JustPearlyThings - April 18, 2023


Pearl SCHOOLED Red Haired Feminist


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Length

8 minutes

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Word count

1,975

Sentence count

172

Harmful content

Misogyny

14

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Hate speech

13

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the difference between men and women when it comes to sex and why women are attracted to men who sleep with a lot of women. We also talk about the benefits and disadvantages of sleeping with lots of men.

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00:00:00.000 Has value and runs around sleeping with a lot of women, could he be a hoe? 1.00
00:00:03.540 No.
00:00:04.240 Why?
00:00:04.860 Because, again, right, attraction is a very subjective term,
00:00:08.160 and women don't typically look at a man's physical appearance to determine attraction. 0.99
00:00:13.120 They typically look at behavior and, like, communication style.
00:00:15.940 Okay, fine, but if he's sleeping with a lot of women, 1.00
00:00:17.980 and if we're putting women in the same context, 0.66
00:00:19.700 if she sleeps with a lot of men, she's a hoe. 1.00
00:00:21.160 If a man sleeps with a lot of women, regardless of who he is,
00:00:23.680 you know, how attractive, his value, whatever,
00:00:25.560 if he's sleeping with a lot of women, wouldn't he be a hoe? 1.00
00:00:28.100 You're applying the exact same parameters, but withdrawing.
00:00:32.180 Well, a man can't get pregnant, right? 1.00
00:00:34.480 And so there's no negative consequence to him sleeping with a lot of women.
00:00:40.360 I mean, STDs, but also why is that?
00:00:43.480 The implication here is that a woman who sleeps with a lot of men, right? 0.84
00:00:47.780 That's what we're talking about.
00:00:49.080 Because that's easy to do, so it's easy for a woman to just sleep with a lot of guys. 1.00
00:00:53.160 Go outside and say, does anyone want to have sex with me?
00:00:55.700 You can get it done.
00:00:56.620 And if a dude does that, they look at him like he's nuts.
00:00:59.380 You know what changed my perspective on this?
00:01:02.600 I went to a pickup artist boot camp once.
00:01:05.420 This is the wildest thing I've ever seen.
00:01:07.700 These guys paid thousands of dollars to learn how to get laid. 0.97
00:01:11.520 Thousands of dollars.
00:01:13.220 And literally went through coaching,
00:01:15.020 trying to figure out how to build attraction with a girl,
00:01:17.020 all this stuff.
00:01:18.500 And I'm just like, all I have to do is exist.
00:01:21.200 So if we bring that back to what we're talking about.
00:01:23.080 If we bring that back to what we're talking about in terms of virginity when we were younger,
00:01:27.620 in terms of like girls weren't really thinking about it that much.
00:01:29.580 And men kind of saw it as this victory, right?
00:01:31.100 Isn't that what we're taught?
00:01:31.980 That's what's pushed on to us.
00:01:33.140 That men losing their virginity and sleeping with lots of women is like this,
00:01:35.900 you know, like high achievement.
00:01:37.460 So they pay lots of money.
00:01:38.640 Because if you get laid a lot, then you're seen as, you know, successful, right?
00:01:42.720 Yeah, I would say it is a high achievement.
00:01:44.940 Because historically, most men didn't even reproduce.
00:01:47.520 Only 40% of men reproduced historically, where 80% of women did.
00:01:50.820 And even 8,000 years ago, 17 women reproduced for every one man. 0.79
00:01:54.780 And so it's like, that's an achievement.
00:01:57.200 Most men don't even get to reproduce. 0.97
00:01:59.000 And I know, like now, you know, you take away the reproduction because we have birth control.
00:02:02.540 But you don't get rid of biology.
00:02:04.620 So are we reducing it to reproduction then?
00:02:06.820 Well, that was the initial reason for sex.
00:02:10.500 But we've definitely developed as a society, right?
00:02:12.860 Past that point where it's not just about reproduction.
00:02:14.800 But I'm saying like, you can't get rid of the way people feel.
00:02:18.120 In terms of?
00:02:18.820 If like men are naturally predispositioned to be repulsed by a girl that sleeps around.
00:02:22.840 And so I'm just like the same way you, typically women like men that are taller than us.
00:02:27.240 And men don't come to us and say, oh, you shouldn't like men taller than us.
00:02:30.860 Like, no.
00:02:31.360 So I would say again that that would like, what?
00:02:34.120 There's some angry little men out there.
00:02:36.820 There's some angry, honestly.
00:02:39.680 So I continue, Perron.
00:02:41.540 In terms of that, like, evolving over time, right?
00:02:43.680 Biologically evolving over time, I'd say that there's other attitudes that have also evolved
