JustPearlyThings - May 07, 2023


Pearl SCHOOLS Modern Woman On The Wall


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

222.68983

Word Count

2,046

Sentence Count

149

Misogynist Sentences

12

Hate Speech Sentences

4


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 There's a lot of women out there that have huge personalities
00:00:02.220 and have the looks and everything as well.
00:00:04.740 It's not just about looks.
00:00:05.940 Yeah, of course, I agree with what you're saying.
00:00:08.240 But a lot of girls do still have that power
00:00:10.720 and that personality as well as their looks.
00:00:13.640 But they don't show that on social media 99%.
00:00:16.040 They don't have to, no.
00:00:17.440 They don't.
00:00:18.380 And that's a privilege, right?
00:00:19.720 It is great.
00:00:22.640 Sorry, I'll let you.
00:00:24.420 No, I was just going to say it is good
00:00:25.840 because for me personally,
00:00:27.520 I'll just post a picture and get loads of, loads of likes.
00:00:31.020 I don't have to use my personality, but I could.
00:00:33.960 I feel like you're doing your captions though.
00:00:36.380 I feel like you're definitely doing your captions.
00:00:38.220 Nobody's reading the captions.
00:00:39.540 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:00:40.280 True.
00:00:40.720 Nobody's reading the captions.
00:00:41.720 What percent of your followers are men versus women?
00:00:44.460 I think mine's 90% men.
00:00:46.700 Yeah, that's how true.
00:00:47.620 It is a high percentage, yeah.
00:00:49.700 I'm curious, like going back to the virginity thing,
00:00:53.520 if you guys could go back in time,
00:00:55.160 would you wait until you were married to have sex?
00:00:57.080 Yes.
00:00:57.940 Yeah, you would?
00:00:58.840 100%.
00:00:59.240 Yes, Courtney, Bob.
00:01:01.400 Yes, Bob.
00:01:01.980 I would too, I would.
00:01:03.560 Yeah, 100%.
00:01:04.340 Do you know what?
00:01:07.400 I don't know because I feel like every relationship
00:01:10.380 that I've been in, I've learned something from.
00:01:13.160 So it's like if I said I'd go back and change it
00:01:16.040 and not do it, then I wouldn't have learned the things
00:01:19.140 that I would have moving forward.
00:01:20.820 So I don't know.
00:01:22.080 It's almost like saying I'm just going to eliminate
00:01:24.460 experiences that I've had.
00:01:25.660 Yeah, but if they ended badly,
00:01:28.060 like what value does like sexual experience
00:01:30.660 bring to you now?
00:01:32.720 Like what, you know, if you're going to,
00:01:34.100 let's say you meet your husband tomorrow
00:01:35.340 and you're going into a marriage
00:01:36.440 and you could have just slept with him
00:01:37.980 or slept with him and all these other guys.
00:01:40.560 Like, don't you think it would be better
00:01:41.800 to just sleep with him?
00:01:43.100 I understand what you're saying
00:01:43.980 because obviously when you get married,
00:01:45.220 the love that you have for that person
00:01:46.480 and other people that you've been in a relationship
00:01:47.780 is definitely different
00:01:48.720 because you're married
00:01:49.620 and you've got to build a life with them.
00:01:51.380 So I think when I get to that,
00:01:52.840 I'll probably be like,
00:01:54.000 oh, do you know what?
00:01:54.500 I wish I would have waited.
00:01:55.580 But now I haven't,
00:01:57.500 I'm not trying to settle down.
00:01:59.100 I'm not in that time of my life.
00:02:00.720 So my perspective is going to be different.
00:02:02.720 What age would you like to settle down?
00:02:05.320 If I'm completely honest,
00:02:06.260 it's all about when my career is,
00:02:08.780 is if when I'm happy with where I am in my life,
00:02:10.880 if that makes sense.
00:02:11.560 Because I wouldn't want to settle down
00:02:12.840 not having achieved everything
00:02:14.400 that I want to achieve on myself
00:02:16.320 because I'm kind of quite selfish in that.
00:02:17.900 I want to be very successful,
00:02:19.420 do a lot, have tons of businesses.
00:02:20.800 So I think,
00:02:21.660 say if I blew up
00:02:22.860 and I had all this success
00:02:24.320 by the time I was 27,
00:02:26.400 then cool.
00:02:27.140 I'll look for when I'm 27.
