,
00:10:32.100 you know.
00:10:33.100 I'm not part of it's a nature is.
00:10:34.100 Yeah.
00:10:35.100 I'm not part of it.
00:10:36.100 About this field right in a series.
00:10:37.100 Mm hmm.
00:10:38.100 So over here, this field is amazing.
00:10:51.100 I'm gonna close his company.
00:10:52.100 It's wonderful to see that I'm done very well,
00:10:53.080 I'm not part of it.
00:10:54.100 Is there a second thing.