00:02:46.980 over time, kind of, and then are probably taking up more space now.
00:02:50.060 Maybe haven't got to the same point as that same mindset.
00:02:52.500 But I do think we can get to a point where that can shift, right?
00:02:55.640 Especially because it's evolved.
00:02:57.020 It's a mindset that's evolved based on what we've been taught.
00:02:58.820 We can be taught different things and change that gradually.
00:03:01.180 But we have to be open to that.
00:03:02.320 So I agree with you.
00:03:03.380 I do think it's evolved over time.
00:03:05.320 Where, like, typically before, as I said, like, I would say men are more forgiving with
00:03:10.560 body count than they used to be.
00:03:12.280 So I would agree with you that it has evolved.
00:03:14.540 But is it better?
00:03:16.640 Like, are the outcomes better nowadays?
00:03:19.280 I would argue that any space that kind of promotes, like I said, acceptance and understanding
00:03:22.200 of why we behave in certain ways and why we drift towards certain things and understanding
00:03:27.240 how it can harm?
00:03:28.380 Because I feel like that kind of mindset of, like, in terms of, you know, if you slept
00:03:32.360 a lot of people, like, women as a man, you're successful is essentially harmful because it 0.99
00:03:37.300 places a lot of that emphasis on that...
00:03:39.840 Harmful to who?
00:03:40.540 But the thing is, it's true.
00:03:42.740 And I just think, like, you can live in delusion...
00:03:44.780 You think it's harmful to men?
00:03:45.000 But it's true right now.
00:03:46.600 And I would agree with that.
00:03:47.380 Yes, 100%.
00:03:47.820 I would say that that is, if we talk about the general, that is kind of the general mindset
00:03:50.700 at the moment, I would agree.
00:03:51.600 But does that mean it's the best mindset, right?
00:03:53.940 But who are you to determine what's the best mindset?
00:03:56.620 Yeah, because I'm trying to understand who...
00:03:57.980 You said it's harmful.
00:03:58.860 Harmful to who?
00:03:59.720 Like, who is it harmful to?
00:04:00.480 So, in terms of, like, situations like grape, right?
00:04:03.580 Men who are, like, incels, right? 0.98
00:04:04.920 Who don't maybe have that same achievement, right?
00:04:07.240 They kind of resort to quite violent means in order to reach that same level of success
00:04:11.760 or they feel kind of, like, you know, put out because they don't get to be able to do it.
00:04:15.300 And that's why incel culture kind of develops because they think, like, a certain group of
00:04:18.040 men only gets all the women because, you know, they're at this high level. 0.99
00:04:20.660 And then often they turn violent, right?
00:04:23.220 And it can be a very destructive view when you place all the emphasis on that, like, macho...
00:04:27.020 Not macho, which is probably not the right word to say there.
00:04:28.860 That, like, hyper-masculine focus on sexuality and seeing it as something to achieve, right?
00:04:35.200 When we do that and then men don't and then they don't feel masculine anymore and they
00:04:38.840 feel emasculated by it and that can turn very violent.
00:04:41.340 So, it can be dangerous for society.
00:04:42.640 And I'm not saying this is me, you know, saying, oh, this is...
00:04:44.840 I'm saying it's a point to consider.
00:04:46.560 It's a thing to talk about when we're considering what's best for everyone.
00:04:49.360 You're actually somewhat correct.
00:04:50.780 It is dangerous for society.
00:04:52.420 Like, the more...
00:04:54.300 Like, when there's a large group of men that aren't getting laid, basically, that is dangerous
00:04:58.100 for society.
00:04:58.720 Do you know what happens when men don't get laid? 1.00
00:05:00.400 Yeah.
00:05:00.540 But it's because the emphasis is on the fact, you know, and that's where we've put the
00:05:04.000 focus...
00:05:04.060 Society becomes more aggressive.
00:05:06.280 No, males become more aggressive.
00:05:07.680 Yeah, exactly.
00:05:08.180 Men become more aggressive when they don't get laid.
00:05:09.700 But I think that's because of the emphasis that we've put on being laid and essentially...
00:05:13.100 No, no, no.
00:05:13.420 That comes from biology, survival, reproduction, that sort of thing.
00:05:16.260 It's not an emphasis.
00:05:17.400 It's a biological thing.
00:05:18.560 But it's...
00:05:19.360 We are taught that.
00:05:20.140 We are taught that through biology.
00:05:21.340 That is something that has evolved based on what we've been taught and through a need for survival,
00:05:23.880 right?
00:05:24.000 To reproduce, to be able to, you know, reproduce your bloodline and lineage and that sort of thing.
00:05:27.460 It's a survival-based mindset.
00:05:28.860 Men need to release. 0.85
00:05:29.620 You don't know what it is.