00:02:28.860 But it depends on where I am financially
00:02:31.800 and stuff like that, to be honest.
00:02:33.400 What value does your career bring to a guy?
00:02:37.420 Well, music,
00:02:38.700 I want to inspire people
00:02:39.940 and motivate people
00:02:40.900 and I want to make a change.
00:02:42.180 I want to...
00:02:42.660 Yeah, but men don't care.
00:02:44.180 True.
00:02:44.820 He's like,
00:02:45.180 oh, I'm looking for a girl
00:02:45.980 to inspire and motivate.
00:02:47.180 You know what I mean?
00:02:47.700 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:02:48.280 100%.
00:02:48.800 I think...
00:02:49.800 It's like,
00:02:50.140 you're young now,
00:02:50.860 you're pretty now,
00:02:51.880 but you're going to be less pretty
00:02:53.180 and less young in 10 years,
00:02:54.960 in five years.
00:02:55.600 So why would you not look for that
00:02:56.780 when you're younger?
00:02:58.600 I mean,
00:02:59.200 I look quite young now.
00:03:00.640 So maybe when I'm older,
00:03:01.720 I'll still look young.
00:03:02.720 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:04.280 But I just know
00:03:05.760 what I want out of life.
00:03:06.860 Yes,
00:03:07.240 I do want a family.
00:03:09.100 For me,
00:03:09.400 that's very important
00:03:10.100 because I don't have any siblings
00:03:11.100 and all my family members
00:03:12.300 are very far spread out
00:03:13.980 across the world.
00:03:14.660 So for me,
00:03:15.300 I need that security.
00:03:17.260 So just a stat for you guys.
00:03:18.940 Did you know if you hit 30
00:03:20.020 and you're still single,
00:03:22.140 you drop to a less than 50% chance
00:03:24.980 of you being able to have a kid?
00:03:26.960 Meaning that if you're still single,
00:03:28.460 you're more likely
00:03:29.020 to not have a kid
00:03:29.800 than have one.
00:03:32.020 And so it's like,
00:03:32.560 knowing that,
00:03:33.620 you wouldn't want...
00:03:34.780 Because you know,
00:03:35.360 you're 24 now, right?
00:03:36.920 Yeah.
00:03:37.180 Let's say you date a guy tomorrow
00:03:38.240 and you date him for three years
00:03:39.240 and it doesn't work out.
00:03:40.380 Yeah.
00:03:40.700 It's like then,
00:03:41.640 now you're a bit older
00:03:43.100 and you have to keep...
00:03:44.420 Yeah.
00:03:45.020 I do think everything happens
00:03:46.160 for a reason though,
00:03:47.100 if I'm completely honest.
00:03:48.060 Like I could turn 30
00:03:49.540 and find my dream guy
00:03:50.520 the next day.
00:03:52.060 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:52.560 And then build a relationship
00:03:53.560 with him.
00:03:53.820 You could,
00:03:54.260 but the odds aren't
00:03:55.500 in your favor.
00:03:56.320 Yeah.
00:03:56.500 And the number...
00:03:57.040 And that's what I'm saying.
00:03:58.180 Like,
00:03:58.520 I think a lot of times
00:03:59.340 society tells us
00:04:00.340 to go after a career first
00:04:01.880 when it would be
00:04:02.840 a lot easier
00:04:03.480 if we were married
00:04:04.720 because you could have
00:04:05.260 the same experiences.
00:04:06.320 You could just have them
00:04:06.960 with your husband.
00:04:08.520 Very true.
00:04:09.200 But then,
00:04:09.780 what if he then wanted
00:04:10.800 to have kids with you
00:04:11.540 straight away?
00:04:12.440 Then you'd have to sacrifice that.
00:04:14.200 Do you want to be a mother?
00:04:15.200 Oh yeah.
00:04:15.600 I want like five kids.
00:04:17.120 You know,
00:04:17.600 90% of your eggs
00:04:18.640 are gone by 30.
00:04:21.180 So wait,
00:04:21.720 wait too long.
00:04:22.400 You can't have five.
00:04:24.320 Yeah.
00:04:24.880 Do you know
00:04:25.640 when geriatric pregnancy starts?
00:04:27.200 Any of you?
00:04:27.760 34.
00:04:28.220 What's geriatric?
00:04:29.000 I know you know the answer.
00:04:30.840 I was going for them.
00:04:32.320 What is geriatric?
00:04:33.440 So geriatric pregnancy
00:04:34.620 is like high-risk pregnancy.
00:04:36.080 Do you know when that starts?
00:04:37.680 I'd probably say 30,
00:04:39.420 30 plus.
00:04:40.140 Wait, no.
00:04:40.440 It's 40, right?
00:04:41.520 No.
00:04:42.140 Wrong.
00:04:42.340 You just said it.
00:04:43.140 28.
00:04:44.460 28.
00:04:44.920 It's 35.
00:04:46.300 Really?
00:04:46.860 Yeah,
