JustPearlyThings - April 18, 2023


Pearl SCHOOLED Red Haired Feminist


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

225.0114

Word Count

1,975

Sentence Count

172

Misogynist Sentences

14

Hate Speech Sentences

13


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the difference between men and women when it comes to sex and why women are attracted to men who sleep with a lot of women. We also talk about the benefits and disadvantages of sleeping with lots of men.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Has value and runs around sleeping with a lot of women, could he be a hoe?
00:00:03.540 No.
00:00:04.240 Why?
00:00:04.860 Because, again, right, attraction is a very subjective term,
00:00:08.160 and women don't typically look at a man's physical appearance to determine attraction.
00:00:13.120 They typically look at behavior and, like, communication style.
00:00:15.940 Okay, fine, but if he's sleeping with a lot of women,
00:00:17.980 and if we're putting women in the same context,
00:00:19.700 if she sleeps with a lot of men, she's a hoe.
00:00:21.160 If a man sleeps with a lot of women, regardless of who he is,
00:00:23.680 you know, how attractive, his value, whatever,
00:00:25.560 if he's sleeping with a lot of women, wouldn't he be a hoe?
00:00:28.100 You're applying the exact same parameters, but withdrawing.
00:00:32.180 Well, a man can't get pregnant, right?
00:00:34.480 And so there's no negative consequence to him sleeping with a lot of women.
00:00:40.360 I mean, STDs, but also why is that?
00:00:43.480 The implication here is that a woman who sleeps with a lot of men, right?
00:00:47.780 That's what we're talking about.
00:00:49.080 Because that's easy to do, so it's easy for a woman to just sleep with a lot of guys.
00:00:53.160 Go outside and say, does anyone want to have sex with me?
00:00:55.700 You can get it done.
00:00:56.620 And if a dude does that, they look at him like he's nuts.
00:00:59.380 You know what changed my perspective on this?
00:01:02.600 I went to a pickup artist boot camp once.
00:01:05.420 This is the wildest thing I've ever seen.
00:01:07.700 These guys paid thousands of dollars to learn how to get laid.
00:01:11.520 Thousands of dollars.
00:01:13.220 And literally went through coaching,
00:01:15.020 trying to figure out how to build attraction with a girl,
00:01:17.020 all this stuff.
00:01:18.500 And I'm just like, all I have to do is exist.
00:01:21.200 So if we bring that back to what we're talking about.
00:01:23.080 If we bring that back to what we're talking about in terms of virginity when we were younger,
00:01:27.620 in terms of like girls weren't really thinking about it that much.
00:01:29.580 And men kind of saw it as this victory, right?
00:01:31.100 Isn't that what we're taught?
00:01:31.980 That's what's pushed on to us.
00:01:33.140 That men losing their virginity and sleeping with lots of women is like this,
00:01:35.900 you know, like high achievement.
00:01:37.460 So they pay lots of money.
00:01:38.640 Because if you get laid a lot, then you're seen as, you know, successful, right?
00:01:42.720 Yeah, I would say it is a high achievement.
00:01:44.940 Because historically, most men didn't even reproduce.
00:01:47.520 Only 40% of men reproduced historically, where 80% of women did.
00:01:50.820 And even 8,000 years ago, 17 women reproduced for every one man.
00:01:54.780 And so it's like, that's an achievement.
00:01:57.200 Most men don't even get to reproduce.
00:01:59.000 And I know, like now, you know, you take away the reproduction because we have birth control.
00:02:02.540 But you don't get rid of biology.
00:02:04.620 So are we reducing it to reproduction then?
00:02:06.820 Well, that was the initial reason for sex.
00:02:10.500 But we've definitely developed as a society, right?
00:02:12.860 Past that point where it's not just about reproduction.
00:02:14.800 But I'm saying like, you can't get rid of the way people feel.
00:02:18.120 In terms of?
00:02:18.820 If like men are naturally predispositioned to be repulsed by a girl that sleeps around.
00:02:22.840 And so I'm just like the same way you, typically women like men that are taller than us.
00:02:27.240 And men don't come to us and say, oh, you shouldn't like men taller than us.
00:02:30.860 Like, no.
00:02:31.360 So I would say again that that would like, what?
00:02:34.120 There's some angry little men out there.
00:02:36.820 There's some angry, honestly.
00:02:39.680 So I continue, Perron.
00:02:41.540 In terms of that, like, evolving over time, right?
00:02:43.680 Biologically evolving over time, I'd say that there's other attitudes that have also evolved
00:02:46.980 over time, kind of, and then are probably taking up more space now.
