JustPearlyThings - June 02, 2023


Pearl SCHOOLED This O.F Model On Abuse


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Length

8 minutes

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219.32434

Word count

1,794

Sentence count

145

Harmful content

Misogyny

17

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Hate speech

7

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In this episode, we discuss the MLD clip and how it was handled by the media and the reaction to it. We also talk about the difference between domestic violence and sexual abuse, and why women cry about it so much.

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00:00:00.360 Yeah, when I watched the full clip, I was actually really surprised because I didn't really take it that that's what he meant.
00:00:06.560 But when they cut it up like that, it just seemed like he said something he didn't say.
00:00:09.800 But that's what a lot of these like reaction channels, and I'll say this as a content creator,
00:00:13.260 like a lot of the reaction channels will take clips to like put you out of context and like say things that you didn't say.
00:00:19.620 And kind of, it's really dishonest, honestly.
00:00:23.000 And Mel, Destiny's wife, it was her clip that she made, which I think is pretty disingenuous.
00:00:29.000 Because if you watch the whole thing, I think MLD got a little like, he was fucking seven white claws deep too.
00:00:36.320 Look, if he, I'm not, I'm not going to co-sign what he said, disavow, but like it sounded like to me,
00:00:44.020 like they were asking about divorce in general, and he was saying endure, endure.
00:00:48.540 And then like somewhere through that, she brings up physical abuse.
00:00:53.540 And so.
00:00:54.320 Well, so I kind of look at this question a little differently, because my question is like, what is the abusive situation?
00:01:02.500 And I need specifics.
00:01:03.640 And like the reason I need specifics is women cry abuse for everything, and we've actually lost the meaning of abuse. 1.00
00:01:09.960 Like if you go to, and I know this because I'm doing a divorce documentary.
00:01:14.380 And so I'm actually interviewing men that are in the process of getting like absolutely wrecked by divorce.
00:01:19.120 And a lot of them have had false allegations put out against them.
00:01:22.260 And a lot of those, basically what the feminists do is they expand the definition of abuse to include things like coercive control, financial abuse, and even physical abuse. 1.00
00:01:30.620 A lot of times, like girls don't talk about how they hit first.
00:01:34.100 And most abusive situations are mutually abusive, meaning they're both hitting each other.
00:01:39.820 And so a lot of times what girls will do is they'll say, oh, I'm being abused, but they don't talk about how she hit him first. 0.95
00:01:45.460 Like I had a girl on the show say I was physically abused.
00:01:48.100 And I used to just believe women. 0.99
00:01:49.640 Like I genuinely, I would always just be like, oh, I'm so sorry.
00:01:52.240 But then you start asking questions.
00:01:54.240 And it baffles me how women like turn the situation of them like being abused when they aren't. 0.98
00:02:01.460 Like this one girl, she came on my show.
00:02:03.040 She said I was physically abused.
00:02:04.220 I said, okay, tell me the situation.
00:02:06.080 What exactly happened?
00:02:07.560 He, she refused to leave his house.
00:02:10.620 She refused.
00:02:11.400 Like so she's trespassing on his property saying I'm not going to leave.
00:02:14.640 And he pushes her out of the house.
00:02:16.340 Is that abuse?
00:02:17.280 No.
00:02:17.720 Or another thing that girls do is they'll edge a guy on. 1.00
00:02:20.700 Like I saw a clip of a dude, of a girl, basically making fun of a guy for having a dead son.
00:02:27.380 And he hit her.
00:02:27.960 Who abused you? 1.00
00:02:29.120 And that's like the other side of this that we don't talk about is that a lot of times like the feminists or whatever will try to get a gotcha question because they'll say, oh, if you're in an abusive marriage. 1.00
00:02:38.200 But like I know the ins and outs of this because I interview the men that are falsely accused.
00:02:42.020 And this is so common.
00:02:43.940 And it's so common.
00:02:44.820 And so and the one thing that guys should know is if a girl says she was abused and she didn't file a police report, like because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse.
00:02:54.340 You need no evidence.
00:02:56.100 And in criminal court, you do.
00:02:58.640 So it's more like it's more likely true if it's in criminal court.
00:03:01.560 If it's real abuse, yeah, I mean, you should leave.
00:03:05.020 But my issue is like a lot of times it's not actually real abuse what they're talking about.
00:03:10.280 And they don't talk about the other side, where a lot of times the girls start it.
00:03:14.080 Thank you.
00:03:14.900 I don't know about that example of somebody saying of the woman saying that telling the husband that he had a dead son and then she hits him.
00:03:23.280 No, I said he hit her.
00:03:24.580 Oh, he hit her.
00:03:25.080 Like because she was like taunting. 0.99
00:03:26.420 She was taunting him about it.
00:03:27.880 If someone taunts you or if you taunt someone and they hit you, is that acceptable?
00:03:32.140 I didn't say it's acceptable, but it's not like they're paying.
00:03:36.720 We're talking about someone's dead child.