00:04:46.980 so high-risk pregnancy
00:04:47.880 starts at 35.
00:04:49.000 What's a high-risk pregnancy?
00:04:49.260 And IVF,
00:04:50.060 it's actually most likely
00:04:50.960 that it won't work out.
00:04:52.040 Complications, I think.
00:04:52.860 I'm IVF.
00:04:53.680 What?
00:04:54.160 I'm IVF.
00:04:55.080 I'm an IVF baby.
00:04:55.940 My parents started
00:04:57.660 trying to have a kid
00:04:59.080 at 34, I think,
00:05:00.160 but I think they had
00:05:00.840 complications anyway.
00:05:01.640 Yeah, no,
00:05:02.080 and they're lucky
00:05:02.600 that you,
00:05:03.360 they're lucky,
00:05:04.340 but that's not the norm.
00:05:05.300 Like,
00:05:05.440 the majority of IVF
00:05:06.400 doesn't work out.
00:05:07.320 Yeah,
00:05:08.400 and there's complications
00:05:09.320 as well,
00:05:09.880 so yeah.
00:05:10.480 But we can do stuff
00:05:11.380 like freeze our eggs
00:05:12.560 and stuff like that.
00:05:13.760 I know that,
00:05:14.420 again,
00:05:14.620 it's not 100%,
00:05:16.100 but like you said.
00:05:17.800 No,
00:05:17.920 but even,
00:05:18.940 like the odds aren't,
00:05:19.800 if you're over,
00:05:21.040 it's like,
00:05:21.420 it's a less than 50% chance
00:05:23.200 that that works out,
00:05:24.760 that you actually even
00:05:25.420 conceived the kid.
00:05:27.060 So it's like,
00:05:27.460 they kind of lie to us
00:05:28.360 because they tell us
00:05:29.780 we have all these options
00:05:30.680 when we don't,
00:05:31.680 when half of your options
00:05:32.720 are also gone by 30.
00:05:34.200 So the number of options
00:05:35.220 you have at 20,
00:05:35.880 by the time you get to 30,
00:05:36.960 half of them are gone.
00:05:37.900 Don't you think
00:05:38.280 it's a lot of pressure
00:05:38.980 on a woman?
00:05:39.720 Yeah,
00:05:40.040 it is.
00:05:40.320 It's actually quite sad,
00:05:41.340 like,
00:05:41.640 even this conversation
00:05:42.480 has opened my eyes.
00:05:43.780 Makes you realise.
00:05:44.740 You're being told,
00:05:45.740 some people are saying
00:05:46.600 that women shouldn't
00:05:48.000 have a career,
00:05:48.520 they should focus
00:05:49.040 on their marriage
00:05:49.600 and care about their husband
00:05:50.500 and their children.
00:05:51.920 Other people want
00:05:52.920 to not have housewives
00:05:54.080 and want their woman
00:05:54.760 to have a career,
00:05:55.840 but then we have the pressure
00:05:57.380 of not being able
00:05:57.920 to have kids
00:05:58.640 at a certain age.
00:06:00.340 There's just,
00:06:00.820 there's so much for women
00:06:01.640 to kind of squeeze in.
00:06:03.380 Yeah,
00:06:03.440 it could be overwhelming.
00:06:04.520 It's quite overwhelming.
00:06:05.820 Well,
00:06:06.160 that's the thing,
00:06:06.620 you can't have everything,
00:06:07.680 but it's like,
00:06:08.040 what outcomes do you want?
00:06:09.360 Priorities.
00:06:10.480 Yeah,
00:06:10.720 what outcomes
00:06:11.840 would make you happy?
00:06:12.920 Everyone has
00:06:13.400 different priorities,
00:06:14.140 don't they?
00:06:14.440 Right,
00:06:14.940 and so it's kind of
00:06:16.040 a trade-off
00:06:16.600 because,
00:06:16.940 you know,
00:06:17.260 women over the age
00:06:18.160 of 45
00:06:18.600 that are still single
00:06:19.600 and childless,
00:06:20.380 like,
00:06:20.540 they're on drugs.
00:06:21.360 They're on drugs
00:06:21.960 at a higher rate
00:06:22.560 than any other group
00:06:23.480 and they're more depressed
00:06:24.860 than any other group
00:06:25.640 and they don't tell us
00:06:26.940 that we're really
00:06:27.340 on a time clock
00:06:28.280 and they don't really
00:06:30.280 warn us about that
00:06:31.420 and you just,
00:06:32.680 you can't have everything
00:06:33.540 and so it's the question
00:06:34.580 of like,
00:06:34.920 what outcome do you want?
00:06:36.300 Personally,
00:06:36.800 for me,
00:06:37.220 I've had this conversation
00:06:38.160 with myself
00:06:38.540 a fair few years ago
00:06:39.760 actually.
00:06:41.100 I want the fame
00:06:42.720 and fortune
00:06:43.240 and to have a career
00:06:44.100 but I need a family
00:06:45.460 for my mental health
00:06:46.760 so if I had a pill,
00:06:48.580 one of them was
00:06:49.040 to have a family
00:06:49.520 and one of them
00:06:49.860 was to be famous,