00:02:50.060 Maybe haven't got to the same point as that same mindset.
00:02:52.500 But I do think we can get to a point where that can shift, right?
00:02:55.640 Especially because it's evolved.
00:02:57.020 It's a mindset that's evolved based on what we've been taught.
00:02:58.820 We can be taught different things and change that gradually.
00:03:01.180 But we have to be open to that.
00:03:02.320 So I agree with you.
00:03:03.380 I do think it's evolved over time.
00:03:05.320 Where, like, typically before, as I said, like, I would say men are more forgiving with
00:03:10.560 body count than they used to be.
00:03:12.280 So I would agree with you that it has evolved.
00:03:14.540 But is it better?
00:03:16.640 Like, are the outcomes better nowadays?
00:03:19.280 I would argue that any space that kind of promotes, like I said, acceptance and understanding
00:03:22.200 of why we behave in certain ways and why we drift towards certain things and understanding
00:03:27.240 how it can harm?
00:03:28.380 Because I feel like that kind of mindset of, like, in terms of, you know, if you slept
00:03:32.360 a lot of people, like, women as a man, you're successful is essentially harmful because it
00:03:37.300 places a lot of that emphasis on that...
00:03:39.840 Harmful to who?
00:03:40.540 But the thing is, it's true.
00:03:42.740 And I just think, like, you can live in delusion...
00:03:44.780 You think it's harmful to men?
00:03:45.000 But it's true right now.
00:03:46.600 And I would agree with that.
00:03:47.380 Yes, 100%.
00:03:47.820 I would say that that is, if we talk about the general, that is kind of the general mindset
00:03:50.700 at the moment, I would agree.
00:03:51.600 But does that mean it's the best mindset, right?
00:03:53.940 But who are you to determine what's the best mindset?
00:03:56.620 Yeah, because I'm trying to understand who...
00:03:57.980 You said it's harmful.
00:03:58.860 Harmful to who?
00:03:59.720 Like, who is it harmful to?
00:04:00.480 So, in terms of, like, situations like grape, right?
00:04:03.580 Men who are, like, incels, right?
00:04:04.920 Who don't maybe have that same achievement, right?
00:04:07.240 They kind of resort to quite violent means in order to reach that same level of success
00:04:11.760 or they feel kind of, like, you know, put out because they don't get to be able to do it.
00:04:15.300 And that's why incel culture kind of develops because they think, like, a certain group of
00:04:18.040 men only gets all the women because, you know, they're at this high level.
00:04:20.660 And then often they turn violent, right?
00:04:23.220 And it can be a very destructive view when you place all the emphasis on that, like, macho...
00:04:27.020 Not macho, which is probably not the right word to say there.
00:04:28.860 That, like, hyper-masculine focus on sexuality and seeing it as something to achieve, right?
00:04:35.200 When we do that and then men don't and then they don't feel masculine anymore and they
00:04:38.840 feel emasculated by it and that can turn very violent.
00:04:41.340 So, it can be dangerous for society.
00:04:42.640 And I'm not saying this is me, you know, saying, oh, this is...
00:04:44.840 I'm saying it's a point to consider.
00:04:46.560 It's a thing to talk about when we're considering what's best for everyone.
00:04:49.360 You're actually somewhat correct.
00:04:50.780 It is dangerous for society.
00:04:52.420 Like, the more...
00:04:54.300 Like, when there's a large group of men that aren't getting laid, basically, that is dangerous
00:04:58.100 for society.
00:04:58.720 Do you know what happens when men don't get laid?
00:05:00.400 Yeah.
00:05:00.540 But it's because the emphasis is on the fact, you know, and that's where we've put the
00:05:04.000 focus...
00:05:04.060 Society becomes more aggressive.
00:05:06.280 No, males become more aggressive.
00:05:07.680 Yeah, exactly.
00:05:08.180 Men become more aggressive when they don't get laid.
00:05:09.700 But I think that's because of the emphasis that we've put on being laid and essentially...
00:05:13.100 No, no, no.
00:05:13.420 That comes from biology, survival, reproduction, that sort of thing.
00:05:16.260 It's not an emphasis.
00:05:17.400 It's a biological thing.
00:05:18.560 But it's...
00:05:19.360 We are taught that.
00:05:20.140 We are taught that through biology.
00:05:21.340 That is something that has evolved based on what we've been taught and through a need for survival,
00:05:23.880 right?
00:05:24.000 To reproduce, to be able to, you know, reproduce your bloodline and lineage and that sort of thing.
00:05:27.460 It's a survival-based mindset.
00:05:28.860 Men need to release.
00:05:29.620 You don't know what it is.
00:05:30.600 There are other ways to release.