00:05:30.600 There are other ways to release.
00:05:32.140 You don't have to release just through sex.
00:05:33.460 Hang on.
00:05:34.000 You're a woman.
00:05:34.980 I'm a man.
00:05:35.620 Men need to release their testosterone. 1.00
00:05:37.160 They need to find...
00:05:37.740 Women have testosterone? 1.00
00:05:38.420 Hang on.
00:05:38.780 Hang on.
00:05:39.060 Hang on.
00:05:39.080 They need to find a way in which they need to release.
00:05:42.160 How do you release?
00:05:43.140 How do you release?
00:05:43.960 What?
00:05:44.240 By shagging some birds?
00:05:46.040 Is that how you release?
00:05:47.140 Is that your release?
00:05:48.740 Is that...
00:05:49.300 Sorry.
00:05:50.000 You just said...
00:05:51.460 Yeah, I hear you.
00:05:52.520 But what I'm saying to you is men are biologically wired a certain way.
00:05:58.000 Are you a biologist?
00:06:00.000 Men are biologically wired a certain way.
00:06:03.020 Okay?
00:06:03.480 Okay.
00:06:03.820 So what happens in society is that when men are not getting sexual...
00:06:11.180 When men are not sexually...
00:06:13.740 What's the word I'm looking for?
00:06:15.020 Gratified.
00:06:15.740 Gratified.
00:06:16.200 Gratified.
00:06:16.780 Yes, that's the word you're looking for.
00:06:17.720 When men are not sexually gratified, they get more aggressive.
00:06:20.900 Do they?
00:06:21.500 So...
00:06:22.020 Can I speak into the mic, please?
00:06:23.360 Sorry.
00:06:23.680 Sorry.
00:06:24.280 When they are more sexually gratified...
00:06:26.240 They're less violent.
00:06:27.420 Is that what you're saying?
00:06:28.240 They're less violent.
00:06:28.900 Okay.
00:06:29.500 That is the biggest logical fallacy I've ever heard in my entire fucking life.
00:06:33.640 It's not a logical fallacy.
00:06:34.860 It is.
00:06:35.440 It's true.
00:06:36.000 But I would say that...
00:06:37.320 Thank you.
00:06:37.740 I'd have to agree.
00:06:38.440 All right.
00:06:38.720 Okay.
00:06:39.020 So we've got three men saying it's true.
00:06:41.800 So you explain why it's a logical fallacy.
00:06:43.900 So you're saying that if I don't get laid, I'm going to hit someone.
00:06:48.000 I said, do you explain why it's a logical fallacy?
00:06:50.280 Well, you said you've never had trouble talking to women.
00:06:53.020 So you probably wouldn't know what that's like, right?
00:06:56.060 You said earlier in the show, you've never had trouble talking to women.
00:06:59.160 You're good with the ladies.
00:07:00.500 Yeah.
00:07:00.760 You guys should really ask Justin about this.
00:07:02.880 Yeah.
00:07:03.380 You guys should really ask Justin about this.
00:07:04.460 He has a lot of study and history and knowledge on the...
00:07:06.620 Go on, Justin.
00:07:07.080 Well, so I mean, it's evolution psychology.
00:07:09.440 But more so than that, if a man masturbates, he can get it really...
00:07:13.080 So you won't feel as aggressive, right?
00:07:14.400 But I mean, I don't know if you guys ever heard of NoFap.
00:07:17.380 I'm a huge advocate for the NoFap movement.
00:07:19.360 And I'm like seven years into it, right?
00:07:22.260 And I know if I don't have sex for like, I don't know, a week or two, I start feeling
00:07:27.160 extremely aggressive.
00:07:28.700 Right.
00:07:28.900 And I think it's very common for men to feel that way.
00:07:33.140 Because when you abstain from sex, your testosterone is increasing.
00:07:36.440 You need to have that release.
00:07:38.080 And if you don't believe me, go try it.
00:07:39.700 Stop drinking off.
00:07:40.580 Stop having sex for two weeks, three weeks. 0.71
00:07:42.220 And see how you feel.
00:07:43.740 But would you not agree that there's other ways to release other than just sexual gratification?
00:07:46.640 You're a woman.
00:07:47.940 Masturbation or sex?
00:07:49.380 Yeah, no, I've realized that I'm talking to men.
00:07:51.120 Thank you.
00:07:51.500 But I can enter into the conversation and ask about it, right?
00:07:54.120 And I'm saying, are there not other ways for you to release, not just sex?
00:07:57.900 Through exercise, right?
00:07:58.960 Through physical engagement and healthy in a controlled environment, right?
00:08:02.860 It's not the same as busting a nut.
00:08:04.980 Fair enough.
00:08:05.720 Thank you, Justin.
00:08:06.380 Thank you for being so like...
00:08:07.660 So, Justin, you're a club promoter, you're a YouTuber, yes?
00:08:12.780 So like your work outlet is having conversations like this and busting a nut.
00:08:20.260 Yeah, sure.
00:08:21.240 Yeah, sweet.
00:08:21.660 So how do you manage your aggression?
00:08:24.960 You say you're seven years into this nofap.
00:08:26.540 How do you manage your aggression when you feel it coming up?
00:08:28.740 You have sex. 0.94
00:08:29.400 Fair enough.
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