00:06:50.880 I would have a family
00:06:51.720 because that's what I need.
00:06:53.180 Right,
00:06:53.460 so why wouldn't you
00:06:54.500 prioritize that now
00:06:55.700 knowing that the quality
00:06:57.340 of guy you're going to get
00:06:58.240 is only going to get worse.
00:06:59.880 Like right now,
00:07:00.620 you're the most attractive
00:07:01.780 you're ever going to be.
00:07:02.920 You know,
00:07:03.060 it'd be one thing
00:07:03.560 if you were fat
00:07:04.200 and then you could lose weight
00:07:05.180 and get up,
00:07:05.700 but you're in shape,
00:07:06.460 right?
00:07:06.900 Thank you.
00:07:07.820 Do you know what I mean?
00:07:08.760 Because they'll always
00:07:09.440 give me this exception
00:07:10.460 because if you're fat,
00:07:12.340 duh,
00:07:13.020 but you're in good shape
00:07:14.580 so it's like
00:07:15.040 this is the highest quality guy
00:07:16.700 you're ever going to be able to get
00:07:17.860 and it's only going to get worse.
00:07:20.020 I hear that
00:07:20.480 but for me to raise a family
00:07:22.340 the way I want to raise it,
00:07:23.400 I want to have money.
00:07:24.340 That's not for me
00:07:25.000 to go spoil my kids
00:07:26.020 because I think
00:07:27.280 raising kids spoil
00:07:28.500 doesn't teach them anything
00:07:29.900 but I would want them
00:07:31.260 to not struggle
00:07:32.120 the way that I've struggled.
00:07:33.040 Could you marry a guy with money?
00:07:35.000 Would I marry a guy with money?
00:07:36.060 Of course, yeah.
00:07:36.820 Yeah, so why don't you just do that?
00:07:38.160 Because
00:07:38.460 You could,
00:07:39.040 you're pretty enough.
00:07:40.180 I mean, thank you.
00:07:40.920 I could do
00:07:41.420 but I wouldn't be fulfilled
00:07:43.200 and I think in life
00:07:44.980 it's all about fulfilling
00:07:46.360 your own hopes and dreams
00:07:47.800 and stuff like that.
00:07:48.700 So what is it?
00:07:49.280 Like this dream,
00:07:50.060 this world doesn't sound real to me
00:07:51.700 and this has come,
00:07:52.440 I come from like
00:07:53.040 my dad's a top like 1% earner.
00:07:54.740 He's very, very successful
00:07:55.760 and like I grew up around
00:07:56.680 successful people
00:07:57.520 but this doesn't sound real
00:07:59.540 where
00:07:59.960 because where the mom
00:08:01.280 has this successful career
00:08:02.840 and the dad also has
00:08:04.720 this successful career
00:08:05.860 and they also have kids,
00:08:07.880 they also have five kids.
00:08:09.160 Like something's got to give.
00:08:10.420 You literally can't do everything
00:08:11.840 or you're paying a nanny
00:08:13.280 to raise your kid.
00:08:14.400 I mean, to be fair,
00:08:15.660 I'm not going to lie,
00:08:16.160 if I had money
00:08:16.980 and I was a businesswoman
00:08:18.400 and I was busy,
00:08:19.180 I would have help.
00:08:20.560 If I could afford it,
00:08:21.300 I genuinely would have help
00:08:22.280 and that's not me saying
00:08:23.460 I can't be bothered
00:08:24.060 to look after my children.
00:08:25.240 It is.
00:08:25.640 Of course,
00:08:26.020 but I would be there
00:08:27.200 for the important parts though.
00:08:28.640 Say if I had...
00:08:29.340 It's not the same.
00:08:30.060 I do understand
00:08:31.840 where you're coming from
00:08:32.540 but that would be the sacrifice
00:08:33.540 that I would take
00:08:34.420 and I would want my kids
00:08:35.440 to see a working mom as well.
00:08:36.640 Right, but that's the problem.
00:08:37.760 That's the modern mindset.
00:08:38.900 It's about my career
00:08:39.720 and me before the family
00:08:41.020 and I think that's like
00:08:41.940 what is so broken down nowadays
00:08:43.660 is that we all care about
00:08:45.080 ourselves before the family
00:08:46.940 and to have a family
00:08:48.060 that's successful,
00:08:48.960 you have to be selfless.
00:08:50.700 You know,
00:08:50.880 our grandmothers
00:08:51.460 and our great-grandmothers
00:08:52.320 didn't stay with our husbands
00:08:53.340 by thinking about themselves.
00:08:55.100 As many of you know,
00:08:56.140 I was just banned on TikTok
00:08:58.180 and we are demonetized
00:08:59.900 on a daily basis
00:09:01.140 on this platform.
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