00:05:32.140 You don't have to release just through sex.
00:05:33.460 Hang on.
00:05:34.000 You're a woman.
00:05:34.980 I'm a man.
00:05:35.620 Men need to release their testosterone.
00:05:37.160 They need to find...
00:05:37.740 Women have testosterone?
00:05:38.420 Hang on.
00:05:38.780 Hang on.
00:05:39.060 Hang on.
00:05:39.080 They need to find a way in which they need to release.
00:05:42.160 How do you release?
00:05:43.140 How do you release?
00:05:43.960 What?
00:05:44.240 By shagging some birds?
00:05:46.040 Is that how you release?
00:05:47.140 Is that your release?
00:05:48.740 Is that...
00:05:49.300 Sorry.
00:05:50.000 You just said...
00:05:51.460 Yeah, I hear you.
00:05:52.520 But what I'm saying to you is men are biologically wired a certain way.
00:05:58.000 Are you a biologist?
00:06:00.000 Men are biologically wired a certain way.
00:06:03.020 Okay?
00:06:03.480 Okay.
00:06:03.820 So what happens in society is that when men are not getting sexual...
00:06:11.180 When men are not sexually...
00:06:13.740 What's the word I'm looking for?
00:06:15.020 Gratified.
00:06:15.740 Gratified.
00:06:16.200 Gratified.
00:06:16.780 Yes, that's the word you're looking for.
00:06:17.720 When men are not sexually gratified, they get more aggressive.
00:06:20.900 Do they?
00:06:21.500 So...
00:06:22.020 Can I speak into the mic, please?
00:06:23.360 Sorry.
00:06:23.680 Sorry.
00:06:24.280 When they are more sexually gratified...
00:06:26.240 They're less violent.
00:06:27.420 Is that what you're saying?
00:06:28.240 They're less violent.
00:06:28.900 Okay.
00:06:29.500 That is the biggest logical fallacy I've ever heard in my entire fucking life.
00:06:33.640 It's not a logical fallacy.
00:06:34.860 It is.
00:06:35.440 It's true.
00:06:36.000 But I would say that...
00:06:37.320 Thank you.
00:06:37.740 I'd have to agree.
00:06:38.440 All right.
00:06:38.720 Okay.
00:06:39.020 So we've got three men saying it's true.
00:06:41.800 So you explain why it's a logical fallacy.
00:06:43.900 So you're saying that if I don't get laid, I'm going to hit someone.
00:06:48.000 I said, do you explain why it's a logical fallacy?
00:06:50.280 Well, you said you've never had trouble talking to women.
00:06:53.020 So you probably wouldn't know what that's like, right?
00:06:56.060 You said earlier in the show, you've never had trouble talking to women.
00:06:59.160 You're good with the ladies.
00:07:00.500 Yeah.
00:07:00.760 You guys should really ask Justin about this.
00:07:02.880 Yeah.
00:07:03.380 You guys should really ask Justin about this.
00:07:04.460 He has a lot of study and history and knowledge on the...
00:07:06.620 Go on, Justin.
00:07:07.080 Well, so I mean, it's evolution psychology.
00:07:09.440 But more so than that, if a man masturbates, he can get it really...
00:07:13.080 So you won't feel as aggressive, right?
00:07:14.400 But I mean, I don't know if you guys ever heard of NoFap.
00:07:17.380 I'm a huge advocate for the NoFap movement.
00:07:19.360 And I'm like seven years into it, right?
00:07:22.260 And I know if I don't have sex for like, I don't know, a week or two, I start feeling
00:07:27.160 extremely aggressive.
00:07:28.700 Right.
00:07:28.900 And I think it's very common for men to feel that way.
00:07:33.140 Because when you abstain from sex, your testosterone is increasing.
00:07:36.440 You need to have that release.
00:07:38.080 And if you don't believe me, go try it.
00:07:39.700 Stop drinking off.
00:07:40.580 Stop having sex for two weeks, three weeks.
00:07:42.220 And see how you feel.
00:07:43.740 But would you not agree that there's other ways to release other than just sexual gratification?
00:07:46.640 You're a woman.
00:07:47.940 Masturbation or sex?
00:07:49.380 Yeah, no, I've realized that I'm talking to men.
00:07:51.120 Thank you.
00:07:51.500 But I can enter into the conversation and ask about it, right?
00:07:54.120 And I'm saying, are there not other ways for you to release, not just sex?
00:07:57.900 Through exercise, right?
00:07:58.960 Through physical engagement and healthy in a controlled environment, right?
00:08:02.860 It's not the same as busting a nut.
00:08:04.980 Fair enough.
00:08:05.720 Thank you, Justin.
00:08:06.380 Thank you for being so like...
00:08:07.660 So, Justin, you're a club promoter, you're a YouTuber, yes?
00:08:12.780 So like your work outlet is having conversations like this and busting a nut.
00:08:20.260 Yeah, sure.
00:08:21.240 Yeah, sweet.
00:08:21.660 So how do you manage your aggression?
00:08:24.960 You say you're seven years into this nofap.
00:08:26.540 How do you manage your aggression when you feel it coming up?
00:08:28.740 You have sex.
00:08:29.400 Fair enough.
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