00:03:38.100 I don't think you know until that happens, use your reaction when it be.
00:03:40.960 I understand that, but you can't punch someone because they say something that hurts your feelings.
00:03:46.420 You cannot do that.
00:03:47.060 Violence is not okay, but that's not what you're saying.
00:03:49.300 Wait, tilt your microphone so it's facing straight.
00:03:51.780 I'm not saying it's okay, but we don't talk about the other side where a lot of times the girls will provoke it.
00:03:56.420 I agree with you.
00:03:56.800 So it's not like he's this horrible.
00:03:58.520 Like in that situation, is that something that could be worked out?
00:04:02.540 I mean, like obviously that's a crazy, toxic relationship.
00:04:04.660 But like they'll act like, oh, the guy is in the horrible person.
00:04:07.860 He's in the wrong.
00:04:08.440 He hit her.
00:04:08.860 But it's like you were taunting him.
00:04:11.380 And also like a lot of times, you know what girls do? 1.00
00:04:13.620 This is, and I've read these text messages.
00:04:15.340 Like I have literally like gone through these like the subpoena or whatever it is when they have to get the stuff from the women.
00:04:22.940 Women know that they get perks from the government if they accuse a guy of abuse. 1.00
00:04:27.140 I have a very close friend here.
00:04:28.540 There was a girl that had in text messages, I wish he would just hit me. 1.00
00:04:34.460 Because if he hit her, she gets a free lawyer from the government.
00:04:38.940 And so these are the situations that like the left doesn't talk about.
00:04:43.200 Where men are falsely accused all the time.
00:04:46.640 And it's so sad because women that are actually abused are the ones that suffer for it.
00:04:52.340 Because women are going around calling everything abuse, everything grape, like they expand. 1.00
00:04:55.980 And most of the women who suffer from abuse actually suffer in silence and don't speak on it ever.
00:05:00.460 And they're scared to come forward.
00:05:01.040 And they're terrified.
00:05:02.020 And even, you know, and it makes it difficult too, but obviously it's a proven court.
00:05:06.400 But a lot of women also don't call the cops. 1.00
00:05:08.200 I mean, a lot of people suffer in silence.
00:05:10.620 Yeah, the people who need it the most, they don't say anything.
00:05:12.480 I mean, in my opinion, like I really think we need to go off of evidence.
00:05:16.040 Like I just think that false, like false accusations and abuse is so rampant that we have to go off of evidence.
00:05:21.240 And we should encourage women that are actually abused to go to the police.
00:05:24.640 Because now we're in a situation where if you don't go to the police, how can I just believe you when women go around falsely accusing men all the time? 0.98
00:05:32.020 I mean, also I think there are certain situations where you don't have evidence.
00:05:35.820 Yeah.
00:05:36.020 Like if I get hit, but it's not leaving a bruise, how are you supposed to show the evidence of that?
00:05:42.220 And I think you also need to go to police officers and tell them to take it more seriously.
00:05:47.740 Because I can't tell you how many times that I have had friends, had something happen, and they've gone to the police, and the police do absolutely nothing.
00:05:57.760 Well, is it possible that maybe it didn't happen?
00:06:00.200 No.
00:06:00.320 Like that's the thing.
00:06:01.000 We're not really going to get into it, but I was there.
00:06:03.700 So I know for a fact.
00:06:04.380 Okay, okay.
00:06:04.540 If you saw.
00:06:05.280 Michaela, can you point?
00:06:06.240 My whole point isn't about.
00:06:08.500 My whole point is we need to go off of evidence.
00:06:11.260 Like in society, we cannot just openly believe women because they say something.
00:06:15.560 It is not fair to men.
00:06:16.340 But what was I supposed to do?
00:06:17.320 I'm not talking about.
00:06:18.180 Get my camera out?
00:06:18.580 I'm not talking about your.
00:06:19.820 But this is what I'm asking.
00:06:20.080 What do you mean by evidence?
00:06:21.620 You know?
00:06:21.940 Was I supposed to sit there and get my camera out?
00:06:23.800 If you saw it.
00:06:24.700 It was my witness testimony enough?
00:06:26.880 I, what do you mean?
00:06:29.140 Go ahead.
00:06:29.300 Was me witnessing it in considered evidence?
00:06:32.140 I would think so.
00:06:33.180 You would think so.
00:06:33.860 Okay.
00:06:34.120 Right?
00:06:34.440 Okay.
00:06:34.960 Yeah.
00:06:35.120 Look, I don't know.
00:06:35.940 I don't know the ins and outs of every situation.
00:06:38.420 So I don't really want to go into your personal.
00:06:40.400 Yeah, I know.
00:06:40.940 I'm just saying that when you say like if a girl hasn't taken it to the cops, then she's
00:06:45.880 lying.
00:06:46.620 That's not a blanket statement.
00:06:48.160 Well, your friend did take it to the cops, right?
00:06:49.580 Yeah, but I'm telling you.
00:06:50.560 And I'm saying women should go to the police. 1.00
00:06:52.560 No, no, no, because I'm not finished.
00:06:53.220 But why if they don't do anything?
00:06:54.440 All right, let's move on.
00:06:55.260 We're not going to talk about this.
00:06:57.060 Thank you for the super chat.
00:06:58.400 But yeah, I think you're digging there.
00:07:01.360 Tolu?
00:07:01.920 I don't know if you're digging for something.
00:07:03.920 Yeah.
00:07:04.340 All right.
00:07:04.560 We have TJ King.
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